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The Other Side of Potential
Over time, the conversations we choose to have begin to reflect what matters most.
If you’ve been part of this podcast, you’ve heard me speak about human development, systems thinking, and the ways we make meaning of our lives and work. That work continues—and remains at the core of my coaching and professional practice.
What has changed is the space where I am choosing to have a different kind of conversation.
After the death of my son, Michael, I felt called to create a more personal place—one that speaks directly to the experience of loss, and to the questions that emerge when life no longer looks the way it once did.
That space is now Beyond the Loss.
This podcast is for parents who have lost a child, and for those who support them. It is not about fixing grief or finding closure, but about understanding how we continue to live, to make meaning, and to become—after loss.
If you are looking for my current podcast,
you will now find me there.
I invite you to join me on Beyond the Loss.
You are welcome.
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6wqQ8MwCty4eJAiZ8VroUV?si=0b4c5d3bab6a4b64
The Other Side of Potential
Episode 286: Healing Relationships with Dr. Juan Santos
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Relationships can be a source of unbridled joy, but they can also lead to hurt, trauma, and betrayal. Navigating relationships (and dealing with affairs) can put a strain on one’s mental health so today, we are joined by the mental health expert, Dr. Juan Santos, CRC, LCMHC, to learn about the best ways to heal troubled relationships.
Dr. Santos is the Owner of Santos Counseling PLLC – a company that serves his passion of improving mental health in individuals, couples, and families so that they can regain power over their lives and relationships – and he explains why mental health very personal for him and why he chose to focus on relationships in his career.
Our conversation centers on healing from affairs as we discuss how to survive a breach of contract, how to rebuild trust, the role of culture and religious beliefs in healing relationships, specific terms to avoid using, and the undeniable importance of accountability (on both sides). We also learn about the ins and outs of modern relationships, and how shadow work and living in gratitude can boost the longevity of your relationships.
What you’ll learn about in this episode:
- What drew Dr. Juan Santos to mental health and specifically, relationships.
- How relationships have changed in his practice and community since COVID.
- Healing from affairs: how to survive breaches of contract.
- Whether trust can be rebuilt after an affair.
- How the type of affair affects the probability of reconciliation and healing.
- Why one has to be careful about using specific terms (victim, betrayer, etc.)
- The importance of accountability on both sides.
- How cultural and religious beliefs affect healing and the value that is placed on relationships.
- Understanding modern relationships.
- Shadow work, gratitude, and other advice for those in conflicted relationships.
Transcript: Here
Dr. Juan Santos:
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/juanbsantos/
Twitter: twitter.com/JuanSantos336
TikTok: tiktok.com/@drjuansantos
Book 1: amazon.com/Rebuilding-Us-Healing-Relationship-Affair/dp/1689011807/
Book 2: amazon.com/Couples-Workbook-Making-Your-Relationship/dp/1546376542
Agency: santoscounseling.com/
Sharon Spano:
Website: sharonspano.com
Facebook: facebook.com/SharonSpanoPHD
Instagram: instagram.com/drsharonspano/
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/sharonspano/
Book: thetimemoneybook.com
Contact: sharon@sharonspano.com
The Other Side of Potential Podcast: sharonspano.com/podcast/