What if you could unlock a whole new realm of pleasure just by focusing on your nipples? Join me for this electrifying Masturbation Monday as I unravel the secrets behind nipplegasms—orgasms triggered solely by nipple stimulation. Pulled from a combination of my personal experience and scientific insights, I guide you on how to achieve this extraordinary sensation, whether you're flying solo or with a partner. From setting the perfect mood to engaging in sensual foreplay, we cover everything you need to elevate your intimate moments and experience the mind-bending pleasure of nipple orgasms.
What if you could unlock a whole new realm of pleasure just by focusing on your nipples? Join me for this electrifying Masturbation Monday as I unravel the secrets behind nipplegasms—orgasms triggered solely by nipple stimulation. Pulled from a combination of my personal experience and scientific insights, I guide you on how to achieve this extraordinary sensation, whether you're flying solo or with a partner. From setting the perfect mood to engaging in sensual foreplay, we cover everything you need to elevate your intimate moments and experience the mind-bending pleasure of nipple orgasms.
Do the sex Think fun, honest and feminist as fuck, and always with the goal of fighting the patriarchy. One female orgasm at a time. Welcome to the locker room. Today's Masturbation Monday topic is how to have and give a nipplegasm, aka a nipple orgasm. Now I've covered the nipplegasm in my episode called 10 Types of Female Orgasms. I've also covered how to have amazing boob sex in my interview with my good friend and guest, ruby. You can scroll down to the description of this episode and click on the links to listen to those episodes.
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But the nipplegasm takes breast play and breast pleasure to the next level. Now, to be transparent, I hadn't had a nipplegasm until very recently, and I was only able to achieve it through my self-pleasure practice. So all the information I am going to be sharing with you today comes directly from my personal experience and, of course, my in-depth research. So grab a cup of coffee, join me in bed and let's get ready to talk about how to have and give amazing nipplegasms. Cheers, let's kick this episode off with a couple fun facts about nipplegasms. First, let's start with what is a nipplegasm. Simply put, a nipplegasm is a real orgasm that is felt in the genital areas but comes from stimulation of the nipples. So the stimulation and sensations start in the nipples and the result is a orgasm that is felt in the genitals. Next, who can have a nipplegasm? Well, anybody with nipples can. It is not gender specific and it is also super accessible. It is considered a vanilla friendly, kinky thing to do and it's great for just spicing up your sex life. So what causes a nipplegasm? The nerve endings in your nipples stimulate the same area of the brain that those in your genitals do it's called the genital cortex that those in your genitals do. It's called the genital cortex, and when either of those areas are stimulated, it lights up the genital cortex. And when enough stimulation is had, the genital cortex signals to your body well, to have an orgasm, and it creates contractions in the pelvic area that result in you getting to have a fantastic orgasm. And here's some good news for people who menstruate During menstruation, it may be easier to have a nipple orgasm because the hormonal changes you are experiencing actually make your breasts more tender and sensitive, which may make them easier to arouse, resulting in constipation A nipple orgasm when stimulated properly.
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So how do you have, or give, a nipplegasm? Well, first know that it may not happen on the first try. It may take some practice, but here are some tips to help you get there quicker along the way, whether you are with a partner or doing this in your own pleasure. Practice First, set the mood. You want to make sure the atmosphere is as erotic as possible, so clean up your space. You're going to want to adjust the lighting, maybe light some candles. Make sure you've got a nice, comfortable place to lay and relax, with lots of pillows, blankets, whatever it is you like to use to start feeling sexy. You can even turn on some erotic or sexy music to really make sure you're going to mentally and emotionally and physically be in the place you need to be to reach orgasm.
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Next, now that you've set the atmosphere for orgasmic success, you're going to want to do some foreplay and warm up. If you're with a partner, have a romantic dinner, make out, touch, kiss, do some sexy talk. If you're on your own, do the same thing. Get into a relaxed, sexy state of mind. If that means treating yourself to a sexy meal or turning on music and dancing and moving and getting into your body in a way that you feel sexy and ready to orgasm, do that. Or lay down and just run your fingers over your own body and start to allow yourself, come into an aroused space.
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Whether you are with a partner or by yourself, make sure that you have body oil, massage oil, lotion nearby, as well as lube. Now that you're in the mood, and or your partner's in the mood, it's time to really get your breasts in the mood. So you're going to grab that massage oil, you're going to warm it up by rubbing it between your hands and then you're going to start massaging your breasts, or your partner's breasts. Now start with a lighter touch and you're going to use a full, open hand and do broad, sweeping motions around the breast toward the nipple. Now, how much pressure you graduate up to using really depends on the individual. Some people prefer light, feather-like touches, other people like just a medium amount of pressure and other people like a real squeeze to their massage. So you're going to want to be communicating with your partner if you're giving this to them, and you're going to want to be tuning into your body if you're just experimenting with yourself and you're not sure what turns you on.
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I suggest doing these broad strokes up towards the nipple, then lightening your touch and just running your fingers lightly over the nipple to get the blood flow going and to wake up those nerve endings in the actual nipple. Now that the breast area is fully warmed up, we are going to take that oil and we are going to focus on the nipple and stimulating the nipple. Now the cool thing here is we are going to be treating the nipple very much like we do a clit. Now I did a full episode on all the ways you can touch and play with a clit. I suggest you go back and listen to that.
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I'm linking it below because you can use many, many of those techniques on a nipple. For example, you can start with circling, where you are just going to be using your finger to go around the nipple. You're not going to go over the tip of it where most of the nerve endings are, and this is especially useful for people who have oversensitive nipples and it's actually too much. If you really play with that tip, you can circle around the areola and work up towards the nipple. For people who do love the nipple sensation. Then you can move on to actually stimulating the nipple. You can do things like lightly pinching it, you can lightly pull on it, you can tap on it, you can roll it by sort of holding it between your fingers like it's a pencil and then doing a snapping motion gently. All of these things, especially if you are just starting to experiment, should be done gently.
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We are not applying pain at this point, unless the person you are doing this with or you yourself really, really enjoy and are turned on by sort of applying pain. I suggest starting just gently and experimenting with the different sensations and how your body reacts to them. Once you've really focused it on your breastplate for a while, you can switch it up. You can use your tongue instead of your fingers or use your mouth to suck on the nipples, or you can use your mouth and your hands at the same time. There are also toys that you can use. There are nipple suckers that you can put on there, there are vibrators, there's also clips that you can use and, of course, again, I suggest, if you're going to go the direction of using nipple clips or clamps, that you keep it light and gentle and not super painful, at least at first.
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Now, if you've been doing this for a while and you're getting really aroused, or your partner's getting really aroused, but not quite to an orgasm it's okay to incorporate genital play and stimulate the genitals at the same time. Now, this may, of course, make that orgasm come really quickly, and then what you're going to be experiencing is something of a blended orgasm. And well, they are my favorite types of orgasms. So I'm like, yay for that. But if you're like, that's cool, but I want the nipple stimulation only nipplegasm you can use this method to train your body to have nipplegasms, which is exactly what I had to do for myself. By incorporating genital play later on in my nipplegasm experience, I was able to sort of link that final orgasmic release to nipple stimulation. Think of these as training sessions and try to work up to the nipple stimulation only nipplegasm, if that is super important to you.
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Another way you can do this is by putting the nipple suction toys on your breasts. If you're alone, it's going to make it a lot easier for you, and then you can either use your hand on yourself or another toy on your clit and do all of that at the same time. It's a very simple and effective way to train your body to have nipplegasms. Once you've figured out your nipplegasm ritual, you can take your nipplegasm play to the next level. You can incorporate kink and get some toys that add pain to the play session. Or you can just add some sensation play, think hot and cold, maybe some ice. Use ice on your nipples. If you are doing this to someone else, you can put ice in your mouth and rub it on their nipples. There are all kinds of toys that add vibrations or suction or feathery touch to the experience. Again, I don't suggest adding pain unless someone is really into that or until you've gotten your nipplegasm down, because it can have the opposite effect for some people and really pull them away from their orgasmic potential.
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A final note on nipplegasms like not everybody is going to want or enjoy nipple stimulation to the point where they have an orgasm. Some people's nipples are just too sensitive and it's uncomfortable for them, and some people may have negative associations with nipple stimulation, especially new mothers who are nursing or people who have nursed. Just it can make them feel weird and they can just feel uncomfortable with that, and that is okay. This is just one of the many types of orgasms people's bodies can have and it's okay if there's a type of orgasm you're not into. It's your pleasure practice, it's your relationship with pleasure and that can look however you want it to. For me, it was super exciting to gain access to a new way to orgasm. I found it extra special that I was able to learn to do that through my own pleasure practice. It makes me feel powerful, more sexy, and it also brings a new offering to any sexual relationship I may engage in.
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I would love to hear your questions or comments about nipple orgasms. Have you had your own experience? Did I miss something that you think I should have talked about? If you are curious about the kinds of toys that you can use that will help you achieve a nipple orgasm, make sure to scroll down and click the link and subscribe to my e-newsletter, because I will be sending all of my favorite tools and toys to use during nipple play out via e-newsletter. You can also ask me questions and leave comments on my YouTube channel at Annette Benedetti. You just drop a comment, I will check it out and I will get back to you as soon as possible.
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You can also email me at my new email address. It is Annette at Talk. Sex with Annette. Finally, work with me If you have an intimacy issue you're working through, or a relationship conundrum you just can't get ironed out, or you just want help figuring out how to achieve your own nipplegasm. You can work with me and you can find out more about my sex intimacy and relationship coaching opportunities and options by scrolling down and clicking on the link below, or email me at Annette at TalkSexWithAnnettecom. So until next time, folks, I'll see you in the locker room. Cheers.