The Peace & Prosperity Podcast is a conversation with Jason Phillips, LCSW, licensed therapist and confidence coach in Raleigh, NC, discussing all things related to self-love and self-confidence, and how we can improve ourselves personally and professionally.
In this episode, we are joined by Venus Austin, founder & CEO of BlankWardrobe, who joins us for an amazing conversation on Style and Confidence!
Venus Austin is the founder and CEO of BLANKWardrobe, a women's apparel company that specializes in versatile and classic wardrobe staples that you can use to build or enhance your current wardrobe. BLANKWardrobe was created out of Venus' desire to empower and uplift women through fashion and beauty.
Ever thought about the power of style and how it can communicate your persona without uttering a word? Join us on an intriguing journey with Venus Austin, the style guru and founder of BLANKWardrobe, who has harnessed the power of style to build her confidence and express her unique personality. Born and raised in Detroit, Venus shares her story of evolving style and fashion sense, and the integral role they played in shaping her individuality.
Here's what you can expect during this episode:
- Master the art of building a versatile wardrobe as Venus provides invaluable advice on finding your unique style and dressing to express, not to impress.
- Listen closely as we explore the emotional attachment we develop with our clothing items and the struggle of letting them go
- A special segment of our conversation is dedicated to style transitions many encounter from high school to the corporate world or entrepreneurship, highlighting the importance of confidence and personal style in making it smoother.
- This is just a SNIPPET of what we cover during this episode!!!
- Tune in and let's redefine style together!
Be sure to follow Venus on IG at the links below and visit her website to shop her apparel and accessories!
https://www.instagram.com/iamvmil/
https://www.instagram.com/theblankwardrobe/
https://blankwardrobe.com
To stay connected with Jason and learn about coaching, connect with Jason on social media:
The Peace & Prosperity Podcast is a conversation with Jason Phillips, LCSW, licensed therapist and confidence coach in Raleigh, NC, discussing all things related to self-love and self-confidence, and how we can improve ourselves personally and professionally.
In this episode, we are joined by Venus Austin, founder & CEO of BlankWardrobe, who joins us for an amazing conversation on Style and Confidence!
Venus Austin is the founder and CEO of BLANKWardrobe, a women's apparel company that specializes in versatile and classic wardrobe staples that you can use to build or enhance your current wardrobe. BLANKWardrobe was created out of Venus' desire to empower and uplift women through fashion and beauty.
Ever thought about the power of style and how it can communicate your persona without uttering a word? Join us on an intriguing journey with Venus Austin, the style guru and founder of BLANKWardrobe, who has harnessed the power of style to build her confidence and express her unique personality. Born and raised in Detroit, Venus shares her story of evolving style and fashion sense, and the integral role they played in shaping her individuality.
Here's what you can expect during this episode:
- Master the art of building a versatile wardrobe as Venus provides invaluable advice on finding your unique style and dressing to express, not to impress.
- Listen closely as we explore the emotional attachment we develop with our clothing items and the struggle of letting them go
- A special segment of our conversation is dedicated to style transitions many encounter from high school to the corporate world or entrepreneurship, highlighting the importance of confidence and personal style in making it smoother.
- This is just a SNIPPET of what we cover during this episode!!!
- Tune in and let's redefine style together!
Be sure to follow Venus on IG at the links below and visit her website to shop her apparel and accessories!
https://www.instagram.com/iamvmil/
https://www.instagram.com/theblankwardrobe/
https://blankwardrobe.com
To stay connected with Jason and learn about coaching, connect with Jason on social media:
being able to wear like you. You wear your polo and your t-shirts. That's you. And that's what you're gonna typically see and that's. That's fine. So it's being able to like, lean into it, to showcase your personality and communicate with people without really speaking.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, and I appreciate that, and you know me having the confidence lane. My definition of being confident is being able to be who you are and you being able to be your own biggest cheerleader, because a lot of times we're looking for other people for validation. I know you're enjoying the episode, but I wanna say that maybe you've been listening to the episode and you're thinking I would like to work on my confidence or I'm not happy where things are at in my life and I could benefit from talking to a professional. If that's you, visit my website or click the link below, schedule your consultation and let's see if we're a good fit to work with each other. All right, now let's get back to the episode. I'm gonna go ahead and do it. Welcome to another episode of the Peace and Prosperity podcast, vee. We said when we do this again we gotta be in person. We've teamed up I don't know three, four, five times over the past three years, because our first one was right before the pandemic.
Speaker 1:
That's it, and it seemed like it was so long ago, but it kind of well I guess it kind of was a while ago, about three, four years, three years. Three or four years.
Speaker 2:
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:
The pandemic.
Speaker 2:
That's what I'm saying, March 2020.
Speaker 1:
That was yes, so it's been a while.
Speaker 2:
Introduce yourself. My bad, we just started jumping in, go ahead.
Speaker 1:
Look, I hate intros, this is like the worst part. But I'm Venus Austin. I'm the CEO and founder of Blank Wardrobe. Blank Wardrobe is a versatile women's apparel company. We specialize in women's apparel, but we have some unisex items that you know your man, if you want to purchase something for him, you can like joggers and more relaxed wear. So we're all about being able to build your wardrobe or use some of our items to like, pair with it, to enhance it. So we believe in like using your style for confidence and building that up. And so, yeah, yeah, we five years in the game. Five years in the game.
Speaker 2:
So I figured this time because we've talked about confidence and style before, but now we can elevate the conversation because Blank has elevated, I've elevated. I mean we've been doing some dope stuff.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, I see you out here. I mean, mr Men's Health was it Men's Health and it's you today and all the other things that you've been in. So yeah, I've been watching you.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, I appreciate it seriously, so let's get into it. Some people don't know what style is or why style is important. So how do you define style, and has that definition changed for you over time?
Speaker 1:
No, it's pretty consistent, so style to me so it's obviously.
Speaker 1:
To me it's a difference between style and fashion. So fashion to me is more of the like kind of theory, or like the kind of bare bones of what like clothes and kind of like your energy is. That's fashion. Style to me is all tied to your personality. So it's being able to take fashion and incorporate it into your personality to come up with your style. So that's why you can see people who can wear a white T-shirt or jeans. Several people can. You can see a walk down the street wearing the same outfit, but the energy is different.
Speaker 1:
It's because of their personality. That's style. So style is your personality, kind of mixing with fashion and you being able to express yourself through your clothes and what you wear. And I feel like it's important because I think it's a easy thing to leverage, like you have to get dressed every day, like I know some people don't believe that, but you have to get dressed every day. You should get dressed every day. And it's an easy thing to leverage when you're talking about expressing yourself and being able to showcase your personality and who you are without even having to say a word. So I think, by people not leaning into that, it's almost like you're leaving money on a table right, because like that's the first thing someone's gonna see. And for me, I don't think that you have to be trendy.
Speaker 2:
Right.
Speaker 1:
But being able to wear like you. You wear your polos or t-shirts, that's you. Yeah, and that's what you're gonna typically see and that's that's fine. So it's being able to like lean into it to showcase your personality and communicate with people without really speaking.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, and I appreciate that, and you know me having the confidence lane. My definition of being confident is being able to be who you are and you being able to be your own biggest cheerleader, because a lot of times we're looking for other people for validation. I mean, think about it we you know what up Delta, all my people from Detroit, like CAST Tech. That was the grounds for me for really having to develop my style and be confident in who I am without having a whole lot of money to do it either.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, I mean yeah, so CAST was different.
Speaker 1:
So for me I was like I've always been into fashion and style, like I like it was always a passion of mine.
Speaker 1:
But I dealt with some confidence issues in high school because, like girls, women, you know, OK, you're developing and it can happen fast for some of us, and for me it was like one day I went from being like and I'm a tomboy too, so it went from me being a tomboy, having my brothers and all that, to just like things was just happening and I was just like I don't know how to wear clothes with this new body and I'm not really comfortable with it because I'm a tomboy and like these things are happening to me and so I didn't know how to like lean into my confidence of just being like you know what look, this is it, this is what I'm look like and I need to dress to this. So it took me time and really until I got into college where I was like you know what, let's just lean into it and let me start to express myself through my style. And that's kind of where I matured into my style.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, Mine was the same way. You know, high school, not necessarily like I wasn't growing into a different body you know what I'm saying but as far as not having the resources for all of the name brands and things. So I had to figure out how do I make this white teapop or this long, what? The tall black tee, the tall tee rolling up the sleeves with that, you know, leveraging the jeans and the shoes and really being confident with that. And what I noticed then I mean we're talking about now like literally, because I know you coming up on your 20,- your 20 year.
Speaker 1:
You're talking about.
Speaker 2:
You're talking about Cass so this is your 20 year reunion, but I had mine last year. It's all good, but that's where I had to figure out how to step into it, and I noticed that when I was more confident in what I was wearing, people responded to me differently. I showed up differently. I mean, then I carried that over to college grad school interview. So Talk about how having style and confidence can help you with insecurities.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, I mean, I think it's like so when I talk to people or like, and this can be friends or anyone, because now especially, people come to me because they think I think at one point you were like yeah, this is a stylist and I tried to put that on you, yeah.
Speaker 1:
No, I'm not a stylist, I'm a fashion expert. That's like I guess, right. And so people will come to me with like questions and whatnot about like how to dress to their personality or like how to find their style. And so, also for people to know, I have my MSF use, so did social work and we were in the same cohort or whatnot.
Speaker 1:
But from that I was like man. Like when you really take somebody and you talk to them about what their style, you forced them to look at themselves and really you ask them a question like okay, well, what do you gravitate to most? Or like, what do you feel comfortable in, you can immediately see people get uncomfortable. And that was like weird to me because I was just like I've always just loved clothes, like I've watched Ralph Lauren's autobiography like five times, like, and I and it's new every time I watch it, like I love it that much. And so to hear people not be comfortable talking about wearing a dress, or wearing blazers or whatever the case may be was like weird to me.
Speaker 1:
But then that's when I first realized I was like, wow, this is like a self discovery. So by being able to have that self reflection and someone asking you, what, what do you like, what would you like yourself in, so people start to think, like man, like I don't really like X, y and Z because I don't, I think I'm out of shape or I don't want to, I don't wear this because I don't want to show this part of my body. You start to really uncover the insecurities and what not. And that's why the style and confidence go together. Because when you force someone to kind of look at that, really internalize that and process that and get comfortable with whatever it is that they like, it's kind of like now, this new found person. They are kind of reintroduced to themselves. And that's where the confidence comes in, because you, you, at that point you go through process of kind of like I accept myself, like, okay, like I don't, I'm not going to wear the body con dresses.
Speaker 2:
Right.
Speaker 1:
And that's okay.
Speaker 2:
I think just off of that statement, I accept myself. That's deep, because we can be in a room, we could be at a party, we could be in a networking event, we could be anywhere, not say anything but our clothes and what we, how we dress. That's saying everything. And how we show up, like our physical body language, the non verbals, all that that's different. And when you go, when you talk about insecurities, I remember people saying like, if we go to a party, hey bro, what you wearing and you think about why do people ask that question? Why is it so important? Because they want to feel. Feel like, hey, I'm, I'm not out the loop or I'm not doing something that's too risque, right, like I don't want to be doing this and y'all are doing that.
Speaker 1:
Exactly. But when you get to a point, because it takes time, you know, like working with clients, whenever it takes time for people to, once they accept it and they're like, okay, this is how I am to. So for me, right now, I don't care what event I'm going to, unless it's like we, it's a white party, then we, you know. But if I, if I want to, if I want to wear a skirt and I want to wear some heels, I'm wearing that, yeah. Or if I want to wear flats, which is more my thing, I'm wearing that. I don't care what other people are wearing or what they're doing at an event. I know how I want to show up to the event, and so that that's when you know like you've really matured and grown into your confidence and when you can express yourself that freely, no matter what other people are doing, yeah.
Speaker 2:
I mean, you do? You get a chance to unlock a whole lot when you are comfortable being who you are, wearing what you want, not being so concerned about the price. You know what everybody else is doing. You know I'm here right now because of a conference speakers conference and they you know ET Eric Thomas is putting it on. You know, et's always wearing the the T-shirt and the hat and they talked about an event that he wouldn't do because they wanted him to wear a black tie or like a suit. He said, well, I can't do that, that's not who I am, no matter the price tag. And I was like dang. When you know who you are and what you stand for, it really helps you out because now you have boundaries, you have balance, you have style, personality. Yeah.
Speaker 1:
And I mean I think, even looking with what Eric was saying, like that shows you how important that visual is and how tight your, the way you look in terms of like your clothes and how you project your personality, how important and tied to who you are as a person. And I think that that's like dope to hear him like say like I'm a turned out money because, yeah, if they're telling him he has to like wear a tuxedo or something like that and that's not him, so now he has to go and present or speak or be in this room and he can't even be himself. Yeah, so now, if you can't identify with yourself, you can't really identify with other people.
Speaker 2:
Dang. That's dope too, because think about our messaging. I know I thought about what I wanted to wear for this. Did you think about what you was wearing today? I?
Speaker 1:
did, because I was like, well, we can be kind of like on a couch and I was like I want to be comfortable and look like I'm you know that's why that worked Right.
Speaker 2:
So it makes a difference. I don't think we give enough credit to how important it is to be comfortable with yourself and comfortable with how you present. Now let's talk a little bit about the circle that you're in and how different circles can either boost your confidence with style or they can take away from it.
Speaker 1:
I mean. So this is I'm going to be honest. I don't. I can't resonate with that 100%, because even when we were at CAS, you know, the guest outfits were popping icebergs.
Speaker 2:
Jabro.
Speaker 1:
Jabro and I was just and I had access to be able to get like all those things.
Speaker 1:
But I didn't know. I remember my mom was like you want to guess outfit? I can get. You can get a couple of them if you want. And I was like no, like I didn't want because I was like everyone else is wearing them and I just felt like it wasn't where. I was like personality wise, I wasn't there yet and I didn't really want to be like everyone else. So for me I can't 100% speak to that because I've never, even when I was my most, I guess, what you would call it like with low confidence, I was confident enough to still operate in myself and in my comfort zone.
Speaker 2:
So you had confidence, as you was, I mean well.
Speaker 1:
I guess it was. I didn't realize it was.
Speaker 2:
Yeah.
Speaker 1:
And my mom was like, yeah, you always were vocal about what you want to wear and you never cared what everybody else was doing. And I would say at the time I did not feel confident, but I guess it it was, I don't know.
Speaker 2:
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Speaker 1:
Yeah, and then you had to have the t-shirt. The t-shirt was 60.
Speaker 2:
So that was like a two, 10, like whatever. It was a lot just for one outfit. And I can say that the circle that I was with my friend group we are which kind of supported each other. So nobody was like Jonesing on somebody or talking down to somebody because they didn't have, or they did have because we all came from somewhat similar but still different backgrounds as far as, like, socioeconomic status wise. But I feel like if you have the wrong people, it could force you to want to do things either to your body or to your dress that you're not comfortable with but you're trying to fit in.
Speaker 1:
True, and I can see that, like I like definitely can say I've seen friends do that where I go back to the body contrasts, because they were real popular at one point and everybody had to have one. It was the IRV I can't think of the name, this is for Liger, ledger, legger, irv, irv, legger, I think don't shoot me, y'all Put in the comments whatever, I would let me know how to really say it but everybody wanted one and everyone had one because their friend groups had it. So, yeah, I can see that being the case. I will say, though, especially for younger people who might look at this like, challenge yourself not to do that, though, like no matter what your group is like, challenge yourself, like have a support system, like your friends should be supportive, but even if everyone else is doing X, y and Z, challenge yourself to kind of lean in a little bit, find out what your style is, what your personality is, link those together and let that be your guidepost and not what everybody else is wearing.
Speaker 2:
And I'll say, like even this conversation, it helps people I shared with you before. Like our last episode had some of the most highest listeners and some of my clients, I'll direct them to that episode, especially if they're struggling with style, confidence or entrepreneurship, because you share so much about your own journey and people don't know that it takes a while to sometimes get to where you are being super confident, not comparing yourself, you know, because we've seen people do a lot of stuff just to fit in.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, it's a journey and I feel like you. It's kind of like being I always say this being comfortable with being uncomfortable and realizing that you're not every what I would say every three to five years, like you're growing because you're living life and things are changing. So I would challenge people to lean into that and enjoy their journey. And I'm saying that because my husband, alfred, he always especially with entrepreneurship. I will say that's the area where I'm not as confident, like style, fashion, life, all that confident Entrepreneurships. It's getting your girl like it's getting your girl.
Speaker 1:
And so Alfred's always like well, enjoy the journey, like enjoy, like you're not gonna two years from now you won't be packing up all the orders or you won't be in this moment and you're gonna miss it. So don't miss the moment. While you're in it, enjoy it. And so you're right, even with your confidence journey. Just, you know it's easier sitting down, but leaning in and being okay with it being hard.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, like, like even doing this, this is our like I said umpteenth time collaborating. You know, talking together it gets easier each time because we don't quit. True, I know what to wear easier because I keep showing up. So, like, the more you do something over and over and over again, you just bound to get better, just because of practice alone, true, true.
Speaker 1:
Like I will say for me I've, like my style has changed, like I mean it changes part of every couple of years anyway a little bit smooth tweaks, because I'm not the same person. So it style personality, it changes with your personality as it grows or develops, and so I am more confident in not leaning in more to how. I show up so.
Speaker 2:
And V. I gotta say I appreciate you. I done got rid of 90% of my Timberlands that I used to hold on to because I'm like and Marv you know I holler at Marv like man. How do I get you know? How do I figure out when to get rid of certain stuff Cause I have mores? I had Tim's, I have hush puppies, but I was gonna say I was gonna say did you have hush?
Speaker 1:
puppies.
Speaker 2:
But my style personality had changed, but it's like I didn't want to let go of some of that stuff. Yeah, one of my boys just hit me the other day in the group chat Should I get rid of these? And you could tell they was like man. They should have been gone. Sometimes we don't want to let go of certain things, and that could be our clothes too, but it's, we're not the same person.
Speaker 1:
Ask yourself why, like, like, throw the quit. Like why, why? Why didn't you want to get rid of the Timberlings? Like, why, if you're not wearing them Anywhere, why? Why was it hard for you to get rid of them?
Speaker 2:
I think, because it reminded me of those times when I was wearing them. Shout out to Detroit. Yeah, I mean, you know I had a lot of good time in them, but it was time for, you know, just change like. I'm not wearing them no more. It had been 10, 20 years. I've elevated, I've grown. People still wear them, but you know, it's just not, it's not me, so I had to let it go.
Speaker 1:
It was tough, though, but you, you and I for help me out but if you went a little bit deeper to what you said, like it reminded you of Detroit and so getting rid of them was like it might have felt like getting rid of a piece of you, like yeah like a, that attachment to the Timberlings, like in the memories of it, like that. That that's Quintessentially like why? Style and fashion and something, so I mean it's superficial, let's, let's be real.
Speaker 1:
Yeah so superficial, but it's so deep and connected to our personalities and who we are, and that's why it's important Listen I still got the mores.
Speaker 2:
Listen, I'm ready. Whenever they do the 90s party, the 2000, I'm still gonna be ready. So listen, just let me know when I'm pulling up. But but seriously, I'm glad you point that out because it did tie to certain things in my life. Certain places I was in spaces. I mean that stuff was hard to come by. You know I'm saying like we grew up in the same neighborhood. Yeah, most part you was like five minutes away. So you know how it is, where we from now a lot of people you know Are make it out.
Speaker 1:
No, they don't, or even like see something different. Like those people are like they're stuck, kind of standing the same places, not the with the five block rate, and that's it. That's all they know, so it is wait.
Speaker 2:
Well, hold up. I gotta ask you, was it ever anything that you had that you were like, holding on to you, like me?
Speaker 1:
I just got a. I actually still do my prom dress. Yeah, cuz that prom dress like the reason why I kept this, because I'm like okay, like I can like alter it and make it something else, because it was like a vintage lace, like Type of dress. So it's like what color? It was navy and like a peach, so it's low key. I'm gonna be honest, kind of.
Speaker 2:
Would you still pull it out or no?
Speaker 1:
Not, not, not now. It's not my style, personality right, but that that's why I kept it. But also getting dressed for prom Was a lot for me because I was still once again high school dealing with body issues Like I had. At that point I was, I was in my body child but, I, still had baby fat.
Speaker 1:
So, I was, I looked small, but I wouldn't. It was just like and I'm just like, I just I hated it. And so I remember when we went and got fitted like the lady there was like oh my god, you're like the perfect hourglass.
Speaker 2:
And I was like, what like.
Speaker 1:
So it represents like that moment of kind of becoming, in, leaning into being a woman. So that's why I still have it.
Speaker 2:
If I have a girl, a daughter, I can give it to her, and give it to her, tell the story we might have to we might have to dad another color, but yeah, I don't see navy blue, and you said it was like a peach, I don't know what was going on, and then they made me a little shawl to go with it.
Speaker 2:
So you would. So it's so funny you you bring that up though cuz my I just called me and said we, he was going through some stuff in the basement, yo, your prom suit and the prom shoes, and you know we had gators. So I had the silver gators, the all-white suit, and she said, if you want to get rid of? I said, but I looked, oh, look, I. I say yes, but I want to take a picture with it first. But I can easily donate, I don't have you put it on again.
Speaker 2:
I ain't been back yet, but I'm already past it. I already got enough memories with that.
Speaker 1:
True, yeah, so we and definitely the shoes. They can go. I mean but you know what I mean the silver gators. That's like quit the season.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, but it wasn't the Gator, gator, so that was it ain't had the tail on it, wasn't that. Ok, so you mean, so that's the yeah, yeah, yeah, you know I couldn't, I mean get rid of them.
Speaker 1:
Check out that.
Speaker 2:
It wasn't a $1,000 boy, I still got it right, but I still got it downstairs. The prom dress yeah did you have some gators? I know women no. No see, I was never like gator sandals.
Speaker 1:
People went no if people went right, I would left. That's why I had the Navy and Peach prom dress. It was like I want to be as I was, like y'all, y'all where I'm going to wear that.
Speaker 2:
So how do you? I know you not a stylist and shout out to Marv, who is a stylist dope, and I respect the titles. How do you advise people, though, because everybody is not in high school? People are in corporate worlds and entrepreneurship worlds. How do you advise them to find their style, personality?
Speaker 1:
I mean first, like book is such a rich you know, but seriously like I mean, if you have, if you notice, if someone asks you a question like OK, well, what's your style? Like? And you feel uncomfortable, immediately like, then sit with that, don't ignore it, because then that's telling you immediately that there's some confidence issues or some something there, even trauma, that you something is there, so unpack it. If you need the therapist, get one.
Speaker 2:
Yeah.
Speaker 1:
If you're, you can work it out. Then the next thing would be to start looking at your closet. Like what do you gravitate to? Naturally, like what. And then, when you put, when you got to put that stuff on, what do you wear?
Speaker 1:
And how do you feel? How does it make you feel and think of different occasions? And then look at other people, like celebrities or maybe someone in your life where you're like man out like that. If I could dress like anybody or dress like that, that would be how I would dress, not to 100% replicated, but to get some ideas and then start to clean out your closet, anything that doesn't fit that palette, fit all of those things, throw it away, donate it and then go shopping. But shop with all those things in your mind, like what you like, what traumas or insecurities you have to work through. Have all that in your mind and then, like your wardrobe should reflect kind of all of that self work that you did.
Speaker 2:
So, basically, if you got a wardrobe that you're not wearing, then that may mean that you have stuff in your life that you're not dealing with. It's just sitting there, stagnant, taking up space. So the rest of your life can't really flourish until you clean that stuff out. See, that's not that. Yes.
Speaker 1:
That's how I feel.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, I agree, and it might sound like some people might listen oh no, that's BS.
Speaker 1:
Like, OK, that's not really it. Sit down and really think about what we just said and if you feel a little bit uncomfortable, like, I guarantee there's some type of confidence, insecurity or trauma.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, I would say this I think we all have to get dressed, so that should be something that we look forward to, not dread. So if you do dread getting dressed whether it's going to the office or going to your home office there may be something that you need to work on internally so you can look good and feel good externally. I like having a style personality, because it's less decisions that I have to make and it's decisions that I can look forward to. You know what I mean Our favorite foods and restaurants. Like I'm already thinking where we going, I'm looking forward to that. Like I'm already you know when we can do the same thing with our life and how we show up every day. It just makes things flow.
Speaker 1:
It does, and even think about the pandemic where, like, I went through a period, maybe for like a month and a half or two months, where I didn't really get dressed and I was like, why do I feel so like? Like, not like me, I feel blood. Yeah, and then I was like you know what? Because I haven't done my hair for real, I haven't like done my makeup, I haven't like put on my clothes, and so from that point on I was like oh, I'm getting dressed every day and I'm putting on my makeup.
Speaker 1:
I'm doing all the things I used to do when I was outside and immediately felt better War, my perfume, I didn't care. I was like I'm the only one smelling my baby. I'm a smell good.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, I'm by myself, yeah.
Speaker 1:
And it worked.
Speaker 2:
I totally agree. I know we kind of come into a close with the episode V. What would you say to somebody who is struggling with finding their style? They feel like they tried this, they tried that. They really don't even know what to do or where to start. Hire, marv yeah, marv, shout out to Marv. Marv will get you together, hire.
Speaker 1:
Marv, hire him. He's probably gonna be like 50 people gonna come, but for real, hire a professional. It's okay to have a professional, but I feel like people don't realize the investment of why it's important to invest in a stylist or someone who is professional in that space. So yeah, hire somebody. Get the therapy first, though. Use treatment or anything, hire him and then hire.
Speaker 2:
Marv man V. You crushed it. Where can people find you? Follow you shop with you Because you got some, a lot of dope stuff. Thank, you.
Speaker 1:
So blankwordjokecom is the website that's the store the blank wordjoke on Instagram and, if you want to follow me, is IMVMIL. So I am V, as in Victoria MIO on Instagram.
Speaker 2:
It'll all be in the show notes. Man Appreciate you. Oh wait. On YouTube, oh yeah.
Speaker 1:
I know, I know I haven't been 100% consistent, but I have on shorts, so follow me on shorts and follow me on YouTube at IMVMIL.
Speaker 2:
Got it. Appreciate you V.
Speaker 1:
Appreciate you too.
Speaker 2:
Thank you all for listening to another episode of the Peace and Prosperity Podcast. Again, if you are feeling like, hey, I'm experiencing high functioning anxiety, don't beat yourself up about it. It is okay. We all experience anxiety from time to time and I gave you a couple of things that you can do on your own, but don't hesitate to reach out to a professional to better manage what you're going through. Okay, and lastly, make sure, if you have not like share, subscribe to the podcast and send this out to a friend, and if you want to hear certain episodes or have certain conversations, let me know. You can shoot me a DM or just leave a review and I will definitely follow up. All right, y'all Be blessed, peace.
