This is why you'll never quit alcohol (i'm sorry)

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:01

Welcome to the Stop Drinking Podcast, where we help you make stopping drinking a simple, logical and easy decision. We help you with tips, tools and strategies to start living your best life when alcohol-free. If you want to learn more about stop drinking coaching, then head over to wwwsoberclearcom. Listen. The reason why you can't stop drinking alcohol isn't what you think. It's not that you don't have enough willpower. It's not that you're going to get a craving and then drink. It's nothing like that. See, all of these things are just symptoms. The root cause of why you can't stop drinking alcohol goes so much deeper and, after not drinking myself for over six years and working with over 400 clients, I have seen a pattern. I have seen this happen time and time again, and right now, whether you've already stopped drinking alcohol or you're thinking of stopping drinking, it doesn't really matter. I'm going to give you a solution in this video that will change your life forever. So what happens when somebody stops drinking? Well, people stop drinking because of pain. That's what spurs people into action. If alcohol doesn't cause somebody pain, it's very rare that they actually stop drinking. But for most people, they drink and drink more and more and more, and then eventually alcohol causes pain. They feel bad, they might have put weight on, they might have had a really bad hangover. Something bad happens and it spurs them into action. I'm sure you can agree with that. So then what happens next? Well, they might stop. They might stop for two weeks, they might stop for two months, and good things then start happening.

Speaker 1: 1:28

Most people that stop drinking. They feel way better. They feel more energy, they feel more clarity, they feel like they're getting fitter. Relationships start improving, self-confidence starts improving. Things just start moving in the right direction again. But then something happens. There's a roadblock. People get to a place when they're not drinking, when things are pretty good.

Speaker 1: 1:46

I've done this so many times. I've stopped for two weeks, for two months, and life's going well. And then one day, out of nowhere, this idea comes into my head. This thought just goes boop and it goes. Leon, life's going well now. You're doing great, you're fit, you're healthy. Just, things are going in the right direction. So, leon, why don't you have a drink?

Speaker 1: 2:03

See, most of us think that we're going to start drinking again because we're in a bad place. Right? Maybe, I don't know. Something bad happens in our life and we want to escape those bad emotions with the drink and that's what leads us back to drinking. But from my experience that was never the case. I'd start drinking again because things were going so well See, those first two weeks, three weeks, four weeks that we're stopping.

Speaker 1: 2:23

It can be quite easy, because the thing is is that we've got a reference point of the pain that we were in and as soon as we remove alcohol right, because alcohol is a toxic poison that's just literally damaging every cell it comes into contact with of course we're going to feel better. But because that period of pain and stopping were so close to each other, we have a very clear point of contrast. We remember how bad it was and we just know how much better we feel compared to before. But then something switches. It's almost like we forget. We forget the pain and then all we think about were the good times. And then we rationalize it to ourselves. We think, yeah, it's going to be different this time. We could just have one or two tonight and that's it. And we know how it goes right.

Speaker 1: 2:59

I've gone through this cycle so many times. I forget the pain, life goes good again, I drink, and then this cycle repeats. That was my life. It was a roller coaster for 10 years. So how did I fix it? How did I stop this cycle? Well, the answer is so simple. It's right in front of your eyes.

Speaker 1: 3:17

The thing is is pain is not enough. Just using pain can get us going I'm not denying that. But the pain alcohol causes will one day subside. We will get to a place in two, four, five weeks, however long it is where we've totally forgotten about it and things have just leveled off and normalized. We're just feeling good.

Speaker 1: 3:32

So there's two things that you need to do. The first is never forget. I'm not saying you should focus on the past and think about all the bad things that have happened, but just you can't forget this pain. A good thing you can do is just journal, right. Just write down why you want to do this and then later on in your journey you can reflect on those reasons. For example, if you stop drinking because your wife doesn't like it and your wife's upset with you, and then a month down the road, she's happy again, that's when we can get this great idea to drink again, and because your wife's fine and everything's going well, you think why not? But then if you look back at your list and you remember oh wait, like it was just a month ago and she was on the verge of leaving me. It can just snap you out of it, but the problem is is the pain is not enough.

Speaker 1: 4:16

See, the real solution to all of this is having a conversation with yourself and getting real and really asking yourself are you going to achieve the life that you want with alcohol in it? I know without a shadow of a doubt. There is no way I will live the life of my dreams when I drink. I won't have the business I want. I won't have the health that I want. Nothing will happen if I continue drinking.

Speaker 1: 4:30

So now, rather than me running away from the pain that alcohol caused now, there's almost a future pain of my decision to drink in the present moment. If I drink, I'll never reach what I want tomorrow. That's why having a vision for your life, knowing what direction you want things to go in, is so important. It can't just be about stopping drinking because you got a hangover one day or you're just sick and tired of it. It doesn't work. It works for a short period of time, but that voice in your head will always bring you back.

Speaker 1: 4:56

So if I were you, I'd transport myself 10 years into the future and I'd create a vision of how life is, and I'd create an ideal vision of how life could be in 10 years. What does your family life look like? What does your health look like, your business, your home? And then I'd get real with myself and ask myself if I drink alcohol, am I seriously going to get there? If you're anything like me, the answer is no and that's okay. I'm okay with that because I don't want to drink anyway, because I know it gives me. Thanks for checking out the Stop Drinking podcast by Sober Clear If you want to learn more about how we work with