264: How to Get Your Story Right from the Start: Jada Pinkett Smith and the Cost of Inconsistent Storytelling
Oct 24, 2023
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In this episode of the Indestructible PR Podcast, we delve into two critical aspects of public communication that often trip up those in the spotlight.
First, we explore the case of Jada Pinkett Smith and her "Today" show interviews. Her inconsistent narrative about her marriage serves as a striking example of the potential repercussions of failing to align public statements with the truth. The episode offers a comprehensive look at the complexities of managing both a personal life and a public persona. It draws invaluable lessons on the importance of factual, consistent storytelling, particularly when under public scrutiny.
Building on that, the episode also features an in-depth discussion with an industry insider who recently spoke to The Wrap, a renowned Hollywood publication. This segment uncovers the weighty moral and ethical responsibilities celebrities carry when they comment on complex geopolitical matters. Through a personal experience involving the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, our guest reveals the dangers and pitfalls of speaking on topics one may not be entirely educated on. The conversation serves as a cautionary tale emphasizing the importance of due diligence before taking any public stances, especially on polarizing issues.
Together, these discussions provide actionable strategies and penetrating analyses that are useful not just for celebrities, but also for politicians, social media influencers, and business leaders. As all of these groups must navigate the perilous tightrope of public expectations while maintaining personal integrity, this episode serves as an essential guide for anyone interested in mastering the art of public communication.
In this episode of the Indestructible PR Podcast, we delve into two critical aspects of public communication that often trip up those in the spotlight.
First, we explore the case of Jada Pinkett Smith and her "Today" show interviews. Her inconsistent narrative about her marriage serves as a striking example of the potential repercussions of failing to align public statements with the truth. The episode offers a comprehensive look at the complexities of managing both a personal life and a public persona. It draws invaluable lessons on the importance of factual, consistent storytelling, particularly when under public scrutiny.
Building on that, the episode also features an in-depth discussion with an industry insider who recently spoke to The Wrap, a renowned Hollywood publication. This segment uncovers the weighty moral and ethical responsibilities celebrities carry when they comment on complex geopolitical matters. Through a personal experience involving the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, our guest reveals the dangers and pitfalls of speaking on topics one may not be entirely educated on. The conversation serves as a cautionary tale emphasizing the importance of due diligence before taking any public stances, especially on polarizing issues.
Together, these discussions provide actionable strategies and penetrating analyses that are useful not just for celebrities, but also for politicians, social media influencers, and business leaders. As all of these groups must navigate the perilous tightrope of public expectations while maintaining personal integrity, this episode serves as an essential guide for anyone interested in mastering the art of public communication.
This was the moment when I went but it was a divorce. So from the year 2016, which is seven years ago now yes. You all have been apart. Yeah, this was the moment when I went, it may not be the divorce on paper anymore. There's no divorce on paper. I mean, not on paper. There might not be divorce in theory anymore. Yeah, no, we really have been working hard. Oh, see, well, I didn't know that. We might totally miss that on the whole. Wait, so wait, just so I'm 100% clear, you were divorced not on paper. But now we might be a point where we're back together. We are working very hard at bringing our relationship yes, bringing our relationship to back to a place where we are completely confused. Welcome to the indestructible PR podcast. I'm your host, Molly McPherson, your crisis communication strategist. Join me as we dig into the latest breaking news and pop culture stories, unraveling the public relations strategies behind them. Let's extract valuable PR lessons so we can all learn how to build an indestructible reputation. Today, we're diving into a topic that has taken over the headlines, at least from an entertainment news perspective. And that is the Jada Pinkett Smith interview on the Today show. And that is the Jada Pinkett Smith interview on the Today show. And that is the Jada Pinkett Smith Primetime special on NBC. And that is the interview on the NBC Today show. Hyping, the primetime special on NBC. I have never seen NBC give such clearance to one actor, at least in recent times. All I wanted to know was, what on earth is NBC getting out of this deal? Like, is Will coming on to say something else? Or did some agent or some agency, like broker some other celebrity? Like, holy Molly. Jada Pinkett Smith, the wife of Will Smith, sat down for this interview with Today Show co anchor. Ahota, copy. Now, personally, I like Jada Smith or Jada Pinkett Smith. I like her. I'm going way back to a different world days. I have always, always liked her. What I don't like is the recent Jada Pinkett Smith, who is a woman and celebrity who is always standing in truth and always talking about authenticity. Yet what this interview revealed is that she isn't quite as transparent as she should be or that the public expects her to be. So in this podcast, let's talk about the challenges and risks of media appearances when you have to navigate your private life and your public persona. Now, I know this isn't going to relate to all of you, but it's not just A list celebrities here. You could be a politician. You could be a content creator on social media with a following. You could run a business, you could own a business. If you are a face of something, if you say one thing and do another, people could call you out for it. So same type of thing, but this aspect that we're looking at relates, know, more personal, something of the more personal nature, which is her marriage to Will Smith, one who I would argue is the more popular of the couple. Now, this podcast inspired by a recent article that I wrote for Forbes, it's published now, and I have the link in the show notes. It's titled Jada Pinkett Smith Interviews the Cost of Inconsistent Storytelling. That's my angle. I don't want to get into as much about the culture aspect, though I wish I could based on who I interviewed. Honestly, there are 20 stories within a story about this. But the lane that I'm picking and I'm sticking with is my lane, which is public relations crisis management. Jada Pinkett Smith sat down for an interview with the Today Show with Hoda Copy for Primetime for her to promote a book. It was a promotional publicity tour for a book. It was all the P's she wanted to promote and pitch. This was all about publicity. However, she landed in a crisis because she got caught. I'm going to call it being deceptive during this interview. So let's talk about the challenges of media appearances. Now, I'm recording this interview right after I hopped off an interview myself, so I have a much deeper sense of the importance of this. I spoke with Brittany Lewis. So she's the host of It's Been A Minute on NPR. I appeared on her program last week and we talked about celebrity and publicity. It was great. It was a great interview. I love speaking with her. But Brittany reached out to me again to speak about the art of the corporate state in light of what's happening with Israel and Hamas. She noted that there were some corporations, sports teams, celebrities who are speaking out and some who are not. And she wanted to get into just the navigating of a public statement, particularly when we're viewing such atrocities. I don't know, I was kind of hedging a little on going on this program because I haven't made any public statements at all. I haven't done anything, I haven't tweeted anything, I haven't retweeted, I haven't posted, I haven't even commented on it. And that's ironic, right? It's very ironic. I should be telling people how to do that. Now. I will say I did publicly comment on it from an expert point of view in public relations when I was given a phone call about this topic. So this does tie in to Jada's media interview in the sense that it can be very perilous when you are not prepared for the questions or if you're not even prepared to be open about what you're talking about or don't really have a lot of knowledge in it. So a little side story here. So I was contacted two weeks ago now about a story. It was from The Rap, which is a Hollywood publication. They wanted to speak to me about studio heads coming out and making comments about what was happening in Israel and Palestine. So at that time, one thing that also that I'd mentioned on this NPR interview was that what's different about this case here, we have this complex geopolitical issue that is really at the bottom of what's happening here, but people feel the need that they need to weigh in on a very complex topic. And so in my case, I had to weigh in on it myself, and I'll admit I was not prepared to do so. So this is the cobbler without the shoes moment and how I ended up in that situation. I was driving back from Boston. It was at night one, it was at night, and I was in bumper to bumper traffic, and I get a phone call on my business line, and I let it go, and then I get another call on my business line. So when people repeatedly call, you think, okay, this is important. This is emergency. But I've learned a lesson. Like Molly. Don't answer. Don't answer, because that's the journalist call. Like, I'm going to get you, and I'm going to keep calling you to do it. Well, she was likely I think she didn't leave a message the first time. She wanted to leave a message, but I foolishly answered the phone. And it was Sharon Waxman who wanted my take because she had said that the Warner Brothers Discovery CEO David Zasloff came out with a statement about what was happening, and he said the terrorist attack, quote, the terrorist attacks by Hamas on innocent men, women, children and babies have been unimaginable, abhorrent and inexcusable. Many have lost their lives, and others have been taken hostage and remain unaccounted for. And then other studios started to jump in with their quotes while we were during this interview. And I was telling her, I said, I'm not prepared to talk about this. Like, I'm in a car. I have to get somewhere. Can I call you back when I get home? And she really, really wanted that quote, which I get because she was juggling it, because here she had me on the phone, but she also was trying to get statements from studio heads, right? So she's thinking, I need to speak to, you know, he's the head of Tower. He's the one who was portrayed on Entourage. She's not going to say, oh, sure, Molly, you put me on your schedule. But I insisted. And she kept talking to me, because that's what journalists do, right? They want to just keep you talking. But thankfully, her other line beeped in. She goes, okay, I have to call you back. I'm like whoo? I was saved by some studio I had representative out there. But just as that happened, I happened to be talking to a journalist friend of mine who came in during that break there. And when he called, I said, oh, such timing, such timing. I said, hey, let me ask you this. If someone were to ask you a question about what your thoughts are on the Israeli Hamas conflict war, you know, at that time it was still conflict, what would you say? And so it was good to have that conversation and say it out in the open. And I will give him credit, credit to Greg. He talked about the humanity behind Know, that it is fraught with trouble for you because if you get on the wrong side of the issue, you're going to get not just backlash, you're going to get extreme backlash. And there are definitely celebrities and people out there who are standing on one side. And in the case of the story, because the head who was talking, they happened to be Jewish, it's reasonable that they would stand in support of Israel. And at that time, because timing comes into these things, the footage that we saw at that time was only these young people getting taken from this concert. So that was the narrative then. So it was different at that moment, but it certainly changed even the other day, the attack, the airstrike on the hospital that killed over 500 people. So with each day in this war, it is more and more difficult and fraught with risk if you take a side. And so she came back on the phone and I was able to give her quotes with the help of my journalist to get actually, I have to give it all to him. I gave him credit for the interview as well. But now back to Jada. Now Jada is talking about her marriage, which we can hardly compare to what's happening with the atrocities over that we're watching, but there is the risk of reputation. I mean, it doesn't matter. I mean, it's important to Jada. I mean, her career is important to her, and if you're sitting down for an interview, it's important to you as well. Okay, so as she was sitting down to promote her memoir, Worthy, she had to talk about something that she talks about a lot, and that is her is about her marriage. And in the conversations that she has about her marriage and Will's marriage, it's always about how strong their union is. Even though they have not shied away from some of the controversies or some of the entanglements that they've had in the past, they have presented a very united front, the two of them and also their family. Because both of their kids, Jaden and Willow also. I saw this on Twitter. Someone said Willow is named after Will and Jaden's named after Jada. I have never noticed this. I've never noticed this. And yet it's so obvious. It's so obvious. But their messaging has always really been about family and about strength and resiliency. So some of the recent narratives that we've heard about Jada is how she's shaming Will and embarrassing Know. A few years ago, she got caught up with a friend of her son, August Elsina, the R B singer. There was a lot of stories out there about, is she having an affair with this singer? Then she had to shut down all the rumors that she and Will were getting a divorce. And she was saying, and they were saying intensely, we are not getting a divorce. She's also on her red table talk, and she's talking about how she stands in truth and authenticity and how she did not cheat on a Will. Well, now, through this NBC interview, we find out that she did technically, and here's why. So let's listen to clips in the interview. I ran part of them at the beginning of the episode, but you can really distill this entire story or this entire PR crisis for Pinkett Smith, down to these two soundbites. Let's revisit the first clip from the beginning of the episode. In it, NBC co anchor Hoda Katpi interviews Jada Pinkett Smith in a segment that was pre recorded and aired the Wednesday before her live appearance on the Today Show. This interview serves as a lead up to a primetime special scheduled for later that evening. Pay attention to the deliberate and intentional language used by Pinkett Smith, which was likely carefully prepared and rehearsed to reset the public narrative surrounding her divorce. Not on paper. From Will Smith. Take a listen. There are so many surprising things in the book, but the thing that surprised me the most that I actually had to reread it because I said, is this true? Was that in 2016, you and Will decided that you were going to live completely separate lives. It was not a divorce on paper, but it was a divorce. So from the year 2016, which is seven years ago now, you all have been apart. Yeah. Okay. Now you can't see it because it's a podcast, but what Jada did was extend her arms out to show her and Will. It kind of signaled how apart her and Will were. Now, listen to the language in the follow up interview from last Monday. A gift. After a weekend of harsh backlash, this is the new talking point. Oh, it may not be the divorce on paper anymore. There's no divorce on paper. I mean, not on paper. There might not be a divorce in theory anymore. Yeah, no, we really have been working hard. Oh, see, well, I didn't know that. I totally missed that on the whole. Wait, so wait, just so I'm 100% clear, you were divorced not on paper, but now we might be a point where we're back together. We are working very hard at bringing our relationship yes, bringing our relationship together back to they were apart, essentially. She said they were divorced, but just not on paper. They were just living separate know? Which makes sense. People don't get divorced for complicated reasons sometimes, and sometimes not so complicated. Sometimes it just comes down to money. Sometimes it's easier. Frankly, for me, I think it's because they still wanted to leverage each other's popularity, particularly Jada. Now, listen to the second clip of Jada correcting the record. Oh, and by the way, the record was not her record. She was correcting. Hodicappy, take a listen. Am I right? That's the problem right there. That's the inconsistency that got Jada into trouble. Now, on the Today show, Hoda's backed into a corner. I mean, she can't be an independent journalist and really grill Jada how she wants to grill Jada. She can't. It's a part of a promotional blitz. They have to play along. So NBC is giving Jada clearance to clear her name, though I don't think it was warranted because she lied. I mean, she was being deceptive. Now, I know there is a argument, but what if it's personal? What if this is our private life? Like, we don't have to share everything? True. Now, Jada and Will have been trying to navigate this dance for a long time. And the reason why she could say that she did not cheat on Will with August Elsina was because, well, technically, they don't consider themselves married, so she's not cheating, but they're technically married, so technically, she did cheat. That's a lie. That's just a lie. It's deceptive. And when you're deceptive, you are risking the trust of stakeholders. So that's what they've done over and over and over again when they had to come out and talk about their marriage, and they had to talk about if they're divorced or not divorced. And then in 2018, like, El Cena, like, he appears on Red Table Talk, like he's brought into all of this. And why do they do that red Table Talk? What do they want? They want ratings that well, it's on Facebook, so they want Eyeballs, so Facebook can sell ads. They want to be the couple and get everything that comes with it without having to do all the work. There was even a two part episode of Red Table Talk where Will and Jada sat down and spoke about their marriage. They talked about their fights when they brought everyone in. But again, why are they doing it? They're leveraging it for views. So this is the problem. And then the flip flop again in 2020. She said that she did have a relationship with him during the breakup because she broke up with Smith. So it's going back and forth and back and forth, and then it comes out in 2022 when Will Smith the Academy Awards, when he's up for King Richard, right after this whole thing happened. I watched it. It's a great movie. A great movie. And if you see the movie, I think Will got up and slapped Chris because he needed to keep his wife's name out of his damn. You know, because Chris Rock made a crack about Jada's hair, her shaved head and the alopecia, and Will came up and slapped him. But then when Will won the Academy Award in his speech well, take a listen to his speech. I mean, what do we hear there in that speech? What are we hearing? We're hearing devotion to family. No one is walking away from that acceptance speech thinking, oh, Will and Jada must be divorced and separated at that point. No. And that's the rub that I have with them. So the shifting perceptions that are happening now is what caused the public backlash. Now, I don't think Jada and her publicity team planned for any type of blowback, or they completely underestimated it because social media, all the platforms filled up with absolute disappointment, disillusionment, snark, dragging the black Internet, like lit up about this because they've been following Will and Jada for years. And I spoke with a colleague of mine, Tamara Sykes. She's a communication digital strategist. She is very wise into black culture, and she and I actually share a client, and we are in that space. So she teaches me so much about it because we work together in the black culture entertainment space. I love working with this client because, one, I just love the point of contact with the client. I love the team that we have on. I also love what I learned, that there are two aspects, because there's Will and Jada as the A list Hollywood couple, but then there's Will and Jada as Hollywood royalty and black culture, because black culture identifies their celebrities and stars. You have black stars, but then you have the black stars that cross over into the regular realm. And the black stars who are able to do that are held in a different regard, like Jada. So there's an expectation there that they can port themselves in a more honest way. And again, people can use privacy. I mean, they can use this claim that not everyone needs to know every single thing about us, and no one's going to argue that point ever. I could not agree more on that point. But it's when you leverage that private life for publicity and to enhance your public persona is where you get into trouble. And that's the problem that I have with Jada. Did Tam added another level of this, which I found interesting. Now, Tam is a black culture enthusiast. I mean, she knows all of it. One of the shows that she did watch was Red Table Talk. She said that it sets this whole precedent for authenticity, transparency. Jada talks about standing in your truth. So Tam felt that Jada was drip feeding the truth this whole time, really, that both of them were. She also questioned that Jada was not ready for the broader impact of this revelation at all. That's why Tam was saying, you have to keep your story straight. The fans, particularly in black culture, they would have locked in and truly supported them if they were just honest. But Tam felt that jada on the Today Show thought by just being a little vulnerable and just letting people in a little bit, that they were going to give her a pass, that she could say whatever she wanted about her marriage, because that's what the playbook was. And that's what they've been always doing. They've been doing from the onset and getting away with it. But there's something different when now you're trying to sell a book. So Tam's advice on this, which I think is great advice, she was saying, the public is not your safe space. What that means is you can't rely on your stakeholders'affection for you, whether you're a celebrity, a politician or just a content creator. You need a plan for that. You need a crisis plan because there's no silver bullet, she said. But you also need to be honest and transparent because no one is immune to backlash. Tam did point out one thing, though, because Jada's doing something right. There is one thing, however, that Tam mentioned that Jada is doing right, and that is while she's on her publicity tour, drumming up publicity for her book, the job is to make news. And Jada Pinkett Smith. Oh, she made news. So now when we have these shifting perceptions and the public know, what are you going to know? What are you going to do? Okay, so some of the steps that you need to think of when you have to navigate this area, there has to be consistency in if you're doing media appearances or even whatever your messaging is. If it relates to anything between transparency and privacy, you have to strike a balance between being open but explaining why you are being private. Jada Pinkett Smith looked Hodokopi in the eye and said she is bringing the marriage back together. I mean, that is a complete distortion to what she said the first time around. It's complete opposite what she said. Now, let's just talk about the solution here, the importance of getting it right the first time. Here are three supporting ideas and tips for presenting a narrative that's both honest and respectful of privacy. One, prepare key messages in advance. Know what you're willing to disclose and what you plan to keep private before any interview or any post. You want to tailor your key messages to stay within a boundary. And it's a boundary that's going to avoid any unintentional revelations. It's a boundary between you and the reporter and you're allowed those boundaries. Next, you need to be direct, but also discreet. You can offer clarity without divulging sensitive details. So if questions do venture into the private territory and a journalist is asking for those questions, you can politely decline the answer while still providing enough information to meet the reporter's needs. A journalist is there to do a job to get to the bottom of the story and they want the truth. In the words of Daniel Caffeine, that's their job to do that. It's not unfair. You know, how to I appreciate the question. I mean, certainly because Will and I, we live in the public space and we understand that there's an expectation that we share our private lives in that public space. However, like any family and any couple, marriages can be complicated. But marriages should also be very private. In that complication, I wouldn't ask my best friends to tell everyone and tell me about all the private details of their marriage. And so I certainly would hope that my fans and your viewers wouldn't expect the same of Will and me. But I will share this, is that I'm deeply committed to Will. I mean, Will and I have made a pact that we are just going to stick together, and even if it's on paper, only our marriage, however our relationship and our commitment is you can tell I'm riffing right now. I'm not even reading anything. Our commitment is beyond that piece of paper. Our commitment is everlasting because I'm doing own it, explain it, promise it. So that's why now we're in this place and this is the narrative that we're going to share. I mean, this is what we want to share with our family. I promise my family to keep certain things private, but I also want to promise the audience and my fans and the readers of this book that I'm telling them a lot about my life, about my marriage, about what it's just like to be me, and how I've struggled feeling worthy throughout times and money and life. Okay, so that was a public statement that Jada could have given to Hoda Copy. Now, not to pat myself on the back, but I mean, I ripped that off the top of my head, and that was perfectly acceptable for that question on The Today Show. I mean, if I can just riff that, anybody can riff that. And you want to know why? Because it's just the truth. Well, it's not my truth, it's Jada's truth. Or what I think is her truth, but it's the truth. So you want to maintain that consistency no matter where you are speaking and no matter whatever the medium or the interview is. So that's the last part of it. Last tips. Whether it's multiple interviews or just one follow up like Jada on The Today Show, you want to maintain a consistent narrative. Tip three, it's maintaining consistency. Whether it's multiple interviews on various platforms or follow up questions from a single outlet like Jada on the Today Show, any changes to your story not only attract further scrutiny, but it also wears down trust. Because if you change your story, that's another way of saying, you just lied. You're lying to people. Changing your story is a nice way of saying, but Jada Pinkett Smith, she was deceitful in her messages. Truthfulness is the key here. If there's any learning curve in this approach for revealing more about your personal life without giving too much away, and it could be in a media appearance, or it could be just social media, or it could be you as a boss standing up in front of a room with your internal stakeholders, your employees. The challenge with backpedaling, it's just a way of bringing a spotlight onto the fact that you made a mistake. And that mistake was the backpedal is really you said the wrong thing. You did the so in Jada's case, she's promoting marriage for publicity while simultaneously claiming it's a private matter and that it's no one's business and the media got it wrong, the press got it wrong, hoda got it wrong, the public got it wrong. And most people, when they sit down those situations, they're forwarded the opportunity to clarify their comments. I still don't understand why she was given that opportunity. The reputation is left to the public. It's left online. And that is the bottom line. In order to avoid a crisis, you must be honest. But if your truth changes, you're going to face backlash and you deserve it. Getting your stakeholders to respect your privacy is a matter of establishing and maintaining trust. If they believe in you and that they trust in you, when you tell them what they need to know about your private life, they're going to trust that what you keep to yourself needs to be kept to yourself. This Today Show interview with Jada Pinkett Smith. This is a lesson in how everyone in the public eye should balance personal disclosures with public perception and without blaming the press if you get it wrong. All right. In every episode, I include one indestructible PR tip to help you build an indestructible reputation. No matter what the platform is, whether it's a media interview for television, maybe it's print interview, maybe you're going online somewhere. Maybe you're going to be interviewed for a podcast, or you're going live, or you're doing a post, or you're standing up and giving a speech to your constituents if you think you are smarter than your audience. Because you never are. Because you are not in charge of your reputation. When you're in a media interview, you can control it, you can weave it, you can try and change it. But if you manipulate it into something that's dishonest or untruthful, it's the public. So stakeholders, they have the final say in your reputation. And if you lie and they call you out for it, you deserve that's all for this week on the podcast. Thanks so much for listening. I would love to hear your comments. One on the article, check it out. It is in the show notes, but you can also find it on Forbes.com slash site. Molly McPherson. And again the title is Jada Pinkett Smith Interviews the Cost of Inconsistent Storytelling. Check out my social media posts on this topic. Let me know what you think. Also join me again back on Patreon. I've returned to Patreon because Patreon reached out to. Me and they told me we've changed something that you wanted and that was the free tier. I loved using patreon for the PR confidential membership. 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