Leaving Your Judo Coach For BJJ & Competing in Jiu-Jitsu Fully Blind.

Do you have a jealous coach? Anna after 14 years of Judo has discovered BJJ and wants to just do BJJ full time but is concerned her long time Judo coach will disown her! What should she do? 
Our guy Ryan who is completely blind and competed in his first competition. He had previously called in because as someone who is visually impaired he struggled to get training partners- plot Twist! Ryan is a big rig. He had previously failed to mention his general bigger than average frame and had failed to consider training partners at Jiu-Jitsu may have been ducking him because he has an imposing frame. If you have a quest and would like to get it on the Show we would love to hear from you, click this link and leave us a message!       https://bulletproofforbjj.com/podcast

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Speaker 2: 0:17

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Speaker 1: 1:06

Q&A for BJJ. You have some questions and we will bring some answers. If you would like to ask us a question, go to the website bulletproofbjjcom. Click on the podcast tab, scroll down. There'll be a red button there and you can leave us a voicemail. Let us know who you are, where you're from and we'll help you out.

Speaker 4: 1:24

First one coming in Anonymous.

Speaker 2: 1:27

Hi guys, I am Anna from Germany. First of all, I really love your show and I've been binging it lately and I've got a question for you guys. I've been practicing judo for about 14 years now and I competed at quite a high level. But since a year or so I discovered BJJ and, to be honest, I do like it more than judo. But I don't know how to tell my coach I want to back off on judo for a bit and go train more BJJ, because I don't think he will be very happy about it. Do you have any advice for me, or just advice on how to handle jealousy coaches in general?

Speaker 4: 2:08

thank you so much oh, anna, thanks for the question. Damn, that's a. That's a sticky situation you're in. It is tough, I'm excited for when you just start fucking five days a week just ragdolling everyone because you got 14 years of judo, just uchimata, like, oh, who's this new?

Speaker 1: 2:23

girl look, I think it's like like anything, if you and I think judo is a much more, uh, traditional environment. So cross training is, like you know, quite frowned upon, unless you're in like a national team or something. It sounds like you know, if you've done it to a high level, you're looking for something fun and new. That's kind of like me with going to judo. I'm like, yeah, I'll back off jujitsu and I'll do judo, because it feels new, it feels fun.

Speaker 4: 2:50

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 2:51

Unless you have an actual fiscal obligation or like you're part of the German national team or something. You should do what you enjoy. So if you enjoy jujitsu, you should start doing it a bit more. If you want to do Jiu-Jitsu, it doesn't mean you're not going to be able to train Judo at your current gym. Will your coach be that mad that you have to? You know, I think any coach that's kind of that demanding it sounds like not necessarily the best relationship.

Speaker 4: 3:20

Yeah, and it does sound like Ana's kind of one foot out the door.

Speaker 4: 3:23

She's like, yeah, I'm thinking about wrapping up the Judo thing and just going into Jiu-Jitsu. Look here, thinking about wrapping up the judo thing and just going into jits. Look here's what I would say is like, uh, if you had a friend, anna, who was in a uh like a relationship let's say it wasn't a great relationship, maybe it started off great and then it just wasn't that great anymore and they met someone else that they were really interested in and felt like they were really kind of falling in love with what would your be? What would your advice to that friend? Be sure, right, and felt like they were really kind of falling in love with what would your?

Speaker 4: 3:50

advice to that friend, be Sure, right, and be like look, it's a horrible thing to have to cut off a relationship with someone that you love, right, like your coach. I'm sure you love them as a coach mutual respect and all of that but the reality is you've got this new love, sure, and it's like Mike, you've got to have that hard conversation Now, and I've had a couple of these in my time. They're always horrible, right, but you feel better for it because you're being honest, you're doing, you're leading with your heart, and all you can do is just be truthful and say look, you know, here's all the things I've loved about this process and training with you, etc. But here's where I'm at and here's what I want to do, and just put it on the table and if that coach isn't capable of taking that in a way, that is, you know, whatever, like if they get angry about it, that's all on them, right? All you can do is just be honest about it, and I think that that's what you've got to do. Yeah, definitely.

Speaker 1: 4:42

And, truth be told, martial arts is about personal expression. You know, within constraints, if you can't express yourself honestly, then which is, you know, that's what Bruce Lee is all about express yourself honestly, then you're going to build resentment long term you're going to stop. You're going to stop loving the thing that you loved or grew up loving, and then you're going to feel loss and resentment for not pursuing the thing that you really are engaged with. So I think you already know in your heart what you would like to do. But yeah, it does take a little bit of courage to have that maybe hard conversation with someone. And you never know, they might actually be more understanding than you realize, because if they think that you might just completely leave the sport entirely, then they'll be like, oh, I don't want that. So they may be more understanding than you think.

Speaker 4: 5:30

Yeah, good luck. What I can say is not acting on it and staying in that thing. It's no good. Yeah, that sucks. That's really bad for you, so make the change. Next one coming in Ryan Ryan.

Speaker 3: 5:43

Hey guys, it's Ryan the blind guy from Central Illinois. I just wanted to follow back up with you guys. I had my competition yesterday and ended up taking third place home.

Speaker 3: 5:53

Cool and the ultra heavyweight for white belts in the Masters 1 category. Happy with that finish but also slightly disappointed. I feel like I could have did a little better, but I can't complain for my first competition and, on top of it, doing it completely blind. But I can't complain for my first competition and, on top of it, doing it completely blind. I wanted to thank you guys again for the information that you provided, answering my question about trying to find more rolling partners. I have started getting more rolling partners and hopefully, now that my coach has announced to the gym the results of myself and the other competitors from the gym that went yesterday, that maybe I can even continue getting more. But yeah, so I didn't think about it. But like you guys mentioned too you guys, I didn't say I'm six foot two and 230 pounds, so I am definitely a big guy and I didn't take that in consideration as far as finding rolling partners. But again, thanks for the feedback that you guys gave for my first question and look forward to hearing more from you guys.

Speaker 4: 6:52

Thanks, ah ryan what a legend, true legend. Happy for you, man, congratulations yeah, that's awesome.

Speaker 1: 6:58

It takes so much courage to do a competition and then to do a competition when you're blind is like that's crazy yeah I can't even imagine I'm actually going to counterpoint that slightly. Announcing that you did well in a competition may not earn you more roles.

Speaker 4: 7:12

People might be like dang I don't want to get beaten by the blind guy.

Speaker 1: 7:15

That guy's awesome he's gonna kick my ass.

Speaker 4: 7:19

So we got this blind guy at my gym. He's a fucking savage. It's like I never rolled with him.

Speaker 1: 7:24

No I run away.

Speaker 4: 7:26

yeah, it's a good point. Um yeah, quick context for other listeners. Ryan had mentioned, because of his blindness, it's tricky for him to get rolling partners at the gym, and so we offered up kind of a couple of maybe practical things he could try and it sounds like they've worked out well, which is great. That's fucking awesome. But yeah, that's another barrier 6'2", 230 pounds, big guy that's another barrier, Six foot two 230 pounds, big guy, and that's an intimidating frame to say hey, man, do you want to do?

Speaker 1: 7:52

a round. I'm going to get that big guy with the heightened senses of a daredevil Shit. I don't know if people want that smoke, but I'm stoked for you, man, and fucking power to you. Yeah, it's great.

Speaker 4: 8:05

Last one for the day, Charles.

Speaker 1: 8:08

Bulletproof fucking power to you. Yeah, it's great. Uh, last one for the day, charles. Bulletproof bj judge charles on the press. Big shout out to joey and jt shout mark mcqueen, love you fellas what a mad dog that's it.

Speaker 4: 8:16

Yep, boom, wrapping it up well, that's awesome.

Speaker 1: 8:22

Look, we love any feedback. You can give us any questions. You can hit us with um, because the reason why we started this is like we just want to be able to speak directly to the pain points and the problems that you have, so we can in some way contribute, because oftentimes your coach doesn't have all the answers right. They're just one human. They might be really great at BJJ, but they might not have any other ideas. And even between Joey and I, even though we're similar in a lot of ways, we look at things quite differently, and so we will try and give different inputs to try and cover the bases better for you. And so I know for sure I've benefited from just asking a lot of questions, but that's also because I'm not afraid to be annoying.

Speaker 4: 9:04

I'm that guy you might be a little bit more self-conscious. I think your personality is founded on being annoying. I'm that guy. You might be a little bit more self-conscious. I think your personality is founded on being annoying.

Speaker 1: 9:09

It is. I think it's become a hobby. Actually, I recreationally like to annoy people. You know whether I can do it with a cross face or I can do it with a jabbing question. But if you're unsure and you're not confident to put your voice on the podcast, you can hit us with a message directly, and this often feeds into the way that we do our podcast episodes.

Speaker 4: 9:35

Yeah, like we take. We get a lot of questions email, instagram, whatever and we take those as inspiration for topics to talk about. Oh, a few people have asked this. So, absolutely, if you don't want to be featured on the show, fire something through on text.

Speaker 1: 9:44

Yeah.

Speaker 4: 9:44

And you know we'll always get back to you as best we can and then hopefully we can talk more about it. But we love it.

Speaker 4: 9:54

We love hearing where you are in the world and what you're experiencing, because it makes you realize like jiu-jitsu is so big yeah and, more importantly, like people are listening to us which you know it's like that's nice, yeah, like we put this shit out there, right, yeah, and it's like we want to, you know, and so you know, we get Anna from Germany, and then we get Old Mate from, I'm guessing, from the UK.

Speaker 1: 10:10

Yes, of course.

Speaker 4: 10:10

And then we get Ryan from somewhere in the States. It's like a beautiful like for us, like holy shit man. There's people in little pockets of the globe that are like listening to this show.

Speaker 1: 10:37

So yeah, please like keep them coming, thank you.