EPISODE #5: Ask Alli

Today's 'Ask Alli' episode is a new, solo episode all about transition and change. I speak briefly about my experience moving across the country, how I've managed my work-life and personal life, and how I made this change the best change yet, from managing anxiety to learning to love myself a little more to learning how to appreciate this new norm (for now) and so much more!

 I hope this episode leaves you feeling inspired and motivated to tackle your next goal, stay resilient, be open to facing controversy, and overcome your biggest fears to eliminate any self-doubt because you can. WE can.

Until next time!

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Hello and welcome to Ask Allie. This is my sole episode on changes and transitions. And there has been a lot of that for us all lately. Before we go into this sole episode today, I want to remind you to please subscribe to the show if you have not already. This allows me to bring myself on along with new special guests to the Rome with Ally Live podcasts. And yeah, we're looking to monetize this year. Finger crossed, fingers crossed, don't mind me. Um, full disclosure, just got back from a little walk jog trying some programming out for one of my athletes. And yeah, we're here on the topic of transitions and changes. Uh, so I hope you get to take away a few things from today's episode that leave you feeling empowered, inspired, and motivated to tackle your next run or whatever the tasks might be at hand, even if you're dealing with a transition or a change. So I figured this would be a really great opportunity to answer a lot of the questions I've been receiving via Instagram and my DMs in one sweeping episode. I do think that having been through a lot of changes recently moving to a new city across the country, moving from the place I was subleasing to signing a year lease in a different neighborhood in San Diego has forced me to not only push myself out of my comfort zone, but uh, you know, really change my ways and my habits and my routines in every way and in my daily life. Uh, it's really hard to get acclimatized to a different time zone, uh, a different routine, a different area and neighborhood. And so I want to go over, you know, certain things that I've done that have helped me navigate uh these changes. You know, I do want to say I have a very strong support system. Um, I am very grateful for the people in my corner who have helped me navigate life as I've made made these changes. So uh first and foremost, you know, I do want to share that it is important to have a plan and to drop for perfectionism. Uh I, full disclosure, used to be a perfectionist. Like many of us here, it's really hard to drop that sometimes and be okay with just rolling with the punches and going with the flow, uh, especially when that's not the way you like to do things. But you know, change is uncomfortable and you know, perfectionism, I feel like often prevents us from doing things to the best of our ability. And sometimes doing things without so much structure and less being less rigid about you know our day-to-day is almost a blessing. Um, you know, that being said, I think, yeah, um it's you know, it's hard, but just having a plan, being able to drop perfectionism is one way that tackling change and a transition, like moving across the country has been, you know, more manageable for me. Uh at first I was truly a bit hesitant to move across the country and I didn't know anything. I planned, you know, to what exactly I wanted to do with my business. I have my five-year plan. Um, and that's all like in work, right? But in terms of my personal life, um I didn't really know, right? Uh, I have my whole life in New York and, you know, friends from all over, and an amazing um friend base here and an amazing team and teammates here, and everyone is just awesome and friendly here. It must be the sunshine. Um, but uh not to say that New York is freaking amazing. I think it's number one. For me, it always will be. I will be a little biased. Um, but change for me, um, yeah, has looked a little bit like leaving my own ways, boosting my creativity by being able to be in a new place. And like I said at the beginning of this episode, dropping perfectionism. Uh, so when I moved across the country, I want to say the biggest thing that I had to deal with was the time change. Um, of course, developing a new routine, not having my go-to spots, uh, kind of getting my bearings, not having my running roots. Those are just five things right there. Uh, you know, I think that time blocking for me has really allowed me to not only set that structure, but to carve time out for each of these avenues so that the change has been more manageable and less anxiety-provoking. And doing this has allowed me to remain present and get shit done. Excuse my French, but it's true. Um, for me, out of a nine to five, being a solopreneur and running my own business, working from home, uh, if I don't work, there is no um result or outcome of Run With Alley. So everything I put into my business, I get out. Of course, with the help of my team, you know who you are. Now, that being said, I have managed change and transition by sticking to these time blocks and making time for things like yes, work, my running routes, you know, obviously like creating that structure to more fine-tune my routine, creating time blocks for calling my family, calling friends, uh, making time to do something new, whether it's exploring a new area in San Diego or a new area outside of it, um, meeting up with friends here that I've made, um, making time for dating, uh, you name it. And all of these things, you know, create have created my new norm, normal, and have fostered balance. And, you know, I am someone who without structure, I will take an extreme, as in I will be a workaholic all day if I don't time walk and make a routine and stick to it, uh, which is not a good thing. It that causes burnout, as many of you know or might know. But if you don't, take this and run with it. Not literally, but hey, if you have a run right now, it might not be such a bad idea. Um, so you know, dealing with change, as we talked about, you know, obviously like creating a plan, right? For me, creating time blocks that helps to reduce anxiety, implement a new routine structure. And for me, that looked like, you know, revamping my life a little, work-wise, running-wise, training-wise, uh personal-wise, and just exploring, exploring myself, dating myself a little bit. Um, doing things I um enjoy, but out of my comfort zone, right? Because I'm in a new environment. Um, so you know, that being said, um being in the new environment in itself provoke change, right? I'm not in the hustle and bustle of New York City. Um, I have to get in my car and drive to running routes uh versus leaving my house, hopping on the owl and going to Manhattan. It's it's very, very different. Uh, it's a different way of life. But I mentioned this to someone earlier today. The people that you surround yourself with are the people that, you know, your energies attract, your energies vibe. Those are the important people that are gonna feed into your energy, and you know, vice versa. Um, so surrounding myself with people that gave me energy back and didn't take it away is something I've also really been trying to focus on. And same goes for me. I hope I could do the same to every single person I touch and meet out here is give good energy and good vibes to them and be an addition to their life, not take away from it in some way, shape, or form. Uh, so yeah, um, this is something I have really implemented and worked on throughout my transition from New York to San Diego. And I don't know how long I'm gonna be here. Um, nothing is forever, but I do know that I'm here right now. And so the last thing I want to say on today's little solo episode here, because you know I keep these pretty short and sweet, uh, is to bring yourself back to your why. Like I said, create a game plan, but just find a way to stay present and enjoy the now. There's a truth to cliches, but now is all we have. There is no point in wasting time worrying about what someone thinks of us or what's next, or you know, what we're gonna do if we have, you know, nothing to do next weekend because we're new somewhere. Because these are all things that like I've crossed my mind and I've had to deal with. And I hope that my experience in some way, shape, or form could help you or someone else that you know. Feel free to share this episode after you listen. Uh, but yeah, just staying present, staying grounded, and creating that space to lean into your thoughts and be uncomfortable by being by yourself if you are, um, to find ways to, you know, make yourself happy because ultimately, at the end of the day, if you're not happy, you can't do good for anyone else, right? So yeah, um, I know that I that was a whole spiel. Um, I, you know, tend to ramble, but I do hope that you got some value out of this and of my story. And I will continue to share several episodes on the Ask Alley spinoff about my transition and change to San Diego from New York because we are just getting started, my friends. So, on that note, I hope your week is wrapping up nicely. Thank you so much for listening today. Again, tap the follow plus button if you're listening to this episode on Apple Podcasts, and I will see you the next time. Thank you so much.