Episode 69 - Power Markers and Attractiveness Markers, It Is All About The Blend

Bob and Ray try to work through some very interesting, but difficult nonverbal behaviors to get a hold of.  it's fun stuff and it can really change how you come across to others.  We are even going to attach a transcript/worksheet for the first time.

Transcript

INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION MARKERS

 I tend to do or be   

Status Behaviors
 More formal  vs  More Informal
 Non-deferential address  vs   Deferential address
 Detached responses  vs  Empathetic responses
 Expanded & protected space  vs  Respectful of others  space 
 Non-reciprocal touching  vs  Mutual touching
Interruptions and talk-overs  vs  Respectful of conversational turns
Abrupt topic shifts  vs  Shift topics gradually
Directive gestures   vs  Acceptance gestures 

Nonverbal Style
Inattentiveness  vs  Attentiveness
Longer talk duration   vs  Shorter talk duration
Faster speech rate  vs  Slower speech rate
Higher speech volume  vs  Lower speech volume
Physical distance   vs  Physical closeness
Backward lean  vs  Forward lean
Averted gaze when listening  vs  Eye contact when listening
Stare in awkward situations  vs   Break eye contact in awkward situations
Serious expressions   vs  Happy expressions
Controlled movements   vs  Natural movements

Verbal Style
More direct  vs  More indirect 
Eloquence and clarity  vs  Less polished 
Fewer non-fluencies  vs  More frequent pauses and silences 
Correct vocabulary  vs  Colloquial vocabulary 
Colorful vocabulary  vs  Everyday words
Technical jargon  vs  Personal idioms 
Careful pronunciation  vs  Relaxed pronunciation 
Careful syntax  vs  Simple syntax 
Fewer hedges & disclaimers  vs  More qualifiers 
Exclusive language (I, me, my)  vs  Inclusive language (we, ours) 
Humor – sarcasm, joke on others  vs  Humor – self-deprecating, joke on self