Reclaiming Consciousness

The Father Wound and Money

• Alyse Bacine • Season 1 • Episode 81

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“You can love your parents more than anything in the world, you can feel more connected to them than anything in the world, and they can be the ones that hurt you the most.”

In today's solo episode, I am discussing the different impacts the father wound and the masculine energy can have, particularly when it comes to money and relationships of all sorts. Through my personal story and some of my clients' experiences, we go deep on childhood patterns, energies, and traumas and what's needed to shift and move forward, by accepting our past and not skipping on it.
 
I cannot stress enough how important it is that you seek professional guidance when deciding to dive into these matters and solving them. It's a huge but rewarding work. My contact info is below.

Some of today's HIGHLIGHTS:

(09:43) Starting to heal the Father Wound: not looking over your childhood and not skipping your family past.

  • The importance of breathwork to get to the root
  • Relationship patterns and not getting stuck
  • Working with the proper guidance

(17:03) Operating from the old paradigm:

  • Showing you what you need to shift and how to do it 
  • Understanding how to interpret your relationship with your parents

(20:10) What your relationship with your father represents and how it can influence you.
(26:23) My personal story about the Father Wound.
(37:57) Projecting feelings of insecurity to different areas of our life. Allow yourself to feel differently from what’s happening in your existence. 
 
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  • Sign up for The Metamorphosis my groundbreaking program to rapidly and efficiently clear the familial and ancestral trauma that is blocking you from claiming the life you know you were meant to live. 
  • My Accelerated Wealth Program pinpoints and transmutes trauma so that you are free to grow your business, expand your income and create the impact on the planet that you know you are meant to.
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When you are this age, ages zero to seven, you absorb the world around you, and what you have absorbed at those ages is incredibly important to look at. And so much of it is subconscious, so much of it is pre verbal, because most of what you experienced at those ages was energetic. It's really hard to separate yourself from the building blocks of who you are.

You can love your parents more than anything in the world. You can feel more connected to them than anything in the world. And they can be the ones that hurt you the most. You have to be able to hold both of those things and it be okay.

Alyse: Welcome to reclaiming consciousness. My name is Alyse Bacine, spiritual mentor, breathwork practitioner and owner, and CEO of Alyse Breathes. For many years, our consciousness has been hijacked by societal and cultural programming, religion, the media, and familial and ancestral trauma. Right now, during this epic time in history, people are waking up, realizing who they really are and reclaiming the pieces of their consciousness that they unknowingly gave away.

This podcast is an exploration of how so many spectacular humans are leading the way in exiting the matrix and reclaiming who they really are and what they're capable of. In this show, you'll meet exceptional people who are paving the way in raising conscious. And creating a new way of living on this earth.

Get ready to go deep now. Let's dive in.

Hi, everyone. Welcome back to the show. So this week I recorded a solo episode for you, around the father wound and money. And I feel like this is probably one of the most important things you can look at when it comes to receiving, when it comes to money, and just in general, the way that you receive support or the way that you receive anything. And I'm actually going to be doing more on this topic of receiving because I've received a ton of downloads around this and how the idea of receiving has actually been inverted. Like many things are, you know, I always say that everything we've been taught is backwards.

So this is another one of those things that I received. The new receiving codes and the new way of receiving in general and I'm going to be teaching about that. So stay tuned for that. But this episode, I go really deep into looking at the father wound, how you can understand your own father wound and how you can use that information to Be able to receive more, be able to make more money and really just looking at the way you're operating from wounding in certain areas and how to shift that so you can open up and receive more.

So I know you're going to love this episode. This is just that stuff that I love talking about and I could talk about all day long. So I know you're going to love it. So what do we have happening right now? So next week, I have the masterclass straight from source, which is going to be on the 27th 430, I believe we'll link that below.

But this masterclass is all around downloading offers that are divinely aligned with your soul, with your mission, with your purpose, and how to download offers regularly that are so divinely aligned that they just naturally sell. And, you know, this is something that I created. A because it just was downloaded to me, but B, I think it was kind of inspired because people are always asking me like, what's my process for creating offers or how do I create my offers?

And the answer is I don't really have a process, I just download them. So I have this really strong connection to source and connection to my guides and I'm always just receiving downloads and information about what I'm going to teach, what wants to come through me and what I'm going to create. So this masterclass is going to be part activation energy work.

We might even do some breathwork. That's been kind of popping in my mind too, and teaching on how to connect with this direct stream yourself. So I'm really excited for this. It's going to be 47 until the end of the week, well until Friday, and then after that it'll be 97. So make sure you sign up before Friday so you can get it for 47.

We'll link that below, but I just love my masterclasses, especially lately. They've been so freaking potent, and people get crazy results like just from the masterclass. So I would definitely join us for this. It's going to be really good, especially if you have a business. But even if you don't, it's just going to be such a great activation into connecting with your own creative inspiration for any aspect of your life, right?

So whether you have a business or not, I highly recommend joining because it will activate you into a new frequency. around creation and around connecting with that direct stream of creative energy that just wants to come through you and you're just gonna connect in, turn on the faucet and watch the ideas pour out.

So I'm really excited for this. You definitely want to join me for that. And then also, I am enrolling right now for the Metamorphosis Method, my Trauma Informed Breathwork Certification Program. Go back and listen to Lori's episode, Sandy's episode, because they really... You know, illustrate what it's like to be in this very unique program, because not only am I teaching you how to facilitate breath work, but I teach you how to channel energy work and to use the trauma tools that I've created to pinpoint and clear familial and ancestral trauma in your clients.

If you have a business as a coach or a healer, I highly recommend doing this certification because it will give you leverage to be able to work with your clients in such a deep and profound way. and clear core wounding in ways that you just wouldn't have before. Like everyone tells me about this program that they will never look at healing the same again and that I also showed them how to look at things in ways that they would just never even have thought of and be able to clear shift and pinpoint things in their clients that they just wouldn't have been able to before, wouldn't even have looked at things through that lens before.

So this is incredibly deep and profound and will give you tools to create shifts within your clients and within yourself that are just unparalleled and will give you the ability to move so much more quickly in your own business and with your clients. So reach out to me if this is speaking to you and we can chat about You coming in, there's also an option for an extended payment plan because I want to make it as easy as possible for as many people to say yes to this because I truly believe that these tools are the things that will really change the world because if everyone does this inner work.

We will create what I call the butterfly effect, where even if people aren't doing the work, the people that are, their frequency will be so high that it will affect everyone on the planet. And I truly believe that this is how we create the new earth. So if that's speaking to you, and you know you're someone who wants to do this work and teach it to your clients, then reach out to me so we can chat about it.

Also, just for the purposes of this episode, if you are interested in doing this deeper work around the father wound, then the two best ways to do that are either in the metamorphosis or coming into the metamorphosis method if you're interested in learning how to do it for your clients. So those are two ways to go deeper with this work because You know, I know there'll be some people that after you listen to this episode, you're like, Oh my gosh, I have to go deeper into figuring this out for myself and applying what you're talking about so that I can open up new levels of receiving new levels of wealth, new levels of money.

I mean, also accelerated wealth. you get access to the metamorphosis too. So if you have a business and you want to apply the father wound through that lens and accelerated wealth is a great place to do that too. It just really depends what your focus is. But if you know that you'd like to apply these principles around the father wound that I'm talking about, and you're just not sure.

The best way to do it, then just reach out to me and I can let you know based on what you're telling me what the best place is to do that in my world. So I know you're going to love this episode, please enjoy.

Hi everyone, welcome back to the show. So this week, I wanted to do an episode for you around the father wound and money because this is a topic that's been coming up for me and my clients. And I really feel like there's so much to say here and so much that gets overlooked when it comes to healing, money, manifestation, business, all the things, because there's so much nuance and so much gold here when we look at our relationship with the masculine, right?

And obviously, we want to look at things as far as like the balance and the symbiotic relationship between the feminine and the masculine and how these two things work together and how we can bring these things in balance when it comes to our own healing, growth, business, transformation, all the things, right?

I wanted to share a little bit of the story that occurred for me and the last couple months around my own healing on a deeper level with the father wound. And it's interesting because the deeper I go into my own journey, the less I'm making it really about. my actual father, right? Like the work that I do around healing these ideas and beliefs and programs that I took on becomes so much less about the person that my father actually is.

And I think in the beginning, when we go down this path and we realize that we have to face our relationships with our parents. And let me just say as a side note, the idea that you can grow and heal and change without looking at these relationships, I don't think that is actually real. And I'll just be quite frank.

Now, similarly or simultaneously, I don't think we need to be stuck here either. And let me just say that really clearly because I think what ends up happening for people and the things that really bother me are the fact that People can get stuck here, and this is one of the reasons why I don't love past lives or getting caught up in these stories about what happened to us and then identifying it as a reason to hold us back, right?

Same thing with astrology, same thing with human design. It all can serve us or it can hinder us based on the way that we use it. However, having said that, I do not think it is possible to skip over your childhood and get to where you want to be in life. Now, if you're not desiring to grow at all, that's a different story.

story. But if you're desiring to go past what your parents did, if you're desiring more, if you're desiring expansion, if you know that you're meant to make an impact here on the planet, if you know you're meant to heal, coach, mentor, change, if you're a paradigm shifter, a light worker, whatever it is, you know you're here to usher in the new paradigm.

You cannot skip over looking at your relationships with your parents and looking at your childhood, especially from ages zero to seven. It's just not possible. And the reason why is because when you are this age, ages zero to seven, You are like a sponge, you're malleable, you're moldable, you're like clay, you absorb the world around you.

And what you have absorbed at those ages is incredibly important to look at. And so much of it is subconscious. So much of it is pre verbal, because most of what you experienced at those ages was energetic because you didn't have the cognitive ability to formulate thoughts and sentences in your mind that were coherent enough for you to remember as an adult because you didn't have that ability yet at that age.

So much of what you absorbed is living in the subconscious mind in the form of emotions and energy. And a lot of times you will not have words for it. That's why I use breath work with everyone because it bypasses the mind. It bypasses the thoughts and it bypasses the words and it gets to you on an energetic level and it gives you access to the subconscious mind.

So this is really important to understand. And not only is it important to delve into your childhood and really understand why you keep coming up against the same things, why you keep repeating the same patterns, why you might feel stuck in certain areas, why maybe you can't get past a certain income level or maybe you have a pattern of you can make more money, but then you just spend more money and you can never get to that place of overflow or holding or wealth or whatever it is.

Or. Maybe you keep coming up against the same pattern in relationship or maybe you continue to attract the same kind of person or you get into the same dynamic or you come up against the same challenge with somebody or maybe it's around your kids, whatever it is. It has to be looked at through the lens of your childhood in order for you to really get momentum with it.

And again, it's not about getting stuck. It's not about saying, Oh, this happened to me. So that means that I can't do A, B and C. That's not what this is. It's not about reliving it over and over again and saying, here I am again, I'm coming up against the same thing and kind of be in victim mode about it.

No, it's about having the awareness that. This is the old operating system, and when I notice that I'm in it, because I have the awareness, I'm going to choose something different. And then it becomes a practice of every single day, every time you notice that you're going into the old operating system that you took on from your family, you choose out of it.

And this is the work. And this is not easy work. And this is something that you need support around because no one can do this on your own because you're in it. It's like when I talk about birth story, it's like so much of the stuff that happened during our birth or leading up to our birth while we were developing the womb is the energetics from which you were built.

So it's really hard to separate yourself from the building blocks of who you are. So you need someone else to show you, Hey, look at these energetics that you're playing out. Look at this energy of lack and scarcity or fear of something horrible happening that you're projecting onto the world. Look at that.

Because you won't know because it's how you're used to operating. So it's really important to get support around this. Which is what I support my clients in doing. So anyway, I just wanted to preface this with that, with this, the importance of looking at your journey through the lens of the patterns and energies that you absorb during childhood.

And if you're not sure what those are, or if you think you know what those are, but you're still not getting the results you desire, chances are there's more for you to look at, or there's a different way for you to look at it for you to move forward. So I just want to make sure that I make that really clear to everyone.

Because this is the lens through which I look at things. And that's why my clients and myself have gotten such powerful results and have moved so quickly is because we look at things through this lens, right? And again, it's not about getting stuck there, but it's about operating from the awareness of what could potentially come up at each new level of growth, and then noticing it when it's happening so that you can consciously shift it.

Because at the end of the day, I can show you exactly what it is that you need to shift and exactly how to shift it, but it's going to be up to you in each moment to shift it and to have the awareness to know when you're operating from the old operating system, the old paradigm, whatever that is for you, whether it's What I like to call wearing your not good enough goggles, or being afraid of being rejected, or afraid of being abandoned, or feeling like you're not enough, feeling overly worried about everyone else, the hyper vigilance thing, when you came from a family of People that were narcissistic or hypercritical, or you felt overly aware of how everybody was responding to you because you didn't want to make someone mad or upset.

There's all these really common things that we don't even realize are part of our operating system until we look at. our childhood, and we look at the relationships we had with our parents, the relationships that they had with each other, the general energy in your household, and then also the beliefs that you internalized about yourself and the world based on what you witnessed by your parents in childhood.

So again, It's not even necessarily always about their relationship with you. It's also just about what you witnessed, how you witness them navigate the world, how you witness them relate to themselves. And you take that on as the model of how to relate to yourself. So a lot of times people will say to me, My mom was very supportive or I had a good relationship with her and I'm like, okay, great, which also there's usually stuff underneath of that.

But the other piece of it is, okay, you also took on her thoughts about herself and implemented them as your thoughts about yourself on some level until you get conscious of it and shift it. So these are really just important things to have in your awareness. And really be conscious of and look at as you move forward on your journey because they will come up as you decide that you're going to expand, whether or not that means starting a business, making more money, evolving in your career.

relationships. I mean, relationships are the best way in the world to heal this stuff. You guys, you have heard me talk about this nonstop all the time and given you examples from my own life, my own relationship of how I projected my relationship with my mother onto my husband and how I've really shifted that and I have a completely different relationship with him now.

But we do these things unconsciously without realizing it until we get conscious of it and Okay, so today I really want to focus on the father energy. And one of the things I do with everybody, whether you're in the metamorphosis, or you work with me privately, or you're in Accelerated Wealth, anything you're doing with me long term, we are looking at these relationships, right?

Because this is how you grow. So when you look at your relationship with your father, which ultimately is the relationship with the masculine, that usually is going to represent safety, security, being provided for, feeling loved, feeling held, feeling Nurtured, feeling like you could lean in on something, right?

That's the energy of the masculine. It's like a container that holds you, right? And it's somewhere where you feel completely safe, like everything is taken care of, and you can really just exhale. And that's the father energy, right? That's ultimately what you would want from the masculine. Whatever you didn't receive from your father, that's going to be some kind of wound, right?

That's going to be some kind of void. Whether it was that he wasn't always there for you, or he wasn't emotionally available, or even something like you didn't feel like he saw you. Like maybe he was there, maybe he was present, but You didn't have the connection that you desired. You didn't feel like he really could see who you truly were.

And then a lot of times what happens is we morph ourselves into the version of us that we think we need to be in order to receive his love. And I've had a lot of clients share with me that because they felt like they had to work so hard for their father's love or because they felt like they had to twist themselves in a pretzel in order to get his love, that now they associate receiving with working really hard.

I had a client say to me today, I feel uncomfortable because my business has become so easy. And I said to her, why is that uncomfortable? And you know, we have been working this week in Accelerated Wealth and Mastermind. We had all been working this week on the father wound and I'll explain why in a minute.

But she said, you know, I had to work really hard to get love from my father. So now I feel like if I don't work hard in my business, then something's wrong, right? I'm not going to receive what I desire. I'm not going to receive the clients. I'm not going to receive the money. Because I'm not working hard.

And of course, in our businesses, we have to put in effort and we have to grow and we have to put the time and energy into it. But as far as like the work goes, like what you're doing with clients, that usually gets easier and easier. Not only because you get better and better at it but because it also just becomes more effortless as you build to a place where you are scaling to having more group programs, you're only working privately with people that you really love.

So it does get to be easier and easier. And I said to her like, what you're doing with clients gets to be easy. It gets to be fun. And this is a complete paradigm shift because she was projecting her wounding with her father onto her business. And she was expecting it to be difficult for her to receive money, which we also associate with love.

It's all connected. And a lot of times, whatever we associate with that masculine energy is what we're going to project onto money, which is what we're going to project onto our businesses. So she was projecting this idea that she had to work really hard in order to receive. So I was talking to her before about expanding her business and growing it and she's like, it just feels like it's going to be way too hard.

And I'm like, where is this coming from, right? And when we dug a little bit deeper, we realized that it was actually because she was associating the the wounding that she had around her father to her business and she was projecting that wound onto her business, believing that it was going to be hard when that's not actually the case, right?

Of course, it can be hard at times because we're challenging ourselves to expand into new versions of ourselves. But it doesn't have to be hard in the sense that you have to work really hard in order to receive. In fact, you don't have to do anything to receive, you just have to be yourself. And you just have to be open, and we're receiving all the time, right?

When you think about it, you're always receiving. You breathe in and you breathe out, you're receiving air, right? You're always receiving money, love, safety, connection. It's just about perceiving the world in that way, and we're just not used to that. Because a lot of us are associating receiving with something painful.

Think about your first experience with receiving. Think about your first experience with having a caretaker give you love or connection or food. What was that like? And you might not remember, but you might have a sense of what that energy was. Maybe your mom was not in a good emotional place when you were born.

Maybe she had a million other kids she was looking after. Or maybe she just was depressed or emotionally unavailable or afraid. What might you be assuming? Associating with receiving in general because our first ideas of receiving are usually around when we received love or connection from our caregivers at first, and even if they were there for you, you know, like my parents were super happy to have me.

They were there for me, they loved me. They did everything parents should do. However, they were traumatized. They had their own ideas about the world that they were projecting onto me. And I took that on. So even though they had the best of intentions and they were amazing parents, there was still so many ideas and beliefs about the world.

trauma, lack, scarcity, ancestral trauma that I took on that I've had to work through. So I'm going to tell you a little story about the father wound because for me, and you guys have probably all heard me share this before, but when I first started my business, I had a lot of ancestral trauma come up from my father's side.

And a lot of it was around. failure, feeling like a failure, and fear of failure. And I think it went long down his lineage. My dad himself was a, my dad was a really good athlete. He was a semi pro baseball player. Baseball was like his life, his passion. And he didn't make it, obviously, as a baseball player, but I think that was the one thing that he really loved and really wanted to do and ultimately felt like a failure.

And then going back through the ancestral lines, there was a whole lineage of that, which I was shown in various ways that came up for me when I. started my business, right? Because I, when I started my business, it was like, I knew that I was meant to do this, but I would have these overwhelming feelings of being afraid of failing or feeling like I was going to ultimately fail or not even believing that I could do it.

And it was this really weird feeling because on one level, I knew that's what I was meant to do, but I was having these overwhelming feelings of feeling like I was ultimately going to fail. And I realized that after using the tools that I've created and using the breathwork and the trauma tools, I realized that those feelings were not even mine, they were passed down to me through my father's lineage.

So, you know, as I cleared that, and that's something now that I rarely come up against, but it had to be cleared and healed as I moved forward in my business, especially in the beginning. And since that time, which was very much earlier on in my business, probably early 2021 January. But since that time, I really haven't had too much other stuff come up around the father wound.

And then in the past few months, it's been really interesting because I work with multiple different affirmations. And my friend, Nicole, who was on the podcast, she has all these different affirmations that she uses with her clients. And one of them I love so much. It's so simple, but it's so good. It's just, it's working, right?

So it's this affirmation, it's working. And I was like, I love this affirmation. I'm going to use that. So I started working with it when this is probably back in like April or something. I started working with it. And then after a couple months. I started to have so many awarenesses of the ways that I was always looking for what wasn't working, not only in my business, but in my life.

And I think this is something that comes up for a lot of people because I think this is something that's in the collective consciousness. And it's this ego human thing where we're always looking for the problem. So as I was working with that affirmation, I was like, Wow, this is something that I didn't even realize I was doing.

And it's also one of those things where it's my greatest superpower, too, because I'm so good at pinpointing what the wound is, right? That's my thing is pinpointing wounding and shifting it, right? So it's kind of part of what I do, but it was also something that I was using to my disadvantage. So I was like, wow, this is really interesting.

And I was consciously shifting my energy into looking for what was working instead of looking for what wasn't working. And then I had this huge epiphany moment. Where my father sent me a text message and my parents happen to be on vacation and their flight was canceled and they were having all of these issues with getting home.

And my father sent me this text message. And by the way, this is nothing against him. This is totally my own process, but he sent me this text message. And it was basically like a list of everything that went wrong on their trip. And I had this huge epiphany moment where I was like, Oh my gosh, this is my father's consciousness.

This is his energy. This idea of looking for what's not working. Or having this energy, perceiving the world through this energy of nothing going right, of nothing going his favor, of everything being difficult. That's really what it is. Everything being difficult and nothing working. And I was like, holy shit, this is my father's energy.

And I realized that I was still carrying it. And then I had this like series of really... synchronistic events where right after I had that realization, I went to my acupuncturist and she's so good. She was able to see this deep father wounding that was wanting to be healed in my energy field. So I healed it through the acupuncture and I shifted it, really shifted it in a big way and really let it go through all of the various tools that I have to let it go.

And of course I'm still shifting it because it's a process. But what I realized is I was actually projecting this energy of nothing is working and everything is difficult onto many areas of my life. And of course, obviously, it's something that has gotten better over the years as I've grown my business, but I was able to really identify it at its core and shift it in a very big way.

And then I really started reflecting on the father wound in general. and how that plays out in our businesses. And I offered up to my ladies in Accelerated Wealth and Mastermind. I said, I want to invite everybody to do the father breathwork in the metamorphosis because when you're in Accelerated Wealth and Mastermind, you have access to all the metamorphosis tools.

And one of them is a breathwork session and a whole module around clearing the father wound. And I said, I really want to invite everyone to do this because Much of the wounding that we have around our father, whether it's the ways we've taken on his consciousness, whether it's the relationship that we had with him, and another thing that came up that I just want to mention too before I go into that is, and I'm sure a lot of people can relate to this, and again, this is nothing against my father, he's a great person, but the way that I.

felt like I needed to become what he wanted me to be in order to receive love, right? And this was something that came up for me as well. And I think this is something that comes up for people in business that I see all the time, is where do you think you have to be a different version of yourself? self in order for your business to be successful or in order to get clients or in order for you to make money, right?

Where you projecting this idea that you have to somehow be different than who you are, or you somehow have to change who you are in order to get it what it is that you want. And it was really interesting because I was reflecting on that with myself and how my father taught me how to be an amazing softball player and I used to practice every day and I was super disciplined.

And in some ways, I'm so grateful for that because I feel like it gave me this level of discipline and I really understood what it meant to work really hard at something to achieve something in a, from a very young age. However, I also felt like that's what I needed to do to receive his love. So it's like these polarities that happen and I think this is really important to understand.

Is that when we go through this process of healing and looking at our relationships with our parents, we have to be able to hold two perspectives at the same time. For the example I just gave with my dad, I'm incredibly grateful that he coached me to be an amazing softball player and Mamie practice in the garage every morning when I was growing up before school, and I learned the value of being dedicated to something and I learned the value of.

making myself do something I didn't want to do in order to create a result. And at the same time, I felt like I needed to do that in order to receive his love, which was part of the wounding. But there's also a gift in that, right? And that is one of the biggest things that I think people don't understand about healing is I don't want to have to go into all of the stuff that happened in my childhood because I don't want to make my parents wrong.

I don't want to villainize them. But it's about rising into this level of spiritual and emotional maturity where you can handle two perspectives at the same time because you can love your parents more than anything in the world. You can feel more connected to them than anything in the world, and they can be the ones that hurt you the most.

You have to be able to hold both of those things and it'd be okay. So then I invited the women in Accelerated Wealth and Mastermind to, to look at the father wound and to look at the ways that they may be projecting their own father wounds onto their businesses, because the way that we feel safe, the way that we feel connected, the way we feel provided for.

is the father, is the masculine, and we tend to project whatever wounding that is, whatever lack that is, whatever that is, onto the business until we get conscious of it and shift it. It was life changing for everyone, I must say. I'm not going to share everyone's processes because I'm going to leave that private for them.

But everybody changed the way they were viewing their businesses. And it also resulted in everyone having these huge shifts, getting more clients, making more money. One of my ladies started getting on more podcasts. Like, It just changes everything. Once you realize that you are actually projecting this wounding onto your business without realizing it, whether it's just expecting to not be supported, expecting something bad to happen, expecting to be abandoned, rejected, expecting to just not feel safe or supported in general, waiting for the other shoe to drop, all of those energies can be originated with that father wound.

So I really wanted to share this because I want to invite everyone to look at this. Because it's such a huge piece of... And even if you don't have a business, by the way, just looking at the way you project this energy onto money, because a lot of times we will project our relationship with our father onto money.

So if you have a father who is emotionally unavailable, you might be expecting money to not be available for you or you don't feel like you can rely on it. You don't feel like you can lean on it. Whatever it is, but I want to invite everyone to look at this deeper. And obviously, this is not something that I recommend doing on your own.

If you do want to get deeper support with this and really make some big longer term sustainable changes around this stuff, then most likely the metamorphosis is for you. Or if you have a business, Accelerator Wealth and Mastermind would be for you. because it really takes some skillfulness and support to make these longer term shifts.

But this is such an important piece of the puzzle because with a father, it's really looking at the ways that we can allow ourselves to feel supported. And here's the other thing, and this is something that I think is so important to understand. We have this wounding around not feeling supported, not feeling safe, not feeling provided for.

Then we actually project that on to all areas of our lives. And one of the things that I realized as I was healing my relationship with my husband is that I actually wasn't allowing myself to feel supported by him. And here's the difference, right? Because it's all coming from you. I would say, I want you to do this.

I want you to do that. I want you to... Whatever it is I wanted him to do. But it didn't matter what he did. Because I wasn't allowing myself to open up and actually feel the support that he was giving me. And it's the same thing with receiving in general. If you're not used to receiving or you have negative wounding around what it means to receive if you're associating it with pain, then it's not going to feel safe for you to receive.

So even though there's stuff all around you that you could be receiving from life in general, whether it's money, love, relationships, your kids, the freaking trees outside, you're never going to receive it because you're closed off to it. So one of the things that can be so helpful when you're healing these relationships is actually allowing yourself to open up and receive the support from the things around you that are already supporting you.

Like for me, I just allow myself to feel the support that I receive from my husband. to feel the fact that he takes care of everything around the house, that he's always seeing what it is that I need and thinking of it before I'm thinking of it, that he's always thinking about the kids, he's always thinking ahead, planning, taking care of things, providing that masculine, like, really solid energy.

And I wasn't allowing myself to feel safe and receive that before. So I think that's an important thing too to understand is it's not always about what's happening outside of you. It usually is never actually. It's about you allowing yourself to feel differently about what's happening in your life. And being able to look at your relationships, your business, your bank account.

and see it as supporting you and receive the fact that it's supporting you versus projecting your wounds or fears onto it. So it's just a very different way of relating to yourself and the world, but it starts with you. And I really do believe that looking at your relationship with the masculine and the way you receive support, especially beginning with your father is a great place to start.

And obviously, this is a much deeper thing, this is much deeper work, but if you feel called, reach out to me so we can talk about which container would be the most beneficial for you to really dive in and shift this for good. Because I'm telling you, once you shift this energy, Everything changes in your life.

The money starts to show up much more easily. You're able to hold more. You're able to experience more. You're able to be more open. You're able to have better relationships and just feel. supported by life. So it's just a very different way of relating to the world. So I'm gonna leave it there. Um, there's probably stuff I'm forgetting to say, but I think that's a great place to stop because I think I've given a lot of information here.

But please reach out to me if you'd like to explore this further. Like I said, the metamorphosis is a great place to start, where I really help you understand this stuff in a deep way so that you can create lasting, sustainable changes in your life. And that usually leads to discovering your purpose, starting your business.

And if you already have a business, it'll just propel you forward even more. And also as a byproduct of doing this work with me, your psychic abilities will come online. It literally happens with everyone. And just an understanding of yourself. self, your purpose, what you're meant to do, and how you're meant to move forward just happens so much more easily.

And then it just becomes clear like, Oh, I'm supposed to do this. And then everything just unfolds. The money comes, the clarity comes, the confidence comes. because you start operating differently and you start relating to yourself differently. So definitely reach out to me if this is resonating for you so we can chat about the best way to do that.

Also, if you are interested in learning how to implement these tools, along with my trauma informed breath work and energy work, then the metamorphosis method is the place for you to be because I teach you how to. implement these tools to help other people create these changes in their lives. So, and if you already have a business and you are wanting to scale to five figures, and continue to clear the trauma that comes up as you grow your business, because it always does, then Accelerated Wealth, the mastermind is for you.

Okay, I will leave it there. I'm sending you so much love. Have an amazing weekend and I will talk to you soon. 


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