Believe Like A Boss

Rewire Your Mind Using Thoughtwork: How To Create New Results

• Nandi Camille • Season 6 • Episode 6

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What if you could rewire your mind to achieve any goal you set? Discover the transformative power of thought work with me, Nandi Camille, as we explore how shifting your beliefs can reshape your reality.

In this episode of "Believe Like a Boss," we break down how our repeated thoughts become our beliefs, and how these beliefs ultimately guide our actions and shape our lives. Using relatable examples like learning to tie your shoes, we illuminate the profound impact that our mindset has on our feelings and outcomes.

Take a moment to reflect on your current life results—are you truly satisfied? If not, let's work backwards together to uncover the thoughts, feelings, and actions that led you here. I'll guide you on how to alter these to create the life you desire. With an emphasis on practical thought work, I also offer personalized support through a discovery call.

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Speaker 1:

Hi, friends, and welcome to Believe Like a Boss. I'm your host Life Coach, Nandi Camille. Join me as I teach you how to smash your goals and expand the possibility of your life through mindset management, spiritual alignment and authentic action. I'll teach you how to create what I like to call a life of thrive, with ease and authenticity. It's time to play with what's possible. Are you ready? Let's go.

Speaker 2:

Hello, hello hello, my friends, and welcome back to another episode of Believe Like a Boss. I am your host life coach, nadi Kamil. Welcome back, my friends. So last week we talked about affirmations and how I like to use them as either edge finders, as I like to call them, or as a way to affirm what it is that you're working towards, what it is that you want, by using your future self as your guide.

Speaker 2:

This week, we're going to talk about thought work. We're going to talk about your beliefs, your belief, my running definition of belief is just a thought. We think again and again and again. Right? Very simply, you might think for the first time, I can tie my shoes. Right, when we're three years old, four years old, when we learned to tie our shoes, and then, from there, you know you can tie your shoes and it just becomes second nature, right? And that's the way that we want your affirmation to be by affirming from that future version of you who has whatever it is that you're wanting, whatever goal it is that's important to you, right, when you're living from that place, when you're at that place, whether it's, you know, a career change, or you're calling in your person. When you've called in your person and you've had that career change. What thoughts are going to be thinking from that place, right? And so what we're going to do today is kind of take a second to look at what are the thoughts you're thinking right now, and looking at the different ways that our thoughts impact how we feel and then, therefore, the results we create. This is what I'm always listening for when I'm working with clients what are the thoughts that they're thinking about, the circumstance, what is the result that they're wanting, that they are wanting to create, and what is the action that they are or are not taking right? What is the current result that they're getting and how is it different from the result that they're wanting? Right? And so I'm always listening for these things, but it always comes back to what is it that you're thinking? What is it that you're believing about yourself, about possibility, about your life? Right? Whether you think you can or you think you cannot, you are right. It's one of my favorite quotes. As always, my friends, take what sticks to you, leave the rest.

Speaker 2:

For some of you, this will be a refresher. For others, this will be maybe the first time you're thinking about your thoughts for the first time, or having a moment to oh, what is that? Thinking about my thoughts? Yes, taking a moment to check in what is happening in my mind, because what's happening in your mind is influencing everything, whether you're noticing it or not. It's kind of like when I don't know, for those of you who journal, kept a diary when something would happen and you wouldn't want to write it down, because if you write it down, then it becomes real. But the reality is is you already know about it? Right? Your body already knows about it. So it is real, whether or not you write it down. Our thoughts are the same way, right? Our thoughts are impacting the way we show up and our reality and our results, whether or not you are mindful of them, right? And so what we're going to do today is we're going to take a look at two different thoughts and how they're impacting everything else, right, and I want you to take this and make it your own.

Speaker 2:

So there are circumstances in the world, and the circumstance we're going to use is my life. So I want you to think about my life, your life, okay, what is your thought about your life? My life is dot dot dot. My life is exciting. My life is boring. My life is good, my life is expansive, my life is expensive, my life is a hot mess. What comes up for you my life is. Just take a moment, my life is, and it might be a multiple words, descriptors that come up, but what are the loudest ones? We're going to take a look at two different thoughts, and again, I want you to. If it resonates with you, fantastic. But if it doesn't, I want you to follow this on your own and I'm going to explain what that means. Okay, so the thought, the circumstances, my life, the thought on one side might be is good, right? Some of you thought my life is good, my life is fun, my life is exciting, my life is exactly the way I want it to be right, that was true for some of you, amongst maybe some other thoughts. But then how does that leave you feeling If your life is good? If the thought is my life is good, how does that leave you feeling life is good? If the thought is my life is good, how does that leave you feeling? Conversely, if the thought is my life is a hot mess, how does that leave you feeling? And this is where I say insert your own if neither of these resonate right If you don't feel like your life is good, if you don't feel like your life is a hot mess. But there's another descriptor for you. Use that and then notice how does that descriptor make you feel right?

Speaker 2:

When I work this through for myself, when I have the thought when I'm in a place of my life is a hot mess for me, it creates anger. I get angry. I recently took an Enneagram test and there's just another type of personality test. If you're like, what is that? E-n-n-e-a-g-r-a-m Enneagram? I am a number three, which is an achiever, which did not surprise me or, I think, anybody else. I had my entire team take the test so I could have a better idea of who everybody is, and so I'm a three, and so it makes sense to me.

Speaker 2:

When I was thinking this through, I said, okay, well, when I'm thinking the thought, my life is a hot mess, how do I actually feel? I feel angry. And it makes so much sense because the achiever in me doesn't want my life to be a hot mess, wants my life to be not perfect. I am not looking for perfect I actually am quite grounded in that but I am looking for high performing, I am looking for organized. I am looking for early, not just on time, and know what's been interesting about that is lately, when it actually comes to time I've been on time, or a few minutes late, and that I really need to take a moment to look at what's going on there. But when I think my life is a hot mess, I feel angry. So, whatever the descriptor is for you, think for a moment. How does it make you feel?

Speaker 2:

Now, from that place, our feelings really truly influence the action that we take. If we're feeling really crappy about going to the gym, we're less likely to go to the gym. If we're feeling really excited about trying a new workout or a new fitness boutique or a new gym or new personal trainer, we're more likely to then go right. So our feelings are influencing the action we then take. When I'm feeling angry, when I'm feeling, as a result of the thought my life is a mess, frustrated, the action I take is very little. I am normally then in an overwhelmed spiral. I'm like my life is a mess, I'm angry about it. My life is a mess, I'm angry about it. Your brain is then.

Speaker 2:

My brain, from that place, is looking for evidence that my life is a mess. So I'm noticing, maybe, the pile on my desk. I'm noticing how I was three days instead of two days on returning that client's notes or even longer, right. I'm noticing how, oh, you didn't batch your content and you didn't batch the podcast like you thought you were going to. I notice all of what I would call my imperfections. I'm in an overwhelmed spiral that is not productive. What is the result I get from that place? Nothing gets done and the cycle repeats itself. Right, because nothing gets done. I keep thinking that, thought my life is a hot mess, I'm feeling angry, I stay in the overwhelmed side spiral and the cycle continues. So check in for you.

Speaker 2:

What is your descriptor, how does it make you feel, what action do you take from that place and what is the result that you then get? This is our thought work. This is what I mean by being mindful, thoughtful of your thoughts, thinking about how, what am I thinking? How is it making me feel when I feel that way? What kind of action do I take from that place, and is that action in alignment with the results that I'm wanting? Am I getting the results that I want? So let's flip it around Other way, and again, this is a generic one, use the word that works best for you.

Speaker 2:

But if we're thinking the thought my life is good, if that doesn't resonate for you, don't use that word. Right, use the word that resonates for you. But if we're thinking the thought, if it is an alignment for us to think my life is good, my life is really good, right? How do I feel from that place? I feel, for me, calm. That was the word that came up. How do you feel when you think the thought my life is good, my life is expansive, my life is coming together better than expected? Whatever affirmation sentence works best for you? How do you feel Then from that place? When you feel that way, what is the action that you take? For me? When I said I'm feeling good about my life, my life is good, I'm feeling calm.

Speaker 2:

From that place, I take consistent action steps right, because when I'm calm, I can be in my prefrontal cortex. When I'm calm, I'm not in fight, flight or freeze. When you're in fight, flight or freeze, you cannot take action from that place. You can take action right. You're taking the action of protecting yourself. Because I'm in fight, I need to protect myself. I'm in flight, I'm running away because I need to protect myself. I'm in freeze. I'm going to stay perfectly still because I need to protect myself.

Speaker 2:

That is not where creative thinking happens, it's where protective thinking happens. And so in order for me to be in my prefrontal cortex, where that creative thinking happens, I have to be calm. Cortex where that creative thinking happens, I have to be calm, I have to be relaxed, I have to be not agitated, not frustrated, right? Those feelings get me closer to my brainstem, to the place where we are fists up, right, trying to protect ourselves, rather than I want you to think again. Emotional posture fists down, open, right, when we're open, that's when those creative ideas can flow.

Speaker 2:

So when I'm thinking the thought my life is good, my brain again, your brain does not care what you think, it's going to look for evidence regardless. So when I start to think my life is good, I'm now looking for different evidence. I'm looking at how beautiful it is in Colorado. That has been so true for me lately. I am just falling more and more and more in love with this state. I also love this time of year. Everything is turning green, the wildflowers are everywhere, it just takes my breath away. I'm doing hikes and mountain drives on a daily basis right now. So my brain is focusing on that, because I'm focused on the thought my life is good. So now that I have this evidence, my brain's looking for all the reasons why my life is good. It makes me feel, then, calm.

Speaker 2:

From that calm place, the action I take is consistent action. I'm getting creative ideas. I'm popping new ideas into my notepad on my phone whenever I think about something, and then the result that I create from that place are new, aligned results, whether it's because I created a new product or I was like, oh yeah, let me clean up this on my website, or I thought to check in on a client on something. Actually, as I'm saying that out loud, there is a client that I need to follow up with, who I checked in with, who I owe a text message to. But from this place, from this calm place, I can have those creative ideas.

Speaker 2:

I can think more open-mindedly versus when we are again in fight, flight or freeze, which is when we're feeling overwhelmed, when we're feeling anxious. It's not that those feelings are bad or wrong, it's that they don't necessarily serve us. They serve us in that they're indicators that we're out of alignment right, and then it becomes our privilege, our opportunity to check in. What is the thought that I'm thinking that is creating this feeling that has me feeling itchy, out of alignment, anxious, frustrated. Again, it's not that being frustrated is bad or wrong, but how do you want to feel instead, and what thought is in alignment with that feeling? And then, when you feel that way, what kind of action do you take from that place? So this is what I like to play with For you.

Speaker 2:

I want you to take a moment. What are the results of your life right now? What are the results of your life? Are you happy with the results of your life? And, if you're not, results of your life? Are you happy with the results of your life? And if you're not, can you work backwards? What is the action I've been taking or not taking? How have I been feeling? What are the thoughts that I've been thinking that have been creating those feelings? Check in. This is how we do our thought work and if you want assistance with it, my friend, sign up for a discovery, call nadyacamilleasme. As always, take what sticks to you, lead the rest. I'll see you next time. Hey friend, if you like this podcast, I would love it if you could give us a five-star rating. Share it with your friends. If you're interested in one-on-one coaching, if this podcast resonates with you and you're ready for some one-on-one support support for you and your journey go ahead to nandikamilcom to learn more, or head over to nandikamilasme to sign up for your free discovery call.