Crafting Authenticity Through Life's Transitions with Leah Morris

Have you ever found yourself at a crossroads, feeling a pull toward authenticity but not sure how to proceed? Join me, Mindy Duff, as I sit down with Leah Morris, a trailblazing life and relationship transition coach, whose own journey of transformation after a divorce and career pivot has given her unique insights into the world of personal change. This episode is a compass for anyone looking to navigate the often tumultuous waters of life's transitions, offering a beacon of wisdom and strategies for moving forward with integrity and purpose.

As we peel back the layers of our conversation, Leah and I examine the intricate dance between our internal compass and the external forces that often lead us astray. We discuss how societal expectations and past experiences can muffle the voice of our intuition and the importance of reconnecting with that inner guide. Leah introduces "The Integrity Sessions," a resource that challenges readers to forge their own paths back to a life of authenticity. We explore the themes within that empower individuals to listen intently to their inner wisdom and craft lives that are in true alignment with who they are.

The journey doesn't end with intuition; it's also about facing the emotional tapestry that makes up our experiences. This episode sheds light on the transformative power of naming and understanding our emotions, providing listeners with a toolkit for self-reflection and action. Leah and I share our personal stories and strategies to help you distance yourself from negative emotions and steer towards self-coaching. By the end of our time together, you’ll feel equipped to tackle life's challenges head-on, with newfound clarity and conviction. Step into your greatness with us, as we share a conversation that's all about embracing change and boldly stepping into the life you're meant to live.

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:07

Hey friends, this is your host, mindy Duff, and you're listening to Uplevel your Life with Mindy, your number one personal growth podcast that will bring you closer to uncovering your greatest self. As a certified holistic health and nutrition coach, I created this podcast for anyone who desires to improve physically, emotionally and spiritually. I'll be interviewing experts and sharing tips and tricks that have helped not only my clients, but that have guided me on my own transformational journey. I believe that we all have a greatness that lies within. We just need to uncover it. Are you ready to level up? Let's begin. Hi everyone and welcome back to Uplevel your Life with Mindy. I'm your host, mindy Duff, and I have a guest with me.

Speaker 1: 1:04

Today I'm going to be chatting with Leah Morris, and Leah is, amongst other things, she's an author. She does all kinds of things. She's a relationship coach, life coach, all kinds of things we're going to be talking about. I'm sure one of my favorite topics and that's living authentically and how to do that, and what about when you're not doing that, and just all kinds of things in regards to that. Leah Morris is a life and relationship transition coach and the founder of Life Remade, a holistic personal coaching service With a lifetime of experience and six years as a professional coach. She specializes in guiding people as they move through both short-term and long-term life transitions. Leah is certified in transformational life coaching, integrative somatic trauma therapy and hypnotherapy. She's also a published illustrator and recent author, and we will definitely get to talking about that book here in a little bit. Leah, thank you so much for being here today. Thanks, mindy. I'm super excited for our chat today. I know I read your bio there, but can you just tell us a little bit more about yourself and what you do?

Speaker 2: 2:14

Yeah, absolutely. As you said, I'm a life and relationship transition coach. What I mean by that is I typically help people who are in the midst of some kind of big shift in their life. It's often the result of things not going well, things not feeling right anymore. Maybe there's some burnout, maybe a relationship has sort of ended, a career needs to shift. Whatever it may be, they know something needs to change. I kind of help them through that transitory phase where they're trying to piece together. What do I do now? Where do I go from here? Also, how do I make sure what just happened doesn't continue repeating? I love what I do. I love helping people to achieve that clarity and confidence, because change can be really daunting and hard. That's why a lot of us avoid it.

Speaker 2: 3:11

I actually came to doing this specific kind of work with people because of my own big transformation in life. I was going through a divorce. As a result, I also had to leave the career I was in. I had to move. Friendships were lost, family dynamics need to change. My self-esteem was shot.

Speaker 2: 3:32

I really had to pause and ask myself how did I get here and why am I still choosing this for myself? Just through that process of self-reflection that I was able to really discover a new path for myself and get my life on a track that I felt really proud of, that felt really authentic to me and of full integrity, which was surprising because I thought I had been on it before. I thought I had really checked off a lot of boxes I think I did societally but it felt nothing like my own. I really had trouble identifying with my own life in so many ways when I went through all those changes and heartbreaks. I was really able to put back my life in a way that felt more solid and more true to myself rather than to everyone else and the way that I was raised, etc.

Speaker 1: 4:37

I love that you're doing this work because I think that the fact that you're focusing on not just a general life coach, which I'm sure you can help people with regardless of whatever, but specifically focusing in on these transitions whether they're just getting ready like whoa, I know I need to make a change and it's scary, and I need somebody else's helping hand, helping guide me along and supporting me through it. Or a change just happened, like it or not, and now what do I do with myself? We all have those moments in our life and, as you're talking, I was just thinking about how beneficial that would be to have somebody like yourself to work with. Hopefully, everyone that's listening has a support system of some kind, whether it's your spouse or your parents or your friends or close family but even then, sometimes it's so beneficial to get that unbiased third party opinion do you know what I mean? That not only can help you see things with a more clear picture, but that can actually is skilled in giving the guidance to help you figure out what it is that you really want.

Speaker 1: 5:47

I believe that we all have the answers inside, but sometimes some of these bigger life transitions that you're speaking of, it's so hard to navigate that Sometimes you can't see the forest through the trees when it's your own life. I like that you said why am I choosing this for myself and bringing it back to? Okay, how this, I did this. How do I not and not repeat that again yeah that's really absolutely, and you're right.

Speaker 2: 6:13

Like with the support systems, oftentimes we may be getting advice or suggestion from people that their advice and suggestion has actually impacted why we're here in the first place.

Speaker 1: 6:27

Right.

Speaker 2: 6:29

And so, although it may be loving and good intentioned, there still might be some old patterns there that we really might have trouble retrieving those internal answers for ourselves, because maybe we're driven by those support system pillars in our lives. And so to have someone, I think, that is kind of on the side of you and only you and saying let's ask some deeper questions here, let's go inward for the answers here, and even someone who has been through it before, who can kind of guide you in terms of when you're coming up against this obstacle, for instance like a limiting belief, how do you face that? Do you turn around, or do you maybe visit where that stemmed from? Where's the root of that, or is there just the alternative option we have here? So it's super rewarding.

Speaker 2: 7:20

I love doing it. I love seeing people slowly, and sometimes maybe even quickly, just sort of stand up taller, start breathing more deeply, saying what their boundaries are. Yeah, it's a really interesting time to be working with people and I think that I'm constantly inspired by them, and so it makes my life and the path that I'm taking even more. What can I do differently? How can I realign my life even more in integrity for myself, just working with my clients in that way?

Speaker 1: 7:56

Yeah yeah, that's really powerful stuff that you're doing, and now I know that you have described some of your work as well. You work with people who've been intuitively disempowered, and I thought that was a really interesting phrase, and I'm just curious if you could explain that a little bit more. What does that look like if somebody's been intuitively disempowered, and how would a person know? So I'm imagining a lot of people listening and thinking, oh, I haven't been intuitively disempowered, that's not me, but what? In fact it probably is, and we just don't realize it. So what could that look like?

Speaker 2: 8:31

That's a great. I've never been asked that question before and I've spent a lot of time thinking about that term actually, so I'm glad you're asking. What it could look like is and this might be a word that I still use from time to time, but a lot of times I'll hear the word should or shouldn't from people I should be doing this, I shouldn't be doing that, and what I feel that that is a result of are when people don't know how to actually go inward and find their internal compass, which I call intuition, integrity, authenticity, truth, whatever you want to call it. They've disconnected from that piece internally and they're sort of navigating their world and their life and making their decisions based on what they think they should or shouldn't be doing. This could be because of the way they were raised, this could be just the way that society has kind of spelled things out for them, but it's this idea that whatever they need to be doing is external, and so there is no personal agency, there's no sense of personal power they have over their lives. So that intuitive disempowerment can often come, like I said, from society, from family, even from like super strict religious upbringings you name it and so if you find yourself outsourcing or crowdsourcing, like I say, your decision making.

Speaker 2: 10:07

That's a surefire way and sign that you have been intuitively disempowered and to kind of draw back on where you are reaching for your answers and really go within. How do I feel in these situations, whether than a should or shouldn't, what do I feel, what do I need in this situation? And that can be a really uncomfortable thing for a lot of people to do when they've been intuitively disempowered. It can feel selfish, it can feel inconsiderate, and so we kind of tend to and I say we because I feel like I'm recovering from that, I've recovered from that we kind of tend to martyr ourselves in situations, kind of giving up our own needs, our own sense of peace and well-being for others and for what we think we should be doing. So those are a few ways that you can see In the language that you use should or shouldn't. Are you crowdsourcing your decision making? Do you feel like you're often murdering yourself for other people's wants and needs?

Speaker 1: 11:14

Yeah, yeah, I like that, yes, I like that.

Speaker 1: 11:18

Well, I don't like that people do it. But yeah, I'm right there with you in terms of this is something that I've had a lot of experience with in my own life and I'm kind of working through it on my own and it's all the things that you said. It can feel not. It feels that right when you start to make decisions based on how you feel yourself and sometimes it's hard to recognize that you even have been doing that until some inevitably something happens you had a breaking point somewhere and go, okay, this, I can't do this anymore. So I'm wondering now if somebody is wanting to, if they're listening and they're like okay, yes, I feel like this is me. I feel like I've been intuitively disempowered and I'm ready to start taking the steps to take control over my life, and maybe it's just not in the cards for them to pay the money to hire a coach like yourself or someone else. So your book, the Integrity Sessions is this something that could be a really great kind of first step in trying to connect back to yourself again?

Speaker 2: 12:23

Absolutely yeah. The book is essentially a collection of different sessions or themes that I work with my clients through to bring them back to their integrity or bring them back to that empowered, intuitive state. And I think we're all connected to our intuition, to our integrity, from the time we're born. It's life that disconnects us and so, having compassion for yourself, if you are one of those people who's been sort of murdering yourself or saying that should, shouldn't, maybe too much than you'd want but the book really guides you through a step-by-step process, and maybe not even step-by-step, because I feel that if you're truly connected to your intuition, there isn't necessarily a one-size-fits-all for everyone. There isn't necessarily a structured process that will work for everyone in that exact you know point A, point B, point C framework. So you can open the book to any page, any chapter, any session that's what I call the chapters or sessions and get out of it what you might need. So there's a chapter about boundary setting. There's a chapter about acknowledging your emotions. There's a chapter about making sure you have the right people in your corner. There's a chapter about releasing expectations.

Speaker 2: 13:51

So there's a wide variety of different lessons and just wisdom that I feel I've gained throughout my own personal experience, but also that I know works for all of my clients as well.

Speaker 2: 14:03

So there's a lot of stories infused in there that I feel sometimes can be really important for us to reflect on our own lives. When we hear someone else sharing their life stories, we can kind of try on the whatever it is that they're saying. We can try on the narrative and say is there any part of my life that I feel is reflected in this person's story? So there are some stories from my own life and from my clients' lives as well. So I really encourage people to read it, especially if maybe hiring a coach isn't in the cards right now. A lot of my clients have read it already and we work it into our sessions when we're speaking face to face. So if you do have a coach or therapist, reading the book is still could be a really helpful tool in helping you to maybe bring up certain topics that you haven't quite thought about before while you're in session with your support.

Speaker 1: 15:02

Yeah, yeah, that's really great. So and I like that you say you can just open it up to like any page and don't necessarily have to read it cover to cover. In fact, if I, if I'm understanding correctly, this type of book maybe is even better if you don't just say, you know, like a novel, you sit down and you read and like, oh, I binged it the whole weekend and I finished it. This probably wouldn't be that kind of a book. It would be more one to like take a chunk and sit with it for a while and digest it and do the work and then go, okay, I feel better about that, and then go back to it, kind of a more of like a life guidebook.

Speaker 2: 15:40

Like you can just always have on hand right, totally.

Speaker 2: 15:45

Yeah, and I love that you said that, because there's actually like exercises and worksheets that you can download for each session so you really could sit with each one until it feels a bit more digested, you know, into your system and integrated for you, or you could just kind of like breathe through it, go back to parts that really stood out for you. My guess is, not all of it is going to resonate with everyone, because that's just. You know how humans are like take what you need, leave the rest. But there are also our times in our lives where you know we're back up against some kind of obstacle and what may not have applied before certainly begins to, and so you're right, like a life guidebook, I like that. I should have coined that on the front page.

Speaker 1: 16:36

Yeah, so I'm. So what do you guess? When you sat down to write this book, what was your intention for the people that would would take this and receive it and use this information? What were you hoping that everyone would gain from it?

Speaker 2: 16:52

Yeah, that's a great question. I like to be very intentional about things, and especially things that I'm creating for my business and I was to. I was also talking to my therapist while I was like really game planning this and she said, Well, how will this book also help you to evolve? And so I was really trying to take into account is this in my integrity as well, you know? And what? What can I offer here to my clients that I'm also integrating personally, because I like to say I would never advise or guide people to to try or do, to try and do something that I myself wouldn't or haven't done.

Speaker 2: 17:34

So this book really was created with the intention of one helping me to sort of get onto paper and into some kind of format All of the things that I've been putting together, that I've been learning from my clients over the past seven years of my professional career as a coach. I also had this one person in mind and I really was writing it for that specific one person who really just didn't even maybe realize that there's an option of a better life. Maybe they don't really even have the perspective to see outside of the tunnel vision that that change can really kind of put you into. So this book was written for for that person specifically, to sort of open up their eyes and their mind to to different options and different awareness about themselves. And I thought, if I can just reach that one person, it will all have been worth it. The truth is, I think a lot of us are that person from time to time, and so the intention there really has been manifested and has been able to reach a lot of people already.

Speaker 2: 19:00

So really, I think back to who I was when I first started my own transformation journey. I think back to that sort of dark place that I was in, where I felt like I didn't have the correct support that I needed, maybe that I didn't have the tools that I needed, but I just knew deep down that there had to be more for me. And I'm writing, I wrote this to her. I wrote this to that past version of myself, Because at that time I also wasn't hiring any coaches, that's for sure. But I was wondering through the aisles of the bookstores, curious about you know what sort of? What sort of ideas wasn't I aware of? What was I pretending not to know? Maybe what was out there for me that was just waiting for me to you know, put my hands on by and read. So yeah, I hope that answered the question. It was very much an external and internal intention when I was writing the book.

Speaker 1: 20:03

Yeah, and I keep thinking about when you talk about how people get like a tunnel vision and when you're in these situations and you just can't see. You know, this is it, this is the only only option. And having that extra support, even if it's just in a form of a book like this I mean, we don't think of it that way but a book with this great information can be a great sense of support for you to help, like you say, open your eyes to what else is out there. I keep thinking back to what you said earlier in your own life about why am I choosing this for myself If we, you know, if you look back on your life, we all do this. We all have repeated patterns and sometimes we have good repeated patterns and we have repeated patterns that aren't necessarily serving us in the best way or that we, just plain old, don't like and don't realize always that we're doing it to ourself, just based on the choices that we continue to make, largely based out of habit or beliefs and whatnot. So being able to have a resource like this to kind of help you break out of that tunnel, open your eyes and see what else is out there so that you can make different choices for yourself.

Speaker 1: 21:11

It's very empowering because a lot of times you know it's really easy to slip into victim mode. I mean holy cats like I'm there all the time, and the more work that you do with this, the easier you'll catch you, quicker you'll catch yourself when you go into victim mode like, oh right, hold on. Yes, this happened. Yes, I don't like it. Okay, I can pour me for a little bit, like, oh, I'm so poor me, and my life's terrible, but then have that realization that I am responsible for me, nobody else's, but that means I can get myself out of it too. I can make different choices, but it's hard to know how when you're just kind of getting started with that. So what a great, wonderful resource that you have for us here.

Speaker 1: 21:51

In this book. I have read something that you have mentioned about true transformation and how true transformation is layered, and I thought that was really really important for people to realize, because we live in a society of quick fixes and fast action, action whatever, and I just feel like I'm not the only one who's going to be able to do this. I'm not the only one who's going to be able to do this. I'm not the only one who's going to be able to do this Before I kind of go into that.

Speaker 2: 22:31

I love what you were saying about. You know, we're almost just one choice away from taking back responsibility of our own lives, and something I like to say a lot is awareness just creates choices. So awareness is that first step of showing you that you are in the driver's seat, that there are a few different paths that you can take. So the book really does serve as a way to sort of expand your awareness so that you can make different choices and that you know the options that are in front of you and with that, you know. Back to this question. You're asking about the layered nature of transformation and change. I think about and maybe this is, you know, another story that your audience can sort of try on for themselves when I was in the midst of my big change and this was about seven, maybe eight years ago now I was getting a divorce and I remember thinking how did I get here? That was such a big question for me, and so, even though I was making a front, facing change, like leaving the marriage that I was in, there was also this sort of backward facing how did I get here? What led me here to begin with. And so what I began to find was what other patterns am I seeing in my own life where I've sort of given up? I've sort of given up my own wants, needs to play a supporting role in other people's lives? I began to think about my friendships. I began to think about my family. I began to think all the way back till I was four years old and the divorce my own parents were going through, and the way that I had to emotionally support my mother through that at a very young age, and sort of learning where I even got that belief that I had to forego my own wants and needs for other people's. And so I began to sort of piece together this long journey that I had been through in life. And then I began to look forward as well of okay, even though I'm getting a divorce right now, how do I make sure that this doesn't continue happening? Going forward, what new decisions do I have to be making if I don't wanna see this happening as a cycle over and over again? How does it look for me to actually start choosing myself? What does what do I even want?

Speaker 2: 25:04

So there was also there was forward, backward and inward as well that I was having to go with my questioning and I think one of my favorite quotes is our world is made significant by the courage of our questions and the depth of our answers, and that's Carl Sagan who said that, and I really think that that's where the magic happens, is when we can ask ourselves better questions instead of why is this happening to me, why does this always happen to me? That's a question you'll get a lot when you're feeling stuck. Rather than asking that, maybe asking how did I get here, what choices did I make that contributed to this misery or this sense of struggle perpetuating in my life, and what options do I have going forward? So so many layers.

Speaker 2: 25:57

And I really uncovered a lot through that process about how I was getting in my own way, how I was certainly in the driver's seat, like we're saying, realizing that I was responsible for all of this.

Speaker 2: 26:12

And although there was sort of a backward facing exploration going on where I looked at my history and I could point out instances in time and maybe even people in my life that impacted the way that I understood my own sense of direction in life, I still was responsible for it in the here and now.

Speaker 2: 26:34

And so that backward facing, you know, part of the journey was only helpful in making me realize the actual power that I had over my life presently and going forward. I think you get into new relationships. You know I'm remarried, I have new friendships, I have this new career as a coach as a result, and I'm still always asking myself what do I need in the here and now? What is aligned with my values? What vision do I wanna see for my own life? And so constantly checking myself, making sure I'm taking responsibility for my life and the different iterations that are coming up. You know we always are gonna be evolving. I'm always gonna be going through a new transformation and change, and so making sure that I'm aligning with my integrity even as I move forward and as I make new plans and new connections for myself.

Speaker 1: 27:33

Oh yeah that's beautiful.

Speaker 1: 27:36

As you were talking this time, I was wondering. Now I'm springing this question on you. So, yeah, I'm wondering if now everybody should first of all go buy this book. It's called the Integrity Sessions. You can get it on Amazon. I'll put a link for everything in the show notes here. But I'm wondering for people that are listening and maybe even the book isn't accessible to them this hot second. Maybe you know they're gonna have to wait a few months before they can buy it or whatever. But if somebody is in a situation where they're feeling that stuck feeling and they're just they know that they need to make a change or they're going through this change, do you have a favorite strategy, realizing that there's no one size fits all and I'm sure there's gobs of them in your book but do you have a strategy that you could share with somebody that right now today that's listening Good, after this podcast is done, could stop and kind of try to kind of help guide themselves to what they need to do?

Speaker 2: 28:33

Yeah, absolutely. I love that question and I think what the answer for that would be to sit down with a piece of paper and a pen or some kind of note taking device and start with the question what am I feeling around the situation if? If you're feeling stuck, maybe in career relationship, ask yourself what the feelings are that are coming up. And sometimes that can be a challenge in and of itself because we're not necessarily taught how to name our feelings in school. I think maybe they're doing that these days in certain schools, which is amazing. But you know, when I, when I was going through school, I didn't know how to name what frustration was, or what irritability was, or anger. Those were all feelings that were kind of danced around and focus. The focus was on like joy and happiness and sort of those quote unquote positive emotions.

Speaker 2: 29:28

So start naming your feelings and you can look up online this, this really amazing tool that I like to use with people who have trouble naming their feelings. It's called the wheel of emotion and it has all kinds of different terms that you can point to with their corresponding root emotion. Meaning if you're feeling frustrated, the root of that emotion is maybe hurt. Or if you're feeling sad, maybe the root is hurt. Or if you're feeling nervous, maybe the root is excitement or joy. So really being able to identify those emotions is the first piece, once you have some kind of acknowledgement of self, because the whole point of this is to connect you back to yourself, connect you back to your truth. That's how you get unstuck, that's how you find your way, is by tapping into that wisdom that's within you, that already knows. And the naming of the emotions is the first piece.

Speaker 2: 30:33

And then I would ask why am I still choosing this situation for myself?

Speaker 2: 30:39

So again, you know, there's nothing wrong with any of your emotions, but there is a choice that you have within, however you're feeling, and you have to ask yourself if I'm always feeling frustrated, if I'm always feeling burnt out, why am I still choosing that?

Speaker 2: 31:02

And you can start to find some different answers there too. Another question that I would maybe ask yourself is what am I pretending not to know? So sometimes we can deny ourselves the truth for so long that we start seriously actually lying to ourselves about it. And when we ask ourselves, what am I pretending not to know? It's almost tip of my tongue, like right there, that's the answer, and that can often be a really quick turnaround for someone that feels stuck and the answers that we find may be unsettling, like, oh, I need to actually leave my job, or oh, I need to actually ask for a raise, or you know, whatever that uncomfortable thing that we're avoiding by pretending not to know that truth. That'll be your answer there, and so the work is to actually then tend to whatever that truth is, but that can be a really powerful question.

Speaker 1: 32:00

Yeah, I love those questions. I just wrote them all down. If you didn't Not making a grocery list over here, wrote all those down and I think it's interesting. I have a lot of people that have been on the podcast I know I've talked about it too that talk about the importance of feeling your feelings, and that is important. I mean no question there. But you, I think, are the first person that I have had on the show that has talked about the importance of being able to name those feelings.

Speaker 1: 32:26

Because you know and you're right, it's not something that I was not taught how to tell the difference between, you know, frustration versus angry, versus irritable, versus whatever. I mean. Sometimes that can be hard, but then sometimes when you do, when you pinpoint it, you're like, oh, actually, I just I know I feel mad or whatever, but when you can shift it from mad to you know, irritated or resentful, that kind of gives you a little more direction as to what's going on if you're actually trying to make a change. Sometimes you know feeling your feelings. We just recently have had someone we had a conversation about. You know, if you sit with them and don't feed them, you let them pass through your body. They only last about 90 seconds, and that's true, that's great.

Speaker 1: 33:13

But if you have something that's a repeated pattern and you're trying to make a change, you know, just allow your. All you're going to be doing is just constantly allowing those same emotions. Like here we are again, it's five o'clock. I'm feeling the same way again, because the same thing happened, and it happened yesterday and it's going to happen tomorrow. So if you want to stop that, you're going to be able need to be able to get into it a little bit more and identify a little more of what's going on if you want to be able to make a change. And I like that idea of being able to specifically identify exactly what those emotions are. So I'm going to look up that wheel of emotion I had.

Speaker 2: 33:45

That's not something that I'm familiar with, so Google here I can, yeah, and I think it also helps with when you're naming them, like you say. It helps with creating some distance between the emotion and you. And so, obviously, feelings are a lived experience. They're you know, they're visceral, so sometimes when we're in that stuck feeling, it can overtake us a bit. So having it written down in front of you and starting to track what's going on, that's when you become your own coach. That's when you see yourself from the outside and say, every morning, before I go to work, I feel anxious. Why is that? Why is this feeling continuing to show up for me? And so, instead of it just being like I am anxious all the time, you start to take control in, just in this exercise, which feels really confronting and good at the same time. That creating that distance is important when it comes to being able to get yourself out of situations rather than just sort of have that cloud looming over you all the time.

Speaker 1: 34:53

Yeah, I agree with that. I've talked, I feel like, fairly recently. I feel like I'm repeating myself on these podcasts. That's important.

Speaker 1: 35:01

I feel like it's so easy to see other people and other people's problems. So, especially if they're not like super close to you, just kind of close to you, you can kind of see the whole picture and go, oh well, obviously they're having that issue because, look at this like this, you know you can just see the whatever happening. But when it comes to your own life, it's just so much harder because you're experiencing it from a different perspective. So I think that these, you know, questions are really good at, like you say, distancing yourself. That's going to help you be able to see, see the whole picture and then be able to move forward. So that's extremely, extremely helpful. I think that's really great advice. I have one more, I guess, poll for more advice from you. I have a question of the month that I've been asking and all of my guests, and my question of the month is what's one thing you wish everyone on the planet would do in regards to their own well-being Other than buy this book, which we'll?

Speaker 2: 36:05

all do that. But then what? Well, I think that I mean, it's kind of funny that we kind of ended on talking about feelings and acknowledging feelings. That is the thing. That's the thing is acknowledging your emotional state.

Speaker 2: 36:29

I think that there are so many emotions that can come up for us throughout our days, throughout our lives, and there's so much wisdom in them if you kind of just hold space for them. I think about how much my clients and I talk about just their emotions for much of our sessions sometimes. What's coming up for you now? What are you feeling here? And then from that we can use that as a teacher of well, it seems like there's a pattern here that's showing up for you. It seems like you're always feeling this way around this person. What can we do differently here?

Speaker 2: 37:08

And I think that a lot of times in our society there is no space for emotions. We have to show up to work, we have to do the hard things, we have to sort of suck it up and get stuff done. And I get that. I own my own business. I certainly can't be crying all the time when I'm on session with a client. If something hard's going on in my life, so it's learning how to also navigate that really colorful spectrum of emotions that we have, while also figuring out how to be present for the things that are also a priority in our lives. And the more we can tap into those feelings, the more we can process them more easily, quickly find answers that are more readily available to us. We are also able to connect with others more deeply when we have compassion for our emotions and we're allowing ourselves to feel. You know, we don't look at people like they're weird when they're crying and we don't apologize when we have to take a pause and think about something a little longer because we're feeling overwhelmed or what have you.

Speaker 2: 38:17

So I think that the best thing that you can do for yourself, and the thing that I wish everyone would do more, is actually take a moment to say it's okay to feel that right now, that makes sense, that I'm feeling that right now. Who wouldn't feel that right now? You know? So, to be able to just show so much more compassion for ourselves in those moments, even if we're feeling joy, I feel like joy is something that actually is one of the most vulnerable feelings.

Speaker 2: 38:49

To say that we're feeling that we're often afraid to celebrate, we're afraid to say we've reached some level of achievement and of self pride in our lives. Especially for people who have been intuitively disempowered and are used to sort of murdering themselves, I think saying that I'm proud of me is like the scariest thing to say. It can feel the most self serving and, you know, self consumed. So to be able to even identify that emotion and say I'm going to live in that for now and give myself that is just such a powerful practice. So feel your feelings. They're not your enemy. They are there for you, they make you human and they help you connect with everything around you more deeply.

Speaker 1: 39:34

Yeah, and I like that. You say that it's a practice too, and you mentioned this earlier. But you know, the more you tap into this, the easier it's going to be, the more you're going to recognize those feelings. You're going to, you know, just be able to do this whole process a little bit more swiftly and find your answers that you're looking for a little bit more easily if you keep having the awareness on it and keep trying and keep doing it. So love that. I'm with you. I'm okay if everybody on the planet would do that, In fact, everybody that's listening right now. Take a hot second, as we're wrapping up here, and just ask yourself how you are feeling right now. I mean, even if it's, you know, you don't have a strong emotion because you've just been listening to a podcast, or maybe this podcast stirred up some emotions for you. Where do you feel it in your body? What is the emotion? And then go Google that wheel of emotion here in a second like.

Speaker 1: 40:28

I'm going to do and see if you can figure the root cause and just get curious with it. That's really interesting. So we'll, we'll all do that, and if we all do it, we'll. We'll be helping the planet a little little piece at a time here. Absolutely Leah. If people are interested in learning more about you and taking a look at this book, where can they find you?

Speaker 2: 40:51

Yeah, so you can find me online. My website is liferemadecom. I'm also pretty active on Instagram. My handle is liyae morris and I'm also available on Facebook not as much, but typically just website and Instagram are great ways to get a hold of me. Like you said, my books on Amazon. It's also on my website as well, so yeah.

Speaker 1: 41:19

Cool. Well, I will be sure to put those links in the show notes. And, leah, thank you so much for being on today. Thanks, mindy, this was really fun, awesome, and everybody that is listening. I hope you are having a fantastic day and I will catch you on the next one. Thanks for today, friends, if you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to subscribe or, even better, leave a review and let me know what resonated with you the most. The more you tell me what you love, the better I'm able to create future episodes with even better content. I'm sending you so much love and light. I'll see you in the next episode.