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Something's happened bad in my relationship and I just want to be crushing it and I don't know what's going on. What's happening to me? Welcome back to the Corey Batwell podcast and today, guys, I'm going to be talking about tall poppy syndrome. Yes, finally, I was jealous as fuck of Chloe. My partner and I was all tall poppy syndrome boy and I didn't even know that it was happening and I had to come clean about it. It's time for you guys to come clean too.
Speaker 1:Cory. Why are you doing this to us? Because I want you to set the highest standard possible. I'm also in this podcast. I'm going to go over what tool poppy syndrome is like and how it affects you. I'm going to give you strategies for what you can do to stop it from happening to you. I'm gonna give you strategies to stop buying into the tool property syndrome regime, we could say. And then I'm gonna give you some practical tools that you can use every single day, and I'm just so excited for you guys to jump on this podcast. But, essentially, one thing that I will talk about was it was really hard for me to realize that I had these massive insecurities about myself in regards to success and I was projecting them all onto my partner, chloe, and every time that, when she was winning and succeeding, there was somehow there was an energy that felt weird. It wasn't like we were bringing each other down or anything, because, like we never do that, we're very supportive but there was an energy there that just felt weird. And we always get into arguments and fights and it was like what is going on here and it was all because of my tool poppy syndrome. Bullshit and owning that sucked, but also owning it on the other end became incredible and I'm going to teach you guys around, like the whole thing. So let's get straight into it.
Speaker 1:What is tool poppy syndrome? Firstly, firstly, tool poppy syndrome happens. It doesn't just happen in australia. I know australians can see it regularly, but it's not just australians. The whole world buys into tool poppy syndrome. We just do it more.
Speaker 1:I remember when I was in america and chloe and I hired a cyber truck, which is absolutely fantastic, and when we were there, most people in america I'm not kidding they'll wind down the windows. Whatever you're doing, keep doing it, keep crushing it, go, push further, push like like yelling at us, like this, more like this is fantastic. When, when in Australia? What I would commonly recommend is people go oh, look at that dickhead. They'll be like oh, look at that guy. They'll be like the car looks like a flea anyway. Yuck, why would you want that? If I was to buy or spend that much money on a car, I'd go to Lamborghini or I'd go to Raptor or something like that. Oh, for that much money, this is what I would get. Like what you currently is, you're the tallest poppy syndrome out of all of them, goddamn right. So, essentially, what happens now? We'll say that tall poppy syndrome is in america as well, because when we were there, someone yelled at us on the street and I was like is it worth it, though? Is it worth it? We're like hell. Yeah, it only cost us a thousand usd to rent this thing for 24 hours and it was absolutely fantastic. We had the best time ever. Uh, we, chloe and I, love attention, and that gave you the most amount of attention ever. Cybertrucks for the win. Let's go. So I'm gonna talk about some of the philosophy first, of tall puppy syndrome, and make sure you guys stick around to the end, because this is absolutely.
Speaker 1:This is a beast of a podcast. This one, um, and I really one of my favorite philosophers is Friedrich Nietzsche, and he says that he would criticize this syndrome as a weakness of the masses who condemn excellence because it highlights their own mediocrity, highlights their own averageness. I'll repeat that again for you guys listening thinking caps on Criticize. He would criticize this syndrome as a weakness of the masses who condemn excellence because it highlights their own mediocrity. We don be seen as mediocre, so when we see someone who's doing really well, when we compare ourselves to someone on social media, we see a friend who's starting to come up, it's like, oh shit, look at these insecurities. Myself I'm not coming up with them. I want to connect with them and I want to be their friend still, but if they get too far they're going to move away from me, so I have to bring them down to my average life. Fuck that Right, fuck that.
Speaker 1:And he also talks about the ubermensch, or the overman right. And this is an individual who creates his own values and lives beyond the common morality of the masses. And Friedrich Nietzsche's idea of this person was someone who transcends humanity and the way that we live. And he talks about a lot in his philosophy and it's like we should all be striving to become the over men or the Uber mensch, because he believes that humanity will eventually get there. And I just believe in it so much. And it's all got to do with how you shop. Internally super powerful, right. But it suggests that exceptional individuals should not be hindered by the envious views of others straight up, because he even talks about in one of his books thus spoke zarathustra.
Speaker 1:If you read that book, it talks about the journey of a prophet who comes from the mountains into the real world and he just gets met with all this tall puppy syndrome and then he has to explain and it's very similar to your own hero's journey and the hero's journey in general. The hero's journey. The hero is the change bringer. He's the one who brings change according to Joseph Campbell's readings, and in your life you're supposed to bring change. So if you're too young or you can't do this new thing or whatever it is, and you're getting met with all this projection from other people, your job and role is to convince them wrong. It's knowing that, oh, everyone's going to project all the stuff on me and I have to go and do this anyway and bring change. And then everyone go oh, my God, I want a piece of that. That is when you know you're on your path, your own hero's journey, path which is the best place to be, because we all want to be the main character of our own story, right, we don't want to be.
Speaker 1:Npc Dostoevsky, another one of my favorite authors. I read his book Crime and Punishment and I read his book Devils after Jordan Peterson recommendation, and I read notes from the underground and hectic reading. But he would talk about this as and thanks to chat GPT here a tragic reflection of human insecurity and the destructive consequences of envy and spite. There's so much envy, spite and resentment, so essentially what that means is to get over this. It's just highlighting your own pain and the conflict within right and taking responsibility of that from ourselves, because there's pain and conflict that arise from human interactions, which is shaped by social norms. So even if your friend does something that's tool poppy syndrome towards you, or your family members do it, or your partner does it towards you, it's like, oh, my goodness, that's not their words, because that's not original thinking.
Speaker 1:Tool poppy syndrome is definitely from societal thinking, because your own, when you're at your core and you're the best version of yourself and you are setting these standards, you're most disciplined, you're the most absolutely crushing it. You are the person who is so positive and is inspiring other people. That's what we want to do. That's what we want to do at Set the Standard, right In my men's personal development community. What we're doing in there is we're getting as wealthy as possible, we're getting as jacked and healthy as possible with the most energy. We're becoming as smart and wise as possible. We're having the best relationship as possible.
Speaker 1:Every single person who comes in Set the Standard wants a relationship. Every single person must be held accountable to make sure that they are crushing it in their career, quitting their job, starting their new job, figuring out what their passion, their purpose is, making sure all of the bullshit that tries to hold us back we just remove that shit out the way, right. That's what we do. Accountability is legit and that's what we want to be around. We want to be around communities like that and people like that, because you at your core is that, but I want you to forgive yourself anytime that you do do tool puppy syndrome endeavors right. And now we're going to get into it. I am going to start reading you out things that people say and things that people do in regards to tool puppy syndrome, and I want you to put your thinking caps on and think about who in your life does this. Uh-oh, it's a big video, and what do you do? Do you say things similar to this Because this is what's going to highlight your growth, fantastic. Two, do you say things similar to this Because this is what's going to highlight your growth Fantastic, let's hit it.
Speaker 1:So friends and family would say things like this Well, what would you leave your job for? Starting a business is stupid. Right, that is way easier at a job, easier, god damn, they are lucky. Anyone could do what they're doing if they had the money. Yeah, show off. Yeah, but they got rich parents. I bet their parents are rich as hell.
Speaker 1:Too young, lack experience or questioning legitimacy of success? Oh, they're too young. What do they know? What would they know? Why would I go on that person? Why invest in that person? Oh, they must be on steroids. Oh, they haven't gone through what I've gone through. Oh, they're crins on social media, though they're all cringy. I'd rather be like me than them, as like an attitude for a cover-up.
Speaker 1:What would?
Speaker 1:What would you leave your job for?
Speaker 1:Starting a business stupid. They don't give any real value. They just create content. Oh, they're just. Oh, they do only fans, or they must be doing something like only fans. You know, you know some people might be. You know what I mean the amount of people doing only fans these days. Holy dooly, right. Uh, you think you're better than us. You've changed.
Speaker 1:They think success comes from overnight. Give them a few years. Give them a few years. I can't take a boss seriously who is younger than me. When are they going to settle down and start a real life? Imagine having all that attention. I couldn't be bothered with that. I'd hate to be taking selfies and videos all day.
Speaker 1:Oh it, oh, they're probably doing something dodgy. Money isn't everything. Money isn't everything, right. And then, like, what people do commonly is they do it in relationship as well, and they say things like this in relationships Good job, could you clean the dishes though? Oh, it must be nice to do that while I do everything at home. Oh, you're too busy to watch a movie. Anyone could do that if they ignored everything, like you, pulling away and being silent because they feel insecure about themselves. That's when they avoid using humor to mask feelings of jealousy. That's when, like someone goes to win something, can you just crack a joke about it? Uh, avoiding talking to about each other's success or failures, like I don't want to talk about your success or your failures because I'm just going to notice where I'm not good enough or operating at where I want to be operating at. That's going to make me feel mediocre as hell. Right, we don't want that. That's what people are at and we've got to face. We have to face our own mediocrity in order to become excellent.
Speaker 1:Focusing on faults, criticizing random areas of the other person's life as a way to balance the perceived inequality in success. So, if your partner's succeeding, we find someone else succeeding and you're like oh, let's talk about all this shit. Oh, but you used to do that thing. Remember when you did that and that was shit, and yeah, but you don't do this, though, and focus on that, so that what that does is that brings that person down to your level, because it feels like they're at a different level. And when they're at your level, that reconfirms your own mediocrity, beliefs about yourself that that's okay Because you just want to genuinely connect with that person. You have this fear that they are going to leave you because you're mediocre and they are growing instead of focusing on yourself and damn well growing Focus on your own growth, right? So that's what happens, and then what people do.
Speaker 1:Another one is sabotaging celebrations, failing to participate or show enthusiasm during celebrations of the partner's achievements. Ding, ding, ding, guilty of that one. Every time something would happen in me and Chloe's life, like when she was having some success, there was some sort of way where sabotage would come in and I had to like, completely own that about myself and it was so hard to be like oh why is this insecurity happening in me that I don't want to have that? That's highlighting in me, that's preventing us from being able to connect. So what you do in this situation is, when it comes to celebrations, you have to hold all of the insecurities you have about yourself and take that in and think about why you're feeling insecure about you and what can I do instead to move across and make sure that you celebrate that person and acknowledge them to the best of your ability, because when they feel safe and secure from you, they're going to turn around and give you the support and help that you need to bring you up. But they're not going to if you try to bring them down with their own success. But when you do and they say, hey, thank you so much, and you're saying like you know I might need help with here, here, here, here, here they're going to be so appreciative it's like, wow, this person could hold me in my bigness and celebrate me and and take. But if you're the one who's succeeding and you're not getting anything from the other person, it's going to make you feel like, oh man, now we're distancing myself and I have to have this conversation because they're not inspiring me, right? It's the definition of friendship, mutual inspiration.
Speaker 1:And what other stuff people do on tall poppy syndrome is they comment negative shit on other people's posts or side angle stuff. Also comment negativity on people's ads and people who comment on ads. Oh my goodness, if you're like over 50 years old and you listen to this because majority of people are older who do that and they comment on ads why are you commenting on ads unless you want the product that people have on instagram or facebook? Oh my goodness. Sending posts or reels to friends behind other people's backs, let that one land, because there are sometimes I'm sure there's people out here that have seen a friend do something and they've sent it to another friend and then someone's going oh, what do you mean about that? And they go oh shit, I was going to say something stupid about it, don't worry about it.
Speaker 1:They post their emotions on their stories, the DM notes, their Facebook statuses on their feed posts feed posts on anywhere that people can see what they have to have unconscious digs at people. They'll say things like this oh, some people eye roll. Emoji like oh, this new generation is fucked. The old generation is fucked. Oh, they don't do anything for me and I'm not taking any more shit. They'll say all these different things and they're to try to get other people's attention. Make them go to confirm what that they are saying about themselves is right to make sure that their own mediocrity makes sense to other people. And that is justified when it's fucking not Damn, because then you're just contributing to the plague of tool poppy syndrome if you're doing that Because of your own insecurities, because you're not taking responsibility for your own shit. But most of the time there's a lot of people don't have the communication skills to get across that.
Speaker 1:But where does it all come from, guys? Where does it all come from? Shame? Shame is the thing of where it all comes from, because shame is.
Speaker 1:Shame occurs when you haven't been able to get away with the who that you want people to think you are. Shame occurs when you can't get away with the who that you want people to think you are so people. You want people to think that you are this and that, but the next minute, because they are doing well or they're succeeding, you go. They're not going to see me as this successful person either, so I have to bring them down to confirm. That's okay, stay here and be in my own mediocrity to make me feel comfortable about myself, instead of like, hey, there's a gap there. This person's getting away from you. Go, fucking, chase them by focusing on yourself, or if you're so confident and fulfilled in yourself already, it doesn't matter. You go, hell, yeah, you keep going, I will get there eventually. I'm focusing on me. Right now. I'm going for a period of growth. I'm going for a period of hard times and building foundation while I'm going through growth. That true, true friendship happens in those periods, right, and I like this because Robert Bly and Brene Brown talk about this. Robert Bly talks about this and he's like awesome, like men's masculine coach is where I like to get a lot of my stuff from.
Speaker 1:Set the Standard From is fantastic. He talks about how societal expectations can suppress genuine expression and achievement. So our goal is to express genuine expression and self-achievement and it feels like we can't because of tool poppy syndrome. And it's really scary, right, because when it's solidified in by society it's hard to get out and shame gets stored in the body. It wants to hide, right, so shame goes. Oh, I want to hide, I want to close off, I don't want to be seen. So if I'm really successful and I don't want to be seen as successful as I am, because I don't want people's judgments to bring me down, to stop me having success, because I fucking love growing in success I see this happen at our next level retreat and if you want to come and extract this demon like there's here, come join our next level retreat in gold coast.
Speaker 1:It's absolutely incredible, but what happens is I like set up this circle where people have to, basically these men have to go and own themselves, right, they'll be like this is me and my bigness and my rawness, and this is why I'm so good. It's like sort of the exercise and they come in shaking. Their whole bodies are legitimately shaking because it's so scary to be who they truly are in case they get judged from other people. And when everyone's celebrating and and cheering, cheering them up like this highest capacity, it's absolutely fantastic. That's when their tall poppy syndrome gets to leave their body, like it literally gets to leave, and it's so fantastic to watch, which is why people come out. You know the next level retreat. They're making all this money. They find the partner. They're breaking up with the partners they don't want to be with. They're making change and moving, moving places. They're building motorcross tracks like whatever. It is right. It's crazy, um, when they, when they come out of it and I love how brené brown talks about it as well.
Speaker 1:I finished a book, dead lead like last week, and it was such an awesome read because, like reading all this shame stuff and I read all this pretty hardcore philosophy and then hers is such a beautiful. It was like a different language and yes, it's deep and yes, it's so beneficial in this tools, but just landed so easy. My brain like, oh, this is incredible. But she basically talks about how vulnerability is a strength and how the fear of shame can lead individuals to cut others down to avoid feeling inferior. Her strategies involve embracing vulnerability and practicing empathy, which can mitigate the impacts of envy and resentment. So, when it comes to vulnerability, that's being vulnerable in your pain, vulnerable in your power, and it takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable, which is what she mentions with the data lead thing.
Speaker 1:And I have this theory around return on leadership instead of a return on investments. Return on leadership Because when you are, when you can hold projections from other people, when you can be more authentic, when you can be more empathetic, when you can express your vulnerability towards others and have transparent conversations and be able to hold that in your relationships and with your staff and your customers and your clients, that is going to help you smash your business. And the people that I look up to in business who are absolutely crushing it, the ones who are making millions and millions and millions of dollars per year and, like my mentors and people that I like to hang around with, they're so positive, their hearts are so open, they're so easily, they can just get vulnerable immediately and own their shit so quickly so that they can get to success, because success matters, not their own shit, and they don't care what anyone else thinks because of that. So I want to help you guys get to that today and I'm going to give you some tools right and some tools. Number one tool is this one for relationship is relationship check-in, and what it looks like a relationship check-in is you set your intention this is my intention for the check-in, these are the boundaries I want to happen during this check-in. And then you talk about, like, the areas that you want to talk about in the relationship and you say like this what I appreciate you for in this area is and you appreciate them. And then and then you say what I'm withholding in this area is and you tell them what you've been withholding. It's like I could be holding resentment, judgment, jealousy, whatever it is, and this is where it is. And then you follow the last prompt that you say is are you open to doing that for me? Great tool, right, and you have this relationship check-in once a week and that can completely remove any tool poppy syndrome and you guys can get to success so much more quickly together. How amazing right.
Speaker 1:Uh, self-reflect with shadow work. I think this is like one of the most important right owning your own shit about you. The deeper your roots to hell, the higher the branches go to heaven and you've got to own that stuff about yourself. Always just sweep it under the rug, under the rug, under the rug, and then you'll be coming to me one of my one-on-one clients like I have all this success but it's kind of. It's kind of leaving. Now something's happened bad in my relationship and I just want to be crushing it. I don't know what's going on, what's happening to me. I used to be smashing it, now I'm not right. That's what basically the gist of my one-on-one clients are. And then we remove all the shit, we set the plan, we push them, we hold them accountable and then they go do something amazing, you know, make a million dollars in a year and retire themselves at a young age because they've moved through all that stuff. So this is where the shadow work comes from.
Speaker 1:And essentially this can shadow work can be summarized by some of Carl Jung's work as the process of individuation. And you know you're doing the right shadow work when you're having painful realizations about yourself and you are swallowing all kinds of bitter truths. Yes, I'm contributing to tall poppy syndrome. I get jealous, I drag people down, I act like this, I act like that. So that list of everything that I went through beforehand. That's for you to think how am I contributing to this and adding into the plague of mediocrity and what are other people doing? That is that I need to stop them from doing, and I don't want to be around that because that is bringing me down when I want to be, when I want to be growing right. Shadow work will help with all of that and that's just asking.
Speaker 1:Asking like basically journaling and talking to friends, joining set the standard community, if you want to absolutely get it ripped out of you, whereas like, where am I like, where am I jealous? Where am I insecure? Why is that happening? Let's think about these things. Let's actually get to the root cause of the problem and solve it, instead of just sitting on it for ages, not doing anything, having personal goals. Right, this is really important.
Speaker 1:This is like you're on your path and you do whatever you want, and I'm on my path. These are my goals and regardless if you come with me, regardless if you judge me or not, regardless if you reject me, regardless of if how much I want you to come with me, regardless of how much I don't want to do it by myself, I'm going to be doing it by myself anyway and getting there, and if you want to come with me, fine, I invite you. If not, all good, you get to where you got to go as well and you're just focusing on you. That looks like you know traveling by yourself. That looks like going away on the weekend by yourself. I find's challenging for me to do this. So if you're like this, I fucking relate to you big time. But we've got to get through it and every time I've had my most success is when I'm just focusing on me and not disregarding everyone else. Um, and not not to be rude about it, it's just like you know some people are oh hey, do you want to come to this thing? Like, nah, sorry, I got to focus on my goals this night.
Speaker 1:It fits, which is really cool having micro celebrations, dinners, lunches, breakfast, social media posts and not rejecting someone's effort. So someone you're a partner, a friend or family could do this for you. They could put up a social media post for you and it could be the worst social media piece ever post, ever. It could be shit, like, okay, the social media post that you put up for me was shit and what you said was more about you, but, whatever, still celebrate and thank that person for giving it a shot, because they're going to have to get good.
Speaker 1:Most of the time there's tool poppy syndrome. We can't have expectations for the effort that people want to have or want to give us with tool poppy syndrome, because a lot of people don't know how to celebrate people. When it comes to the tool poppy syndrome, it's hard for people to do that. They do not have the language, especially in Australia and New Zealand, of pushing people, encouraging them, celebrating them, thanking them, getting them to the next level, right. They don't have that language.
Speaker 1:So if someone puts up a post, thank them for it anyway and they go oh, I could do this better this time. We want to encourage any effort whatsoever, especially if you're in a relationship. If your partner puts up a post and it's shit, encourage them anywhere anyway. Say thank you so much. That was absolutely amazing, the effort that you put into that and thought about me. I appreciate that so much. Then they'll be able to do it again and again and again, cause if you go oh, that's shit, like what the hell? Like you just made that about you, blah, blah, blah, blah, whatever If you get something like that happening in your relationship or someone does a event or a dinner and it's like it's not perfect, it's not what you want, or it's like, oh, like the effort that you put into that was really low but they still made the effort.
Speaker 1:Thank them anyway. Because if you don't, you're contributing to tool poppy syndrome, because immediately what you're doing is, if they're trying to celebrate you, it's like you're bringing them back down right, you're bringing them back down and putting them back down. To be me, that was like a mediocre effort. Keep being mediocre instead of like, oh, you gave it a shot, keep going right. So that's how we want to shift that. And so important to make sure you have those micro celebrations Outsource tasks at home, especially if you're in a relationship, these conversations are way more important, especially in regards to getting to your goals and having a fulfilling future connected with a partner.
Speaker 1:So, making sure that tasks are outsourced at home and if you can't outsource them, you're supporting each other in your tasks and really taking responsibility. Sorry, I said I was going to do that thing. I didn't do that thing. Let me do this. Let me do this for you. Let me do this. Okay, let me do this. Let me contribute here. I did my tasks. These are our tasks together.
Speaker 1:Let's go and let's talk about that and then not shame someone. If they are, you know they miss a task when they don't do the dishes or whatever. It is Like hey, instead of like, oh, you didn't do the dishes. Again, hey, can you please do the dishes? It's just different. Hey, the dishes need to be clean. I'm focusing on this in the moment. Could you be still for me? Awesome.
Speaker 1:And then setting boundaries right. We have intellectual, emotional and physical boundaries. Right, and you can be. You can have direct boundaries, semi-direct boundaries and then like really nice boundaries. I like the direct approach. So if someone to me is like, oh, don't get married, why would you do that thing? That thing is stupid.
Speaker 1:I'll say like don't put your shame on me, I don't want that. That's straight up. Don't shame me, I don't want some of your shame. I'll say that directly to someone and have done before. You can also say yeah, you can also say something in a way. Let's say someone said one of the lines here that we've got. Let's say someone said to you like you're too young to do that, like that's stupid, right? Let's say someone says that like, says something that like like that to you. You say, hey, just letting you know my goals are different to yours and this is the path that I want to go down and how you said that to me. I experienced this judgment and it's sort of bringing me back down and I don't want to be around that energy, to be honest. So I would actually really appreciate your support. So when I'm trying to do like, focus on my goals and mission, can you please support me and encourage me and push me up, because otherwise it just feels like you're bringing me down. You can be so direct like that, right, and what's really good in that situation is just mentioning, because what happens is that quote right, the shame is the who.
Speaker 1:Shame occurs when you haven't been able to get away with the who you want other people to think you are. So what happens is that person is trying to think that they're like you and you're successful and they go no, come back and be like me. So what happens is that person is trying to think that they're like you and your success and they go no, come back and be like me. So what we need to do is just separate in the conversation really quickly that you guys are different. Hey, I'm different to you and these are my goals Immediately. They're going to go. Oh, it's okay to be different, right, and I don't want to be growing at a level that you're growing. I want to be growing faster. I don't want you to support me to get on faster. You're my friend, right? Just because you're not growing as fast as me doesn't mean that I don't love you, right, as long as you're focusing on growing yourself. That inspires me. So keep going, right.
Speaker 1:Just having that conversation is absolutely fantastic and it's just like making it positive. Then you can say something along the lines of let's say, you heard someone say something like oh, that person, someone else there is too young, and it's like hey, say something along the lines of. Say something along the lines of I see your point of view, but I just want to let you know that. No, I think that's about it. How would I say it as nicely as possible, possible? I'd say something along the lines of. I'd say something along the lines of hey, I love you. So I'd say something along the line if it's a friend, be like hey, I appreciate this, this, this about you.
Speaker 1:But what you just said then I don't think was authentically you and I think you just said then I don't think was authentically you, and I think you have a lot more passion, a lot more purpose than that come across as if you know it was like more negative and usually you're a much more positive person. So I just want to remind you that you've got what it takes and you can go out there and crush it. Something positive like that. That's what I would mention to someone to highlight to them Like I would think how can I appreciate this person from where they're at and highlight to them that they said something that was out of character, because anyone at their core wants to win. They want to be inspiring. They want to support and push other people. They want to be setting the standard baby.
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