The Expat Mom Podcast
What to Do When Your Spouse Won't Do What You Want Them To Do
Whether we realize it or not, most of us have a long list of “shoulds” for our spouses. Some common “shoulds” I hear include: they should clean up after themselves, they should listen and remember what I say, they should agree with me, and they shouldn’t criticize me. We attach these “shoulds” to how we feel about our spouse, and our own happiness. We think that if our spouses do what we think they should do, we will feel more love for them and we will feel happy.
Many of these “shoulds” feel fair and reasonable. And, things sometimes work out when our spouse agrees and does them. But, many times our spouse does not follow our “shoulds.” That doesn’t mean we have to feel miserable. There are some practical tools for finding more peace even if our spouse doesn’t change.
On this episode you’ll learn:
- Why nagging, criticizing, and “punishing” a spouse rarely gets them to change their behavior
- How to feel more peace even if your spouse doesn’t change
- How to act in a way that is most likely to get your spouse to change
How to Connect with Me and Get More Help:
Sign-up for a free coaching session
Get more free resources on my website
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I’d love to hear an example of an old and new manual you have for your spouse. You can connect with me on Instagram. I respond to every comment.
@theexpatmomcoach
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Whether we realize it or not, most of us have a long list of “shoulds” for our spouses. Some common “shoulds” I hear include: they should clean up after themselves, they should listen and remember what I say, they should agree with me, and they shouldn’t criticize me. We attach these “shoulds” to how we feel about our spouse, and our own happiness. We think that if our spouses do what we think they should do, we will feel more love for them and we will feel happy.
Many of these “shoulds” feel fair and reasonable. And, things sometimes work out when our spouse agrees and does them. But, many times our spouse does not follow our “shoulds.” That doesn’t mean we have to feel miserable. There are some practical tools for finding more peace even if our spouse doesn’t change.
On this episode you’ll learn:
- Why nagging, criticizing, and “punishing” a spouse rarely gets them to change their behavior
- How to feel more peace even if your spouse doesn’t change
- How to act in a way that is most likely to get your spouse to change
How to Connect with Me and Get More Help:
Sign-up for a free coaching session
Get more free resources on my website
Instagram
I’d love to hear an example of an old and new manual you have for your spouse. You can connect with me on Instagram. I respond to every comment.
@theexpatmomcoach
Leave a review:
Reviews are important for a new podcast, and they help more people find it! Here are the instructions for leaving a review on iTunes.
Click On Podcast> Scroll down to the reviews > Click on the icon "leave a review" > write a quick review and tell me one of the things you've learned or has impacted you, and press send.