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Accelerate Your Journey to Finding Your Authentic Self: A Transformative Story of Self-Discovery, Career Change, and Personal Growth.- Colin Kingsmill : 118
Have you ever found yourself seeking success without really understanding why?
Colin Kingsmill shares his compelling journey across three significant chapters of his life. He candidly discusses how he hit a wall at age 35 after a relentless pursuit of achievement, prompting him to reassess his motivation and pursue deeper self-discovery. This journey led him to the realization that true freedom comes from psychological liberation.
Life is full of transformation and new beginnings, and this episode offers a powerful example through a conversation about past life regression therapy. After a traumatic event, Colin discovers eight past lives and begins to heal their deeply rooted need for validation. This conversation also sheds light on the concept of worthiness, offering valuable insights for anyone seeking self-discovery and healing.
Colin describes his unique journey from chasing wealth to finding passion and discovering true purpose. His honest reflections on personal growth and transformation, his mission to help others rediscover their humanity, and the importance of living with integrity, overcoming fear, and finding freedom from suffering are genuinely inspiring.
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Hi, I'm Daniela. Welcome to my podcast, because everyone has a story, the place to give ordinary people, stories, the chance to be shared and preserved. Our stories become the language of connections. Let's enjoy it, connect and relate, because everyone has a story. Welcome my guest, Colin Kinsmeal.
Daniela SM:Born in Canada and raised between the Gulf Islands of British Columbia and the Swiss Alps, two places where I have lived as well. He has lived, worked, fallen and gotten back up again all around the world, run exotic locations like Bora Bora and Montenegro to bustling cities like London and everywhere in between. That's why I found his story captivating. He lived my dream of slow, traveling and, on top of that, having a glamorous lifestyle. So Colin is here to share his compelling journey across three significant chapters of his life. How he calls it Chasing wealth to finding passion and discovering true purpose. His honest reflections on personal growth and transformation, his mission to help others rediscover their humanity, and the importance of living with integrity, overcoming fears and finding freedom from suffering are genuinely inspiring. I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I did. Welcome Colin to the show.
Colin Kingsmill :Thank you. Thank you so much for having me. It's great to be here.
Daniela SM:Yes, and I am very excited I got to meet you because, coincidentally, we were this year in Nova Scotia. When we were in Nova Scotia, we passed this beautiful Pinterest town. My husband said this is the most beautiful place I've been. Then, when I met you, you were living there and you actually used to live in Vancouver. So Mahon Bay, that is the beautiful place that you're now there.
Colin Kingsmill :It's so pretty. It's like a hallmark romantic comedy set. As you know, you've been through it. The wonderful thing about the place is that it not only looks really lovely, but all the people are equally lovely, welcoming and charming. There's just such a great sense of community spirit here that I have to say I don't think I've ever experienced anywhere else, maybe when we lived in Montenegro, because it was a small place too. But, yeah, super welcoming. Yes, you have to come back.
Daniela SM:Yes, we will for sure. I know there are so many interesting things about you that I am super excited that you are sharing your story. So, first of all, why do you want to share your story?
Colin Kingsmill :I really want to share my story because, just looking around us today, I think there's a lot of people that are suffering psychologically with mental health challenges. I want to help people get to freedom from that kind of psychological suffering faster than it took me. If my story can help anyone accelerate their process to freedom, then I'm happy. That's really why I want to share it. I've had a world of experiences. Some have been the best, some have been the worst. Just want to share it To accelerate other people's journey.
Daniela SM:I like that. You said a world of experience talking to you before. It is true. I think it's going to be hard to answer these next questions, but when does your story start really?
Colin Kingsmill :I think I have three chapters. I think I only realized this since you and I spoke. I had my first chapter, which was childhood and early adulthood, where I was striving for success, striving to have and be and achieve and do and all these things. I hit a wall. The second chapter, I think, and a chapter of self-discovery. In the first one, I was certainly unaware of anything. It's just going blindly through life trying to acquire more and be more and show off more and be more loved and respected and all those things.
Colin Kingsmill :The second chapter is really about becoming aware, figuring out what the meaning of all this is and why are we here and what am I doing. The third chapter is the one I'm living now. It's only recent, I think, not. I think I know of really embodying everything that I've learned on my journey, going from knowing it to really embodying it and beginning to live life to the fullest, to my purpose. Yeah, full of energy. For this next chapter, which seems much lighter and more happy and freer than ever before, I kind of have three different stories. Dive into any one of them, if you like.
Daniela SM:Well, it feels like most people will have those three. Now that you divided it like that three chapters Some people maybe the first one will be more shy or don't know. You seem to be confident and wanted to grab the world and make it all yours and then you hit a wall. I think every chapter will be a lesson there for everyone.
Colin Kingsmill :I think the first chapter and I have a coach who named it Seeking Fabulous that chapter of wanting and desiring and needing to achieve that's all related to kind of a core wound of unworthiness that I had, and it was a reaction to my childhood which I decided very early on that I wanted to be successful, but I did it really blindly. I mean I did it with intention. I'm like I want a Range Rover or I want an Audi or I want to go skiing and sun more. I did it with intention. If somebody is in that sort of chapter, like I was, you have to ask yourself why or I think you should why do you think you need those things? Why do you think you need to have that? Why do you think you need to perform this way and perform is the key word there, right?
Colin Kingsmill :I think that whole first chapter was a performative art or performative appearance, right. But I got to the end of it having checked all the boxes that I thought I should have checked, but I was completely empty. I was divorced, I was depressed, I was full of anxiety, I was not happy, I was probably not a nice person. So, yeah, I think that chapter was just really walking in the dark. Almost right, you're going towards that success, quote, unquote that is so often pushed on us, sold to us as the solution, sold to us as something you'll be happy when you vacation in Santa Pei, or you'll be happy when you're on a yacht. And then you do it and you're like, well, hold on, no, that's all wrong. So that's what I did in my first chapter, and the second chapter is just started with cleaning the slate. Forget it all. Let's give everything away. Let's start from scratch. Let's move across the world and see what life is really supposed to be like.
Daniela SM:So the first chapter was all in Canada.
Colin Kingsmill :That was mostly in Switzerland. Actually Did my education in Vancouver at SFU, then abruptly moved to Switzerland because I wanted to be a Swiss banker and wear a suit and a tie and skin some more. It's an Easter in Santa Pei. That's sort of what you do right.
Daniela SM:At what age, more or less, you hit the wall?
Colin Kingsmill :It was 35.
Daniela SM:That seems to be very early in life.
Colin Kingsmill :Yeah, I feel like I had a midlife crisis early on. It was a gift. I just hit a wall and I think friends hadn't stopped me in my tracks and said wait, what are you doing? You actually need to take care of yourself. I probably would have had a heart attack If I had continued at that pace. I would have probably been dead already. Something stopped me in my tracks. It was kind of like being hit by a train and getting up and brushing yourself off and going oh, what just happened? That didn't feel like it was supposed to feel. When you're successful, you're supposed to be happy and content. When I was none of the above, I just really said okay, I'm going to go back to Vancouver. As you know, vancouver can be a very healthy place. At least at the time it felt that way to me the ocean and the sea and the beaches and the mountains it's beautiful.
Colin Kingsmill :I started over there, Started from scratch. I gave watches to my cleaner. I gave all my Italian designer clothing that I'd bought in Milan. I gave that to my best friend who was going to stay in banking. I'm like good luck, We'll see you later. Here have 25 Ermen Agil D'Ozegna suits or Dolce Gabbana pants or whatever the heck I had. I'm sure I had all of the above.
Daniela SM:How was the process going from one day to another? Did you meditate on it? How did you decide now that this has no value?
Colin Kingsmill :Certainly my body was saying no, my body was shutting down. I was just so unhappy, so depressed, and coping with retail therapy. One of my friends took me aside and she said look, you need to slow down. Why don't I help you de-stress a little bit? She showed me how to do Riky and I did a bit of Riky and I'm like, oh, this is interesting. Never done any of that before, Like zero. I knew nothing. I knew that people did yoga but I'm like, why bother? It's not going to make you money. I was just that clueless 22-year-old.
Colin Kingsmill :She suggested I do something called re-birthing. I don't know if you've heard about it, Daniela, but it's where you're taken by a guide to the breathing pattern before you were born. So it's supposed to take you to the pre-trauma of birth and to pre-all of your traumas. Actually You're re-birthing, so you're going back to before you're born, to your breathing pattern in your mother's womb. It's supposed to be all super comfortable and you're protected and you're cared for.
Colin Kingsmill :It's kind of the antithesis of where I was at that time when I went and did it. I tried it and what happened was it turned into a past life regression session Again. I had never believed. I didn't nothing. None of that was even on my radar screen. I didn't know it existed. I don't know how long it lasted, but I got up and I had seen eight movies with me. In them, I was a protagonist in that, I'm the protagonist in this. And I got up and I'm like what just happened and she had written it all down, the guide that I was with, and said well, looks like we just did a past life regression on you.
Daniela SM:No way Wow.
Colin Kingsmill :That same day I took that to my psychiatrist because, of course, I had a psychiatrist at the time. This is why I think sometimes the universe, or Source, energy or God or whoever kind of, had a plan for me, because he was the most interesting psychiatrist you could meet. He was a military pilot in the Swiss army, he was a Buddhist, he was a historian and he was a psychiatrist. So you had this beautiful collage of things and I went to him and I said, hey, dr Rossi, what just happened? This is crazy. And I described all the scenes because he was such an incredible historian. He said, well, look, that story there didn't happen in. I thought it was Turkey or something he's like. No, that's because of the buildings you described. That's an ancient trading route between Morocco and this other thing you described. I thought it was like Elizabethan England or something. So he said that's Southern Italy because of the seal and the architecture that you described and there was a bird on the seal.
Colin Kingsmill :My body had stopped me in my tracks almost, so I was depressed and full of anxiety and sad and blah, blah, blah. So I'm like getting to the edge of my tether there. But then I had this experience, the only way I can describe it is seeing that life doesn't have to necessarily happen in these 60 or 80 or 90 years that we're here. I couldn't explain it. The only thing that I can tell you is I had this sensation, this feeling that I didn't have to rush anymore, I didn't have to achieve anymore, I didn't have to do anymore, I didn't have to like, I didn't have to prove anything anymore to anybody in this lifetime. It was kind of the antithesis of everything that I had done until now. Right until that date, I was, like you know, proving myself to myself and to my parents and to my friends, and making sure everybody liked me and making sure that I was always the one taking people to dinner and that I had to be liked and I had to be loved and I had to show that I was worthy. But this experience, this being stopped in my tracks that way, instantly knew that I didn't have to do any of that anymore. I didn't have to prove myself anymore. I didn't have to search for worthiness outside of me.
Colin Kingsmill :Daniela, it was just a really quick like. It happened on a Friday. It was like I remember the day. It was April 6, 2001. It was Friday morning, friday afternoon, I saw my psychiatrist.
Colin Kingsmill :By Monday I had decided that I was done with everything and needed to make radical change in my life. I think within two months I had given everything away. I had shipped a few things back to Canada, but not very much, I mean, it was just a tiny amount of stuff back to Vancouver. I got there and I'm like okay, I have shed the cloak, the clothing of my past. This is a brand new day, it's a brand new country, it's a brand well, it's still my home, right, I grew up there, but let's start again 35. And that's when I started to. You know, you know, I'm sure you know Banyan Books, if they're still there. You know the bookstore which was had every. You know the self-help and spiritual and everything there. I just went and I literally like I grabbed everything I could and started on this chapter of self-discovery of what's this all about? Really working on healing that core wound of unworthiness, looking elsewhere for the answers.
Daniela SM:And so this psychiatric was in Switzerland. Yes yeah, oh, how fascinating.
Colin Kingsmill :Yeah, it was all in Switzerland. When I lived there, I lived in Lugano, I worked at the largest bank in Switzerland for about five years and then I moved and transitioned into starting a business, a financial services business, with some friends of mine. We grew it, I think. When I left, I think we had 25 or 30 employees in Milan and Lugano. Yes, so it was all in Lugano. I'd lived there for about 10 years I guess 10 or 12 years.
Daniela SM:And you were so fortunate that you had a psychiatrist. We were able to be so knowledgeable, because I think that that wouldn't happen. Usually they were saying, oh, that doesn't exist or something you know, unless you are with many life, many masters. Just to Brian West, then I agree with what happened.
Colin Kingsmill :Right, right, I think he was really good. I don't think he ever sort of endorsed it or said it was right or wrong, but he did say those places are not where you think they're somewhere else, and here's where they are and here's what that might have meant. But to me that was all I needed. The light bulb went on in that moment. But I think even that you're right. I think that's kind of a rarefied moment that a medical doctor, psychiatrist, would be open to those sort of possibilities, those kinds of conversations, at least 20 years ago.
Daniela SM:Yes, Well, Brian Wise, which he's a psychiatrist. He already was talking about that 30 years ago. I remember reading that book from him 30 years ago. Usually when you have a regression and you see a past life, it kind of takes away something that you have and then you move on. So if you saw eight, it feels like you have had eight issues that went away. You didn't focus, you didn't study more, you didn't want it to work more curious.
Colin Kingsmill :No, I wasn't, but now I kind of am. Yeah, that's interesting, that's a good point. You know, maybe now with the advent of the internet I could go online and see I still have the journal where I transcribed everything that had happened.
Daniela SM:Colin, my dad passed away when I was 20, and so I was reading this book to be close to him somehow. But that didn't happen. I decided that I wanted to go and do this therapy. So I was reading the book when I was living in Miami and then I went to Montreal because my mom was living there, and then, before I was going to Switzerland, in Montreal, I said to my mom I would like to try this therapy, and so I went to this lady who will do regression. I used to pull my hair cut halfway since I was a baby, and my mom shaved my head when I was three. You know I would wake up and there were little balls of hair. I had the regression. You know you are awake, as you know. So I'm telling her a story and I'm like OK at the meantime saying this is weird.
Daniela SM:Why would I say this? I mean, I haven't watched any movies that are related to this, you know, and so I said that I was a disc thrower.
Colin Kingsmill :Oh, wow.
Daniela SM:And I was in the Olympics in Greece, so I was very handsome man. And so then I saw this woman who was the princess and I really love her. But because I was such a narcissist she never really wanted to do anything with me. So for sadness, I sat on a chair for the rest of my life and pulled my hair. And I old and I could see being old, and so after I told the story I have never pulled my hair again.
Colin Kingsmill :Oh, no way.
Daniela SM:So that's what I think. You know sometimes. This is how I thought, if it gets fixed I don't know if I just maybe got lucky, because it was just a silly thing.
Colin Kingsmill :Oh, wow.
Daniela SM:I did it twice and the second time too. It was a dream that I always had and after I explained, carry on the story. I never had it again. I wake up with anxiety and never happens again.
Colin Kingsmill :That's really interesting that, now that you mention it, I think there's a couple of things that I could go back and work on. There's a couple of phobias that I have that I need to probably get over. It's funny. You know, writing a book about fear and having two phobias like that is funny. That's funny. That's an anecdote that I have to write down Good.
Daniela SM:Well, I think it's fascinating that you have these experiences and then that it was so quickly for you to realize. I mean, you are certainly somebody who takes action immediately and don't waste time. I'm glad that you had that opportunity. And so you came to Vancouver and you started to give things away.
Colin Kingsmill :Well, I gave everything away before I left Switzerland. So I came to Vancouver with my suitcases, you know, and it was a really a clean, fresh, fresh start. The chapters are full of antithesis, right. So I decided that I, in chapter two, that I didn't want to do anything related to financial services anymore. I wanted whatever I was doing to be much more tangible, right, and I had always loved building things in construction and design and architecture. I probably should have been an architect now that I think of it. And so I got into the world of destination real estate, destination place making. I'm sure you know Whistler Mountain and Intra West, and yes, I worked for Intra West.
Colin Kingsmill :No way. So I went and worked at Intra West and had office there in Vancouver for the number two guy who was the chief strategy officer I forget for how many years, but in 2009, intra West had been sold. So then I moved over to Montenegro. That's where a Canadian developer was doing a project called Porto Montenegro. Because of Intra West and because of sort of the history of Canadians knowing how to do master plan resort destinations, he brought a few people over from Canada to help. We were Montenegro for six years and then a few other places around Europe.
Colin Kingsmill :Yeah, I've been in destination plan place making real estate sales, marketing, branding, communications for the past 20 years. It's been amazing. I mean, as you know, I've gotten to travel the world, had all sorts of crazy wacky challenges and ups and downs, but it's allowed me to become fearless, really, because I've been given these opportunities that you know how do you sell. I don't know how do you sell luxury real estate in a post-communist Emerging market that is still hard to get to in a country that's three years old. Right, that's what Montenegro was. You know, I love a challenge and maybe it's because of that first chapter that I had that was so, so hard. That the second chapter around real estate and design and place making and stuff, I just kind of came naturally. I loved it.
Daniela SM:So you study banking and then you went into marketing.
Colin Kingsmill :Yeah, my, my undergraduate was a triple major in political science, history, in French, because it really didn't know what I wanted to do, like that's like, oh, that's kind of covers a lot. And then I did my MBA in international finance and international marketing and did that in Milan in Italy. So yeah, it's kind of an all-rounder right. I could navigate in the banking world, but I could also navigate in the real estate development world.
Daniela SM:It's just one was friendlier than the other, you know yes, you went to the library and took all the self-help books.
Colin Kingsmill :Yes.
Daniela SM:However, you got a job that it was also very time-consuming and very corporate, so how do you balance that then, compared with before?
Colin Kingsmill :In the first chapter, the destination was success, quote-unquote. In the second chapter, the destination was Doing something well with passion and having fun. I do a lot of this in my, in my coaching work. Right, it's like what is the intent of what you're doing, right? So for me, the intent in chapter one was make money, be successful, be be liked, all those things right. Chapter two yes, you're right, it was still corporate, it was still locked, it was demanding, as you know. But I want, I just wanted to learn, I wanted to do something well, I wanted to see transformation, places that we, that we developed and worked on, and I wanted to have fun doing it. I wanted to enjoy it. So the intention behind my work was very different in those two areas, right.
Daniela SM:And did you see people that did have the intention that you have on chapter one doing the same job as you? You see how they behave differently?
Colin Kingsmill :Yes, for sure. There's a couple of them that I that I still know today that I raised my hand and I said, hey, you, are you in the right place? I is this right for you, are you okay? So I did the same thing that somebody else did to me years earlier, right On more than one occasion where I, where I saw people that were in that same sort of cycle, that closed loop that I might have Been in or that I was in, I Started to share what I was learning.
Colin Kingsmill :There was this wonderful book called when the body says no, by Gabor Mate. When the body says no is really about how your body is always telling you. It's always telling you a message, right? If you're sick, if you're tired, if you're cold, if you've always got the flu, if you're, you know You're it's telling you a story. It's telling you to stop and listen and that something has to change, right? So I gave that to more than one person who I could see was always kind of sick or kind of how to has a cold all the time. And, hey, are you listening to what's going on here? You know, more than one of them made radical change as well. Pay it forward, I guess is what you'd call it, but I was definitely Saying, hey, don't go there. I've done that. It's not worth it. Shift to the destination. That's gonna fulfill you, as opposed to the destination. That's just a checklist great, Okay.
Daniela SM:So so you went to Montenegro, which other countries I know you visit many.
Colin Kingsmill :I did development work in Montenegro, I did it in London, I did it in the Loire Valley, a little bit in the Maldives and Thailand, serbia Lived in Montenegro, serbia, switzerland, italy and London over over sort of 12 years. That was really about being in that sort of destination real estate world. You can't really sit still. The project calls you. Recently I did projects in Saudi Arabia, did projects in South Africa, in Tanzania. The projects take you around.
Colin Kingsmill :The pandemic, I think, for me. We were living in Italy, in Tuscany, and by all intents and purposes that's beautiful. But the pandemic really brought things home for me that it was time for a new chapter. It was time to go home quote unquote To my home, back to my culture, back to my language, because the pandemic was in Italy was really awful, it's just, everything was closed down. The whole place was like a dystopian movie set. There was nobody around. All the only things that were open were, you know, the grocery store and the pharmacy major had explode after a year and a half of that kind of stuff.
Colin Kingsmill :So the the next chapter, chapter three now is about, is a homecoming, and it's a homecoming both to Canada as as home, even though I didn't come back to Vancouver, but also coming home, kind of metaphysically, getting to a point in my life where I've transitioned from Passion to purpose now. So chapter one was blindness, you know, pure zombie living. Chapter two was do what you like and learn what's going on. So that was. That was like passion and knowledge.
Colin Kingsmill :The third chapter of my story is really purpose. What am I doing here? Why am I doing it? How is it impactful? Because I got to the end of chapter two. I had discovered that I wasn't in the same mess that I was before, but I was no longer really living in integrity. I was doing things for other people. I was saying yes to projects that maybe I should have said no to. I I wasn't good with boundaries, I was getting triggered. I Was kind of not great anymore in social, social teamwork settings. So that to me said, okay, it is really time for a new chapter. It's time for you to live in integrity With who you really are, with your true purpose. So that's that's what I've been doing, basically the last sort of year of moving back to Canada on going from passion to purpose.
Daniela SM:Well, marketing doesn't have necessarily an integrity Concept around it. Well, you're always trying to push something to people that maybe they don't need.
Colin Kingsmill :So yeah, that's for sure. Yeah, I mean sales and marketing can be completely evil at times, for sure. I really enjoyed the marketing side of things because the work that I was doing was really around brand purpose and An intent and why are you here and why are you doing it? And that's really why I also added coaching to my repertoire of Of skill sets. Right, because I was.
Colin Kingsmill :I was working with people from a marketing perspective that you know, didn't quite know what, why they were doing things. If you don't know why you're doing them and you don't understand, and don't understand your promise and your, your purpose, your clients aren't going to. So I did a lot of work around helping people get to that place of what is your brand promise? Why are you here? Why does it matter? Why is it meaningful? And if you don't know the answers, you better come up with them. Right, you better come up with more purpose driven in depth vision and mission. I did recognize that marketing can be pretty shlucky, but you're right, like today, I can't stand there with this calls to action everywhere and it's like yuck, give me a break.
Daniela SM:You were having a purpose because you were doing something. I feel like you did not have a purpose for me. If you don't have a purpose, is you don't have in a job that I have no passion, that I don't enjoy, that I don't see there is purpose at all. Am I contributing to something that is important?
Colin Kingsmill :yes, the key word there is contributing to something important. You're absolutely right and I did feel like I was Contributing to something important and I know I've worked with teams and work with people that I still connect with, you know, almost on a daily basis, so I know I made an impact. What I've done, daniela, in chapter three is the purpose is no longer a contribution to somebody else's project, it's my. It's a contribution to me in a very healthy, selfish way, like what can I do to charge my batteries as much as possible to make the biggest impact possible? And it's not going to be designing a brand philosophy and a sales and marketing strategy for another development. It can be impactful.
Colin Kingsmill :How I've shifted in this in chapter three is I'm going to put me at the center of everything, that my batteries and my resources are charged as much as possible so I can make an impact towards. You know the real purpose that I'm here, my real mission, as opposed to you know yours and yours and yours and yours, which I did during that whole chapter two, if you like. Chapter one was self absorption to heal a core wound of unworthiness. Chapter two was let me help you and let me help you and let me help you and let me help you and I. I got to the end of that sort of passion play and now I'm saying, all right, I want to help me, help others. That's the, that's the difference.
Daniela SM:Yes, yeah, that's very well put, and so you think that that wouldn't have come up if it wasn't because of the pandemic? It?
Colin Kingsmill :probably not. I would probably not. I would have continued, kept going until until something else, until I hit some other wall. Yes, I was conscious enough to know that I didn't want to hit another wall, that's for sure. That's like OK, warning signs, time for change. And the pandemic, I think, was really just the catalyst that helped that.
Daniela SM:What was the process? Then you decide, ok, I'm going back to Canada Vancouver, the decision was back to Canada.
Colin Kingsmill :It wasn't back to Vancouver only because I love a bit of adventure, I love to try things, I love new experiences. Instead of the West Coast, let's try. The East Coast had never been here. I had friends here and other friends that had moved here and sounded like a great idea and from all the research I did, this part of the world is so friendly, so beautiful, you know. The skies are bright, blue and even if it snows, the nice thing about living on the Atlantic is the weather changes really quickly. We might have a downpour or a big snowfall, but the next day it's like bright blue skies and and it's so good for the soul, the vitamin D that you're getting and everything. So took a while only because there was a supply chain stuff couldn't get containers to move our stuff and everything. But that's OK. It took a little while but really settled quite quickly. I love it here.
Daniela SM:I know that some of the countries you pick because of the projects that you were working, but some other cities that you pick was through research, when you live in Milan or I don't know.
Colin Kingsmill :That's a good question, probably not research, more intuition.
Daniela SM:Intuition, because the fashion, the food, the people, what you have heard, yeah.
Colin Kingsmill :Yeah, exactly all of the above, you know. And we moved to Italy to above Luca, because we were living in Switzerland and we but we wanted a place that was a little warmer than the, the mountains in Switzerland and, honestly, I saw this place online and it was like the first place we visited and fell in love with it. Yeah, I've done that a few times in my life, just saying yes to the dress, you know like, just say yes, yes. It's like when you just say yes, with not too much analysis, it offers possibilities, right?
Daniela SM:Yes, like I want to go to Morocco, but the reasons are food Right, I think that the spices they use it should be amazing and I just want to have the experience and I want to go and go for it. Then we have a friend who was saying oh you will you need to research, like I don't want to research too much because then I think then you create expectations.
Colin Kingsmill :Yes, I agree with you.
Daniela SM:Then you could be disappointed. And I mean, I always like to investigate and plan and when you're traveling like this and you want to be slow travel, I think that you just be a bit adventurous and expect nothing and just learn everything.
Colin Kingsmill :I completely agree with you. I think if you plan too much, it immobilizes you almost it freezes you a little bit because you won't do it if this changes or with that changes, so you kind of stay stuck. And also, if you plan too much and do too much research, like you say, I think you eliminate the opportunity for surprise Right and for play and for joy becomes much more regimented. So yeah, I'm a big believer in look, I just finished a 200 page marketing plan so I know how to plan. But I do love spontaneity, I think. I think it just allows for opportunities and surprises and possibilities, you know.
Daniela SM:Yes, and so, getting back to chapter three, you've been in Mahon Bay not too long. You have been there for just a lot of things you have done. You are a guest for podcast.
Colin Kingsmill :Yes, I'm a guest. I'm going to start my own as well one of these days soon, but in this process of coming home, I recognize that I'm, that I have a mission. My mission now is to help people rediscover really their humanity, to live in integrity, to become fearless and, as a result of those three things, to be free. I mean free from psychological suffering, really just free to be who you really are, to live your purpose, live with joy. And the humanity element is I think we've become so divided, politicized, and everybody's got a new label and an alphabet and a new thing and this, I'm this, and we just all have to remember that we're human beings on a little rock on this planet. So if we could come together as opposed to divide, that's a good thing. So humanity, integrity, fearless and freedom is what my, my purpose is now, and I'm doing it through podcasting. I'm doing it with my team coaching and whole human coaching, with my individual coaching, with CEOs and entrepreneurs.
Colin Kingsmill :And, as you know, I think I told you, I'm writing a book called Fearless, which is just crossing the bridge from fear to bliss. Doesn't have to take you. I don't know how many years it took me 30 years right, or 20. So that's all that's. What I'm doing is just crossing the bridge from fear to bliss. I can get you there faster because of all the experiences that I've had. So if they you know, let me tell the story. See if they resonate with you. That's all.
Daniela SM:Yes, and I think that you sound like a great coach that people would like to you know, to get your support for sure.
Colin Kingsmill :Well, I love it. I love it. I think I bring to the table world of experiences. I think we just that's kind of how we started out the conversation.
Daniela SM:Yes, and you say a world, but I also find that culture. You have a world of culture too, because, living in different cultures, you are more open to understand people's culture and personalities. I feel like sometimes people only know one type of people and then when somebody is a bit different, instead of trying to connect that, perhaps the behavior comes from. Growing up in a Latin country is different than Canada, so sometimes it's harder to help people and support them.
Colin Kingsmill :Yeah, yes, I think you're right. You know, I have lived and worked all over the place. I call it a wider angle lens, right? So it's. You know, if you use the camera analogy, I'm not tight wide angle, saxon, male Canadian. I've got a wider lens, a wider perspective on things and I think because of that I can give people ideas to think about that they may not have otherwise thought about.
Daniela SM:Yes, exactly. Yeah, that's wonderful, that's wonderful. I'm happy for that, and then I can wait for the book to come out. Me too that would be great, and you have so much to share, I guess you should also be a designer. Just what I can see here, you are like, have a great taste.
Colin Kingsmill :Well, I don't know about that, but thank you. I am a visual person, so I do like visual what's the word? I like seeing nice things around. My father's an artist, so I probably got that from him.
Daniela SM:Wonderful, wonderful. Okay, so you have the three chapters and you are a coach. You're still working on, you know, on marketing, because that's the passion that you have, that you cannot stop.
Colin Kingsmill :Yeah, a little bit. I do it where I really believe in the project and the people play time. You know this life is really short, so let's have fun.
Daniela SM:Yes, I saw yesterday at this block party in Grumble Island one sweater that says relax, we all gonna die, and so I thought that was very good, you know.
Colin Kingsmill :I think that's such a good reminder right, because so often people think you know you live forever and you never confront the fact that we're all going to go there one day and could be tomorrow, like your next breath is not certain.
Daniela SM:The other thing that I also wanted to mention. When you said that your values. Now, going through these podcasts and meeting a lot of people, I realized that the thing that we want is love. That's it.
Colin Kingsmill :Yeah, well, that's why my first sort of point or pillar in my mission is humanity. Let's rediscover our human connection, our community, love, respect, because it feels as though it's missing. And certainly I've done a lot of work with men recently especially. These are very hard times for people and men have a very hard time expressing themselves and their needs and they're being bombarded with things like toxic masculinity which most of them don't even know what that means. Love, humanity, bring it on, sign me up wherever you want me to sign on the dotted line. Yes, please, daniela. Thanks.
Daniela SM:So, colin, thank you very much for sharing your story, and maybe we can have you back when your new book is out.
Colin Kingsmill :I'd love to.
Daniela SM:It'll be great to hear how the process went.
Colin Kingsmill :Thank you so much for letting me share it and I hope to see you soon next time you come over to this side of the world.
Daniela SM:Yes, for sure, thanks.
Colin Kingsmill :All right, ciao.
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