The Psychology of Friendship - Part 3

Ever wondered about the psychological depth of friendships? How they can be a boost or a bane? Join us, David R Wright and Matt Fox, as we take a deep dive into the world of friendships, underlining not just the joys, but the challenges and complexities they carry. We explore the fascinating dynamics of work friendships, given-taken friendships, and the role of empathy within these bonds. We also share tips on managing friendships that clash with your values, bear insights on communication during disagreements, and discuss the necessary steps when a friend resists change.

But wait, there's more! We shift gears to focus on an inspiring act of kindness. The Somerville Police Department in South Carolina is winning hearts by swapping minor traffic violation fines with...wait for it...free turkeys! This heartening act has touched the local community and drivers, creating a unique learning experience. We're also excited to share some great news about our social media presence and a surprise giveaway. So buckle up for an intriguing exploration of friendship and the power of small acts of kindness. Because, at the end of the day, aren't we all just looking to make a real connection?

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Speaker 1: 0:00

In this episode of the Motor City Hypnotist podcast, we're finishing up our series on the psychological benefits of friendship. Yes, we started out a couple episodes ago. We need a little bit more time. That's cool. We got some more stuff to share about friendships and how they can either help you or, in some cases, not be good for you, depending that's correct, and, as usual, we're giving away free stuff. Hang in there, folks, we'll be right back.

Speaker 2: 0:27

Get ready for the Motor City Hypnotist, David R Wright. Originating from the suburbs of Detroit, Michigan, he has hypnotized thousands of people from all over the United States. David R Wright has been featured on news outlets all across the country and he's the clinical director of an outpatient mental health and hypnosis clinic located just south of Detroit, where he helps people daily using the power of hypnosis Ding.

Speaker 1: 0:56

Why would I break the bell?

Speaker 2: 0:59

Welcome to Motor City Hypnotist David R Wright.

Speaker 1: 1:13

What is going on, my friends? This is David Wright, the Motor City Hypnotist. We are back with another episode of the Motor City Hypnotist podcast. Happy Monday to you. Happy Monday to you, matt. That is Matt Fox, the other voice. You hear, hello, hanging out. Just finished a man cave happy hour podcast and, yeah, learn some things about Manhattan's. We did, we did, we did, yes, something I learned tonight was a dark Manhattan and I'm enthralled by dark Manhattan.

Speaker 3: 1:42

It's actually really good.

Speaker 1: 1:43

No, I did like it. I liked the one with the first one better.

Speaker 3: 1:49

So we did.

Speaker 1: 1:50

With the written house.

Speaker 3: 1:51

OK, you did the written house. Yes, I did that one.

Speaker 1: 1:53

Yeah, I had there was some left. Yeah, I had that. I liked that one the best.

Speaker 3: 1:57

Because the third one that we did that was with the no second one that we did was with the dark, the dark vermouth.

Speaker 1: 2:05

OK, it was really good. Maybe that's the maybe that's the tail of the one I got.

Speaker 3: 2:10

It was in the shaker. So, yeah, it was the. It was the.

Speaker 1: 2:12

Manhattan man cave project. Yeah, it's a Manhattan project. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. It's the final countdown. So we're here in the podcast your voice, southfield Studios, hanging out, doing a podcast hanging out. Yep, let me tell you, folks, where you can find me Is that my website is motorcityhitmattistcom. Check that out for all kinds of cool things and you know things, and you'll find that there are more and more podcast show notes going up on the site each week. So eventually we'll get them back to back to show number one, making progress, some point. But that's a lot, that's a lot of work and we're making progress on it, so that's good. Find me on social media Facebook and YouTube, which are both motor city hypnotist, and on Snapchat and Instagram, which are both motor city hypno. That is HYPNO, yep, or I should say hype, no, Now, that doesn't work.

Speaker 1: 3:07

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Speaker 3: 3:58

Wow, who's not Amazon shopping today?

Speaker 1: 4:01

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Speaker 2: 4:22

That's how winning is done.

Speaker 3: 4:24

OK, I look forward to this every week. Yes, so what's happening? Because it's been a couple of weeks, it has been a couple of weeks.

Speaker 1: 4:29

We took out the Thanksgiving week for holiday, yeah, but speaking of Thanksgiving, this relates because this happened last week. Ok, and. I think. If I remember correctly, I think we did this story. I don't know if it's the same city or not.

Speaker 2: 4:43

OK.

Speaker 1: 4:43

But the Somerville Police Department officers. I'm sorry, I'm reading out of order here. Let me start at the beginning. Motorists in South Carolina who were pulled over for violations got a Thanksgiving surprise, as officers handed them a free turkey instead of tickets or fines. Wait, wait, wait, wait wait.

Speaker 3: 5:04

So they broke the law and they gave them a turkey instead.

Speaker 1: 5:07

Yep, all right, instead of tickets or fines. Every turkey day. For the past five years, the Somerville Police Department has spread seasonal cheer with the program. A Video captures drivers being pulled over and bursting into laughter and relief when handed a turkey instead of a ticket. Was it a 12 pound or a 20 pound? They got some pictures.

Speaker 3: 5:26

They look pretty big.

Speaker 1: 5:27

All right you know, the department turns the annual week-long event called turkey no ticket into teaching experience for drivers. They stop motorists who might normally have been issued written warnings or tickets for infractions like driving with an obstructed mirror or minor speeding.

Speaker 3: 5:44

Okay, so it's not like some minor infractions, minor infractions.

Speaker 1: 5:48

You know. This year, motorcycle officers Brian Young and TJ Thomas gave out 12 turkeys turkeys donated by the local Harris teeter Supermarket.

Speaker 3: 5:57

I have my hands up. Yes, yes, sir. Okay, it was chips. Give it away turkeys. Yeah where do they put?

Speaker 1: 6:05

the turkey? That's a good question.

Speaker 3: 6:07

Maybe they have saddlebags, I don't know, but they're okay, I just want to make sure I heard that right motorcycle.

Speaker 1: 6:14

I mean motorcycle officers that they were given away. I don't know where they're carrying them and Maybe we don't want to know did they have that sidecar, is that? I don't know. All right, the bat cycle Was robbing in the sidecar. So some of real police Double-bend.

Speaker 3: 6:34

What's going on?

Speaker 1: 6:35

No, no, don't shut me up.

Speaker 3: 6:39

Yeah, that's crazy. Are you talking about turkeys?

Speaker 1: 6:42

That's what we're talking about, All right some of real police officers hand out turkeys instead of tickets on a heartwarming Thanksgiving program. Oh, that's the picture title. All right, police chief Douglas Wright no, no relation. Said that the project is also intended to foster goodwill between police and the community. We feel that it is essential to utilize every unique idea to help break down the walls between the community and law enforcement. The holidays can be challenging for many reasons, so giving back to the community is another way to brighten the season for those who are struggling. All right, he also said that his officers are always excited to take part in this project. Okay, each year, the officers who are selected to participate absolutely love doing this particular outreach. This small act of kindness, makes everyone smile when they watch the video, because we are defying expectations and making people happy, fair enough you know.

Speaker 3: 7:33

you know it's something to celebrate, it's something to Change up the norm, if you will well.

Speaker 1: 7:40

Well, that's kind of a whole. The whole idea here is kind of breaking down that barrier that the police are the bad guys or they're just out to like they never have been. No, no. But the perception is, you know, when you see lights behind you, you're like, oh no.

Speaker 3: 7:54

Well, of course, yeah, you get that pit.

Speaker 1: 7:56

Yeah, it's always red you know.

Speaker 3: 7:58

You know you f'd up Right. You know what is it gonna get me for, cuz you just don't know what you did and they're gonna pull something out of the Bucks.

Speaker 1: 8:05

Well, yeah, but the police officers.

Speaker 3: 8:06

You have to trust them.

Speaker 1: 8:07

No, no, no, absolutely. It's a cool thing and I like there. There's so many stories that we've done on this podcast specifically about police officers, correct police officers. Who who got? I don't remember the neighborhood boys playing basketball and the neighbor called the police Onim. Yes, I do. The police got there and play basketball with them. Yes, they did.

Speaker 3: 8:27

Yes, I remember the other police officer that dove into Rapids because the current was so strong and the guy just went in like Baywatch.

Speaker 1: 8:35

Yes, yes right.

Speaker 3: 8:37

No, the PO's of the world. They the respect that they should have. And then I'm not sure if you saw the news story Were that the police officer that is in jail for what he, what he did to the one gentleman with with his, with his knee on his neck.

Speaker 1: 8:58

Oh, you're talking about way back when the guy that died. Yes, yes, yes.

Speaker 3: 9:03

And that gentleman, that police officer was, was stabbed in jail. Oh, and he was in critical condition. He's stable now. But you know what you have to respect the police officers for what they do on a day to day basis. And things happen and whatever. Civil rights, la la la. I'm happy to hear that police officers continue to outreach because no, no.

Speaker 1: 9:27

Here's the thing, though, and this is a fact for everything Any profession, you're going to have some bad apples. That's just the way it works. Yes, I don't care if you're a doctor, I'm going to get your dentist or police officer, a therapist.

Speaker 3: 9:40

The doctor was also stabbed in.

Speaker 1: 9:42

I'm just saying that there are, there are always bad apples, that, and you can't classify a group of people by the bad ones. No, you can't, because there are probably many more good ones than bad ones.

Speaker 3: 9:51

But, dave, my point is you have to respect police officers for what they do. And for police officers to have this type of a program outreach they're giving away turkeys. They can give away money, I don't care. Yeah, respect the police officer because they're doing a job just like anyone else does, on a nine to five, and they're trying to do what's right.

Speaker 1: 10:13

Sure, sure In most cases. In most cases they do yeah, absolutely yeah, to the Somerville Police Department handing out turkeys. Definitely one of the weeks.

Speaker 2: 10:31

That's how we did it.

Speaker 3: 10:33

I'm not going to get on a soapbox, but I sorry I brought that part up, you're fine. But it's just the fact. We're not yelling no, I don't, but one when we talk about what police officers do and our good news stories of the week or what one week this it's just there's so much good in the world.

Speaker 1: 10:54

No, absolutely, and that's why that's I and you know, that's why that's why I started this segment. It's just like it's so easy to look at the negatives and look at the bad things and bad people. Yeah, and there's a lot of good going on out there, right, a lot of good when people are just following policy, because that's what's in the book.

Speaker 3: 11:13

Game on you got to follow to the reward. But this is not going off script, but it's just that outreach part.

Speaker 1: 11:20

Yeah, no, absolutely, and it's just, it's just good, it's, it's just being friendly. Here's the thing. I say this, it's a philosophy. I mean it could be summed up and just don't be an asshole. No, just it's that easy. But I mean you think that would be easy, but okay.

Speaker 3: 11:40

So let me ask the question, David. Yeah, how many times have you been pulled over in your life?

Speaker 1: 11:45

Oh God, we're talking about friendships and 12.

Speaker 3: 11:50

Yeah, how many times did you get a?

Speaker 1: 11:53

ticket Probably half, probably six.

Speaker 2: 11:56

I'm in the same boat as you a little bit younger than you, are Right? I?

Speaker 3: 11:59

had some really some tough times learning how to drive and getting an accident. So what have you? But the one time where I was the victim being hit by a, by a drunk driver. Oh yeah, head on going the same direction, I won't get into it.

Speaker 1: 12:13

Yeah.

Speaker 3: 12:14

You know, when you're the victim, police officers treat you a little bit different. No, no, absolutely, and but I don't want to know how they treated the other guy.

Speaker 1: 12:24

No, the jerks care about what. What they'd well, and I told you my story and I'll do this real quick. I actually hit a pedestrian with my vehicle, with my, with my view. I'd afford focus yeah you sure I don't know if I brought this up on the podcast. I know I've talked to you about it.

Speaker 3: 12:40

No, you've actually brought it up.

Speaker 1: 12:41

Okay, yes, but it was just. It was a freak accident. Somebody just darted out in front of me in nighttime and there was no chance of stopping. But the police officer was great. In fact, he called me on my cell phone a couple of days after this incident. Okay, Because he called and said hey, I just want to let you know this guy you know he's going to be okay, All right, you know he's going to be in the hospital for a while, but but he didn't have to call me no, he did not, but he was doing what was right.

Speaker 3: 13:10

Yeah, absolutely is my point yeah.

Speaker 1: 13:13

So back to the philosophy. Just don't be an asshole. Don't be an asshole. Yeah, thank you.

Speaker 2: 13:18

Boy that escalated quickly.

Speaker 1: 13:22

I mean that really got out of hand fast.

Speaker 1: 13:24

So we're talking about friendships. Speaking of that, matt, yes, you're my friend. Yeah, would you be my friend? Okay, we're talking about friendships, the psychology of friendships, and why they matter, why they're important and sometimes, why it's maybe not so important. Okay, so this is part three. You can go back and listen to parts one and two, or just stay with this and then jump back and listen to those after it all goes together. Yes, it does. So we ran through facts, and these are all studies that have been done throughout the last 10, 10 years or so. Okay, like and I'll just give you a quick rundown on what we've talked about in the last episodes Having friends is good for your health. People overcome illness better when they have friends. Hanging out with friends can make you look more attractive. Animals have friends too. You and I should hang out more.

Speaker 3: 14:09

We should.

Speaker 1: 14:10

Your friend group will stay relatively the same size throughout your life.

Speaker 3: 14:14

Weight-wise.

Speaker 1: 14:16

No, not that Throughout your lifetime. It is estimated you'll you'll accumulate a network of nearly 400 friends throughout your lifetime. Yes, we did cover that. Most friendships don't last very long. Most there are a few that hang on. You know, when it comes to friends, quality over quantity is more important. We talked about work friends. Okay, friendships, a given taken friendships, love can cost you friendships. We, if you have friends and you get into a relationship, that can sometimes cost your friends depends on the partner.

Speaker 1: 14:50

Yep, we talked about women valuing friendships for emotional connection and men valuing Relationships are activity based.

Speaker 3: 14:58

All right, so.

Speaker 1: 14:58

I've seen similar interests.

Speaker 3: 15:00

All right, so the the hollow. We're the week after Thanksgiving right now, yes, and what just opened was hunting season here in Michigan.

Speaker 1: 15:07

Absolutely.

Speaker 3: 15:07

November 15th was rifle season right. I have seen so many memes of Guys hanging out in dear blinds telling dad jokes yeah right. So that's those friendships, and you know what? Those won't happen again for another year, because they don't talk to one another. I mean, it may not see right for another year. It's just, they just pick up where they left Off. Yeah right.

Speaker 1: 15:30

No, that and that's great, that's really cool. Hey, hey, david, yeah what's a?

Speaker 3: 15:35

What's a deer's favorite ice cream?

Speaker 1: 15:38

Oh, no, something to do with a buck, deary Queen. Oh, great Odin's Raven oh that's bad.

Speaker 1: 15:58

That's a good one, though. That's good. Oh, that's great. I'll get ready for more. So let me get into. Let me get into some more facts about friendships. Psychological facts about friendships, please. So we're moving on in the list now.

Speaker 1: 16:12

These are new, new things that we haven't covered yet. The first one is friendships make you more empathetic as a human being. Okay, so research has demonstrated, according to some of these articles, that having close friends activates your empath, empathetic abilities. It in these and they say, the brain responds similarly when we perceive danger to ourselves, that it does one when a friend is in a Parallel situation. It's almost like you would. You would have the same fury for your friend that you would for yourself in a dangerous situation. It's what that's saying.

Speaker 1: 16:46

Okay, can you elaborate a little bit? Yeah, like, like An attack on your friend would be like an attack on you. You would have that same fear, that same defense mechanism, that same fight-or-flight mode. Okay, okay, you know if, because you're connected with your friend and then brings up that, that empathy, okay, and it and here's the thing we pick our friends and that's why this is this makes you more empathetic. We pick friends that we value. If a friend is not good. You're gonna, you're gonna bail on them at some point, okay. But but if your friends with somebody, that means that you've seen something in them that you like, that you identify with, and they, they have the same in return for you. So it builds us empathetic relationship where you can, you can you know. You hurt when they hurt, you're happy when they're happy. But what if?

Speaker 3: 17:37

they make a decision that you're not a hundred percent in.

Speaker 1: 17:41

Yeah, you don't agree with okay, so like if you have a friend, that's being like a dumbass.

Speaker 3: 17:45

Well, I just say dumbass, but they just they just say they make a decision. You're like, you know, I would have made a different decision. Do you bring that up? Well, you're that empathetic.

Speaker 1: 17:55

No, no, it depends. If you're close friends with somebody, you should be able to talk about anything, sure? I mean, that's kind of the whole point of a friendship, and if you see a friend doing something that you feel like and I don't think that's a good idea, yeah, you should talk to them about it, maybe not a confrontational mode, but well in a caring mode.

Speaker 3: 18:12

See, and that's where friends, that's where Drawing lines happen, is like right, you take that friendship to the next level and you bring something up, and then that friend shuts you down. You're just trying to be empathetic, right to the situation, but they just shut you down and say I don't care what you think, I'm gonna do it anyways.

Speaker 1: 18:32

Well, my question at that point in my head is I would evaluate that friendship because if they would shut you down that quickly, okay, they really value what you're saying.

Speaker 3: 18:42

And that's my point, right, at what point do you draw the line? And you say you know what? I'm going to be totally honest with you and I don't think, based on my own experience, as my own opinions, that was not the right decision. Right, and they shut you down. Do you just cut? You know, cut tail and go and you're done.

Speaker 1: 18:57

For me, I like for a client coming to me with that issue. I would say you know what? If this person chooses not to have anything to do with you, that's their decision. Don't chase someone. Okay, I would say the same thing in a relationship Don't beg someone to be your friend.

Speaker 3: 19:13

I'm not saying. I'm not saying begging no, say hey this is what I feel right.

Speaker 1: 19:18

But if you state something and they disagree with it and they don't want to be friends, that's on them, that's a reflection on them and I would doubt, you know again, I would doubt is that really a good friend if they would do that?

Speaker 3: 19:29

And okay, because you've been friends for so many years, right, and you have a strong opinion they may know that about you. Sure, right, and you bring that up and they still just kind of cut you off and, like you know I'm, I made my own choices and this is what I'm sticking with.

Speaker 1: 19:44

Well, I mean as long as that, and that's that's, that's okay. Okay, in a way, because some people can have differences and still be friends, or not agree with things and still be friends Rightfully so Right, absolutely yeah, but I'm just, I'm just going to the extreme.

Speaker 3: 20:02

Right, that's where I'm at. Yeah Is on the extreme. So you know what? I'm your friend, I love you to death. I would, I would, I would go on to a limb and die on the olive branch with you. But this was not the right choice for you, because I know you so well. Right, and they come back and say you know what, too bad, right, then do you cut ties.

Speaker 1: 20:22

You know, I don't think there's one size fits all answer for that. It depends on the people. It depends on how long the friendship has been, I'd almost say the situation almost, and it also depends on have you had conflicts before us as person resistant to change or advice or input. You know.

Speaker 3: 20:39

I only bring it up because, as a father of three, and now another three yeah Right, and one of my I'm going to use quotation daughter, sure yeah, was disrespected in a way and I considered the, the other person, the other party, as somewhat of a friend. But he made a choice and I want to cut ties with that individual because of how he disrespected. What am I Is?

Speaker 1: 21:08

he. Was he aware of this? He is what do you mean? Like was he aware that he disrespected?

Speaker 3: 21:15

Oh, he made a choice. Oh, okay, so it wasn't.

Speaker 1: 21:18

It wasn't, it couldn't have been a slip or something that he didn't mean to say no, he made a choice, okay.

Speaker 3: 21:23

And it was the wrong choice, right, and I have problems and I don't know how to cut ties with that individual because there are other parties involved.

Speaker 1: 21:33

Well, see and again. If. If it were a client sitting in my office, I'm like you need to have a conversation.

Speaker 3: 21:41

And that conversation has happened and it's continuing to happen. Okay, it's not a sit down and let's have a conversation. It's a ongoing thing. And I'm the receptive to what you're saying I haven't sat down with the individual yet. Okay, I've, I've only sat down with the other parties that are okay, okay, yeah. So I were where do you cut those ties?

Speaker 1: 22:02

Because, yeah, that's a tough one, because there's no, it's, it's no right answer for every situation because friends, kids have their relationships and what have you?

Speaker 3: 22:11

and it's there. There's a lot more meat to the bones when we talk about friendships and no absolutely Right. So I'm just, I'm just convincing, and yeah, no, no, no, I want to get it in the universe Questions.

Speaker 1: 22:22

I mean that the people I mean people have probably have that same thought and they had like, yeah, when do I cut ties? Yeah, here's my thing. I would say, if you feel like you're investing much more into a friendship than the other person is and when I say that that could be, I don't know, you can have differing views, I'm not saying that but but if you feel like you're doing most of the work, and especially if somebody does you wrong, that, see, that's the hard thing. If somebody does something disrespect you or one of your loved ones, yeah, it's worth a conversation because, yeah, I mean at minimum to say, hey, I don't appreciate that you disrespected, I'm not.

Speaker 3: 23:01

I'm like, I'm not going to take you out and buy you a beer and have a conversation. This is no. We're going to sit down.

Speaker 1: 23:07

No, no, absolutely.

Speaker 3: 23:08

I have a dress, yeah absolutely.

Speaker 1: 23:10

And again, if it's a I'll just go back in general if it's a good friend, they will acknowledge they have done, did, did something they shouldn't have done, correct, and that can be resolved. Okay, yeah, yeah, absolutely, all right, sorry.

Speaker 2: 23:24

I don't know no you're all good man.

Speaker 1: 23:29

There's a scientific difference between friends and acquaintances. Okay, I agree. You want to know what that is. Sure, behavioral scientists and psychologists posit that a genuine close friendship is characterized by an enduring connection founded on sacrifice and shared experiences. Okay, a true friend generally values your happiness and there's a sense of longing when you go extended periods of time without seeing each other. Okay, acquaintances can come and go without any effect on your mood or thoughts or your feelings.

Speaker 3: 24:05

Okay, all right, that makes sense, it does.

Speaker 1: 24:08

Yeah, so I mean it really it's, it's, it's in when we went back to that data as far as how many friends you're going to have in your lifetime. Think of how many acquaintances you have in your life. Okay.

Speaker 3: 24:19

So there are a lot of acquaintances that that are out there. Yes, you met somebody, you became friends on Facebook, social media. You follow them, you comment everyone in a while. Yeah, you know, you know you're a cool person, but that's not going to be friends.

Speaker 1: 24:34

No, right. Well, I mean and actually social media is a great place to look at this yeah, okay, you got 900 friends on Facebook. How many true friends are there, though? 25 maybe, not even that, I would dare to say it's probably 10 or less, but, but yeah, definitely, you're gonna have a lot of acquaintances your life. Very few will be friends. This is an interesting statistic. I like this. Every seven years, you will lose half of your friends.

Speaker 3: 25:05

That's a very interesting statistic.

Speaker 1: 25:09

So I'm just going to read a little excerpt from this this factor, this study. Do you know where this fact came from? No, but I can find it Alright put it in the show. No, yeah, absolutely. You may notice your social media following rise over the years. However, as far as close friends go about, every seven years you're going to lose half of your friends. The ones you've lost will be replaced by new friends, which will keep your social circle around the same number.

Speaker 1: 25:35

So this is, this is my whole theory that I that I talked about either last episode or the one before that your, your friend, your friend circle evolves over time. Right, it's not the same as it was when you're 17. No, it's not the same as it was when you're 30. If you're over that, it evolves and it's based on environment and interactions, who you're interacting with. And the big thing is, is your job is going to dictate most of your acquaintances and friendships? Right, For the most part, because if you're the job, eight hours every day, five days a week you develop friendships at those jobs. So I can give you an experience or an example I knew that way back when, when I was maybe, maybe a couple of years out of school I worked in a couple of different clinics. I met some great people. We were probably friends, we would hang out after work and we would talk and in out of all those people, I'm probably in contact with one of them.

Speaker 3: 26:33

Sure, 30 years later, so 25 years later, let me bring up the the black mirror episode. It's season three episode.

Speaker 1: 26:41

Oh, I haven't seen season three yet. I'm still in season two, holy shit. Yes, I'm still in season two.

Speaker 3: 26:46

Alright, so episode one of season three is called nosedive. Okay, and it it. Your social media thought process will expand exponentially based on how it may be utilized in the future.

Speaker 1: 27:01

Okay, okay, oh, my god, I'm close to that one because I just watched the Waldo effect, or really, yeah, I just watched that one yesterday, I think so that okay, so you're two episodes away.

Speaker 3: 27:13

Yes, okay, you got white Christmas. Yes, and then you have nosedive.

Speaker 1: 27:17

Okay, yes, yes it will.

Speaker 3: 27:18

It will change your thinking about how social media might be utilized in the future.

Speaker 1: 27:23

Okay, yeah, oh, my god Forward to it. Yeah, yeah, I can't wait.

Speaker 3: 27:28

And then San Juniper. San Juniper in the same season will expand your mind around relationships. Okay, that much more yeah.

Speaker 1: 27:35

Very, I just started that when we talked about our scary shows, our Halloween episode, we mentioned Black Mirror. Yes, and then I started like a couple weeks back.

Speaker 3: 27:44

Alright, just getting into it. Thank you for getting into it. Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1: 27:47

It's such a great show. I didn't realize right at first it was an anthology. I thought it was a running series. But that's fine, because it's like a Twilight Zone or like a Night.

Speaker 3: 27:56

Gala, it's when Twilight Zone meets modern technology.

Speaker 1: 27:58

Yes, yes, exactly.

Speaker 3: 28:00

And when I it's called Black Mirror, because when you look at the face of your phone, what?

Speaker 2: 28:04

do you see?

Speaker 3: 28:05

A Black Mirror right, yeah, that's all you see.

Speaker 1: 28:09

So yeah, every seven years you're going to lose half of your friends. Black Mirror, Black.

Speaker 3: 28:14

Mirror.

Speaker 1: 28:14

Alright, go on. Alright, folks, we're out of time for today. Oh shit, for this episode we're going to finish up. I swear this is not going to mean eight episode thing. We have a couple more things to cover on friendship Before we go. Oh, who is it? Let me give you. Somebody needs a home. Who is it from Detroit dog rescue? Okay, oh, who do I go first? Oh, take your pick. Okay, duncan, duncan. Duncan needs a home. Alright, right here it's a. He's a boy, he was born in May of this year. He's a puppy. He's 25 pounds, a shitsue, mix shitsue. And there is Duncan.

Speaker 3: 28:52

Oh, come on, look at those bottom teeth. That's brilliant.

Speaker 1: 28:57

Look at the. I don't know if you can see the picture right right next to it, his tongues hanging out sideways.

Speaker 3: 29:01

Yeah, duncan is beautiful, look at that Duncan needs a home.

Speaker 1: 29:07

Look at that. Dog friendly, yes, cat friendly. Unknown Kid friendly. Older than eight years old. Okay, high activity level 25 pounds. Alright, and he's neutered Alright, but yeah, he's safe. He needs a home Come on.

Speaker 3: 29:22

Look at that, look at that face. I want to take that puppy home, I know. I really I really do, I know.

Speaker 1: 29:28

I know it's so great. Yeah, alright. Duncan needs a home. Probably likes donuts, I don't know.

Speaker 3: 29:35

Crazy. You had to, didn't you?

Speaker 1: 29:37

They have a brain like a chicken? I don't know.

Speaker 3: 29:40

I just had to.

Speaker 1: 29:41

I don't know what this is a mess. So, anyway, duncan needs a home. Give him a home, Alright, thank you. Those of you on Facebook Live, stick around, we're doing one more episode. Those of you listening to the podcast feed, or whatever you're listening, jump ahead to the next episode, or it will be there on Tuesday or Thursday, beautiful. In the meantime, change your thinking, change your life, laugh hard, run fast, be kind. We will see you next time.