Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
We are on a journey to get into the nitty gritty of divorce recovery and reveal why your divorce healing journey is still not working for you–even after you’ve tried therapy and read all the books.
Let's transform your pain into strength and take charge of your own narrative. Now’s the time we reclaim your healing journey–and why exactly we struggle to not only heal from past traumas but move beyond them to the ultimate goal: inner peace. That is real self-empowerment, and this is Dear Divorce Diary.
I’m Dawn Wiggins, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and EMDR specialist. I draw on decades of experience to help women navigate the emotional rollercoaster after ending a marriage. Using a little bit of science, a few alternative remedies and emotional release techniques, a whole lot of love, and zero BS, we step out of the victim mindset and into building a new life after divorce.
We emphasize nuance because overcoming challenges after divorce means questioning everything that got us here and using your divorce as a springboard to a better, more resilient (and certainly happier!) you.
On Tuesday, we have our listener segment called: "Getting Unstuck," where we anonymously unpack a difficult situation a listener is going through in their divorce healing journey.
And, on Thursday, we explore a "Hidden Healing Gem," which is a healing product or process we've tried and tested personally and/or professionally and are sharing our results and observations with you!
We cover essential life after divorce topics like grief, anxiety, codependency, loneliness, boundaries, nervous system health, attachment styles, the Law of Attraction, and homeopathy.
Join us twice a week as we go beyond talk therapy to process your grief, find the healing you crave, and rebuild your confidence.
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
179. Why Social Media Detox Won’t Help You Heal Divorce Grief & What To Do Instead
Is Your Smartphone Holding Back Your Healing? Discover the Power of Neuroplasticity to Transform Your Life
We’re all searching for ways to mend our hearts after a divorce, but what if the biggest obstacle to your emotional recovery is sitting right in your pocket? How many of us clutch our phones, scrolling mindlessly to escape our grief, only to find our healing journey stalled time and again?
Neuroplasticity is a fascinating concept that explains our brain’s incredible ability to change and heal. This episode sheds light on how deliberate, conscious changes in our habits can help us recover from trauma, revealing that our brains are not just stuck in old patterns.
Uncover how reducing screen time can lead to profound personal growth and a calmer state of mind. Learn the astonishing ways your brain can heal itself, creating new pathways for joy and peace. Explore practical steps to break free from dependency on social media, starting with an empowering seven-day detox challenge.
Are you ready to truly transform your life and heal your heart? Click play now and start your neuroplasticity journey today!
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
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Hi love. Very often in our Thursday episodes we are talking about things you can add to your divorcee healing journey to smooth it out, to make it more robust and effective. But today we are going to talk about one of the most important things you need to remove in order to really heal your heart. Hi love, welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, the podcast helping divorcees go beyond talk therapy to process your grief, find the healing you crave and build back your confidence. I'm your host, dawn Wiggins, a therapist, coach, integrative healer and divorcee. Join me for a fresh approach to healing grief and building your confidence after divorce.
Speaker 1:In today's episode, we're going to talk about neuroplasticity, what it is, how it works, why it matters to you, and we're going to talk about one of the biggest things that you can change in order to improve your neuroplasticity. Let's dig in. All right. What is neuroplasticity? It is the idea that our brains are literally moldable, that we can change our neurological pathways, that we can change the way that we perceive the world. We can change the way we think, the way we feel. We can even switch on and off certain genetic expressions. It's really, really interesting. Actually, I'm just saying this as a sidebar to Producer Joy and you, I guess, because we're all in this room together right now. But do you know that? I heard recently that epigenetics the study of switching on and off genetic expression, epigenetics is a soul wound. I need to dig into that. I just totally squirreled on the podcast, friends. Okay, epigenetics is the study of switching on and off certain genetic expressions, particularly usually focused on genetic mutations. Right, like, how can you switch off the MTHFR genetic mutation? That's a whole sidebar. Let's get back to neuroplasticity.
Speaker 1:Neuroplasticity is the idea that, even though we have certain mental patterns and habits, that those can be changed. It's why we're so optimistic about being able to improve our attachment style. It's why we're so excited about the capacity to heal trauma. Right, we can see on an MRI the effects of trauma, the structural effects of trauma on the brain, and then we can see the improvements after many, many sessions via MRI. Right, we can see the improvements made after doing really, really good, effective somatic EMDR, right. So we know that we can change the ways and the places in our brain that light up based on certain stimuluses and maybe don't light up based on certain stimuluses. Your brain is moldable, healable, recoverable. This is amazing, amazing news. One of the reasons that language is so available to young children, why, if you teach them multiple languages before the age of five or six, that they are more likely to retain those languages and become fluent in multiple languages is because of how neuroplastic the language centers are at that age. Fascinating, right.
Speaker 1:So when we think about neuroplasticity in the brain, and when and how it becomes more plastic and less plastic not in the way where we're talking about microplastics okay, that's not what we're talking about, because, yes, now you also have microplastics in your brain but we're talking about, literally, the ability to mold your brain in the direction you want it to go, right. Well, now we need to talk about one of the things that is blocking you from experiencing the benefits of neuroplasticity and that, my friend, is your phone, specifically the social media apps that you have on your phone. So you've been in a lot of pain, so much pain. You've been in the lowest lows of your life and you are here listening to this podcast right now because you are determined to build yourself a new, better life, determined, and I applaud that and I celebrate that. But I know, because I am, you love that there are plenty of ways that you sabotage yourself left and right, and I am here to be honest with you about the implications of some of those things, okay, okay, so the more time we spend as a society on screens, the less neuroplastic we become. Now, it's not across the board, because in some ways, we become more neuroplastic, like meaning there are certain parts of our brains that are lighting up more and faster because of screen time. Right, no-transcript to deal with our feelings, to manage our thoughts. All of that part is becoming less neuroplastic because of screens. Not just because of the screens, but because of the on-demand nature of society.
Speaker 1:Right, and social media, and probably your Team U is that how we pronounce that and your Amazon app are also equally guilty. Right, it's actually way more healthy for you to go sit outside by a fire and drink multiple glasses of wine, probably, than it is for you to sit and scroll. Gosh, I'd be wondering what the actual data is on that. Don't, don't, don't take me to court on that thing that I just quoted. Right, but in terms of like life, on life's terms, I think we used to sit around as a people before screens. Right, we used to sit around and we used to have a couple glasses of wine and talk with each other and be in nature and just be, and we don't be anymore, right, we scroll and so, friend, this is a call to action that, if you say you want to manifest the things you want to manifest and you say you want to get better the way you want to get better and you want to attract the kind of partner you're saying you want to be, this is a call to action to delete your social media apps and your shopping apps for seven days and see what happens.
Speaker 1:It's a seven-day experiment. I want you to try it. It's super sexy thought, right, but I want you to be able to observe yourself and what withdrawal feels like and what your brain reaches for and then what you choose, instead of doing those things for seven days. Seven days dramatically reducing your contact on your phone. Now, you're going to have all kinds of excuses, right, and I understand you can't DM me.
Speaker 1:I gotcha right, like when doing this, I would have to have producer Joy and coach Tiffany cover my DMs for me, which they would right, like I've this. I would have to have producer Joy and coach Tiffany cover my DMs for me, which they would right, like I've got, thank God, a team to do that for me, and you're going to come up with all kinds of reasons why you can't. Right, I get it. But if you want to improve your neuroplasticity, if you want to heal faster we can't heal when we're comfortably numb. We can't address what we don't realize is there because we've been escaping. Try it right, so it's. I guarantee you right now you're like you love the Thursday episodes where I'm like just follow this link and buy this thing. Doing this is way more powerful than buying some link I offer you. Right, like this is going to lead to such a massive breakthrough for you, right, like this is going to lead to such a massive breakthrough for you.
Speaker 1:And PS, with the holidays around the corner, ooh, we're going to do a new EFT challenge leading into the holidays. I think we're going to book it for the first week of December. Do you like that date? Let me know. Send me a DM, tell me how you feel about an EFT challenge tapping challenge first week of December to help deal with the holiday stuff, right? But coming into the holidays, I want you to really consider what if you did a seven-day social media shopping detox now so that you could get your mind right coming into the holidays.
Speaker 1:I don't want you moving through the holidays on your phone. I want you to be present. I want you to be transforming. I want you to be owning that shit. I don't want you to be hiding in your phone screen. Love, all right. If you sort of feel like cursing me right now, I can handle it. I've got big, big shoulders. At the end of the day, I care way more about your wellness than I care whether or not you like me right now, because so long as you know that I love you, so so much Peace. Dear Divorce Diary is a podcast by my coach, dawn. You can find more at mycoachdawncom.
