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Believe Like A Boss
Affirmations as Edge Finders (Do you *actually believe you can live abundantly?)
Is constant happiness an illusion?
Join me, Life Coach Nandi Camille, for another thought-provoking episode of "Believe Like a Boss" as we explore the transformative power of affirmations.
We'll dive into Google's definitions, both traditional and modern, and discuss how affirmations can serve as "edge finders" to reframe our mental landscape positively.
We'll also tackle the criticism that affirmations are just empty repetitions and introduce the concept of "positive brainwashing"—adopting constructive thoughts intentionally to propel us toward our goals. Don't miss our discussion on maintaining a balanced, realistic mindset rather than chasing perpetual happiness.
In the second half of our episode, we'll engage in an interactive exercise to help you find affirmations that align with your personal truth. Listen as we guide you through affirmations like "Everything is working out in my favor" and "Clients find me with ease and regularity," and pay attention to your body's reactions.
Discover what resonates with you and supports your future vision. I also share my journey of using affirmations to attract clients effortlessly, transforming initial positive thoughts into a thriving reality. Embrace the power of positive thinking and remember to take what resonates with you and leave the rest. See you next week!
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Hello, my friends, and welcome back to another episode of Believe Like a Boss. I am your host, Life Coach, nandi Camille, and I am so excited for another week. All right, my friends, this was one that came from my Instagram stories. I was doing affirmations using affirmations and I personally I was talking about them on my Instagram stories. I personally use affirmations in multiple ways, and so I was having a discussion, or rather, I was talking to the people and I was getting DMs about affirmations in multiple ways, and so I was having a discussion, or rather, I was talking to the people and I was getting DMs about affirmations, and the way that I talk about them is, yes, as we affirm where we're going, we affirm who we are, but also as edge finders. So that's what we're going to talk about today Affirmations as edge finders. I just want to kind of tease the title for you for a hot second, but I'm going to back up and, first and foremost, I just want to. I'm diving right in my friends and you guys. I have notes. So, for those of you who are like, that last one was a little squirrely, nandi, I thought so too, to be honest, but also I. We are our worst critics or maybe not, I don't know but I, listening to that last episode, I brought back the notes, even though I was really excited to just speak from the heart. I find that these are really great to help anger me and so diving right in. We're talking about affirmations as edge finders, but what I wanted to do first and foremost is I wanted to figure out what the definition of affirmation was on Google.
Speaker 1:The other thing that I'm noticing my friends I'm totally like segwaying ADHD moment right here, kind of pulling the curtain back. The other thing that I noticed I don't normally listen to my podcast episodes. I don't normally listen to the back, but I did recently. And one of the things that I noticed is that I talk fast and I know this, I've been told this. I can't wait until I'm fluent in Spanish, because it will be fabulous. I'm so excited. But when it comes to being an orator, when it comes to speaking on stages, being a person that does, that, one of the things I'm learning is going to be important for me and one of the things that I've just noticed for myself. Nobody's pointed it out, I've just noticed it for myself. I want to slow down, I want to take more pauses. So I'm going to be intentional about that. Sorry, my brain went there, had to just like open up the curtain for y'all for a hot second. Let you into my brain, okay, coming back to the episode, so if you're like, why does she sound different? That is why some of you may not have even noticed, but that's okay.
Speaker 1:So when I looked up the definition, the Google definition of affirmations, it's like what does Google say? The first one is there are two definitions. The first one is the action or process of affirming something or being affirmed. I was like okay, that's pretty straightforward. I agree with that. Affirmations, affirming something. A hundred percent Love that.
Speaker 1:The second definition is emotional support or encouragement. I thought that was interesting because I feel like that just goes hand in hand and it shows what day and age we're in. I feel like if you were to have looked up affirmations, maybe even five years ago, the second one might not have been there. I don't know that for sure. That is just my personal guess that emotional support or encouragement wouldn't have been one of the definitions of affirmations. I feel like this is something that's been picked up in the recent years, or it's been popularized, we'll say. In recent years. Affirmations have been around for millennia, but it's been popularized, at least in Western culture, in the United States, in the past few years. And it's not that I have anything against that second definition, but I do think that that is where affirmations sometimes get a bad reputation that people see it as you just saying things that you don't believe out loud again and again, kind of like in the same vein of fake it until you make it. And it's well intended, that thought process. But I can understand and empathize with why people are like. That just doesn't work for me. I don't want to say things out loud that I don't believe and try to shove that down my throat.
Speaker 1:Now I will say I said this in my Instagram stories I personally love the concept of positively brainwashing and so I will admit yes, affirmations are a way to positively brainwash ourselves. Now, when I say positively brainwash ourselves, I am saying we are purposely choosing to think a new thought that better serves us, saying we are purposely choosing to think a new thought that better serves us. So, instead of thinking the thought, I'm broke every single time you walk into a store that you would actually like to purchase things from. You could think the thought one day I might buy from here. Or isn't this so cute, right? Just changing your thoughts. Instead of I'm broke, I'm broke deciding to think a new thought. I would love to purchase this one day, or I can't wait until I can. Or isn't this lovely, just admiring what is in the store. You are purposely thinking new thoughts on purpose that serve you, right, and so that's what I mean when I say positively brainwashing thinking thoughts that are in alignment with the person that you want to be, your most expanded, positive self.
Speaker 1:Now, when I say expanded positive self, I say that with a caveat, knowing that there is no such thing as 100% happiness, 100% of the time. So please don't come onto this podcast or go see a coach or a therapist thinking that you are going to find this grand space in your life where you are always happy. That does not exist. Please do not chase that. We are invited to experience all of our emotions sadness, calm, anxiety, boredom. All of it is an invitation to live life, to experience life. So it's not that we're avoiding negative emotions, ever right. It's that we're noticing those negative emotions and spending more time in alignment. Sorry, I totally digressed there. Okay, so those are the two definitions. Those are my thoughts about the definitions. The way that I see affirmations is what I just said is a way to affirm ourselves yes, positively.
Speaker 1:Brainwash ourselves, think thoughts that are in alignment with our best selves. An example of that might be if I'm working with a client and they want to be interior designer has been coming up recently for multiple clients, which I think is so fun. I love interior design. I am not an interior designer, but I'm attracting a lot of female entrepreneurs who are, and let's paint this vision. They want to have this fruitful business. It looks different for everybody. For some people they're designing specifically bathrooms right, they just want to work on one facet or one area of the house. For other people it's whole homes. You could focus on interior design as far as decor of furniture, just want to focus on that, whatever it is. But let's say this person wants to focus on furniture. They want to be a furniture designer with interior design.
Speaker 1:I would ask them, go to the version of you who has done it. Let's go to you 10 years from now where you have this thriving business, where you have clientele that love to come and see you, where you have the beautiful retail shop on that beautiful street that you pass by all the time with that one shop that has that for sale or for lease. Sign on, you pass it and you're just like that is gonna be my shop one day. Go to the future version of you who has that shop, who is living that life. What are they thinking? And that's how we get some of our affirmations right. That version of you who is living that life might be walking around the shop thinking, oh, I love my shop, I love this when people come through here, I dreamt of owning this shop one day and here I am right. And so that is where for me, that's where I get my affirmations. I go to the future version of me who has already lived this, who has already done it. It's a little bit of playing make believe, right, but that is what faith is Believing in your dream, even though it doesn't exist to the point of let's go there because we believe that it does. And what is that future version of you believe and think? Let's take those thoughts and bring them into the present moment. That's what we affirm. That's how we positively brainwash ourselves. So that is one way that I see and that is an exercise that I would offer to you.
Speaker 1:Whatever your dream is, I loved watching. It was a reel with Marie Forleo the other day and she reposted it and she was saying it doesn't matter if your dream is to have the most beautiful garden in your neighborhood or your. Your dream is to speak on stages or to build a company that's a bajillion dollars, and I am in the same line of thinking. You get to define what your dream is. Is it to be a partner within your company? Is it to be a mother to three? Is it to be a homeschooling parent who also owns a flower business and goes to farmer's markets and is a part of a mommy group? You get to design what your vision is and in that vision, go to the future version of you who is living it. If you believe that it's possible, go there, play with that. And what is that future version of you have to say? Take those thoughts. Those are your affirmations.
Speaker 1:Now, the second way that I see affirmations is as edge finders. Affirmations as edge finders meaning when we say something like I am wealthy, that might be an affirmation that you've heard tossed around, or I am abundant. Whichever one speaks to you more, I am wealthy, I'm abundant. Maybe it's both, maybe it's one or the other. But let's say you're playing with that and some part of you is like, oh, that's not true, that doesn't feel true, that feels out of alignment. That's an edge for you. You get to through playing with affirmations. See what feels true, see what feels like a stretch, see what feels completely off. Think about it as trying on clothes. Think about affirmations. When you're trying on affirmations, think about it as trying on clothes. You don't like everything that you try on when you go to the store. That one sweater is itchy. That crop top is too cropped, those jeans don't fit you just right. Those other jeans are super soft, right. Play with affirmations in that way.
Speaker 1:Again, what I just said. When I just said I am wealthy or I am abundant again, some of you liked both. Some of you liked I am abundant. You're like that feels in alignment, that feels good in my soul. Some of you felt I am wealthy because that felt empowering to you. That's what I mean when I say listen to whatever comes up for you. What lights you up? When I say those things, what expands you? That's the feeling we're looking for, a feeling of expansion, and the things that create the opposite feeling in you, a feeling of you shrinking down. Those are your edges. That's where you get to say okay, the affirmation I am wealthy rubbed you the wrong way. Notice what are your thoughts about that. It's not that you now have to say it again to yourself again and again till you believe it. No, let's unpack that for a second. If you don't believe the thought I am wealthy, why not? Or if it makes you feel uncomfortable, why is that? What comes up for you? Is it that you have a thought about wealthy people? Or the word wealthy feels icky to you? Or wealthy means dot dot, dot? That's what I mean, as it is an edge finder.
Speaker 1:When you start to, I'm going to say some of these affirmations to you. I think that's what we're going to dive into next. I'm going to say them to you, and what I want you to do is I want you to listen and I want you to just see which of these feel expansive to you, which of these make you feel expanded, and and which of these affirmation sentences right, that's all. An affirmation is as a sentence which of these sentences make you feel like you want to shrink down, or make you feel icky or make you feel itchy or make you feel uncomfortable or make you scrunch up your face. Listen and notice. And again, it doesn't mean that it's bad or wrong because it makes you feel itchy or scrunch up your face. It just means that you have a thought there that maybe we can look at.
Speaker 1:Okay. So I have a handful I don't know how many. I have a handful of affirmations for you. I'm going to read them all to you. I'm going to read each of them two times. One of them you already heard, but I'm going to read each of them two times and I want you to simply listen to how it feels in your body. This is also an exercise I do with clients, right, I'll read them back their thoughts and I'll have them listen what feels true and this is where we get to get into the body work right. What is when I say expansive. Listen to your body when it expands. Right, those are our cues that this is an alignment. Something in me is lighting up. Follow those things. And when you feel shrunken down, it doesn't mean again, inherently, I get excited, I start talking past you guys. It doesn't mean inherently that it is bad or wrong, but again, it gives us an opportunity to look at it. What is the thought that I'm thinking? Okay, so here are some affirmations for you. Everything is working out in my favor. Everything is working out in my favor.
Speaker 1:Next one you heard this one. I'm going to say both of them twice I am wealthy. I am wealthy. Alternatively, or in addition to, you could say I am abundant, I am abundant. And again, I want you to notice pause as I'm saying these. Maybe you pause the actual podcast and say it to yourself roll it around, try it on, like you try on clothes when you go into the dressing room. You don't just put it on, take it off, no, you look at it, you pose a little bit, you turn around, do that with these. I am wealthy. How does that feel? Does it make you feel uncomfortable? Does it make you feel excited? Does it make you feel curious? Oh, I've never thought that before, but this is the first time I'm thinking it and I like it. Or maybe you're like I don't like that. I like abundant better. I'm just very clear on that. Check in, notice. That is the next one. I am abundant, I am abundant. Here's your next one.
Speaker 1:Clients find me with ease and regularity. Clients find me with ease and regularity. Maybe you're starting a side hustle, maybe you have a business, maybe it's not clients that you're looking for. You get to replace that with whatever you need to. Students find me with ease and regularity. If you are looking for students for a class patrons, find me with ease and regularity. You get to put whatever you want to. But that one's for my. My boss, queens looking for clients specifically. Your next one is everything I want wants me. Everything I want wants me. Notice how that feels. There are four more for you. The universe conspires to support me. I wrote this one two different ways. In case you are not in alignment with thinking, the universe or God. If that's not of your thinking, you could say I am supported. So again, it is either the universe conspires to support me. See how that one feels, or maybe I am supported, maybe it's both. Maybe one felt stronger to you. Three more.
Speaker 1:I am willing to be misunderstood. I am willing to be misunderstood. Notice what that one brings up. That one's one of my favorites. That one usually makes people itchy the first time they hear it. No, I am not willing to be misunderstood. I need to be clear. Yes, and in you showing up as your best self and being clear. Sometimes people won't get it. Are you willing for them to not get it? That's where that one comes from. I am willing to be misunderstood. Here's your last one. This or something better? This one is one of my favorites.
Speaker 1:Whenever I'm thinking about something, whether it is a pivot, it's something that I want, something I'm calling in, I affirm this or something better and I leave it open for God to surprise me. That's one of my favorite things because I am working hand in hand with God. I am working hand in hand with the universe. That is of my belief. Take it if it sticks to you, leave it if it doesn't. Everything in this podcast, you know that's always the case. Take it if it sticks to you. Leave it if it does not Only take what resonates with you, but this or something better. I know that what I'm asking for is mine and I'm willing to release the way it shows up to me. This or something better, right, how does that feel? You can affirm whatever you want and again, the way I would offer that you create your affirmations is get clear on the vision, get clear on what it is that you want.
Speaker 1:Go to that future version of you who has what you want, who's walking around in the world enjoying those things you have asked for. What are they thinking as they're walking around in the world, enjoying those things you have asked for? What are they thinking as they're walking around in the world? What are they just naturally thinking as they're walking around? And that's why I think we put so much pressure on affirmations.
Speaker 1:I have to think this thing right, and I think that sometimes it is kind of silly to think I'm wealthy, I'm abundant, right. If I go to my future version of myself, who's wealthy or abundant, I may not necessarily be walking around thinking that, but that doesn't mean it's not helpful for me right now. That might feel really in alignment for me to say right now, and when I think about my future version of myself, who is at this level of wealth? You know what. There might be moments where I'm thinking I'm wealthy, but it's more likely that I'm admiring some of the things that I have done with my wealth.
Speaker 1:Some of the time I may have created as a result of my wealth, whatever it is, you get to go to your future version of yourself and create that vision for you, right, this is not about anybody else but you and I would offer that as well. As you're going to create your vision, please check in. Is this vision truly from your soul, from your heart, from your mind, from your imagination? Or do you feel as though it is because other people think this of you and it's okay if it starts to always come back to you? Is this truly what you want for your life? Is this an alignment for you?
Speaker 1:And if it is okay, what is that future version of you walking around thinking how fun it is to fly first class. That's what just came up for me, right? How fun it is to fly first class. That's what just came up for me, right? How fun it is to fly first class. That's what my wealthy version is thinking. So that might be an affirmation that I use oh, it's so fun to fly first class. And that might just be something that I just say to myself. Right, and it might feel silly at first. Let it feel silly. Let it feel silly. Think about it like the kid that is ice skating, that falls right, they giggle, they get back up. Let it feel silly, it is okay. It is okay. I am so willing for it to be uncomfortable for me to be silly, because I know that one day it will be my norm and that is what we're entering this with. That is the faith we walk into our dreams into our life with. That is what we're entering this with. That is the faith we walk into our dreams, into our life with, knowing that, yeah, I feel silly now, but this will be my norm.
Speaker 1:Clients do find me with ease. I said that when I first started my business and I had zero clients. Clients find me with ease. Clients love to pay me. Women love to pay me. Women find me with ease. I coach women all over the United States and abroad. Women find me with ease. I coach women all over the United States and abroad. Before I coached anybody, and now that is 100% true. I have coached women from New York to California and Texas. I had somebody reach out from abroad recently. It was just so exciting. But I started affirming that before it was true and it did feel silly. And I let it feel silly because I knew one day it would be my norm and y'all. It is my norm today and that is very exciting. All right, my friends, I hope that this podcast serves you. I'm going to say it a million and two times take what sticks you, leave the rest. I will see you next week.