Honoring Your Feelings And Building Resilience

In this episode, Tanya candidly discusses the challenges of juggling responsibilities, exploring the relentless pursuit of productivity and the importance of rest. The episode also emphasizes the significance of self-care as the backbone of resilience, as Tanya recounts setbacks and how she transformed challenges into opportunities for growth. Listeners will discover nurturing practices to incorporate into their daily routines and embrace a growth mindset to thrive in the face of adversity.

 Listen in as I share my personal breakthroughs, the moments of anxiety and pressure, and the pivotal realization that self-compassion is a journey many of us are still navigating.

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Welcome to Tea with Tanya. I'm your host, tanya Ambrose, an average millennial navigating life as a maternal health professional, non-profit founder and grad student. Join me in the tea tasting room where we spill the tea on finding balance and promoting positive living while doing it all. Hey friend, welcome back to another episode of Tea with Tanya. Thank you for joining me here in the Tea Tasting Room. As you know, it's always a pleasure whenever I get to meet up with you in the Tea Tasting Room for us to spill some tea and talk about all things transforming every aspect.

Speaker 1: 0:41

I'm going to put a disclaimer out before we get into today's episode. Your girl, your friend, tanya, she's been going through it, honey. She's been going through it since the year started, like she just been. I don't know what's going on, but you know what One thing about her she's going to hold on to her faith and she's going to keep pushing and she's going to keep being resilient, which, ironic enough, today's episode is all about honoring your feelings and building resilience. It's a solo episode, so it's just you and I here talking today.

Speaker 1: 1:12

I feel like the last few episodes of this season I've had some amazing guests. You didn't understand how proud I am of myself, of the podcast, for you showing up. We celebrated 100 episodes. I am still trying to wrap my mind around that, so I don't know, man, it's just crazy. So I want to thank you for your continued support. Thank you for your feedback. I do want you to leave that feedback in the review rate the podcast, because that's how I'm going to continue to grow and evolve here in the Tea Tasting Room. So I definitely want to give you a special, special shout out and thank you for tuning in weekly to the Tea with Tanya podcast. And, of course, you want to make sure that you're telling a friend to tell a friend as we continue on this journey to transforming every aspect. But yes, today's episode is going to be all about honoring your feelings and building resilience.

Speaker 1: 2:02

But before I get into that, I do want to give you a brief life update, as we can call it. Listen, first of all, I'm recording this episode. I'm going to be transparent. I was contemplating if I wanted to put it in the episode or not, but your girl is going through it as it relates to the migraines. Like I've had a few months without a migraine, or if I had a headache, it was nothing like a headache, because you know what, maybe a hunger headache or whatever the case may be. But I am currently on, I want to say, maybe day six, day six of a migraine and let me tell you when it's severe, listen, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know what's going on with me. But prepare your girl, send her some good energy, send her some healing energy, because this migraine is trying to take me out and I cannot afford that.

Speaker 1: 2:53

Because, first of all one we are in the best month, the month of May. We know the month of May includes Tanya's birthday. You know, where are my Gemini people at? Where are my Gemini people? Definitely, when you hear this episode, go to the Facebook page or the Instagram page and comment on the first post that you see and let me know. If you're a Gemini, if you're just a Mayborn girly, let me know. But it's the best month because it has in my birthday.

Speaker 1: 3:17

And then I also I am getting ready to go back home for my non-profit Scalp Life Cares Grow With the Flow Women and Girls Health Expo, so I'm looking forward to that. I often say that I'm now sharing a birthday with Squab Life Cares, because our event is the day before my birthday. Last year the event was the day after my birthday, so at this point it's just going to be a big celebration. So I definitely I'm looking forward to going back to Antigua the heat I'm not really looking forward to, but at least I can go to the beach when I want to and I can have that cool sea breeze, versus here where I'm just melting from all angles. So definitely I'm looking forward to this month I will be announcing the winner for the 100 episode giveaway. That's going to be on the next episode, so make sure you stay tuned and if you want to enter, you definitely have to share the Instagram post that says 100 giveaway. Tag me, tag the page, leave a review, rate it, send me the screenshot and that's how you are able to enter that giveaway and we have some goodies coming to one lucky winner. So I am encouraging you to make sure you enter that giveaway. Now, when I say have a mind win, I'm pushing through recording this episode, right, but I'm thinking, as I'm thinking about the episode, about honoring your feelings and building resilience. I don't. I have made it to the end of a semester. I don't know how it happened when it happened. I have made it to the end of a semester. I don't know how it happened when it happened, but your girl, I made it. I have made it my friend. I have literally got to the end of the semester.

Speaker 1: 5:01

This semester was challenging for so many reasons on a professional front, on academic front and just especially on a personal front. But this semester I had one class that I was taking and I absolutely honestly despised this class, and that was my health economics class. Let me tell you, that class was just, I don't know man. I lost hope and I was like you know what, lord, please, I do not want to have to repeat a class in grad school, because you know the overachieving me, you know, know, I know your friend is an overachiever. The overachieving me was just I cannot afford to fail this class. But lo and behold, your girl is on the winning side. I am on the passing side. So I have passed all my classes this semester. I mean, I wasn't expecting any less, but that health economics class had me trembling for for for the entire semester. But your girl came out on top. I have passed all my classes and I've been able to make connections with my peers and also with my professors as well. So that has been a really good, good, good thing to happen to me this semester.

Speaker 1: 5:55

But let me tell you it was challenging. But one thing I'm going to do I am going to turn a stumbling block into stepping stone and I'm going to be persistent. And, of course, that's where that resiliency, that resilience come in when it comes to me, because I know the goal ahead and, of course, even if I had to fail at class, it wouldn't have been the end of the world Although lucky, it would have been the end of the world for me for a couple of weeks. But I think passing the class just showed, it exposed a lot of things. When it comes to me, I realized I can no longer like sometimes I bullshit. When it comes to some classes I'm just going to keep it real.

Speaker 1: 6:31

And that was one of the classes that I was like you know what? I can't. I just went into the class, that particular class, with a negative mindset because again, I hate economics, anything economics and I'm like why do I have to do this? I know I'm going to need it in the future, of course, especially if I'm here running a non-profit as well, but I think I had to play catch-up towards the end of the semester and I didn't like how that made me feel you know the stress that I was under and everything but it taught me that you know I am resilient. Anything that I can put my mind to I am going to get it done. So I just want to give you an update on that, because I know you've been following me along this grad school journey and let me tell you, this semester had me shaking in my boots, but I came out on top and I'm ready for the next semester because I'm in my last year. Once the next semester comes around, that's going to be my last year of grad school and before you know it, it will be graduation time. So I am definitely looking forward to that.

Speaker 1: 7:30

And also, let me just share the tea of the week, because we still be sipping our tea in the tea tasting room and actually the tea of the month is going to be dandelion tea. Something about dandelion tea. Like I keep thinking about that dream that I had with my grandmother when she told me I needed to drink dandelion tea. Term. I needed to drink dandelion tea, so I'm trying to make sure my skin is right, my body is right, make sure that my health is intact, because I'm going home and I'm intending to not only be a tourist in my country, but there's so many things going on while I'm there. I have my nonprofit event, and then my nonprofits got black kids. We got special accreditation from the United Nations to attend the Small Island Development States United Nation Conference, which is going to be held in Antigua as well. So I definitely want to ensure that I have all my energy so that I can be networking and rubbing shoulders with some of the amazing world leaders that we have. So I got to mention I'm okay. So the tea of choice for this month is Dandy Lion Tea.

Speaker 1: 8:21

All right, let's get into today's episode. Let's talk about honoring your feelings and building resilience, and when I was thinking about this episode, it made me realize, like I said again, you know, it's all about the transformative power of just honoring your feelings and working towards building resilience. You know, and I think for me, when I think about, what it means to honor my feelings, that means allowing my emotions or allowing your emotions to be acknowledged, and you can feel that without any sort of judgment or suppression. And for me, I've known. I've been known to suppress my emotions most time because one I know I am aware that we're all going through something. I know I am aware that we're all going through something and sometimes when I'm feeling overwhelmed or I have whatever, whatever the emotion is, my first thing sometimes is to either reach out to my sisters or to my closest friends, sometimes just to vent or just to have them pour into me. But also what I realized that is that, yes, I do have a great support system, but even if I'm telling or explaining to them how I'm feeling, I personally am not necessarily honoring my feelings. Sometimes my intention behind that is for me to vent to them, have them pour into me whatever way. But then also it goes to the other ear not necessarily taking in what they're saying, or sometimes because I haven't had the time to actually sit in or with my emotions, sometimes I don't know how to process it, or sometimes I'm playing catch up to my emotions, if I can be honest. So think about it this way you know, if you're sitting in a quiet room, like I am right now, and then you know you're trying to tune into your emotions, you want to attack that with some compassion Because, again, you know, when we have any sort of compassion as it relates to our emotion, it helps us to actually sit and feel and work through our emotions. You know what I mean. Like for me.

Speaker 1: 10:13

Sometimes, let's say, I have a feeling of being overwhelmed, or I'm feeling sad, or I'm feeling angry about something. Because one thing about me sometimes I tend to overcommit and I'm not realizing that my overcommitment sometimes, and I'm always thinking about the next. For instance, I've been out of school. I had no assignments to turn in for a week now and for some reason my anxiety and my stress levels are still high because for the last several months I've been on autopilot trying to make sure I'm passing all my classes, trying to make sure that I'm productive at work, trying to ensure that I'm going to a Tanya podcast, trying to ensure that I'm going to T with Tanya podcast, trying to ensure that I'm going to go back and ensure that I'm setting myself up for success, because I've gotten so used to always being on the go over and over and over and over.

Speaker 1: 11:06

Now that I have something that's off of my plate for the next couple of months, I am still operating at a high stress level, if that makes sense. I'm like, well, you know what? I can come home from my nine to five, I can work on something for my nonprofit, I can do something for the podcast, and then I can legitimately R-E-S-T, I can legitimately rest. But am I resting? No, because I'm thinking. My brain keeps going, going, going, thinking that I have something to do, and I also have that feeling that I'm missing something. But again, I also what I realized because I was reading this book and I've been reading this book for months.

Speaker 1: 11:40

Guys, let me tell you I've been trying to finish this book, but the timing, but I was finally done and it's called, it's On Me Accept Hard Truths, discover Yourself and Change your Life. And that's by Sarah Kubrick. She's also known as a millennial therapist on social media. But I got to the end of the book and there was an activity that she said you know, sometimes we have to turn toward ourselves. And I'm thinking to myself why am I so stressed? Why do I feel so anxious? Why am I thinking about the next thing? But yes, to kind of even place my finger on the next thing as well, and that's because what I'm not taking the time to really sit and see how I feel.

Speaker 1: 12:20

Like when I got one, when I got the particular grade that I got for my health economics class, I was like the first thing I did was I took a screenshot, send it to my therapist and I was like you know, I'm ready to die. That was a joke, I was being dramatic, to be quite honest. But again the overachieving me was like, wow, you know, how are you feeling this way? Or how did you even get this grade? But, granted, when I was praying for me to pass said class, because I'm like, you know, an A in this class is not even achievable at this point, because you came into this class with a particular mindset, so you're not playing catch up. And even if you play catch up, you know my third, whatever her response was to me and I remember saying like, wow, you know, I think she said something about Tanya, these are amazing grades, this is something you should celebrate. And I was like an amazing grade where at Like? How is this an amazing grade when I, you know, I don't like, I don't like it, you know I don't.

Speaker 1: 13:10

I wanted to get a particular grade. And I remember her just telling me Tanya, take some time to bask in this moment, take some time to actually see how you feel about all what you had going on in your life and you were still able to come out on top with these grades. You know what I mean. So that's something that I think I was so caught up in the failure and I didn't allow myself to acknowledge how I was feeling or even acknowledge the emotions. I think I kind of also suppress them, like you know what, whatever F this grade or I'm thinking about the next semester in the class, I became so fixated on checking to see what did I register for, because I'm like you know what when I go into this class, I got to get an A, I got to get an A, I got to get an A, and at this point I'm just I keep suppressing, like you know, how do you feel about your approach to this semester? Right, and I think for me, when it comes to again honoring my feelings and I want you to think about this too it's about creating a safe space in order for you to tune into your emotions with compassion and acceptance, because sometimes, sometimes we do feel, we do have our feelings.

Speaker 1: 14:19

We're going to go through the emotion, especially as women and child police. These emotions are going to go up and down, up and down day in, day out, but it's about approaching said emotion with compassion and acceptance. And I remember thinking to myself that I'm like a great support, I'm a great supporting cast when it comes to my friends or just anything in general, and I just remember that I'm always there, no matter what I'm going through. If somebody's calling me and they need a listen you know, sometimes it's not even an advice, it's just somebody to vent I often make sure that I create that safe space to allow them to be able to feel their emotions, them to be able to feel their emotions, and I often greet them with compassion and I'm accepting what it is that they're telling me, without essentially not putting any pressure on them or, you know, making them feel bad or whatever. And I can, if I can, approach other people with compassion and acceptance and also, you know, being there for them.

Speaker 1: 15:14

In that sense, why can't I have them, allowing them to process what they're going through? Why is it that I cannot create a safe space for myself to actually become more in tune with my emotion and give myself compassion? Because, let me tell you, I suck at giving myself any sort of compassion, like I'm not gonna leave an idea, like I'm on the podcast and I, you know, sometimes I'm encouraging you and I'm living my life. I'm living whatever I'm telling you on the podcast. It's the truth. But I also, you know, of course I will say space can still have some sort of principles or some sort of you know boundaries and whatnot. But I want to.

Speaker 1: 15:48

This is just me saying you know what, I'm not perfect and sometimes, even when I'm gassing somebody or I'm supporting somebody, I'm not always in the best mind frame. I'm not always in the best mind frame. Sometimes do I allow myself to tell people you know what today's not the day. I'm not in the mood, like I've been having a migraine for, like I said, the last five, six days and I've had people messaging me, texting me. Like I'm being pulled in many different directions, especially, as you know, being a nonprofit founder and going planning the event and these different things. And I did not have the capacity because the migraine was just taking me up. But I didn't allow myself to accept how I was feeling. I was trying to either suppress that feeling or trying to work past the feeling without working through the feeling.

Speaker 1: 16:33

So, when it comes to the experience of honoring your feelings, you know, when you honor your feelings, you may end up experiencing a wide range of sensations or some sort of emotions and what can be positive and challenging challenges in my personal life and not ensuring how to process certain things or not allowing myself to embrace the vulnerability that I was experiencing or even acknowledging the discomfort as part of the process. And I think sometimes, when you're trying to move past a particular situation, you know I've seen the girl who's on TikTok say, oh, you know F this or F that. And I'm like you know I'm not an F this or F that person because I'm going to try to sit there, I'm gonna try to figure out the why, I'm gonna try to question everything, but also I don't I don't allow myself to be vulnerable, like acknowledge how uncomfortable processing whether it's hurt or grief or whatever it is how uncomfortable it can be, because the minute it becomes uncomfortable, I'm ready to. But yes, so I can provide a safe space for individual who's going through something that may be uncomfortable and I'm helping them process it and helping them work through that. So, in other words, I'm not sitting here.

Speaker 1: 17:46

I had to learn a big lesson within the last month and a half or so, if that long, about what it meant to experience honoring my feeling and what it meant to embrace vulnerability and acknowledging discomfort as part of the process, because, let me tell you, it was not comfortable at all. But you know, I had to get back into my journaling bag. I had to. There are days when I cry. I just cried and cried and cried. Let me tell you, the shower did not see me and not see tears there, like when I say crying, like boo-hoo, crying, screaming or crying. Thankfully I live alone, so nobody's going to be hearing me crying. And sometimes I just don't even know what it comes from, because I'm processing that, that grief or that hurt or whatever it is.

Speaker 1: 18:25

It becomes this uncomfortable and I think the minute I started acknowledging, like you know, what this is not meant to be easy, it's going to be uncomfortable the minute I started accepting that, I think that's when I started to improve in other areas of my life, you know, because it takes a lot of courage to honor your feelings. It takes courage to even confront the uncomfortable truth and even to embrace that vulnerability, and I think what I've learned is that courage allows us to face our emotions head on and find strength and resilience in the process. I'm going to say this again Courage allows us to face our emotions head on and find strength and resilience in the process. I'm going to say this again Courage allows us to face our emotions head on and find strength and resilience in the process. So that's definitely like I say, it's going to be uncomfortable, but it allows us to face that emotion head on so that we can continue to find the strength. And that's where, you know, building resilient comes in to play. I think, when we honor our feelings, it should come as a way, it should mean that we're empowering ourselves. It's going to empower you, it's going to empower me to reclaim our personal agency and just really and truly become that how should I say really become that, you know, architect of your emotional landscape, and that's something that I read in that same book that I mentioned earlier as well. You know, it helps to liberate us from any sort of constraints of judgment, and it also allows us to embrace the full spectrum of emotions, because we're humans and we're going to be emotional. We're women, we're going to be emotional as well. So you definitely want to think about ways in which you can embark on like a journey to exploring yourself and having emotional acceptance, like for me right now.

Speaker 1: 20:03

I am in the ego, where I am working towards being. I mean, I've always been my authentic self, don't get me wrong. But I've also said on the podcast sometimes I find myself adjusting and adapting or changing, sometimes depending on the environment, and I decided that I no longer wanted to subscribe to that. I cannot subscribe to adjusting, adapting, shape changing to accommodate somebody else's emotions or feelings, or just them as a person or the situation. I have to continue to show up as my most authentic self and I think, when it comes to resilience, again, it's not about suppressing your emotions or pretending everything is fine.

Speaker 1: 20:44

Because let me tell you, go back to when I failed on the nursing school. I thought my world was coming to an end. I was depressed, I didn't know what to do, I thought my life was over and I remember hearing my aunt say sometimes you have to just turn your stumbling block into stepping stone. And since then, where I am currently in my life, I don't think I was ready for what I thought I was ready for back in 2014, 2015,. To be quite honest. You know what I mean.

Speaker 1: 21:11

So I think it comes down to acknowledging our feelings and responding to them with strength and grace. And that's what resilience is to me as well, because you know, we live in a fire space world where there's a bunch of distraction. There's like an abundance of distractions. Like, let me tell you me, I get distracted so easy. It's crazy. There's an abundance of distraction and sometimes some of these expectations that are placed on us are really really high. So it's very easy for us to overlook our emotional well-being. Ie me, no-transcript. It's just not right. Whether it's your experience in joy, or this sorrow or anger, or even fear, I feel like each emotion has its own story to tell, and that's what I've been learning just from reading that book and just analyzing where I am in my life.

Speaker 1: 22:11

Sometimes we tend to silence the voices for fearing of judgment or rejection, because, let me tell you, nothing hurts more than not only being judged, but nothing hurts more than rejection. Okay, but I feel like, instead of that, what if? Instead of like shunning our feelings, how about we embrace them wholeheartedly, because that's who we are. We cannot pretend ourselves to not, we cannot pretend to not be ourselves. So how about. We embrace them with our whole heart, like we're not going to back down. This is what life has given me. This is how I'm feeling. That fear of judgment or that rejection is going to hurt like hell, and it's going to hurt like hell for a while. But the minute you start embracing them, let me tell you, when I say I'm taking things one moment at a time, I'm encouraging you, my friend, to also take things one moment at a time when it comes to that. Things, one moment at a time when it comes to that.

Speaker 1: 23:02

So, when it comes to resilience, you know, contrary to popular belief, you know, it's not about always bouncing back just from adversity. If so, you know, as if nothing happened. You know, it's about embracing the lessons learned, which is what I had to do the last couple of months. It's about growing from our experiences. It's about, you know, emerging stronger than before. So think of and I had a friend tell me this, you know. So think of resilience as a muscle that you know requires regular exercise. You know I'm in the gym three, four days a week, but think of resilience as a muscle that requires, you know, regular exercise. So it's like, you know, the more we practice. The more we practice, you know, the more I'm going to the gym, I'm seeing changes. I'm seeing, like you know okay, my legs are a little bit tall, my arms. So the more we practice facing life's challenges, especially head on, the stronger our resilience becomes.

Speaker 1: 23:52

Because sometimes I think for me I was using the word you know I'm resilient, but I don't think I understood exactly what it meant for me, especially in my current phase of life. So, when you think about how we can cultivate resilience in our daily lives, you know it's really through self-care and I know that word is often overused. But you know, when it comes to nurturing your physical, your mental and emotional well-being, that essentially lays the foundation for, in order for resilience to thrive. You know what did that mean? Getting enough sleep For me, my sleep schedule. As we know, in this podcast your friend has been up and down with her sleep schedule. You know, when it comes to this about whether you're getting enough sleep, it's about how often are you practicing mindfulness? That's one thing that I fell off at one point in the beginning of the year, but I am back on my mindfulness practice and I'm very consistent, and now I'm realizing that you know what it's starting to pull me back out of how I was feeling. You know what I mean. So you want to practice mindfulness consistently. You want to engage in activities that's going to bring you joy.

Speaker 1: 24:52

Prioritizing self-care should really and truly be a non-negotiable part of your routine, and I've said this before on the podcast and I'm pretty sure you've heard this many, many times. But for me, now, I think, self-care takes on a whole new meaning. A whole new meaning for me, especially just from when the years started to where I am now, like I'm legitimately prioritizing self-care. Self-care can look different for everyone, but it is now a non-negotiable part of my routine. Because one I can't afford to be out here with a migraine, honey, like I'm talking to you and this migraine is like knocking me, telling me girl, you need to go sleep or you need to go lay down and be still. But I cannot, like I can no longer continue my life without making sure that I'm taking care. I'm taking regular care of myself.

Speaker 1: 25:35

You know, another key aspect of resilience, as I've been working on myself these last few months, is about fostering a growth mindset. So instead of, you know, viewing our setbacks as some sort of obstacles and sometimes they may be to keep it real, but instead of viewing them like obstacles, maybe we can look at them as opportunities for growth and learning. And that's what I've been doing when I say sometimes I'm telling you this now, friend, but it wasn't easy. But I look at these setbacks as opportunities for growth and learning, because I often say, you know what? I tend to learn the hard way and I'm tired of learning the hard way, but again, it's just about using them as an opportunity for me to learn, because, at the end of the day, it's not about avoiding failure, because sometimes we cannot avoid failure, but it's more about embracing that, or embracing it as a natural part of the journey toward success.

Speaker 1: 26:30

And I wholeheartedly believe that because, again, when I think about my time from being in nursing school to where I am now, get ready to finish my master's of public health degree and you know it's just I cannot, I don't think I was ready, and I think you know, when it comes to really and truly being resilient like I think and I know I am a resilient young individual because I've had many failures, I've had many setbacks, but the beauty about it is that I've learned from every single failure and every setback. Was it always easy for me to accept the failure? Absolutely not, especially if I'm an overachiever like myself. However, what has brought me peace, and has been bringing me peace to an extent, is just knowing that I am who I am. I am relearning who I am because, again, we're all evolving and as I continue to evolve, sometimes I'm learning about new things about myself, the way I even handle certain situation in my life. Now, like me, for maybe a year and a half ago two years would not be handling some of the situations that I'm facing now the way I am right now. So I want you to just think about resilience as not always about avoiding failure, but rather it's embracing it as a part of the natural journey towards your success, because that is very, very important For me.

Speaker 1: 27:54

In one of my classes this semester, I had to talk about the different signature strengths and I think, when you look inward yourself and you think about what are my signature strengths, think about it. You know these are qualities that make you who you are, whether that's creativity, whether that's kindness, whether it's perseverance. One of my favorite phrases is perseverance is key. And then you know, of course, each of us possess some sort of unique strength that contribute to our resilience. So when we're acknowledging and nurturing these strengths, you know, of course each of us possess some sort of unique strength that contribute to our resilience. So when we're acknowledging and nurturing these strengths, you know, it helps to tap into, you know, your inner resilience and that's going to empower you, empower us, to overcome even the most daunting challenges.

Speaker 1: 28:33

You know, I think one of my signature strengths at the time this was more for leadership. I remember thinking, I remember listing one as social intelligence and that's the core value. The core value of social intelligence is about the foundation of effective leadership and especially for me in the area that I work in. You know what I mean. I'm aware of my emotions, I'm aware of my intentions and that, if my list of my coworkers or my members in my organization, you know, it's about ensuring that I make everyone feel comfortable and part of the work. So when we come to the tea tasting room, again, I'm really tapping into that social intelligence because I want to ensure that you're comfortable and you are part of the tea tasting room just as much as I am. You know what I mean. I like to promote a collaborative leadership, you know, as it makes everyone feel valued, meaningful and irrelevant as well. So that was one of my signature that I spoke about in class as well. You know, when I think about you know it had me dig deep to think about.

Speaker 1: 29:33

Wow, what are some of my signature strengths as it relates to even my professional life? You know, one of them is teamwork. You know one of them is teamwork. You know, again, working as a team. It's very important and when I say team, a team doesn't have to always be just who you're working with directly with your coworkers. On the last episode, I spoke with Gianna about community. Again, sometimes we have to break away from the conventional boundaries and just think about who makes up my community, what can I do? Who makes up my village? You know what I mean. So teamwork, again, doesn't always mean like you're not working in a group as a for a class project or whatever the case may be.

Speaker 1: 30:06

It's very important that you know you, you tap into to your signature strength. One of them was one of mine was I. I think I put love. You know, in expressing love, I I am committed to highlighting, like you know, the personal narratives and stories here in the podcast that tends to exemplify triumphs and challenges of anyone. As we're here working towards transforming our every aspect, my intention is always to focus on compassion. Like I said, when I do that, it's allowing for a deeper emotional connection, especially with you listening to this episode. So I'm really just trying to tap into my signature strength and I do encourage you to do the same. Think about what it could be Like. I say it could be creativity, it could be kindness, it could be perseverance.

Speaker 1: 30:53

Again, we all have some unique strength that's going to contribute to our resilience, because finding your resilience is not about waiting for that perfect moment or that circumstance like, oh, I failed today or I failed this class. No, it's about embracing that journey of self-discovery and personal growth, one step at a time, or even one moment at a time. One thing and I'll leave you guys with this one thing that I've been doing recently is by I've been taking small moments of introspection in my daily life, like I say again, that's that mindfulness practice, the journaling, the meditation. You know, sometimes I go for a walk, like I mentioned when I had my training here a few episodes ago. I really do look forward to that one hour of workout because it helps me to connect, you know, sometimes, with my inner wisdom. It's just really a beautiful thing when you tap into who you are and realizing that you are resilient no matter what, but finding out what resilient means to you.

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So as we go, you know, I want to invite you, friend, to really and truly embrace your uniqueness. Friend, to really and truly embrace your uniqueness, honor your values and definitely nurture those signature strengths of who you are, your core values, because in doing that you'll be able to unlock endless amount of resilience that resides within you, because sometimes life is tough, life is life and honey, but as you continue to tap into your inner resilience, it's going to guide you through the different ups and downs of life and definitely take you to that next level of being strong, of honoring your feelings. Some days we can be sad, we can be happy, we can just be over it. It's about acknowledging and honoring those feelings and doing whatever is right for you as a person, right. So I want to leave you with this.

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You know, honoring your feelings is not a sign of weakness, but rather it is a testament to your strength and resilience. So I want you to embrace everything, the full spectrum when it comes to emotions that make you human and let them guide you on your path to growth and development and empowerment. And remember you know your girl, tanya. We are on this journey. Everything's not going to be the same. I could be the most positive, optimistic person and I promise you I am but sometimes I have my days. So I want to tell you that honoring your feelings is not a sign of weakness. So, as we're going into this week, this is your mantra, this is your quote for the week and even for two other months, as we're on this journey. But I want you to know that honoring your feelings is not a sign of weakness, but rather a testament to your strength and resilience. Embrace the full spectrum, my friend, of your emotions that make you human and let them guide you on your path to growth, empowerment and development.

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