OWN IT The Confidence Podcast
#69 Good intentions don't matter
When you express yourself, thinking it is obvious what you mean and thinking everyone or that someone specific will understand exactly what you mean, just like you mean it, sometimes that goes very wrong. Last time it happened for me was now, just before recording this podcast episode. I am still shaking as I write this, because of the very negative feedback I got about me and what I wrote in a post on Facebook. This is not pretty. It is hard core, it is personal, it is very painful, for more than one person. I'm hoping that by sharing this story, it will help someone deal with "taking responsibility" for when we say something that does not at all land as we intended it, or lands with the wrong person or at the wrong time. Or, that it will help someone who feels they've been hurt, mistreated or disrespected. Perhaps there are words that need to be said in the gap between the intended message and the received message. Most often there is, right...
When you express yourself, thinking it is obvious what you mean and thinking everyone or that someone specific will understand exactly what you mean, just like you mean it, sometimes that goes very wrong. Last time it happened for me was now, just before recording this podcast episode. I am still shaking as I write this, because of the very negative feedback I got about me and what I wrote in a post on Facebook. This is not pretty. It is hard core, it is personal, it is very painful, for more than one person. I'm hoping that by sharing this story, it will help someone deal with "taking responsibility" for when we say something that does not at all land as we intended it, or lands with the wrong person or at the wrong time. Or, that it will help someone who feels they've been hurt, mistreated or disrespected. Perhaps there are words that need to be said in the gap between the intended message and the received message. Most often there is, right...