Ever found yourself brimming with enthusiasm as the ball drops on New Year's Eve, only to find your resolutions fizzling out quicker than the leftover party poppers? Let's face it, we've all been there, and this episode is all about transforming that initial burst of aspiration into something that sticks. David Wright here, alongside Matt Fox, to dissect why our best-laid plans often go awry and how, with a dash of reality and a sprinkle of perseverance, we can set goals that actually endure past the confetti cleanup.
Training for a Tough Mudder isn't for the faint-hearted, and neither is mastering the art of resolutions. We chat about the stamina needed to both conquer a 15k obstacle course and the metaphorical hurdles life throws at us. With a nod to the importance of incremental progress and setting smart, realistic goals, we share how breaking down that mammoth task into bite-sized pieces is the key to crossing the finish line, be it covered in mud or basking in the glow of achieved ambitions.
But what's the secret sauce that keeps us grinding towards our goals? We explore the motivational forces at play, recognizing those critical 'pain points' that push us to change. From a poignant reflection on a lost colleague to the simple act of kindness, we acknowledge how intertwined our physical actions are with our mental health. Whether you're looking to tackle a physical challenge or make a positive shift in your life, tune in for some practical advice that could be the catalyst for your next big leap towards a happier, healthier you.
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Change your thinking, change your life! Laugh hard, run fast, be kind. David R. Wright MA, LPC, CHT The Motor City Hypnotist
Ever found yourself brimming with enthusiasm as the ball drops on New Year's Eve, only to find your resolutions fizzling out quicker than the leftover party poppers? Let's face it, we've all been there, and this episode is all about transforming that initial burst of aspiration into something that sticks. David Wright here, alongside Matt Fox, to dissect why our best-laid plans often go awry and how, with a dash of reality and a sprinkle of perseverance, we can set goals that actually endure past the confetti cleanup.
Training for a Tough Mudder isn't for the faint-hearted, and neither is mastering the art of resolutions. We chat about the stamina needed to both conquer a 15k obstacle course and the metaphorical hurdles life throws at us. With a nod to the importance of incremental progress and setting smart, realistic goals, we share how breaking down that mammoth task into bite-sized pieces is the key to crossing the finish line, be it covered in mud or basking in the glow of achieved ambitions.
But what's the secret sauce that keeps us grinding towards our goals? We explore the motivational forces at play, recognizing those critical 'pain points' that push us to change. From a poignant reflection on a lost colleague to the simple act of kindness, we acknowledge how intertwined our physical actions are with our mental health. Whether you're looking to tackle a physical challenge or make a positive shift in your life, tune in for some practical advice that could be the catalyst for your next big leap towards a happier, healthier you.
FIND ME: My Website: https://motorcityhypnotist.com/podcast My social media links: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/motorcityhypnotist/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCjjLNcNvSYzfeX0uHqe3gA Twitter: https://twitter.com/motorcityhypno Instagram: motorcityhypno FREE HYPNOSIS GUIDE https://detroithypnotist.convertri.com/podcast-free-hypnosis-guide Please also subscribe to the show and leave a review. (Stay with me as later in the podcast, I’ll be giving away a free gift to all listeners!)
Change your thinking, change your life! Laugh hard, run fast, be kind. David R. Wright MA, LPC, CHT The Motor City Hypnotist
Speaker 1:
in this episode of the Motor City Hypnotist podcast. But we're gonna talk about. It's a new year, we're in 2024, vacations are over, christmas is over, new Year's is over, so we're gonna talk about resolutions, because it's the eighth of January and I'm gonna bet that many of you out there have already failed on your resolutions for the new year. What are those? But I'm gonna talk to you about the psychology of resolutions, why they don't work, how you can make them work for you so that you can build new, good habits in the year 2024. All right, and as usual, we'll give away free crap. That sounds good. That sounds great. All right, hang in there, we'll be right back.
Speaker 2:
Get ready for the Motor City Hypnotist, David R Wright. Originating from the suburbs of Detroit, Michigan, he has hypnotized thousands of people from all over the United.
Speaker 3:
States.
Speaker 2:
David R Wright has been featured on news outlets all across the country and is the clinical director of an outpatient mental health and hypnosis clinic located just south of Detroit, where he helps people daily using the power of hypnosis.
Speaker 1:
What is going on, my friends? This is David Wright, the Motor City Hypnotist. We're back with another episode of the Motor City Hypnotist podcast. Hey, what's up? Welcome everyone. Welcome Matt Fox. That's the other voice you hear. Happy New Year. Happy New Year, matt. Glad you're doing well, glad your holidays were well. Yeah, a couple extra pounds heavier.
Speaker 3:
We've got to lose it now.
Speaker 1:
Well that's what we'll talk about that in resolutions, because that's typically one of the resolutions people talk about, right? So we're here in the podcast. Your voice, cell Field Studios yes, we are Hanging out. We're on Facebook Live. If you're listening to the audio, you can always join us live on Facebook as we record each Monday evening. Now, we have been off for a couple of weeks because of the holidays and how they fell, right, but we're back. So thanks, folks, for checking in, whether you're on Facebook Live or whether you're listening to the audio, and whatever platform you're on.
Speaker 1:
And the important thing is, wherever you're listening, leave a review. That's probably the best thing you can do. Leave us a review. It just helps us get more people, more people to listen and check the podcast out. That's what we do, so I'd appreciate that. Let me tell you where you can find me. My website is MotorCityHintMotuscom. Check that out especially and I want to push this now because we're after the first of the year. We know that. Ok, so we've got February, march, april. We only have three months until prom grad season starts, oh boy. So schedule's already filling up. So if you're a parent group, one of the parent groups that organizes your school activities. Go to my website, motorcityhintmotuscom. You can fill out a form there and you can have a quote within five minutes. There you go, and the important thing now is do it soon, because that schedule is filling up, and especially for grad nights, because those can be any night of the week typically. So I have shows Monday, tuesday, wednesday, thursday, friday nights, saturday nights, sunday nights, so no day is safe.
Speaker 3:
So if you have something planned, Reminds me of a Cage the Elephant song. Oh, I love Cage the Elephant. Ain't no rest for the weekend, uh-huh.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, so check it out on the website again. You can complete the form, have your quote back within a few minutes and then you can book directly online as well. It makes it super easy, honestly. You don't have to talk to anyone. Perfect For some people. That works out well.
Speaker 1:
My social media Facebook and YouTube are both MotorCityHipnotist, and on Instagram and Snapchat, which are both MotorCityHipno, that is HYPNO. And, as usual, we always give away a free hypnosis guide on our show. So text the word hypnosis to 800. I'm sorry, to 313-800-8510. Again, 313-800-8510. Do it and you'll get that free guide just texted to you automatically. So check that out. All right, before we move on. I got to do a couple of shoutouts. So, gentlemen, I used to work for, so I'll make a very long story as far as how I know this person, but I was at a clinic many years back, like 25 years ago that just shut its doors one out of business so I had to jump into a temp job just to cover. At the same time, I was still seeing clients privately, but I jumped into a temp job and ended up at Ford Credit Somebody, our branch manager. When I was at Ford Credit, I was on the credit desk approving auto deals and our manager of the branch was Mark, and Mark passed away on Sunday.
Speaker 3:
Oh man, I'm sorry to hear that.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, 69. He was having some health issues, especially some kidney issues, and apparently I talked to his wife a little bit Apparently he had passed out in the garage and just went over like a tree and busted his face all open and by the time she got to him it was all gone. So here's the bittersweet thing about these things they talk about funerals and weddings is when you see people that you haven't seen in a long time. So I did get to meet up with a lot of my old friends from the old Ford Credit days out in Troy it's where the branch office was back in the day. So that was nice. I got to see a lot of people and we reminisced. So it was a good time.
Speaker 1:
So, yeah, again, shout out to Mark's family and you know, hopefully they're doing well. Lots of prayers. Yeah, it's just, you know I hate to say it, but when you get to this age, things like this are probably going to happen. Hang on, I don't say fairly frequently, but more than you want it to, more than you want it to. So again, shout out to Mark Morchell's family. You know prayers and thoughts and wishes and whatever we can do. Right.
Speaker 1:
You know, you can let us know so. So, speaking of Mark, who was a winner, oh, there we go.
Speaker 2:
That's how we did this Done.
Speaker 1:
All righty, a hero dad saved a woman and her three-year-old daughter after he saw their car being swept away in a flooded river.
Speaker 3:
Okay, I'm playing catch-up here, okay, yep.
Speaker 1:
That's the first line of the story. That's, a dad saved a woman and her three-year-old daughter after he saw their car being swept away in a flooded river.
Speaker 3:
Okay, so the dad was not in the car when the car came Correct.
Speaker 1:
Okay. He was in the car with a woman, a woman with a huge STYCH Okay. Left into action, fighting a raging torrent, after hearing the woman screaming help me, help me, please, save my baby. Okay, Right, there's a video of this, so it'll be in the link in the show notes. Goodness, all right. A video shows the woman's car being dragged under a footbridge as floods surge through Birmingham, england, on Tuesday following storm Hank. Okay, darn you, hank.
Speaker 1:
When I smashed the rear passenger window, the quick-thinking dad used ratchet straps to lash the fiat to the bridge to stop it from sinking. It's a fiat. He could just pick it up and move it. You would think we were walking over a bridge and I heard a woman screaming from inside a car. The front of her car was pointing down into the water, so I dangled off the bridge. I didn't want to make the situation worse by sinking the car with my weight Right. I told the woman to remain calm and unwind her window and hand me her baby, hand me her child. The woman could only get her window halfway down, but he grabbed the baby this line is great and hurled her into the arms of his pregnant partner who was watching from the bridge. Go long Touch down.
Speaker 1:
The highway engineer then sprinted back to his work. Van grabbed a set of 3.5-ton ratchet straps. Once the baby was safe, I ran to get the straps and climbed back to the car and smashed the back passenger window. The car secured to the bridge following the rescue. I'm sorry. I secured the car to the bridge with the ratchet straps.
Speaker 1:
So it wouldn't sink, it wouldn't drift away any further under the bridge Right.
Speaker 3:
It wouldn't sink down any further either.
Speaker 1:
I then told the woman to climb into the back and get out the window. She managed to get out and we held hands to jump together into the water after a count of three. The current was really strong and I dragged her out of the water.
Speaker 3:
Literally and figuratively dragged her out into the water.
Speaker 1:
Do you want to see a picture of the car latched to the bridge? Yeah, let me see what he picked up.
Speaker 3:
Sorry, Wow, okay, that car is about, I'd say, 70% or about 45% underwater.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, I mean, it would have gone all the way under Right Wow, had he not strapped it. The US Midlands police hailed Liam a hero, but the modest out of two insisted he just acted on instinct. I think if I hadn't done what I did, the car would have been dragged under the bridge and there would have been no way of getting them out. It was pure luck that we were there when it happened. He hopes people are educated about the dangers of flooding. It's been raining heavily on the roads. It's been raining heavily and the road suddenly turned into rivers and this, excuse me, the streams turned into raging rivers. The poor lady has lost her car and her shopping which was in the back, but she has her daughter and they could have lost their lives. That that's all that matters. Yeah, absolutely the car.
Speaker 3:
Can that stuff can get the car and stuff.
Speaker 1:
Yes, absolutely, the safety is the biggest career. But yeah, just again talking about somebody in the right place at the right time, correct, just happening by, and somebody who knew what to do. He was a highway engineer, so he had some there's a hearing knowledge there.
Speaker 3:
There was a higher power at work. There really was a higher power at work here.
Speaker 1:
Well, it's kind of like destiny that he was there, yeah, at the point where someone needed him and his knowledge. So yeah to. I don't know if they gave the woman's name did sound like.
Speaker 3:
I don't recall you Dating the young lady's name here, the mother.
Speaker 1:
They didn't, they didn't mention the mother's name. But to Liam stitch, who was the guy you know, there's Liam with this pregnant, pregnant partner.
Speaker 3:
I think I saw the other, the other Yep. I just see that Yep and that's who he hurled.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, he hurled the baby to, so she must be a good catcher, I Hope well, she's pregnant. Well, yeah, I mean, she probably had something to cradle, you know, cradle a baby again. So, yeah, so anyway, liam, stitch, definitely. When are the we? Winner of the week?
Speaker 3:
Thank you, that's how winning is done so I will resolve to Not makes crass jokes for the rest of the year.
Speaker 1:
Really, you're gonna make a red note. You can't make resolutions that you can't keep. That that's right. Oh my bad and we're gonna talk about that here. We're gonna talk about resolutions, so back to it. So yes, first point, matt, don't make resolutions. You know you're not gonna be able to see you follow me here.
Speaker 3:
I'm always gonna make a joke.
Speaker 1:
I did. That's a great segue. So we're talking today about the psychology of res of resolutions, and when we talk about the psychology, it's how huge the human mind thinks about resolutions, how they handle them, how we deal with them, why we fail, why we succeed sometimes. So Forbes Health did a survey in October of 2023. So, okay, just a couple of couple months ago, mm-hmm, 61.7% of respondents say they feel pressured to set a new year's resolution. What who's pressuring them? They said they feel pressured, so it's probably from their own selves. I would yes that there it's their own pressure. In addition, many respondents are planning and setting multiple goals, with 60% of the With 60.6 66.5% stating they plan on making three or more Resolutions for the year ahead.
Speaker 3:
Well they got. They got a chance of 33.333 chance to at least get one of them.
Speaker 1:
Well sure, and so that's a survey that was just done, so it's pretty accurate as far as timeliness, since it was just done in October, ahead of the new year. So I mean people make resolutions for a lot of things that the most common ones are losing weight, eating better, mm-hmm, working out Mm-hmm, stopping a habit like smoking right, though those are kind of the common ones. So here's another part of the study that that is that Of course this is self-reported, but 90% of New Year's resolutions will be abandoned within just two months.
Speaker 3:
I heard that.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, I did hear that, so think, about that 90% of the resolutions that people make out there are done within two months.
Speaker 3:
Yeah, because they they didn't do it right Because they didn't do it right, or they or it wasn't. It wasn't a smart goal. It wasn't specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time.
Speaker 1:
It's funny, you funny, you talk about that. So we're gonna hit on those specific things. Definitely smart goals. So so the question is so why do 90% of the people fail with their resolutions? I Mean again I mentioned it to just a moment ago that sometimes we think too big, we put too much pressure, or the resolution is too big to be able to be done. But I think what we're missing is the why behind this. So why do people fail? Even if it's a good resolution, even if you want to change something, why is it that we end up failing? So the this whole ritual of making a resolution on New Year's Eve Mm-hmm, it's, it's kind of arbitrary.
Speaker 1:
Yeah because we, because we can set goals anytime we want, right? It just happens to be the psyche of it's like a new year, it's a new date, that the calendar's flipped over, it's time to make some changes, and that's the human psyche that that Probably makes people feel like, oh, I should do something different this new year, so new year, I need to change things. So you know, as a result of that, when the new year rolls around, many people consider making these changes. Sure, and in this ritual of just like the new year and making change, that's what drives most people to do these kind of build up to that change, though that's right.
Speaker 3:
That's what these goals I'm sure we're gonna talk about. You can't just say I'm gonna do this like two hours of Jim every single day every single day, that's just that's not how this works. You have to work up to it and they they don't give themselves enough time to Understand that because they didn't start it in October, they're gonna start in January and expect results right away, right?
Speaker 1:
And that is the psyche, because it's a new year, it's it's kind of a fresh start or brighten a new calendar year. That's why people feel like they should do something, so that the question then comes up why do people make resolutions of? 90% of them fail? Because here's the thing Extrapolate that out over a lifetime. You know, I'm almost 60 years old, so I don't know I had like a day over 52.
Speaker 3:
Thank you.
Speaker 1:
So, so, let's even you take a few years off of that, just because you know it's hard to make a resolution when you're three. I mean maybe, but I promise not to poop my pants.
Speaker 3:
I resolve, I will die.
Speaker 2:
It's quite pungent stings the nostrils.
Speaker 1:
I will not piss my pants while I'm in bed, go on. So. So why? So? The question becomes why do people make resolutions if they know 90% of them fail? And and it's it is really this, this need that that we have as human beings to to improve ourselves? I think that, as you mentioned earlier, matt, that's something we can look at at any time, any day, throughout any time of the year. It just so happens that New Year's is the easiest time to kind of say okay, now's the time, it's a good date, it's a good crossover, the calendar flips, it's just psychologically that feels like a good time to make a resolution.
Speaker 3:
You know, it starts every seven days. I A week, a new day.
Speaker 1:
Starts every day, starts every day, so it doesn't right? No, no, exactly. So, and here's the thing is, optimistic as you may be about your resolution, yes, I think it's great, I think it's admirable. But that somebody will say I want to get in shape, so I'm gonna go to the gym every day for two hours, seven days a week. Right, I Good for you. Yeah, that's great, but it's not realistic right Now. It could get, it could be realistic at some point, but but most of the time resolution set us up for failure because we're taking on to, we're taking on too much, right, we're thinking too big.
Speaker 3:
So let me, let me, let me share this with you yes, last year, as a previous winner of the week person, mm-hmm, I did the Tough Mudder. Yes, you did yeah we're gonna do it again, absolutely this year. Guess what we started doing training, training. Yes, you can't just walk into a Tough Mudder and expect to get through it.
Speaker 1:
Let me ask this as as kind of an outside fan of Tough Mudder. I've watched all the videos on YouTube. Yeah, I in my head I'm thinking all that be fantastic to do. In my head, yeah, I've been taking any action towards it yet, but you're welcome to join me. I mean, I don't know, it's crazy. Oh Great, odin's Raven. So when I watch it, I'm thinking that'd be fantastic to do. So let me ask this as far as how do you train for that? Because it's not just, is it stamina? Is that really what you're looking for in a Tough Mudder, you have to be able to run.
Speaker 3:
fought 15k oh, okay, because it's a 15k course, right right, but there are obstacles throughout and there are obstacles throughout the course, but those obstacles, they're not Incredibly difficult. You do need stamina through them, but you still need to be able to run 15k.
Speaker 1:
Okay right.
Speaker 3:
So, it really does start with the, with the training and getting your blood pumping right, get your heart.
Speaker 1:
Well, yeah, I mean just just even your lung capacity and your stamina to be able to do that.
Speaker 3:
Yes, so that's really where it starts, okay. And then you add in those other, those weightlifting those like strength.
Speaker 1:
Exercise the core training right like that right, add those in.
Speaker 3:
But you first have to get your stamina down and be able to run.
Speaker 1:
What is the date of your Tough Mudder?
Speaker 3:
Father's Day 2024 nice, okay.
Speaker 1:
So if I had some crazy hair brain idea in my head that I wanted to do this, you have six months. Now's the time I'm just our training Yep.
Speaker 3:
Okay, so that. But that's see, that's a smart goal. Yes, there's a time limit for it. It's attainable because you have to set yourself up for success. It's realistic and it's tight. You have six months. It's time, though.
Speaker 1:
Yeah, no exactly right and and that's, and that's why this first thing we're thinking too big comes into play. You know, you, you have to plan out Exactly what your end results going to be sure not gonna get there in a day or a week or even a month sometimes, right. So the idea of a New Year's resolution that there's some big, sweeping, huge changes, because that's that's kind of like whoo, that's the sexy thing to think about, like I'm gonna turn everything around. I should be totally different.
Speaker 3:
I just thought of something. I'm just saying it give me that pillow vosampic. Well yeah, Boy Quickly.
Speaker 2:
I mean that really got out of hand fast.
Speaker 1:
No, I mean. So we're talking about things like eating habits or sleep schedule, or maybe learning a new language that's a good resolution.
Speaker 3:
That's a great resolution to have.
Speaker 1:
But as humans we're not wired to make huge, sweeping, monumental decisions and changes. We're just not wired that way. Now I can't say there there are exceptions to every role, I'll say that. But for the most part, most of us don't have that ability to make these big, huge changes in a very short period of time.
Speaker 3:
The human brain is not engineered like that. It doesn't matter who you are, what country you live in. You have to train your brain. Yeah, first, yes, and then you know. Make sure that you're setting those smaller goals and you know what if you reach that, you feel good.
Speaker 1:
Well, and, and I'll give you some, I'll give you. I'll put it into context. We were just talking, kenner and I and my wife and I have been taking golf lessons right over the last couple years, you know, in our golf. Pro Marlin, thank you for getting where I'm at and hopefully, where I'm going. But but my point being is that you'll even say you can't have to. I'm telling you things to get a feel, because you can't have too many swing thoughts in your head need one Too many thoughts in your head.
Speaker 1:
It, it will not. It will not work right, because you're thinking about too many things at once the golf swing itself is the most unnatural.
Speaker 1:
Yes, human body does anyways right, yeah, so so that's an example of Just taking on too much or thinking about too many things. So so let me take it. Let me take an example like learning a new language. Okay, for example, you're not gonna learn German overnight. Sprecken Sie Deutsch Nine? So Just take a. Take a language, for instance. You have to just do a little bit every day, and and studies have shown too. As far as studying, as far as people in school and I know it's been a long time since I've been in school, but you know Sitting down and studying for six hours straight is not nearly as effective as studying in 20-minute increments over the course of a week. That is a correct statement.
Speaker 3:
It's just that's the way our minds work. Yeah, I gotta get myself enrolled into these fall, these winter classes here. Yeah, I gotta do that.
Speaker 1:
So the whole idea here is, when you make a resolution, it's, it's the end goal. Might be overwhelming change, but that's not your initial goal. Sure, don't think too big thinking. Very small increments For working out. Say, I'm just gonna work out for five minutes every day.
Speaker 3:
It's a tortoise in the hair. Yeah, attitude, you gotta take it slow. You can't just get it all done and be like, hey, I'm gonna win. No, you need to be very Calculated with your goal.
Speaker 1:
Yes, absolutely. They need to be planned out and written down, and we're gonna go into how to make goals in a little bit right.
Speaker 1:
The second thing is is Far as why do people fail? Why, why do people feel the need to make a resolution or why do they fail at them and how do people succeed? The thing that we have to ask is why? Why are we doing this? Sure, because if there's not a why, then it's probably not gonna succeed. Because if, if you were to say to me, oh yeah, I'm gonna work out, I'm like why To feel better? Okay, very generic, not that that's not right, but that's just one of the reasons?
Speaker 3:
Well, sure, I look terrible, they can. I want a better.
Speaker 1:
Okay, so. So let me ask this question because I want to feel better. Well, didn't you want to feel better a month ago?
Speaker 3:
No Holidays, man, I didn't give it.
Speaker 2:
Give me all the sugar and sweet Like this in the background. What the fuck is it with you?
Speaker 3:
No, give me the sugar and sweets. I'm getting into the holidays two months ago.
Speaker 1:
Didn't you want to feel better? Of course, yeah, so so that's kind of my point is that we want to feel better all the time, so why do we have to wait until the first of the year to do something? Yeah, so here's a great, a great quote, and this comes from from author James Clear the pain of not changing has to be greater than the pain of changing For us to really change. Repeat that the pain of not changing has to be greater than the pain of changing For us to really change. I like that. Who's who said that? James Clear? Okay, who's James Clear? He's an author, self-help author. We've we've used a lot of his stuff on on the show before.
Speaker 3:
Yes, we have. Yes, yes okay.
Speaker 1:
Yep, got it, yep. So the whole point is is why, what? What is it? What is it that? What is your pain point as far as what you want to change, and does that exceed the pain of actually changing what you're doing? That's the whole question. Okay so and that's a tough question, because if you say to somebody who wants to say they want to exercise for a new year's resolution, so what is your pain point? Do you feel you're overweight? Do you not like yourself image? Do you have health issues? Like, what are the factors that are driving you to make this?
Speaker 3:
change. Listen when I, when I have a dicky-doo stomach you know the dicky-doo stuff I do not because your stomach sticks out farther than your dicky-doo.
Speaker 1:
Oh no, I've had that before.
Speaker 2:
Yes, Not on what, not much lately yes, it's better.
Speaker 3:
That's kind of the gauge, for that should be the gauge for men. You know, you can't see your, your, your man, your your penis. Let me just say it Beyond your stomach that that's a problem. Well, what?
Speaker 1:
if? What if they just have a pin dick?
Speaker 2:
Like this in the background.
Speaker 1:
What the fuck is it with you? They wouldn't see it, no matter how skinny they are.
Speaker 3:
Well, that's related quickly.
Speaker 2:
Yeah.
Speaker 1:
So, so the whole thing is this thing, bull.
Speaker 1:
Why are you doing what you're doing? What is the whole driving factor? And and really that is that the pain that you have as far as making change? Because because we're wired Humans are wired to do things in order to have a habit and do the same things over and over again. When you change that, that brain, our brains are shouting inside our heads no right, no don't, we don't want change. Mm-hmm, changes terrible, we don't like change. No, kids don't like change. No, nobody likes change but you have to.
Speaker 3:
Even as a child, you know you want to have parents. They're going to help you understand. Change is inevitable, mm-hmm, and you know you might have a morning routine and you have to do x, y and z, but you know what that's going to change at some point in time and you have to get. You have to be prepared for that.
Speaker 1:
Yep. So so we're going to talk about, we're going to stick with weight losses and examples. So so what? What is the personal reason for your goal? It's, it's. It's kind of like we have to dig deeper, you know, because people will say I want to get in shape, I want to feel healthier, if you know the reason for it. So so let's say, for example, your reason is okay, if I'm pre-diabetic and I'm having health issues because of my weight, then yeah, that that could be a driving factor for you, that that is an important enough factor that you think I want to make a change because I want to feel better.
Speaker 3:
So let's want to help myself. Let's move away from health for a second. Yeah or at least you know. Bodily health. What about mental health? No, what? What are some of the resolutions of folks set to be more mentally healthy?
Speaker 1:
Well, and so I'll give you a couple of examples, just from live, from clients that I've seen over the past few months. Okay, clients say something like I just want to be happier. Okay, that's great, I'm glad, but how do we do that? What? What are your steps to getting there? What do you need to change that's going to make you happier? Mm-hmm, because unless you define that, there's no way to know.
Speaker 3:
is it treating yourself better? Is it treating other people better? Is it you know?
Speaker 1:
You know, I think it's, it's a little bit of everything now. This, this is going to sound this is coming from a therapist folks, so this might sound a little pollyannish or whatever but I'm telling you, just just trust me on this If you project kindness, you are going to feel better. Yep, I, I and you can shake your head and you can scoff at that, but I'm telling you, if you project kindness to others, you are going to feel better. You're, you're, I will guarantee it.
Speaker 3:
When you put kindness into the universe, you will feel better about yourself. And guess what might happen? That kindness may come back three, four act. You know.
Speaker 1:
Yes, and that's one of the big things I say to people. It's like you know, your mindset is so used to reacting in a certain way and and staying in the certain like like channel of thinking and you have to break, you have to get that thinking done. The whole theme of the show is change your thinking, change your life. If you don't change your thinking, you're not going to change the way you feel. So, for mental health, back to your question map for mental health issues. Yeah, definitely, I'm like okay, so what do you want to change and why do you want to change?
Speaker 3:
it, but to make that a resolution you have to start small. Right you have to start with your smaller goals.
Speaker 1:
So, so let me give you some of the some of the assignments I give out, okay, because this will help. This will help kind of conceptualize and put it into practice. So let's say that you want to be a happier person and I say to my client Well, I want you to project kindness. And they'll be like, how do I do that? Say thank you if I'm not well. I said, okay, the next time you're out, hold the door for someone, just that, don't do, don't worry about anything else. Start there, start, have a conversation with your, with your starbucks person, right? Say thank you, it's, it's just these little things. And when you start incorporating these tiny little things, they start to add up, can you?
Speaker 3:
start to feel better. I can't tell you how many times I've been so kind to hold the door open for somebody that I end up holding the door open for somebody for like five, I'm gonna say like 10 hours, yeah, standing holding the door, yes, yes, yeah, you know, yeah, yeah just being kind.
Speaker 1:
So we're gonna continue, folks. I know we're close here, but we're gonna continue. I'm gonna give you a couple other areas of the psychology of Resolutions and the way you can keep yours, because we're gonna reframe your resolutions. Love it. It's the eighth right now, even if you've already fell off the wagon. We're gonna restart as of the ninth, okay, or whenever you hear. This could be the 11th or 13th, whatever whatever you hear this, it doesn't matter.
Speaker 1:
Whenever you hear this, we're gonna restart this. So before we go, we have our Detroit dog rescue. Oh, who is it? First one of the year. Its first one of the year Gadette. Good debt, good debt, as a mixed breed, was born in February of 23. So almost a year old. Okay, she's a male or he's a male. 55 pounds, dog friendly, cat friendly, unknown what breed, kid friendly, five and over, mixed breed, mixed breed. So they're not sure. But look at good deaths.
Speaker 3:
Look at good at smiling oh. Look at that face. Oh, I want to take God that home. Is it good debt or God?
Speaker 1:
that. Yeah, yeah, dad, if you want to do it for now to get, I just come on. G, look at it's like it's like he's smiling. Yeah isn't it here? Take a look now there you go.
Speaker 3:
I want to take this young man home, come this.
Speaker 1:
So good debt is that Detroit dog rescue comm slash adopt. All of their dogs that are up for adoption are there. You know what? Here's the thing, folks. I this is kind of an add on to our show, because we're not like an animal show, but we do love animals yes, and Every week I go in to do our notes for our show, for our podcast, and I see some of the same dogs on there over and over again.
Speaker 3:
I would not been adopted.
Speaker 1:
I would imagine you would and and that's kind of sad because I'll see the ones. I'm like oh man, we did that one like four months ago.
Speaker 3:
Can we? We need to reach out to someone at the Detroit dog.
Speaker 1:
You know what that's a good point and and we're gonna have them on, yes to talk to them.
Speaker 3:
We need to right absolutely. We were always promoting their pups.
Speaker 1:
So, and let me let me pile on a little bit here Studies have shown. This is no, this is no. You can argue this, but studies show that that if you own a pet, you you are in general a happier person. Fair.
Speaker 3:
Right that that could be part of the resolution work to yourself, to a point where you can adopt a pet.
Speaker 1:
Yep right and and that will that there is some some Kind of what's word emotional connection with with an animal that you don't get with people. Right, it's just the way it works.
Speaker 3:
Oh yeah, yeah, I've had so good at that needs a home.
Speaker 1:
He's ready. Oh, take him home such a pretty pup. Yeah, I like that smile. All right, folks, we're gonna be back with the psychology of New Year's resolutions, part two. In the meantime, change your thinking, change your life, laugh hard, run fast, be kind. We'll see you next time.
