Her Ambitious Career
Ep 128 - How Avoiding Difficult Conversations is Keeping You Stuck
If you know you need to have a 'difficult' conversation with someone - that you KNOW will help you a lot - but you can't bring yourself to initiate it... this episode is for you!
00:00
What kind of conversations do you find difficult?
1. Asking for pay rises?
2. Asking your boss about the future of your career?
3. Telling someone you disagree with their decision?
4. Calling out someone else’s bad behaviour?
5. Confronting someone who has shared your idea as their own?
6. Challenging a client on their bad behaviour?
7. Chasing a supplier who is consistently letting you down?
8. Giving feedback to a team member who is underperforming?
9. Disagreeing with your boss?
What's the cost to you right now... by avoiding having this conversation?
Does it cost your career?
Does it waste time?
Does it impact you mentally?
How is staying stuck impacting you?
05:00 - What is the fear of having this difficult conversation?
06:30 - People pleasing
08:00 - Using the skill of having difficult conversations to show you're ready for senior leadership
12:50 - 2 tricks to challenge your fear to start having difficult conversations
Here's something valuable I said today:
"There are a few reasons people avoid having difficult conversations: the #1 reason is FEAR. What could go wrong if I challenge them? What will the repercussions on me be? How might they judge me? If you work out how to overcome your fear, a lot of these issues evaporate." (Rebecca Allen, host Her Ambitious Career)
Links:
- Get Rebecca’s MUST-HAVE Guide: ‘The 7 Habits of Female Execs Who Get Promoted’
- A related ep I mentioned in today's episode: People-Pleasing Leadership - Is it Effective?
- And this ep too: What is Personal Branding & Why Is It Vital to Your Career?
- See all podcast episodes
Follow our Show on Apple Podcasts:
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About Rebecca:
Hi, I’m Rebecca Allen and I’m an Executive Coach and Personal Brand expert for corporate women, aspiring to senior levels of leadership. I absolutely LOVE coaching and seeing my fabulous clients exceed their own expectations. I’ve worked for 11 years now as a coach and have helped women at companies including Woolworths, ANZ, J.P. Morgan, PwC, Coca-Cola Amatil, Ministry of Defence and Coles. I live for those phone calls from clients, jumping up and down, telling me they’ve got that promotion, negotiated a seismic pay rise or have moved into a role completely aligned with their mission, values and strengths. I’m a working mum of two wonderful children, adore travel and trying my hand at anything creative. I’d love to connect with you!
If you know you need to have a 'difficult' conversation with someone - that you KNOW will help you a lot - but you can't bring yourself to initiate it... this episode is for you!
00:00
What kind of conversations do you find difficult?
1. Asking for pay rises?
2. Asking your boss about the future of your career?
3. Telling someone you disagree with their decision?
4. Calling out someone else’s bad behaviour?
5. Confronting someone who has shared your idea as their own?
6. Challenging a client on their bad behaviour?
7. Chasing a supplier who is consistently letting you down?
8. Giving feedback to a team member who is underperforming?
9. Disagreeing with your boss?
What's the cost to you right now... by avoiding having this conversation?
Does it cost your career?
Does it waste time?
Does it impact you mentally?
How is staying stuck impacting you?
05:00 - What is the fear of having this difficult conversation?
06:30 - People pleasing
08:00 - Using the skill of having difficult conversations to show you're ready for senior leadership
12:50 - 2 tricks to challenge your fear to start having difficult conversations
Here's something valuable I said today:
"There are a few reasons people avoid having difficult conversations: the #1 reason is FEAR. What could go wrong if I challenge them? What will the repercussions on me be? How might they judge me? If you work out how to overcome your fear, a lot of these issues evaporate." (Rebecca Allen, host Her Ambitious Career)
Links:
- Get Rebecca’s MUST-HAVE Guide: ‘The 7 Habits of Female Execs Who Get Promoted’
- A related ep I mentioned in today's episode: People-Pleasing Leadership - Is it Effective?
- And this ep too: What is Personal Branding & Why Is It Vital to Your Career?
- See all podcast episodes
Follow our Show on Apple Podcasts:
Also, if you haven’t done so already, follow the podcast. We air every week and I don't want you to miss out on a single broadcast. Follow now!
About Rebecca:
Hi, I’m Rebecca Allen and I’m an Executive Coach and Personal Brand expert for corporate women, aspiring to senior levels of leadership. I absolutely LOVE coaching and seeing my fabulous clients exceed their own expectations. I’ve worked for 11 years now as a coach and have helped women at companies including Woolworths, ANZ, J.P. Morgan, PwC, Coca-Cola Amatil, Ministry of Defence and Coles. I live for those phone calls from clients, jumping up and down, telling me they’ve got that promotion, negotiated a seismic pay rise or have moved into a role completely aligned with their mission, values and strengths. I’m a working mum of two wonderful children, adore travel and trying my hand at anything creative. I’d love to connect with you!