Man in The Arena

Feeling Stuck? Escape the Negativity Spiral and Launch Yourself Towards Success

Feeling like a hamster on a negativity wheel? You're not alone. But what if you could transform that loop into an upward spiral of success?

In this episode of Living Lucky®, Jana and Jason crack the code on cultivating a growth mindset. Forget the fear of failure – it's all about celebrating the wins along the way.

Here's a taste of the gold you'll find inside:

• Unleash Your Inner Badass: Discover the power of stepping outside your comfort zone and embracing risks. Just like Theodore Roosevelt's "Man in the Arena," daring greatly is the key to unlocking your true potential, even if you don't win every time.
• Silence the Inner Critic: We all have that voice telling us we're not good enough. But Jana and Jason will show you how to shift your focus from the outcome to the effort and progress you're making.
• Small Steps, Big Wins: Weight loss woes got you down? Learn how taking action, even if the scale doesn't budge right away, is a victory in itself. It's like navigating a plane through wind shear – adjustments are necessary, but progress is inevitable. ✈️
• Celebrate Every Milestone: Forget perfection!  Focus on the positive steps you take, no matter how small. This momentum keeps you rolling towards your goals.
• The Power of Self-Compassion: We all have those conflicting voices in our heads. But Jana shares a powerful lesson in self-compassion. Learn to listen to the voice that encourages and supports you, not the one that tears you down.

This episode is packed with actionable tips and inspiring stories to help you:

• Break free from negativity
• Embrace challenges
• Cultivate a growth mindset
• Build the life you crave

Ready to ditch the struggle and start thriving? Press play and let's transform your mindset into a rocket ship!

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Keywords: Growth Mindset, Personal Growth, Overcoming Fear, Mindset Hacks, Success Habits, Living Lucky®, Jason Shelfer, Jana Shelfer, Inspiration, Motivation

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Transcript

Jana Shelfer: 0:00

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start Living Lucky®.

Jason Shelfer: 0:14

Good morning.

Jana Shelfer: 0:16

I'm Jana, I' Jason and we are Living Lucky®. You are, too. How do we measure success? Jason and I are constantly encouraging people to get outside your comfort zone, try new things, and with that, there is a risk of rejection, failure, not being good enough.

Jana Shelfer: 0:40

Hurt feelings Then they come back to us and say you know what? I would have been better off just not trying at all, because we reinforce what I already knew deep down inside, which is that I'm not good enough. I'm just not good enough. Well, you know what? Many times, what I find is that there is a critic that lives within us. There's this judgment, and most of the time, we are judging ourselves.

Jason Shelfer: 1:09

Yeah, and it's really about where are you placing the win. So when you want to get into something new, when you want to try that, have that experience of excellence or extraordinary time in life, and you say I want to get out there and do this, but and you let your butt get in the way- that is so good.

Jana Shelfer: 1:30

And this, my friends, is the distinction between a growth mindset and a fixed mindset. Fixed mindset they want a result at the end of an experience. A growth mindset they focus on the wins along the way. So what we're going to do is we're going to share with you a brilliant passage written by Theodore Roosevelt. Jason, take it away.

Jason Shelfer: 1:58

Yeah, so Theodore Roosevelt, it's the man in the arena, and some of you have heard it, some of you haven't, but this is how it goes. It's not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs, who comes short again and again, because there's no effort without error and shortcoming, but who does actually strive to do the deeds, who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who, at the best, knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat. That's big for me.

Jana Shelfer: 3:02

It just gives me the goosies that's big for me.

Jason Shelfer: 3:07

It just gives me the goosies. Yeah, because so many times we just don't even want to get into the arena, because we have these big expectations and we don't realize that just going into the arena is the win and maybe just allow that to be. The expectation is that here I am on the couch or here I am wanting to lose weight, but I don't want to make any movement or directional change in my life to get to where I want.

Jana Shelfer: 3:36

You know, okay. So you use weight as an example. So many people say, oh, you know what, I went on this diet and I gained a pound. Well, just gaining a pound feeling the feeling that's actually a win, right, because you took a step in the direction that you wanted. I mean, I know you didn't get the result you wanted, but you took a step in the direction of taking action.

Jason Shelfer: 4:05

You made a move, Okay now let's adjust, that's like taking off in a plane there's wind, shear. You know you're going to get pushed around, you're going to get. Things are going to happen and it's just now. It's just fine tuning. But if you lay on the couch and you keep talking about I want to lose weight, I want to get healthier Like the want tos and the buts are just they're going to, they're going to build a boulder of barricades around you and they just will be in your way.

Jana Shelfer: 4:36

The reason we bring this up is I had this little tiny mini meltdown last night. We were in bed.

Jason Shelfer: 4:43

It was a sneak in, it was a sneak attack, it was a sneak in.

Jana Shelfer: 4:45

We got home from our ski ski tournament and you know we worked so hard and, yes, it's been a great achievement. However, I still have some conflicting feelings deep, deep, deep within well, you're a natural born competitor, like like you've.

Jason Shelfer: 5:02

You've grown yourself into this competitor person over the years and now that you have all these tools, you're like well, if you have all these tools, you're like, well, if I have all these tools and I'm a competitor and I'm so, I'm like I'm naturally good at like I've built my. You're not naturally, I don't know, I don't know how to say that, but you have all the tools necessary to be the top of any game you want to be in.

Jana Shelfer: 5:25

And I told Jason. I said I've done so much work on myself, I don't understand why I'm having these conflicting thoughts. However, I think it's just natural to have conflicting thoughts. And so I want to say that it's not the critic who counts, it's not the person who stumbles, it's not, and so even the voices in our head. It's not the critic in our head that counts.

Jason Shelfer: 5:56

It points out all the wrong moves, all the things that you could have done better.

Jana Shelfer: 6:00

It's not the person who stumbles, it's not that voice that's counting, like, oh my gosh, I wish I could have done better. I'm so sorry, jen. I tried so hard. I wish I could have done better for you. It's not that voice that counts. I mean, all the voices count, all the voices count, but the one that I really need to be listening to is the one that says hey, I did it you showed up.

Jana Shelfer: 6:26

And I am so proud of all of me. So I don't want to sound like a schizophrenic up here, you know, but I just want to. I want to be real and I want to be vulnerable and I want everyone to know that we all have conflicting voices in our heads Heads.

Jason Shelfer: 6:49

Now I sound like I have more than one head.

Jana Shelfer: 6:51

But we all have conflicting voices, right yeah.

Jason Shelfer: 6:54

And that's one of the things that I love is when you get in one of these conversations with people.

Jana Shelfer: 6:59

I was like With myself when I get into these conversations with myself.

Jason Shelfer: 7:03

If you don't think that you have conversations with yourself and even without yourself. Try going for a walk by yourself and no phone or anything like that, and then you'll catch yourself.

Jason Shelfer: 7:14

Listen to your head, go off on this conversation without you and then try to start controlling the conversation. That'll get you crazy. But yeah, so that's. I love what you saying, because we all have these things and it's about saying, ok, well, what's the foothold that I have to say? You know what I got into the arena and that's my foothold and I know that's my win. Now I get to get better at being in the arena. What's my next foothold?

Jana Shelfer: 7:49

And the win is that I'm having these conversations Right and awareness of it. Because the Jana that's on the couch that would have said oh, you know what? I don't have the energy to enter this competition.

Jason Shelfer: 8:05

Those conversations have her.

Jana Shelfer: 8:07

Yeah, she's going to be going. Oh, that may have been fun in my younger years, so the win is you having those conversations and the other Jana.

Jason Shelfer: 8:20

Those conversations have her and at the end of the life then there's going to be this awareness of oh shit.

Jana Shelfer: 8:31

I picked the right, jana.

Jason Shelfer: 8:32

Yeah, okay.

Jana Shelfer: 8:35

If you understood any of this podcast, you can email this Jana. That Jana? No, I'm just kidding. Or email the one that can respond. No, I'm just kidding.

Jason Shelfer: 8:43

Or email the one that can respond back at Jana at livingluckycom.

Jana Shelfer: 8:49

Thanks for joining us. I hope I don't sound like a crazy, but if I do or if I don't, you can see more crazy at our Instagram at livinglucky. Keep Living Lucky®, bye-bye. Love you guys. If the idea of Living Lucky® appeals to you, visit us at www. LivingLucky. com.