My Way

"My Way" often avoids considering many other angles from which to approach your objective. Prepare for a lonely existence if you're a "My-Wayer."  Or, be open to another way that just might save the day.

Grasshopper Notes are the writings from America's Best Known Hypnotherapist John Morgan. His podcasts contain his most responded to essays and blog posts from the past two decades. 

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Transcript

My Way

Singer, songwriter Paul Anka wrote the song “MY WAY” for Frank Sinatra. The Beatles had a song called “WE CAN WORK IT OUT” which starts with the lyrics, “Try and see it my way.” And, of course, there’s the famous expression, “My way or the highway.” 

The Grasshopper weighed in on the topic and said, “Others seeing it your way is not possible because they view it from a different angle.”

Even if we experienced the same event, my memories of it are not yours. Ask any cop interviewing witnesses who saw a traffic accident. Me wanting you to have my memories and/or my point of view is hubris of the highest level and ignores the scientific aspect of angles, and the absolute reality that people see things differently.

“My Way” is a demand, not a garden variety request. To my ears, a demand has some sort of threat implied – real or veiled. “My Way” is an attempt to control, not persuade.

We'll argue more forcefully for something when the word “My” is attached.

I guess that’s why one of Burger King’s advertising campaigns was so successful – “Have it your way.”

Famed business consultant Fernando Flores says there are only four things you can do with language:

1. Make an assertion
2. Make a declaration
3. Make a request
4. Make a promise.

My friend Jerry Stocking goes on to explain that an assertion is your relationship to things, a declaration is your relationship with yourself, and requests and promises reveal your relationship with others.

To instantly find out what your relationship is with another on a specific topic, make a request of them. Their response, which is their promise to comply or not, will disclose your relationship on that topic. If you then go into “My Way” mode, you have gone to the dark side of request – which is a demand.

Demands, almost always, shut the door to communication and compromise.

“My Way” has a poor percentage of getting you what you want.

The highway is filled with people driving away from people who employ this strategy, leaving the “My Wayers” in the wake of exhausted fumes.

There's a direct correlation between “My Way” and the time you spend in isolation. You can continue ruling the kingdom of one, or you can get curious how compromise and cooperation will have people beat a path to your door.

All the best,

John