Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
We are on a journey to get into the nitty gritty of divorce recovery and reveal why your divorce healing journey is still not working for you–even after you’ve tried therapy and read all the books.
Let's transform your pain into strength and take charge of your own narrative. Now’s the time we reclaim your healing journey–and why exactly we struggle to not only heal from past traumas but move beyond them to the ultimate goal: inner peace. That is real self-empowerment, and this is Dear Divorce Diary.
I’m Dawn Wiggins, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and EMDR specialist. I draw on decades of experience to help women navigate the emotional rollercoaster after ending a marriage. Using a little bit of science, a few alternative remedies and emotional release techniques, a whole lot of love, and zero BS, we step out of the victim mindset and into building a new life after divorce.
We emphasize nuance because overcoming challenges after divorce means questioning everything that got us here and using your divorce as a springboard to a better, more resilient (and certainly happier!) you.
On Tuesday, we have our listener segment called: "Getting Unstuck," where we anonymously unpack a difficult situation a listener is going through in their divorce healing journey.
And, on Thursday, we explore a "Hidden Healing Gem," which is a healing product or process we've tried and tested personally and/or professionally and are sharing our results and observations with you!
We cover essential life after divorce topics like grief, anxiety, codependency, loneliness, boundaries, nervous system health, attachment styles, the Law of Attraction, and homeopathy.
Join us twice a week as we go beyond talk therapy to process your grief, find the healing you crave, and rebuild your confidence.
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
177. 4 Signs You’re Missing Somatic Healing With Your Divorce Recovery & How To Fix It For Faster Healing
Have you ever considered how the power of music can transform emotional pain, especially during the trying times of divorce?
Whether you're navigating the emotional aftermath of a divorce or simply dealing with everyday stress, learning to process your pain somatically can be a game-changer. In this episode, we delve into a simple, often-overlooked method that can help you connect with and release stored emotions, leading to deeper healing and relief from persistent anguish.
- Discover how immersive music and mindful movement can help you identify and release stuck emotions in your body.
- Learn the science behind why certain parts of your body, like your feet or neck, may carry unresolved trauma.
- Gain actionable steps to incorporate somatic healing practices into your routine, boosting your emotional well-being and resilience.
Tune in to today's episode and transform your healing journey through the power of music and mindful movement.
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Hi love. Today we're going to talk about the number one overlooked and underrated tool for processing your emotional pain. Hi love, welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, the podcast helping divorcees go beyond talk therapy to process your grief, find the healing you crave and build back your confidence. I'm your host, dawn Wiggins, a therapist, coach, integrative healer and divorcee. Join me for a fresh approach to healing grief and building your confidence after divorce.
Speaker 1:One of the most popular things to talk about in personal development these days is processing our time and how to really be in our bodies. To be able to feel into our bodies is such a powerful way to heal trauma and to clear emotional pain. And that processing emotions somatically, right in the body to notice when I feel afraid, I feel it here. When I feel angry, I feel it here. I know my emotion tends to get stuck here. Right. To be able to process things somatically means that we have such a more complete healing process right. We know how many times we have heard Auntie Dawn say that you cannot think your way out of your problems. We've heard Bessel van der Kolk and Gabor Mate some of the thought leaders in trauma processing teach us that, that we can't think our way out. We have to process the stuck emotion out of the cells of our body, and so today's episode is really looking at one of the most effective ways to do that, to process pain somatically in a way that you probably just don't even think to do. And it's free and it's easy. It's effort, right, but it's easy, it's just one, two, three. So here we go, let's unpack it All. Right, music.
Speaker 1:Most of us love music. Not everybody there are a handful of people out there, right, where it's just overstimulating, right, or it provokes some emotion that feels intolerable. But most of us love music and most of us love, on some level, in some way, moving our bodies to music. Right, it's just sort of something, I think, that's hardwired in us. When there's a beat or a vibe or a tune, we automatically start to move in some way, whether it's swaying or head bobbing or foot tapping, that's just the body responds to the vibration of music. And that pairing is not accidental, it's intentional, we're designed that way and it's really, really magical.
Speaker 1:And how often, when you want to shift your mood, do you turn music on? Maybe you intentionally use music to help you have a good cry, or maybe, when you're in a bad mood. You intentionally put music on I know I do when the house is too quiet. Maybe when I historically felt lonely, I would turn music on so I would feel less lonely. Right, and these are beautiful things to do with music, but it's not the full picture of what I'm advocating for.
Speaker 1:When you put music on and it's louder and it's immersive and you get in touch with how your body is asking to move to the music and you are fully immersed and connected with the vibration of the music, your body will ask to move in ways that shows you where your pain is stuck. Ooh, are you so excited to try it? Are you like wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, dawn, what are you talking about? I am telling you love that if you put earbuds in, because the sound quality matters, right. When I'm at the gym with Colleen and she tells me to pick up, to hip thrust right or to do chin-ups or pull-ups, if the music is loud enough and it's Tupac, I can pick up anything, it doesn't matter, I can pick up the heaviest things. I literally get stronger when the music is dialed in and it's loud, right, and it's like borrowing that vibration. It's understanding the role of vibration. So when you have a high quality, immersive sound experience and you start to listen to your body and what it's asking for, it will pinpoint for you. So this sort of all came up because last week, in a different D word our cocoon for women who are spending a year with us healing from their divorce we did a breathwork session. We brought in a breathworker, loved it, was so obsessed with it, right, but it was a very immersive experience and a very somatic body movement experience, and so I realized in there that I had some massive emotion stuck in my foot, and I would guess that that's true for many of you also, because it is a common place for trauma to land is in the feet, and so if you ever have pain in your feet or like some arthritic foot stuff, right, I guarantee you you have stuck emotion in there For those of us. I also tend to have an issue with my neck right, and that's because there is stuff stuck in the heart space. When your heart starts to close your neck this is for me my neck starts to collapse, so we carry stuck emotion. Many people have stuck emotion in their hips. If your hips are tight, there you go. You got some trauma in there love, some stuck pain.
Speaker 1:This is a call for you to put on some earbuds or put on a really loud, immersive music experience of some sort and move your body and listen to where your body points, to that it's trying to release emotion. Now, when I was, you know, in the throes of divorce, one of the places that I did this was in a particular style of yoga that got really, really deep into certain postures and, of course, there was music playing, right. But I cannot say enough for how this will improve your mood, improve your health, improve your grief process, right. If you are an overthinker, if you tend to have difficulty trusting, if you have a hard time getting grounded, if you can think a positive thought and then two seconds later, like, you've lost track of that thought, gosh, body work is going to be so essential for your healing love. So do not underestimate the value of this tool. I want you to go home and I want you to figure out where does your body ask? Where did it show you after you did this? Where did your body show you that there was pain stuck there? And send me a DM and let me know.
Speaker 1:Also, gentle, reminder, for this temporary moment, the Post-Divorce Roadmap is completely free because I want to trade you this 21-day immersive journaling experience for your email address so we can deepen our relationship over there on email. If you haven't done it yet, what are you waiting for, love? The coupon code is in the show notes when you go and sign up. It's going to ask you for your credit card, but it's not actually going to charge you anything. It's like a weird, I don't know thing that it does, so don't get freaked out about that. I cannot wait to see you over in the heartbeat app for your 21-day immersive journaling experience called the Post-Divorce Roadmap. Love, called the Post-Divorce Roadmap. Love you so much. Peace.
