All About The Joy
All About The Joy is a weekly hang-out with friends in the neighborhood! We share insight, advice, funny-isms and we choose to always try and find the positive, the silver lining, the "light" in all of it. AATJ comes from the simple concept that at the end of the day we all want to have more JOY than not. So, this is a cool place to unwind, have a laugh and share some time with friends!
All About The Joy
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Take a seat, as we whisk you away to the sun-drenched shores of Aruba, where the tale of our latest escape unfolds with the zest of a freshly squeezed mojito. While sipping drinks and managing client tasks under the palm trees, we ponder the elusive dream of a work-free vacation, promising you insights into the art of balancing business with pleasure. The multilingual locals and their economic plights weave into our narrative, offering sobering realities and sparking conversations about the value of joy in our daily lives.
Fasten your seatbelt for our next stop - the highs and lows of all-inclusive resorts, the adrenaline rush of parasailing , and candid confessions about airports that might just tempt you to pack up and chase love & life to a new zip code. We don't shy away from the serious stuff either, diving into a heartfelt discussion on the responsibilities of sudden wealth and we talk about our collective desire to spread kindness far and wide. Our musings extend beyond sandy beaches, addressing societal issues like homelessness with empathy and proposing actionable solutions to uplift those in need.
As we wrap up our journey, we invite you to celebrate life's milestones with us - from birthday to the thrill of imagining a lottery win that could redefine our lives. We share laughter, reflect on the importance of sustaining meaningful relationships, and encourage you to embrace the beauty in everyday moments. So come join us on this adventure of the heart, where we explore the world and its wonders, all while keeping an ear to the ground for the stories that truly resonate. Welcome to All About the Joy - an expedition through the laughter, the tears, and the pure bliss of being alive.
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Hi everyone, welcome to All About the Joy. It's Carmen, rick and Tony Nice to see you there's people out there.
Rick Costa:I forgot about that.
Carmen Lezeth:So Tony didn't have on a shirt, I want everyone to know. And he was like, oh, let me put on a t-shirt. We were like, please put on a t-shirt. Carmen back, hey everyone, this is my green screen. I have it because that's me and Connie, who I kept calling Colleen on the trip because I just met her, so now let's take her nickname. We're parasailing. That's us up there. Isn't that a cool picture? Very, very cool. And Aruba, yeah, I already miss it. I think I'm going to move. I'm not kidding. This is how it happened when I moved to California.
Carmen Lezeth:It starts with the kind of joke maybe I will move the people there are beautiful. Have you guys been to Aruba?
Tony D.:No, no, it is on my list to go.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah.
Rick Costa:Hey, cynthia hey.
Carmen Lezeth:Cynthia. Cynthia was going to come on, but she's busy Not feeling well, which makes me worried about her. But yeah, I hope you feel better, cynthia. I'm sorry, I always feel bad because she always wants to come on and she's resting this evening.
Tony D.:Relax yourself. We got this.
Carmen Lezeth:That's what I'm saying. So, tony Ma'am, how you doing.
Tony D.:I'm chilling Busy week next week. Got to get ready for that. Other than that, I don't want to hear none of this. You, ma'am since you had something going on and you were so busy you need to tell us about your trip. You always want to hear when we got stuff going on. You always want to hear about everything afterwards, so we need to do the same with you. You need to tell us all about Aruba.
Carmen Lezeth:Aruba. Okay, what do you want to know? Rick, you were going to ask me some questions.
Rick Costa:One thing I remember you said is that they speak multiple languages over there.
Carmen Lezeth:Yes, they speak multiple languages, so they speak English, spanish, pampimiento I'm not saying it right, but I think it's Pampamiento which is like a combination of Dutch and French and Spanish, and they speak Portuguese as well.
Rick Costa:Hey Melanie, how are you, how are you doing?
Carmen Lezeth:Hey, melanie, and so a couple of times I would be hearing them talking in papamiento I think that's how you say it. Again, I'm not absolutely sure. They thought it was cute how I said it, so I'm thinking I'm close. There would be certain words they would say and I would be like I, I understand, you know what I mean. So, but most of them speak spanish. It was great.
Rick Costa:So the people there are lovely, um yeah, the guy that was a tenant in my house, um, he spoke spanish. He's pretty much spanish, so yeah yeah, it's a.
Carmen Lezeth:It's a. It's a beautiful, beautiful place. I do think my beach is better. I I said that to to all the women we were with. I said I live in santa monica and I just have to say I think my beach is better, your water looks better, but our beach is better. I'm just saying I have to compare beaches, you know.
Rick Costa:Yeah, the water definitely in islands, are pretty amazing. I remember going to Bermuda and I'm like, wow, you could literally see clear out. I could see through the water way out far, because it was so beautiful clear, crystal blue.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, when we were parasailing this is a picture of us parasailing people you could just see clear down into the water. It's so gorgeous and beautiful. And yeah, you could just see clear down into the water. It's so gorgeous and beautiful. It's a lovely time. It was a great time, no complaints. I worked while I was away, though, Hold on one second I know surprise, Hold on one second, bless you.
Tony D.:Did she call for Steve's old camera? She's never done that before.
Carmen Lezeth:But didn't I mute it? No, I thought I was being like Andrea muting it. You know what? I'm so tired. I just got in this morning. I'm really exhausted. I had a layover and um, and I did work while I was on vacation, which you know. I was trying to explain to people that when you have a business, you don't really have an ability to not be available and um, so I did some reports for one of my clients and then another client.
Carmen Lezeth:This was so funny Cause when I was in the room with Joanne, I had to. I had to transfer $2 million somewhere and she was like, what are you doing? I'm like we're trying to transfer money for one of my clients and it's not working. She was like I was trying to tell her it doesn't matter if it's $2 million or $300. It's the same thing when you're just handling people's crap. You know what I mean.
Carmen Lezeth:So I think that's one of the things I might regret is I really want to go away without working at all, but I worked almost every day, at least for a couple hours. Oh, wow, yeah, yeah. I mean don't get me wrong with a mojito in one hand, or you know, I was still. I mean I didn't do it on the beach because that would be inappropriate, especially for. But I had like two Zoom calls while I was away and that's kind of a bummer. I had like two Zoom calls while I was away and that was kind of a bummer. But you know, again, first world problems, I was in Aruba. You know what I mean. Yeah, yeah.
Rick Costa:So what was like the best part of the trip.
Carmen Lezeth:There were a few things that were great about it, I think meeting people I've never met before and hanging out with them anyway. So I knew, of course, mary and Joanne because I grew up with them. And I knew, of course, mary Ann and Joanne because I grew up with them. And I knew a couple other people like Mary Ann and Lori. I've known them but still, like hanging out with that many people, I was a little nervous but it was great to meet all these people and when you have a connection to people who are so cool, you can kind of trust that it's going to be a really cool time.
Carmen Lezeth:You see what I'm saying Like, if I I know Rick, I'm going to go hang out with you and you tell me that you're bringing you know three of your friends, I'm going to trust that those three friends are good people because you are you know what I mean and and and I think that kind of happened. And also Mary and Joanne, the twins they turned, which I think you guys met, nasty t-shirts, which was hilarious, and we played all these games and and and there were no rules. You didn't have to do anything or participate in anything. So you know, we're all grownups, but it was just really well done. It was really fun time. So I think that was probably one of the best things meeting new people and being easygoing about it all and, yeah, that was probably one of the best things for sure so if you had to pick one thing you missed the most about aruba, what would you say?
Carmen Lezeth:the people yeah I'm talking the people of the island, I'm not talking about the like. I spoke to a lot of the people, the workers uh, who work there and stuff, and um, I talked to them just to learn a little bit about their lives, like, for example, the woman that was the, the two women that were cleaning our room. Um, one of them and this is so sad to hear, one of them is a full-time teacher, but she makes more money housekeeping.
Carmen Lezeth:So she does housekeeping part-time because she makes more money and I was like is this all over the world where we don't treat teachers with respect and dignity? And clearly the answer is yes. Oh, glad you had fun. I think you needed a vacation, cynthia said I think I needed a vacation too.
Tony D.:I was so tired.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm tired now, but from just not time change and sleeping. But I totally thank you. I think everyone needs a vacation.
Tony D.:Yeah, teachers don't get paid enough and you're jet lagged. Is it jet lag? Yes, because you had that big time difference. They had a long flight. That's jet lag.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, I tend not to believe in jet lag, but I guess it is, I don't know.
Tony D.:You tend not to believe. Okay, you're about to find out.
Carmen Lezeth:Well, here's the thing, because all I did was go to the East Coast, basically, right, it's the same time change. So usually when I go to the East Coast it doesn't really affect me, because it's actually good, because I'm such an early sleeper.
Tony D.:So you've done the time zone change of one occasion frequently.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, to New York, it's just not a big deal. Or Boston. That's my phone, sorry. Totally fine, whatever you need, tony D.
Tony D.:We are just grateful to have you in our presence, as always. I would think that the time change would be different, but if you're used to it, then I hear you. If anything, you just came home from vacation and you're relaxed.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, I don't know if I'm saying I'm used to. I'm just saying it wasn't that big of a time. It's not like when I go to like australia or something that's. That's a jet lag thing, you know that's a, that's a that's a different ball game. But going to the east coast I mean, it is aruba, but I think flying makes you tired, you know. I think I know that sounds weird because it's not like I'm flying the plane, or anything.
Rick Costa:I flew all the way here. My, my arms are tired.
Carmen Lezeth:But, um, but I'm also kind of sad to have to be back. I'll be honest, I, um, I really don't think we should. Okay, these are the revelations I had while I was away. I'm like life should be much more enjoyable, like you are when you're on vacation. Then it is like this should be more joy. I hate to be cheesy, but more joy in our lives, like when you go on vacation.
Tony D.:Yes.
Carmen Lezeth:You know, and how do you do that?
Tony D.:Relax as much as possible, but you always have to come back to some sort of responsibility. I've done vacation.
Carmen Lezeth:But I was responsible, I was on vacation, I was responsible, I was doing my work, I was, you know, touching base with staff, I was checking emails. I'm just saying I think the difference was is that it wasn't mundane, it was a different, it was a different schedule and there was something to do every day. Whether it was like all right, I mean, we all met on the beach and, you know, hung out on the beach all day, but there was a schedule we're going to go on a boat ride and we're going to go on ATV thing there was something different about every day. And I think that's what I kind of learned is how mundane life gets when we're just here in the rat race.
Rick Costa:Does that make sense?
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah.
Tony D.:Yeah, yeah.
Rick Costa:She does.
Tony D.:She's a decompressor, exactly.
Carmen Lezeth:Thank you, Melanie. Can you call all of my clients tomorrow?
Rick Costa:and tell them that Thank you. Yeah, I saw somebody say that they always take a two-week vacation because it takes them a good week to finally feel relaxed enough to enjoy where they are, and then that next week they can enjoy it. Really, that's the truth.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, I think that would be a disaster for me work-wise. I mean, I did in essence take off two weeks, I did, but I only left for 10 days. But yeah, 10 days is plenty of time, Let so uh, but yeah, it's a ton of time.
Tony D.:That's. That's. That's took about two, three days. Get comfortable, then you adapt to where you're at, enjoy the scenery. Yeah, a little bit of work every now and then get you back to reality, but then you can vacation a little bit harder or at least get more out of it, because you had to do something while you were there.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah.
Tony D.:I get that. Nope, I've gone to see family three times in the past year for about a weekend four. So they were short, three, four day trips max. So I don't want to say it's a little bit of a getaway okay, say this respectfully, but is it?
Carmen Lezeth:is it for you a holiday when you go see family? Because I know some people like going to go see family and no vacation.
Tony D.:It is a holiday for me, because that's one of my goals every year Go to the family, go see the family. At least I can do what I want to do easy. But to go see the family is a bigger focus and even when I do what I want to do, I've done a lot of that. I can say that I've done a lot of that. So for me, that's why I'm going to see family now Vacation it costs more than what I make, the way I spend money, and I'm bad, I'm very bad. I will go and blow the whole picture. It's very easy for me.
Carmen Lezeth:So for you, you actually went somewhere you wanted to go. I think that was an all-inclusive place, so you paid. I don't know what it was. I forget. It was like whatever. No, no, because they also had deals. They go every year, so I forget what we paid. I think we paid like three grand each or something, and it was all-inclusive. So all your meals were paid for all your drinks. That's why everybody was drinking all day, because no matter where.
Carmen Lezeth:So they were asking you if you wanted to drink what I'd have been lit 10 days.
Tony D.:Eight of those days I'd have been drunk.
Carmen Lezeth:And I didn't drink at all. I mean, I did, I did drink, but I didn't.
Tony D.:Eight of those days I would have been drunk.
Carmen Lezeth:I had like three drinks per day because I would milk them and then I was just chugging water all day. But let me tell, you these ladies can drink. They can drink, oh my goodness they can drink. And then they would eat at dinner and they'd get another drink. I'm like you've been drinking all day at the beach. How do you do that? Yeah, and so I you know, for me, the, the. I don't know if I would do all inclusive ever again.
Tony D.:I will tell you, because I think, there's a there's a drawback to that what. I've never done it, but I would I think you would enjoy it.
Carmen Lezeth:I mean especially, look at I. I think it's great and it does include everything, and then, but if you want to do anything different, like parasailing, you got to pay. That. That's a separate charge. But, all the hotel, it's the rooms and your drinks and food and in that sense, budget wise it's a great deal. It's awesome. Melanie just said it's been a few years since I've had any semblance of a vacation. And yes, to me seeing family is a vacation, since I have no family nearby, exactly.
Tony D.:I get that, melanie. I got some in Atlanta, but the majority of my family is back up northeast, so yeah, I relate to that.
Carmen Lezeth:But you understand why I was saying that right, because sometimes when people like for Thanksgiving, when people get together for Thanksgiving, they get stressed because they have to deal with family drama. You know what I mean? It's routine.
Tony D.:It's tradition. That's what the stress is. It's routine. You try to maintain a certain standard instead of just going somewhere and everybody just being free.
Carmen Lezeth:Exactly Cynthia just said. When we went to Jamaica it was all-inclusive. And let me tell you I have some stories about my son, xavier.
Tony D.:That's just bad, don't be telling on, xavier, I can already imagine my family would talk about me if I was drunk all those days. It'd take a 10-inch all inclusive, like that my family would talk about me.
Carmen Lezeth:But here's the thing I thought, because it was all-inclusive, that they would be kind of chintzy on the alcohol. Oh my god, they're not. I'm and you know I'm not a big drinker, right, and I was like, oh, that's why I could milk it all day, because I was like this is so strong. So they were really. I have low tolerance. But also, like this, this woman on the beach her name was Vanessa, because we would have the same kind of waiters all the time, cause they got to know the groups she was like oh, come on, mommy, they call everybody mommy and poppy there, everybody. They're like come on, mommy, you need to have another drink You've been taking so long. Like they're totally pushing.
Tony D.:I was no driving, they had no kids, they had no work, they had no responsibility. Nope, just let loose. That's what it was. You could have had a sip all day Just been sipping your drink until it was watered down, watching them at the food.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh no, and they were having a blast. And let me tell you, some of them were trashed out of their only one family member. I have to be careful of what I say. Yeah, I get that. Melanie Rick, when was the last time you were able to go on vacation? It was probably before your mom's situation, right?
Rick Costa:A legit vacation, Like for real for real vacation, so not family.
Carmen Lezeth:I guess, when I got on my honeymoon.
Rick Costa:We went on a cruise, that's pretty much it, and I know all-inclusive and it's like think it's gonna be awesome and it is, but it's like, but then after a while it's like, okay, what do we do now?
Carmen Lezeth:there's nothing to do, let's go eat again let me, we were great because we got to go into the town and stuff like that and you can go to other restaurants and clubs and whatever. Oh, joanne, hi, there's my roommate from aruba and she's still in aruba.
Carmen Lezeth:She's still hanging out in aruba right now. Um, yeah, look at I'm, I'm all for all. I have no problem with all inclusive. I don't think I would do it again. I, I think for me it was, um, a little bit too constricted, because there's they have rules to stuff. You know, like you can only get one towel, you have to do this, and hey, hi, mario, how are you? You know you, you have to. For me it was just a little restrictive on some of the things, but I, I would. I would do it again in a new place. But now that I've been to Aruba, I think I would be more like I'm going to go and stay at a regular hotel or whatever, and not do inclusive. But there were a lot of, there were a lot of pros to it, like your food is paid for whatever, but then to me, all the food at some point starts to taste the same, no matter all the restaurants. You know what I mean. So for me.
Tony D.:It's something I want to get out in the town.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, you see what I mean.
Tony D.:Yes, when you take on a boat, I like what Rick said it's supposed to be routine. Everything starts being okay. What can I do next? You want to go somewhere where there's always some type of new adventure atmosphere. Another aspect of intrigue, and I'll go ahead and say it myself, that's why I love Vegas. No two hotels were the same. You can walk at this one, walk at another one, see this type of casino, see these type of accommodations or whatever. I had a good time just sightseeing. So I would ask you, when you went, did a parasailing, were there any other excursions or adventure trips, sightseeing that you did?
Carmen Lezeth:No, they went on, so I didn't go on the boat trip. I was going to do it and I went and saw the boat and I don't do boats I just don't do them they were really cool trying to get me to do it and um, but I decided not to do it um I really just enjoyed what.
Rick Costa:How many people could fit on the boat?
Carmen Lezeth:I guess they could fit 40 on the boat, but that, to me, is see my thing, and they had probably that many. My thing is, like I don't want 40 people. I want two people on a 40 people boat me and the captain. You know, like I don't, I need it to not be that crowded. That's why I don't like Disney, I don't like crowded. I also don't want to be on a boat in the middle of the ocean without any control. I don't know how to explain it.
Carmen Lezeth:We were on the speedboat to get to the parasailing. That was awesome. There was four of us and the guy was speeding and bumping. That was cool. That was awesome. I saw it. Oh, you up, and that was cool. That was awesome. But yeah, I just saw, I saw it. You're good. Oh, you're leaving tomorrow. Joanne, love you, okay, have a safe flight home. Yes, yes, have a wonderful night and thank you again. It was so much fun. Yeah, so they stayed three more days mary, joanne and laurie, um, so, so, so my whole thing was I thought this was a great first time trip to aruba, um, and so the next time I go I'm gonna be better prepared. I guess is what I'm saying. You wouldn't go back. I'm going to go back to Aruba. For sure, I don't know about the hotel yet. I don't know about that hotel.
Tony D.:That's the one place as far as locations that I haven't gone to that I wanted to check out that one and another one to Cozumel. I won't stay in the island. It's like when Went to the Bahamas the Bahamas wasn't what I thought it was.
Carmen Lezeth:Really, I've been to the Bahamas.
Tony D.:It was I expected, what I saw in the commercials Sunny skies yeah, we got there. Number one it rained.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, it happens.
Tony D.:And I went to the hotel. The hotel's excellent, Don't get me wrong. But it wasn't what I expected. It really wasn't commercial, even though it was still standing. It was plenty up there, had a casino inside, had some shops. I was great with that. I wanted to stay there. That's actually why I wanted to take her for the honeymoon. I wanted to go down there. So we went around and checked it out. I was like, all right, I'm good. Then we went to the second cruise. I went to Grand Cayman. Grand Cayman had me. That's where I went parasailing at. You can see the water sailing. I don't know why you have to go in skydiving. It was so simple, Right, and I was. I looked at that whole island. I was like I spent about 15 minutes trying to figure out how I could move down there and she was looking at me like we're not moving. I said I know, but I just feel like I want to. It was like something was just really.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm telling you, I'm not, I'm being serious. I think Pueblo Bonito, it was all-inclusive. However, they had four resorts you could go between. There were a great diversity of restaurants and exertions. Yeah, this wasn't that same thing. And look, I'm not against all-inclusive. I think all-inclusive is great. It is great, especially for a group of 16 people. You know what I mean. It's amazing, I'm just saying. For me, I was like, especially, there were just so many little idiosyncrasies that were driving me insane. Like I don't like rules, I really don't like you can only have one towel and if you don't bring back the towel, like you're gonna get in some type of trouble if you don't have the charge if you'll be a towel, yeah, you'll charge you for the towel, yeah okay, but look at, but here's the thing.
Carmen Lezeth:Then just say that, right, but let me take it. Like, let me take two or three towels if I want them, right, but if I have to pay for them, I'll pay for them. But this thing that you can only have one at a time, and just simple things like not being able to get OK. So we, of course, because they've been there so many times, they know how this works. So every morning at 435 o'clock in the morning, somebody in the group had to go down to the beach to reserve 16 chairs so that we would all have reclinages. I'm like no, that is, I couldn't stand that. But I mean we all did it right. I mean me and Joanne didn't have to do it because we took a different responsibility. But I'm just saying like I think that's cheesy, I hate that.
Carmen Lezeth:Now, here in Santa Monica, as I was explaining when you are, you know, when you rent a place here, when you rent at a hotel yes, a bougie hotel but when you rent, but I'm just saying you have a reserved reclining area. It's part of your room, your room number's on it, it's, and you don't even have to worry about it. You can move your recliner around or whatever, but there's none of this like. So we had to tip the guy every morning, you know what I mean? Like 40, 50 bucks so that he could. That's not all inclusive. You see what I'm saying. So, uh, cynthia said grand cayman is beautiful.
Tony D.:Yes, that's weird that they had restrictions about Jamaica.
Carmen Lezeth:Well, every all-inclusive place has some restrictions, because that's how they keep you, that's how they keep their costs. You may not call them restrictions. I do. I didn't like them.
Tony D.:I think because it was crowded. When you got there, what Was it crowded?
Carmen Lezeth:I guess I don't know if it's crowded. I mean it looked like the hotel was full. I don't know.
Tony D.:If the hotel was full. That's probably why they did all that with the chairs.
Carmen Lezeth:No, they do it every year. That's how they know to go up to the guy. They know everybody at the hotel, which is awesome. It was so funny. They were like looking for people and yeah, yeah, I'm very. What did we say, tony Bougie?
Rick Costa:Bougie, now, was there anything in? Not the trip maybe itself, but Aruba itself that you didn't care for, and we already heard about the bed incident, but besides that, any other creatures you didn't want to see, or something.
Carmen Lezeth:I don't know. Look, I didn't get to see enough of the island. I'll be honest with you, this is just kind of my first time there and I was just kind of chilling with everybody and it was really fun. It was more about a party with friends. That was kind of the coolest thing of this. Um, we could have been anywhere, we could have been, you know, down the street. It would have been the same kind of fun, excitement, thingamajiggy. You know what I mean. But I didn't get to see the entire Island. Um, I think the only thing I would say is there's a thing about dairy in Aruba that's interesting.
Carmen Lezeth:Their ice cream is amazing. It looks like it's always melted. I don't know how it's made it, but the ice cream, to me I like it. It's a soft serve kind of like. If you don't like it, like this, you're not going to enjoy it. But if you put cream in your coffee, it's gross, like it's not gross, it's not gross, it's not like. Cream, cream, I don't know what kind of cream. I didn't want to know.
Carmen Lezeth:So I think dairy if, like, if you're a big dairy person, maybe you're not gonna love their cheeses and stuff, but and they have to import everything. Remember they're an island so everything's very expensive. But I was cracking up because when mary told me she's like be very careful, because everything's really expensive. She's like bring your own lotion, you know suntan lotion, everything that. And I didn't, because I didn't want to bring too much in my suitcases. So when I went to buy suntan lotion or whatever it is, the 70% stuff, it was like as much as it is here, $34. Like LA and Aruba cost the same to me. Hi, audrey, you look so happy.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, thank you so much Again. I am super tired, I'm really exhausted, and today I don't think I have on any makeup. I think I still have mascara on from trying to look decent on the plane. So I'm half asleep, but yeah. So I would say dairy was probably not my favorite there, but that was okay. I don't need to eat more dairy.
Carmen Lezeth:So that'd be good, and you said after a while the food kind of tasted the same. That was the hotel, though that was just the hotels, you know. I think it would have been great to do more of the town's food like. I think that's what I would do next time is go find the places in the, in the neighborhood, you know, I mean, where people actually go out to eat not tourists there's a lot of them, but they still seem to be in the tourist area, right?
Carmen Lezeth:So all the tourists are there hanging out in the nightlife and whatever. And so I was like, yeah, yeah, it was great, it's a beautiful place.
Tony D.:I still think my beach is better, but that's just me, that's just me, I think a part of the reason you may You've been where you've been at for so long. Tell me if I'm wrong.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm just ready to I don't know, you know what. I'm ready. It's not so much that I want to move, I'm just. I'm done working, I'm done doing this job.
Tony D.:I'm about right there with you. I'm about right there with you, I'm done working.
Carmen Lezeth:I think the lottery is a perfect thing for me to win now, right now. Got it, did they say? Somebody got, uh, I think it was 1.2 or 1.3 billion I hope it was somebody who really deserved it, like I mean I'm sure they did, but I hope it was some good, honest, hard-working person.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, I don't know who it is, but I hope it was some like little old lady or something with like 17 grandchildren who've been working her ass off already. The men are beautiful there. There's a picture on Joanne's thing. On Joanne's. They're all in love with this guy. I think his name is Hugo I don't even know what his name is actually but all the men there are good looking. But you know what? Again, we're talking about more touristy people in the hotel. You know that were there with their girlfriends or whatever. But the men that work there are also just beautiful, wonderful people. They all speak so many languages. That's what I think is so kind of sexy about everyone. How are the men there? Audrey, we're going to go move there for the men. I love it. Mara, just said one person in Jersey. What, what did I?
Tony D.:miss. You won the lottery. Somebody in New Jersey.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh good, oh good, oh, I hope it was somebody who wanted it Deserved it. A good person. Oh, come on, let's have joy for them, you're a Jersey man you know, what my layover was in Jersey and let me tell you I was scared of that airport, but it's a beautiful airport.
Tony D.:They've redone the whole airport. Was it Newark?
Carmen Lezeth:Newark.
Tony D.:Yeah.
Carmen Lezeth:But they've redone it. It looks beautiful.
Tony D.:I haven't been there in about a decade In the A area In the A.
Carmen Lezeth:I was in the A area.
Tony D.:Powerball Saturday night $935 million is it right now? Good job, I'll be in the room for a week or two.
Carmen Lezeth:Maybe three. Oh wait, wait, that's the new one for this weekend. The new one for this weekend is going to the other one. Like I said, somebody jersey, that was the power. God bless them and you know, if you did 23 and me, or ancestry and we cousins, you know I love you, jersey person. I don't need that much, just enough to not work anymore. I'm just saying, yeah, I saw the picture with mary, that guy with, oh my god, yeah, he was gorgeous and they know him. I guess he got married, though last year. So I was like, ah, boo boo. Yeah, newark airport is great we were traveling into. Yeah, I was shocked because I was so nervous about going into newark, because the last time I've been in newark, I never connect to newark because you always think new jersey, no offense, but it's beautiful. The airport there is better than lax, for sure it's gorgeous.
Tony D.:Newark is just as busy as LaGuardia and JFK it's the third one, if you will. I get it Was Newark the more I have to look and see where Ruben is. I do want to go there, the only reason why.
Carmen Lezeth:I went into Newark is because it was the quickest way for me to get back. There is no direct flight. I could have gone into Florida and then come back, but that would have just been a little bit longer. I just wanted to get back as soon as possible. I went to Newark instead, but there's no direct flight from LA to Aruba. I tried, I tried. There's definitely no first class direct flight from LA to Aruba. You could fly private, but I got that kind of money. I tried. Oh wow, no, but there were. I mean you could fly private, but I ain't got that kind of money. But yeah, but I flew first class here domestically.
Rick Costa:Yeah.
Carmen Lezeth:Cause I always tried like if it's over five hours, I try to fly first class, cause I can't handle it.
Tony D.:Moving to the airport is not fun. I hate it. I flew into it.
Carmen Lezeth:No, no but, melanie, now it's beautiful. I don't know if you've been there recently, but I was just there last night. It's actually a beautiful. They've redone it all. At least A JetBlue is in A that's where I was.
Tony D.:You flew JetBlue.
Carmen Lezeth:I love JetBlue. It's my favorite. Jetblue Mint is the best first class.
Tony D.:You don't like JetBlue. Jetblue has had a lot of negative reviews from people I've known. Jetblue is spirit called hell from a lot of people that I know. Most people prefer Delta mainly because they got points and all that craziness not in first class. I have flown Delta. I used to fly US Airways. I used to have points with them do they even exist anymore? They're in the United and right now they're catching some Blues, but recently I've flown Frontier, Delta and Contour.
Carmen Lezeth:I don't even know half of those.
Tony D.:Frontier gets a lot of crazy reviews, but Frontier has room on these seats so I'm good with Frontier. I don't have to have the big old movie.
Carmen Lezeth:There was a guy sitting next to me. So Aruba to Newark? Right, there's no first class. There was this guy. He must have been been I don't know six, seven or something, and he was sitting like the next aisle over from me, but we were both in the aisle seat and his knees I was like I ain't gonna complain at all, I'm just gonna shut the fuck up. I'm like he is like basically his knees are to his face. You know? I'm like how? Why are they trying to squash everybody in? You know what I mean? Oh yeah, melanie, they've redone Newark Airport. It's really it's been a long time since I can say I've been in a beautiful airport, but they've done a really great job with the Newark Airport.
Carmen Lezeth:At least A wherever JetBlue is. You know how they have different. I don't know. I didn't walk the whole airport, but A.
Tony D.:I thought Aruba was more in the Atlantic. I was wrong. I was thinking about Bermuda.
Carmen Lezeth:No, no, no, it's right there. Oh my God, can you guys tell I'm like half asleep.
Rick Costa:Definitely.
Carmen Lezeth:Or high One of those. No, I'm just kidding. It's legal when you're right. Yeah right, I'm so tired I'm like feeling myself Aruba is right, that's right. That's Florida, puerto Rico.
Tony D.:It's right there, it's right below South America.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, it's right there right on the right, like it's up. It's part of the Netherlands, though. It's part of the Netherlands so, but it's right there near Colombia. I think we were like 10 miles from Colombia.
Tony D.:Yes, frontier is still around, you'll see them in are not comparable to JetBlue, are they? They're more comparable to Southwest the major airlines. They kind of put you down there below Southwest.
Carmen Lezeth:No, no but like. Southwest wait Frontier and Spirit are below Southwest.
Tony D.:I'm thinking a lot of people's ratings. Yes, Southwest had a lot.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh my God, I won't even get on a Southwest flight. That's how bougie I am Right now.
Tony D.:Southwest is catching a lot of hell. Cynthia, there are still. Like I said, you got leg room, like you did in the 80s. In the 80s, we was able to sit in our seats comfortably.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, I don't know.
Tony D.:Ever since 9-11, them seats are so damn tight it's ridiculous.
Carmen Lezeth:I was telling Cynthia because we're going to book our next flight. Our next trip is me and Cynthia going to Scotland and Ireland. We said say what you want. But the thing that bothers me is that's the way everyone should be treated on a flight. You know what I mean Like I'm sure back in the day that's how everyone was treated with respect, Not like cattle. And look, I fly coach when I have to, especially when it's like a quick trip and I can't organize it and use it. You know what I mean Like, like I go, but it's it's just too much for me to think that I'm gonna go on vacation and not be a complete bitch if I'm flying back and coach in some. You know I'm being serious, like, so if you're gonna do it, do it right. So I told Cynthia, if we go and traveling together, we go first class. So she's like uh-huh, like we going? Uh, bougie, call me what.
Carmen Lezeth:Yes, bougie class bougie class look at Audreyrey just said they say spirit alliance has the worst service. And then mario said frontier and spirit are awful. Why am I gonna waste my money?
Tony D.:that's just gonna make me miserable. It's almost like if you don't fly delta, you ain't flying right in the united states. That's a lot of what it is for the most part is delta, good, delta, good for coach.
Tony D.:I flew them out for coach good for a lot people and they got the movie on the screen. The movies are pretty current, if you will. So if you got family or kids, once you get in your seat, just sit down. Suicide ain't even got no work. Once you get all the accommodations and everything on there, they got plugs in the seats for your devices. I always charge everything up while I'm on the plane, all the flights too.
Tony D.:But doesn't everyone, jet? And I do that on purpose. I watch too many movies In my playing recs. I want everything to kick on so they can GPS and find me. I want my laptop, my phone, my iPad, everything. I'm good for hours.
Carmen Lezeth:I know friends that have flown with Spirit and they will never fly with them again. No, I don't see the point. Look it, when I have to go home for a funeral or something like that, I'll do whatever you have to do that quick, quick. But yes, cynthia, I liked it when people used to dress up to fly, like back when pan am was around how they dress in pjs. Yeah, I don't want to dress up on a flight.
Tony D.:Sorry, thank you, but no I'm not going to cover my pajamas, but I don't want to have to be formal to fly. I'll be semi-formal. I want to be casual. I wear my jeans, my t-shirt, have my jacket on hey, jesse, how are you nice? To see you.
Carmen Lezeth:Thank you for saying it first I mean cynthia, I think I liked back then, probably, like, probably, you felt better about getting dressed up because you weren't thrown in back like cattle. I am shook by how small the seats are and I'm not like that fat of a person and I was all like this is not comfortable. Right, this is not comfortable. It's when I went to the funeral and it was horrible and I thought to how is anybody else who's a little bit bigger or taller, like I'm not even that tall, I'm only five, four, like how is it possible for somebody to be comfortable? What did you think? I was Five, nine.
Tony D.:I'm almost a whole foot taller than you.
Carmen Lezeth:Well, I I'm short, I think I'm average. I think most women are about 5'3" 5'4" 5'5", 5'6".
Tony D.:You're right.
Rick Costa:How is he dissing me for being 5'4"?
Carmen Lezeth:Hey, Google, what is the average height for the American woman in the United States? Well, I guess that would be the American woman.
Rick Costa:American woman.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, it didn't hear me. Hey, google, wait, wait, wait. What is the average? Oh, it just got, never mind.
Tony D.:It's hearing wait, wait, wait. Google doesn't want to piss you off, cynthia says she's 5'4" too.
Carmen Lezeth:Well, I know Cynthia. Hey Google. What is the average height for the American woman?
Rick Costa:Melanie's five, two. Oh, what is the average height for women or female raised in the United States?
Carmen Lezeth:The average height is currently five feet four inches, or around 63.5 inches. Thank you, thank you, google.
Tony D.:Hey Siri, what is the average height for an American woman in the United States? I'll compare us an average height of American woman in the United States. By comparison, the average height of an American woman is 63.6 inches, or 5.3 inches. Healthlinecom.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, okay, so Siri don't speak.
Tony D.:Mine don't. I got it on mute.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, Siri, don't speak. Yeah, 5'4 is average. Hey Google, what's the average height for an American male?
Tony D.:I am saying the other way.
Carmen Lezeth:According to Very Well Health, the average height for an American male I am saying the other, according to Mary Will Health, the average height for an American man is 5 feet 9 inches, that's slightly above the global average height for males, which is 5 feet 7.5 inches.
Tony D.:I must be superhuman.
Carmen Lezeth:So the average height for a man. In the United States, melanie is 5 feet9", but around the world it's 5'7" and Tony is 5'7" and, tony, you said, you're what? 6'2".
Tony D.:I'm 6'2". I'm 6'2".
Carmen Lezeth:That told me nothing.
Rick Costa:You said 5'9". Wait, look at Audrey.
Carmen Lezeth:She's like I used to be 5'5". Now I've shrunk to 5'4". Jesse, you're 5'9 to 10. Wait, look at Audrey, she's like I used to be 5'5. Now I've shrunk to 5'4.
Rick Costa:Jessie, you're 5'9?
Carmen Lezeth:You're not 5'0. Oh no, you're 5'4. You were saying men, right.
Rick Costa:That's a real thing, because I used to be 5'10 and now I'm 5'8.
Carmen Lezeth:But, I got scoliosis. So I mean, hello, oh, but so you, back in the day, in the 80s, we would do the hair. No, it's true, Because that would make more sense. She's not that old. She's younger than I am. There's no way you've shrunk already. I think it was a hair thing. We had our hair high up and so we would do it like that, because I used to be like 5'5". You know what I mean.
Tony D.:I wasn't 5'5", got you my mom's 5'5". I think I towel over her. I really do.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, yeah, I guess most.
Tony D.:I mean, I guess most, men I know are probably six feet something, I mean when I say no, I mean dated or whatever, but I never Some of the guys I meet are so tall I'm like average height compared to a lot of guys. I got guys that are taller than me, guys that are broader than up, which kind of surprised me.
Carmen Lezeth:Cynthia's making fun of her sister, saying her hair made her 5'9". We all did that, so Mario said my daughter's 5'10" and he's 6 feet tall. Mario, you're 6 feet tall. I don't remember that.
Tony D.:I think you're lying. Are you 6 feet tall? How long has it been since you've seen him, Carmen?
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, it's been a long time. I guess I love Mario. He's so cool, he's awesome.
Tony D.:Mario's a cool dude.
Carmen Lezeth:So, Rick, are you going to come with me to Aruba?
Rick Costa:If it's possible, why not?
Carmen Lezeth:Tony, you going to come Look at Tony. He's like what about me? Imagine if we could do a podcast from out there, a live stream. That would be so cool.
Tony D.:I wouldn't guarantee an international trip for me before next year. Right now, right now, I wouldn't.
Carmen Lezeth:Did you think I was making plans before next year for us to go?
Tony D.:I was just kind of hypothetically saying Hypothetically by next year I probably could do it.
Carmen Lezeth:If I win the lottery, I'll take us all to.
Tony D.:Aruba, Florida. I'll work on a time off Give me until September.
Carmen Lezeth:I would hook you up. Why would you even care? I would hook you up.
Tony D.:Because I don't want to take time off and lose it. I'm there.
Carmen Lezeth:You're so weird. What if I won the lottery and I was like Tony, you're going to be one of my consultants and I'm going to pay you $100,000?
Tony D.:a year. I'm on my motherfucking way more.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm just saying what do I need with a billion dollars if I can't hook up friends? You know what I mean. That would be funny.
Tony D.:Depends on what you want to do. I mean, we had that conversation before.
Carmen Lezeth:Right, what do you think I would do something to fear?
Tony D.:I don't know what you would do. I know what I would do. What would?
Carmen Lezeth:you do. Would you hook me up? Like I just said, I would hook you up.
Tony D.:Probably for a year at $100,000,.
Carmen Lezeth:yes, Just for one year $100,000?.
Tony D.:Well, we got to see his probation every year. Then we got to work on the contract extension.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, businessman, that's what I like a businessman. He ain't putting unrecognizable on there.
Tony D.:I've always had plans for money like that. I just haven't had it yet. But as I've grown older, I know more what I'm going to do.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, what would you do? What would be? Okay, let's pretend. Let's pretend. Wait, wait, wait, wait. You find out. Tomorrow morning you have the winning ticket. You're in your house, checked it on your internet and then you double-checked it with your phone app to make sure it is. What's the first thing you do?
Tony D.:Cash it in.
Carmen Lezeth:So you're going to tell anybody or you're going to cash it.
Tony D.:I don't trust a bunch of people. Honestly, I would probably go find me a financial consultant and a lawyer.
Carmen Lezeth:Hello, hello, hello, hello. I wasn't going to tell anybody.
Tony D.:You're welcome. I wasn't going to tell anybody. You're welcome.
Carmen Lezeth:Cynthia said Tony, my co-worker saw the show last week and said you are hilarious. I said thank you I didn't see his show last week because I was in that room.
Tony D.:Was it last week or was it the one last week?
Carmen Lezeth:Not with us, Maybe with us. She means he was kind of funny last week you couldn't really hear me, so he can have whatever Jesse said. With that much money you can live off the interest. I would take care of all my family and close friends.
Tony D.:Jesse, I agree with the 100%, depending on how much you spend.
Carmen Lezeth:Audrey, wait, wait, wait. I want to answer Audrey's question. Right now. I don't know where to begin. Your first call is to Carmen in.
Tony D.:LA, I will hook you up.
Carmen Lezeth:What are you talking about? Yeah, you should get a consultant to help if you want. I'm a good one, I'm a good one, and you know where I get that advice from.
Tony D.:I get that advice from what Shaq said. Shaq had a lot of good financial advice when he first got his big contract. How he's loyal to him I like how he's given the proper financial advice and I've seen the numbers that he said was his income. He's at a level I want to be at.
Carmen Lezeth:He really is. He's a good person, though he also gives money away all the time. He helps people all the time and I'll talk about non-profits, something. He's just regular people. He's like he sees you in a store and he's and you're a kid or something. He's like you never had a bike, go buy a bike. Go get a bike. I'm gonna get it for you, okay exactly, exactly that's what I'm saying. I'll hook you up. I'll hook you up no, I think look at. I think the first thing people should do is remember.
Tony D.:Hey.
Carmen Lezeth:I think the first thing people should really know if you do win, is you probably shouldn't tell everyone. So Jesse said in all States, can you put it in a trust so your name isn't all over the internet as the winner? I think you can do that in Massachusetts. In California, you cannot you. It is public. But here's the thing, here's my rule. My first rule would be anybody who asks me for money will not get any. That is the first rule. Anybody Let me just say it again so everybody understands anybody who asks me for money will not get a penny.
Carmen Lezeth:And I know who my friends are. I'm not going to be confused by that when I all of a sudden have money. But yeah, you could also put it in a trust. But you know what A trust doesn't really is not the end all be all, because I have clients who put all their money in a trust and their kids ended up changing that trust with the right lawyers because they have so much money they were able to change it. So you have to just start Again. I said this a million times before money ain't nothing but a thing. People get all confused when they get money. You got to stay true to who you are, and that's why the first thing you do is put it in a safe deposit box after you take pictures of it. Then go meet the lottery people and talk to them and get advice.
Rick Costa:And then go to your real friends, get advice for them and then make some choices. I'm sorry, Wait, wait, wait. Let me just see.
Carmen Lezeth:Mario said I would definitely do a lot of random acts of kindness. Kimmy Kelly said can I hold a dollar? Like oh my God, I'm your favorite cousin. Yes, you're my favorite. Mario said if we weren't friends before, don't ask me Right. And Melanie said make sure you pay taxes out of your winnings. In California you won't have a choice. Most places you won't have a choice, like if you think you won a million dollars, just assume you won 500,000. Just cut it in half. And then remember the lottery commissions. I've read all, I've investigated everything. The lottery commissions will give you advice. They'll give you lawyers, financial people. They'll give you all these people. Do not hire any of them, just go sit with them. Learn everything. Then talk to people you trust. No, seriously, then make a really good, honest decision for yourself, what you feel comfortable with. Yes.
Carmen Lezeth:I agree with that, whether you have money or not, everyone should know somebody who's a financial advisor, a lawyer. You should know people be. It's kind of like getting a therapist when you're in crisis. You should already know who a therapist is or where you can get therapy help before you get in crisis. Right, that's always the better way to do it. It's the same thing with winning a lot of money.
Tony D.:It's like when you sit with the states. For some states that want to be anonymous, you got to pay a fee and it's like 20% of the winnings, if you will.
Carmen Lezeth:Well, in California you have to pay anyway. That's how they make money, right?
Tony D.:Is they take part of the winnings. It's the press estate. You've got to pay 20% of your winnings to remain anonymous. So by the time you pay the taxes, is that true? Yeah, for the taxes, they're not admitted in certain states. You just say California. Like I said, I've heard this Because we looked at it the first time and it hit a billion. Me and the wife had researched all that, we did all the numbers and we were looking at all that craz it. It's not about how much you win or how you live off of it.
Carmen Lezeth:It's about what you, the person you become. The fact is, most people who win the lottery end up broke right, I mean, the statistic is or they have a worse life and they wish they never won the lottery to begin with. So, yeah, that's why I keep saying money ain't nothing, but a thing like yes, do I wish I'd win? Sure, because I think I'd be excellent at it. I think everyone does. But I actually don't even want that much money. I don't. I don't need that. I don't want $1 billion. That's crazy. I would give it all away.
Tony D.:I'm greedy but.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm not kidding, I would give it Boys and Girls Club of Dorchester and fund other inner city organizations that provide programs for kids. That would be my dream. I love that Cynthia says yes, jesse, I'm with you. California's tax is 40% and the Fed's 30%. Yep, yeah, it's not a lot. Look, it doesn't matter. It's money you got for putting in a dollar or two bucks for putting in a dollar or two bucks.
Tony D.:Are those solid numbers? Are those a static number? I thought the Fed tax was 26 to 28% everywhere.
Carmen Lezeth:I love how we're talking like we really have one and we really have to make sure we know what the taxes are. I think in every state it's going to be very, very different.
Tony D.:You know what is crazy, Carmen? If you win the ticket in another state, you got to pay taxes for both of those things.
Carmen Lezeth:So when you was, you bought tickets for that's crazy. No, it's not, it's free, it's two bucks. Why is it crazy? You put two bucks in and you're gambling. Why is that crazy? You?
Tony D.:put two bucks in, because if I want a billion dollars, I want my billion dollars.
Carmen Lezeth:No, it's two dollars. You got to look at it that way. What did you tell me I was going to get?
Tony D.:I want my jackpot.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, they don't, yeah, but why is everyone so selfish and self-absorbed? The reason why the lottery exists, you know, is to help to create monies and income for the states that you're buying it for. That's what the lottery is for. They go to public things like teachers and whatever. So if you win it, you should be grateful that half of it is going.
Tony D.:I agree. If you're going to say something, mean it.
Carmen Lezeth:They said a billion dollars no, I'm okay with someone else winning the billions and I slid under the radar. Melanie and I are on the same page. That's what I'm saying melanie see melanie here's my, here's my deal I want two hundred thousand dollars a year for the rest of my life, for so, for like 50 years, let's say I can live another 50 years. I can live off of $200,000 a year easily. And that's what? $10 million? That's $10 million.
Tony D.:So that's all I need. That's all I need, and the rest of it give it away. You get $20,000 a year where your standards increase, where your comfortability of life increased, to where you're going to want more.
Carmen Lezeth:Me.
Tony D.:You don't know me?
Rick Costa:No, it wouldn't. No, it wouldn't. What year is her car? Toni.
Carmen Lezeth:Exactly 2004 Honda Civic.
Tony D.:Hybrid. You will start spending on what you're used to, but as you gain more and you start to see more, you may want more.
Carmen Lezeth:I mean, I know this is going to sound like I'm good at two shoes and being whatever, but I'm going to tell you something solid and I think anybody who knows me this to me when I have it, I give it away and when I don't have it, I'm gonna let y'all know and I'm gonna tell you you know what you got 20 bucks. I need 20 bucks, whatever. I'm not, I don't. I. I've seen so much money, corrupt people, good people and and I see how much people think material stuff matters and and look at, I'm not saying I'm perfect, but when it comes to money, I'm about as close to perfect as it comes, because I just don't give a shit. If I had the money, I would help all my friends that I can help and all the people I can help. I would put aside, like I just said, $10 million for myself to live off of. $200,000 a year for the next 50 years would be more than enough. I might buy myself a new car.
Tony D.:Might buy myself a new car and then turn around and give the rest away. Let's do this properly. Step on the sofa you're standing. It's $20,000 a year. For the next one, 20 years 50 years.
Carmen Lezeth:Let's say 50 years, I'm going to live About a fifth year.
Tony D.:I don't even know what I would spend, and I can say that honestly. But the first thing I'm going to do I'm going to get a house. I'm going to do with this money. Mind you, people want to take the time to do what they want to do, get to where they want to be in life with that money. I understand what you're saying as far as money is not everything, but the majority of us have been broke before and as we got better jobs, we didn't go back to that lifestyle because we were able to live better. So if I had that, yeah, by the fifth year I'll probably be like you. Okay, now, what am I going to do?
Carmen Lezeth:Let me just read what Jesse said. We are talking about as if we win because we are putting the positive angel exactly power of positive thinking. Melanie says does that money really go to where they say it goes? I'm a trust in the positivity and brilliance and I have faith in people. I don't think people are stealing. You know, like I just don't believe in a lot of that. At least here in California they actually, if you go to the California lottery website, they show you where all the money goes. I don't know what more we can do with that, but I'm not going to bring negative energy to it. You know what I mean. Like I just I believe most people are good, no one's trying to.
Carmen Lezeth:It's a really good question there are people who scam, but it's not everyone and it's not all the time.
Tony D.:You on the elections we have here in the state when they talk about the school funding. There was an issue with one of the bills because there was something underlying and a lot of people were missing. So I get exactly what you're saying.
Carmen Lezeth:And even sometimes people do. But here's the thing. So, but sometimes people make mistakes, people mean something or whatever. Like everything isn't nefarious, like everything isn't somebody trying to school you over. We have to stop thinking that way. But wait, go back to you, tony, what you were saying, because I wanted to get back to that. You were saying what? Say it again.
Tony D.:As far as what I would do with the money.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, what we were talking about before.
Tony D.:The first five years. I know what I would do Afterwards. I'd probably be like, okay, now what am I going to?
Carmen Lezeth:do. Oh, you were saying, oh, wait, right, that's what I want to say. You said so. A lot of us used to have a different kind of money. We live a certain way and I agree with that. But here's the thing at some point and I'm saying this for anyone else at some point, what more do you need? Like, if you buy six houses and you have six cars? I mean, at some point now you're just feeding your life with materialism. If you don't have friendships and family and love in your life, all the money in the world isn't going to fix that and you will end up becoming a lot of these people who end up winning the lottery and end up being miserable because money isn't going to take the place of all that crap. You want.
Tony D.:If you go that direction, I agree with you.
Carmen Lezeth:As opposed to what. As opposed to what.
Tony D.:When you get the money, you still want to start doing good. Once you get the way you want to be, you want to start doing some good with it. Most people will go to the church. Most people will go to the neighborhood. A lot of people are also going to go to their families. Like I said, after that, you're going to reach a specific point and, trust me, about a fifth year I would have taken care of a lot of people, including myself. You want to bank it. You want to put it somewhere that's going to gain some interest. You want to put it somewhere that's going to be secure.
Carmen Lezeth:How about if you started with you know what? I don't need to work anymore, but I'm going to double my salary for the first year. Take the time to understand what this money is. Put it all aside right now in a trust, and take the time to understand the amount of time I have with just this little bit. So if you're making $100,000 a year, you win the lottery, say you know what? Now I don't have to work, I'm just going to give myself $200,000 a year and not spend anything else. Take the next year just to understand what just happened to me.
Tony D.:Yeah, I could do it easy. You see what I mean.
Carmen Lezeth:Like that would be a smart thing to do Of course I'm going to buy this. I'm going to do that. I'm going to do that. You could still have a joyful. I'm just saying taking your time. That's the other mistake people make. All of a sudden they have money and they're buying any random house whatsoever without really like you should never buy anything you don't really really want and love Agreed. Question for you Go ahead, Greg.
Rick Costa:What would I do? Family is a big deal to me, always has been.
Carmen Lezeth:Your family, Carmen.
Rick Costa:Sí, sí, carmen, también porque ella también es portuguesa, ella es familia, exactamente. But yeah, I would love, well, first of all pay the bills, pay house, blah, blah, blah, all the stuff everybody obviously is going to do first, but then I would just love to just go visit family, because we got family in Portugal, we got family in Canada, we got family in Bermuda, we got family probably in other places for my mother, if nothing else, you know, cause it might be the last time you see her you know.
Rick Costa:So, yeah, I would definitely like go all over the place and just have a good time with mom, as long as I got her, you know yeah.
Carmen Lezeth:And she could have a private nurse. You could have somebody travel with you, an assistant, whatever. You could have everything you need so that she could be taken care of and you can enjoy your time. That would be such a blessing. Oh, I would love to win, just to give you all that. No, I'm serious.
Rick Costa:I know, I know.
Carmen Lezeth:That would be so cool. Okay, then afterwards. Okay, so you've done your traveling meeting your family. We're five years in. You still haven't given Tony any money whatsoever, because he's rude and not paying attention to you now. So what would you then do? What?
Tony D.:are you watching on?
Carmen Lezeth:TikTok.
Tony D.:I'm not looking on TikTok. That's what you're trying to be.
Carmen Lezeth:Whatever. Okay, we're going to let Tony go because he's busy Go ahead. Rick, because Rick was intensely listening to you when you were talking. What did he say? I want you to tell me verbatim what he just said. He said I want you to tell me verbatim why he's just a liar. Okay, go ahead. So now, rick, what would you do?
Rick Costa:go ahead I mean I don't have huge aspirations, but if I didn't have to work, then my creative side would go into overtime, go over, write songs, write books. Just creative side would explode. So just if I didn't have to work, yeah, I would be just creating lots and lots of stuff.
Carmen Lezeth:I love that. I love that. After traveling, though, do you think you would? Would you keep your house or would you buy a new house?
Rick Costa:I don't really want. This house needs to go. Okay, this house needs to go.
Carmen Lezeth:What about the land and everything, though? Would you want to keep the land and maybe rebuild? Okay, no All right, okay, I, okay, I can feel that the house is not what you want. Nah, you buy a house somewhere else then?
Rick Costa:Yeah, somewhere near family, not like next door, but near family, so that you know yeah, not next door, but near family, so that you know, if there's something that happens, I can lean on family Look at Mario's family too.
Carmen Lezeth:He's like he would donate to the Mario Travel Fund. That's right, that's cool. Cynthia said absolutely, but I don't know to what?
Tony D.:I don't know what you were saying. Rick will get another house because he feels like he probably needs a new environment.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, fair enough.
Tony D.:I guess where you're at and what you got going on, but you put a lot of time and energy into your house, where I think you're exhausted.
Carmen Lezeth:Isn't that where you were raised, though Isn't that the same house you were raised in?
Rick Costa:Yeah, but I was probably like seven years old and been in this house pretty much ever since. But I told my parents a long time ago listen, if we can, it's time to go. And they're like we work so hard, we can't do this. We work so hard and all this money we pay we're not leaving this. I'm like, okay, okay. Later I think you're going to regret this decision, and of course, my dad ain't here to say nothing.
Carmen Lezeth:But my mom, if she's honest yeah, the house is more of a burden maybe.
Rick Costa:Yeah.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, cynthia was saying absolutely to being creative.
Rick Costa:Yes.
Carmen Lezeth:That is, you know what I think that would be. What money could do is give us an opportunity to be more creative and and kind of I don't know be more ourselves. I think that's what vacation was about was just being able to chillax, you know.
Rick Costa:Not to get all sci-fi, but I think that's why Star Trek to me is really cool too is because because they don't really have jobs where they make money, you just whatever you have you need.
Carmen Lezeth:Because the world is different.
Rick Costa:And money yeah so everybody does stuff that.
Carmen Lezeth:I was like they do work. They work every day.
Rick Costa:Well, because they work every day. Poor money, poor money, right, but they do what fulfills them, you know.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh look, Mario said I would buy back a lot of my family's land. We have gotten back some of it, but I want all back, just to honor my ancestors.
Rick Costa:Oh, that's cool.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, that would be cool. I don't know if I would buy land, I don't care about property and land.
Tony D.:I want to help people. Huh, what do you think you're doing in the United States? Buy some land, because it's always going to gain value.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, I don't care about land. I mean, I get that from Mario and for you guys, I think for me, what I want to do is I want people to get together on a regular basis to figure out different ways in which we can help people who have fallen through the cracks, and figure out a way in which we can really help individual people and families. So one of my ideas is I would love to hire people at, let's say, 50, $60,000 a year and have one person work with one other person, one family, who's homeless. For one year, your only job is to get up every day and figure out what this person and this family needs to get you know what I mean. They can have like one, like counselor or sponsor or something I really would love. Like that's what I would love to do with billions of dollars won from the lottery. Okay, this is going too fast. This is going too fast.
Carmen Lezeth:I think I would get my cosmetology license up to date. Then I would open my own hair salon, because I would like to go back to that. I think you should do that, audrey. You should do that anyways. You used to cut hair for a living. You were awesome. You should do that anyways.
Carmen Lezeth:Jessie said yes, I think she's talking about me fixing the homeless problem. Cynthia said buy land and then build small homes for the homeless. Yeah, I'm just saying and yes to the think tank. I really want to have a think tank of people who get together on a monthly basis, who give a shit about real people and figure out ways in which we could do it. And if we had that kind of money, we could try different things and see if we could figure it out. I think we could solve the homeless problem if we all just gave a shit about the homeless as much as we care about fucking dogs and cats. No offense to dogs and cats, but I'm telling you right now, if we cared and had as much compassion as we do for animals, if we did for people who have fallen through the cracks, we as human beings, individuals, could fix the homeless fucking problem. I'm telling you.
Tony D.:I'm not wrong.
Rick Costa:I saw somewhere where a guy he bought a big piece of land and he put little houses and it was all for homeless people. He said this is your house now.
Carmen Lezeth:They're like what I mean. Having a home is part of the problem with homeless people. They need to actually have shelter and an address and right to start over. But there's also something else that people don't understand. They need to be treated with respect and dignity, and part of that is also being told like okay, then you also need to get a job. And if you can't get a job, maybe it's because you need to go to Alcoholics Anonymous, or maybe you need to go and get therapy, or maybe you need to go to the veterans. You know what? Yeah, are we raising hands now? I'm sorry.
Tony D.:Some of the job issues. This will not have a previous employment for a duration of time. Yeah of course. So the guy who gets really trained or gets on-the-job training wants to get hired. There's a lot of jobs that are on-the-job training. I actually credit them more than anything. There's also the housing. There's Habitat for Humanity. They're already doing that for a lot of people Low-income, homeless. But, excuse me, I'm sorry, there's two sides to the homeless situation.
Tony D.:There's more than two sides, but go ahead A lot of their situations. They got fired or some people lost a spouse.
Carmen Lezeth:Or they had a medical injury or whatever, and then they had to pay all of their money. Let me tell you the next time you look at a commercial of a dog and they're telling you to give money, I'm all for it, but can you please just also think about the homeless person that you snickered at when you walked down the street the other day and saw them begging for money and instead of seeing them as some horrible human being who did something wrong to be in this situation, think about being compassionate and loving and think about you know what. First, there, but for the grace of God, go I. And secondly, like how could I help that person? If I can't help them or you don't want to help them, then at least just send a blessing.
Carmen Lezeth:Stop being a fucking asshole to the homeless people. It can happen to anyone and you don't. Every person is such an individual human being and I hate that. We've come to this place where we're just so dismissive of beautiful human beings who have fallen through the cracks. It doesn't matter if they're on drugs or they're alcoholics or you don't know why they got there Exactly. Some of y'all are drug addicts or whatever. You're just in your house and your husband's paying your bill. You know what I mean. I'm just tired of the nastiness towards homeless people, and then we all pretend we're all such good people. We're such good people. No, you're not. No, you're not.
Rick Costa:When we had that big market crash. When was that? Like 2008, 2007, 2008. I mean, I've heard that people that had tons of money became homeless just overnight and it's like they didn't ask for that, they didn't expect that. I lost my condo.
Carmen Lezeth:I lost my condo during that time. I didn't become homeless because I have so many friends. Imagine if you burnt out all of your connections. Yeah, I mean, rick, you're absolutely right. I'm just saying you're absolutely right, and it's embarrassing Some. I mean, rick, you're absolutely right. I'm just saying you're absolutely right, and it's embarrassing. Some people don't want to ask their friends for help and they think they might be able to do it. They think they might be able to get a chance and then it just doesn't work out that way. And I'm sorry, I didn't mean to jump on that, rick, I'm sorry, you were saying something.
Rick Costa:Yeah, yeah, I'm just saying it that point. You don't know what happened, you have no idea. Some people had a medical thing happen and now they literally can't do anything right. It's not their fault.
Tony D.:Let me throw this out there too. Covid got a lot of people homeless because some jobs went away and never came back. People do this to screw. This is why when I go to dinner sometimes I used to do DoorDash, uber Eats and everything. A lot of them were people who lost jobs and had to find something. That's what they had and I would tip them on purpose because I realized what was going on. That was one way a lot of people can help folks. You don't know so many people as waitresses and stewardesses now. They lost their careers due to the pandemic which was beyond their control. Everybody who's homeless is not homeless by some recklessness.
Carmen Lezeth:I honestly don't know anybody who's homeless because they want to be. And here's the thing I don't. I don't know anybody who's like you know what? I just want to be homeless Like people like to say that when you become so depressed and so sad or you come home after work and you're miserable, sad and you have a drink or two or three and you lay on your couch and then you get up the next day and go to work, how is that any different from somebody who's been living on the streets, gets a few bucks and they're like I just want to have a drink so they can forget their problems for a minute. I'm not okaying alcoholism. Anybody who knows me knows I grew up in AA. That's why I'm not a big drinker. But it's this we're so judgy, we're so judgy. We think we're better than other people.
Carmen Lezeth:And look, here's the thing I love when I watched people obsessing about dogs. Right, I love animals. I don't have them, but I did growing up and I have no problem with everyone loving dogs and cats and wanting to adopt them, and blah, blah, blah. But what I hate is this thing like it's not their fault, it's the people. You don't know that that dog bites somebody in the family and the family pushed the dog. I don't know what the dog did, but here's what I'm saying.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm not saying any dog should be abused or whatever. What I'm saying is, if you can make compensations and possibilities for why you can love an animal, why can't you do that and have a positive thought about a human being on the planet? Oh yeah, why can't you do that? Why can't you think the best of someone instead of the worst? And here's the other thing. I'm going to say this because this is mostly to Brian Not that I think he's listening, but Brian does this all the time, but a lot of people do this idea that, well, the homeless are really bad in California.
Tony D.:The homeless problem is all in this country.
Carmen Lezeth:It's all of our problems. When I was in school in Vermont, at UVM, vermont was paying homeless people to leave the state. By the way, texas has a habit of doing that crap too, and here's the thing I don't care, but what I do care about is people who claim to be good people and then are dissing states for having more homeless people or whatever, like you're being ridiculous. If you want to be homeless, the best place to do it is in a warm state, by the way, like you don't want to be homeless in chicago. So I'm just saying, like, just stop with the nastiness. Let's get back to a place where we're we're good to each other.
Tony D.:You know I maybe I'm a little bit hokey, but that's what happened on vacation I think a lot of what you're seeing in california comes from where you're at too what do you? Mean when I grew up in new york there was a lot of homeless people.
Carmen Lezeth:There's been a lot of homeless, no matter where I live. So I'm not worried because I actually seek out homeless people, because I don't seek them out, but I don't ignore them is what I'm saying.
Tony D.:Right, and it's homeless people everywhere, it's not any one state. They're using the current situation as a basis for an argument or discussion or debate, but it was happening before they got here, or discussion or debate, but it was happening before they got here.
Carmen Lezeth:And here's the thing we're. We're the wealthiest country in the world. We're the best country, really, are we, though you know what I mean Like we shouldn't have homeless people in this country?
Tony D.:No, that's the biggest thing. We should not have homeless people.
Carmen Lezeth:It shouldn't be that hard for you to to have a medical moment. Something happened to you and you have to have surgery. It shouldn't cost more than your salary to pay your medical bills, you know whatever it is whatever it is.
Carmen Lezeth:That's a lot of the reasons why people end up homeless. Tends to be they lose a spouse, like Tony said, or they have a medical problem issue or something, and they end up going under financially. Those tend to be the bigger ones, you know, and it's like I'm losing a job, but getting fired, I think that's right.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, um, and look at, I'm just saying we can do better. But if I win the lottery, that would be. One of the things I want to work on is trying to figure out a way in which, in the private sector, with people who I know are good, decent people, who I would make sure have a salary, they never have to worry about working again. We'd get together to try to figure out a way to do this, that we could do it from a grassroots point of view, like a think tank, just trying to come up with different ways and then making proposals and seeing if there's ways in which we can fix it. I think we'd be a better country, if I think we'd be better people. I'd be so excited if we could actually solve the homeless crisis.
Tony D.:I think we also need to look at what's already been done. I been done, so I don't repeat anything previous, or at least I would. Did not work right just that easily. Um, because a lot of situation with the homes right now may be different than what we saw before right because for a lot of homeless people I'm not gonna lie all you gotta do is relocate them.
Carmen Lezeth:They'll be fine, but there's a lot of relocating I mean I, I don't know about that maybe, but it could be, I don't know. I think there's a lot of bandaid work. I think there's a lot of organizations that do a lot of things for homeless people. But when I say bandaid, I mean it's not a full. Especially when it's families and kids, I feel like they really need somebody on a regular basis to be with them to walk them through. It's just a, it's just an idea. You know what I mean.
Tony D.:The mother needs that. Yes, the parent of the kids.
Carmen Lezeth:Whoever it is, you know somebody to help and advocate.
Tony D.:The parent's got to get their mind back into wanting to redo a resume, apply for a job. The parents have to get their mind set. The kids they'll wash a car, they'll cut some grass, they'll deliver some newspapers, they'll work fast, but they won't care no-transcript.
Carmen Lezeth:Um, wait, what did somebody say after they get homes, when they can work with animal shelters? Two birds one stone? Oh, two birds, one stone. Oh, it doesn't. Okay, I'm so confused I lost that. Okay, wait, um, audrey just said there are some people who play, who play on the homeless act to get money out of you.
Tony D.:Sometimes I can't read all this sometimes they don't know what they want to really do with their money.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, I'm going to address that in a second, because I disagree with you. You have to get a few people of who you really giving money to no, she's right, we're going.
Carmen Lezeth:We'll go ahead, okay. So, audrey, I'm going to just tell you first of all, I disagree 100%. You don't have to. You don't know. No one is telling you you have to give money to anybody no one. You don't ever have to give a homeless person money ever in your entire life. What you do need to do is, instead of being mean or of them or judgment of them, turn around and just send them a blessing and walk away. If you want to give money to an organization, there are plenty of organizations out there that you can check into. You can email me and I'll send you a list. If you want to give money that are actually helping people, you can do that.
Carmen Lezeth:Again, it's this idea that we're judging people. On a moment. If you're giving somebody 20 bucks and they are homeless and they've been sleeping on the street and they're miserable and they've been crying all day, whatever, and they want to go get a glass of wine, they want to go get a bottle of wine. I don't give a shit. I do it all the time, and that's what I'm saying is like, what is it that you think they're doing? They're going to go get high or go get drugs? Then don't give them any money, give it to an organization. If I give few bucks, I'm going to give it to them and walk away no big deal. But I'm not going to make a judgment on that. If they're begging for money, they need it for something.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, and it's again. I'm not telling anyone. I don't usually give money to people I do give money to. There's a couple of homeless people, the trash here and they have the big trash bags. So I now save all my bottles and I meet them out there and I always put like 20 bucks. Right, they're very nice people. I always put 20 bucks in the bag for them. So it's like once every couple of weeks and it's like now I know them, whatever, and I don't think those homeless people are doing anything wrong. I think they're trying to figure out a way to get a few bucks to do whatever they're doing, you know, and even if they're going to go out and have a drink, I don't care, right, they're, they're picking up recycling every day, not every day, but they do it like every week here. So, yeah, let's try not to be judgy is what I'm saying.
Rick Costa:You don't have to give money to anybody, but you can give it to organizations if you want, but you don't have to give money to anybody yeah, have they ever done a reality show where somebody goes and pretends or I guess is the best way to say it to live like a homeless person and not say anything to nobody?
Carmen Lezeth:They've done that on TikTok, but why?
Rick Costa:I mean like a for real show, because, like one thing, because I've talked to people that have become homeless or even are homeless, and they're like you don't understand. There's so many things that you take for granted. Because people just say get a job, no-transcript, and this is a restaurant. Um, yeah, my phone didn't have to make up something. Oh, my phone got turned on.
Carmen Lezeth:It's not just get a job, there's more to it yeah, audrey, I look at I just said, but there are homeless people that are really, really hungry, that need it for food, as opposed to those who want the money to get their fix. That's the difference, but that's what I'm trying to say. You don't have, if you don't have that trust in people, I don't care if somebody is trying to get a fix. I mean, I'm not going to give money to somebody I can tell is a drug addict now and that's why they're homeless and there's clearly something that's happened. There's a story why they've gotten to that place. Right, there's, there's a reason why somebody started doing cocaine or started doing fentanyl or whatever I agree with that, yes, and now they became homeless.
Carmen Lezeth:So I'm just saying like I'm not telling anyone to give people money. I'm saying let's be less judgy, let let's be more loving, let's be more hopeful of humanity and be like you know what? I'm going to give money to organizations that are helping those people. Look at, I worked the reason why. First of all, let me just tell everybody, in case you don't know, I worked for a nonprofit that all we did was help drug and alcohol drug and alcoholic people and organizations that helped people who were homeless.
Carmen Lezeth:I was with that organization for a very long time. It was a family foundation whose very wealthy woman, whose son extremely wealthy people, whose son died of a drug and alcohol overdose. So it doesn't matter whether you're rich or poor, you can become a drug addict and end up killing yourself, and so that's why we don't want to be judgy. So this woman left all her money to this organization to find organizations who will help people, especially veterans. She had a. Her son was not a veteran, but especially veterans. That's what we tried to help the most, and it was primarily men. So her foundation was very focused at the time on this. So the reason why I'm so adamant about it is probably one of my favorite jobs for about a minute until she passed away and her kids got in charge of it.
Carmen Lezeth:But it's not only that. It's just because I lived part of that life too right. So the reason why I'm so adamant about it if you want to know organizations that are legit organizations, reach out to me. I will tell you who they are and you can donate money to them if you want. All I'm asking is that we stop making these kinds of judgments. You know, just send blessings to people. You don't have to give nobody money. But if we want to be loving, kind, beautiful people, let's actually be those people. Let's let's treat people the way we treat dogs and cats who are homeless. That's all I'm asking. It's so sad. That's what I'm asking for.
Rick Costa:You know what I mean yeah, one time my church we had like a like a little outreach and and we had little packages of stuff. We literally went finding homeless people and gave them socks and blah, blah, blah and it's like, just do that once. I'm telling you right now it's going to change you. Talk to them. And really I got so emotional with one guy in particular and everybody's like are you okay, rick? I was like he just got to me His story. It's like you know, we gotta remember humans. You're human too. Yeah, I feel bad for the dogs that are suffering and the cats, but what about the humans?
Carmen Lezeth:I'm just saying you can treat them the same, I'm not saying you we have enough love to give to everybody and to animals. You know what I mean. Like you don't have to do one or the other.
Tony D.:Hey.
Carmen Lezeth:Darcy, how are you? Hey Tony, is your friend Ted going on tonight?
Tony D.:I don't know yet I haven't seen him.
Carmen Lezeth:I don't think what's going on with him when is his show on a regular basis.
Tony D.:He's busy, he's got a busy issue. It's okay, we got plenty, we're going to do more. We got plenty, we're going to do more. Like I tell everybody, we got plenty of time, we're always going to do time.
Carmen Lezeth:Let's promote it, just turn your notifications on Follow me Linktree. Okay, wait, let's say it a little bit slower what your LinkedIn thing is. What is it?
Tony D.:TonyDOriginal Comment Skylar, honestly, I did one.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh my God, seriously, they still didn't get it. So it's Linktree. What is it? Tonydoriginal? Yes, you got it, and then all your links are there. I'm trying to promote you.
Tony D.:And also you can follow.
Carmen Lezeth:Rick at RickCostacom. He has a show every single day. That is, what is it, rick? I don't want to mess up.
Rick Costa:It's a religious broadcast, let's just put it out there.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, but don't say religious. Okay, you can pray on the show, you can sing a song on the show. He also does prayers for individual people. Yeah, tony, type your thing in the comments, or maybe Rick can. But we still never know what your link is. Because I tried your link tree, it never made sense to me.
Tony D.:What didn't make sense.
Carmen Lezeth:I couldn't find it. Tonydoriginalcom Is it.
Tony D.:It's link tree TonyDOriginal.
Carmen Lezeth:Put it in the comments. I'm saying, okay, here's the thing. If you put the link tree thing and then put your thing, it doesn't come up easy.
Tony D.:So you got to put it.
Rick Costa:All right, I just put in Google tone little, just Tony D Original, and the first thing that comes up is link tree.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, great, Now put it in the comments. Tonydoriginal.
Rick Costa:Oh profile may contain content not appropriate for all audiences over 18.
Tony D.:You got your OnlyFans on there. What's on there? You got OnlyFans. Can I answer that?
Carmen Lezeth:Yes, please.
Tony D.:I got it set for 18 and over. That's why it does that. The first thing everybody asks is do you have OnlyFans? Something wrong with?
Carmen Lezeth:y'all, it's not wrong.
Tony D.:We're just interested in the possibility.
Rick Costa:It's not wrong.
Carmen Lezeth:We're being honest. Thank you, Cynthia.
Tony D.:Just want clarity, that's all. No, honestly, I got told that last year they were like you must have got OnlyFans. I'm like I never did OnlyFans. Is that what it means when you have OnlyFans?
Carmen Lezeth:That you got to get a warning and everything. No, I got't. Speak for themselves. I think that's why people are so caught up with wanting to help animals more than humans. Oh, jesse, in a minute let me explain to you.
Carmen Lezeth:Audrey, I agree with you, I understand that, but I also think it's easier to think negatively about people, and easier because animals are furry and cute. So I agree with you. But when we start thinking that people are beautiful and important and lovely, we can see more behind it. So it's not that animals can't speak for themselves. A lot of homeless people can speak for themselves, but we won't even look at them, we won't even take the time to talk to them. You know what I mean.
Carmen Lezeth:So I hear you, but I think we need to start thinking about each other again in the way we used to, in a loving, kind, positive way. I'm not trying to be cheesy. I think this is. My whole purpose on the planet is to bring joy to people and to remind us of who we can be. I know that sounds like a big thing, but I'm being serious. Jesse, my love, oh Lord, it was hard. It was hard to think about having to explain it to you, but a lot of people aren't, and there's some crazy people with weird fetishes and craziness. It's not?
Tony D.:yeah, it's weird I am not an only fans.
Carmen Lezeth:If you see me only fans, that is not me no one said you aren't, we're just messing with you, tony no, no, no, no.
Tony D.:People like the aqua folks and trust me the links that I have up there. They're not my only social media accounts, but those are the main ones that I'm using for live streaming.
Carmen Lezeth:Wait, I just got so confused. So you have secret other accounts that you use. Hey, you just walked into that baby. Don't take long you just walk right into that one.
Tony D.:I don't have a facebook one.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, that's all um, hey, rick, why don't you put your um, rick costacom in there? I mean, I know it's pretty easy, but that way it's on there in the youtube. You know what I mean, rick costacom? I havea comment. Melanie said I have a comment, but it's more suitable for rick's broadcast regarding how to treat all people. It's okay, melanie, you can share a religious thing. It's okay. I didn't mean to make it sound like you can't, and you're such a regular visitor on our show. I let you pass on anything that you want to say. I know you probably want to put down a biblical comment or something, or a passage. Please now do the comment.
Carmen Lezeth:Just say whatever makes people happy? What?
Tony D.:All you say that's what the big books are. I've been told to go over this. I'm not going to. There's too much of a stereotype against it.
Carmen Lezeth:With the name, like Tony D oh you ain't helping, you ain't helping, oh you ain't helping.
Rick Costa:Tony D with the OnlyFans. That's hilarious. Oh my gosh, that's really great. So the guy that created I X-Men cartoon he was the one mainly behind it. He just got fired because apparently he had OnlyFans and they didn't like that. Yeah, well, a lot of people do have an.
Carmen Lezeth:OnlyFans account. They shouldn't.
Tony D.:And it's not everything on there is a sexual. That's the crazy part it doesn't matter.
Carmen Lezeth:It has the connotation, so it doesn't matter. Well that's all the business's. Still, I don't look at. I know people want to fight this battle. It has a connotation of being more porn oriented than not Right, and so if you're going to have a page, that's the connotation that comes with it. I'm sorry you can't be like, oh, but mine isn't really. It is what it is.
Rick Costa:Just own it and move on move on if I went on there and tried to be a religious broadcast. People be like you want only fans, bye they gotta lose all my followers.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm just or or. They're like yes, finally somebody who's preaching the word to us people. I mean, but you, you gotta own it. You gotta own it. You can't be trying to change what only fans is, because so like some. Some person told me that there's a that they have. There's somebody has like a foot fetish and that's not the same as porno. I'm like it's still crazy. That's crazy. Like I don't want to know that you have a foot fetish porno thing. That's weird. You know what I mean. Like it's weird. I'm just saying they should create a non-sexual site. It's right here, all about the joy this is a non-sexual site.
Carmen Lezeth:You can tell me. Oh, you did. I'm just answering Jessie. She said they should create a non-sexual site.
Tony D.:There are a bunch of them that turn sexual, in all honesty.
Carmen Lezeth:Really.
Tony D.:Yes, like what other one. I don't know I think that sounded like a I do know, but I don't want to talk about it comment. There are a lot of sites that started out pretty good and then the highly sexualized people jump on there and they bring more people, more attention, more uh, subscribers, if you will to their site. That's what happens.
Carmen Lezeth:You know people say that you know controversy and sex and things like that is what gets you more followers or whatever. And I'm like, yeah, and look at, I know people don't like to read good news. We say we do, but we don't. People don't like to have like just you know, happiness talk or whatever good news. We say we do, but we don't. People don't like to have just happiness talk or whatever. We say we do, but we really don't. And I think that's okay. But I believe we can still have a place where you can do something that isn't about all that crap all the time you can and then we need it.
Carmen Lezeth:But my God, I just realized we're an hour and 30 minutes. Wow, I can't believe it. Oh, rick.
Tony D.:She just keeps going to an hour and a half and she's always shocked.
Carmen Lezeth:I don't I usually do an hour. Don't I usually do an hour, Rick?
Rick Costa:Try to keep it to an hour usually.
Carmen Lezeth:An hour and 10 minutes. Why is Tony looking at me like that? I follow this because it's not about all that. Thank you, jesse, I appreciate you.
Tony D.:You got to be grown, jesse. We've been growing. We can get crazy too, but I try to stay grown first, tony.
Carmen Lezeth:D. So hey, Audrey, thank you so much for coming by and for chiming in and chatting. I appreciate you, Mario. Cynthia Darcy stopped by Melanie, as always, who never answered our question, but I'm not going to force her Now. I'm going to have to watch Rick's show tomorrow to see if she brings it up, because I want to know Again if she brings it up, because I want to know Again tonydoriginalcom.
Carmen Lezeth:And let me finish one more thing as you end on OnlyFans, right? Let me say one more thing, because I got to get better about this. Please, please, support the show. We're on YouTube, we're on LinkedIn. We're on Facebook. We have pages everywhere. You can go to allaboutthejoycom and check out all of our information. We need some likes, we need some follows, and please tell your friends and family and we hope to see you here again next week.
Rick Costa:Happy birthday. Whose birthday is it? Mario said happy birthday to me.
Carmen Lezeth:Didn't we say happy birthday to him last week? That's what I thought.
Rick Costa:Oh, he does like you, celebrates the whole month.
Carmen Lezeth:The whole month. Happy birthday, mr Dawson. We love you. Mario, he probably didn't know we said happy birthday to him last week. Oh happy birthday, Mario. We said it last week, but we love you. Happy birthday and goodbye everyone, and remember it's all about the joy. Bye, thanks for stopping by. All about the joy. Be better and stay beautiful folks. Have a sweet day.