- Dating is a trap. 0:02
- Dating is a trap. If you are pursuing your calling or the purpose of why you were placed on earth, you will find your husband.
- We need to make sure that we can date with our mind, heart, spirit, and entire being.
- Men with mental issues will pacify themselves with different women. One man said he couldn't get around to the same woman more than once in one day.
- The reason why we're perishing. 7:16
- Having sex and not being married is spiritual warfare.
- The man that god curses, no man can bless, and the man that God blesses, no one can curse.
- Not paying the tithe and offering is the biggest curse that you could have on your life. It will leave you bankrupt.
- Tithing needs to go before paying the rent. 14:31
- The city came and impounded the car she had just finished paying off earlier that year because the registration on the car was suspended.
- Being with a man who is not rooted in the bible is not the same as being with someone who isn't rooted in love.
- The Bible says that the spirit is the mind and the mind is the law of the spirit.
- The gift of the calling and the calling can never be withdrawn, but that doesn't mean you'll live it up.
- Don't be a lover of meat. 21:34
- Don't love meat, fermented drinks, liquor, wine, sugar, etc. Having too much of anything shrinks neurons and diminishes life.
- If you love god, you will follow his instructions, or you'll follow my commands, because these commands cannot be withdrawn.
- Spiritual discernment is to be able to see with your mind's eye.
- How to test God out. 27:06
- There is a story in the bible of Gideon, god calling him out to do something to go into battle or something like that.
- It was the first time he had ever read that scripture.
- The single mom is the modern-day widow and the orphan.
- The never-ending cycle of expenses that comes with a new school year, and how to deal with it instead of rushing to fix it.
- Seek first the kingdom of heaven.
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Well, today I felt like it would be a good time to talk about when to start dating. This one's a doozy. Because you think oh you know, my kids need dad. Guys, I have to tell you if I can save you from anything. If you want to save yourself a lot of heartache. Please take my advice. Don't date. Dating is a trap. Dating is a trap. But I don't mean like don't ever date. You know, that's not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is if you are pursuing your cause, calling, if you're pursuing the purpose as to why, you know, God placed you on earth and you're having some iffy situation, you don't know really what to do, or maybe you do know what to do, and you're already there. And you're already pursuing it. If you're in pursuit, your husband is going to find you. The one thing that you don't want is to find your husband in a place of lack because if you find your husband in a place of lack, what you're inevitably doing is you will prolong your survival season and we don't have time for that, okay? You were in survival, maybe you're still in survival, and you just want to get up out of it. You want to get about a debt. You want to get up out of, you know, this job that's barely paying you enough to even you know, make ends meet. You're living paycheck to paycheck. Now the car messed up. Now you try to figure out how you're going to do that. You got a ticket, and they're, you know, suspending your registration or your license and you have all of these financial issues, yet you're trying to date. Does that make sense? Right, make it make sense, right? So for us, we can't be doing all that. We need to make sure that we can date with our minds, heart, and spirit. And it's all the same thing. Right with our entire being and if we're not already walking in our purpose, what you're gonna end up finding is another guy who is also walking in lack who isn't living out his purpose or is living out his purpose, but he's still working out some of the kinks and if he's still working out some of the kinks, and he doesn't have money coming in. This is a guy who's living on survival. So the relationship isn't going to be as great because now a lot of how he's feeling, you know, guys, a man's identity is wrapped in his ability to provide and if he is unable to provide he'll blame you. If he doesn't blame you, he will have issues with depression and also blame you for other things. You have to understand that a lack of wealth is spiritual warfare or a mental issue. I know you don't want to hear it like that, but I have to break it down to what it is. If your lack of wealth is spiritual warfare or a mental issue. There's an issue happening within the mind and it's not going to help if you continue to date this guy, okay? It's not gonna help if you try to date a guy like the one that I'm mentioning. And you're also trying to pursue your dreams. Why? Because you're gonna have to coddle him. You're gonna have to baby him. You will have to if you have children, tack this one baby man child, along with the rest of your children. Okay, and he no longer uses babies and pacifiers and, you know, bottles. He uses liquor. He uses cigarettes. He uses marijuana, and occasionally maybe will snort coke or occasionally lace his wheat up, or will occasionally pop some pills. Or another pacifier that I've seen. Men with mental issues use women. And a man will pacify himself with different women I once heard a man tell me I cannot get around to the same woman more than once in that one day. It was a belief that he had and I know for a fact that this was a cause of his mommy issues. Mommy issues will leave a man messed up and then you're dealing with the consequences of it and his finances will show that he is incapable of going the extra mile. Why? Because he needs him to mentally keep going. He needs to he needs to get his drink on. He has to get his pack of cigarettes or tobacco. Right some guy rolling he has to get his you know medicine DK quote unquote, marijuana. Some guys use coke. That's even worse. Because of coke addiction, forget about it. And then or some guys, you know pot Molly's some guys beyond Lena that's even worse. Liquor and cough syrup. Jesus. You guys seriously. Come on. Come on. Let's talk about it. Because the reason why we're perishing is because people have a lack of knowledge. And nobody is talking about it nobody wants to talk about it. Because it's all about what you have. That's working. And you don't realize it's not working until someone puts a mirror to your face and tells you I've been there. I've done that. And no, that's not going to work for you. This is what's going to do for you instead. So if you're having issues with our guy, don't do not. If you're having issues with your finances, do not introduce a guy into your life. This is not somebody oh and then you want to tell him your whole sob story. Don't do that. Don't do that. You're not a puppy begging. And if you are under the misconception that you need to have a sex buddy to even make it guys like you have an edge. You need to fast because having sex is spiritual. Warfare. What does that mean spiritual warfare? If you are having sex, and you're not married, that is what's causing your poverty. That's what's causing your poverty because God is the spirit of wealth. God is the spirit of wealth. The Streets of Heaven are not made out of asphalt. The Streets of Heaven are made out of gold the earth is the Lord's and the fullness thereof. Okay, he owns cattle cattle on 1000 hills. That's wealth. To own an animal you know how much an animal is is almost as much as a car or a horse. Forget about it. And for us to attract God and for us to you know get God's favor because one thing about it is the man that God curses no man can bless and the man that God blesses no man can curse and people be like, Man what is going on? I have a curse on my life.
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Someone's do witchcraft on me. No Boo nobody's doing witchcraft on you except you. You're not following the things that the Bible is telling you to do. And not to do. So that's what's happening in your life is a manifestation of a curse. And curses always show up in your bank account. What didn't you do? You didn't pay your tithe and offering. That's the biggest curse. Listen that is the biggest curse that you could have on your life. That is the biggest curse you could have on your life. It'll leave you so bankrupt. Owing God. Let me tell you what happened to me. So there's a scripture in the Bible that says to give to put a 10th of your earnings of your first fruit, your firstborn, your first fruit, right so that is when you get your paycheck on Friday, Thursday, whatever day you get paid. Then you shave off the top 10% Okay. Meaning put them first, right? And then you make sure that you pay that and tithe and offer what the preacher does with it. none of your concern, you know, because your heart posture was to give it to God. And if he's not doing the right thing, then the blood is on his head, his head, not on yours. Okay, so then you paying the tithe and offering, okay? And then the Bible says that if whoever does this, he says I will put out a blessing that you won't be able to hold. Okay. So for him to put out a blessing that you won't be able to hold. That's an overflow. That's an overflow. You know how much money you have to have for you not to be living paycheck. To paycheck, and be able to give to other people on top of paying your tithes and offerings. Can I tell you that you not paying your tithe and offering can leave you bankrupt? Because you have to understand that an employer isn't the only one who gives you money. When I first moved up to New York, I remember when I got I got some extra money back I think it was through COVID, and all of that they gave extra stimulus checks and stuff. And I would take that money and I would donate it. I would donate the 10th the 10%. I had to because I was scared, right? I have an extreme fear of God. And it's because of you know what, how he's taught me to have a fear of him and how he's taught me who he is. And so I had that fear and I gave it to tithe and offering. Okay, then when I came up to New York, there was a man who, by clockwork, every Sunday, this man would give me $200 anywhere from 100 to $200. One day I said no, no, please don't give it to me. And he said, Please don't take my blessing. Now, on the upside, and he did that for months, I'm telling you, he did that for months. Okay. And then fast forward a couple of years. years later, I got a large lump sum and I didn't pay the 10% from that large lump sum. Okay, so what ended up happening? One of my cars broke down and then I couldn't pay the insurance. I couldn't pay and then I got a ticket for having an insurance lapse. And then in New York, they suspend your registration if you don't have insurance, and for each day that you don't have insurance, they talk to you I want to say is like $12 a day. My ticket for not having insurance for a little over 30 days, came out to $490. Yeah, on top of not having the insurance on top of not being able to fix my car and then get this. The city came and impounded the car, the car that I just finished paying off. Earlier that year. They came in and impounded the car because the registration on the car was suspended. And that's why they impounded the car. Mind you that next block over there was a car whose registration hadn't been renewed since 2021. And I got penalized and I wasn't able to get my car back because I didn't have the title to the car. And after I paid it off, they didn't send me the title right away or I was in the process of moving and they did send it and I never got the title. So guess what? Guess who lost the car that I had? Just got paid off. Can I tell you what that was a result of? That was a result of sowing greed. And we don't think about it like that. Right? Not in the beginning, right? We're just thinking oh, I just don't have the money to pay the tithes, and offering no if you don't listen. That tithes and offerings need to be first before you even pay the rent. Like that's how serious it is. That's how serious it is. Your tithe and offering needs to go before paying the rent it has to be the 10 the first 10% of the first fruit and if you don't have that first 10% paid off, then you're going to experience extreme poverty. You're going to because you have to understand that God is the one who takes care of you, not your job. And I suffered. I suffered because I should have paid my tithe tithing offering. And it was a couple of $1,000 from the large lump sum that I received. And I didn't get it and I didn't pay it. So for you to be with a man, right? One that isn't rooted in Scripture isn't rooted in the Bible. And if you're a new believer, and you're just hopping over the fence, welcome. First and foremost, gotta say hello, just threw some balloons in the air for you in confetti. Hi, how are you? But if you are not with a man who's not rooted in the Bible, you have to understand that he's not rooted in love. He's not rooted in light. And that's what we're pursuing. We're pursuing our light to stay shining. And not dimming our lives. Because that's very important. When our light starts to dim. Our body starts to get sick. And that's just science. That's just science. If your cells cannot communicate with each other, that's boom for you. You know what I'm saying? That's that's sigh Inara you don't want to say an hour or so early. You're young. Okay, so for you if you want to continue on this dating journey with this man who isn't rooted. Okay, he is like I imagine a little piece of paper right? And there's a tornado and the tornado just you know, swirling him around like the cow in a twister or like the house in a twister but you if you're rooted in the word, then what ends up happening in the word meaning the Word of God, scripture, Holy Bible because this is not a religion thing. This is a spiritual law thing. The Bible says that it is the law of the Spirit, which the spirit is the mind Ephesians 423 The spirit is the mind. And if you're not rooted in the it doesn't matter. Nothing is going to be able to stop you. Even these principles work for people who don't believe in God. Why? Because God is bound by his word. And it's the law of the mind. It's the law of the mind, no matter how which way you look at it, you're going to come to the same realization of the same thing. And that's going to be the fact that it's the law of your mind and you can't get around it. You can't get around it. There's no way to get around it. You're gonna continue to experience extreme depression. Extreme issues with you know what mommy and daddy did to you back in the day or what whoever so and so did you back in the day, whatever trauma you had, you know, you're gonna keep buying all your dogs so you could have 1000 dogs in your house. You know? You don't realize the reason why you keep wanting dogs is really because all you're seeing in your mind, in your mind's eye is dogs, but you can't actively see them because you're not living in light. And since you're not living in light, there's nothing to illuminate that you have a whole bunch of doubt in your life. And the way that that translates is that it's doubt in you. So no, you don't want to be with a man who also is dealing with those things because you have to get over this hurdle.
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So what is the name of the game? The name of the game is to make sure that you find your husband within your calling. He's going to be nestled hidden in that calling. Hidden in that calling and the gift of the calling can never be withdrawn. You know what that means for you is that God is patient and he's patient your whole lifetime. Does that mean that some of the blessings? Does that mean that you're gonna continue to live in the curses that you've been living in all your life? Yes, yes, it does. Yes, it does. Absolutely. That's not going to just because the gift and the calling can never be withdrawn doesn't mean that you're just going to live it up. You know, how I manifested $5 million without a job? No, not. Because what ends up happening is if in the mind you're already that why do you think people that play the lottery, win the money and then end up being corrupt later on? Why because of the law of their mind, they're still living in the law of sin, and the law of sin is the law of lack. So for you to be able to live and the law of the mind the way that the Bible puts it, then you have to be living in love in love. That's in love for yourself. Is this going to hurt the God in me? And the God in you is your light. Okay, don't be a lover of meat. Don't be a lover of fermented drinks, any liquor, wines, don't be a lover of those things. Did you know that having too much to drink shrinks? Your neurons and it diminishes your light. The same thing for too much meat also diminishes your life. The same thing for too much sugar also diminishes your life. Having negative thoughts also shrinks your neurons How do I know all that? Because in order why would the Bible say to love the Lord your God with all of your mind heart, soul, and strength? Right and in him saying to do this, he's saying for you not to do a bunch of all these other things. So all those other things will then signify if you're doing them as signifies that you don't love God with all your mind, heart, soul, and strength. Another scripture says that if you love me, you will follow my instructions or you will follow my commands. Because these commands cannot be withdrawn. Because it's a decree, it's already in the Bible. This is a king's decree. There is no way for you to take it out. This is what he's decided and he will not repent. That's what the Bible says. So it's do or die. Right? And when you see yourself going through this demonic attack or negative mindset attack, what you need to do is you need to go back to the basics and take inventory of everything you've had in your life. Thank God for it, and then ask for more. And only think, in that state, don't think in the state of lack. The state of lack is a lie. How do I know that? Because the Bible says that Jesus paid for it all with his blood. Therefore, you have the opportunity to have everything you want. According to his well. What is the will? The will is according to the reason why you were put on this earth. Why were you put on this earth if you're trying to pursue something that you are in put on this earth to do is going to be grind time. You don't have to grind the Bible says that you don't have to do that to wake up early and to go to sleep late in vain. You don't have to do that. For you to wake up early to work and go to sleep late in vain. You're not tapping into what God says he has for your life. Because the Bible says that his yoke is easy and His burden is light. So we can't possibly have the mindset of lack and the mindset of life and abundance. I'll give it to you another way. One day I was walking and I had a vision. On my right-hand side. I saw I saw the Spirit of God I saw Christ and then on my left-hand side I saw I saw the spirit of death. Okay, so what is the spirit of life? The Spirit of Life is Christ the Spirit of death? Is that the enemy what the Bible calls Satan, what the Bible calls the devil what the Bible calls Jezebel? Okay, and so or what the Bible also calls the dog spirit. So I saw this on my left-hand side it was just a dark hooded figure. On my left-hand side, what is that? That is the left and the right hemispheres of the brain. And the right hemisphere of the brain is responsible for creative thought for holistic thought is not just one not responsible for speech. On the left-hand side, although God does speak, I have to say that and a lot of other times he'll speak to you in scripture. But you gotta be watched. You got to watch that. That's why you want to you want to have spiritual discernment. Spiritual discernment is to be able to see with your mind's eye to be able to taste with your mind's eye, to be able to smell with your mind's eye to be able to feel with your mind's eye to be able to hear with your mind's eye. Because that's your spirit. So for you to be able to tell test the spirits Bible says test the spirits, nothing wrong with that. If you want to know who it is a Socrates Test, test it, test it. And there is a story in the Bible of this guy. That God I think it was Gideon, God was calling him out to do something to go into battle or something like that. And he said, Okay, if you chose me, I'm gonna leave this feather I think it was that he lost. And I'm gonna leave this here. And if the grass is wet, and this is dry, then you're calling me. And so it happened. And then he's like, okay, okay, well, if no, I'm gonna leave this feather. And if the feathers are wet, but the grass is dry, you're calling me. And then the next thing the next day, it happened again. And so if you want to test God out, test him out. He's faithful, hated because he wants to be with you. He wants to be with you. There's a scripture in the Bible that says what have I done that makes my people not want me? And it's so sad. It was such the first time I ever read that scripture I cried, is so sad to hear us rejecting God, you know, and we don't realize that the US rejecting God is rejecting ourselves. Because that's where he lives. He lives in you, you know, and when I first found out that God was my imagination, oh my goodness. I remember. I just, it was the weirdest situation ever because I was like, Man, I'm not doing this. And I start worshipping out of nowhere, like just completely cold turkey. stop worshipping that very same second. And later on, I look at that and I think Man, why did I do that? What What was I thinking? Why did I do that? I guess I felt like it was all for naught. I don't know. But the main point is that what you want to do and what you always want to do is make sure that whatever you do you don't meet the man in luck. Because the last thing you want to do is end up having babies with this man. And then you have children in wedlock, of lack, which is just going to bring more issues, more issues in the relationship, more issues and it's all the blame game from there. He has no fault. He has listened
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in being in a relationship for 14 years, with a man who was dealing with all these issues, everything that I mean to you, everything that I mentioned to you is all the things that I had to deal with with my ex-husband and dealing with not seeing child support payments come in for years. Okay, I mean, the single mom is the modern-day widow and the orphan. Okay, the single mom and that mom's child is the modern-day, widow and orphan. Why? Because that baby daddy is spiritually dead. He is mentally dead because he's stuck in the past and nothing is his fault. everything is your fault. Okay, you don't have time for this when you're trying to pursue your dreams. And you could be more sane than him. But unfortunately, because You've stooped down to his level, and you've allowed Bad Company to corrupt your good character and your good morals. Now, you are dealing with an extreme lack. You're not just dealing with the like you already had. But now you're dealing with his lack and now you're dealing with the lack of his offspring. Because he's now helping you. The daycare. You foot that bill. The expenses. You foot that Bill whenever a new school year rolls around? Yep, you guessed it, you flip that bill. The baby gets sick or the baby gets in trouble at school. And you have to take off for work. And your bosses are not kind enough to pay you sick pay or vacation pay. In retrospect, you foot that Bill and it's a never-ending cycle. So instead of rushing to go fix something that was already broken. I suggest to you you shop well. Right. Don't get an old beat-up car with, you know, 200 miles and the 200,000 miles would be his mind. This man's mile mind has been running for decades because of the trauma of his childhood that he never got over. Now you have to deal with your trauma and his trauma and you got to figure out how you're going to heal. And now you got to heal from the trauma that he's also giving you to stay away from men in lack. Seek ye first the kingdom of heaven. Seek first look for the kingdom of heaven. Look for your your calling. Look for your purpose. Look for you to pursue your dreams and all these things will be added later on. And in the purpose of the calling because what's going to end up happening. If you don't do it this way, you will end up with a man that will completely deter you away from your dreams and distract you. And in a distraction is a dismemberment is to dismember your body. Then you're going to end up with pieces of you that you don't even recognize
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Well, guys, I hope this finds you well. That's all the time I have for today guys. Over and out.
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