When You Feel Rejected

"When You Feel Rejected" is a candid exploration of the emotional rollercoaster that often accompanies rejection, whether it's in the context of a divorce, a breakup, or other life circumstances. In this narrative, the host shares her personal experience and insights into the profound impact rejection can have on one's self-esteem and emotional well-being. The episode touches on the complexities of dealing with rejection and offers a message of hope and healing for anyone who has ever felt the sting of being pushed aside or undervalued.

Bible Verse: "You whom I have taken from the ends of the earth, and called from its farthest regions, And said to you, "You are My servant, I have chosen you and have not cast you away: Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God." (Isaiah 41:9-10)

Transcript

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Ladies, your natural instinct is to worry. You worry about your children, your health, your relationships, and everything else under the sun. It's a classic case of worrywart syndrome. If you tend to worry needlessly, you are not alone. Welcome to the She Strives With Faith podcast with Berthena Jackson. Berthena is a two time divorcee, a single mother and war veteran who suffered from anxiety, but learned to let go and let God. Berthena will share captivating and down to earth conversations on how to strive by faith. Here's your host, Berthena Jackson.

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Hello, beautiful ladies. Welcome to the She Stives With Faith . I'm your host, Lady B, Celeste. So listen, today's topic is when you feel rejected. Now listen, I'm not complaining. But I want to share what I went through after my divorce. And maybe, just maybe you too have felt rejected. Whether it's something real or just in your thoughts. It's hard to let go of those feelings sometimes right? Now, before I get into this, here's a little joke for a smile. Why don't scientists trust atoms?Because they make everything up. Laughter can be a great, great remedy for tough times. So let me go ahead and get into this subject. And let you know why I'm addressing the subject of when you feel rejected. I'm gonna tell you the truth. While I had no clue what loneliness really meant, until I lived through it. In 2007, my husband had been having an affair for a year and I had to live with the knowledge that the person I loved and trusted the most had betrayed me. It was during that time that I truly truly understood the difference between loneliness and simply being alone. Oh my goodness, after my divorce, I was always searching for a new boyfriend to make me feel better. And when I reflect on those moments, man, I wonder why I even gave my number to some of those guys, because they all turned out to be jerks. And you know, I reached a point where I just wanted to be left alone. I felt like screaming to the rooftop. Don't bother me. Don't try to ask me out. Please go away. I stayed in that mindset for years. Y'all know what I mean? You know, I could be in a room full of people. But loneliness was my constant companion. It's not just feeling separated from others, it's also feeling rejected by them. And when someone you deeply care about like your spouse rejects you, man, it can make you mistakenly believe that you're a reject yourself. I felt like I had a big bold letter F on my forehead symbolizing failure. And everywhere I went, it seemed like everyone was silently judging me as a loser for not being able to make a 12 year marriage work. And do you know feeling like a failure in a relationship that has ended can be an agonizing experience, shrouding you in self doubt and disappointment is as if you fallen short of your own expectations and those of others. Sometimes, we feel like we have failed when a relationship ends. But I want you to know, it's important to know that this feeling is often like a lie, being told by the enemy of our soul. What I do know is that God promises that when He starts something good in us He will finish it. So when relationships don't work out as we hope, it doesn't mean we're failures. It's just a part of life's journey guided by a bigger plan that God has for us. God will not let us fail in the grand plan of our lives. There are new beginnings and chances for growth ahead. So instead of dwelling on our past, we have to trust in God's promise, that he has a plan for your future and it's filled with hope, love and happiness. Yeah, it's a challenging journey. But with support and self compassion, these emotions can gradually transform into strength and resilience. And it paves the way for a brighter future. Ladies, I know from personal experience, that the emotions that a divorced woman or someone who has ended a long relationship goes through are incredibly complex. It's not just about feeling separated from others, man it's also a profound sense of rejection that cuts deep. And when you have invested so much of your heart and soul into a relationship, the ending of that relationship can feel like a personal rejection of your worth and your value. You see, there's a potent mix of sadness, grief, anger, and self doubt. And it can overwhelm you, making you question your own worthiness of love and happiness. My sista, my sista, there is hope, believe me, it will get better. God will strengthen you for whatever season of separation and divorce you are. He will uphold you every step of the way. When God says He will uphold you, it means you have to believe God will provide support, strength, and guidance to help you endure and overcome challenges, or difficult situations that you're facing. You must trust that God will be there to sustain you and uplift you, offer comfort, protection, and assistance during trying times. So my darling sister, divine intervention is yours for the asking. Ask God for His help, and know that He will respond. The Bible says God took you from the ends of the earth. From the farthest corners, He called you. He said, You are his servant. He has chosen you and has not rejected you. So don't don't fear for He is with you. Do not be dismayed, for He is your God. And He will strengthen you and He will help you. He will uphold you with His righteous right hand. I'm here to tell you, everything God created is good. And nothing is to be rejected. And that means you have not been rejected. You haven't been rejected. You have God's favor, you have his love. My prayer is that the Lord God will remind you that you have been chosen to be His daughter. So let his love surround you. And His word remind you that you are a woman of strength and worth because of His Holy Spirit that lives within you. It is the Holy Spirit that gives you power to overcome the impossible. So, with that being said, we're now at a place where I want to invite you to accept the Lord Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. You know, God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son for you. If you would like to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, you must first acknowledge your sins. Secondly, believe in your heart that Jesus died for you. And finally, repent, confess and forsake your sins. And then I want you to say the following prayer out loud and mean it from your heart. Here we go. Heavenly Father, I come to you in the name of Jesus Christ. I believe in my heart that Jesus Christ is the Son of God. I believe in my heart that He died on the cross for my sins. I believe that you raised Him from the dead for my justification. Lord Jesus, come into my heart right now. I receive you today as my personal Lord and Savior. I give you all the glory. If you have sincerely prayed this prayer, then you are now born again. Congratulations. Welcome to God's family. And God bless you. Listen, thank you for coming with me and joining with me on the She Strives With Faith Podcast. I'm so happy you were able to take a moment to listen to this message of hope that I wanted to share with you. I want you to have a phenomenal day. Until next time, bye for now.

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