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How to Let Go of Shame and Rebuild Self-Trust with Valerie Friedlander

July 01, 2024 Lisa Zawrotny Episode 216
How to Let Go of Shame and Rebuild Self-Trust with Valerie Friedlander
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Positively Living®: Do Less, Live More... Breathe Easier.
How to Let Go of Shame and Rebuild Self-Trust with Valerie Friedlander
Jul 01, 2024 Episode 216
Lisa Zawrotny

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When we think of shame as an emotion, we can see how it doesn’t serve us, or rather, doesn’t help move us forward the way we want it to. But when we shift our mindset to view shame as another tool in our toolbox, we can understand why it is present and learn to pick up other, more helpful tools instead. Valerie Friedlander joins me on the podcast today to share how this shame tool, that we’ve learned to use for motivation, negatively impacts our self-trust and what we can do about it. This week, episode 216 of the Positively LivingⓇ Podcast is about how to let go of shame and rebuild self-trust!

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Valerie Friedlander, PCC is a Life/Business Alignment coach who helps passionate, high-achieving women create alignment between their work in the world, their family, and themselves. She works with clients to listen to their intuition, shift conditioned mindset patterns, and take practical action steps to create a life that reflects the change they want to see in the world. She is also the host of the Unlimited podcast, and a wife, mom of two, sci-fi/fantasy nerd, and creative spirit.


In this episode of the Positively LivingⓇ Podcast, Valerie Friedlander shares why we have been taught to use shame as a tool for motivation despite having so many other tools available to us and she offers actionable steps to take right now to release it and build self-trust. 

Valerie and I cover the following topics:

  • How self-trust is built on integrity and embracing our whole selves, recognizing where we are. 
  • Why finding a safe space in a community can help release shame and provide a sense of belonging. 
  • Using self-care and self-acceptance to replace shame with more empowering tools. 
  • How to let go of shame and instead approach challenges with curiosity and compassion. 

By releasing shame and building trust in yourself, you can live with a greater sense of empowerment, acceptance, and care for your whole, authentic self. 

Learn more about Positively LivingⓇ and Lisa at https://positivelyproductive.com/podcast/

CONNECT WITH VALERIE FRIEDLANDER:

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Instagram

Facebook

CONNECT WITH LISA ZAWROTNY:

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Resources

LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

(Find links to books/gear on the Positively Productive Favorites Page.)

Harmful Mindset Approaches with Valerie Friedlander 

Toxic Positivity with Valerie Friedlander 

How To Motivate Yourself By Meeting Your Needs First 

Early Signs of Burnout That May Surprise You 



Dance Song Playlist V1, V2,

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Text your thoughts and questions!

When we think of shame as an emotion, we can see how it doesn’t serve us, or rather, doesn’t help move us forward the way we want it to. But when we shift our mindset to view shame as another tool in our toolbox, we can understand why it is present and learn to pick up other, more helpful tools instead. Valerie Friedlander joins me on the podcast today to share how this shame tool, that we’ve learned to use for motivation, negatively impacts our self-trust and what we can do about it. This week, episode 216 of the Positively LivingⓇ Podcast is about how to let go of shame and rebuild self-trust!

​​

Valerie Friedlander, PCC is a Life/Business Alignment coach who helps passionate, high-achieving women create alignment between their work in the world, their family, and themselves. She works with clients to listen to their intuition, shift conditioned mindset patterns, and take practical action steps to create a life that reflects the change they want to see in the world. She is also the host of the Unlimited podcast, and a wife, mom of two, sci-fi/fantasy nerd, and creative spirit.


In this episode of the Positively LivingⓇ Podcast, Valerie Friedlander shares why we have been taught to use shame as a tool for motivation despite having so many other tools available to us and she offers actionable steps to take right now to release it and build self-trust. 

Valerie and I cover the following topics:

  • How self-trust is built on integrity and embracing our whole selves, recognizing where we are. 
  • Why finding a safe space in a community can help release shame and provide a sense of belonging. 
  • Using self-care and self-acceptance to replace shame with more empowering tools. 
  • How to let go of shame and instead approach challenges with curiosity and compassion. 

By releasing shame and building trust in yourself, you can live with a greater sense of empowerment, acceptance, and care for your whole, authentic self. 

Learn more about Positively LivingⓇ and Lisa at https://positivelyproductive.com/podcast/

CONNECT WITH VALERIE FRIEDLANDER:

Website

Instagram

Facebook

CONNECT WITH LISA ZAWROTNY:

Facebook

Instagram

Resources

LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

(Find links to books/gear on the Positively Productive Favorites Page.)

Harmful Mindset Approaches with Valerie Friedlander 

Toxic Positivity with Valerie Friedlander 

How To Motivate Yourself By Meeting Your Needs First 

Early Signs of Burnout That May Surprise You 



Dance Song Playlist V1, V2,

How to Let Go of Shame and Rebuild Self-trust with Valerie Friedlander
Shame’s role as a motivational tool and its impact on self-trust.
Embracing one's whole self requires honesty, acceptance, and curiosity, and can lead to additional realizations.
The need to prioritize self-care and ask essential questions to avoid burnout.
Acknowledging one's own labor, rather than relying on external validation.
Balancing productivity and humanity, recognizing and managing personal choices and limitations.
Holding space for others and accessing self-compassion.
Insights on breaking self-shaming habits.

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