E28: 9 Mistakes Beginner Submissives Make Time and Again (aka How to Protect Yourself)

Discovering the BDSM world as a beginner submissive can be incredibly exciting, but it can also lead to repeated mistakes and take its emotional toll on you. In this episode of Conversations with a Dom, we discuss beginner subs' common mistakes and how to avoid them. Our conversation involves everything you need to know about BDSM, including creating a sex menu, understanding terminology, finding a dominant, and avoiding people who might take advantage of you. 

The discussion emphasizes the importance of taking time and sense-checking your journey to avoid sub-frenzy. We look at how communication, negotiations, and defining core desires are crucial in creating a successful dynamic. We discuss the importance of developing a support community and attending kinky events to connect with like-minded people and learn new skills. 

Join us as we celebrate progress and growth on the kinky journey while being kind to ourselves.

Topics Discussed

• Mistakes beginner submissives make repeatedly.
• How to avoid sub-frenzy and take things slow and steady.
• Developing communication skills and the importance of negotiations between the sub and Dominant.
• Identifying red flags and looking out for your safety.
• How to define core desires, create a sex menu and develop a supportive community.
• The importance of community and interacting with like-minded people.
• Society's changing views on normal sexual behaviour.
• The Art of Submission course designed for beginner submissives.