Ever found yourself in a cold sweat at the sight of a spider lurking in the corner? You're not alone. Join me as we unravel the tapestry of our deepest fears, from the eight-legged creatures that make our skin crawl to the daunting prospect of aging and the loss of self-reliance. With candid confessions and a splash of humor, we navigate through the peculiar and profound anxieties that bind us, sharing personal episodes that might just make you chuckle or nod in agreement. I'll even let you in on my newfound unease when peering down from great heights, illustrating how fears can evolve and surprise us over time.
But there's light in the darkness of our trepidations. This heart-to-heart isn't just about airing our fears; it’s about the strength we muster when we confront them. We'll discuss the sanctuary of self-care and the liberation found in leaning on faith or a friend's empathetic ear. I open up about the jarring moments of panic and the 'giants' of anxiety, while offering a gentle reminder that imperfection is part of the human condition. There's no quest for flawlessness here, just the raw courage to face what scares us, and the collective comfort in knowing we're not alone on this journey.
Ever found yourself in a cold sweat at the sight of a spider lurking in the corner? You're not alone. Join me as we unravel the tapestry of our deepest fears, from the eight-legged creatures that make our skin crawl to the daunting prospect of aging and the loss of self-reliance. With candid confessions and a splash of humor, we navigate through the peculiar and profound anxieties that bind us, sharing personal episodes that might just make you chuckle or nod in agreement. I'll even let you in on my newfound unease when peering down from great heights, illustrating how fears can evolve and surprise us over time.
But there's light in the darkness of our trepidations. This heart-to-heart isn't just about airing our fears; it’s about the strength we muster when we confront them. We'll discuss the sanctuary of self-care and the liberation found in leaning on faith or a friend's empathetic ear. I open up about the jarring moments of panic and the 'giants' of anxiety, while offering a gentle reminder that imperfection is part of the human condition. There's no quest for flawlessness here, just the raw courage to face what scares us, and the collective comfort in knowing we're not alone on this journey.
Well, hello everyone and how are you doing? Well, welcome to another episode of Be Real with Lab Podcast on your host, lab, and I wanted to just give you a quick thank you for joining me here today on Be Real with Lab Podcast. Man, the weekend went by fast, eh, and it has been so cold, so very cold, don't you think? Sometimes, when it's too cold, it makes you feel extra tired. That's what I feel, you know, especially traveling to work in the mornings and it's so cold. But you know where we live, right. So that's life, so let's jump right into it, guys.
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Our episode today is what are your fears? What are your fears in life? And I'm sure everyone, you know, for the most part, most human beings, they have their own fears. You know what are your biggest fears, you know, and like what seems scary to you that would put you into like a high anxiety, you know, or what fears you wish you could conquer. Well, for example, my daughter is terrified of spiders and centipede. You know, those things that have like a hundred legs on them. You know, and for me, my fear in terms of what it comes to animals are pit bulls. You know, the little puppies not that much, but overall, pit bulls and centipedes and mice or rats, you know those things is like hell flipping now. So you know this, this episode I just wanted to, you know, just have a little fun talking about.
Speaker 1:
You know what your, your fears are. Some of it can be a little funny, you know, you have some people, they have weird fears, you know, and, like I said, mice or rats, those big sewage rats. I remember when I was working out to the airport and they had, they were doing some construction and we had you would see rats, some big black-looking rats running across, you know, and it was so it was just disgusting, right, because I guess they pulled up wherever these sewage rats live. You know, when they do construction sometimes they open up those switchholes, right, and I'm telling you rats like anything. So you know it's, it's something that sometimes some people they have some serious phobias about these things and how to get over it. I don't have too much of an idea of really how to get over it. Some people say, put them in the same room with that person. Hell, no, you know. But you know, in like, what are ways? What like? In what ways does fear motivate you? Then you know what I mean, sometimes you know you have no choice but to face your fears. Right, but to face it, and that too kind of helps, I was told. You know, for you to see that you know what. You're not going to lose your life over it. It's just it's in the mind, you know, and sometimes in our anxiety, runs wild with us. We think that something bad is really really gonna happen. Fear is a giant. A fear is a giant and yes, there are ways.
Speaker 1:
I'm not a psychiatrist or a psychologist, but I remember I was so fearful of, like all dogs, no matter how small the dog is, and my son had bought a dog. He was a baby, he was a Doverman pincher and he bought him when he was just a little baby and as the dog was growing like, he would come over to my house a lot with this puppy. At the time he's a puppy and you know what, after a while, as the months go by and these dog, they grow fast. Anytime he sees me, he would run towards me and put his paw up and I would think that he's being, like you know, wants to attack me or something. And my son goes no, mom, calm down, calm down. No, it's because he's happy to see you, you know. And then he would start to like, have his tongue out and that just gives me the creeps. And I said, why does he do that? He says because he's trying to be lovable. So, okay, but I'm not, you know, because I was always afraid of dogs and that dog grew within a year. That dog, he was so territorial and I remember one time he pulled up in the car, he came to drop something off to me and he was in the car and that dog would bark, he was going nuts in the backseat of the car because he wanted to come out and greet me. So I kind of learn and he kind of kind of took away my fear a little bit, you know, it kind of took away my fear so, but I'm still, because they don't have that dog anymore. So, but I'm, I still have that kind of fear, right, but um, yeah, to face your fear is a is a good thing, it is a healthy thing.
Speaker 1:
Yep, so you know, some people they're afraid to get old, because when they get too old they have a hard time looking after themselves. They can't walk as fast, you know, they can't basically do anything the way they used to. So, yeah, a lot of people fear getting old. You know, sometimes I would see elderly and they maybe they're in their mall, in the mall sitting or in the park, and they'll just stare at you sometimes. I used to wonder sometimes, why are they staring like that, you know? But I really do think it's because they're remembering when they were young. You know, when they were young once upon a time and they could move about. So that's another fear. You know, you can't help yourself. You know what I mean. You got to depend on someone to take care of you, right? So I mean, this episode was just to talk about. These are just real life things. This is an everyday thing.
Speaker 1:
But people go through silently, you know, and it could sound simple some of it, but in all due honesty to that individual that is experiencing it, it's not. It's not simple to them, right? Getting old, we all are gonna get old. At least we would like to think that. You know, some don't make it getting old. Some people die very young.
Speaker 1:
A lot of people, as human beings, they fear dying. Do you guys fear dying, you know? Do you fear dying? Are you afraid of dying? You know what I mean. Like people don't like to talk about that because you know it's a scary thing. They say the worst part of death is who you leave behind, right, but I think it's a normal human behavior or action or feeling to have, you know, especially when you got your children and stuff like that, that's a big fear. You know what I mean, especially when you're smiling not big way. They can handle themselves right. So it is something, and that's why I always say fear is a giant. It really is a giant.
Speaker 1:
So, guys, I just wanted to talk about fear, your phobias and your fears. And, you know, just have that friendly conversation of fulfilling what you're so afraid of. You know, some people are even afraid of talking in front of a crowd, talking in front of a crowd, having a job interview coming up, this job that you're so interested in and you so want, and it's like you're gonna have the interview and you start getting sweaty because now you're feeling like, oh my god, like the questions you're gonna ask, am I gonna answer the questions properly, you know? Am I gonna give the right answers to their questions, you know? And then I'm gonna have a test. What is the test gonna be about? Am I gonna pass the test, you know. So those are just, those are normal reaction.
Speaker 1:
You know Us as human being, right, and it is one of the most nerve-wracking thing when you're gonna have this job interview and you're wondering about all the questions and all that. You know it is so, so it's nerve-wracking, it really is not nerve-wracking, so yeah, but these are just more general expressions, you know. They can be followed by like certain specific object or situation too, you know. And so it's always good to kind of take a step back and really think about how to help yourself conquer these kind of phobias. And I think everybody, most people, suffer from anxiety when they're gonna have a job interview, you know, just asking certain questions, you know how to answer it, but at that moment it's like you're paralyzed. You're paralyzed because you're so nervous and afraid that you won't pass the interview. You know what I mean. So, yeah, it is something else.
Speaker 1:
Well, they say there are ways to fight your fear or to conquer your fear. Right, and for me it's just take time out, right, just take time out, because when you're thinking about it too much, you can't focus on anything. It disrupts your whole focus, right, and your anxiety kicks in. Just breathe Anytime you feel like anxiety is coming on or some sort of panic attack, it's always good to just breathe, just breathe slowly, you know, and face it. You know what I mean. Like, I for one know about anxiety and I have found ways in order to control that anxiety.
Speaker 1:
And sometimes, you know, my sister once upon a time told me long, long time ago, sometimes not caring feels good. And I would look, I go, what what do you mean? Sometimes not caring feels good. She's my older sister. She goes one day you will understand when you're going through certain things in life, sometimes not caring feels good, and I've experienced that. And man does it feel good, you know.
Speaker 1:
And it doesn't mean that you're not caring about your life, you're not caring about the ones that are close to you and stuff like that. What it means is sometimes things happen in life and when you keep trying and you try and you try and you see that things are, just you know it's moving at a very slow pace or it's not working out the way you want. Sometimes just put your two hands at your side, take a deep breath and walk away from it and just just focus on you and your well-being. Right, and that feels good, because you know in your heart that you've tried. You know you face the fear, you've dealt with it, but for some reason things are just not rolling the way how you believe it should be rolling and sometimes you just stop, just stop and walk away from that.
Speaker 1:
You know, don't try to be perfect Right and always think about. For me. Sometimes I think about like, okay, it's time to just take a break and take a vacation and go away. Right, you think about a happy place right. Right now I'm planning on going away, at least I'm trying to go away Right For my, my, my, earth strong day. Right, because I need to. You know, that's something I try to give myself because I need to. Right, and I think I'm deserved I do believe I shouldn't say I think I do believe I'm deserving of it. Right, and it's always good to talk, to talk.
Speaker 1:
You're not going to walk and tell everybody, but someone that you're comfortable talking to, about your fears or your phobias, how you feel about certain things, right, especially with anxiety. You know, anxiety is a thing. Where it's it's, it can get you really good. You know what I mean, and so it's so important to have ways, you know solutions, in order to control it and not let it rule your life and control you, you know. So, yeah, it's, it's important, it is very important, and I just think that in this day and age that we live in especially, you know, there's so much things going on. You know, the whole world, we've gone through so much the last three, four years and you know, sometimes we're, you know, I think a lot of us still have that, that kind of mindset in. You know, I hope we never go through what we went through from 2000,. From 2020 or 2019, 2020, right up until, like it was, for two, three years. You know. So we're always mindful.
Speaker 1:
I think a lot of us had realized that some of what we were fussing ourselves over wasn't even worth it, comparing to what a lot of people have lost, you know, and still cannot even recover fully from it. A lot of us, you know. So that fear, that fear is just it's crazy, it's really crazy. Some people are afraid of heights. Right, I, growing up, I was never afraid of heights. I used to love being way, way up and looking all the way down, especially if I'm in a tall, tall condo building and I go out on the balcony and I would look over. Now I can't even do that much. I can't even do that much. I feel like I just it's a weird feeling. I feel like I'm gonna, if I look too hard, I'm gonna fall over, you know. And looking all the way down there, your picture, and what if I fall all the way down, right? So, guys, it's so much.
Speaker 1:
Eh, in this life, in this day and age, there's so much things going on. Some of it may seem strange to you because you're not going through it. You know, I mean me talking to you about this. Some of you listening might say, oh boy, like who cares about that? But you know what?
Speaker 1:
There's a lot of people who are seriously going through stuff like that. They're fears, they're phobias, whatever you want to call it, you know. And they suffer from anxiety and, as I told you, I know what anxiety is all about. You don't need to tell me that one. You know. And, yes, I had a fear of dogs and the centipedes and all that, and the rat or the mice or whatever. It's just gross, it grosses me out.
Speaker 1:
But you know, life is what it is and we got to face our own challenges, our own fears, our own phobias and, as I said, take a step back, take a deep breath, talk about it, you know, have your resources, tools to face it and stuff like that, because today's society it is can be very scary, especially when you have kids, it can be really scary, you know. But one thing you have to have, you should have, and if you don't start practicing, is faith in God. You know, because fear is a giant, but when you trust and believe in God, it does something different to your whole mindset and your whole behavior of how you look at things too, right. And, as I said, I told you I got tools, I got ways of dealing with my anxiety right and how to control it. So, being mindful of that also, because it is so important, remember you know you are important and no one is perfect. He that is without sin, let him cast the first stone. There's no one without sin, guys, and you know what. No one is perfect and we all have our own little hang ups, our phobias, our own little anxiety, panic attacks, you name it, you know. But it's how to conquer it.
Speaker 1:
And, as I said, you talk about it to someone who you're comfortable with. Take a deep breath, breathing exercises, think positive, think about a happy place you would love to be, you know, think about you, your whole being, and where you want to get in life, you know, to help you conquer that fear, because we all have a fear, we all do, we all do. We all have a fear in a sense, you know. So, yeah, so I just wanted to just, you know, talk about this episode, this topic, with you all out there, and just to let you know that be real with love. We're always real in what we come and bring to the table. So thank you so much, that's all, for this episode. Thank you for joining me here today, guys, and have yourself a wonderful rest of week. Dress warm, drive safe, keep smiling, learn to smile at the storm, okay, and take care. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook, and we are also on Instagram and YouTube, our YouTube channel. Thank you everyone. Have yourself a wonderful week, much love.
