The Weighting Room Podcast
AITA For wanting to stick to my gym routine?
Ever wondered what podcasters do when they're about to vanish on an internet-free cruise? They hustle beforehand, and that's exactly what we've done in our latest episode—packed with book chatter, relationship real-talk, and holiday hilarity. Hear me gush about "A Court of Thorns and Roses," a fantasy series that's hooked me despite its notorious spice levels, and join us as we stroll down memory lane with "50 Shades" and "Twilight," reflecting on the peculiar challenges they pose when jumping from page to screen.
Relationships can be a minefield, especially when weight gain enters the conversation. We dissect a listener's tale of the 'boyfriend 20,' which sparked an unexpected debate with his partner, and grapple with the nuances of humor and body image in relationships. But it's not all serious—we lighten the mood with a dive into social media overload, sharing our own struggles with the relentless demand to be digitally present while fighting ad fatigue.
So, sit back, relax, and join us for an episode that promises laughs, insights, and perhaps a new book for your shelf.
Do you have a story you would like to share? Send it to us at theweightingroompc@gmail.com
Disclaimer: We are not Medical professionals and all views and opinions are our own.
Ever wondered what podcasters do when they're about to vanish on an internet-free cruise? They hustle beforehand, and that's exactly what we've done in our latest episode—packed with book chatter, relationship real-talk, and holiday hilarity. Hear me gush about "A Court of Thorns and Roses," a fantasy series that's hooked me despite its notorious spice levels, and join us as we stroll down memory lane with "50 Shades" and "Twilight," reflecting on the peculiar challenges they pose when jumping from page to screen.
Relationships can be a minefield, especially when weight gain enters the conversation. We dissect a listener's tale of the 'boyfriend 20,' which sparked an unexpected debate with his partner, and grapple with the nuances of humor and body image in relationships. But it's not all serious—we lighten the mood with a dive into social media overload, sharing our own struggles with the relentless demand to be digitally present while fighting ad fatigue.
So, sit back, relax, and join us for an episode that promises laughs, insights, and perhaps a new book for your shelf.
Do you have a story you would like to share? Send it to us at theweightingroompc@gmail.com
Disclaimer: We are not Medical professionals and all views and opinions are our own.
hello lisa, hello chris.
Speaker 2:We're back to normal by me saying hello we thought we'd switch it up on you guys last week, which was two seconds ago for us, which is, you know, it's just gonna be like a weird cycle thing because like they're gonna finish last week's episode and there would be two seconds for us, but then for us now was them a week ago but, the reason why we're doing this is sometimes like because we're not going to have something to talk about every single week about our lives, because I'm not that interesting.
Speaker 1:So when we are just adding an, am I the asshole? We'll sometimes do a double record because in like 27 days from now, I'm gonna be on a cruise with no internet access and I'm so happy about that. So they're all she's like so long fuckers pretty much oh yeah so we're just trying to get a couple episodes in the bank so that we can keep them rolling. As you could tell, we weren't here a couple weeks ago, so you know life?
Speaker 2:yeah, life is a.
Speaker 2:Thing whoa, I choked on life oh, my god all right you know, what I wanted to talk about last week, two seconds ago but I didn't talk about last week two seconds ago was I have started reading a quarter thorns and roses. Oh my god, chris, read these books. It is, it's a series and apparently it's like this is a series and then there's like a spin-off series and then another spin-off series that everybody is obsessed with and I was really hesitant on reading these books because, like I recently just got into reading of like books that I enjoy and like I really have to enjoy the book in order to like continue reading it kind of thing. Um, and I've seen this one all over the place and a couple people had recommended it to me, but I also was told that they're spicy and I was like I don't think I can do spicy books.
Speaker 2:I think, it just makes me too uncomfortable to do spicy books, um, and then I read the first book and I have opinions, but I'm not gonna say them once you read them. We could talk about my opinions because I don't want to give anything away. But I had opinions on the first book and then I was like I'm just gonna read the second book. Oh my god, it's so much better than the first book. I've almost done it like dude. I started reading these last Wednesday and I'm almost done the second book already.
Speaker 1:Like they're so good.
Speaker 2:Harper's like hanging out playing stuff. She comes over and she's like here you go. I'm like thanks. And like I'm sitting there reading my book. Next thing I know I have a big pile of toys on me. I'm like, where did these come from? I've just been reading my book. It's so good when I my thing is like people are like oh, it's spicy and I expected there to just be sex all through these books. You know what I mean and I'm like I'm not interested in that type of genre. Yeah, um, but there's not. There's really only like one really spicy part in the first book, and now I'm on the second book and it was like it's been one chapter of spice. So it's uh, I highly recommend.
Speaker 1:It's good, that's cool, yeah I've never read a spicy book. I never read like 50 shades or anything.
Speaker 2:I just watched me neither I tried to read 50 shades and I was like this is, this is horrible my problem with trying to read.
Speaker 1:It is like I actually didn't know about it until the movies and right as far as I can remember, and I can't read a book after I've seen the movies, so like I still have not read the book eat pray love and I have not seen julia. Whatever, roberts. Thank you julia roberts movie eat pray love, because I've been waiting to read the book first. Right, and I'm like I. When did that come out?
Speaker 2:I still haven't done it. I did that with A Fault in Our Stars. I read the book first and then I watched the movie. Uh, twilight. I had read all the books before watching the movie. I recently went back and was like I'm gonna read these books. Oh my god, they are the cringiest things ever. I'm like these are so bad. I couldn't even finish the first book. I was like I'm done, I can't read this.
Speaker 1:And then I watched all the movies yeah, I had already watched all the Twilight movies and I wanted to go read the books, but I also was not that invested like, yeah, I like Twilight movies, I know that's I just I hate saying that because no it's a millennial guilty pleasure, it's allowed. I understand they're not good, but they're good to me. Yes, like I get, I'm not. I'm not like wow, this is oscar award winning.
Speaker 1:It's everybody needs to watch this movie no twilight also just makes me think of home, because it was filmed a lot here and it was mostly in the Pacific Northwest. So it's just like do you know how many times like Rams and I've been driving on the highway or something and there's that it's a gray day and like there's clouds, just like going right over the mountains, and I'm like, oh, twilight every time and it's always like that here.
Speaker 2:I know it's just, I don't, I don't know what it it is, but it's just, it's got a hold on us you know, us millennial girlies like Twilight is always gonna be that little, we're always gonna be like Twilight, but at the same time I'm like I was definitely deep chicken.
Speaker 1:Anyway, this is not what we're talking about today.
Speaker 2:No, this was, yeah sorry, long story short. Read those books um and then at some point we'll talk about them, because oh, they're so good, I will.
Speaker 2:Um, I have a problem where I'll get a book on audible because, like, I get a free credit every month with my membership free, but I get a credit every month with my membership and I was like I'm just gonna listen to this book and when I'm listening to it, if I'm then like just sitting sitting around browsing on TikTok, I'm like I'm just gonna get this on my Kindle app so I can just read it right now. So I end up reading it and listening at the like, not at the same time, but like I have both options. So I have problems and I know I have problems, but I'm I'm obsessed with these books right now. I'm happy that you're agreeing that I have problems. All right, we've got three. Am I the assholes? Am I the asshole for just agreeing with my friend while she says that she has not the asshole?
Speaker 1:I'm supportive. Okay, if you say you are, I will support you okay, no, I actually have two.
Speaker 2:Am I the assholes for us today? So you can pick which one you would like. First one has number two, just kidding no, you're too late, you already picked this one this is a funny time. We're getting even more tired this is the 3 am at a sleepover when you both should be sleeping by now, but you both start giggling.
Speaker 2:And then one of your moms yells downstairs but you just go to sleep. So, true, all right. Am I the asshole for wanting to stick to my gym routine? My boyfriend came up to me today and said it's going to be a very lovely day for the weather. Maybe we should go out and have a drink or spend some time in the park. I said no, because I've scheduled myself to go for a gym session today. My boyfriend got mad at me so I tried to shift my plans go tomorrow morning to the the gym and then for a run in the afternoon, and that way I wouldn't have missed anything that week. He got even more mad at me, said that I should just go to the gym and that I shouldn't change my plans and that he's just not going to make any suggestions like this anymore.
Speaker 1:I hate that like it's so, so dramatic.
Speaker 2:I know, to be honest, I'm mad too. During the whole summer I skipped the gym so many times just because it was good weather for going out me trying to move gym in the morning. Hold on, let me read this so I can figure out what they're actually trying to say is this during COVID, like when you had to schedule going to a gym?
Speaker 2:no this I'll explain this after me. Trying to go to the gym in the morning would backfire because of going, because of all the going out, I would still need to sleep very late. Uh, so I didn't have enough sleep, so then I wouldn't want to work out in the morning. I'm not only talking about the weekend, but during the week also. I maybe went to the gym in august three or four times.
Speaker 2:During our relationship, I gained about 15 kilograms, which is about 32 pounds, because of drinking a lot, snacking and going out. Looking at my BMI, right now I am overweight and I want to do something about it. I also started thinking about running a half marathon next year. I've gone into running in 2014 and was running off and on since then, but only this year. I participated in a five kilometer run, which I really liked, and I want to do that again. So I scheduled for myself a plan three times a week, going to the gym, doing the strength training and running two times a week. I know that's a lot, but I'm really into it. I'm in the asshole for sticking to my plans, trying to be healthy, saying no, achieving goals, because right now, I feel like I am the worst girlfriend ever.
Speaker 1:No, not at all. This is her goal and what she wants to do with her life, and it's like you shouldn't feel guilty for that. And if you're still able to find time bettering yourself while still spending time with your friends and family and partner, then I don't see anything toxic about it. But if you're completely disregarding your partner wanting to hang out with you and you're picking the gym over them all the time, then then you would be an asshole. But it doesn't sound like you were because you prioritize.
Speaker 1:It sounds like they went the other way.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:They prioritize them completely and not themselves. And now it's like, no, I've had enough and I'm putting me first. And so exactly, yeah, that's why you're not the asshole, put yourself first. And if your boyfriend can't see that, then bye. Yeah, no, no, you go Parts of their life. Maybe he's still in the party scene and and she's trying to get out of it, and I've been there, I get that part.
Speaker 2:So I know that's, yeah, it's just, it is how it is. You know, sometimes people are just at different parts of your life and, yeah, like honestly, people need to be supportive of that kind of thing. Like I cut out a lot of evening stuff. Uh, personally, because I started going to the gym so early in the morning, so doing stuff in the evenings became harder. Same thing, and that's what she was talking about scheduling. It wasn't a matter of um COVID and trying to fit time in for that. It's something's got to give and if you don't want to go out drinking and partying all the time and you want to go to the gym in the morning, you're going to have to give up the drinking and partying all the time yeah um, which was I wasn't drinking and partying all the time I was
Speaker 2:you know, it was just evening hangouts and staying up late and gaming. Like I've cut way back on my gaming, like, yes, there's just some give and take and that's just something that I had to give, not the asshole. Yeah, I don't. I don't consider the boyfriend to be an asshole either. I, okay, I will say that. That the fine. I'm just not going to suggest anything anymore like that's petty and stupid.
Speaker 2:But I don't, in general, consider them to be an asshole, because if you had a routine with them of you guys were going out and partying and you guys were going out and doing this with your friends and you were doing this and this and this, then it was a routine. If, if you weren't going to the gym as much as you were before, you're going three or four times a month, um, now all of a sudden you're cutting everything way down, it feels like you're just cutting people off at that point, and that's his perspective. Yeah, yeah. So I don't think either of them were the asshole. I think it was just a matter of you both had to communicate here yeah, yeah, for sure okay, the next one I have is am I the asshole for saying my girlfriend made me fat?
Speaker 1:wait what that? Your girlfriend made you fat. Yes, okay, no, I mean, let's just go into it.
Speaker 2:My male 23, so he's male 23, girlfriend female 23, and I have been dating for two years now. I was a swimmer in college, but since graduating I have gained a little bit of weight nothing crazy, but, but I'm 5'11 and 170 pounds, up from about 145 pounds. In college. I used to have abs, but I haven't really cared as much about working out anymore since I just started feeling comfortable in our relationship and I know she doesn't care what my body looks like. We recently went out on a double date with some friends that I haven't seen in a while. We'll call them Jack. We'll call them Jack. We'll call them Jack and Erica.
Speaker 2:We're all having a good time at dinner and joking around, and Jack and I have known each other for a long time and always tease each other, so it makes me fun to me. And says that I look like I've gotten a bit chubby since the last time we saw each other. I laughed it off, since it's how we've always been and since it's not really true, I just have a slight gut. Now His girlfriend, erica, joins in and says that Jack has been working on his beer belly too, which Jack definitely has put on a few pounds recently, like me. Jack says we've both put on some happy relationship, weight gain and grown guts. I say that I got that boyfriend 20, joking that I've gained 20 pounds while dating my girlfriend.
Speaker 2:The conversation changed from there, but we laughed about it. Once we get home, my girlfriend says that I have embarrassed her in front of my friends by saying that I was the one that made her fat. No, I was that. She was the one that made me fat. I get upset because it's just. I get upset because she just inadvertently called me fat when I never said that at all, just that I had gained weight. I told her that I was just joking and that she couldn't, that she shouldn't have taken it so seriously, especially because Erica was making the same type of jokes about Jack. I was also frustrated because she was making me feel bad about my weight gain, which I had never really cared about before. I told her that I know I'm responsible for myself getting a little chubby, but I didn't really care because I felt less pressure to look perfect while dating her. I guess it was the wrong thing to say because she got more upset. Am I the asshole?
Speaker 1:I'm confused. Sorry, because like he's fat no, he.
Speaker 2:So he was 145 pounds through college and now he's 100, and there's an edit after on that says he's 178 pounds after college and he's 511 so he gained weight.
Speaker 1:She called him fat no here I'll explain the whole situation no, no, that's fine.
Speaker 2:No, you got him and his girlfriend. And then he got jack and erica. Yeah, okay, they've all gone out for dinner, okay. And jack and him have both gained weight since college, like they were in college. They were 145 pounds, now they're closer to 175, 178 pounds. And Jack says to him oh, it looks like you've gained some weight. He's like yeah, I've gotten a little chubby. Erica goes yeah, jack has to pick up or is working on clearing out his beer belly too, or burning off his beer belly. And Jack goes yeah, I noticed he's gotten chubbier. Uh, yeah, I noticed he's gotten chubbier.
Speaker 2:And then I me, the male guy goes yeah, I've put on that boyfriend 20, meaning like you've put on that weight. That literally everybody puts on weight after they're in a comfortable relationship. It's just something that happens. But so he's like I put on that boyfriend 20, conversation changes, everything's fine. So now his girlfriend is like I didn't realize it was my fault that you're fat. So she called him fat, saying I didn't realize that it's my fault that you're fat. And he's like I didn't say I was fat, I just said I've put on 20 pounds since our relationship and I didn't care that I was gaining weight because I was comfortable with you and then.
Speaker 2:So she's mad because she thinks that he blames her for him getting fat meanwhile he's like I'm not fat, I just said I gained weight, but she thinks that he's blaming her. But he's not blaming her. It's just, everybody gains weight after a relationship or on a relationship so is he the asshole for saying that right?
Speaker 1:no, right that. Thanks for the explanation'm sorry, I don't know how I kept getting lost.
Speaker 2:That's okay.
Speaker 1:I feel like this turned into like some major gossip, though I was like and then, erica, I actually liked the way you explained it more than than reading the story. So, actually, you know what to everyone at home. Would you rather us read the story or give you our version of the story from now on, let us know send us an email.
Speaker 2:I'll just say it in the perspective of my gossip. I'll say the title am I the asshole for this? And then I'll be like and then this bitch was I I actually enjoyed listening to it like way more.
Speaker 1:I was super invested when you have said that like I have.
Speaker 2:So like chris like came into my life later in my life, right? So I've had so much drama in my life and there's times where I'm like, oh my god, there was this one time and I lay all my drama out and tell her about it and she afterwards is like this is so good, yeah.
Speaker 1:I'm like, so invested. Tell me more.
Speaker 2:I'm like that's it. That's the whole story anyways. Yeah, I don't think he's the asshole, um, I think she's just being a little defensive. Uh, to be honest, I don't think she's being an asshole, but I mean, I do think that's a little defensive. I also think there's probably a little bit of internalization going on there, especially if it's a relationship thing, um, because, as I said, it's just it's common for people to gain weight after they're in a relationship.
Speaker 2:So if she's gained weight and he's like yeah, yeah I've put on that boyfriend 20 like now, she's gonna feel even more hurt, kind of thing. There is an edit. Um, I weighed myself after making this post and I'm actually 178 pounds right now, so a little heavier than I originally originally thought. I also have made jokes in the past about getting chunkier, but I've never used the word fat to describe myself since I don't think it's true.
Speaker 2:A few of you were asking in the comments about my girlfriend's weight, and she is very healthy and has always been. Her weight has never seemed to be a concern on her, nor has it been something we've discussed, so so, which means I have a feeling some people in the comments are probably the same, saying the same thing we are. If she's gained weight, then she's projecting that on you in this situation. Um, and even though he's saying it's not something that you've talked about, it doesn't mean it's not something she thinks about, especially if you're just well, actually you said that you've been dating for two years, so I was gonna say so especially if it's a boyfriend girlfriend scenario and not like a husband wife scenario and even then not everybody, not all husband and wives tell each other everything.
Speaker 2:Relationships are weird.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, anyways, not the asshole um relations on writing on reddit and letting us read it um we only have a couple stories today because, uh, I didn't do my homework, so sorry about that one that's okay, and I think next week we're gonna have a guest.
Speaker 2:We are.
Speaker 1:We're super excited for it, should we?
Speaker 2:say who it is. Yeah, we gave him a cliffhanger next week of I was, or last week of I was going to say it, and then I didn't say it. And now your cliffhanger is solved by finding out it's going to be somebody, but there's still a cliffhanger because you don't know who it's going to be but it's someone who's doing amazing on their journey.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, so perfect we will. I almost said we'll see you guys next week, but we don't see you ever now.
Speaker 2:Unless you send us, you don't even see us well, unless we post a clip yeah, there's a lot of unless but if you're somebody who just listens to the podcast. We don't see you live again we should, we do live answer questions.
Speaker 1:It'd be nice if we could get our tick tock up, but I also like so that we could go live from there. But I also don't want to invest any more time in a second account. Like it's, it's so hard, like trying to keep up with. I switch between the waiting room and mine on tick tock on Instagram. I've even been using threads sometimes and then I'm trying to even make a.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm trying to even it makes me so mad.
Speaker 1:I don't even understand it. I literally just post to it. I, I, I feel, done Like I, just. I even want to make another account for skits that I'm trying to put together, but I don't even have the time to write down the skits, you know.
Speaker 2:I think my problem with threads is it's just like oh great, it's another place that I have to share and communicate. And it's like I share on Instagram, I share on TikTok, I'm like with my family, I'm on Facebook and it's like now you want to put in threads, which is literally just Facebook, in my opinion. Like it's like if. Facebook and Twitter had a baby.
Speaker 1:I. I had a Twitter account, never used it because I just couldn't do it, and then Instagram. I barely used Facebook. I really I've already told that story about how I don't use Facebook, and someone you know saw me.
Speaker 1:Yeah, story, oh, but the other thing is just, it's advertisements everywhere also, it's just way too many channels for people to like get a hold of you and sometimes I just don't want to. I feel really bad, especially when someone can see that I've read something and I just I feel obligated to respond, since they can see that I've read it and I don't know I just like I don't want to have a connection all the time.
Speaker 2:I see threads as like, uh, like an advertisement on my Facebook, and I'm scrolling and then I see that, oh, and I tap it and it's like download threads. I'm like, no, I was interested in two seconds. I'm not, I'm not that interested anymore. I can't, I can't, I don't have the time for it, I don't have the energy. I really don't have the time or energy for it.
Speaker 1:With that being said, though, make sure to follow us on Tik TOok instagram. We might have a facebook somewhere out there. I think we're on threads. Follow us everywhere so you can get updated information when I decide to post.
Speaker 2:Yeah wherever you decide to post, that day is where you'll get the information.
Speaker 1:I think that you want to listen, bitch yeah, sure, but while you're getting that out, I feel like sometimes people can tell that I'm the one doing instagram, because I'll be like post this to story and it's not us, like, it's just keeping the Instagram alive, and then I sign into mine and I start posting stuff that I saw that through that through the waiting room, but didn't apply to that, but it applied to me and it's just like wow, all these stories all of a sudden, all at once.
Speaker 2:Oh, my god oh, I'm tired and I have to go take a shower after this, all right. Oh, this one was stuck in there. Well, it wasn't meant to be ours, I guess. All right, here's the one we got today. Listen, bitch, give yourself the same love you pour out out onto the world. I think we had that one, didn't we? I think we had that with, uh, the thing that you the other day.
Speaker 2:It was one of the 30 something, but I like it, me too, and yes, it was one that we said that was like that. Because then I said unless you're a Karen, then don't give yourself that.
Speaker 1:Well, whatever, we can always have a reminder of that, so it's good.
Speaker 2:Yes, I agree, love is good. I've always. There's also the phrase of treat others the way you want to be treated, and I feel like that phrase always gets um, twisted a little bit because, like people think that it actually means treat others the way they've treated you. But it should be treat others the way that you want to be treated. And I've said that before and people are like, if somebody is like a total bitch to me, I'm not going to be nice to them and it's like, well, that just shows your character.
Speaker 1:I know someone before that used to say they wanted to be promoted to being a supervisor management just so that they could treat others the way that they were treated, and I'm like that's just continuing that toxic mentality yeah, like, why would you want? Others to experience what you did, like I. I can understand it, like I can understand that feeling of wanting other people to feel what you have been through, but not good, yeah one last thing before we go, because I was looking at it and I think it looks hilarious.
Speaker 2:This is my um chocolate easter bunny. Look, it just looks like a rifle went right through the middle of it. I think it looks hilarious this is my chocolate.
Speaker 1:Easter bunny. Look at it, just looks like a rifle went right through the middle of it. It's a Reese chocolate bunny for those who can't see, and I've literally I broke him in half and been eating him from the inside out because he just has too much chocolate Because the outside has too much chocolate.
Speaker 2:This is like chocolate.
Speaker 1:I don't like chocolate, too much chocolate. This is like chocolate I don't like chocolate butter, and this is chocolate.
Speaker 2:In fact, if you look at the ear, I don't know if you could see. I scooped some of the peanut butter out because I didn't have the chocolate, but I wanted the reese filling. Maybe that's why I'm not reaching my way because I have a huge ass, one pound Reese chocolate bunny at my desk.
Speaker 2:Um, yeah, sorry, I was processing what happened that day. Um, yes, uh, to her level. So I got a basket and we got eggs, and I didn't want to give her a bunch of chocolate because you know, she's still itty bitty, so I filled them with socks, because she loves socks. Um, and I just took them and I put a couple on the floor and then a couple on the couch, kind of just in plain sight for her to see them and find them. I didn't like hide them, but they were all at her level.
Speaker 1:That's awesome. I made Ram's one like a couple years ago because he has never had one. What, yeah he uh. I made him hunt for eggs everywhere and it was so cute. I videotaped a little bit of it but I don't think I posted it because he was in his pajamas. But right, yeah, he like, because I guess technically it's like a christian holiday even though what the fuck does an easter bunny have anything to do with jesus?
Speaker 1:but it's kind of like santa claus, but it's the exact same thing, like rams didn't celebrate christmas because it's a christian holiday, but I'm like christmas has nothing to do with jesus or god. It to me, like to my mom yes, I will tell, I will around my mom. I say, yeah, but like it's a commercialized holiday at this point and all I like for it for is the lights, the warmth and giving gifts and stuff. Yeah, totally like I guess the three wise men I guess have a part of the gift giving, but really not no wise men gave a fucking air fryer.
Speaker 1:But you know, are we giving frankincense and myrrh or whatever the hell else it was?
Speaker 2:no, we're not I love that line anyway, I thought we were still recording.
Speaker 1:Actually, I thought we were just in our own zone, so we should probably wrap this up oh my god, bye everybody bye. I'm like wait a minute. Am I gonna keep this in?
Speaker 2:yes, you are.