Daughter Dialogues

Stephani Miller: Life Coach. Exposing falsified and denied oral histories.

October 08, 2020 Reisha Raney and Stephani Miller Season 1 Episode 15
Stephani Miller: Life Coach. Exposing falsified and denied oral histories.
Daughter Dialogues
Chapters
0:23
Growing up in San Jose, CA; move to PA; married at 21; move to LA
2:45
Working as a pediatric home care nurse in Sacramento, CA
3:57
Opening a group adult residential home with mother and family; running a Supported Living Coaches, Personal Supports, and Life Skills business
8:35
Moving to FL to be on east coast with dad's side of family and bringing mother; mother's support as a Navy spouse; parents' split ending up on opposite coasts
14:50
Father living in NC and house in FL; family trips with mother, father, stepmother, and brother together
16:00
Interest in genealogy began with mother's stories about third great grandfather Vilmont Schexnayder, woman of German descent said must mean Schex's-"n-word"
17:18
Vilmont Schexnayder born a slave, in US Colored Troops, Patterson, LA; searching for his father, chance encounter with Jay Schexnaydre, tour guide at Laura Plantation, pointing to Vilmont's father; Jay being a DNA cousin
19:45
White descendent of Norbert Schexnayder denying he is the father of Vilmont; taking a DNA test later with revealed the descendent as closest match
24:59
Vilmont's USCT military and widow's pension records
26:20
Vilmont's widow's pension request explaining she was never married to slave breeding partner Henry Alexander in Lafayette, LA but Vilmont was her spouse; born a slave in Patterson, LA and returned when freed
31:05
Revolutionary War Patriot James Due, of Caroline County, MD, assuming he was white with a black or Native American partner since descendant Serena listed as mulatto and only knew of his white descendants; learning he was black had a white woman
37:55
Telling white cousins, who were always told that James Due was Scottish, that he was black living with a white woman
40:58
Enoch Due's battle between mulatto and white; finally living as white and his sister Serena living as mulatto
42:30
No oral history about Serena's father James Due and most of her children only had their father Samuel Pritchett on their death certificates
45:05
Enoch's descendants having small portion of African DNA
46:19
James Due's Revolutionary War service
47:16
Proud to know that ancestors were here from the birth from US, here before Ellis Island
48:01
Joining the DAR so that James Due could no longer be forgotten; no one knows he owned property in MD; buried in Tuckahoe State Park MD with no grave marker
49:51
Feelings having DAR new member welcome ceremony in a country club which had previously excluded blacks and in 1920 hung July Perry in Ocoee, FL massacres, outside of the gates, because he wanted to vote
52:40
DAR sisterhood; chapter historian and women's issues chair
53:49
Leading the way for other family members to join DAR and SAR to make James Due proud that his descendants found him and are telling his story
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Daughter Dialogues
Stephani Miller: Life Coach. Exposing falsified and denied oral histories.
Oct 08, 2020 Season 1 Episode 15
Reisha Raney and Stephani Miller

Stephani talks about how her Revolutionary War patriot James Due was not Scottish but instead a black man living with a white woman; and proving that her ancestor Vilmont Schexnayder was born to Norbert, a white man who had a child with a slave, which Norbert’s descendants denied. She discusses growing up in San Jose, California; working as a pediatric home care nurse in Sacramento, CA; opening a group adult residential home with her mother and family; running a Supported Living Coaches, Personal Supports, and Life Skills business; taking family trips with her mother, father, stepmother, and brother together; her interest in genealogy beginning with mother's stories about her third great grandfather Vilmont Schexnayder and a woman of German descent stating the name must mean Schex’s-"n-word"; how Vilmont was born a slave and was a US Colored Troops (USCT) soldier in Patterson, Louisiana; searching for Vilmont’s father; taking a tour of Laura Plantation that led to a chance encounter with guide Jay Schexnaydre who pointed her to Vilmont's father Norbert and later learning that Jay was a cousin through DNA testing; a white descendant of Norbert Schexnayder denying that he is the father of Vilmont; later taking a DNA test that revealed the descendent as her closest match; Vilmont's USCT widow's pension request explaining that she was partnered with Henry Alexander in Lafayette, Louisiana to produce children as a slave but married Vilmont in Patterson, Louisiana when she was freed; assuming her Revolutionary War patriot James Due, of Caroline County, Maryland, was white with a black or Native American partner since she only knew of white descendants of Enoch, James’s son, who were always told that James was Scottish; Enoch’s battle between identifying as mulatto or white, finally living as white and his sister Serena living as mulatto; Enoch's descendants having African DNA; being proud to know that her ancestors were here from the birth from United States; joining the DAR so that James Due could no longer be forgotten; no one knowing that James Due owned property in Maryland and is buried there in Tuckahoe State Park with no grave marker; feelings while having her DAR new member welcome ceremony in a country club which had previously excluded blacks and in 1920 hung July Perry in Ocoee, FL massacres, outside of the gates, because he wanted to vote; embracing the DAR sisterhood. Read Stephani’s biography at www.daughterdialogues.com/daughters

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Stephani talks about how her Revolutionary War patriot James Due was not Scottish but instead a black man living with a white woman; and proving that her ancestor Vilmont Schexnayder was born to Norbert, a white man who had a child with a slave, which Norbert’s descendants denied. She discusses growing up in San Jose, California; working as a pediatric home care nurse in Sacramento, CA; opening a group adult residential home with her mother and family; running a Supported Living Coaches, Personal Supports, and Life Skills business; taking family trips with her mother, father, stepmother, and brother together; her interest in genealogy beginning with mother's stories about her third great grandfather Vilmont Schexnayder and a woman of German descent stating the name must mean Schex’s-"n-word"; how Vilmont was born a slave and was a US Colored Troops (USCT) soldier in Patterson, Louisiana; searching for Vilmont’s father; taking a tour of Laura Plantation that led to a chance encounter with guide Jay Schexnaydre who pointed her to Vilmont's father Norbert and later learning that Jay was a cousin through DNA testing; a white descendant of Norbert Schexnayder denying that he is the father of Vilmont; later taking a DNA test that revealed the descendent as her closest match; Vilmont's USCT widow's pension request explaining that she was partnered with Henry Alexander in Lafayette, Louisiana to produce children as a slave but married Vilmont in Patterson, Louisiana when she was freed; assuming her Revolutionary War patriot James Due, of Caroline County, Maryland, was white with a black or Native American partner since she only knew of white descendants of Enoch, James’s son, who were always told that James was Scottish; Enoch’s battle between identifying as mulatto or white, finally living as white and his sister Serena living as mulatto; Enoch's descendants having African DNA; being proud to know that her ancestors were here from the birth from United States; joining the DAR so that James Due could no longer be forgotten; no one knowing that James Due owned property in Maryland and is buried there in Tuckahoe State Park with no grave marker; feelings while having her DAR new member welcome ceremony in a country club which had previously excluded blacks and in 1920 hung July Perry in Ocoee, FL massacres, outside of the gates, because he wanted to vote; embracing the DAR sisterhood. Read Stephani’s biography at www.daughterdialogues.com/daughters

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Growing up in San Jose, CA; move to PA; married at 21; move to LA
Working as a pediatric home care nurse in Sacramento, CA
Opening a group adult residential home with mother and family; running a Supported Living Coaches, Personal Supports, and Life Skills business
Moving to FL to be on east coast with dad's side of family and bringing mother; mother's support as a Navy spouse; parents' split ending up on opposite coasts
Father living in NC and house in FL; family trips with mother, father, stepmother, and brother together
Interest in genealogy began with mother's stories about third great grandfather Vilmont Schexnayder, woman of German descent said must mean Schex's-"n-word"
Vilmont Schexnayder born a slave, in US Colored Troops, Patterson, LA; searching for his father, chance encounter with Jay Schexnaydre, tour guide at Laura Plantation, pointing to Vilmont's father; Jay being a DNA cousin
White descendent of Norbert Schexnayder denying he is the father of Vilmont; taking a DNA test later with revealed the descendent as closest match
Vilmont's USCT military and widow's pension records
Vilmont's widow's pension request explaining she was never married to slave breeding partner Henry Alexander in Lafayette, LA but Vilmont was her spouse; born a slave in Patterson, LA and returned when freed
Revolutionary War Patriot James Due, of Caroline County, MD, assuming he was white with a black or Native American partner since descendant Serena listed as mulatto and only knew of his white descendants; learning he was black had a white woman
Telling white cousins, who were always told that James Due was Scottish, that he was black living with a white woman
Enoch Due's battle between mulatto and white; finally living as white and his sister Serena living as mulatto
No oral history about Serena's father James Due and most of her children only had their father Samuel Pritchett on their death certificates
Enoch's descendants having small portion of African DNA
James Due's Revolutionary War service
Proud to know that ancestors were here from the birth from US, here before Ellis Island
Joining the DAR so that James Due could no longer be forgotten; no one knows he owned property in MD; buried in Tuckahoe State Park MD with no grave marker
Feelings having DAR new member welcome ceremony in a country club which had previously excluded blacks and in 1920 hung July Perry in Ocoee, FL massacres, outside of the gates, because he wanted to vote
DAR sisterhood; chapter historian and women's issues chair
Leading the way for other family members to join DAR and SAR to make James Due proud that his descendants found him and are telling his story