What if Stress and Overwhelm are something you invent, something you choose?

Do you feel overwhelmed and the disorder is getting the better of you? Your life feels like it is complete chaos! If this is you, then this is the episode for you.

In this episode of me&my health up we interview Simone Milasas who is an Australian entrepreneur, creative business coach, and author.

About Simone Milasas
Simone Milasas is an Australian entrepreneur, creative business coach, author, and Worldwide Business Coordinator of one of the world’s biggest personal development companies, Access Consciousness.

Simone has been at the forefront of cutting-edge creation and business development for over two decades. She is the founder of Joy of Business, mentoring entrepreneurs around the globe to create greater wealth and happiness and was instrumental in growing Access Consciousness from 4 to 176 countries.

In addition she is also a best selling author to Relationship: Are you sure you want one? Her other two books, Joy of Business and Getting Out of Debt Joyfully are also available in multiple languages. Find out more at  www.simonemilasas.com

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Anthony Hartcher: 0:02

Are you feeling stressed and overwhelmed? What if I said that stress and overwhelm are something that you invent something you choose? That is today's topic of me and my health up? We have the guest, Simone Milasas on with us today talking about this very topic. Simone Milasas is an Australian entrepreneur, creative business coach, author, and worldwide business coordinator of one of the world's biggest personal development companies Access Consciousness. Simone has been at the forefront of cutting edge creation and business development for over two decades. She is the founder of joy of business, mentoring entrepreneurs around the globe to create wealth and happiness, and was instrumental in growing Access Consciousness from four to 176 countries. In addition, she is also the best selling author to relationships. Are you sure you want one? That is Simone molasses. And she's joining me on the man my health that podcast I'm your host, Anthony Hartcher. I'm a clinical nutritionist and lifestyle medicine specialists. The purpose of this podcast is to enhance and enlighten your well being. And that is why we have brought Simone molasses on the show to discuss this topic of is stress and overwhelm something you invent, or something you choose. We're going to discuss this topic and I hope you look forward to it. So I'd love to work your way into the discussion I'm having with Simone Milasas. Welcome Simone Milasas on the me and my health up podcast show, how are you today?

Simone Milasas: 1:44

I am wonderful Anthony and yourself

Anthony Hartcher: 1:46

are fantastic. Thanks for coming on and look forward to hearing what you have to share. Essentially, I've been in the background doing my research and looking up all about Access Consciousness. But before we get into the topic, I'd really want you to share how you have arrived at what you're doing today.

Simone Milasas: 2:03

It's an interesting question, because you could go on forever with this. And there's like that, you know, sometimes those really small things in life lead you to something. So the big answer is my choices have made me arrive at where I am today. And the willingness to choose something different. Because I know for a lot of my life from even at high school, it's like people would talk about, you know, going to college, getting married, having kids and I was like I want to see the world like that was my choice. And I get the sense. So I feel like I almost went against what so many people were choosing my whole entire life, not to prove anything not to you know, try and fight against anyone it was just didn't match. You know how, like when you try and fit in, and you know, you don't fit, you keep trying to fit in and you're like this just isn't working. It's like hitting my head against a brick wall. So as soon as I left high school, I went overseas, and I told everyone I was going for six months, and ended up staying for three years, you know, and I traveled the world, I worked in many different places, I went around the planet, discovering it, that was always a very important thing to me, I really wanted to see the entirety of the world. I wasn't I mean, I grew up in Sydney where you are. And I wasn't happy just growing up in Sydney, like, I love Sydney, I think it's such a beautiful city. And I had such a great time there. But I was like, It's not big enough. Like I need to see something more I need to, you know, meet more people and see how other cultures are. And the planet was always something that was so intriguing to me nature, like all around the world, the diversity of it. So I kept doing that. And I'm gonna say, I kept following the energy. And for me, something from a really young age is I wanted to see how I could wake people up, you know, and I guess the concept I had was like, Can I am I allowed to just grab people by the shoulders and shake them and say, Don't you get it, there's got to be something different, like, you know, the trauma and drama or that oh my god, my boyfriend left me my girlfriend this or anything like that. There's got to be something else. Besides all of that, yes, you can enjoy, you know, everything that life has to offer. But let's go bigger. So for me, that was something that drove me with everything that I've chosen. And through those choices. I've met some amazing people along the way. I guess two of the people I met is Gary Douglas, who is the founder of Access Consciousness, met him first. And you know, I went and listen to him speak at an event. I was just so intrigued by this man. And it was at a mind body and spirit festival in Sydney actually. And you know, I was so used to walking around a mind body and spirit festival and get buying everything you know, looking at everything trying to find what I felt was missing because I was like This gotta be something else like that. So that mentality and trying to find something you know, and it was the first time I met someone who spoke with this energy of like Basically, you know, you're not screwed up, you're not wrong. And it's like stop trying to find the wrongness of you and start having maybe asking you a question of what's right about you. And when I heard him speak, he was irreverent. He swore he, you know, talked about things that I knew, but nobody else had spoken about before. And it was one of the most refreshing things I ever went to. So I walked out of there going, Okay, I got to find out more about this. And so since then, I mean, that was, I think, 21 years ago, 21 years ago, and look how young I look. 10 years ago, and, and met Gary, and then me being me, I just went well, I have to find out more about this stuff. And throughout that my whole life has changed from, you know, relationships, business money, I was hugely in debt, like a whole lot of things have changed over those years from using the access tools. And like I said, kept following the energy. Now, it's like, I traveled the world. Probably I used to travel before 2020, about 10 months of the year. And now I'm gonna say six or seven is what pleases me. And I learned to sort of choose what pleases me because I think if you choose what pleases you what brings you joy, then it creates your life to be ease, and then you can actually be a contribution to others. So including the planet. So that's my little

Anthony Hartcher: 6:18

fantastic. It's just incredible. I think that curiosity that you've had since an early age, and you've just just followed that curiosity and explored and if not just accepted the status quo, or whatever else is doing, you've really found what resonated with you and what, then that's increased your level of, I guess, access to consciousness, so to speak.

Simone Milasas: 6:39

Yeah. And, you know, unfortunately, what I see is, not many people have that in their life, like, go forth and do that, like most people would like you to choose something that they can define, so that you can make others feel comfortable. And I was lucky enough to have a father who he died about nine years ago. But my whole life, he was like, Simone, this is your life, you need to go live it. And he would, because my mother would get so cranky at me for choosing anything, you know, anything, basically, let's stop at that, you know, and my father would say, Go, you need to choose this, you need to find out if this works for you or not. And my whole entire life, he was like that. So I was really lucky to have someone as a parent who was so encouraging, just go and explore. And he was like, I will be here for you, basically, when you stumble and fall. And here, I was like, Okay, great. So that was I was really forever grateful for that.

Anthony Hartcher: 7:34

That's incredible. It's so nice to hear that your father gave you that freedom, and then obviously still provided that safety net, it's, you know, I'm always here for you. But it's go out and discover yourself and you know, find out more about yourself. And that experience where you run into Gary Douglas at the Mind Body Spirit festival in Sydney reminds me of that quote that I've read. It's from Buddha. And it's essentially, when the student is ready, the teacher will appear. So obviously at that point in your life, when you're seeking and looking and being so curious that your teacher appeared there in front of you. Yeah,

Simone Milasas: 8:12

I can I think that happens throughout our whole life. And it shows up in really many different ways. You know, if something's showing up in your life right now, whatever it is, you asked for it. If you've got this destruction mode in place, you asked for it. If you've got this amazing, you know, magic and luck and greatness you asked for it. So it's, I think that's a really key piece. It's like, what are you actually asking for? You're allowed to ask, you know, the universe is like, Hey, I've got your back. What would you like? And you're like, let me work it out. All on my own. I'll do it all myself. You know, you don't have to do it all yourself. What would you like to ask for? I mean, that's a great tool, even just right now start you know, write a list 510 20 100 things, what would you like to ask for? Not from greed from Hey, I'm valuable product here. What else is possible?

Anthony Hartcher: 8:58

That reminds me of another quote is that word that states that the quality of life is determined by the quality of questions you ask yourself. We'll get into, you know, the questions we ask ourselves through the topic today, which is, in essence, the stress and overwhelm something that we invent, or, you know, is it the choice we make and given you know, we've been through such a period of, you know, perceived stress, certainly through this COVID period of constant change and moving parts and, you know, shifts in lifestyle and people where she has ventured before recording moving up to a Sunshine Coast and crowding your space,

Simone Milasas: 9:36

so everyone's up here. Queensland wouldn't let anyone in now they're letting everyone in Yeah.

Anthony Hartcher: 9:43

What have you got to share in terms of enlightened listeners about this topic of stress?

Simone Milasas: 9:48

Let's look at the you know, what has the captain obvious in the past few years and there's always seems to be this commonality that is around you know, like this commonality of lack of scarcity of via Have you know that and then again, you could be somewhere and there's a commonality of adventure. And then you know, you're stepping on this road to adventure. So part of the thing that I look at is, what if you started to get clear on what works for you, because we've quite often buy into everybody else's point of view. So the first tool that I would give, which is a question is asking, Who does this belong to? And 99% of your thoughts, feelings, and emotions are not yours. So you come up with this anger, this fear, or this lack, there's, you know, whatever it is, and ask the question, Who does this belong to? Now you don't need to work it out. It doesn't need to be like, Oh, this is Aunt Betty's, from whatever, or next door neighbors. But if the energy of it lightens up, then it's generally not yours. Because we are way more psychic than we, you know, give ourselves credit for like, we're a billion times more psychic than what we what we acknowledge. And we pick it up. And it's really easy for you to have a look at if you walk into a room. And you've not spoken to anyone, you know, the vibe, like I could ask you and say, what is it and you go, Oh, everyone's really happy and relaxed, you know, or she's, something's gone down here, like something went down the last 10 minutes, like there's been a fight or something, you know. So you're so willing to acknowledge it in moments like that, maybe you walk into a family gathering or party or something. But what if you had that for like, at least 100,000 kilometers outside of where your body is, you know, you knew you pick up on this stuff. So that's one of the main tools I would ask is, Who does this belong to? And one of the things I did in 2020, I was in Budapest, Hungary, and, you know, came home, I've got the last flight into Australia, just before they do quarantine in hotels. And although I still had to do that whole other story, and so I came home, and you know, I'm sitting, I had to do quarantine in my house, which I was sort of like, that's okay, I've got a pretty nice house, I've got a gym downstairs, I like it, you know, you like that space. But then all of a sudden, I was here. And I started to question a lot of my choices in life because I had the space. And I'm gonna see the relaxation to do that. And one of the things I looked at was, I'd broken up a relationship, I don't know, probably like a year prior to that. And, you know, people project it, you Oh, you're going to have another relationship, you're going to do this. And I was like, I haven't even asked myself what I would like. So I did this Excel spreadsheet, because I love a Google Doc, right? And I wrote down these topics, I wrote down relationship, sex, business, money, body, and geographical. And for me, I just went everyday I went on a walk a walk on the beach, and I started to ask myself, What would I like with these topics? Like, geographical? Where do I actually want to live? Do I want to live here in Queensland, you know, do I want to live somewhere else in the world? You know, what would I like to create with my body? And quite often, so many people put business and money together? They just lump it together? And it's not necessarily so what do I want to create with money? What do I want to create with business? Like what businesses can I you know, add to my life? And then same thing with relationship and sex, so many people can lump that together? But sex is sex and relationship is relationship. So whole different topics, I really started asking myself, if I was creating my reality today, like mine, not my next door neighbors, not my family's not my friends, not what I'm supposed to do. If I was creating my reality today, what would I ask for? And what would I choose? And really coming out of any judgment I had of what it was I was asking for. And I got really vulnerable with myself and looked at all this and went, Okay, so let's create this, but not like a, you know, not like a secret like having a wall and manifesting or that sort of stuff. I think people get really a bit confused about manifestation as well. Because if you look up the definition of manifestation from a dictionary before 1937, it's how things show up. It's, you know, it's that they show up. So you manifest something, it shows up. But manifestation is taken out of context a lot nowadays, is what I notice. So anyway, I started to get really clear on this and have a look at what it is that I wanted to create with my life. So, you know, that's one of the tools that you could use in order to see what next

Anthony Hartcher: 14:13

and what other tips do you have for the listeners around this stress, overwhelm, and how to navigate through it?

Simone Milasas: 14:20

Yeah. Okay. So the first thing is that, Who does it belong to? And then the second one is, have a look, are you really overwhelmed? Because it's so it's so easy for us to go, Oh, I'm so overwhelmed. You know, I've got the kids, I've got the business, I've got this, I've got bills, I've got this, you know, really easy for you to if I said write a list of all why you're overwhelmed. You know, you're that easy. What if none of it was true? Because in truth, you can handle something so different. And I think most of us go to that reason and justification of I'm overwhelmed and I'm stressed rather than Okay, what if we actually inserted relaxation? And I think that's something that a lot of us find really, really hard to Have a look at is what is relaxation for you. And I realized at one point, I didn't really know what relaxation is like I run it a million miles an hour and do all of that. And I'm really super busy, etc. And then so what I did was, I started as I walked on the beach, I started asking myself, What is relaxation for me, and I ran like an Access Consciousness process and did that. And then what I realized was time came out of the equation, I stopped looking at the time because you have how we do that thing of going, I'm going to be late or I'm time Oh, I slept in, slept in from what? So you slept, you know, you slept till eight o'clock? Why is you judging that, you know, time became not relevant. And I noticed as time became not relevant, judgments cease to exist from my world. And I was like, ah, if we stop judge judging, like judging ourselves, and judging everything that we choose, and time is not relevant, like time is a creation, then there's a level of relaxation we can be and then you start to look at what you've decided you're overwhelmed with and stress with and go, okay, is any of this relevant? Like, how important is this, that I get this done today, or that I bring this person, I go to this party or a, you know, do this project, etc, what part of it is actually a contribution to my life and living and matches the energy of what it is that I'm asking for. So again, I think you need to get the really that space of vulnerability and being vulnerable with yourself of what it is that you truly like to create as your life and living.

Anthony Hartcher: 16:29

And you've raised a really good point there that pause and reflection and really question what you're doing, because you see people that are just constantly busy doing, and not really questioning what they're doing, and whether it's serving them or as you said, Is it someone else's stress that you've taken on and you just feel overwhelmed? Because you've taken on all these other stresses? And is that your choice, or you just feel that you're, you know, you're just doing it to please them and you know, still might not be pleasing them? And, and so I really liked that how you said, you stop, you think you start asking questions and quality questions, or

Simone Milasas: 17:05

you actually touched on something that I'd like to reiterate in slightly different ways when you try and please, people. So two questions I would ask as well as one is, who do you think of before you choose? Because how many of you don't put you in the equation, you know, especially if you're in a relationship, and you have a family, it's like, oh, the kids, the partner, the you know, all the business, etc, all of it. And it's like, Well, none of that can actually be this joyful, amazing time, if you're not actually putting you in the equation, like you're not in the computation. So who do you think of before you choose? And most people would rather, like have this proof of doing so it's like, oh, look, doo doo doo doo doo like that doo doo world rather than what can I be today? And if you're in business, I, the one of the first questions I ask is, where's my energy required? Because I'm in Australia, I wake up, we work worldwide, you know, Europe is still awake, America is awake. So there's definitely got that energy of like, are you awake? Are you awake? Are you awake sort of thing. So I could let that run my life. Or I could ask the question, where's my energy required today, and you get that ping, and you're like, Oh, they're gonna call that personal, this project or this business, etc. So same thing is your family, whereas my energy required, and you might only know one of your kids, you say, oh, go check on them or etc. So if you're more in question, then you expand your awareness and from expanding your awareness, you can be more in relaxation. And most people would rather choose something so that they can be like others or be liked by others. And what if you gave that up? Like, what if you were no longer trying to prove something? What if you just enjoyed who you be

Anthony Hartcher: 19:23

that stopping and thinking is allowing that increased level of consciousness because you're not just constantly just running and doing? You're actually pausing and asking questions, and you know, the answers is that flow and I was reading prior to obviously, the interview was that this whole thing of, you know, asking a question, it's not necessarily a right or wrong answer, it actually opens up a multiple choice and say, again, there's more freedom in that and then I listened to Dr. Dain's words around chaos, and I think maybe you want to share something about that is because, you know, he was certainly talking about that embracing chaos. And, you know, we live in too much order and in this boxes, and by embracing chaos, we get more options, more choices. We

Simone Milasas: 20:13

do. Yeah, most people have gone to the judgment of chaos and gone. No, no, no, that's havoc. Right? You don't want to create havoc, like that's just like, wow, you know, but instilling chaos, like I was just talking to someone before I came on here, and to do with the business of access and something and she was like, Oh, what if we do this, this and this? And I said, No, what if we instill chaos? And because at the moment the way she had stipulated we do everything was a level of control. That does not allow anything else to show up as like, but you're controlling what people get to do. What if you instill chaos and go, Hey, guys, here you go, we've got this available for you get them to reach for it, then they'll choose it. Because most of us don't like to have that order. Like you don't like to be told what to do, you'd like to choose, even though we hardly ever give ourselves, you know, really infinite choice. So but you do like to choose, you don't like to have something as a necessity that you must do. So you want to choose. So if you instill chaos in everything, like I quite often use the tool of instilling chaos into my money flows, instilling chaos into my business, like, you know, I'm hanging out with a friend this weekend. And we were talking about, oh, should we book a restaurant or do this and we went, let's just go with the flow. Like, let's just literally because you know, you book a restaurant, and then that time comes and you go, I've got to go to the restaurant because we booked it. Why you instill chaos? And you don't know, I'm really not that hungry right now. Or, you know, you're hungry? And three hours or something? Oh, let's cook. Well, let's do so let's go somewhere different. I do get that sometimes you have to book a restaurant, because there might be booked out, I understand that. And where does it not allow you to, as I would say, follow the energy. And it's like and go okay, what next and ask your body. It's like, okay, it's still chaos in your body. You know what next, like you notice if you go to work out, like how many people go, Oh, I've got to work out for X amount of minutes. Or, you know, on here, I've got to run, I've got to do weights, I've got to go and they have this like regiment of what it is rather than I know, with my body, sometimes my body's like 10 minutes we're done. Or other times, it's like, no, let's just keep going. Let's go again and again and again. Because there's there's joy in this movement in your body. So it's an that's been in constant question, constant constant question. And going with your awareness and your knowing. So the one thing I would look at a little differently than stopping and thinking, because thinking we talk about it next day saying thinking your stinking, because when you start you stop and start to think about stuff. Yes, you sort of start to go. That pros and cons thing, the judgment, you know, is that really you start to question it not in an expansive question more as in an answer question, because what we talked about is like, the higher harmonics is knowing, right, and the lower harmonics, if that is thinking, so you know, you know, you know, you know, like I was talking yesterday about when I was in Budapest, in Hungary, I knew I had to get out of there, it was so weird my body every time we broke for I was doing a class there. I was like, I want to go home, I want to go home and I of course started to go, am I being lazy? Do I not want to facilitate anymore? Do I not want to do this, but my body was like going, we're gonna get the hell out of here, you know, but and it knew it knew it knew. And you're so often acknowledge your knowing when something you know, when someone calls me, I knew you were going to call. So you'll acknowledge that, but why not acknowledge the bigger things? What do you know? So I would ask myself, What do I know about this, that I haven't been willing to acknowledge that I know that if I did acknowledge that I knew would create my life to be way easier, and way more fun?

Anthony Hartcher: 23:42

I guess that comes back to that self doubt that people might have and, you know, questioning that they don't know. So what would you say to those that are in that sort of self doubt to say, well, you know, if I'm supposed to know, how do I know if I'm doubting myself? So do something to

Simone Milasas: 23:59

like, pick a topic that you think you know, nothing about? Because and go okay, so carpentry? I don't know, I just named that. And it's like, what do I know about it? Right? Because we pick up things so much. And then we think if we didn't go and study it, if we didn't do this, we don't know about it, whatever. And it's a you do know, like there's usually something in your life that you found really easy. Like you mentioned Dane here before, right? Dane. He takes incredible photos, right? Incredible photos. And for years, this years ago, he was taking all these photos like we're in Sydney and he's there was this lightning storm and he takes his photo just as this lightning is coming into this building. It was wild, right? And then these photos of like birds in flight and the way their wings are or lizard and I swear to God, this lizards looking at him and the way it captures it. And then you know what, he decided he had to do a photography course. And everyone went, what are you doing? You know, when to hit the shutter? You know? But we've all been there done that we go, Oh, we're good at something, we have this capacity. And then we go I better go study it. Wait, you already know it, you know? And so have a look at that and just just sit back and relax and go what am I know about this? Like, it could be animals, you might be the person who knows how to walk over to a horse that has never been patted before or something you know, or you know how to be with dogs or cats or anything? What do you know, cooking is another thing how many people you know find cooking their worst nightmare. And then others are just like look in the fridge and then make something amazing. You're like, how the hell did you do that? You know, it's like they know they know how things work together. You know, or someone who likes surfing they go out into the ocean. And do you know you read the waves? You're working with the ocean with the planet with all of that. So Don't start to look and most of the time what you're great at, you just dismiss. I see that all the time. And it's like people go, Oh, anyone can do that. No, they can't. What you are great at is usually what you have described as absolutely useless. Well, ladies and gentlemen, what if it was time for you not to be useless? Like, start acknowledging the capacities you have? And use that tool? Like if you have that, like you say, doubt that self doubt, use that tool right at the beginning that I gave up? Who does this belong to? And ask Is this mine, because how many people are doing that like, as an example, many, many years ago, when I was a kid, we used to go up to Tamworth. And our cousins had this property, and they had horses and lots of animals. And I used to go riding horses, you know, every weekend, and loved it. And then years later, I didn't ride horses for a long time. And then years later, I was talking about riding and I had this huge accident in Costa Rica. And I realized I had developed what I would say a fear of horse riding. But I was like, this is weird, like I was writing and then all of a sudden, I was fearful. And I was talking to my mother. And she said, Oh my god, I remember you writing when you were younger, and she had really long hair. And she said, You just jump on the back of the horses and go screaming across the paddocks with your hair out there. And, you know, and I was like, Oh my God, she's gonna die. Like she's telling the story. I went, Oh, this is not my fear. This is yours. It's my mother's fear that I started to buy as mine. And we do that all the time. Like, especially as parents, like parents go, don't do that you'll get hurt and the kids going, right? Why am I gonna get hurt? You know, it's like, what if you empowered your kids, you know, if you touch that it's hot, you might burn yourself. But hey, if you want to go ahead, you know. And so how much of that fear is not even yours, how much of that doubt is not even yours. As again, we're so much more psychic, you pick it up from everybody around you.

Anthony Hartcher: 27:28

And I was just thinking, whilst you're sharing that, I might have opened the can with the listeners. And I'm just thinking, if I put myself in their shoes, they're probably thinking, you've just mentioned chaos in this sort of how do we better manage stress or you know how to look at stress in a better perspective. And I've just run this thing of chaos in their thinking, if they're stressed, and then you know, think, chaotic, and embrace chaos, I'm thinking, is that going to serve them? And I was just wondering, What have you got to say, you know, in that sort of situation,

Simone Milasas: 28:00

I think you need to destroy and uncreate your point what your definition is of chaos as well. Because I think that's why people when they miss identify it, and then they go, you know, chaos, it's like, Oh, I'm gonna be dancing and dancing on tables, and I'm not going to, you know, do anything about blah, it's like, the moment that you go to doubt the moment you go to stress, the moment you go to overwhelm, what I'd like you to do is just stop for a second, even if you have to take yourself to the bathroom, and people think you have diarrhea, I don't care what it is, you know, but take yourself off somewhere, if you can, I highly suggest like, even if you've got a plant or a tree, or take your shoes off and put on the grass, something, you know, like and make that contact with the earth or even with your body, like even put your hand on your body somewhere and just be like, hey, and it's like, Okay, so first of all, is this stress, like, you know, is this overwhelm? Is this doubt mine? Okay, you might try and make it yours. And you'll come up with all these reasons and justifications, but if you just play with that energy of going, Okay, if it wasn't mine, then what would I choose? Like, what would I like to choose as my reality, and instilling chaos might be, you know, what, I had 20 things on the list that I had decided I had to do today. And if I didn't do them, I was going to make myself wrong at the end of the day. What if instilling chaos is, I might do one of those things, and I'm going to make the demand that I don't judge myself. And you might end up doing 40 things, you know what I mean? It's like when instilling chaos makes it a choice, not a necessity, that necessity in that order, IS I MUST tick every box, I must do this, you know, and you set yourself up for judgment. What if instilling chaos is no longer judge yourself, ever again, like from this moment, I remember Gary Douglas, the founder of access when he said, you know, there was a day that he realized that judgment, never created anything greater, you know, judging himself or anyone else never created anything great. And from that moment, he made the demand that he would never judge again. I was like, God, that's so cool. And trust me, I've really attempted to do that. And you still end up judging yourself, you know, every now and then. But I'm 90% better than what I was. I mean, if you give an example, if you're going, you know, if you decide that you've got a fat bar, right, and then you judge it and judge it and judge it, you don't wake up in the morning, and then all of a sudden your budget is small, like your body doesn't change based on judgment, your body changes based on request and based on question and being an allowance of it. And then it will change. Same as everything else. Same as your money flows. Like if you're judging your money flows, it doesn't change because you judge the money flows. It'll change if you start being grateful for it. Allow something different to show up. That's instilling chaos.

Anthony Hartcher: 30:37

Yeah, the thought that came to my head was you You're talking about that perfectionism. You know, I need to achieve these 20 tasks. If I don't, then I've completely failed the day. And that's that real perfectionist mentality. And I'm thinking that perfection is all around pursuit of order, you know that. And I think what I've picked up is if you let go of that, like go that perfectionism, embrace the disorder, the chaos. Yeah. And then that puts you in a more flow state and enables that time to go away, it's become timeless, you become in this zone and, and you actually become more productive ever got a good interpretation, or,

Simone Milasas: 31:17

I mean, you allow yourself to stop and smell the roses. And the roses might be that you stop in. I don't know, you randomly smile at someone, and maybe you engage and have a conversation. But how many of us walk around the planet just so in our own like, judgmental state of trying to fit in? I've tried to do the right thing. There's proof of doing that I was mentioning before, rather than just be like, hey, Planet. Oh, well, hi, people. Hi, animals. Hi, buddy, you know, and be more like that, like, be more playful. Be like a kid, you know? How like kids meet each other? You see two four year olds, and they're like, Hi, what's your name? What do you do? Where'd you grow up? What do you do you know, how much money do you end up? They're just like, hey, I want to play. So what is that was more our reality?

Anthony Hartcher: 31:59

Absolutely, yep, more present, don't you embracing as opposed to worrying about where I need to be? I'm thinking of that typical mother that thinks that, you know, has a perception of how they should be as a mother. And that may have been, you know, the mother's prediction on to them. And if they're not doing certain things, and they were failure, and like so taking that moment of walking home with your kid and like the kids sort of wanting to embrace the roses and muck around with them and the mothers got off now come on, come on, we've got to get home, we're gonna get dinner and gotta get dinner I whereas, like, what you're sharing is essentially, just embrace that moment, go with it. And don't worry if dinners 510 minutes later, you know, you're actually experiencing life by allowing this disorder or inviting in chaos. Or what

Simone Milasas: 32:48

if you had cereal for dinner? There's, you know, I used to say to my ex, because I had a son. So I had a stepson, I used to go, how many nights? Can we give him pizza before it's considered abuse? I don't want to cook dinner every night. You know, it's like, but it's funny. It's like, let's give up that control and come back to being really present with ourselves and our bodies and the planet. The planets asking for it. It really is. It's like, Hey, will you please start receiving from me? Yeah, not

Anthony Hartcher: 33:19

really like you to share. Because you mentioned a couple of times whilst we've been chatting about Access Consciousness, and the listeners are probably intrigued as to what exactly is it? Can you please share? What is Access Consciousness?

Simone Milasas: 33:32

It was funny, someone said to me the other day, what's your elevator pitch about access? So I went depends who's in the elevator. But it does. But essentially, Access Consciousness is I mean, the tagline of access is empowering you to know that, you know, which for me, like I said, when I met Gary was one of the most refreshing things he wasn't telling me. If you don't do this, you're wrong. It was the first time that I went, Wow, maybe I'm not as screwed up as I think I am. You know, maybe I've actually done some stuff. That's right. So it's empowering you to know that, you know, it's a whole lot of tools and processes, including bodywork, we have a lot of bodywork, a lot of different classes, on, I guess, tools and processes to change any area of your life that you think is not working for you. Because a lot of people think they have a problem with something you know, they think they have a money problem or business or relationship or parenting and that but you usually create what you think you have a problem with and you can change anything you really can.

Anthony Hartcher: 34:28

So it's essentially liberating someone's from their disempowerment been stuck in this order states that it's been projected on them as to what they should be doing.

Simone Milasas: 34:37

Yeah, yeah. What if you didn't function from projections or expectations of anyone, including yourself? Like how many projections and expectations do you have of yourself? What if you only asked every day? All right, what would it take for me to be happy today? And most people go, Oh, that means I'm not going to do XYZ. No, I love business. Like that was one of the first books I wrote Joy business. And it's like, I love it. And it's like, there's so many things that I love. So me being happy is choosing business me being happy is choosing you know, XYZ. So what if you actually ask for a life of ease in a life of happy can include so much more than you think, play with the energy of it?

Anthony Hartcher: 35:14

Absolutely. I love those words. And Simone, how can the listeners best connect with you and find out more about Access Consciousness and the great work you do around that?

Simone Milasas: 35:22

Well, you can go to access consciousness.com You can also go to SimoneMilasas.com and I have a good name because so far I've never discovered another Simone Milasas. So if you Google Simone Milasas says that's my website, my instagram handle Facebook, all of that and more makes it nice and easy.

Anthony Hartcher: 35:40

Fantastic. And for the listeners, I'll include those handles and links in the show notes. And thank you so much, Simone for empowering the listeners with your knowledge around how to increase and access that level of consciousness and live a life of freedom and joy.

Simone Milasas: 35:57

Yeah, yeah. Thank you so much, Anthony for having me on here. You're welcome.

Anthony Hartcher: 36:02

And to the listeners. Thank you for tuning in to another insightful episode of me and my health up. Please share it with others that could really benefit from hearing Simone's words of wisdom. I'd love for you to get it out there, share it with others because it could really make their day and thanks for tuning in to another insightful episode. Thank you. Bye