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S2, Episode 11 | In the Blackseat | Quick Ride, 6/2/2021

June 02, 2021 • Liz M. • Season 2 • Episode 11

It's been a while since I have done a Quick Ride, but this topic has been on my mind!

If you are a Black person who has been attacked by white supremacy - whether individually or systemically - is it a compliment to say "you are so strong" or "you are so composed"?

You've seen the scenario - Black person gets harassed and holds their peace in the face of unrelenting aggression. Black person gets praised for composure, strength (and sometimes even patriotism, grrrrrrrrrr!)

I don't think it's a compliment, and I will tell you why in about eight minutes. Keep in mind, that I am not advocating for wholesale, unwarranted violence. Also, this is no way reflects by admiration for our resilience. HOWEVER, I think this sort of remark is more damaging than helpful, and I will tell you why, and my personal opinion on how we can protect ourselves.

Let's go!