Letting Off Some Steam

If you're a chronic complainer, you're doing more than letting off some steam. You may be hinting instead of asking for help, or masking some un-dealt with sadness. Find out some remedies for complaining in this mini podcast.

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Transcript

Letting Off Some Steam

“I’m just letting off some steam” is the phrase we hear from many chronic complainers.

Seems to me that some of these folks are constantly “steamed.”

This causes them to “run out of steam” for doing what’s necessary to rectify what they’re complaining about.

Reminds me of a story . . . Back in the 70s, there was a popular book called “Looking Out For Number One” by Robert J. Ringer. In there is his famous line: “A CLERK IS A JERK.” In my opinion, Ringer was a bit of a self absorbed asshole, but his message was spot on. He didn’t mean it as pejoratively as it sounds. His real message was go to someone with your complaint who can help you. That’s usually not a clerk.

Complainers complain to anyone who will listen and rarely go to the person, who can help them.

Some of them are crying out for attention and some love, but don’t ask for it. Their complaints are vague hints that they need a hug.

Other complainers are a sack of sadness. Their angry complaints sit on top of a pile of sadness that’s never been addressed. They believe that complaining will make that feeling disappear. It won’t.

And then there are those who complain to complain. I’m sure you know your fair share of these folks.

The remedy, if you’re looking for one, depends on which variety of complainer you are.

If you’re the hinter, stop hinting and start asking for what you want.

If you’re the angry complainer, acknowledge and deal with the sadness that underlies your penchant to complain.

If you just like to complain, I don’t have a suggestion for you, other than stop and notice you are alienating people by the droves. No one wants to be around a complainer.

I’ll end this with a tongue twisting phrase that sums up how most people feel about complainers: “A noisy noise annoys an oyster most.”

All the best,

John