Sex.Love.Power.: Sacred Sexuality, Conscious Polarity, and Waking Up In Love
Our pleasure can be the fuel for abundant, sustainable work, service, and play throughout our long lives.
Our sexuality can be a wholesome pillar of our daily experience.
Our marriages can be fueled by desire rather than duty.
Monogamy can be the hottest place on earth.
It’s a confusing time to be a heterosexual, monogamous couple. The love and passion you desire may be more an inner urge than something you really see people around you living. But there are a growing community of devoted couples creating monogamy as a conscious spiritual crucible. There are couples using their marriages to fuel their leadership and service and activism. Welcome to Sex. Love. Power. where we convene the conversations that unlock new possibilities in your life and relationship. I’m your host Michele Lisenbury Christensen. Over the past 26 years, I’ve helped thousands of couples create the love and sex they desire. Kurt and I, in 23 years of marriage and adventures together before that, have suffered, avoided, dared, and triumphed in countless ways. Now, I’m here to help you get more peace, more connection, and more passion in your days and nights, so you’ve got the energy and attention left over to be the change you wish to see in the wider world. Everything you want in love and sex and beyond starts with YOU, and it starts right now. Let’s tend your flame.
Sex.Love.Power.: Sacred Sexuality, Conscious Polarity, and Waking Up In Love
Bringing Up a Charged Topic
Something your partner did cause you pain and frustration. You want to tell them what hurt you, but you seem to always end up in a fight when you bring it up. Sound familiar? In this episode, I get into the specifics of how you can deliver feedback about something your partner did and what you'd like them to do differently in a way that actually gets results. Every single couple has to have these conversations, but you can develop skills that can reduce the negative fallout and even bring you closer.
As you listen to this episode, you’ll hear about:
- What NOT to do in an emotionally-charged conversation
- The steps you can use every time to have conversations that help you feel closer
- How to remember the point of these conversations when you're in the middle of it
- Reducing the amount of residual pain that comes from messy conversations
- Why and how to take ownership of your feelings in a conversation
And more.
“That's a big part of what relationships can do for us. They give us a safe place to work out old feelings”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen
Hot Moments in This Episode:
- Why you shouldn’t “air your grievances” (3:57)
- How a laminated checklist helped my relationship (9:41)
- Why you might set a time limit on your conversations (11:08)
- The “cheap booby prize” you may be taking instead of satifaction (15:02)
I hope that today's podcast can help you have conversations in a more productive way and feel like your pains are actually doorways to more closeness, deeper intimacy and more joy together. And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Related episodes of Sex.Love.Power:
Poorly Timed Conversations episode
The 5 Winning Relationship Strategies episode
The 5 Losing Relationship Strategies episode
Terry Real’s books:
The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work
I Don't Want to Talk about It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression
How Can I Get Through to You?: Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women
Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship
The Settling Down Together Checklist
If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program.
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