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33. Tantra, seksualitet og nydelse med Fanny Broholm
Vidste du, at tantra kan være en kilde til lindring af seksuelle traumer og en vidunderlig måde at balancere dine hormoner til et mere tilfredsstillende liv? Det er præcis, hvad vi dykker ned i i denne episode med min gæst, Fanny Broholm, der er Pleasure & Purpose Coach. Vi optrævler vigtigheden af sanselighed, forskellene i mænds og kvinders seksualitet, og hvordan du kan skabe et bedre forhold til din seksualitet. Vi fremhæver også seksualitetens helbredende kraft, og hvordan teknikker som yoni-mapping kan give en mere dybtgående forståelse af vores behov som kvinder.
Hvad hvis du kunne stimulere og aktivere din seksuelle energi til at opleve en helkropsorgasme? Hvad hvis du kunne tage din magt tilbage som kvinde ved at forstå dine behov og grænser? Den her oplysende samtale med Fanny besvarer ikke kun disse spørgsmål, men udforsker også den transformative kraft af seksuel energi og nydelse. Vi kaster lys over vigtigheden af at forstå kvindelig seksualitet og hvordan den er blevet formet af samfundsnormer og forventninger. Fanny deler stærke praksisser du kan bruge til forbinde med din krop på, som kan fremme velvære og lyst i dit liv.
I sidste del af episoden diskuterer vi udfordringerne ved at tale om seksualitet på sociale medieplatforme som Instagram, og hvorvidt det er en god idé eller ej at bruge en vibrator. Vi dykker også ned i, hvordan patriarkalske og religiøse magter har tvunget kvinder til at opfatte seksualitet som en opgave, og hvordan dette traume er gået i arv gennem generationer. Fanny giver sin visdom om, hvordan tantra og seksualitet kan bidrage til personlig vækst og healing, så du kan føle dig styrket og oplyst. Det er et afsnit, du ikke vil gå glip af!
NYHED: Live masterclass om tantra på Hormonyoga for kvinder
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Welcome to Kvine Liv, a podcast that helps you find more peace and surprise in your life. We have understood the Kvine Liv's cycle and how you can bring the hormones in balance with yoga food and lifestyle. I'm Laura and I'm looking forward to showing you how you get a fantastic Kvine Liv.
Laura Grubb:What is the Kvine Liv's cycle? In this episode, we will talk a little about.
Laura Grubb:Tantra and sexuality. It's a bit of a relief. I think it's very exciting and also really important for a good Kvine Liv, which you might remember from my 5s model, but it's actually one of these 5 legs in my model which is called sensuality. But it integrates our sexuality, our relationship to the body, our relationship to feminine and masculine energy, and that's why my desire is to bring it a little more into the podcast, but also into my yoga platform. That's why, in this month, I start with a live masterclass in September 26th where I tell Tantra's introduction to what my path is and what it is. And it's not just for you who have never heard about it before and just want to know what it is and what it can be for my life. It can also be that you have worked with Tantra for many years and just want to hear my angle on it. So that's my contribution to the hormone yoga for women that I start it up and it comes from that I, for a few years back, began to be really interested in this topic and I started to understand it better in my own life and that's why I took a Tantra introduction.
Laura Grubb:And beyond that, I fell in love with Fanny Brugholm, who you have met in this episode. She is my guest. I have been in the studio. She is a pleasure and purpose coach and we talk a lot about sexuality, about pleasure, about Tantra. We also talk about how exciting is the experience of pain and sex, what you can do, what Fanny works with. We talk about the difference between men and women's sexuality and what you as a woman have used for and how you connect to more pleasure and what a better relationship to your sexuality can do for you to get a better life on a lot of plans. So that's the topic for today and now I'm just going to invite you to listen to me and whether you are going on a tour, whether you are sitting down, sitting in a car or wherever you are, I hope this episode will give you a lot of exciting news and information and reflection about your sexuality, about pleasure Really good for pleasure, yes. So welcome, fanny, to my podcast, qnelyum.
Laura Grubb:I'm so happy for you to be here and I'm just going to start with how I support you, because I think I've told you before Maybe I do. I started with you in connection with a yoga studio I went to in Rørd and it was under lockdown, so there was a lot of online stuff and then I interviewed you and I let my sofa in Copenhagen and listened to you and you have an extension that I know well. I have some friends who have taken it and even though I knew what you were talking about, I just thought it was so nice to hear you say these things and say it so well and so specifically. So before that you have been a little in my thoughts, and then I'm a woman in the hormone system and menstruation cycle, and one of the parameters that I share and that I myself have started researching more and more is that it is 5th in my 5s model. That is about sensuality, and right now you're actually in Costa Rica, and it was actually in Costa Rica that I was introduced to Tantra, and now I'm also a Tantra coach outside of Denmark.
Laura Grubb:So I would like to thank you very much for this. But that's my introduction to this event and to you. Do you want to tell a little about your story? I know you called it, as I read it, a pleasure and purpose coach.
Fanny Broholm:Tell us about how you got it. Yes, I was in politics and I have. It's like a life. I focus a lot on sustainability and also my role here is also the school of monomastics in what is called sustainability and politics.
Fanny Broholm:And then I stood up for the alternative and was also chosen to Kemhar's Redhus and was in a very masculine, very goal-oriented competitive environment in politics in the next 4 years and during that period I lost my mother, who I had a very close relationship with.
Fanny Broholm:So it was a bit too much in relation to just becoming more valuable in the competitive masculine environment. I had a need for healing, a need for a sense of body, a need for a sense of femininity and a need for peace. So I stood up for that Tantra Tantra's role and had been using it for a really long time, from the day before I came down to my body and started to connect to my needs and what I actually wanted to use. So then it was just like a mega perfect match and take that one year in Tantra coach. So I did that and at the same time I was still in politics, but when I was done it was just completely clear that it was coach I was going to be and get that one and one contact with women and men for that excuse. But I got the peace to come down to my body and get more one and one contact with people.
Laura Grubb:Exciting and exciting shift and exciting background to get into here, which I actually see as a heritage in a different way, just for the individual and for our inner heritage. It's like a bit of a homo-balance. It's our inner climate that we also use in balance.
Fanny Broholm:And it's actually like. The insight I also got in politics was that you can make structural changes to create changes to heritage. But it comes down a lot to how people are. If people are mega stressed and don't have contact with their body, then it's really really difficult to create heritage and make changes if people don't have it well. So it's also a lot of what you're saying, that you don't create heritage in the first place.
Laura Grubb:I like the idea of being out of the field. It's a bit more about stress, that you're working really hard with the hormones and getting into the body. How do you see the link between we're talking about stress and that I've come into the body, but we're not talking about sexuality? Now I hope I change. How do you see the link between these two things?
Fanny Broholm:For me, sexuality is the most important thing Because to get in touch with the need, you need to block a lot of layers of the body which blocks the sexual energy from running through the systems. So if you want to achieve that with sexuality, you can't just work with all the layers of hormones like stress or eating disorders or child abuse or things you have with your parents and interrelationships, all kinds of things. You need to stop and stop and wait for the body to take the opposite of the body like a clean slate for sexual energy. That's my opinion. So I think it's a really good healing modality, especially in terms of stress, because it's a type of thing when you're stressed in the body but you're relaxed from your need, you're going up in your muscles and you can't get rid of it and you're very upset and you're thinking you know cancer and all of this, and that's the opposite of the need and the gas energy.
Laura Grubb:So it's a kind of stress management we're actually in.
Fanny Broholm:Well, all kinds of healing. I think I work maybe 20% with my clients specifically on sexual energy, and otherwise we work with all the things that are over there which make it so that you can't get down to sexual energy. What do you mean?
Laura Grubb:What do you mean? What do you mean?
Fanny Broholm:it means a lot for children. A lot for children. I don't really know what that means, yes, but it means that children often are out of their communities and they are very vulnerable in terms of impact from parents, from schools, from friends and in that way, very easily especially if you are sensitive to which I am can be traumatized. It sounds violent, but you can at least get an imprint in your body where you feel like you should take care of yourself in all possible ways. So it's some form of protection mechanisms that build up in the body. And for all those protection mechanisms for example, to block their needs or to spin up a difference in the body or to eat in a certain way Then you have to work with the experience you had when you got the protection mechanism as a child, so you can integrate and give love and attention and protect yourself from the version you were in at that time. So it's a child's work and it's extremely important and effective to get the sexuality and the general attention.
Laura Grubb:Why. I just want to know how it's linked to the sexuality.
Fanny Broholm:Well, it's a type of this, for example, that there are a lot of women who spin up in the underlife and have pain under six. It's actually a third of the women who experience what is very dangerous and that can be a protection mechanism. For example, if you have been given a sexual penetration for the first time and then in a teenage or later, and the protection mechanism sits in the body so that you can get a sexual satisfaction that doesn't go down and you can release it, Do you have to work with what has happened at that time and get the whole thing integrated, the version itself? There are fears of penetration, sex or experience of pain or tension. So in that way, it really depends on the society.
Fanny Broholm:In terms of sexuality, there are many who feel ashamed and feel that it is illegal or that it is wrong. Sexuality is also something that comes from children. You have never seen parents have sex or it has been something like if you have said a movie, then there has been a lack of mood if there was sex later. There are many things that have just been done that you think it is shameful and you are ashamed of your sexuality, but you feel that you should perhaps be in debt or something like that. I was so secretive and wrong and that is something you can go into work with through a child's work.
Laura Grubb:I don't know why I think these issues are so exciting. When I want to be taken into account, I just choose all the tablets we have. I started with the menstruation cycle, then I went to sex with you, so take out the tablets you write. Anis, how was your relationship with sexuality before you became a coach for this field, if you would like to share it?
Fanny Broholm:I really wanted to. I had a hard time connecting to my needs and had a lot of tension in my body. I had a performance-oriented start when I met a lot of young women where I would look out in a certain way. I had a lot of what can I say? I looked myself out of it and focused more on how I looked and how my partners had it and that I was living up to a kind of pornified sexuality point and that was to take time for me and that I was going to spend a long time on the role-playing and that I was going to be still and calm and connect with the heart and the vision in my eyes and spend a long time on the coast. All those things.
Fanny Broholm:It was something that I had. There's no one who is exposed to it, so I had a very patriarchal way of being in my sexuality, so I didn't get much out of it and it was mega frustrating and I felt that I should fake my need for my ego to be affected and so on, and I think that's something I hear again and again that there are a lot of women who have the experience of their own sexuality. At a certain point I thought that I had enough of performing and wanted to have something out of it, wanted to experience it. I felt that there was so much more in sexuality that you could explore and experience, so I started a sex-sexuality. I also got some ionic mapping, where I got my underage to start using ionic eggs and bought some crystal-worn crystals new-age stag and started researching to be with my body. And right after that, in the mid-20s and now it's almost mid-30s I started using it for 10 years and do it well again from the patriarchal kind of a network-nucleicity.
Laura Grubb:So you started by yourself, or by yourself, or as a partner.
Fanny Broholm:I started by myself, especially because I had a lot of experience. So I got this ionic mapping and started using it to get my sexuality.
Laura Grubb:And what do you explain about ionic mapping? Because I know about ionic massage, but is it something else?
Fanny Broholm:Yes, I think it overlaps a lot, but that's where you go in and you get a lot of points in the vaginal canal and find out where you are and where there is pain, where there is sexuality. I myself am also doing the armoring with my clients, where you go in and stretch or not stretch, but work with the muscle layer and feel the pain in the vaginal canal, which is what a lot of women experience and that's something that's most healing and most effective work to get in touch with their needs.
Laura Grubb:I remember myself when I first started learning about this. I tried ionic massage because I was excited, but because I was just new to the subject and I also explained that it's not something else.
Laura Grubb:When we can have the excitement of our school, we go to a masseur, but we don't go to a masseur to get excited about our underlife, even though it can be even more healing for our life, our sexual life, which is essentially part of our life. I just want to know is it something you do as a? What is it called, again, ionic mapping?
Fanny Broholm:is it something you instruct women to do? A coaching session that is online, where I instruct her first energetically, where we feel how much trauma there is, how much trauma there is, how much work there is, because then you have to go a lot further and move forward. First make an energetic armoring, and then next session, if she's ready for that, we do a physical one where I instruct her and she has her own ionic state and I'm like, okay, what's going on here? What are some, what can you say less, what are some experiences that come up here so we can work through them on the different points, and then she can do it herself at home.
Laura Grubb:Wow, it's so exciting and very relevant in relation to the excitement of our underlife. I want to share something. I thought about it, we should talk about it, and I can feel that I'm getting nervous about sharing it. But I can't share it right now because my introduction is this, because it's actually that I'm already taking care of everything, because we're almost seven years back.
Laura Grubb:So my story, which I've told you about in the Lytte-Grenau episode, was a big stress relief. I was out of the comic business world, I was in the project world and then I got stuck together and then, after a year of stress relief, I ended up in maybe you know a tantric school in Thailand which I actually ended up in. They went with me to all kinds of places and it was a month of time and I was introduced to a lot of things. I didn't get my border overwritten in that way. It was just a special world about tantric. So that was my first introduction and I was a bit annoyed so I thought tantric is not for me. Then I moved to a year ago since I was a causteric, to find myself, actually to find the love, because I was a bit frustrated, being 30, being single, and I wanted to be. And then I started with some deep therapy. I just worked with a Colombian therapist over Zoom, but he's in Europe and the day after we had a very, very full session where we had a job with a healing therapy from family therapy and all sorts of things.
Laura Grubb:I met a man in Montezuma, which you might know, and he's a tantric nurse and he sends me a podcast about tantric where, among other things, I couldn't sleep at night. So I just listened to the podcast about tantric and in one episode he tells this woman that when you're together, when you're clear on the research on men and women, and she says try to ask your partner, use the term to touch your body, touch your breast, touch your knee, your chest, your head. And then I share this man and I tell him how do you do it? And I think he sits on the board and he says okay, and I felt that was my first introspection to tantric, because that's what happened after my body was actually open for penetration, because I was just like this is what I'm going to learn more about and that was the key to all this. So don't tell a little about now that my story is inspired, but I listened to the podcast with you a little earlier today and I enjoyed it because I have a big experience.
Fanny Broholm:Absolutely Most women have what's called context-based sexuality, where it's super important that there is peace in her body, that there is a deep connection to what she's with, that there is a pressure and sense of importance, and that can be something the checklist should be that there should be peace and there should be a real lust.
Fanny Broholm:There are a lot of women who have the need for context, are almost entirely optimal for her to actually drop out of her body into the body, where the woman has a much more spontaneous sexual lust which can go very, very fast, from 1 to 100. And that makes that there is a clash, because the man is very, very fast and then there is a reaction and then many women feel like, okay, then we should do something about that reaction. And it's often mainly focused in that way in terms of sexuality, where there is a very old description of it, where the man is probably walking for 5 minutes and the man is allowed to touch some breasts which he thinks are fun and touched, and then he starts walking for 5 minutes and then you should have a form of sex maybe a little missionary, a little dog in the street, and then she should come and he should come.
Fanny Broholm:It's like the description and it's so far from what the most women have the need for. They have the need for, as you say, to get the context set and that there is a good connection between that partner and herself. And that's what we're going to start with. And then you're at least 15 minutes of warm-up, very eagerly, 45 minutes when you're just still resting your body away from the body. There's also a difference between men and women.
Fanny Broholm:You should weigh the woman's body from the pantherine when it's well, just outside the breasts, outside the joints. The pantherine goes into the lust for the redness, but they can just enjoy it together. It's the other way around. It's just directly to the fun. Where women should really warm up in that way when there's no feeling of pressure Okay, now you should be ready, can you say that? So in that way it's really important Because man can get something out if you do it in a woman's way, but the woman can get something out if you do it in a man's way. So the woman will be a bit more in the center if she needs something out of it.
Laura Grubb:That's a good thing. If there's a moment when you're with her, it's also useful. I think it's really interesting and it explains so many things that I've learned in Tanthra the understanding of men and women's sexuality, how it explains that on some occasions it's a bit different, but you're not afraid of women opening up for the heart, which I'm afraid of myself. For me it doesn't mean much about their story. It means that there's a connection from the heart Just to feel the pressure. And when I work now it's a lot more about harmony.
Laura Grubb:I only started opening up for Tanthra on my homocyclist level, so I got a chance to do some work. They were really happy about that. But I'm just going to dive into this and I'm not going to say that because I think it's just so wild. But what I designed? My model for harmony and balance. I came to change my sensuality, so I took the traditional medicine. I work with the heart and the more I developed it, the more it's feminine. It's the heart we need to have it with and how it's that again, we can weigh our sexuality when we find a connection to the heart, and it makes it so easy to know that I myself have told you your story. So many women live from the fact that we start with trying to get weighed. That's the way between our legs, when we start in the heart. Some say in the head, I actually say it's the heart.
Fanny Broholm:That's when it starts, when we feel that our body starts to open up Absolutely, and that's also the reason why Tanthra is the heart of women Plus the heart of men, minus the heart of men, and with Johnny and Penis, so that you can circulate energy between these minuses and pluses in the body.
Fanny Broholm:And there it's just that the heart of women and the breast of the pluses, and that's where you start. I also give my clients a breast massage, because women's breasts are often overlooked or women think they have breast cancer or breast cancer, that there's something wrong with that part of them and that it's mostly for the men's guilt that he just has to lose to massage them a little bit in a different way. But that's actually connecting to his breasts and re-sensitizing them with using time with them. It really does a really good job of getting the connection to your lust and the connection to your longing, and I think that my experience is clear that it goes from the heart down and not the other way around. So there's really a lot of over-searched breasts and it's really a bit of a mess.
Laura Grubb:Yes, but there can be a lot of sensuality in them and I think that's also what I should do. I took a course where I should start with a self-pleasure session, a self-loving session, and it was pretty hard the first few days. I was going to massage my breasts, I was going to touch my whole body sensually and with the sound. It took me a long time. I think I had to do it every day for two months. So it was a fantastic start to my morning in that way, but it was a long way from that.
Laura Grubb:But just when you talked about my thoughts, I took a boom training session where we sit for 40 women in a circle and do some yoga in the stone. I was thinking I've done a lot of other things. But then we all sat together, we sat down on these legs in a circle and then we saw our breasts at the same time, and it wasn't a very busy group, I think. So it wasn't a very busy experience in that way. But then I remember sitting there, sitting with her, and her spine was going down. Oh, but it was a completely different thing. It wasn't like that, but it was a breast massage in any case, but it wasn't a problem. And then it was done. And Joni Stienke was fantastic too, but it was important. I was going to take a look at it, but it was important to get it done. And then it was done by yourself.
Fanny Broholm:And then it was done by partners. And I think there are a lot of experiences and what you experienced at the start, that it's really hard to connect to your body and your body. And then you feel so up and down and you're like, no, how is it going again? Why can't you just and you know there are a lot of times when you're in the head, especially from partner sex with men, where you're like now you have to come out quickly, otherwise you can't get out of it so that little time you have up in the head when you're with yourself, no, it takes so long. Why can't you just feel something more? So all those thoughts start and that's just something that really hits the spot. I get to be in the head in that way, but you don't judge yourself. So just a piece of advice to people who start on this journey of need really have such a way of being yourself with your body, because it takes time to weigh it up if it's not enough.
Laura Grubb:And do you actually recommend starting with yourself and do what you think, or with your partner, or can both ways lead you to it?
Fanny Broholm:I absolutely recommend starting with myself Very clearly, because it's very difficult. There are really really many men who actually really want to give women more need and the question is what do you need? What do you want? What do you want? What do you want to say, what do you do?
Fanny Broholm:And women don't know what to say and that can lead to a lot of shame and that she's lying down and I don't know what to do. Let's just try this and then it gets hard and it can be a difficult place to start. So just put yourself in a body, spend time with what I call the goal is self-perceiving practice and then solve the need for practice where you're not a goal and you need something, but you're just with your body and connect to the smaller goals and needs that could be in the body and just be in them and just spend time to feel and spread those goals in the body. That's the method I think. And when you also start to feel that it actually has an effect to spend time with yourself and you actually can start to feel more needs, then it's mega cool that you can take it in with your partner and say this is what I react to, that's what my body needs Do you feel yourself being touched by your body.
Fanny Broholm:If you're going to put it on, then what I mean? Take good time off and you can feel it in your body, at least for a week. Have some good oil and some good light and don't get vibrated, because it's very difficult to recreate the friction and intensity that's in your breast. But just, you know a ionic acid and some liquid cream, some oil, put some music on and just spend time with your body, where you just start to feel maybe you've got yourself in your head, over your head, on the chest, on the throat. Spend a long time to connect to your body and to the small cells so you're actually touching yourself.
Fanny Broholm:Don't be afraid and don't think about it that it's going to get stronger and it's going to lead somewhere, and just keep calm and calm, starting to master your breasts, master your stomach, your lungs and all this before you start to get out of your body, and that's also mega slow. Spend time on the outer scams, the inner scams, just touching the chest, and start with and just use time to explore the different parts of the body and just do it without having to do anything. So that's the goal, the most important thing for women, because they have so much focus on that. They have to reach the goal and they have to do it fast. They have to be fast, fast in the head. They can reach something out of it when they're together with the partners and can be able to present to them in that way. So that's the practice.
Laura Grubb:Okay, I have three questions for you, so we're just going to pack what I want to go back to. Yes, so one comment I heard that the scams are quite a lot in the ears and it's just so wild, that no-transcript experience. I'm trying to call it art, but in the meantime you just have to say now you know it's a lot of English, so I think it might be that it's not just, but it's just so. No, but it's just so. We use the words to describe and it's also the same thing I grew up with to call it and I think it's a great way to describe the words and it's a great way to describe the words and it's a great way to describe the words and I grew up with to call it.
Laura Grubb:But I'm 100% with you in the relationship yes, more self pressure. But I can almost hear I don't know if it's myself or women who say in my opinion, fanny, where should I find an hour every day in the kindergarten and work? And I can barely find. How do you prioritize it? One thing I myself I'm not sure about prioritizing. We can prioritize an hour, maybe, to something else to take yoga, to take a biograph of what it is now. So it's more about how you prioritize it yourself, because I don't know myself. There can be some resistance to it, because if the trauma is there or in some way, it's a pain to go into that. What if I can't find and don't feel any relief? And it takes time? How do you motivate women to prioritize a girl?
Fanny Broholm:Yes, for me, sexuality is where one loves one's life's power, one's energy, and it's like the engine. Of course you can say that it works without being connected with your sexuality, but it just gives you a whole different dimension of one's life and being connected with your body and your sexual energy, your sexual need. So I ask myself a lot of questions when we start to get to know what it means to get this. What does it mean to be a guest? What does it mean to be able to have sex with yourself and with your girlfriend? The more we dive into it, the more life-threatening, the more pleasure in everyday life. The more over-shoot, the more another layer of color that starts to spread in everyday life.
Fanny Broholm:The important element that is connected with it is that you can actually feel your body and your sexuality and work through all of this that is blocked and feels completely empty Because it blocks all of the parameters, and that is also something I ask myself. What does it mean to affect your life if you get this as a reward, and that is work, space, friends, family, that is a special relationship. If you have a partner, what will be a better mother people women have, the ones I'm talking about have this insight in how to fight. What does it actually mean to have a sexual effect in my whole life, if I have it with myself and if I produce my needs as a behavior?
Laura Grubb:You said that you like to give more colors or say something like that that it is a kind of a kind of a kind of we all know that we have a really good sex. We just have a good day. I have not been able to, but it is not just about having sex. It is about having a good sex for someone as a woman, because I remember that Tanthed's experience in Costa Rica. I had a fantastic. Three days after I was flying on a plane and I was like what the hell is this? Why didn't I do that before? Why didn't I learn this and give me the tools to do that? If we have to perspective it a little bit and now that you have a political background, what do you think about the perspective of it? What do you think we have to do with sex? I mean scumful and something we just think we should be able to, but there is no one to talk about it, and there are really a lot of really bad sex in my life.
Fanny Broholm:For me it is a little bit of a patriotic and religious background that we have in Europe as well, and in the West in general, where our sexuality was scumful.
Fanny Broholm:It was a form of being buried without having sex and that was the most pure and pure, and sexuality has just been scumful as something scumful and disgusting, and that is what Tanthra is also waiting for that sexuality is actually something spiritual, that it is not that you are over, like coming out of the body in the spiritual layer that is not the Christendom, but down in the body and that sexuality is actually a what can you say a spiritual path.
Fanny Broholm:And there it has just been against the West and I think it has really, really done a lot with that. It has been dangerous to be buried if not that you were married. So sex and unforeseenness have been something that you have experienced, because women actually wanted to end the Iranian Stone if they were buried before they had found a man and had been chosen as a man. And again, it is patriotic that women were born with machines that were supposed to be beautiful and to be chosen as a man and to be a man, to give a child, you know, to a kind of forest that you could see, and to be a woman.
Laura Grubb:Very transduction, isn't it? No wonder that sex has been there and it just lives in our body, that we think it is like that. I mean, I'm not going to just say that this is your fantastic story. I'm just going to say that I can take myself into having the thought that I just need to spread my legs and that it is my task as a woman, where I just need to stop myself and say where the hell is that coming from? That is correct, and it is just so strange that it still lives in a kind of energy plan. I mean, I have tried to miss my partner if I don't give him enough sex where it is just like nice, stop.
Fanny Broholm:Yes, but that has been our goal you can say not and to be such a woman and to be the owner of the man for sexual expression. And that is simply sitting in our generation, which I believe can be down-to-earth in the genes, different types of trauma experiences which can sit in our body. So that is what makes it such a generational healing. It is also very important that we take that responsibility and say here I will not go further, I will be the last in my generation and my bloodline. That is part of this. So I think we have a very important task as women to work through these traumas. There was also a haxie trauma that women have been in their powers, their sexuality, their magic, that they have not been trapped and that they have been hunted and burnt. That is also something that is sitting in our bloodline at least. So we really have a chance now to put a cap on the old patriarchal, religious power.
Laura Grubb:And I was also impressed with the instruction cycle, that the whole plan. I was sure had it been another time they would have said I go and say, robert Høydom, I have a command to you and the others. You are very patient. I think that is very effective. But God forbid at the other time. Now you are becoming a backlash. Some triggers you people when you go and talk about this or you are being taken with open arms.
Fanny Broholm:It is very difficult to navigate on Instagram, where I have my platform and where my whole business is. If I write sex without making mistakes, then it is caught up. Or we write Johnny or Tantra, no, no, no, johnny, tantra, sex all, yes.
Fanny Broholm:Sensuality or intimacy is also some words that trigger the algorithm, so the censorship I have to have myself in relation to what I share it really, really, really frustrates me. And also, you can clearly see on the reach, there are many people who are happy that I share and depend on how explicit I am. So I think that has been really, really low for their lives and I could not just explicitly share what I had wanted on that channel. There is like my interest and I should be afraid that my console is taken from me or it is blocked or I say, robert, all this so I am uploading. I am people who are good at it, people who follow me and are healthy to see my content, but I can really. I really experience an inner irritation that we are still there using sex censorers, so probably that we can talk about something that is so important and so essential for will be, will be.
Laura Grubb:Constant Beach. Okay, no, I just parked in the back seat and I would also like to get some paper towels, just to get some of your thoughts on it. I hope that is not our podcast if you are not with me, but I think it is just important. But we will talk about it because there are also differences. What was the reason for the name? And I hope that you did not mind if we just use it.
Fanny Broholm:It's very controversial and it's something I'm getting back on, because Vibraza has been symbolized as the female. Now I take my grace back and I take a Vibraza man in the bed, then I secure myself in front of a gas station. I can get a faster gas station at home in all possible different ways with Vibraza and I think it's mega, mega cool that women have come there to be close to being like. I have five Vibraza at home and you know there's also been a lot of sex shops where there's like parts of these Vibraza and it's a little hip and stuff, which is cool.
Fanny Broholm:But for me, in my experience, in my body, there was a use of Vibraza that incentivized me and made it really, really difficult to get there without it.
Fanny Broholm:So you get a little bit of a hang of it and it's not because you permanently put something in your Vibraza, but it does incentivize me to take my own decisions and this means that if you want to have an orgasm with yourself or with a partner without a Vibraza, it's actually pretty difficult to get up to my experience if you use Vibraza a lot and it's also a lot in a mechanical way and a little bit of a coupled way from one. Naturally, you want to have a body and a need to just stick something down with your legs and then it's fixed. It's, in a way, a little artificial, a little bit of a artistic form of need, I think. In my experience, I think the need to get the knowledge and not use Vibraza and to become resensitized, but just use it with hands and use the knees. It's 1000 times better and it's more of a body orgasm you get if you use it with tangent techniques, with movement, with sound, and activate the whole system and take a little dip with your legs.
Laura Grubb:It's a good argument and you'll get even more knowledge, and I'm so happy for you to say this because I'm 100% with you. So I feel like all the Vibraza that came out on Instagram and see them and stricke it all. It's also one of the cool things about women's Is it possible to talk about women's needs? But I actually remember an instruction with a bike that said try to use your hands instead.
Laura Grubb:It took me a really long time to get the head of a gas, but I was first in Me too. Yes, okay, but it was really different. I used to use the wheels and suddenly it was just with my hands and I was more of a massage. There were all kinds of things, and then it also went over to the Vibraza and the Norwegian. But then I heard the instructions, I took it back, I used my hands and then it was just like no, they're actually better with my hands. And now, if I think about it, I'm trying to do it once more. It's actually going to be too violent and it's going to be almost violent, and I took it.
Fanny Broholm:Yes, it's just that way you can actually feel it's violent, because when you've been away from it for a while it's almost impossible, because there's just a lot of big debate about race. It's like that you don't do it. But my personal physical experience is clear that it does it and you're trying to do it.
Laura Grubb:No, I'm trying to do it. Yes, it's completely important today, but I couldn't say what I wanted to say. But it's a bit of a. It's also a bit of a. In any case, it's tantric. Like you and I both have a background in which we talked about more about the long-term and the feminine, and she takes her time. It's a short cut and it goes strong, and you yourself or me, I've done it. It takes time for the feminine to grow. It's also a bit of an accelerated society we live in, so we don't get stressed out about it because we also take it into the sexual world.
Fanny Broholm:No, we're out.
Laura Grubb:No, that's an important point, but I took a course which I would like to give a shoutout to. If you know, omg, yes, oh my God, yes, I've heard about Neo. Okay, I've heard a fantastic podcast called Dying for Sex from a few years ago, and then there was a rabat code I'll see if I can find a rabat code for them, maybe link to this podcast, if I'm lucky and I thought maybe I'll just buy it because I think it was very exciting. It was about research-based research in women's and women's sexual orientation and it's a fantastic course where you actually go in and then they've filmed women's vulvas and then you sit with the mouse and try to stimulate her and I was like yes, I'm good at it.
Laura Grubb:I was so eager that these women had gone to do this and it was so liberating. There was just no way over the head. But what made me personal was how different women are, and I also learned about I'm actually very, very sensitive, not only as a person, as you have described, but also in my vulva, in my kum, in my uniform, and that means just standing there with me feeling wrong because I'm thinking why can't I clear these women's vulvas? Why can't I clear them? Why do I feel like I'm going to be touched directly on Cliduys? So it was completely wild for me, and then I shared it with my partner and it was the best news I could do. So it's really, in any case, to let yourself know as a woman, because we can't see ourselves, and this is a way of. My point is just here's a shout out, and if people can't keep their fingers crossed and if they've had enough of hearing the boss, they can just hit the podcast, but a shout out to those who are going back to their homes.
Fanny Broholm:It can be something like that, absolutely, and there are so many women who actually and there are so many women who actually where they feel like they're being released because they are very sensitive, which was also the case for me that they just close their eyes because it's too sensitive, and then it can be a perception that it's not a response, that I can't feel anything, I'm completely closed down. And it can be difficult because the women are sensitive and have used a lot, a lot of a little bit of experience in the long term for there to be enough blood, blood flow in the area so that you can just go directly to Cliduys. And that's so different.
Fanny Broholm:Yes, and there are some who say that they should get a lot of gas and that they can get gas in all kinds of different ways. From the start, it's the fairies, but there are some who have it like that, and then there are some who most of them are really really difficult, especially internal gas, which I think is something that everyone is the best at.
Laura Grubb:I'm just looking at the time, but I know there are more different types of gas. Would you like to elaborate a little bit about what the possibilities are? That's why I think the fairies know only the Cliduys and the gasmen.
Fanny Broholm:Yes, but there are a lot of different nice points within the Vagenac channel as well the G point you certainly have heard of, which is just before the start of the journey towards the stomach. It can feel a little bit calm but you can stimulate it and get some really, really nice gasmen and also the things you can get rid of gasmen if you stimulate it quite often. But the fairies and gasmen actually are cervix and gasmen, so little mother and daughter gasmen which are all the way up inside the Vagenac channel where your little mother is sitting. And when you work with the armoring and get a little bit of a break and get a little bit of a sensation of your little mother's heart, you can get some really, really nice gasmen. And it's actually also really physical, physiological, connected with the heart.
Fanny Broholm:We have this, the Vegas Nerve. I don't know what it's called in Danish, but it's very, it's very nervous, but it's just connected from the little mother's heart to the heart and further up to the heart stem. And the connection gets activated when you get cervix and gasmen. And for me it's yeah, it's spiritual gasmen, because that's where I connect my whole body, all the way up to the top with the head and can activate all the chakras. So that's the coolest thing. But it can also be really really difficult to get a lot of women because it requires a lot of pressure, openness and especially the heart connection to its partners, and it takes a long time and it also takes a certain technique to get there. So it's definitely not. There's no hierarchy in it, but it's just willing to explore. So there's also an A point and a P point in the eons and I think it's all out there.
Laura Grubb:And you hear me and I think it's a more mediate work a lot with these energy bands, yoga, and I remember running through the heart up to the tongue and down to our chakras. So it's a really good meaning that the whole body is connected and that's why it has that short five-second relief when you get a whole body experience. So where we're, down to the whole body, one thing is now there's a point, but my own perception has been just that we have integrated the heart with our partner. There's that energetic connection or we work more to simulate our energy. All of this is just I mean I can't open my eyes again to not make hierarchy, but it's actually also the chakras. Then you can still feel completely intense because we have got the whole body with us and it starts with the essence of our own body and the feeling of what you're going to get and the feeling of travel.
Fanny Broholm:And now you're calling it energy orgasm. You can say that women get an orgasm without you touching yourself, just with each other's direction. If you activate your sexual energy enough and you have just rubbed the body from your blockheads, then you can just get an orgasm with each other's direction and feel the energy running through the body. And that's also the center where you're not necessarily just sitting with your partner and can circulate sexual energy between each other. It's very difficult, but it's possible and it's insane. It's completely wild to get connected to that sexual energy, because it's like we talked about life force but we're just sitting and enjoying it.
Laura Grubb:Yes, and it can sound like you and I are sitting on a tentress pedestal and have found all the answers. I'm not sure, but that's just a bit of a big surprise. It's something we all have access to through humans.
Fanny Broholm:It's just a question of time for us to feel it 100% and especially women have really our body is really the smallest machine of commitment, if we produce it, if we take time and everyone can come there.
Laura Grubb:Yes, and I just wanted to tell you that it is interesting to see a cervical orgasm because in the cyclosis I don't know if you have noticed that it is very sexual. But life has changed too all because you are not interested in the situation, so it actually moves a bit. This is the marker you use to find out when you have no experience in the cervical loosing. So it is also exciting. I don't know if there is something there, what it does with the orgasm, for example, even if it is about the cervical loosing, there is one thing that is my sex. It is higher, and that is the cause of the female. The orgasm is a little more in the kitchen and it is actually a little more comfortable to use. So I think we should also try to use that type of orgasm.
Fanny Broholm:The tenderness to get it. I think that is my experience at least.
Laura Grubb:Okay, we are going to get to the last one, so I could not think of anything like that. There is so much to talk about, but I have all my questions, but I want to. If we look up to, what is your best advice for women who would like to start with finding more pleasure and get better?
Fanny Broholm:sex. The most important thing is to prioritize the pleasure of seeing her as important and again, it also leads to her behavior in general and her connection to the body. What do you need to have it good? What do you need to have better sex and that need to pay the card I want. Are you ready?
Fanny Broholm:I would recommend that you look around to see the need to actually come up on top of the list, because it gives energy and the need to go beyond all the other activities, because it is so important.
Fanny Broholm:In relation to that, women can take themselves seriously and their own conditions and their own boundaries, and that is really a good way to feel generally. What is important to me in life, what I need? Because that is also why I am a Purpose Coach, because when you come into contact with your needs, you also start to connect with what is important to me, what is in my world, what is there for me to get it right, what I feel that there is meaning in my life. And there is a need for a really, really good way to specifically for women who have been under pressure of their sexuality for a long time, to take our power back, to feel what is important in our lives. And, yes, how do you get a good world in a good life? And that is what I think is important to me in the top of the list 100%, and that is what most of us are trying to connect with.
Laura Grubb:And then it becomes what we are actually undermining, because we think there are other things that are important or our values are in. We have a power on the whole and, from good to good, I have a good job and at home I am skin-cleaning and all these things. To say what I want to do makes me not happy, and that is why I include sensuality, and sexuality is also my desire to include in the future, because it can be a kind of meditation, so it is just as important as we make our daily yoga, which I am inviolating to, and in yoga, when I bring that into play in Harmoni Yoga, it is really important that I sometimes set people free.
Laura Grubb:Before my womb awakening I took we should move without direction, out of the feminine and just feel what I want to do. That feeling of being really want to do it now is so tender to be in. What is it really that I do? What if I am not really wrong? What if I just go after what you want to do?
Laura Grubb:And I think that the exercises you have described in this episode are a really good place to start. What if the body could help you Absolutely? If you have not talked about pee, it just needs to pass. I do not know if you have something to say, but it is also quite insane that pee pills can also change our sexuality For some reason. It is also a good idea for that.
Fanny Broholm:I was on pee pills for a long time and I was just surprised that I did not have sex as a biberg. I also took it, as it was more sensitive, depressed. I did not have sex, but it was not super. You did not have sex? No, exactly, it turned out to be quite a good prevention, but not in the right way.
Fanny Broholm:No, exactly, it is a risk and I track my cycle. I have to get down. It was something we had planned. We started to try and the first time was a success, but I track my cycle and be sure that I do not have sex without a condom. It has worked really well for me, but it is a risk. I think you will really get in contact with your body and your body if you do not have hormones involved.
Laura Grubb:Yes, and it is actually. The hormones can also be played in relation to having sex. There can be many reasons for that, but it also depends on our level of hormones testosterone and estrogen. Some can experience it in overclocking, some can experience it in stress periods, but we do not forget them. In relation to how much sex is a kind of indicator for our health, for our menstruation cycle. Tell us about your health. I have a lot of hope. Why did my sex disappeared? Did I need to get down, touch my head a little more, be a little more or just relax? I am happy to get back when we just listen to the body instead of pressing ourselves where we cannot feel it. There are a lot of things that you miss. Yes, I miss it too. There could be a man who listened to it. Do you have any advice for him? If you are just sitting and smiling at a woman's life?
Fanny Broholm:Yes, but dive into the itan trine, dive into a special thing called semen retention, which is the smallest thing that has already happened to me. It is just Drugs, just on nature. What is it? It is a Taoist practice, which is also about coming over to the itan trine, but where you as a man wait three more weeks to get a solution. But in the three weeks where you do something that has self-cultivated, where you are kind of the target self-sufficiency, without a solution, so they lie for themselves for 1,5 hours 45 minutes and just touch their pecks, their cycles touch themselves, come down into their body, but without a solution. And then there are yoga exercises that are connected with it so that you stretch out, and also some world-threatening exercises where you get sent energy up through the back muscles because otherwise it collects all the way down and then you get a dream.
Fanny Broholm:But if you do this practice and are really really good at getting sent energy around the body and not get this solution in three weeks and then only get the solution once a month maybe, then he gets much more potent sexual desire, has much better control over his solution. There are really many, but there is premature solution and therefore you just put pressure on their core so that they will come to the conclusion that it can be succeeded. So it is really about getting good control over their solution and really good control over their reaction and generally in order to let the six energy, or the organic energy, just let the body. Every time you get a solution, he circulates it through the body, then he gets super much overshadowed, super much masculine energy, super much lust and strength. It is really a wild thing and I work with the male clins that I work with. They are the lifesavers for them.
Laura Grubb:Okay, I will continue to. I have heard about this before from Tantraen and have heard some differences after how old you are and how long you will wait. I will give you your podcast tomorrow and I will write about the quality of your book, and I will also write about the higher quality of your book if you often have solutions. So it went a bit towards Tantraen. I was a bit curious about that, but I don't know if you have any insights about that.
Fanny Broholm:No, not at all that science and this practice are not united. There is also this possibility that the process of processing is not to be too powerful if you don't often have solutions. But Tantraen has taught me that I have received this practice that if you just pull the energy away, if you are good at circulating the energy away from the experience, then there is hope. If you want to get solutions as a man and not do anything else, then hopefully there is something there. But I don't think there has been much research on the process of processing sexual energy.
Laura Grubb:Not now, and I don't know if you can continue that, but, as I understand it, a man would be that's what you said touch his peak and move, learn to circulate the energy and then be able to get solutions. Yes, that's what you said. Okay, good, we will end it. What would you say is the most important if you think about it in one sentence, or a sentence, or a sentence?
Fanny Broholm:Yes, but it is very important to go away from the old description of what sexuality is, because it is a patriarchal for the elder approach to the use of sexuality that is not given up. So really just try to forget all the old doubts about how sexuality is, to explore your body, your needs, in new ways.
Fanny Broholm:Great, and if you would like to do it with you and work with you or just let you know how you can get out of it, Primarily it is about the relationship with external communication, where there are a lot of good tips and advice and it is generally not sexual, but it is faniproharm. It is my handle so you can contact me and you can send me a private message where we can talk about it if you want to go away from it. So I make some intensive go-away with both women and men and couples and all of them.
Laura Grubb:Right, and is it most one-to-one or one-to-part?
Fanny Broholm:Well, if you are a pastor, then I work with the one and the other part together, but it is primarily individual work that I have, and then I attract people, their partners, if they have a partner.
Laura Grubb:It has continued with this, and thank you very much for sharing your wisdom with me and with the one you are with. I have been completely blind. I think it is so exciting. I pressed the last time I talked about it. I think there is so much to say, so thank you so much for being with me. Thank you for being with me, of course.
Laura Grubb:Thank you for listening to KineLeave. If you want to learn more about your syplus and hormones, you can find me on Instagram and Facebook under the name SnappleLavagroupdk, or visit me on my website, laugagroupdk. We see you in this style of snitch.