All About The Joy
All About The Joy is a weekly hang-out with friends in the neighborhood! We share insight, advice, funny-isms and we choose to always try and find the positive, the silver lining, the "light" in all of it. AATJ comes from the simple concept that at the end of the day we all want to have more JOY than not. So, this is a cool place to unwind, have a laugh and share some time with friends!
All About The Joy
The Great Wedding Ticket Debate and If We Let Love Back In
Ever had a tooth knocked out during practice? I have, and Rick’s son broke his tooth in an equally unexpected way! This episode kicks off with our hilarious yet all-too-relatable dental debacles, revealing the trials and tribulations of achieving that flawless celebrity smile. We share personal anecdotes about veneers, braces, and the cultural quirks surrounding dental aesthetics. Plus, Cynthia brings some warmth as she talks about her bustling workweek and a confidence-boosting doctor visit.
Next, get ready for a spirited debate on whether it’s fair to charge guests for attending a wedding. Rick shakes things up with a controversial story of a couple demanding $450 per ticket for their big day. We dissect the societal expectations behind such financial requests, reminiscing about simpler, more meaningful celebrations versus the extravagance fueled by shows like “Bridezillas.” Our banter is peppered with personal experiences, highlighting the complexity and emotion tied to weddings and social obligations.
We wrap up with some deep dives into personal growth and the art of receiving compliments. From Tony D.'s battles with self-esteem to Cynthia's insights on self-worth, our conversation explores the nuances of love, trust, and the impact of past wounds on present behavior. With Ted Hicks stirring the pot, the discussion on gender dynamics and humility adds a poignant and thought-provoking layer to our chat. Don’t miss this episode filled with laughter, heartfelt stories, and a touch of controversy.
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Host, Carmen Lezeth
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Hey girl, how you doing. Hey everyone, welcome to All About the Joy. Cynthia and I are early because, you know, we chatted and we thought we'd share it, and then I'll delete it all for the podcast, because that's usually what I do. Okay, you're going to have to tell me about your week, but I'll just tell you. So I have a. This tooth is actually really gray and black. I need a new veneer and you know, if Tony hears that she's so bougie with a veneer, no, so this is a dead tooth. This is the tooth that got knocked out when I was in color guard, so it's not even like a tooth tooth. And for some reason I woke up the other day and I noticed it was gray and I was freaking out. So I went and I saw my dentist, who you know I love. He's in my second book, I love Dr Vaziri, but anyway, I've been seeing him for like 25 years, I know, but he went in, he cleaned it out and stuff. Hey, tony, how you doing? And he can't get the gray out.
Cynthia:So I need a new veneer, even if they like bleach it or something.
Carmen Lezeth:He bleached it on the inside. You can't bleach my teeth any more than they're already. They're way too. My teeth are already like way too white, and that's not even bleached. That's hydrogen peroxide, people. That's the trick, because that's what's in the white strips that everybody uses. Yeah, did you know that? You know that because you work in the hospital. Yeah, so so I rinse with hydrogen peroxide, but anyways. So he bleached the inside, like when he was in there. He bleached the inside, but it's still. It's like translucent.
Cynthia:Huh, I know, are you going to have to put a whole new one, or?
Carmen Lezeth:A new veneer? Yeah, because this is a dead tooth. This isn't a real tooth. It's a real tooth, but it's a dead tooth. This isn't a real tooth. It's a real tooth, but it's a dead tooth. Hey, melanie, how are you girls? Night girls. Oh sorry, I just I ruined it I was like girls night. I was like, oh, damn it, how you doing rick, good, good how you. We're talking about the tragedy of needing a new veneer for my tooth.
Rick Costa:Oh.
Carmen Lezeth:I know it's so sad, anyways, but I'm working with lighting so you can't really see how black. It's so funny because I'm so dramatic. I was at the dentist yesterday and I was like it's black.
Cynthia:It is to me my son.
Rick Costa:he was really little, he must have been like six or something. He was playing video games and then he got, for some reason, got on top of this chair and then his feet slipped, fell forward and broke his tooth and I was like he goes, dad. Look. I was like what the what's going on happened?
Carmen Lezeth:he goes, he just broke the tooth.
Rick Costa:I think I broke it like it broke off and I go where is it? I don't know. I was like, did you swallow? He goes maybe. I was like, oh my god, your mother's gonna kill me, like it's my fault. But I said, does it hurt? He goes. No, I don't feel anything. I was like, oh, okay, well melanie just said hi rick whenever oh, hello, hello, hello, hello.
Carmen Lezeth:So what did you do?
Rick Costa:So he ended up having to go to the dentist.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, my tooth got knocked out by a rifle. Oh, what A spinning rifle. Yeah, it got hit in the mouth and it got knocked out. And when Laura comes by and visits Laura Wall, it was her mom who took the. I don't know. Now Jerry Glover said it was him. I don't know, everyone's fighting over who saved my tooth. I shouldn't say that Mrs Wall isn't fighting at all, but I remember it being Mrs Wall. But Jerry said it doesn't matter, they stuck the tooth back in there and that's why it's a little bit like off.
Carmen Lezeth:But anyway, I had my dentist. It got taken out, they did a root canal, they fixed it with a fake tooth, with the veneer, but the bleeding that was going in, there was something going on inside of it. They cleaned it out, they bleached it. This is the second visit, and so now I need a new veneer to go back again and I know I'm vain as all hell. Was it a baby tooth? It wasn't. It was my front tooth. It was an adult tooth. Melanie, I wish it was a baby tooth. Anyway, that's my tragedy this week. I need a new veneer. I'm so bummed about it.
Cynthia:I know, tony was here. We called you bougie, I know.
Carmen Lezeth:Tony's not here to say bougie, I know right. Well, it's so funny because it's going to cost like $1,800, so I'm not doing it. I know For one tooth. One tooth, because it's a veneer. So it's going to have to take that off and it takes two weeks too. Can you imagine getting all your teeth done? That's why people have the perfect smiles and everything.
Rick Costa:I used to watch a guy on YouTube and he actually did that and he wore a mask over his face for three weeks until it felt like it was normal, Because he had scars like scars, but you could tell he made your stuff. But now his teeth are like pristine Perfect.
Carmen Lezeth:I mean all the celebrity. I mean you can look at old movies with Tom Cruise. I mean he has veneer, you can see everybody all of a sudden has perfect teeth. I don't know why he'd have scars. What scars. I'm so confused.
Rick Costa:It wasn't like scars, but it was like I saw these red marks you never had up here. I don't know.
Carmen Lezeth:I don't know if it's. Dentistry has probably changed since then. Maybe there are no scars If you have a good dentist, like my dentist, dr Vaziri, who you know I'm always promoting because I love him. Yes, he's a Beverly Hills doctor, I'll just say it right now, but he wasn't there when I first met him. I met him when I was out here in West LA. That's when I first met him. Melanie said I should have clarified. I was referring to Rick's son's tooth.
TikToker @imhassanrahim:Was it a baby tooth.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, your son's tooth. I thought she was asking me, he was six. Oh yeah, it was probably a baby tooth.
Rick Costa:Maybe, and there was no blood, he said, and I was like all right.
Carmen Lezeth:But, melanie, how come you don't care if my tooth was a baby tooth? I was in pain. I was a child, honey.
Rick Costa:There was blood involved.
Carmen Lezeth:There was blood, it was the whole front tooth. But yeah, I don't know. I think teeth are really important and I was blessed with when I was younger Cynthia I don't know if you remember this because you're so much younger than I am but they used to have those people that came from colleges and they would do free dental care. They still do that. They still do Okay, so that's how I had. So I used to have teeth all like people. I don't know if people have seen it, but maybe I'll show it next time. When you look at my pictures when I'm really young, like in the seventh and eighth grade, I have all teeth, I'm all bucked. I'm like this and I have all like buck teeth and everything. I had wait for it. Too many teeth for my mouth, because my mouth is actually pretty small. Most people, most adults, have 33 teeth. I think 32 or 33. I have 23. See, I'm so dainty, I'm so dainty and bougie, I have a friend that her teeth are like small.
Carmen Lezeth:I have very tiny, a tiny mouth. Thank you, tony, that's 32. So those people, the people that came in, did a really great job, because when I became an adult and I met with this professional dentist, dr Rivers, they did such a great job with my teeth. I also got braces through them. And shout out to all those college students and people who do work in inner city neighborhoods or poor neighborhoods and suburbs or whatever, and help people, because I think your smile really matters.
Carmen Lezeth:To me it does, Melanie said I thought you were talking recently. That's all right, I forgive you, girl. I forgive you. No, I'm just kidding, melanie, I'm just messing with you, I'm just jealous.
Rick Costa:We are so alike Melanie.
Carmen Lezeth:I have a small mouth too, I get it.
Rick Costa:I have a friend that her teeth are like small I don't know how to describe it so like when she smiles it almost looks like she don't have teeth because they're just short. They're very short and she keeps begging the no, you don't see nothing. It's like she opens her mouth and it's just do you have teeth Because they're so short and small? And she keeps begging the dentist. Can we please do something? He goes, but your teeth are perfect. Don't do anything.
Carmen Lezeth:They're perfect teeth. Yeah, I don't think if you need to do anything, but I get it because your smile matters. I think that's the thing I walk in the room and I know it's my smile that people are attracted to. I'm not trying to be rude, but it's the first thing in people.
Rick Costa:It's funny because UK people say that we make fun of their teeth, but then they say Americans are so vain about their teeth.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm totally vain about their teeth. I'm totally vain about my teeth, totally. I'm telling you my teeth is black and I know you guys can't see it. I'm telling you. I text him today because my dentist texts me to see how I'm doing, because I was so upset when I left yesterday. I wasn't crying or anything, I was just like it's $1,800. I don't want to do it. You know what I mean, but there's nothing else he can do about it. So he texted me today and I'll tell you what I wrote, so I'm not lying. And I sent a picture of my teeth so he could see them.
Carmen Lezeth:From the next day I wrote okay, here it is In the big scheme of things. Oh wait, let me tell you what he wrote, what they wrote. Carmen, this is the dental office of Charles Vazir, checking in with you to see how you are doing after yesterday's procedure. Please let us know, okay. And then I wrote in the big scheme of things, I'm absolutely fine. I'm sad about my tooth but it's cosmetic and I will live. Can you see it if I put it up there? Because I know you guys don't believe me Not you, tony. Tony's the only one who doesn't believe me. I made the mistake of whitening my teeth last night for 30 minutes hoping it would help. It did not, but I'm laughing because I'm just a normal girl who's as vain as anyone else. Here is the morning pick. So I whitened them last night and I thought it would help because they were like having some. But it made it worse. It was stupid.
Rick Costa:I should have just left it. Yeah, it does actually make it worse yeah, okay, that is my trauma cynthia.
Carmen Lezeth:Cynthia came online and she was like it's been a week, I'm like girl, I know, and then I'm all like I need a veneer. So go ahead, girl, let's talk about real stuff how you doing what happened this week.
Cynthia:Oh no, it's been crazy busy, and remember how I'm by myself in the office because the other girl's on vacation, so we've been getting so many cases that are coming in and I've been just like going crazy just doing all this stuff. That even the doctor noticed and I said to him I said, oh my god, it's been a crazy week. He goes, you've been doing great he's, you've been keeping up with everything he goes and you're by yourself. He's like you're doing a really good job. So I felt so great.
Carmen Lezeth:I wish I could quickly go back to where are we at Week six? Go back six weeks to when you first started and I'm sorry, rick, maybe you can refresh my memory and she was like I don't know, I just have nothing to do. I hate when I have nothing to do and I just wish somebody would teach me that woman she won't teach me anything she doesn't want to teach me.
Tony D. :I hope I made the right decision, okay.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, but I'm glad he gave you props and congratulations so you feel good, you feel like you got this yeah, and then anything I don't know, like he's even told me.
Cynthia:You know, if there's something you don't know, if you question he's just asked me he goes, don't you worry about it.
Carmen Lezeth:So he's really cool so is it just one doctor now, because before you had a whole bunch yeah, there were two.
Cynthia:One was semi-retired, but he recently just passed away, two weeks ago. Yeah, he was really sick while you were there. Yeah, so now it's down to one doctor, but we're still like getting all the cases for both will they get another doctor probably till? Yeah I think I think they have someone that's coming in to take over.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh well, that's kind of sad. I know you don't let. You knew him for a minute, but still. Melanie just said I had a dentist that would check in after procedure. He retired. The people that took over his practice are not as good. I need a new dentist, melanie. If you're going to come out here to Beverly Hills, girl, you can stay with me. Dr Charles in Missouri, look it. Girl, you can stay with me. Dr Charles in Missouri, look at it. I am really a proponent of people making sure they have a great dentist, a great medical internist or what do you call it. Like my regular doctor I don't know what she's called Primary care, primary care physician and a good GYN doctor is good too. I also have her. She's separate and I do.
Rick Costa:I'm just saying and a good therapist. Why are you making fun of me, Rick? No, because I'm a man and I said that to be funny.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, you guys should have a good doctor too, right?
Rick Costa:Not for GYN though.
Carmen Lezeth:Don't you guys have like proctology people or something?
Rick Costa:I don't want to talk about it.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, but GYN is no big deal Okay.
Rick Costa:Look at it.
Carmen Lezeth:No from me, you do the same thing with us, but with a big wench thing. So we're all in the same boat here. Okay, we adults, uh, speaking of adults, I just wrote a bad thing on snoop dogg's uh instagram. I'm sure I'm gonna get cut off. I got mad. I know I love snoop dog, right, don't we the Olympics? He was so brilliant, whatever. So why did he post today this nasty thing? Because he thinks it's funny and I think it was inappropriate and I said so. I'm sure, with his, I think it's 13 million followers. He going to see mine, however, millions, I don't even know how many no, boss did you see what garbage.
Carmen Lezeth:But I did it before I came on here and I'm always so hesitant, right when it's a celebrity, that we are like beloved or whatever. But other people were writing stuff too, but I said it mean to him. They were talking about how terrible it was what he posted, but I was like he should know better. I was like an old lady.
Cynthia:At least you weren't the only one, though, that thought it was bad.
Carmen Lezeth:You guys haven't seen it. I'm not going to tell what it is because I don't want to promote it. It's totally old school Snoop crap. It's kind of like did you guys see the closing ceremonies? Not the French one, but the American one. Did you see the clip? No, you didn't. We should watch it, but I don't have it prepared. It's actually really good. They did this whole thing. Okay, the French closed their ceremonies and it was exactly very French, very classy, very, to me, long and art-filled.
Carmen Lezeth:I didn't understand much of what was going on, but they had the narrator telling us what some of the symbolic things are. That happens no matter what country you're watching, if it's not your own country, because we don't know what we don't know. You know what I mean and I'm not that intelligent, I'm not even trying to like, I'm not that cultured, so I don't know everything. But it was was beautiful. And then what happened is, all of a sudden you saw the light look up at the top of the stadium and of course it was Tom Cruise, and he jumped. He didn't, he jumped off of there and then landed on his feet perfectly onto the. You guys should watch it, it's cute.
Carmen Lezeth:And then he got the flag, the olympic flag from simone biles, and then there was this whole thing. He gets onto a jet and he parachutes out and he ends up on the hollywood sign holla, and it has the olympic rings where the o is hollywood. Oh, I didn't see that cool. And then a guy on a bike takes it from tom cruise and then they go out to Venice beach I think it was Venice beach and when they end up there it's Snoop Dogg and Dr Dre and they're singing. You know what I mean, and it's just looked really beautiful and that is such a contrast. You know what I mean. It was cool and I love Snoop. I think he's now. I really like him, right Like recently with the whole Martha Stewart thing and you know like.
Carmen Lezeth:But you know you can take. You can take the girl out of the ghetto. You can't sometimes take the ghetto out of the girl. I'm just gonna say sometimes it comes out.
Carmen Lezeth:I know sometimes it just comes out and I think that's what he did on Instagram. But even when he came out and sang, first he had, which I thought was also inappropriate and then I realized I'm getting old. There was a woman, a dancer, one dancer with the Hoochie Mama shorts and the whole Hoochie Mama dancing for 30 seconds next to him and I was like there was no need for that. There's no need. There's no need for that. The reminder of this. It was fine, but it wasn't necessary. You know what I mean. And she wasn't that bad, but I kept thinking she going to go that bad, you know what I mean. Like she was going to start doing some inappropriate stuff, but she didn't. So I brought that to the table because we all know back in the day, still, she wasn't necessary Just throwing that out there. But then he walks over and he's with Dr Dre and it's so cool, and then everyone's on the beach. You should watch it. I didn't know you guys hadn't seen it you guys didn't watch the Olympics.
Cynthia:I watched some of it. I did watch the breakdancing oh stop, with Ray gone, okay. So I didn't watch the women's one. I missed the women's one. I missed the women's one. So I only caught like little bits and pieces of like when they would recap and stuff like that. Yeah, I saw the clip of Ray gun. The men's one, I have to say, was absolutely amazing.
Carmen Lezeth:So let's back up because, remember, we're doing the audio and I know a lot of people have already seen the Olympics, but let's talk about what happened. So, for the first time and I think the last time, uh, break dancing was brought into the Olympic world. They had already decided, by the way, before competition started for break dancing, that it would not be in the Los Angeles 2028 Olympics, so there's no correlation there and this happens.
Carmen Lezeth:They bring in, they take out. I think cricket had the same thing. Cricket came in. It's coming back. When it comes to Los Angeles, you know what I mean. They don't always have. Personally, as a former dancer, and a former break dancer, I don't understand why break dancing was in an Olympic sport. It is amazing and it is a sport and it takes a lot of athletic ability, but it's a it's dancing, so it's just a hard thing for me, even though there is competition for dancing. It's different, it's different, but that's a whole other controversy. But ray gun is that her name? I don't know I'm. She was from australia and she came out and represented her country and it was it really. It's. Anyone who's listening, who has never done breakdancing, would have done a better job breaking. She was just horrible and the memes were hilarious.
Rick Costa:But I was like yeah, I keep seeing memes of somebody looking awful girl, that's her.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh my gosh, yeah with the green outfit yeah, here's the thing, listen, she was not definitely a break dancer at all.
Cynthia:I don't know how she made it to the olympics. I gave her 100 credit for having the courage to actually go out there and do it. That's not. She had fun, whatever that I give her credit for that, no.
Carmen Lezeth:But but that dancing, I'm going to tell you I have a different take on it. I was pissed, and I think a lot of dancers or not even break dancers, I think, people in the world of dancing it was so disrespectful. The way she became a representative is because her and her husband created I don't know what all the ins and outs are, but they created their own competition in order to qualify and then didn't let the actual people who could break dance compete, because you have to qualify, like world champions, like Simone Biles has to qualify to get to the next level. You know what I mean. So they held their own and then got.
Carmen Lezeth:She's a professor, by the way, so she studies the art of break dancing, so number one and I don't know if that's her profession, but that was part of the thing that was going on was like you cannot be studying dance and then think you a dancer. But what I think was and this came from a TikToker felt this, but I couldn't verbalize it he said the problem with this is that it disrespected an art form that was created in new york you know what I mean that has been always undermined as not like a legit form of dance, form of athleticism and it made it like people made fun of it, whereas it could have been a place where people could have seen it and been like oh my God, it couldn't.
Cynthia:And instead I felt about the men's competition. It was, like I tell you, it was amazing. I literally watched it from beginning to end and it was just amazing yeah.
Carmen Lezeth:I just think it's sad. I think, and I felt that disrespect and I didn't watch the men's cause I was pissed. I was like this is a bunch of crap. That's the point. You know what I mean. I know people in my neighborhood I live in a very white neighborhood who could break dance better than she could. You know what I mean, and I was shook by it. I was shook, that was anyway. It was anyways. Check out the memes. They're funny, though there are people who have dogs who are like scratching and they put music. There are people who have dogs who are like scratching and they put music. So funny. I mean it's funny, but it's not. But it is, but it's funny.
Rick Costa:It makes me think of American Idol when they have the auditions and people go out there singing and then who told you you could sing Like? Why are you wasting everybody's time?
Carmen Lezeth:Oh wait, they show that I don't watch American Idol.
Rick Costa:Oh my gosh, I haven't watched it in years. But yeah, they'd show the auditions and some of them were absolutely horrible, like why are you here? What are you doing? You can't sing.
Cynthia:They do that. For what do you call it? Oh my God, what are the words? Exposure or yeah, just to get ratings.
Rick Costa:Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, to get ratings they could sing who some of them were ended up being famous. This asian guy, he was like trying to sing ricky barton she bangs. It was so bad, but he became famous because it was so bad, totally not that famous, because you can't remember his name.
Carmen Lezeth:So it's like something ho, I think, I don't know I remember the first time I did a short movie here in California and like Andrea went, richard went, like all my, and they were like you were so good.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm like okay, great, whatever you know what I mean and I was like sure, and I did a theater performance until, like, I've done all these little things. Of course, all my friends always show up. They're so amazing whatever they show up and being supportive and I'm like sure, whatever. But it wasn't until I got a critique in the LA times. They panned the entire play but they were like Carmen Lisette Suarez, like I have that shit in my house, man, I have that thing. I haven't framed it Cause I'm not that, but I do have it. I have it, I got it. What do you call it? Laminated?
Rick Costa:Laminated. What do you?
Carmen Lezeth:call it Laminated. Laminated Because that's when I felt like you know, because your friends will tell you. But then if you get a critique but here's the thing, just to back up for a moment, because that was me doing theater and doing acting, which is not my forte as far as I'm concerned, I'm really more of a performer dancer that's what I always claim to be, even though I don't do it anymore. But the one thing I want to be clear about is that you should never take criticisms to heart, because if you take the criticisms that are, I was like I'm going to sing. Y'all know I can't sing, but I can hear that I can't sing. But if you were all just encouraging me, I might think I'm good enough.
Rick Costa:Yeah, some people don't know, they can't sing and that's sad.
Carmen Lezeth:I can hold a tune, but it's not the right. It's the right octave, but it doesn't sound good. But it's not the right.
Rick Costa:It's the right octave, but it doesn't sound good.
Cynthia:What amazes me?
Rick Costa:too, my friend that helped me record almost all the songs I have. He plays guitar, he plays piano, he plays all this stuff he can't sing. I'm like how do you play all this stuff that you can't sing? He goes oh, I know, Trust me, I know I can't, Don't ask me that.
Carmen Lezeth:Because singing it is a gift, it is part of a gift, it's anything else. Like I write beautifully, I didn't even think about this till the other day. I had to hand write an envelope and I happen to be in my office and so I hand wrote because somebody was looking for a label and I'm like, oh my god, just I'll write it it's. And they were like, oh my, that's calligraphy. Oh my god, these people. I do have really nice handwriting, but it's also generational that we don't teach people how to write cursive. You know what I mean.
Rick Costa:Yeah, they don't do that anymore.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, but I've always had really good cursive writing, so that's my gift. Whitney has hers, I have mine.
Cynthia:Whatever?
Carmen Lezeth:I can write cursive. Beyonce can sing Whatever. What's your gift, cynthia? What's a gift? You know you have, that you never had to work at Rick. I'm going to ask you next, okay, brian parking actually parallel parking yep I hate parallel parking.
Cynthia:Oh my god, really I can do it. So funny. Everybody will look at a park is fine. They're like you can't fit. Yes, I can and I will fit right in there without hitting any car. Well, we could all fit when we're hitting. Oops.
Carmen Lezeth:That's so awesome. Okay, that's a gift. Okay, and you're a good driver, right, mm-hmm? Everyone thinks they're a good driver. I think I'm a horrible driver. I'm just going to say that straight up. I admit it I don't like driving. That's why I don't have that much mileage on my 20-year-old car. I hate driving. Rick, what's your gift?
Rick Costa:I mean, I don't think it's like fabulous or amazing, but-.
Carmen Lezeth:Like parking.
Rick Costa:No.
Carmen Lezeth:And writing cursive.
Rick Costa:Actually some people said for a man, I have nice handwriting. I'm like okay, cool, Know your vehicle. Brian said parallel parking is easy, Know your vehicle.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, you don't live in LA, because parallel parking is not easy to those people.
Ted Hicks:You still need to know how to do it, people right, you don't know how to do it, though.
Carmen Lezeth:Pulling into a parking lot doesn't you know?
Rick Costa:count you got a parallel park to the curb and not be 10 feet away. Exactly that's my problem, yeah, but anyway. So the first time I tried to join our choir at my old church, they were like he goes, he goes, do you have a track? Sure, everybody has a track. And I'm like I just so happened to and everybody's like, oh, okay, excuse me. So I sang and then I finished and I was like okay, now I'm scared. What are they going to say? What am I going to say? And this one woman in the choir she was you can't join our choir. I was like no.
Rick Costa:She goes no, you're too good. I'm like stop stop. You're really into your voice.
Carmen Lezeth:Huh, I'm just doing what people say Pull that shit up, pull that shit up. Rick sings every day on his show. I sure do.
Carmen Lezeth:It's not Catholic stuff. What is it? Just say religious? I thought of you today because I was singing my song that I don't think is religious. And then I'm screaming because I went for my run today. It was. I Smile, I love that song, but I have my headset on, I don't care, and it's daytime, so I'm going to run outside and there's the beach. Who cares? So I'm running, whatever, and I'm singing. And then the God part. I'm always like I love God but I don't singing yeah, do you remember that song?
Rick Costa:I can only imagine, because it was actually on the radio. I was like, wait, okay, let me just say something that pisses me off, I'm just gonna tell everybody right now.
Carmen Lezeth:So rick always with. I'm just gonna say it right now we can end our friendship.
Carmen Lezeth:Yes, I'm gonna say I'm not gonna hold back, like you always make me hold back. I have to, like, worry about your damn feelings. No, so here's rick. Rick will always. He will sing half of the verse of the chorus of whatever song you just getting into and he start talking. And I don't understand what that is. It's not like a tease. He don't want to give you the full flavor, he just wants you to taste, but it's the name of the song.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, I'm just saying you, just just, you could have gone a little bit more with the chorus, because it's like me going like this to the left, to the left anyway, do you remember?
Rick Costa:um do we know that song I have some. I have a few friends. They do the same thing and they're singers. They do the same thing. They just sing a little piece and then they just keep talking. I do that too, I guess.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah and I'm I'm now expressing how much it bothers me, okay, so I want you to change.
Rick Costa:Tony, if this is you texting me, I'm gonna be upset let me just see who's texting I bring up that song because I can't tell you how many people have had me sing that at funerals. I'm like oh, I love that song, but why, if you okay?
Carmen Lezeth:I'm just to ignore it, because it's not Tony. Tony, I'm over here being mad at you. This is one of my clients. Seriously, I can't even be bothered.
Cynthia:Okay, what were you saying about?
Carmen Lezeth:this song.
Ted Hicks:Tony's doing this right now.
Carmen Lezeth:What's the song you were talking about?
Rick Costa:It's called. I Can Only Imagine.
Carmen Lezeth:I don't know that song.
Rick Costa:It was actually on the regular radio. I was like like wait a minute did I just hear him say jesus? When I first heard I was like who sings it? And why don't you sing a little more of it? What's the chorus? The chorus is surrounded by your glory. What would, what would my heart feel? Would I dance for you, jesus? Oh, and all of you be still? It was on the radio. It was like a huge hit on the radio.
Carmen Lezeth:I was like shocked is it like the christian radio?
Rick Costa:no regular radio. That's what I'm saying. I was so shocked to hear it.
Carmen Lezeth:Well I mean there's songs that have religious tones and I'm not saying, I'm just saying for me, when I'm singing or whatever, I'm like enjoying myself, and I'm not thinking, look, it's also like I don't want to say the n word out loud when I'm singing a rap song. I you know there are certain things I'm trying not to. You know what I mean.
Rick Costa:Brian, thank you.
Carmen Lezeth:Here you go. Brian's your friend right there. Brian knows you. I was going to do something for a minute.
Rick Costa:See what Tony said, see how you do me. I know because I thought it was Tony.
Carmen Lezeth:I thought it was Tony texting me or something, so I was going to be like no. So, rick, you wanted to talk about a certain subject that I thought was I have my own feelings about. I don't know if Cynthia's seen it. Do you have the link? All right, wait, can you guys all see it?
Rick Costa:No, you don't see it, you and your cheap phone.
Cynthia:No, but I already do see the video you guys put up though.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, I didn't even say nothing. That was not me. Okay, let me. Should I turn off the chat for a minute, or can everyone see it? No, I think it's good.
Rick Costa:But Cynthia can't see it at all.
Carmen Lezeth:She can't see it because it is her phone. I know she thinks it's not.
Cynthia:But I always see all the videos you guys put up, okay.
Carmen Lezeth:That's so weird. Can everyone else in the chat see that we have the video video? Oh, there it goes. I can see it oh, it's up.
Rick Costa:Wow you're. Your phone is slow we see it.
Carmen Lezeth:So cynthia yeah, I'm just cynthia you don't ever see joy, so I don't know what to say. Joy doesn't exist in your world tony all right, go ahead, just play.
TikToker @imhassanrahim:It's only like a minute yeah, it's not that long go ahead it's a minute and 13 seconds, here we go all right, tiktok, tell me if I'm tripping or not. So so me and my fiance, we are getting married right, and to be a part of our wedding you have to pay $450 for a ticket, and that's for each guest. So we invited friends and family to our wedding. Tell me why everybody that we invited has declined the invitation, because you're crazy. We already have spent 100, maybe almost close to $200,000 on the wedding. We have already pre-ordered the cake, we already put down a deposit for the venue, we've already got the wedding dress, everything. We paid everything for the wedding DJ, photographer, everything for the wedding.
TikToker @imhassanrahim:And what I don't understand is that y'all spend $400,000, more money on stupid stuff, but you can't come out to support your family and your friends at a wedding. Tell me if I'm wrong. Is we wrong? Let me know. Let me know Because y'all pay for tickets Beyonce tickets, $1,000 tickets. Y'all going to go meet Chris Brown for $1,000 something dollars, but when it comes to your friends and your family, you can't pay the ticket. These weddings ain't cheap. The weddings ain't cheap. What's going on? I don't get it, let us know. Are we wrong for charging for a wedding?
Carmen Lezeth:I really want to know, oh my gosh, what's LMBO Rick?
Rick Costa:Laughing my butt off what. Laughing my butt off.
Cynthia:Laughing my butt off Laughing my butt off.
Carmen Lezeth:He's right.
Rick Costa:You agree?
Carmen Lezeth:Tony agrees.
Rick Costa:But who told you to pay all that money for a wedding?
Cynthia:First of all, you're the one that wants to go and get married. You pay for anything If you want people to go as your guests or whatever, why are you charging them to go to your wedding? He's saying the weddings are expensive. Yeah, they are expensive. Then go elope, go to the city hall, have a little private wedding, do a destination wedding. Whoever wants to go can go. How are you going to charge people 450 dollars?
Rick Costa:and he's talking about. Y'all pay for a beyonce and chris brown. Do you sing as good as chris brown and beyonce? Because I don't think so. And what are they?
Carmen Lezeth:getting. Either it's not going to concerts either. I'll watch alma alma. I thought you guys were at Prince. They're over at the movie. The movie's premiering Green, so Alma and Mario are at.
Rick Costa:Prince.
Carmen Lezeth:But thank you for saying that to me.
Rick Costa:You kidding me, Tony.
Carmen Lezeth:Wait, I'm confused. Tony's okay with this.
Rick Costa:He said weddings aren't cheap.
Carmen Lezeth:Don't expect any gifts.
Rick Costa:No, you ain't gonna get my. $450 is your gift. What are you talking about? Give on top of it?
Cynthia:because where is the money going? Obviously it's going to the couple, because what are they getting for 450?
Carmen Lezeth:I'm confused. Now you guys are going, you're paying the 450 okay if I had a wedding me bougie, right. So I'm gonna go to this. We're having a wedding. I want y'all to fly out here and I'm like you know what? I need everyone to pay $150 ticket to come to my wedding. So you're going to fly out here. You wouldn't?
Rick Costa:pay $150.
Cynthia:I'm going to let your cousin answer first. That's your gift, right?
Carmen Lezeth:$150 is your gift. We have a registry as well that's your choice. You don't have to. Uh, that'll be your gift. If somebody wants to come up, I've put the link in. I'm not gonna let everyone up, but if people want to, I'm trying to hear what tony wants to say. But tony doesn't want to come up today, so I didn't't send him a invite.
Rick Costa:She hasn't had her wedding in the. I think it was the Bahamas. She said oh, you're invited. I'm like I ain't got Bahamas money. I'm sorry, I ain't going to be there.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, I would have gone to the Bahamas. Okay, so I, first of all I told Rick when he wanted to talk about this. I'm like this to me seems like more of a clickbait thing because it sounds so stupid. I would never in a million years pay someone to go see their boring ass, motherfucking wedding. Because, let's just be honest, melanie said I'll give you that day.
Carmen Lezeth:I have surgery on that day I didn't even tell you what day it was. I didn't even tell you what day it was. I didn't even tell you what day it was.
Cynthia:Anthony.
Carmen Lezeth:There's Tony. So, Tony, you would pay $450 to come to my wedding and fly out here and buy me a gift.
Tony D. :By mercy, how y'all doing.
Cynthia:How you doing.
Tony D. :The only thing I'm saying is when he said you spend money on other things but you can't pay for the wedding, he's correct. People will spend money on this, people will spend money on that. People will pay to go places and spend more money as they get to their destination For a wedding. I agree with him. People invite you to weddings. You don't get invited to all of them. It is a very special occasion, more than a recreation. I would have no problem with it if I could afford it. I wouldn't. That is a lot of money, I agree, but most people.
Cynthia:Let me say this I'll say it for my wedding, Melanie still busy that day For my wedding.
Tony D. :I was grateful for everything everybody did and all the gifts they gave, but I did take the travel expenses into consideration, so I didn't really have much of a registry. I told the wife she wanted to do one to go ahead, but I wasn't expecting much. I know how much it costs to travel. A lot of people came across country for mine so I understood what he was saying as far as how people spend for things here and there, but you won't do it for a wedding which is more of a special occasion. I do agree with that. If I had it, I would do it, If not, I get it.
Carmen Lezeth:Brian, go back to LA stay at Hilton Garden Inn and then look cool at the wedding. So, Brian, you would pay $450 to just step at my wedding, just to be at my wedding, and then pay all that as well.
Cynthia:But he also commented doesn't mostly people donate at the wedding, or am?
Carmen Lezeth:I behind you do. It depends on the wedding, it depends on the culture of the wedding. But yeah, I usually give money.
Tony D. :It doesn't depend on the culture of the wedding.
Carmen Lezeth:Look, I think most weddings I'm sorry to say this are boring and suck. I'm sorry.
TikToker @imhassanrahim:I am not.
Carmen Lezeth:They are. I've never. I have been to a lot of people's weddings. Cynthia's smiling because she knows I didn't go to hers. I didn't go to Andrea's either. I didn't go to Andrea's either. Why is Tony laughing? I didn't go to Andrea's either. What kind of friend are you? Stand at the back, cynthia? Why didn't I go to your wedding? I forgot. I didn't go to Emily's either.
Cynthia:We know I went to Emily's, but why didn't I go to yours?
Carmen Lezeth:It was financially, you said. Was I financially hard up that time? That makes sense, that makes sense, and also I didn't like who she was marrying. I'm really against their marriage to this day.
Carmen Lezeth:I hate Juan. Look, I'm not a fan of weddings. I eloped. No one found out till after the fact. We went to Hawaii. We were there for two weeks.
Carmen Lezeth:The amount of money that people spend on weddings to me is ridiculous and I know people like want to scream at me or whatever, but it's always been way too much and it's just for one day. I would rather spend that money on traveling or putting a down payment on a house or whatever it is, but the amount of money and we spent a lot of money, but it was like a, it was like a honeymoon and wedding all together and then we ended up getting divorced anyway. But that's my point. It just feels like it's out of hand. So that's one thing, and then I'll say this part and then you guys can discuss. But I think it's a little pompous to ask people to come to your wedding, which is time out of their day yes, to celebrate your beautiful time, whatever. Then they're also probably going to buy you a gift. Okay, but maybe you decide not to have a registry. But now you're forcing people to spend. $450 is not a little bit of money.
Carmen Lezeth:No, you're right, that's a round-trip ticket from here to, I think economy, right? No, I'm only kidding because I don't do economy.
Tony D. :From here to Boston.
Rick Costa:I'm literally wondering did he calculate all the expenses and say how many people Okay divided by this many, okay 450. No, he didn't.
Tony D. :No, I think he was just that's why I said if I had it, I would do it. He didn't calculate any of that. He just wanted people to pay for the wedding specifically. So that's why I understand why everybody was why would you go? I can't imagine. That's why I said if I had it. That's why I said if I had it, I would.
Carmen Lezeth:But if you had it, wouldn't you just go to the wedding and give it to them as a gift?
Tony D. :Listen to what he said. You spend money on this and this, but you can't do it for a wedding. I agree with that, because we do spend money on other things.
Carmen Lezeth:We can at least do it once for a wedding. But it's not apples to apples, tony. That's not fair. Beyonce is Beyonce, yeah fair, beyonce is Beyonce.
Cynthia:It's one thing to go. But you don't even know her.
Carmen Lezeth:No, she's entertaining me. She's dancing, she's singing. It's music. It's not apples to apples. Now, if you wanted, you could say you spend money to go to a convention and you won't come to my wedding. That's about as boring as a motherfucking wedding to me. Melanie, I will go to weddings I can drive to unless I'm asked to pay. Listen, I will fly to people. I went to Gracie's wedding in Vermont recently. I flew out there, paid for actually I didn't even have to pay for a condo, because Alden did, and it was a great time, but I didn't even give her a gift. You know what I mean? Because I'm like I just spent like almost two thousand dollars just to get there and I took time out of work, which for me is two days when I don't work I don't get paid.
Tony D. :I've been there? I've been there. I understand that, yes.
Carmen Lezeth:And also I know they're fine. They don't. They're not like scrounging for whatever that was. My gift was me being there. I just can't believe that you would'm just making note of this, tony, because when I get married I'm going to be like Tony $1,000.
Rick Costa:You need to remember Carmen's, the bougie one.
Tony D. :Yes, Remember what I said If I had it, I would do it. If I had it, yes.
Carmen Lezeth:Where's the clapping sound?
Rick Costa:Thank, you Red and notice he said every person declined everyone I do hear that that's not even good friends, that's mean.
Carmen Lezeth:I think that was kind of mean, but I think it's a little pompous and I think, okay, here's the thing. Let's say it's prince or any other concert, it doesn't matter what it is, that's not the same thing. If you're going to compare a wedding, you have to compare it to something that's as boring and as wasteful of a day. I'm just saying Everybody.
Tony D. :Take Carmen off of your wedding list. She thinks they're boring.
Carmen Lezeth:I don't go to weddings, I don't go to weddings. I went to Gracie's wedding because she was a baby when I met her and it was Vermont and I wanted to see Alden and it was different.
Cynthia:But I don't really go to weddings. I did not spend a lot on my wedding. Our total amount was, I think it was under 10,000. And that was everything.
Carmen Lezeth:That was dress, that was suit, that was the rise, that was the bridesmaids, the food, everything you see how society is now, though, because you just hear what you just said For one day, you spent $10,000, and we think that's okay for a part. I'm not. I'm not. I know what you're saying, cause weddings are like 40, 50, $80,000. And that's just regular folk. That's regular folk. Now, oh, women, women have spent eight thousand dollars on a fucking dress, tony. That's ridiculous. That's ridiculous. But this is my point right. We have sucked into the societal thing. It's like birthday parties, have you noticed? Children have to have theme parties now, and they spend thousands of dollars because a child turning five years old and they need a donkey and a real sheep and a horse or something to pet. Are you fucking kidding me?
Rick Costa:And a piñata no just like 2015.
Cynthia:Just like 2015.
Tony D. :To what Melanie said. He assumes all people spend money on things. He spoke on how people are spending their money and we do see what he's saying. That's why I was like I understand where he's coming from, because people do that. Like you said, I'm not spending $1,000 for no concert ticket. I'm not going to do that. I'd rather go to a wedding with just somebody that I know who will get more value out of the money than I'm spending.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm just writing this I'm going to get married just to have you spend money, to come out here and give me $450.
Tony D. :I'm only going to charge you. I've got some 30-year-old. That was one year.
Carmen Lezeth:Rick that was only one year he's known me.
Cynthia:Tony, would you charge people? Would you charge people?
Tony D. :to go to your wedding. I didn't. When I got married, I didn't.
Carmen Lezeth:But would you now?
Tony D. :Would you now? No, if I needed it, maybe, but no, so, mind you, if I need people to pay for my wedding, I probably won't have one.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, exactly, so he shouldn't have done. And, by the way, he didn't spend no $200,000 on that wedding. Because if you have enough money to spend $200,000,. You're not charging your guest $450.
Tony D. :He's trying to make some of that money back.
Carmen Lezeth:You know what? I'm sorry. I know money, I know people and that's bullshittery, brian.
Cynthia:Brian Brian just said Zoom call for you.
Tony D. :People probably have been doing this shit while you're playing.
Carmen Lezeth:You know what I actually did two Zoom calls for a funeral.
TikToker @imhassanrahim:Oh, Cynthia, wasn't there a.
Carmen Lezeth:Zoom call. Somebody who passed away that I had to do a zoom call because it was Valerie's daughter. No, it wasn't. I didn't do that, you didn't do that?
Cynthia:oh, I did because it was during COVID, not during COVID.
Tony D. :I don't think it was.
Carmen Lezeth:Valerie's? No, somebody in Juan's family, or something, wasn't it?
Tony D. :oh, his dad.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm sorry, Tony.
Tony D. :No, you're fine, Rick. You may not remember who was on Cantina. You may not remember Ashtray. I think you had left before she came. She passed away but she was overseas in the UK and they did the funeral over Zoom so a bunch of us could be there.
Carmen Lezeth:Sometimes it's also just too fast. I went to Mary Joanne's sister's funeral and it was like within a day I had to get the plane and it was like I had I stopped. I'll never do this again, but I had to stop in four different places because I couldn't get a flight direct. Because it was just so.
Tony D. :Yeah, I'm not. This is my bougie level. I don't want no layovers on my flight. Write that down. Write that down. Write that down, carmen, not writing. Get a pen or some paper. I never tell you what to do. Get to work.
Cynthia:I do not want no layovers on my flight, leave me your phone.
Carmen Lezeth:Do you get a discount for?
Rick Costa:funerals for flights or no.
Carmen Lezeth:Only if it's immediate family, and you have to be able to prove that it's immediate family.
TikToker @imhassanrahim:And this is family, it's immediate family, and you have to be able to prove that it's immediate family.
Carmen Lezeth:And this is family that isn't actually blood related to me, but they are family. So I went, but it was so such. It was a horrible flight. They're horrible. Coming back I'm like I will never do it again, but I would because it's family. You would do what you gotta do, but when you only have five days to figure it out, yeah, I do. But when you only have five days to figure it out, yeah, that would have been a good time for me to call in a favor from one of my clients, actually. But can you hook me up with your plane? You know, what I mean Is your private jet available that day.
Carmen Lezeth:Is it? Is it what Tony Write it down, like I?
Tony D. :asked you to.
Carmen Lezeth:I already wrote it down. It's right here. I wrote it right here.
Cynthia:It's right here.
Rick Costa:She writes real small, really small.
Ted Hicks:I have terrible handwriting I don't see it.
Tony D. :She didn't write it.
Carmen Lezeth:Here's what I'm saying though, if you are somebody who is pompous enough, see, this is the thing I don't like, the arrogance of it. So let's say, I'm going to get married, me and my man are getting married. I would ask my friends hey, I want to have this big wedding, I want to have it in wherever. Would you want to, or could you help me? You know what I mean. What is he looking at? Mario? Oh, mario, listen. We had a cowgirl theme party for Marissa at three years old. We had DJ, horse, cotton candy decorations, barbecue jumper and all the fixes for $500. It's called Balloon on a Budget.
Tony D. :Balloon on a Budget. It's like balloon, oh my God, balloon on a Budget.
Rick Costa:She thought birthday party balloon. Here's the thing, though, too.
Carmen Lezeth:Seriously, $500 for a three-year-old's birthday party. I love you. I think that's really cool, but in my head I'm thinking we didn't even get a cake, Cynthia.
Cynthia:It was like happy birthday Go to school.
Tony D. :I love you. I don't remember any of this shit. We spent about $300 on Jason's first birthday. We did do that. You did do what. We spent about $300 on Jason's first birthday. We had a little party for him.
Carmen Lezeth:So it was really for you, because he don't remember.
Tony D. :No, it was for him. We bought him a cake. We had some of his friends come by from daycare and everything. Some of the parents brought the kids let the kids chill out. But the funniest thing was when we gave him the birthday cake. He was in his high chair. We put the cake right in his chair. He took one taste and he just would not stop.
Carmen Lezeth:That's right. That's how you do it, Jason His eyes was open.
Rick Costa:I was dying. I couldn't help it. This is for me. Oh yes, alma just said why throw a party when you can take a trip.
Carmen Lezeth:Exactly, brian said agreed. Aloos is Alma, just so you know, that's Mr Dawson's wife and her name is Alma. Mr Dawson is Mario Bryant, since you're new to the playpen here. Alma said our daughter said she'd rather do that than have a party where people could just come and criticize and eat the food. Exactly, facts, exactly. I just think it's interesting because we've been socialized now to believe that it's okay to spend $10,000, $30,000 or whatever for one day, and I've always thought it was weird. I honestly don't know one wedding that I've always thought it was weird. I I honestly don't know one wedding that I remember that I thought was amazing. I don't really, like all my friends have gotten married. I know, forgive me, I didn't go to yours. Oh, I know, I don't think that. Was that really a money issue? Because wouldn't you have just paid for it? Because that's how bougie you are? I don't think. I think I was out of the country. When did you get married? What year? 2011? What 2011? Oh no, it could have been financial, that's after the.
Carmen Lezeth:That's when I lost my condo in 2010, 2011, that's right. Yeah, that was a bad time for me, okay, yeah, financial, because right after the economy burst or whatever member and everybody I lost, that's when I lost my condo. I tried to hold on to it for so long. If you would have known me then I was so bougie. I just think that weddings are really about you and the couple and I think it's beautiful that you want to share that with other people.
Carmen Lezeth:But it's gotten out of hand that it's become such an event and make no mistake about it, it's been so commercialized that we actually think, oh, it's so cheap. I only spent $10,000. That's my point. They got us, they totally got us believing that, like women buying dresses that they wear once literally, dying dresses that they wear once literally. And then I went with a friend who was getting married and when she's first trying to figure out what dress to wear, whatever and I was like I would not pay, not no, three, four, five, eight, nine $10,000 for any one of these motherfucking dresses. I don't care how pretty you think they look at all.
Carmen Lezeth:And some of these dresses. They were like Vera Wang craft.
Rick Costa:Those things are ridiculous. I think there's a show where it's all about wedding dresses and women trying to pick it out and they're like this is the one. There's a show.
Cynthia:A show Say yes to the dress.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, that sounds right. Okay, you know what we're done with this topic.
Tony D. :Are you?
Carmen Lezeth:serious.
Tony D. :Yeah, crazy wedding shows. Bradzilla's was like the worst.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, my God.
Tony D. :There's a show?
Carmen Lezeth:Of course there's shows. Why would I be so stupid?
Rick Costa:I've seen the commercials. I've never seen the shows. But isn't that the one with the girls? I will kill you.
Tony D. :They're the ones where the guy has to have everything her way and if it doesn't go her way, she loses her shit of shit, and that's what a lot of these women in society are doing right now. It's been out for over a decade. I can't lie. I'm going to be honest.
Tony D. :I always had big plans for my first wedding, wasn't sure how much it was going to cost, but I know what the layout was, what I wanted it to be, how I wanted it to look. I would have spent a lot had I had it. If I got it, I'll do it. That's my problem. If I got the money, I'm going to damn do it. So if I can afford 10, 20, 30,000, I'm talking about the horse and carriage you coming out looking like Cinderella. We got the whole elevator, the lights, the chandeliers. We got all that. Yeah, if I have it, I'm going to do it. That's been on my mind since I was a teenager. As far as how I would do my wedding, I know what I want my groomsmen, my best man, to wear. She can decide what the bridesmaids wear. We can decide the whole arrangement.
Tony D. :Honestly, my stepdaughter's wedding was beautiful it really was but I would have went a little bit farther, was I able to afford what I would want to do for my. It was beautiful, bigger to the ex-wife, her mom, what they did that family, because she had an excellent turnout. We ate great. Because she had an excellent turnout, we ate great. I loved the accommodation. I loved the area, cool. But I know what I would have done. That would have been different, it would have been bigger, it would have looked crazy. You think I'm bad or I talk bad? Now Let me have the money and show you how I would do it. I can make a movie and I probably just Make a movie. Well, go ahead, I could scare people. Yes, Cynthia.
Cynthia:So you're saying if you had the money you would go way out, right?
Tony D. :Yes. So, why are you always calling Carmen Bui? Because I don't have her right now so I can't say who she is.
Carmen Lezeth:I can say that I need an applause machine thing. No, it doesn't work. Wait, why are we raising hands now?
Rick Costa:I just want to know what it feels like to raise my hand. I don't have none.
Carmen Lezeth:So, mr Dawson, mario just said just think back to our baby shower. I know that was fly. The baby shower was cool. The thing I like about the baby shower, though, is that you're bringing a new life into the world. It's your first, and you need stuff, and so we bring you stuff. And here's the thing I don't remember, mario, but I don't remember you having a registry. I don't remember Like. The registry thing drives me up a wall too, but I know it's better than wasting money and stuff, but there's something cold about it. You know what I mean.
Tony D. :This is a great idea. It actually is a great idea as far as spontaneous thinking.
Carmen Lezeth:I'd rather just give people money.
Tony D. :I don't like buying people pots. Well, new parents need diapers, wipes and onesies period. No, no, I know that's what I'm saying.
Carmen Lezeth:But there's something lost in the joy of buying a gift when I just like especially if you're not first on the registry to pick what you want to give them and then like all you're left with are like spoons or diaper bag or whatever.
Tony D. :It's like some crap stuff. They will always need diapers. I just give them the money.
Carmen Lezeth:I just say you know what? I couldn't look at your registry. Here's the money.
Tony D. :I don't even bother you, just don't know what the gender is, but other than that, they always need diapers and onesies, period Bibs, baby bags yeah Stroller.
Carmen Lezeth:Wait, what did Brian say? Brian said my best friend's ex-wife made fun of Bridezilla, then became one one. Thank goodness they divorced eight years later. Oh yeah, yeah, look I. I think that's where I'm really again. I know we kid around about the whole bougie thing, but I think I'm the opposite of bougie. The last thing you would ever see me doing is having a big ass wedding. It would never happen. It's just not my thing. I know, tony, you and I were just not. We're not connected.
Tony D. :Yeah you don't know me, I don't know you, but I can see you if you have it going forward. That's all of us. Once we have it, we go forward.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm sorry say that again.
Tony D. :Once we have it, we go forward.
Carmen Lezeth:So I think Even if I had all the money in the world and this man that I love, Cynthia, I would never have a wedding. I would never do it. I. I would never have a wedding. I would never do it. I have to wait to see that day it already happened.
Tony D. :I eloped, I know.
Cynthia:Well, what happens if you meet somebody who is like Tony, that wants the big, exactly?
Carmen Lezeth:No, I'm not going to meet someone who's like Tony.
Tony D. :You know a bunch of people like me. Stop playing.
Carmen Lezeth:You're saying, if I met a man and he really wanted to have a big wedding, yeah, like, well, then, I'm sorry, would you deny him that? Oh god, would I deny him that?
Carmen Lezeth:no but I don't think I would want an over the top. I would still want it to be small and I would still want it to be just like. I don't't want 250, 400 people, I don't want all that crap. I would like, I would want to go to a beautiful Island, invite 15 people and that's it. Like we could do it like that. You know what I mean and I could do whatever. Yeah, my 15, one five.
Rick Costa:My ex compiled the wedding list of people I think it was something like 600 people. I was like are you out your mind? No, no, no, no no no, I don't know how to choose. Like how to, I said, make it a little easier for you. This has to be people that are equally as valuable in your life and mind equally. That'll lower it down a lot. No excess, I'm like. Who is that? Who?
Cynthia:is that you had 600 people at your no no, no, no no no, no, I had 80 actually.
Rick Costa:No, I invited 80 and 70 came I had oh, I just got dissed without even uh, that's true. Damn, that was hard up.
Carmen Lezeth:I was in struggling pain. I lost my condo. It was terrible.
Rick Costa:You didn't offer to pay for it. That diss was so subtle. Props to Cynthia for that diss.
Carmen Lezeth:It was so subtle. I invited 80 people, but only 79 showed up. Just saying Just saying Cynthia is so like that Usually she would just offer to pay for stuff. So you didn't really want me there.
Cynthia:Listen, I was already. You know who's bougie.
Carmen Lezeth:Tony, you know who's bougie out of here.
Ted Hicks:Who.
Carmen Lezeth:Rick.
Ted Hicks:Oh.
Carmen Lezeth:No, you.
Rick Costa:Really.
Carmen Lezeth:Cynthia's the bougie one. How am I the bougie one? Okay, you're not bougie, but Cynthia is a really good person. That's all I'm going to say.
Rick Costa:Good people, good with a bougie eye.
Carmen Lezeth:I didn't go to Amy's wedding either, and I totally regret that, because now I'm the godmother of her beautiful son and I love them. And now that's when I was traveling, I was trying to figure out whose wedding. And Amy and now that's when I was traveling, that's why I was trying to figure out who's wedding, so I didn't. And Amy, I mean, I love you too, cynthia, I didn't mean to say it like that, I really love you. We get pissed at each other back and forth. No, but I feel bad, right, because she made me the godmother to her son and I'm like, oh my god.
Carmen Lezeth:I do regret not going to that wedding too.
Rick Costa:Brian just said clearly we are all invited a countryside, cool people allowed only.
Carmen Lezeth:Well, my best to you and your wife. No, I don't you know what. I'm just not a fan of weddings. I don't even like the whole structure of it, I know.
Rick Costa:Did I ever tell you how my wedding started?
Carmen Lezeth:I don't remember if you did. I feel bad because I'm like I think my wedding started. I don't remember if you did. I feel bad because I'm like I think you did, but I don't remember.
Rick Costa:So I wrote my own song and instead of her coming down with the father, they both waited in the back. I sang the song, walked back there singing the song and then walked back up to the front still singing the song, and it ended perfectly right when we got to the front.
Carmen Lezeth:And everybody was like's how romantical I could be okay. Okay, what's the? What's the most romantic wedding event you went to? I don't have one, so go ahead.
Tony D. :I really don't that's a good question hmm, donations accepted for honeymoon.
Carmen Lezeth:See, I would just. I see, okay, here's the man for me. Let me just tell you the man for me. The man for me would be like let's get married, whatever, get engagement, blah, blah. And then I'd be like, baby, let's do city hall, meet you two friends, and let's go and travel for a month on the $50,000 we were about to spend on a stupid wedding. I'm just saying but you're saying, if he had all that money and could travel, would I do it? I would do any for a man that I love. I would do anything for sure, but it wouldn't be what I want to do.
Tony D. :I wouldn't want to have a big ass wedding.
Carmen Lezeth:What.
Tony D. :I don't say that anymore either.
Carmen Lezeth:You don't say what.
Tony D. :I'll do anything for you. I don't say that, no, damn more.
Carmen Lezeth:No, I said for someone I love.
Tony D. :Yeah, you said for the one you love, but I still won't say that, mess, no more, I'll do anything for you?
Carmen Lezeth:Ooh, there's some pain there.
Tony D. :A lot.
Rick Costa:I got a lot yeah, okay, all the women just made note of that.
Carmen Lezeth:I know I'm writing it down. I just got my pen. Let me just grab my ink.
Tony D. :What are the English and cursive? Not anymore.
Carmen Lezeth:But you have to be open to the possibility that love can come again.
Tony D. :I have been on more than one occasion.
Carmen Lezeth:I feel like we need to really have this conversation now.
Tony D. :I have no problem with it.
Cynthia:I think y'all need a private lounge.
Tony D. :Oh, do you really want that?
Carmen Lezeth:Cynthia, what are you doing Exactly? Oh Jesus, what am I? A fucking therapist. You should do a private lounge. So you're saying you're not open to love because you were so hurt before.
Tony D. :Never said I wasn't open to love, but I'm not going to say I'll do anything for you.
Carmen Lezeth:But why?
Tony D. :Because of past pains, past trials and being told what I've done is not enough. I've had enough of it.
Cynthia:Can you compare your next one from the past?
Tony D. :I'm sorry.
Cynthia:You can't compare your next one to your past relationship.
Tony D. :But you can compare it to the redundancies of time that's happened, well See.
Cynthia:Are you doing what I tell Brian? Y'all got to find the right one.
Tony D. :That's a whole nother lounge.
Carmen Lezeth:Here's my question though you said you're not going to say I would do anything for you, You'll never say that again for someone you love, right? If you love someone, you're never going to say I'll do anything for you?
Tony D. :No.
Carmen Lezeth:But if somebody you love and they love you, they would never ask you to do something that would be inappropriate or uncomfortable for you or challenging or pushing or stress and all that but so is it possible that the person that hurt you so badly, or the persons that hurt you so badly were people that you believed loved you, or but they actually didn't?
Carmen Lezeth:because that's how you, that that's how I would do anything for people I love? And I mean I'm not just a man, but I mean like, and if Cynthia asked me to do anything, I would do it for her Because you know what? I trust completely, 100%, that she wouldn't ask me something that was inappropriate.
Tony D. :But she's also family. No disrespect.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, but Andrea Mia Billy. Alden, I can go down the list of men that I love who are not biological family. But that's what I'm saying. Like people I love, I know would not, and that's what I'm trying to say. Is it possible?
Tony D. :that people that you gave that trust to were not deserving of that trust. No, I just think that some people wanted it for the moment, said it and then, when specific moments came and they couldn't, they looked at me like it was my fault for believing it in the first place. I've had a lot of that in my life.
Cynthia:Then they weren't deserving of you that's a whole, nother variable.
Tony D. :I can honestly say that people have done things for me, I've done things for them. I don't make the anything demand out of anybody. We are all going to do as much as we possibly can within ourselves without compromising ourselves, and sometimes we even will compromise ourselves. It's the cop.
Carmen Lezeth:No, but no no one who loves you. I don't want you to go down this whole in living color tangent that you do. I'm just going to stop you. I'm going to say it. I'm going to stop you Because you do. You start going off on a tangent.
Tony D. :I'm stopping you right now, you asked me to elaborate.
Carmen Lezeth:I didn't ask you to elaborate. I'm saying, if you did something, okay, if you did something in the moment because you both loved each other, and then months later, years later, whatever you were hurt, can't you just leave that for what it was?
Tony D. :Depends on the pain.
Carmen Lezeth:So you haven't worked through the pain is what I'm hearing. You haven't worked through the pain yet.
Tony D. :I've worked past a lot of pains, but after so many, I had to catch myself, which is what I'm doing. What is it that I'm doing? How far is it that I'm going? Am I expecting too much? Do I demand too much?
Carmen Lezeth:That's good. It's a lot.
Tony D. :Yeah, that's what you got to do within yourself when you go through so much. And for me, I'm at an age where I had to start regrouping, rethinking, recollecting. I really did try to plan things out. I'm pretty good where I'm at, but there are some errors and mistakes that I've made, some kind of reconciling myself, if you will.
Carmen Lezeth:Is it possible that you do the best you can until you know better than you do better, instead of harping on these mistakes that you think you made? Is it possible that in this moment in time, I believed, thought this, so I did a, b, c and d, and that's okay, because I learned from that mistake and I'm gonna move forward? But you can't keep going back. Every experience is a moment that we have and then you learn from it, good or bad or indifferent. By the way, that was my angelou. It's not me.
Tony D. :I don't want people to be like, oh, karma's so eloquent how many of those do you go through before you start thinking about things? Tony, I don't know you that well, I'm just asking, I'm just asking, but here's the thing.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, so I'm going to say it straight up. If you are repeatedly falling for people who hurt you, then the problem isn't you being a person who loves people and trusting people. Your problem is in choosing people who do not deserve you. It's what Cynthia said before. No, no, every time I say that you don't value who you are as a person. Every time, cynthia, didn't you see his face? He did it three times, three different times. You are so valuable.
Tony D. :You want to go all about it.
Carmen Lezeth:No, stop, I'm going to keep going.
Carmen Lezeth:You are such a valuable human being. Thank you, I'm not kidding, so stop it. What happens is that when you allow yourself to be Tony and be the real you because you have this really good facade, a really good facade going on Baby, I got the same one. That's why I know it takes one to know one. It's a good facade we got going on here. But when you let that open and you let someone in and they kick your heart, it's really hard to let people back in again. What I'm trying to tell you is don't let everybody in, but don't conceal your heart either. Be less open to everybody and getting that piece of you. That's why I'm so good. That's why I'm so good at cutting people off.
Carmen Lezeth:Cynthia made fun of me the other day in a nice way. I am the queen of. You just showed me who you are. I'm done. I'm never talking to you again because I've been hurt that many times. I know what you're talking about, but, tony, I think you don't realize you wince every time you get a compliment, every time somebody says you're deserving of something. You don't see it, but it's a body language thing and I know Cynthia saw it the first time and that's an interesting thing. I think you have to work on your self-esteem, not the facade self-esteem that you show the bravado, but the real self-esteem that know that you're worthy. You can watch this on the replay. You know what I mean.
Tony D. :You have no idea. I was watching the first one the other week and I laughed my butt off.
Carmen Lezeth:Really, that's so funny, can I throw?
Rick Costa:this in there too. I know a lot of people that in their second marriage they were so much happier and they say first of all, I wasn't very mature in the first one. Second of all, I didn't really know what I wanted in life. Third of all, they just rattled off reasons. You learn and that's the biggest thing is like people. I've heard people say like you're divorced, you ain't got no qualifications.
Tony D. :To tell me about marriage, honey, I know exactly what I did wrong so, yeah, I can't tell you any of you got anybody want to tell him that we can sit back and talk about this. You let me know when you're ready talk about what? What do you say about marriage and people saying you're not qualified to talk about marriage?
Carmen Lezeth:People do that so that they don't have to hear the truth. People say that to me about not having children and I'm going to tell you right now. The fact that I don't have motherfucking children is exactly why I can tell you guys why you suck as parents. Like I'm being serious, I get so upset about it I do.
Tony D. :I think we need a lounge.
Carmen Lezeth:It's exactly why it's exactly why? Because I'm not in it, I'm not confused. You know what I mean. Like sometimes parents, because you have that protective gene, you don't remember what it's like to be a kid. You're being so protective You're not realizing they're just being 13.
Cynthia:They're just being 11. That's true.
Carmen Lezeth:Stop being so mean I saw someone the other day. I looked at this woman. I don't know her, but she was about to hit her kid in the grocery store. I just looked at her like she didn't. She acted like she was grabbing before I'm like.
Tony D. :I would have lost my shit if she hit that kid In reverse, if somebody would have done that to you, you would have been ready to go off on them.
Carmen Lezeth:What do you mean? What are you talking about?
Tony D. :What? Because nobody's going to tell you how to raise a child. You don't care.
Carmen Lezeth:No, but you don't need. No, no, no, no, no. But she was about to hit her kid. I could feel it. I didn't say nothing, but the look and my concern was enough to get her to be like looking for potatoes or something in the thing. It was stupid. No, I'm not telling people how to raise their kids. Goddamn cart, I'm not going to do it. I'm not saying she did it. Yeah, don't get me. I'm so sick of bad parents.
Carmen Lezeth:There's so many of you motherfuckers out there, bad parents, I'm sorry, trigger, trigger, because you're raising the next generation of as a parent, I got to tell you this is what you should be talking about on late night parents.
Carmen Lezeth:Hello, yes, yes, this is what you guys should be talking about. Yeah, no, I do get upset, because you know what we keep blaming kids for. We keep blaming Gen Z for all these bad things and whatever. And then we not like who are the parents who taught them this shit? You're all mad at them because they have their phones and they're attached to their phones, but you're the one who gave it to them because you didn't want to fucking deal with them.
Tony D. :You don't want to read you don't want to take time, save that for the next episode.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm just saying we went from love to parenting.
Tony D. :I've said that conversation so many times. I would love to have that conversation. I'm on everybody's ass, it's apparent.
Rick Costa:I'm on everybody's ass.
Tony D. :Whenever I'm so scared.
Carmen Lezeth:I get upset because I think that. I love Gen Z. I love Gen Z, but I also think they've been mistreated yeah. So back to love and Tony. Just to wrap that up, cynthia, do you have a little analysis of what you think Tony's issues are with love?
Cynthia:I think Tony's just been beat up for so many years by women in general that his self-esteem and self-worth has diminished and doesn't feel like he is.
Tony D. :That was a wince. And doesn't know like he is. That was a wince. That was a wince. That was a wince.
Cynthia:Mm-hmm and doesn't know how to take compliments. No, I.
Ted Hicks:Yeah, I'm not going to. You're not doing it right now.
Carmen Lezeth:You're not taking it in, you're talking.
Ted Hicks:You're not letting her finish.
Carmen Lezeth:Nope, you got to let her finish. Let her do the compliment. There's a. I'm going to turn you off right now.
Tony D. :You won't listen to me.
Carmen Lezeth:Go ahead, cynthia, because Cynthia was speaking, but I get cut off. Cynthia was speaking, mr President, mr Vice President, I'm speaking, mr Vice President.
Tony D. :I'm going to give you a little too big though.
Carmen Lezeth:Go ahead, Cynthia, Finish up what you were saying with your analysis of Tony Fischel.
Cynthia:I think he needs to work on his own self-esteem and know that he is worthy of finding someone who values him as he should.
Carmen Lezeth:I concur, Rick. Do you want to do an analysis from a male's point of view?
Rick Costa:I rewatched the video we did with Steven Pena the other day. Anybody can go back and verify that I said this. I said Steven Pena, he definitely is ready for love, he definitely is a girlfriend, he's ready for. I said Tony, no, not yet. I'm not Ted. Oh, cool, carmen.
Carmen Lezeth:Ted. Oh, cool, carmen. Ted, I was just about to jump off Because we're 119, so if you're going to come up now, the one time I don't send him a link is when he Wants to come up. I'm not sending nobody.
Tony D. :It was just us. We don't know.
Rick Costa:Come up now. If ever, hold your peace.
Carmen Lezeth:Come up now. I forever hold your peace. Come up now, he can come up with me. I got to see if he comes up.
Tony D. :If you're telling me I'll be honest. I'm careful with compliments. Some people make compliments, get them arrogant. What I do is control my arrogance.
Carmen Lezeth:No, good try, but no, that's not it.
Tony D. :You just cut me off. It's my show. I can do whatever I want. She got you there. She got you there. I'm going to get on mine, don't worry.
Carmen Lezeth:I don't think Ted's coming up. I think he was lying.
Tony D. :He is coming up. He's not going to tell you unless he's going to come.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, here he is. You want me to turn off Tony's mic. How you doing, yes.
Ted Hicks:He usually turned off Tony's mic when Cynthia was speaking.
Carmen Lezeth:Wow, you're right, cynthia. I'm sorry, that's okay Go ahead.
Cynthia:Tony, you can rebuttal.
Ted Hicks:He's got something special in that Pepsi.
Tony D. :I've cut down on my liquor intake. Ted, are you still alone? Special in that Pepsi His peach schnapps. I've cut down on my liquor intake.
Carmen Lezeth:Ted, are you still alone? Is your wife still having a great time traveling?
Ted Hicks:Everyone is back under my roof, my roof. I didn't want to say that too loud.
Cynthia:You did.
Carmen Lezeth:How are you doing, Mr Hicks?
Ted Hicks:I'm doing great. I'm doing great, enjoying the show, enjoying the content, and I don't know how we're going to follow this up.
Carmen Lezeth:You're going to follow up. You guys should talk about parenting on the show late night. Parents, that would be nice to hear men talk about parenting.
Ted Hicks:Just curious. We are going to talk about some men topic tonight, some men's type topics.
Cynthia:Oh, we will, you're going to talk about selfishness. We usually do.
Ted Hicks:We usually throw out a question or two and we embellish on it, and then we go on to the next topic.
Carmen Lezeth:That's so weird. Cynthia, you're noticing what I just did, right? You're noticing what I'm noticing Mm it, right?
Tony D. :you noticing what I'm noticing ted hicks comes on the show and tony shuts the fuck up.
Carmen Lezeth:Isn't that amazing? That ain't even what happened? It's exactly what happened.
Rick Costa:It's exactly what happened I think tony's being respectful because he's been talking a lot and ted just got here, so he's I think carmen just wants to know what's his name going to be on the show tonight. What's his name?
Carmen Lezeth:No, he's not going to be on the show. Ted, still don't know who he is.
Ted Hicks:Oh yeah, I still don't know who he is, and I did follow your friend. Oh really, I clicked on every social media account.
Carmen Lezeth:He's not going to tell you nothing. She's not going to tell you nothing. She's not going to tell you nothing.
Ted Hicks:And I was like hello.
Carmen Lezeth:She's not going to. She ain't going to mess with you people, okay. Okay, tony, I feel like, do you want to say any last words or chime in any way? Or you want me to keep beating you up a bit? I want you to find love.
Ted Hicks:I think you're a good person I'm taking my time before I accept it before you accept it because I have to be able to reciprocate the love that's given to me so basically, tony is saying I'm gonna help out, tony, he's taking a step forward, he he's listening to the advice Cynthia and you have provided. He's going to think about it, that's not what he's saying.
Carmen Lezeth:Ted's over there stirring the pot. It's all bullshit, but you see how Tony's not reacting to him, just laughing, giggling. Tony, you know you treat women differently than you treat men, right?
Tony D. :Look at how I get treated by women, oh.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm sorry. Who here has a nickname that she can't get rid of? Who, oh who? Who has a nickname here? Yeah, who is always dissing me for any little thing? I do Not, rick.
Ted Hicks:Not Rick.
Carmen Lezeth:Not Rick. Yeah, you like to diss shit out, but I give you credit because you can take it too. That's why we get along. But I still think all that pain and hurt is you doing way too much of past over analysis to try to fix something that you got to. Just let it go. It was just a moment in time. It hurt but it's time to move forward. You're missing out.
Cynthia:He's working on it. He's working on it, right, tony.
Tony D. :Yes, within myself, I got to work on myself.
Carmen Lezeth:Yes, we all do, I don't know, I'm fucking beautiful and shit, my spirit is on point. Self-confidence galore, right. Isn't that fun that's what it is.
Rick Costa:I am beautiful, no matter what they say.
Ted Hicks:Look it.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm just kidding, but I think, tony, there's a lot of similarities between you and me. That's the only reason why I'm saying that is because I know what you're going through, because I've been there.
Tony D. :I heard you say that and I know you're going to make. I did hear you when you said that I heard you say that and I know you're going to leave.
Carmen Lezeth:I did hear you when you said that. You know I mean I'm just messing with you, but that's why I am feeling comfortable to say what I'm saying to you is because I've already been down that road. I know what it's like. And the problem with that the overanalyzing of what might have been what I could have done I got to fix myself, I got to do this or whatever is it keeps you from all the love that's in front of you. It's not just about romantic love, it's just all of everything that's in front of you. And sometimes living in the past and doing all that overly analysis stuff is also a safe place to be.
Rick Costa:Yes it is.
Carmen Lezeth:It's very safe.
Rick Costa:When you've been hurt that deeply, that means you can love that deeply and for somebody to betray that it hurts what book you get there from Well I don't know, damn, maybe that was his genius bitch.
Carmen Lezeth:Why are you being me? He's got the Lord and that's it Everyone. I've had a great time. Thank you so much Everyone for stopping by again. Remember, it's all about the joy, except for tony. No, it's all about the joy, baby. I appreciate you all coming on. Cynthia, as always, tony, you know I got you. And ted hicks, thank you for coming up for five minutes I'll take it.
Ted Hicks:All you have to do is send me the link. Oh, I was searching. I searched through my corporate email, my consultant email and then my personal email for tonight. I was like she includes me every week and I'm like did I do something wrong?
Carmen Lezeth:Are you a lawyer by any?
Rick Costa:chance.
Carmen Lezeth:I didn't send it to anybody. So thank you everyone. We'll see you again next week. It's all about the joy. Bye, thanks for stopping's. All about the joy. Bye, thanks for stopping by. All about the joy. Be better and stay beautiful folks. Have a sweet day.