Future Paradigm - Embracing Your Power in Every Choice

Have you ever wondered how to become the future version of yourself without losing sight of who you truly are in the present moment?

You've probably heard the saying, "Act as if, fake it until you make it." 

But how do you do that without compromising your authenticity?

Much of what we believe about ourselves isn't true; it's merely programmed limitations we've bought into. 

While big actions and grand shifts are exhilarating, the real magic happens in the everyday choices we make. Each seemingly insignificant decision contributes to the evolution of our authentic selves and the realisation of our dreams.

In this week's podcast, we dive deep into the significance of those in-between moments - those fleeting choices we make every day that seem inconsequential but hold the power to shape our destiny.

Join me as I unveil how you can align your present actions with your future self and take practical steps to step into your power.

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Hey, and welcome to the Vibrant Mind Vibrant Life podcast. Now, today's episode, we're going to be talking about becoming the future you. So, why is this important? Well, If you've been doing any kind of personal development work, any kind of goal setting, anything where you're pursuing a future that you haven't yet created, the chances are that you will have heard the saying, become the future you now, be the person that has that life, step into the, that reality now and act as though it's true. Which is all wonderful. And one of the questions that I've had from a couple of clients recently, and also students, and some things that I've been experiencing myself is, okay, so how do you become that future version of you now? How do you authentically step into the, the version of you who is that future version, yet it's you now, so it's still you. So one of my clients and I had this conversation and we went quite deep in it so that we could really get into the, the nitty gritty of how to practically apply this. So it's not just this theoretical discussion and pretending to be something that you're not. Now, the thing that she was really interested in was how do I become. That future version of me in the present moment, yet still stay true to myself. Stay authentically me. So it's not like I'm pretending to be somebody else who I'm not, yet that is kind of what you're doing. So it's the paradox of you are, but you're not. Being somebody that in this moment, you may not believe you are yet really what you're doing is stepping into who you truly are when you peel back all the layers of the limitations, the beliefs, the emotions, the experiences, the that you've had, the meaning that you've maybe applied to them when you take all of that away at your true essence at the core of who you are, you are absolutely that version of who you want to become. The key is to imagine as, as though those, those layers don't exist and use tools and things to release them so that you can step into your power in the now, because that's really what it is. It's about stepping into your power of who you are authentically. So what I'm going to do today is break down that conversation that we had to bring it to life so that you can have some practical ways to begin to practice that in your own life, begin becoming the real you, the person that you know that you are truly, yet maybe you've forgotten along the way. So let's begin with the Be, Do, Have principle, which is something that you may have already heard before. Yet, my question to you, and it's something to consider in anything that you do in life, is whilst I may have already heard this before, have I actually applied it? Have I embodied it? Because there can be almost like a tendency to get things on an intellectual level. Like consciously, I understand the principles. I understand the process. Yet, Your conscious mind isn't the embodiment of it. It's like, have I unconsciously taken this on as being who I am? So, let's, let's go into it then. Now, when you want to achieve something in life, when there's a goal, there is something that you want to have. As in, you don't have it yet. So the end result of everything is this thing that I want to have. This is the thing that I want to create. Now in order to create something new, that means that you're going to have to do things that you're probably not doing right now. Because if you were doing them, then the chances are you would already have it. So you're going to be doing things differently. You're going to be taking action differently, showing up differently. Now, before do is the be. Now, the be is who you are. When you become, when you are a different person, when you take on a new identity, when you take on a new belief, when your values shift and something becomes important to you that maybe wasn't previously. When you are a different person, you automatically do things differently. And when you do things differently, you have a different result. Now, it can be easy. I say it can be easy. It's actually the harder way around. What can be common is to dive straight into the have. Here's the thing I want to have. This is what I want to create. So therefore, I'm going to do stuff differently. And that is great, taking action, really cool, yet if you haven't aligned the B principle, if you haven't stepped into who is that person that is able to create those results with more ease, then it's always going to feel like hard work. It's going against the grain of who you are, which can be really tiring. So if you instead focus on who do I need to become? Who is this person that has that result? So the having of the thing then becomes a by product rather than the thing itself. So, let me give you an example of how this may play out in real life. Imagine there is a person who wants to have a relationship. There's somebody who is single, ready to mingle, and they, they are, um, looking for their partner for life. So the thing they want to have is a relationship. So maybe the things that they start doing are getting on the dating apps. They go out and meet people. They go on dates. They, whatever it is that people do when they're, they're looking for love these days. So they're putting themselves out there in the world, letting the world know that they're available. But the person that they be. The, the identity that they hold is somebody who is unlucky in love. Maybe they have very little confidence. They see themselves as somebody who lacks confidence, who isn't worthy of a relationship. Maybe the self talk that's going on in their head is, you know, I'm never going to find love, all the good ones are taken. So the person that they are is going to show up very differently in the world, the action that they feel compelled to take, the things that they feel compelled to do, and the way that they do them are going to be very different to somebody who believes in love, who thinks that their, their perfect partner is just sat waiting for them, and there's so many to choose from. So when you are this person, when you are being the person who has created the relationship that you want, you show up very differently in the world. So instead of focusing on what is it I wanna have, what is it I need to do? And if you are instead to focus on who do I need to be? Who do I need to become this future version of me, who has the relationship, who is in love? Who's experiencing the whole caboodle? Who are they? What do they believe? What do they think? How do they show up? How do they physically hold themselves? How do they dress? Who is this person? So that's the Be Do Have principle. Now, the question, as I said, that my client posed to me was, that's great, and, you know, we've been doing the work to align that version of them. But before we did that, the question that they had was, okay, so how do I be that person? How do I become that person before I am that person? Which I thought is a great question to discuss on the podcast because there may be some of you who aren't working with a coach who do have those limiting beliefs that are in the way that are maybe preventing you from showing up in the way that you want to. That kind of, you know, even when you do show up and you say, right, I am this person. I'm acting as if I'm pretending moment by moment that, that this is who I am. Yeah. The voice in the back of your head is saying, No, you're not. Who do you think you are? And it feels like hard work, that in and of itself, pretending to be that person in and of itself, feels like hard work. What do you do then? How do you consistently show up as a person that you don't believe you are in that moment? And it got me thinking, and the conversation opened up, and I was like, right, how can I best serve my client, and in doing so, bring this conversation to life through the podcast, in a way that will support you to do exactly that. And the conclusion that we came to, which is something that is I think valuable in every aspect of life, something to think about and tap into, whether it's a relationship, whether it's a business, whether it's making money, creating a house, getting fit, getting help, whatever it might be. This is something to consider every single day. It's probably one of the most powerful things that you can do and it's probably one of the most simple and the key is that you've got to do it. And it's almost so small that it can seem insignificant. And I think this is the thing that is easy to overlook. When you're on this journey of personal development, it's like, give me the big thing. Give me the five steps. Give me the three keys. Give me the one secret, the one thing that is going to change everything. And when you think about it like that, that isn't life. Life isn't this one big event that happens that makes our life. Life is an accumulation of moment by moment experiences. And it's exactly the same when it comes to becoming who you truly are. Stepping into your power that is within you in the now. It is. a moment by moment choice. It's a single moment by moment choice that adds up. It's never about the big things, because the big things are the having, they are the experience, which are an accumulation of all the moments in between. And that is the thing that I want to speak about. It's the moments in between. There can be such a focus on the main events, as in the actual manifestation, the creation of the thing that you want to have and also the main events being the daily practices, the daily rituals, as in, you know, I get up at 5 a. m. and I do a meditation and I do a visualization and I do my vision board and all the energy is put into that moment, which is wonderful. There's nothing wrong with that. That's okay. The question is, then, what are you doing? and the in between moments. So in between your morning practice and maybe the next event where you meditate of an evening or creating your vision board and then the next master class that you attend or the next yoga session that you carry out, or whatever the, the practices are that, that you lean into to feel your best. What are you doing in between those moments? Because those moments are life. They are your energy set point. That is what you can think of as your default setting. This is where I revert back to when I'm not consciously aware of what's going on in my life. This is my unconscious energetic set point, which is where you create from. We all have those moments in time where we are flying high as a kite and we're experiencing something absolutely magical. And the thing with that is, are you experiencing it from the outside in rather than the inside out And by that I mean, is it the external event happened outside of you so now you feel good? Rather than I am continually working on my internal state moment by moment, and these end results, these things that I experience in the external world, Are simply a reflection of that. So they're no longer the big deal because every moment counts. So the moment by moment choices, which are really small, yet this is where you're building your power, you're having an opportunity in every moment to step into your power. And be that version of you. Now be the person that you are in the process of becoming the process of coming home to realizing this is who I am. This is who I was born to be. I've just forgotten along the way, this is about getting excited in every moment of the day that you get to be you being proud of the simple action that you took. So to, you know, to give you a real life example, this could be as simple as instead of having that 3pm coffee, which I know on some level isn't serving me, you know, having caffeine that late in the day, using it as a, as a pick me up, or just something that you go to without any thought. It could be as simple as saying, hmm, instead of having that coffee, today I'm going to have a glass of water. I'm going to have a herbal tea. I'm going to do something that actually fuels and feeds my inner self, the me that I really am, instead of continuing to feed the current 3D reality, the one that you may be experiencing in tangible form, which is only temporary. The key is that if you continue to feed it, it just perpetuates so it then becomes tomorrow's reality and the day afterwards. Yet, even that simple shift of today I'm going to do something that supports who I really am at my core, who I am becoming, who I am now stepping into and allowing myself to be, could be as simple as I'm going to have the herbal tea. Now that can get dismissed, but come on Sean, it's a herbal tea over a coffee. Yet what it's doing, it's the messages that you're sending to your unconscious mind, to yourself, that actually I'm putting me first, I'm making the decision to be excited about me, about who I truly am. So this isn't about deprivation, it's not depriving yourself of the coffee, it's being excited about, I'm supporting myself by giving myself that tea, that small moment. I say, may seem really insignificant in the grand scheme of things, Yet that moment in time, that is an expansion of who you are. That is you expanding your energy field into that version of you. That's you showing up for yourself, that's you telling yourself, telling your unconscious mind, telling the universe, I am ready for this next level version of me. The version of me who already exists, if I will allow myself to go there. Now the best thing about this is that it's so simple to do. It doesn't mean it's always easy, yet it's choosing you over the circumstance in the moment. So it's putting yourself first, which is an act of self love. It's leaning in when you would usually lean Moving through when you would usually want to pull back. And it can be as simple as having a cup of tea instead of a coffee. It can really can be that simple because that moment in time and loving yourself for it. So rather than seeing it as, Oh, I've had to sacrifice this. I've had to give up on something. It's actually, I'm shedding the old identity of who I thought I was. I'm letting go of that limitation so that I can become who I truly am. I can acknowledge and experience the power that is within me. Those simple times can be as small as showing up for something when you don't want to, maybe going to the gym when you don't feel like it, all of which accumulate is that compound effect. Those small things adding up bit by bit over time, until one day you wake up and think, oh yeah, I just have the tea now. That's who I am. I don't even think about the coffee anymore. The best thing about that is it breaks it down into the most tangible day to day things that you can do. You can absolutely go and take the massive action, and that will have an impact, of course. And, when you're not taking the massive action, what are you doing in the in between moments? How are you consciously becoming aware of those thought patterns? And this is something that I speak about in my book, because when I first started practising this stuff, and realising that we have the power to change our world from the inside out, I would do all the things. I would meditate. I would visualize. So I would spend probably 60 minutes a day feeling wonderful, feeling on top of the world. And then I would go back to my day to day default setting. I would go back to feeling less than good enough, anything but worthy, not happy. And I would just allow myself to default there. So this is how can I begin to pick out those small moments and see that as the big achievement, because the more that you can celebrate that success and celebrate that small tiny win, that will give your unconscious mind that dopamine hit, and when you do that and you feel good, you're going to want to do more of it. So it's going to start feeding that positive cycle. Now, if you really want to understand this more, and you want to understand how it is that our thoughts become things, how it is that the external world is a representation of our internal world, And really learn to understand yourself to be able to identify what is this block that I'm experiencing? You know, you'll often hear about people that have blocks and it's like, I know that there's something going on and I don't know what it is. I don't know why I'm preventing myself from, from having the good stuff, from experiencing all the things that I want. Then head to the link in the show notes and get a copy of my book. There's so much information in there that you're going to learn about yourself, but not just information. So this isn't just the conscious aspect of things. There's also activation points. So there's exercises at the end of each chapter where you can embody that knowledge, where you can practice it, where you can begin to live it, which are those moments in between. Now, one of the things that I speak about in there, which is super fascinating, is this whole tipping point. So this tipping point is all about when do those scales begin to tip? When do the thoughts actually turn into things? Because stuff, the physical thing we experience is matter. So energy creates matter, not the other way around. This is why focusing on what you want to have is attempting to move matter and matter is really dense. It's vibrational frequency, and so changing matter into matter, as in turning things into things, is going to take a longer time, because it moves more slowly, whereas energy creates matter. So if you use your energy, you can shift things into form more quickly. So using my earlier example, I would spend 60 minutes of the day feeling good, meditating, visualizing, doing the things, and I felt wonderful. And that would maybe have a knock on effect for the half an hour afterwards, there'd be glimpses throughout the day. But predominantly, 23 hours of the day, I felt not so good. So if you think of that in terms of scales, the scales weren't balanced very well. Now, the problem here was I was reliant on external circumstances to feel good, and the external circumstances were few and far between, because the external world is a reflection of the internal world. So no matter what was going on outside of me, you can guarantee that my feeling of not, not being good, feeling fearful, feeling guilty, just not feeling very great and experiencing the world in that way, I found evidence of that outside of me. So even the best circumstances, the best things that were happening, I could pull out the negative thing from it. I could find the problem with it. I could, I was viewing it through the lens of me rather than the experience itself. I put my own meaning, I projected that onto the events. So, these scales, 23 hours versus 60 minutes, imagine for a moment, you decide to become consciously aware, you decide to choose in this moment, this cup of tea that I'm having. Even the coffee that you have in the morning, if you decide, right, I'm going to experience this moment. I'm going to enjoy this moment fully. I'm going to enjoy it like I am a person who is totally connected with who I am and every moment matters. I'm going to make the decision to have an apple versus a chocolate bar. And whilst it's really insignificant in the moment, I'm giving myself that self love. And bit by bit by bit, the scales begin to tip. So now I'm spending maybe 10 hours of the day where because I chose me, because I checked in on how I was feeling in that moment and I decided to take some deep breaths to feel a little bit better, I decided to go for a walk and get some fresh air. I checked in on me in that moment, not in the, the big event, not when I'm sat down meditating, you know, In that very moment when I was sat at my desk doing a proposal that maybe didn't feel that exciting, I stopped, I paused, I took a breath, I checked in on my energy, I decided to shake it off, I decided to breathe deeply, whatever it might be, it doesn't have to be anything big. In that moment, I, I paused, I became consciously aware, and I shifted my energy, so I just felt that little bit better. What happens then is the scales begin to shift. Now think of it like this, here's say 50 50, so 50 percent of the day I am feeling, not so great, and then 50 percent of the day I am feeling wonderful. Imagine just that slight tip, so now 49 percent of the day I'm feeling not so great, but the majority of the day, 51 percent of the day, I feel good. I choose me. That shift in energy, things are going to change in your reality so it's now you're slightly heading in the direction of becoming the future version of you, of showing up like you are worthy. You are deserving. You are that person now is going to have an impact on what you decide to do, which is going to have an impact on On the tangible 3D results, the things that show up, the things that you have, the things that you create. And that's what it's really all about, because you could have everything. Somebody could come and give you everything that you want now. They could hand it to you on a plate and say, here's all the stuff that you want. But if you haven't shifted inside, then the chances are you're not going to be able to hold on to that thing. You're not going to be able to sustain it, because you haven't energetically got the container for it. And that could come in the form of pushing it away, pretending that you didn't want it anyway, burning it to the ground, getting rid of it before you think it's going to dissolve all by itself. There are many ways that people sabotage themselves and their results and it's usually to do with that safety and protection. So if you get yourself into the position where you've received something that you're really not ready for because you haven't become the person that can hold it, then you will find a way to destroy it. And it's all to do with, I want to keep myself safe. And that could be as simple as thinking, well, I didn't want it in the first place. When deep down, you know that you do, you know that you want that thing. But if you tell yourself you don't, well, then I won't get hurt. The problem is. You know that you want it, and that desire isn't going to go away. In fact, it's going to perpetuate, it's going to make itself even more known, and then it will feel even more painful. So instead, why not, even if it's as simple as doing those little moment by moment, the moments in between, right now, today, To begin to make those shifts, just focus on that. Now, it could be that you want to go even deeper. If that's something you want to do, if you want to maybe identify what are the blocks that are holding you back, where are you getting stuck? Where are you coming up against your own limitations? Then by all means, book a call with me. I've opened up, in fact, let me share this with you. I'm super excited about this. So I've been having short calls with people lately, kind of by accident, and I say it's by accident, it's not really because the universe delivers to you the exact things that you're asking for, that you desire, even if you're not sure what it is. So over the last few months, I've been having shorter calls with my clients. what you could call a clarity call. So meeting with my clients, holding the space for them to be able to tell me for about an hour to 90 minutes what's going on for them, where are they feeling stuck, where are they coming up against a limitation, an edge, and they're not able to kind of break through it, but they don't know what it is. Now, during those calls, what I've been able to do is give my clients a different perspective on what maybe happened. Identify what that block is. And then through a process, ease them through it and give them some really practical ways to go and implement that time and time again in their life. So it's a really short call in the grand scheme of life. It's like 90 minutes. Yeah. It's an immense value to just almost like unplug something. So this isn't a long term coaching container. It's not the breakthrough process where we're going deep and we're really realigning everything yet. Sometimes you just need that little bit of oomph to break through the next Layer that's going to then allow you to propel forward and keep going on your journey. So if that's something that you're interested in, then by all means, book a call with me. It's 90 minutes call. It's usually 300 pounds. I am doing a deal at the moment. This won't be forever. It's 150 pounds. To come and share 90 minutes with me where I'm going to help you to do exactly that to break through that, maybe that initial barrier that has been getting in the way and just that it's almost the way that I view this is like an elastic band. If you imagine it's almost like this elastic band has been pulling backwards. It's been holding you back and maybe you don't know what that elastic band is. So during our session, it's about me allowing you to release that band. And if you think about that analogy, when you let go of the band, what happens? It's like, Oh, you spring. Oh, I think I just hit my microphone. I do apologize. Uh, you spring forward and that can be the very kind of leap, not the leap board. What's the, the springboard. Yeah. that takes you to the next level, the next experience that you want to have. So, again, I'll pop it in the show notes, have a look. If you want to hop on a call and spend 90 minutes with me to do exactly that, then I would love to share it with you. The, the breakthroughs that I've been having in, in such a small space of time have been quite phenomenal. So all that being said, I hope you've enjoyed today's episode. I didn't have any notes whatsoever. So it may have gone all over the place here, there, and everywhere. Yeah. It's something that was on my heart. It's something that I wanted to share with you that it's, you know, it's one of those things that I experienced myself often and have to check in with myself and say, yeah, Are you enjoying this moment? Are you being fully you, fully present in this moment and making those small decisions, decision by decision by decision? the power that I have found in that, and my clients have found in that, just coming into the now, being present in the moment. Because, you know, you've probably heard it a million times before, now is all that we ever have. Constantly creating from the now. We're not creating from the future. The future isn't something that's going to happen. It's what we're doing in the now that creates the future. If you think about it in terms of course, an effect in the now we are causing the effects that are going to follow in the future. And that is everything. That's not just the meditation. That's not just the big group of action that we take. Those are the moment by moment times where we lean in where we want to lean out, where we show up where we don't want to, that make the difference. Now I hope that you've enjoyed today, and if you have, I would really appreciate it if you would just take two minutes to leave me a quick review. I always forget to ask and it makes such a difference, so if you would be so kind, that would be really, really appreciated, and I will see you next time. If there's something you want me to dive a bit deeper into, anything that I've shared today where you need a bit of clarity on, I Drop me a message and I'll make sure that I share that in one of the following episodes to come. Have an amazing day as ever, and I'll see you soon.