Unwanted Help

In the area of personal change, the people who need help the most don't want it. Find out if you're one of those people in this mini podcast.

Grasshopper Notes are the writings from America's Best Known Hypnotherapist John Morgan. His podcasts contain his most responded to essays and blog posts from the past two decades. 

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Transcript

Unwanted Help

The Grasshopper offered this helpful tidbit one day: “Many people with major problems need the help they don’t want.”

It’s easy to recognize this in the world of abusers to see the wisdom of this observation: drugs, alcohol, overconsumption, etc. What’s not as apparent is the addiction to the idea that we don’t need help in other problem areas of our life.

Denial is the biggest demon I’ve encountered in this lifetime – personally and professionally. From my vantage point, denial that we aren’t in need of help is a global pandemic. it makes Covid look like a case of the sniffles.

Workable solutions are available for most of our problems, but if we don’t acknowledge or recognize them, we don’t want any help because, frankly, in our mind, we don’t need it.

One of the things I’ve developed over the years is a keen eye and ear for broadcast talent. I’m like the high school student of finance who picks an inordinate amount of winners and identifies a truckload of losers when doing mock stock picks. I have a verifiable feel for who's going to win and lose in broadcasting.

This sense applies to up and coming stars as well as to those who will flame out. For example, on one TV network alone, as a casual viewer, I predicted seven people who would go bust and three that would make it. That was over a period of a year and a half.

This sense I get comes from the perceived attitude I see in these performers that suggests that they don’t need help. Most of the ones who were fired had an air of “I’ve arrived” about them, but were in serious need of help to keep their new jobs.

I can’t imagine I’m the only person who suggested they needed help. They, more than likely, heard it countless times but repeatedly ignored the counsel.

Having coached broadcast talent for a living, I can tell you there is a category of performer who thinks they are God’s gift to broadcasting who have very few gifts. They believe they don't need help to improve because they didn’t need improvement.

Here's an old piece of wisdom that addresses the point from writer Saxon White Kessinger called “The Indispensable Man.” She wrote:

Sometime when you’re feeling important;

Sometime when your ego’s in bloom

Sometime when you take it for granted

You’re the best qualified in the room,

Sometime when you feel that your going

Would leave an unfillable hole,

Just follow these simple instructions

And see how they humble your soul;

Take a bucket and fill it with water,

Put your hand in it up to the wrist,

Pull it out and the hole that’s remaining

Is a measure of how you’ll be missed.

You can splash all you wish when you enter,

You may stir up the water galore,

But stop and you’ll find that in no time

It looks quite the same as before.

The moral of this quaint example

Is do just the best that you can,

Be proud of yourself but remember,

There’s no indispensable man.

My version of her poem was more succinct and less tactful. I would offer these "indispensable" talents this: “If they can forget about Johnny Carson, they can forget about you.”

If you’ve heard it from a number of sources that you’re “that way,” and they’re suggesting that it’s getting in your way, may I suggest taking one of those helping hands before your denial, again, has you pay.

All the best,

John