Believe Like A Boss
Learn how to smash your goals and expand the possibility of your life through mindset management, spiritual (energetic) alignment and intentional action. Join each week as Life Coach Nandi (rhymes with Gandhi) teaches you how to create what she calls "a life of thrive" with ease and authenticity. | NandiCamille.com
Believe Like A Boss
Identity Check: How You See Yourself Matters
After a transformative five-month hiatus, I've returned with a heart full of stories and a mind buzzing with insights on embracing a multi-passionate life. Today, I take you through the maze of my identity crisis, where the worlds of life coaching and founding a Montessori school collide. It's a tale of finding balance and staying true to oneself amid the societal pressure to choose just one path. As we unravel the intricacies of self-talk and the power of emotions, I invite you to join me in redefining our identities and aligning them with our deepest aspirations.
In the throes of my own self-perception storm, I discovered a profound truth—our labels and inner narrative shape our reality. Sharing this personal journey, I aim to inspire you to question the language you use with yourself and to embrace the emotions guiding your thoughts. Together, let's explore how these revelations can transform not only how we see ourselves but also how we interact with the world, ensuring our identity resonates with who we truly wish to be.
Finally, we face the art of letting go and the courage it takes to step into the unknown. Reflect with me on which parts of your identity are ready to be set free, and the emotions you want to cultivate during your metamorphosis. As we recognize and address our fear-based reactions, we clear the way for growth and intentionality. I'm ecstatic to share my return to coaching with an exclusive birthday offer on sessions that promise not only to empower but to stimulate profound personal evolution. Join me in this chapter of empowerment; let's journey together towards the life we yearn to lead.
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Hi, friends, and welcome to Believe Like a Boss. I'm your host Life Coach, nandi Camille. Join me as I teach you how to smash your goals and expand the possibility of your life through mindset management, spiritual alignment and authentic action. I'll teach you how to create what I like to call a life of thrive, with ease and authenticity. It's time to play with what's possible. Are you ready? Let's go.
Speaker 2:Hello, hello, hello. Welcome back to another episode of Believe Like a Boss. I am your host life coach, nandi Camille. I am so happy to be back for another season. You guys, it did take what are we going on just about five months, because my birthday is right around the corner. It took about five months for me to come back to the podcast this time around.
Speaker 2:I think that's the not. I think it is the longest break I have ever taken since starting the podcast, which I believe is five years ago now, which is a little bit crazy to think about. I need to actually go back and check that, and the judgy part of my brain is like Nadia, you should know how long ago you started the podcast. But, to be honest, this was always about giving good information, helping other people, being able to put my work into the world as a mindfulness-based life coach, that if somebody didn't want to work with me in coaching, they could still get a positive impact or be able to work with me through this podcast, and so that has been the heart of this podcast and why I created it, but I really needed to take some time at the beginning of this year for myself. I've been undergoing a lot of different projects. I've been taking on rather a lot of different projects, which have all been very cup filling, but at the same time, the practical side of taking on these projects has been that it has been actually physically very draining and I underestimated the amount of work needed to lift these projects. I'm going to give more information in a hot second.
Speaker 2:Today we're talking about identity specifically because of that, because in the past, going on five months and really I feel like longer than that I've really been battling with identity, battling with the labels that I wear and how I show up and what I tell people or what I don't tell people, and and really trying to, what it's felt like is me trying to very much be in charge of manicuring my, manicuring my image and making sure that it is. You know, I niche down and I'm very specific, but the reality is that I'm highly multi-passionate, um which, if you know me, you already know this and I caught myself not I caught myself, but I noticed rather is having lots of conversations with people where what I've been doing, one of the very big projects that I've been working on, is I started a school from scratch. I started a new Montessori, a educational childcare facility that supports children three months through six years old, literally from scratch, like built the chairs in the lobby, worked with a construction team, hired the entire team. I now have a school that has I have four classrooms open. I have nine classrooms that I can fill out. I have another three that are tentatively scheduled to open up here soon. So I've been building an entire school from scratch, which has been a huge undertaking. And so, for those of you who are like question mark, question mark why are you starting a school from scratch?
Speaker 2:My background, while it is in coaching and in mindfulness, before that was in education and in human development and in families. So when I was 12 years old, I was certified as a babysitter by the American Red Cross. I started babysitting at 12. At 12 years old, I was running my very first business and so I started watching children. I started babysitting at that age. In high school, I took early childhood education classes. In college, I got my degree in education while working on the Ropes Challenge course, and that's how my life coaching love was born was while I was in college. But up until that point, I had studied education, studied family, studied human development, specifically early childhood education. So how do, how we form our beliefs, and as a physical human being, in the first seven years of our life. So that's what I've studied and you know, in that time, when I was going to school, up into that point, my goal was to be a teacher, then to be a director and then to run my own school, to have my own facility that I am running and is fully underneath me. So I finally hit that goal, which has been such a blessing.
Speaker 2:But hitting that goal has really triggered some big identity questions for me, has really shaken me up of like, who are you? This is my ego speaking. This is the part of us that is hyper-focused on labels, hyper-focused on how other people perceive us. That's our ego. Mine was very much like how are you going to be a life coach if you are ahead of school? Those two things cannot coexist. You need to pick one right.
Speaker 2:We live in this world where often the message that I receive from social media or from other marketing or business experts is niche down, niche down, niche down. And I've had actually a one-on-one meeting with somebody who even in that session told me you need to niche down, you need to pick one thing. And so when you live in a world, for me, where you are told, the message that I am personally receiving is to pick one thing and then start to shake up my identity, is it wrong of me to be a head of school and be a life coach? Is it a disservice to my life coaching clients that I also run a whole school? My ego was making me feel as though those two things could not live simultaneously together, and I also noticed that in building a school, I had to take a step back from my life coaching business.
Speaker 2:I wasn't able to put out the podcast as often, I wasn't doing newsletters and the other things that I was used to doing. So then my brain was questioning me, noticing my action, noticing that my action wasn't going into my life coaching as much. My brain then started to question me Are you really a life coach? Do you actually like this? Do you actually enjoy what you're doing as a life coach? And the truth was yes, but then I doubt was starting to creep in, and so that's what I have been sifting and sorting through in the past five months my friends, and it has been tricky and it's been challenging, but it's so nice you all to be back on the podcast and be in this space where I am embodying, in this season of my life, all of the hats that I wear I am embodying.
Speaker 2:Yes, I am a head of school. I worked very hard to get there and those skills have only made me a better life coach. And yes, it's meant that I've needed to step down from life coaching in some ways in the past few months, but I'm so excited to step back into it in this new way, bringing in these new skills that I've learned along the way. When it comes to leadership, when it comes to now hiring, when it comes to now leading a team, I've never led a team this big. I've been doing evaluations and one-on-ones and hiring people and checking in. I'm just learning all these new skills. That all will go into my life coaching business and I'm so stinking excited about it. So, with having said all of that, what a long introduction, but it has been five months. So, having said all of that, what a long introduction, but it has been five months. So I guess we can give myself some grace for that.
Speaker 2:We're talking about identity and this is why we're talking about identity Y'all. Right now I feel so vulnerable. This podcast is not live. I am sitting by myself in my office recording this, but I am feeling incredibly vulnerable right now, sharing my story, sharing some of my struggle of what is happening in my brain as far as identity, and I felt as though you know I'm probably not the only one going through this. I'm probably not the only one that's experiencing this turmoil, this sort of sticky itchiness when it comes to identity. So here's what I want to open it up with how we see ourselves is influencing the majority of how we show up right. How you see yourself is influencing the action you take, which, therefore, is influencing the results that you're getting. How you see yourself.
Speaker 2:I want you to pause and I want you to think about how do you see yourself right? The way I was seeing myself was I was seeing myself as a loser. If I'm being completely honest. My brain was saying you are a loser because, if I'm being completely honest, my brain was saying you are a loser because you are not putting the podcast out regularly, because you are not doing the things that you usually do for your life coaching business, even though I'm working my tail off in this other business that's actually doing really well. My school is very successful. I have a happy team. I have at least four of my team members that have told me that I'm the best job they've ever. I'm the best boss they've ever had and this is the best job they've ever had. What a blessing right.
Speaker 2:But my brain wasn't focused on that. My brain was focused on look at what you're not doing. Look at what you're not doing. So I want you to check in.
Speaker 2:What are you consistently saying to yourself and how is it that you perceive yourself? Do you see yourself as successful? Do you see yourself as successful? Do you see yourself as a loser? Do you see yourself as somewhere in between? Where do you see yourself and how are you speaking to yourself? Because that is number one.
Speaker 2:How do you perceive yourself? What are the things you are saying to yourself on a day-to-day basis? Can you pause right now and can you notice what those thoughts might be? And if you can't verbatim think of the thought, again, come to your feeling. How have you been feeling lately If you've been feeling anxious, down in the dumps, apathetic, frustrated? It's not that these emotions are bad or wrong. It's that they are indicators that we are thinking thoughts that are out of alignment with our best selves. That is it right.
Speaker 2:Again on this podcast, take it if it's 60, leave it if it doesn't. But my running tool I suppose not even definition tool is that if I am feeling anxious, depressed, frustrated, annoyed, it's not that those emotions are bad, it's that I am likely thinking a thought that is out of alignment with my best self, right? So check in. How have you been perceiving yourself? How have you been thinking about yourself? Let's go back to that example. If I'm talking to myself and I'm saying you're a loser because you're a slacker, because you haven't done the things that you need to be doing, you need it's, it's I'm going to let you guys know right now. It's a little bit of that all or nothing thinking, right when the brain goes.
Speaker 1:I need to do it all right now.
Speaker 2:My brain was saying I need to do it all. I need to lift up this school. I need to do all the things I usually do with my coaching business. I need to do all the things that I always do all of the time. But it wasn't doable, right? And so if you're consistently telling yourself, I'm a loser, I'm behind, I'm a slacker, your brain doesn't care, it's just going to find evidence for that sentence. When I say your brain doesn't care, it means whatever sentence you put into it, it's going to find evidence for. So if you continue to repeat yourself, if the identity you're identifying with is I'm a loser, I'm behind, I'm too old, it's too late for me, your brain will then go to look for evidence for that statement. It does not care what the statement is, it will go to look for evidence for it. So that's what this whole podcast is about. Is you managing your mind, you putting in your brain on purpose thoughts that serve you, noticing, like I had to notice for myself, I keep thinking the thought I'm a loser and that thought is not serving me. Nor does it feel good, right, when I think that thought I'm a loser, it's coming from a good place. There's this part of me that's like if I say I'm a loser, then it's going to encourage me to not be a loser, right. But that's not actually what happens. When we say to ourselves you're a loser, you're behind, you're not good enough, your brain finds evidence for that and then keeps you stuck. Your brain, my brain found out yep, you are a loser. You haven't posted the podcast in five months, but it wasn't because I was slacking, but I wasn't posting it. It was because I was taking the time to actually think about how do I want to show up this time around? What do I want the podcast to be? Slow down, my friends, and pause. When you are feeling a low level emotion, instead of allowing it to fester and create more of a downward spiral, see if you can take a deep breath in and pause. Notice that I'm feeling frustrated. I'm feeling angry. I am beating myself up right now. What is the sentence in my brain that is creating the feeling in my body, and what sentence might I think instead to create a new emotion? I want you to remember this your primitive brain does not like new or change. Your soul does right. Your soul wants to go and travel the world. Your soul wants to go, take on that opportunity. Your soul wants to apply to that one job. Your soul wants to reach out to that one venue so you can do that one event that you've been dreaming about hosting. Your soul wants to start that business. Your brain does not want to. Your soul wants to start that business. Your brain does not want to. Your brain doesn't want to do anything new. Your brain doesn't like change your brain.
Speaker 2:Think of it as a well-oiled machine, right, it really likes its routines, it really likes. When we say neuropathways, think about it as a well-worn pathway, like a hike right, a path that has literally been created. When you go to create either a new identity, a new routine, a new way of being, you are creating a new neural pathway and your brain does not want to do that because that creates effort. You have to effort to create a new neural pathway. You have to effort to believe a new thought. You have to effort to get in your car to go to that one event in that one place that you've never been to, so you can network, so you can build a business that you've been dreaming of. You have to effort and your brain does not want to effort. Your brain likes the things the way that they are because it likes the well-worn neural pathways that you already have. So it will be uncomfortable, it will be difficult, you will experience growing pains.
Speaker 2:When you are shifting your identity, when you are becoming somebody that you've never been before, right, if you're going to do something you've never done before, you are by default becoming someone you've never been before and your brain then, by default, will fight you. So when your brain fights you and you feel that resistance, it is not an indicator that something is wrong. Right, let's say you go and you want to go live, because your dream is to be a mommy influencer and you want to be a mommy blogger and you want to go live and you want to talk about parenting. Right, and so that's the dream that you have. And let's say, the first time you go live, first of all you feel like crap, you are terrified and you don't want to get on, even though your soul remember your soul wants to, but your brain, your primitive brain, is like I don't want to.
Speaker 2:Right, and then you get on, you go live and maybe like two people show up and one of those people is your mom and the other person is your best friend and you feel all of this embarrassment and this resistance. That resistance is not an indicator that you've done anything bad or wrong. That resistance is likely the thought of see, nobody showed up. See, even though I really wanted to be a mommy blogger. It's not even a thing. That is what the itchiness is. It's not the fact that you got on. You're so proud that you got on. I promise you do it.
Speaker 2:Be nervous, go to the event nervous, go on, live scared. You're going to feel like crap before and probably maybe a little bit during, but I promise you afterwards you will feel an alignment right. Your primitive brain is going to fight you, but once you get there, once you get there where your soul wants to be, where you're intuitively being led trust, that Walk your way through that discomfort. That discomfort is not an indicator that anything has gone wrong, and I think so often we think, oh, I'm uncomfortable. It means that something is wrong. That is not the case. All right, so I have five steps I'm going to offer you If you are a friend that is navigating identity right now navigating.
Speaker 2:How do I reconcile this discomfort I'm feeling as I'm becoming this new person. Yes, my soul is speaking up and I want to be a business owner. I want to be the person that makes the sales quota every single month at my company. I want to be X, y and Z. Right? That is where I'm going. That's what I see myself as, and I'm uncomfortable because I've never been that version of me before. I've never been online live every single night. I've never worked out five days a week. I've never actually said no to things and started setting boundaries and therefore resting more instead of putting work on my calendar. I've never been that version of me before, right?
Speaker 2:So, first and foremost, I want you to be honest. What parts of you are you ready to part with? Be honest with yourself. What parts of you are you ready to part with? Almost, think about this as a friend. You've outgrown right. If you were to split yourself into two? Right, the parts of you you want to keep and the parts of you that you've outgrown. What are the parts of you that you've outgrown and it's okay, that's not with? These parts of me are bad. These parts of me are wrong. That's not what we're saying here, it's just. These parts of me no longer serve me. These parts of me I don't want to take into the next chapter of my life. It's not because they're bad or they're wrong.
Speaker 2:Right, once upon a time, we were all in diapers, we all pooped and peed all over ourselves all of the time. Right, that is how it was. And then we got to a point where we outgrew that, where we decided and I literally watched my two-year-olds do this right now where they decide one day they're like I am interested in the toilet, I am no longer interested in pooping on myself, I am now interested in a little bit more independence, right. And so then that natural progression happens. It's so funny because I think, as adults, we just really truly believe that we're supposed to have our sugar, honey, iced tea together right now. We are supposed to have it all together by now, because we are above the age of like 21,. Right, we are just supposed to have it all together. That is not the case. We have so much more life to live.
Speaker 2:We are going to change, we are going to evolve and in that, let's be honest what parts of me are no longer serving me? What parts of me am I willing to let go of now, and what parts of me am I calling in. So that's the first question. Truly, it's more so. What parts of you are you ready to part with? You don't even have to ask what parts of me am I wanting to call in? Right, those two? I think that one question answers both. When you are clear about I no longer want to be a person that's late to things, great. You're making it clear that you want to be a person that's on time and early. If you're making it clear that I no longer want to be a person that takes three days to respond to an email and want to be somebody that responds in 24 hours, right, then that means that there you go. I want to be a person that responds in 24 hours. So what parts of you are you wanting to let go of? And then, by default, what does that mean that you're bringing in? That's the first one.
Speaker 2:Second one how do you want to feel? Remember, the only reason why we want anything is because of how we believe we will feel in the having of it, right. So how do you want to feel, right, as you are stepping into this next chapter, stepping into this new identity. How does this new identity feel? Does it feel confident? Does it feel self-assured? Does it feel organized? Does it feel proactive? Does it feel expansive? Does it feel abundant? Does it feel like a handful of those? How do you want to feel as you step into embodying this new identity?
Speaker 2:Here's the third one. What thoughts and beliefs will be required at this next level? What thoughts and beliefs will be required in order for you to feel that way? So, let's say you want to feel proactive, you want to feel confident. What must you think? What does a proactive person think, right? What does, then, a confident person think? So take those feelings that you've described, those feelings that you want to feel. How does a happy person think? How does a proactive person think? How does an organized person think? How does a blank person think, right? That's the third one. What thoughts or beliefs are required in order for you to feel that way? What causes you to go back into the cave? Remember your brain. Our brains are wired for safety and for comfort, right? They do not like new. Our brains do not like change, right?
Speaker 2:So what is it for you that triggers you to go back into the cave? Is it conversations with certain people? Is it? What is it for you that, when you're about to send the newsletter, when you're about to apply for the job, when you're about to go to that event, and then your brain says, no, I'm not going to apply to that job. No, I'm not going to host that event.
Speaker 2:No, I'm not going to go to that thing, what is it that gets you to go back into the cave? What does fear say to you? That's another way to ask that question. What does fear say to you? Oh, it's not worth it, you're not going to get that job anyway. He's not going to like you anyway. Nobody's going to show up for the event anyway. You're not wired to be an entrepreneur to make that much money anyway. What does fear say to you? What causes you to go back into the cave?
Speaker 2:The reason why I want you to identify this is because, if we can identify that's why we love mindfulness, awareness without judgment I want you to be aware of what is it that triggers me to send me back into the cave? What is it that sends me back instead of where I want to go? Right, when we're clear about those things, then we can start to notice in a moment oh, here I am. Here, I am about to go live, here, I am about to record the podcast here, I am about to go to this event, and fear is cropping up. And you can say to that fear thank you, I see you. Actually, I was expecting you because I know every single time I try to step out of the cave, I try to step out of my comfort zone. Here you are. Thank you so much for trying to protect me. I am showing up as this now and in order to be my most confident self. It means that you know I'm not going to allow you to run the show anymore. Fear. You can be here. Fear, thank you for being here. Fear, but you don't get to run the show anymore. Confidence is running the show. Faith is running the show. Self-assuredness is running the show now.
Speaker 2:So ask yourself what causes you to go back into the cave.
Speaker 2:What does fear say to you that causes you to not take the action that you so deeply want to take?
Speaker 2:Here's the fifth one have your own back. Have your own back. What does that mean? What does that mean For me? That means that I, when I say something, I do it. I follow through with what I say, with action. That's what it means to have my own back, that if I say that I'm becoming a more confident, self-assured, organized person, I get clear on what that means. What does it mean to be confident? What does it mean to be organized? What does it mean to be self-assured to me, and then I follow through with that? That's what it means to have my own back. I say what I do and I do what I say. And you all know my writing definition of confidence, right it's trust plus consistency or trust times consistency, however you want to math that out, but you need both of those, right. And you build that trust by being consistent with what it is you said you were going to do and doing what it is you said you were going to. You know what.
Speaker 2:I'm trying to say my words. Do what you're going to say. Say what you're going to do. Say my words. Do what you're going to say. Say what you're going to do. Follow through, have your own back. Follow through even though it's scary, even though it's uncomfortable, even though only two people showed up to your life, even though you don't know if anybody's going to read that newsletter, even though you don't know if you're going to get picked for that one job, even though you don't know if anybody's going to listen to you when you have your first concert.
Speaker 2:Whatever the dream is that has been placed on your heart, lean in. What parts of you are no longer serving you? How do you want to feel? What thoughts and beliefs are required to feel that way? What is gonna cause you to go back in the cave and have your own back? That's a practice. You will slip up, you will make mistakes, you will fall on your face, you will sleep on yourself. It will happen. How do you bounce back? Have your own back. I hope that this serves you. My friends, I am so ready to have the podcast back. I am so ready. My friends, I'm so excited to be back. And, my friends, if you are ready to coach with me. I'm ready to coach with you.
Speaker 2:I'm bringing my business to the next level, which for me means bringing on new clients, bringing on new humans. I am so excited to expand my coaching business. Now that I have spent a long amount of time working on some other projects, I am so excited to come back, bring on some more clients For my birthday specifically. I'm gonna have a birthday special, so this is going out the Monday before my birthday, so Friday will be the last day, but for this week only. I've never done this before in my business, but I'm actually really jacked to do this this week only for clients that pay in full. Both of my packages are 50% off.
Speaker 2:I have two packages. One of them is 10 sessions for $2,000. Those are check-in sessions and the other one is a year of coaching for $4,000. So it's 24 sessions. You see me two times a month. That one is $4,000. My other one is $2,000. Those are both 50% off this week, only this week only. So it brings it down to somewhere around $83 per session for the year round, and then somewhere around like 127, I want to say for the um. No, it brings it down to 100 actually per session, when it's normally 200 per session.
Speaker 2:Um, for the $2,000 package. So what does that mean? Stick around If you want to hear about coaching. If you're done with this, then go ahead and log off. That is all we're doing for the podcast today. I'm going to dive in and I'm going to talk about what it means to coach with me. Um, for anybody that is interested. So if you're headed out, see you next time, see you next week. My friends, thank you so much for tuning in and if you're interested in learning a little bit more about what I do in coaching, I love coaching. So in a coaching session, you're like what does it actually mean to coach with you? What does it mean to work with you? What does that actually mean? It means you and I getting onto a video call, a video call conference with my clients over Zoom. It is for one hour. You are recorded. We are recorded. Rather, I record the session and it's so that you can have it.
Speaker 2:I remember when I went to a therapist, loved my therapist. She was fabulous. She really helped me access my own emotions and I just remember sitting in those sessions with her and I would talk and I would give her everything that was on my heart and I cried and she, she would be taking notes and I would leave not knowing what notes she had taken, not really feeling like I had a whole lot of homework or growth work or things to work on. Necessarily, she gave me a lot of grace and that was really kind of the theme of it Continue to give yourself grace but I wanted more, and so that's something that I offer to my clients. We'll coach for an hour. You get the entire session recorded, so that way, for life, you can go back and you can watch them and you can see where you've grown. Or you can go back and watch a session and listen again to what it is that we've worked on. I have one client that she listens to or goes back every single year on her birthday and she watches the session from the year before just to see how much she's grown.
Speaker 2:So in that session, what do we actually work on?
Speaker 2:What does it actually mean to work with me?
Speaker 2:Within that session? It is very conversational. I'm going to ask you a series of questions and I'm going to reflect back to you what I'm hearing and my job as a coach what I consider my job to be is to listen for what's in alignment for you. Everybody's what I call alignment checklist is a little bit different, and it's my job to listen to. What is your alignment checklist? What are the things that you need to do on a daily and or weekly basis that allow you to feel your best? That's the practical side, and then we also work on the emotional, spiritual side, right? What are the thoughts you're thinking, how are you feeling on a day-to-day basis and how are your actions influencing that? Right? What are the thoughts that you're allowing in your space and are those thoughts serving you and the goals that you have? We also will work on, while we focus on the future, mostly we will work on past for those clients that need that work. But, as a life coach, if you're curious about what is the difference between life coaching versus therapy life coaching my writing definition is going to be forward focus, whereas therapy is going to be past focus.
Speaker 2:As a life coach, I'm wanting to know where do you want to go, where do you see yourself going? And then, from there, we're going to clean up. What are the thoughts that have brought you to where you are right now versus what are the thoughts that you need to think in order to get to where you want to be. Why thoughts? Because your thoughts influence the way you feel. Your feelings influence your action. Your action influences your results. So we're going to work on your action. I'm going to talk to you about are you getting enough rest? Are the actions you're taking right now in alignment with the person you're going to become? But what's more important are what are the thoughts you're thinking, what are the beliefs you have, and where did you get those beliefs from? And so that's where we sometimes will do some family work on where did these beliefs originally come from? That you are still carrying into your adulthood? That don't necessarily serve you anymore. So I'll ask you a series of questions. I'm going to reflect back to what I'm hearing. I'm going to always be listening for what's in alignment for you, reflecting that back to you.
Speaker 2:Then, at the end of the session, I will gather all of my notes and then I break up my notes into what's called growth work and golden nuggets. And so after a session usually within three business days, because I have to synthesize all the information I will then send clients. Here's what we worked on. So here are the golden nuggets. These are the things you're working on. You might be working on something practical, like an exercise routine. Practical like an exercise routine. You might be working on something more emotional, spiritual, like giving yourself more grace and affirming a specific affirmation, or your work might be that you're going to have quiet time every single day in the morning. It depends on the person. So that's what your golden nuggets are. These are the themes that you're working towards.
Speaker 2:Then we also have growth work In your growth work. Those are the specifics. Right, if your goal is to start a blog and you want to be a mommy blogger, a food blogger, a plant blogger, whatever, right? We're going to break down what actually needs to happen for you to be a plant blogger. I worked with a client the other day. She wanted to have a booth at a farmer's market, so we spent time practically breaking down that's great, you want to be at a farmer's market, but what do you actually need to do? You need to get a table, you need to get a tent, you need signage, you need to determine your point of sale. How much everything's going to cost? Right? We exhausted the list of tangible things she needs to do in order to create the results she wants to create. So that is what your growth work is about. What are the actual practical things we need to do to move the pendulum forward?
Speaker 2:So that's what it's like to coach with me. I help you reach your goals by holding you accountable, by helping you see the thoughts that are no longer serving you. With love, I'll point those out, and by holding space I think that's the biggest thing is sometimes, if not most of the time, we don't say these things out loud and so we don't even know that there are these thoughts and feelings and dreams and desires living inside of us, because we're not spending the time journaling, we're not spending the time having deep conversations with loved ones or even with ourselves. And so in the space of coaching, I get to ask those questions, and when I ask you something like how are you it's not the same as when you're asking the friend in the hallway at work oh, how are you? I'm fine. No, when I ask you how are you, I want to know how are you really.
Speaker 2:And then we get to work to ensure that you are in alignment and that you have the tools to get yourself back into alignment in a moment's notice, or maybe in several moments notice, because sometimes we need time and grace, but my work with my clients is about creating a tool belt, a personalized tool belt for each person that helps them live their best life on their own terms and understand what it means for them to be their best selves, which for me means to be in alignment. That is what it means to coach with me. That's my long winded definition. But if you were here the entire time, then thank you. Then you wanted to hear this and I'm so glad that you're here. And if you're interested in coaching with me, like I said, this week only this week, only, my friends my coaching packages are 50% off. So if you go to nandikamilcom, you can find it there. You can also click the link in the caption of this podcast to go and find the link to go and book a call book those sessions with me. You can also go to nandikamilasme. That'll take you straight to the booking page.
Speaker 2:Again, all of this will be in the show notes for the podcast episode today. Thank you so much for joining me. My friends, I am jacked to be back. I cannot wait. I have already a running list of all these things that I want to talk to you about. So I'm so excited about this next season of the podcast. Welcome back, my friends and welcome if you are new. I, the podcast. Welcome back my friends and welcome if you are new. I can't wait to get to know you and I'll see you next week. Hey friend, if you like this podcast, I would love it if you could give us a five-star rating. Share it with your friends. Share it with somebody another girl, boss, babe that you know is grinding, showing up as her best self and can maybe use some support on her way. If you're interested in one-on-one coaching, if this podcast resonates with you and you're ready for some one-on-one support support for you and your journey go ahead to nandikamilcom to learn more or head over to nandikamilasme to sign.