Family Constellations with Liza Miron

Today's guest is Liza Miron, life coach and world traveler. Liza got interested in meditation and many other different methods and techniques. She does a lot of work with her clients to recognize and heal ancestral pain and emotions in order to move past the feeling of being stuck.

Some advice from Liza is to deal with your emotions rather than dismissing them. Recognize and thank them, then move on. Remember that fear is trying to keep you safe. Exercising gratitude can bring your body and soul back into balance.

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Transcript

Magic Barclay: 1:00

Welcome back to a magical life. I'm your host magic Barclay. And today I'm joined by Lisa Miron. Now Lisa's passion is to see people grow, develop, connect to a high level of awareness and enjoy life to the fullest. For the past 15 years, she's been working with clients using different healing methods that include family constellations, coaching EFT, N LP, meditation, channeling, and Reiki. Studying and living in the USA, France, Singapore, Belgium, and Spain, Italy and Guatemala has given Lisa a unique perspective on personal development. Welcome.

Liza Miron: 1:46

Welcome. Thank you so much for having me here. I'm excited to be here with you.

Magic Barclay: 1:50

Absolute pleasure. Now let's just have a look at this bio you're world travel.

Liza Miron: 1:55

I have been able to travel to, to many countries. And I think that I've been blessed with these opportunities. I'm originally from Guatemala. That's where I grew up and I got married very early. I was 23 when I got married and with my husband, he wanted to do a MBA. So we went together to France and then to Singapore, then he found a job in Belgium. So we went there for a few years, then to Spain, then to Italy, back to Spain and from Spain, um, we came to the us where we've been in California for probably eight years now. And that's what I wanted to do since I was little. I wanted to travel all over the world. I wanted to see different ways of living. I wanted to meet people. I wanted to understand what was important for them. And, um, this really wasn't planned. It just, it started happening and happening, and it has been amazing to learn about so many different cultures of so many different ways of, of living. Um, when I was in Guatemala, my view of the world was from the eyes of having, uh, lived my whole life there. And when I started, uh, getting to know others in different countries and. With different values, with different ways of doing things that I would consider not possible. I would realize that, uh, there's so many ways, there's so many methods, there's so many, uh, information and there's nothing really right or wrong. It's just different. And once I started to understand that it's like my view of the world and the possibilities of being at peace and enjoy, uh, every single present moment became expanded with it. Uh, I think that it was, uh, a way of really learning through living and getting to know, uh, people from different countries and different values and different ways of doing things. And then my view of, of doing things just a and B expanded to the whole alphabet So it's been wonderful. Yeah.

Magic Barclay: 3:56

I love that. Now I've titled this episode, family constellations, because some of the freebies that you forwarded to me and in your bio, you mention it, you talk about family constellations. So can you just tell us what that is?

Liza Miron: 4:13

So that's what I focus, what I work with right now at the moment I have many different, uh, studies I've done, but I bring everything together for the family constellations that I do for my clients. So that's just a method, a healing method that we use to heal issues that we have in our life that actually do not belong to us. But belong to others in the family system, for example, to our ancestors. So we unconsciously carry a lot from things that have happened in the past, uh, with our ancestors, we carry their emotions. Sometimes we carry, for example, their grief of, uh, death that they had. Like, we weren't able to process maybe their anger, maybe their fear, their frustration. And we also connect to them from this big gratefulness that we have from the life that we have from the life that they gave. And unconsciously, because we want to belong. We wanna give back, we wanna be like them. We start following their patterns. So often we are stuck in our life, or we have situations that are very difficult to digest to, move through whatever the situation is. And we feel like it's like, out of balance, that's too much for what we are experiencing that we don't understand. Why is it always the same? We just feel this is this, this place of being stuck. So those moments are usually when we are identifying something that we have in our life that is not ours, but it's from somebody else in the family says. Them. So then in these situations, we do this method. That's called family constellations to become aware of what we are caring from our ancestors. That's not ours, so that we can release it so that we can include everybody in the family system to, to see them with love. With acceptance and to understand their challenges, but from a different perspective, not by taking on what's pending for healing, but just knowing that they had their challenges and saying thank you for existing, because thanks to them. We are alive. And we decide not to take anymore. What's not our responsibility and to enjoy our lives because we know that by enjoying our lives, by connecting to the present moment and doing the best that we can, we are healing ourselves for, we also healing the family system. So this is all that we're doing when we're working with family constellations.

Magic Barclay: 6:30

Sounds fantastic. Now my first question to my guests is always, what can your expertise do to accelerate health? Be it emotional, spiritual, or physical. And I think you've just answered that for me, but let's go into that just in a little bit more depth. Now you mentioned, you know, family. Traumas through, through the layers through the generations can be handed down. So how do we identify what is ours and what is not.

Liza Miron: 7:01

That is something very difficult to identify, but we can often realize that we have something that is not ours when we are stuck. So that's a number one reason when we feel stuck and we're gonna have problems, we're gonna have conflict. We're gonna have challenges and difficulties in our life, because this is how we learn. This is how we expand. It's it's just part of life. But when we are stuck with them, when we're not able to enjoy the rest of our lives, even though we have these issues, that's a reason, a sign that there's something that we're carrying from, from our ancestors. So any area of our life that we're not able to, to shift, to move, and that's keeping us from enjoying our. It's usually something that we're carrying from our ancestors. We can also notice when there's a pattern when there's a pattern in our life that we are re repeating, or when there's a pattern with our, uh, ancestors, for example, women always get, get divorced very early in their marriage or, um, Men tend to get, get sick of this kind of illness. So patterns that you see in in many generations is also something that's going down from generation to generation. Another way that you can tell is when you have an experience and your way of dealing with the situation is overwhelming. For example, something happens and it's not very big. I mean, when you think about it, but your emotional reaction is completely overwhelming. Like you are devastated and you actually think, you know, why is this affecting me so, so much? I don't understand when the emotional reaction it's not connected to like, to the experience usually is for two reasons. It could be emotions that we have not allowed ourselves to feel in the past. So everything like comes together or because we're carrying an emotion from an ancestor. And that's why it's so overwhelming. So by looking at this aspect, we can more or less have an idea if we're carrying something from an ancestor.

Magic Barclay: 9:06

So maybe this is knowledge. We need to start preparing our future generations for, with everything happening in the world at the moment. Like generations three or four down the line. Won't know what we've been through, what our children are going through. So do you think this is something that needs to become more of a, a discussed topic amongst families?

Liza Miron: 9:32

I think it would be wonderful and more than something that should happen. It's something that we should do again, because that's what we used to do. Many, many years ago, families used to live together and this I'm, I'm talking to many years ago, you know, when we used to live with our whole like clan and everybody was part of the family system and there were. You know, stories that we would know that we were learn from our ancestors, that they would tell from their experiences. And there was this connection that there, there was this honoring and respecting of everyone and inclusion of everyone. And that doesn't matter what was their, their lives. Everybody belonged in this system. So we have lost this way, and this is why family constellations is so important because it's bringing this together. Not in the way that, you know, uh, living everybody together because that's just not something that we do nowadays, but it is important to remember, to honor and to respect our ancestors and to get some connection with them because it was there and we have lost this. So it would be wonderful to do this differently with the next generations.

Magic Barclay: 10:43

I think that's really important to revisit that. Yes, we did used to live in extended family, communities and generations were able to pass on information. Now we do talk about wealth here, not just the financial, but also the personal and emotional wealth. So what are your top three tips to creating wealth?

Liza Miron: 11:06

So first, especially with emotional health is the part of dealing with our emotions to, to accept them. There is no good or bad emotions. They just are emotions. They're not negative or positive. And if they exist, it's for a reason, it's because they're helping us do something. So it is important for us to realize. Emotions are important and that we need to accept them. We need to allow ourselves to feel them, even if it's uncomfortable, because what we'll usually do is that we'll try to reject them. Nobody likes to feel sad, to feel grief, to feel fear. To be uncomfortable. So what we usually try to do is to, to hide these emotions, we try to do something else and you know how many times we've heard, you know, don't cry, don't be sad. Don't be upset. Don't be angry. Uh, these don't feel basically. And what happens is that emotions are a little bit like a package. And when we close ourselves to feeling. Uncomfortable emotions. We're closing ourselves to feeling all emotions. And then we wonder why do I feel, numb? Why do I don't feel joy and, and happiness in my life. And that's because we have closed ourselves to feeling because we don't want to allow ourselves to feel the grief and the sadness and the emotions that are not comfortable. And every emotion has its reason. It's there for a reason. For example, fear, fear is so important because fear is the protection. And I often hear this and, and see this in, in, in social media of people saying, you know, don't be afraid, uh, move F you know, just do it. And what's important is to actually be afraid. Acknowledge the fear. See what the fear is trying to protect you of, and then do it then move forward. Because if we are in a dark alley and we are afraid, the fear is not our enemy. The fear is telling us where you are. It's not safe. Go somewhere where there's more people where there's more light. So then we, when we move ourselves, we're not afraid. And this is what fear is doing. It's letting us know that there's something that could hurt us, that something that we could be at risk. So instead of running away from the fear, we need to acknowledge it, to listen to it, to understand that there's a reason that is there. And if we're doing something that. where our life or where our emotions, where something is at risk, we will still feel the fear, but we can still acknowledge it. Say thank you. I'm taking all the precautions that are necessary to be safe. And even if I get hurt, I know that I'll be able to deal with it. This is very important. I wanna move forward. So thank you. But we can be liking a conversation with our emotion. The grief and the sadness on when we have lost someone or when we have lost something or an idea is just giving us space to, to deal with that loss, to say goodbye. And when we're able to just sit in that sadness, eventually we start getting more strength to move forward in life. So one of the, the first tip is the work with our emotions. That's just one of the most important keys in order to have personal, uh, financial and emotional. and the second one, is gratefulness because we have so many things that we are able to enjoy in this present moment. We often think about our future, that we want this for our future, and we don't realize that there's so many things that we already have. So the moment that we start connecting to what we have, we start connecting to this feeling of being abundant. And then we're gonna start attracting that as well. We're gonna be able to enjoy what we do have in this moment, and we're gonna be able to, to be happy in this moment to, to have a general sense of wellbeing, a general sense of, personal and emotional wealth. And even if we don't have financial, just the, not the wealth that we want to, by being gratefulness for what we do have in the moment, it gives us a, um, a more clear view of what we actually need. And instead of what we just want, because sometimes what we need is enough. To be happy and fulfilled, and then we can have these ideas of what we want, but those ideas are not gonna keep us from being complete from being happy and from being able to enjoy the present moment. So gratefulness is, is a key to be able to, to have this general sense of wellbeing. And the other part that's very connected to the family constellations is to honor respect and, and accept, uh, our parents. So that would be the third tip. We get our life from our parents. So when we are able to do this, we are able to connect to life, to abundance, to health, to success in every general way. And this comes from being able to say, thank you for our life. And this does not mean That if we don't get along with our parents, that we need to get along with them, we need to understand that everybody has been doing the best that they can with their lives, with their situ, with their situation, with their own traumas, with their own entanglements, from the family system. So. If we did not do not get along or did not get along with our parents, uh it's okay. We can still honor and respect them and accept them and say, thank you for what you were able to give us. Even if it was only our lives, because they gave us for our adoption. We need to respect their decision. That was the best that they could do, but they still gave us our life. So now I take this with gratefulness and love and then opens up to us. And this is what we often. In family constellations, the part of honoring and respecting and accepting everybody, but especially our parents.

Magic Barclay: 16:53

Wow. So much great information there. And I completely agree with most of that. so I think the only thing I would say, listeners is my opinion is that on a go this both ways, so does respect and I. We've kind of lost that between the generations. Just my opinion. Just my observation. Okay. Lisa, we do talk about weight loss here. So my next question is, have you ever battled your weight and if so, what was your trigger to lose it? Or what can you offer the listeners in their weight loss journey?

Liza Miron: 17:36

So I have a battle with weight when I was young, when I was, a teenager. And I realized that I didn't love myself that I didn't accept that myself, that I was trying to be someone that I was not. And I struggled constantly for years and years and years going up and down and up and down. And, um, eventually I kind of like. You know, gave up and just took it out of my mind. And I started doing different kind of work and together with the work of the family, constellations, the work of, I'm a life coach. And what I loved about being a life coach is that you go through all this group process when you're learning to be a life coach of doing everything that we do with our clients, we do it ourselves. So it was such an amazing. Path of growth and understanding. And I started to work on myself and to, to love myself and to accept myself the way I am. And. Loving my body and, and being thankful for my body for every single part, because it's, it's holding my, my life and with it, I'm able to have so much fun, to experience so much love to do so many things. And then I started changing my whole relationship and almost like naturally I started coming into this balance of weight. In in my life. And I, I do take care of myself. I do do different things in order to be healthy, but I'm not trying to get to a specific weight anymore. I just try to be in the weight. That's healthy for my body, whatever that weight is. And that shift of being able to love myself the way I was and to be thankful for every single part of my body brought this sun sudden balance of weight. And then it was easier for me to come to that. good like healthy weight for my body.

Magic Barclay: 19:28

I think that's really important to embrace that you are where you are for a reason and be comfortable with that point. So we don't become overweight without a reason. We don't start losing without a reason, but if you're not comfortable, That tug of war inside your mind and body will just continue and that won't help you at all.

Liza Miron: 19:56

Yeah, I agree. And for me it was the key. It was the difference and it was the difference to be at peace. And that piece brought me to the healthy weight.

Magic Barclay: 20:09

I love that. Now look, we, we love freebies here. So what can you offer the listeners here as a free.

Liza Miron: 20:19

So I have a questionnaire that it's, about emotions, that gives you a little bit about what I'm talking about to, to realize if you're carrying an emotion from an ancestor. And if you answer the these questions, you're gonna get, first the response, but you're also gonna get a video where I talk about the emotions and the next day, you're also gonna get another video that has a meditation. To let go of emotions that you're carrying from your ancestors. So that is something very powerful. You keep the meditations, you just need to keep the link for whenever you feel that you're struggling with an emotion that you're not able to, to deal to move on with that emotion, then you can do this meditation and just bring this wellbeing, connect to the emotion, but let go of the part that is not. So that's what you can find with that, questionnaire.

Magic Barclay: 21:11

So that can be found at www.coachingandconstellations.com/questionnaire. Now you can be found on Facebook at new family constellations and Instagram, Lisa Miron coaching. Thank you so much for your time today, Lisa.

Liza Miron: 21:35

Thank you so for having me. I'm so happy and grateful to you to have me as part of I guest in, in your podcast. Thank

Magic Barclay: 21:42

you listeners. This was your episode, 1 21 family constellations. Lisa will be back with us in 1 22, talking about deep, layered, and multi-layered healing for now. Thank you for your time. Go forth and create your magical life.