Mojo for the Modern Man

Passion After the Chemical Phase with Shana James

• Episode 87

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Shana James, author, speaker, podcaster, and men’s coach, opens today’s episode describing the genesis of her lifelong quest for understanding the human condition–both psychologically and spiritually. 

As an inquisitive kid, Shana found herself frustrated by the lack of answers for her curious questions.  She asked herself, “What are people not telling me?”

She recalls that even in her earliest days she understood that the arguments, misunderstandings, and confrontations she witnessed at home revealed that, “Whoa!  They’re not fighting about what they think they’re fighting about!”

Shana’s yearning for understanding led her to leave home as soon as possible, to pursuing a Master’s in Psychology, to living in intentional community…

After participating a workshop created inside that community, she found herself profoundly called to work with men.

And in the decades since, the energy of that calling has not diminished!

We take a plunge into the deep end of the pool, riffing on intimacy, sex, communication, vulnerability, and a whole lot more.  We pepper in a few words about the stuff that gets in the way – and the stuff that clears the way and opens the gates to more fulfilling, openhearted relationships.

A brief, albeit brilliant, detour leads us to “the ‘umm’, the ‘hmmm’, and the ‘ugh,’” which Shana laughingly reflects on as the simplification of humans as complex beings.

Shana serves up a treasure trove of wisdom on the topic of sex and men and their oft confusing, even stunted, relationship to pleasure. 

We close with a discussion of the evolving nature of relationships, the power of mature honesty, and some great recommendations for resources for men seeking to up-level their intimacy – sexual and otherwise…

And, of course, Shana shares a bit about her new book, Honest Sex!

Shana James, MA Psy., has coached more than a thousand leaders, CEOs, authors, speakers and people with big visions who step into more powerful leadership, start and grow businesses, create more effective teams, increase their impact, get promoted, find love, create a legacy, and become more personally inspired and fulfilled.

Held by clients as a "secret weapon," Shana is a translator between women and men, providing effective tools to transform conversations and dynamics into connection and collaboration.

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