#92 Breaking Free from Victim Mentality through Radical Accountability

0:01 Radical Accountability and Success
6:48 Overcoming Victim Mentality and Embracing Accountability
15:09 Radical Acceptance and Responsibility
24:27 Radical Accountability and Continuous Growth


🔑 Unlock Radical Accountability and Say Goodbye to the Victim Mentality 🚫

Feeling stuck in a cycle of victimhood? Overwhelmed by life's uncontrollable elements? You're in the right place. Join us as we peel back the layers of the pervasive issue known as the victim mentality. This mindset often arises from adversity but doesn't have to define your identity. Discover how radical accountability can break this cycle and help you lead a life of intention.

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🔍 Feedback Absorption and Relationship Dynamics

Learn how to move from feeling like a victim to taking charge of your life. Dive into concepts like feedback absorption and relationship dynamics to empower yourself to focus on what you can control.

🌟 Radical Acceptance and Responsibility

Uncover the transformative power of radical acceptance and responsibility. These are not just buzzwords but essential tools to navigate difficult circumstances. By releasing resistance, refraining from judgment, and building resilience through emotional regulation, you can take control of your life.

📚 The Power of Continuous Learning

Embrace the journey of continuous learning as a tool for self-improvement. It's time to grow and evolve. Get ready to break free from the victim mentality and embark on a path of radical accountability, acceptance, and unwavering growth. Join us now! 🔥🌱 #Focus #VictimMentality #RadicalAccountability

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:01

What are we talking about today, bro? I think we're trying to hit something in the form of radical accountability.

Speaker 2: 0:08

Yeah, we're going to talk about that, and then we're going to talk about, just opposed to that, ooh, victim mentality, victim mentality. So, in the context of focus, this idea of radical accountability is an ingredient that anyone and everyone would say is top characteristic for success.

Speaker 1: 0:30

Yeah, I think so.

Speaker 2: 0:32

And a lot of people would say the inverse of that. Victim mentality is also one of the top contributors to not succeeding.

Speaker 1: 0:40

Right, let's say you've got a small business. In this scenario, you're the owner operator. Do you take accountability for everything? So you can pivot and move on?

Speaker 2: 0:50

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 0:51

Or do you blame everything else until it crumbles?

Speaker 2: 0:54

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 0:54

You lose your business because you won't actually be accountable for the actions. Exactly Because I mean, yeah, you can't really sink a ship like Apple. At this point, I don't think yeah, very easily. I should say Very easily Built to last but a small business 25, whatever employees, small HVAC company, the fucking owner has to be accountable.

Speaker 2: 1:18

Yeah, one of my favorite quotes, and I don't remember who this came from, but the quote is every problem is a leadership problem. Yeah, so anytime I'm in the room, I start with that quote, because it just sets the tone. Yeah, I don't want to sit in here as a consultant and a strategist and help your team and listen to y'all bitch about your employees. Nope, because it's not your employees fault, it's your fault. That's not being accountable. That's not being accountable. That's not radical accountability. Nope, that's victim mentality. My employees don't own the. I don't have employees who they don't own it and I always ask do they own it? And they're like well, no, and I'm like okay.

Speaker 1: 1:56

Why would they act like that?

Speaker 2: 1:57

Why would they act like owners? They're not owners.

Speaker 1: 1:59

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 1:59

You're the owner. Why are you acting like this? Give them a bonus yeah. Give them ownership. Profit sharing yeah. Do profit share yeah. Create a. Create a escort Issue shares. Either expect them an owner to act like an owner or expect an employee to act like an employee.

Speaker 1: 2:17

Because it's a different. It's a completely different world.

Speaker 2: 2:20

And that's being radically accountable.

Speaker 1: 2:22

I dig it bro.

Speaker 2: 2:23

So today we're going to talk about radical accountability and victim mentality and how it really does affect our success and focus everything.

Speaker 1: 2:32

Let's do it, bro. Countability, radical Countability. I'm Jonathan Noel and I'm Brian Noel. This is the Focus Gas, where we help you remove distractions, increase focus so you can live a life with intentions and you can live a life with intentions.

Speaker 2: 2:58

And you can live a life with intentions and be accountable to that intention, yep, and not be a victim. What is victim mentality, jonathan?

Speaker 1: 3:09

Okay.

Speaker 2: 3:10

Brian Yannick Noel.

Speaker 1: 3:11

Okay, victim mentality you tend to blame other people and forces for the problems and challenges in your life. Yeah, easy enough. Victim victimhood can become a part of a person's identity, but it is a learned behavior and can be changed. It often evolves as a defense mechanism to cope with adverse life events. That's actually from WebMD. Yeah, laying it down for the victim mentality people out there, laying it down.

Speaker 2: 3:39

And it says, like the victim mentality can start as a coping mechanism from some type of event or trauma or something like that. And that makes sense. That makes sense, right. If something happened to you that was bad, traumatic, yeah, it's would be very natural for your brain to convince itself that it happened to you and it's your fault and that will always happen to you for the rest of your life.

Speaker 1: 4:01

Yeah Right, that's some deep trauma you got, I think this actually is switching straight over to accountability, yeah, is understanding that people have their own shit. They have their own traumas, their own life? Yes, and that's why you can't just hate everyone or be pissed off. That's why you can't just hate everyone, be pissed off that someone is the way they are. You don't know what they went through.

Speaker 2: 4:25

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 4:25

Plain and simple.

Speaker 2: 4:27

And I'm not advocating at any means by this statement for child molesters. There's usually exceptions to rules, right, but I will say if a child is molested, we have extreme empathy and we want to murder the person who molests that child rightfully so. Yeah, but when that child grows up and becomes a child molester because they never got help, then we hate that person and we want them to die Right, and that's just a sad reality.

Speaker 1: 5:02

So they went from. Everyone feels bad, yeah, and no one helped them. And then Now everyone wants to kill them. Now everyone wants them to die. Yeah, so. So sometimes it's about breaking the cycle and not yeah, so it's on a very extreme traumatic level.

Speaker 2: 5:18

Yeah, Some of this, if we pull up a little bit right, just overall, like like it said, becomes a part of our identity. So, maybe we just had a, you know, maybe we had a couple rough years, right, yeah, you know, maybe we lost a job and then our spouse left us, or whatever, maybe, yeah, there's just a couple of hard things, yeah, cause life is hard, let's just be honest.

Speaker 2: 5:40

But what happened is, over the course of those years or time, you, you translate it, those external things that happened in your life and you internalize those, and then you convinced yourself that you are a victim and then now you apply that to everything. That's kind of what we're talking about here, the victim mentality. Now for just like the brat children who have rich parents and they're just in a victim mentality, I just think they need to be like they. They just need to get their ass kicked. So different personas here.

Speaker 1: 6:14

Yeah, I mean, there is there is that, there is that but I don't, I don't think that's the norm.

Speaker 2: 6:21

No.

Speaker 1: 6:22

I mean, you see a lot of that on social media. Yeah, you know but.

Speaker 2: 6:28

But I think a lot of this is people suffered, went through some hard times and then they just they haven't had the opportunity in life to to break out of it, and that's what we want to talk about today. Yeah, so what are some signs? All right, what are some signs? So now, and if you relate to some of these, you might be living in a victim mentality, yep.

Speaker 1: 6:48

You blame others for the way your life is. Yeah. Yeah, you truly think life is against you. Yeah, you have trouble coping with problems in your life and feel powerless against them. You feel stuck in life and approach things with a negative attitude. Yeah, you feel attacked. When someone tries to offer help, slash feedback. Feeling bad for yourself gives you relief or pleasure. Oh, you attract people who blame others and complain about their life. Yeah, it's difficult for you to examine yourself and make changes.

Speaker 2: 7:21

So we should create a bar and we should name it victim hood yeah, and that way it's a safe place for people to come and just bitch about everything else in the world. That's what most bars are right yeah.

Speaker 1: 7:32

Bar tenders are like yeah, man, I hear you Bar tenders are like hey, I've been doing this tip, I've been doing this for years.

Speaker 2: 7:37

Yeah, this is my job, this is my life, just listen to people's problems.

Speaker 1: 7:42

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 7:44

Yeah, I think this is pretty interesting, right? So two things that stood out to me. You feel attacked when someone tries to offer helpful feedback. Now, have you ever met someone? You're attached.

Speaker 1: 7:57

Yeah, and someone helping you actually is changing the way you your life operates.

Speaker 2: 8:02

Yeah, and and a lot of times people get extremely angry at that yeah. So when you're in a really healthy position, I believe mentally, yeah, you'll ask for help and take help, yeah. But if you're in an unhealthy position, whether you feel you're too good for that or that person is judging you by offering that help. I'll take help from anyone, I don't care.

Speaker 1: 8:28

Yeah, I just don't care.

Speaker 2: 8:29

And I don't care what they think about me when they're giving me that help. I just don't care If someone wants to throw me a throw me something I'm like, thanks, and if they're like, hey, if they said yes, that's on them. That's on them, I don't care. You know, someone wants to let me use their vacation home because they have some perception of me.

Speaker 1: 8:50

Right, that's their thing, that's their thing.

Speaker 2: 8:52

They're probably just being nice.

Speaker 1: 8:53

Yeah, most of the time. Hopefully they wouldn't say yes unless they actually wanted to do it.

Speaker 2: 8:58

I know, but if you ever met someone who like they're like all pitiful, your response may be like your response to the last podcast, which was funny, but I'm gonna ask the question anyway. Remember, met someone or been around someone where they're like pitiful and then you're like, hey, can I help? You and they're like no, I don't need any help.

Speaker 1: 9:14

Yeah, I don't hang out with those people.

Speaker 2: 9:19

I know some of those people.

Speaker 1: 9:20

I don't tolerate it. I'm sorry. Yeah, you know, and maybe I'm maybe this is my shit that I need to look at, you know maybe I don't know, no, what I'm saying is you intentionally hang around people? Fuck, no, okay. But that doesn't mean I have to completely discard them.

Speaker 2: 9:43

I don't think you're someone to where, like if you're having dinner and someone shows up, you're gonna be like, get away from the table right now. I reject you.

Speaker 1: 9:52

No, it's not like that. It's not like that.

Speaker 2: 9:54

All right, you just, you're just not going to develop a long-term relationship.

Speaker 1: 9:57

No, absolutely not. People who live in a state of mind.

Speaker 2: 9:59

Absolutely not. I've learned to people like this that if you ignore their pitifulness, they start to feel stupid and they stop. It just magically goes away, like someone who limps, and then you don't acknowledge that they're limping and then they stop limping. You just got better, oops, anyway.

Speaker 1: 10:20

so those are signs of victim mentality.

Speaker 2: 10:22

Victim mentality actually sucks the life out of you. It takes a lot of energy, it takes a lot of focus and you're essentially internalizing and projecting to the world that you can never do anything and everything will always be bad.

Speaker 1: 10:35

Right, so and. I still place to be. I try and operate where I just assume everything's gonna work out. Yeah, but I'm not attached to it working out.

Speaker 2: 10:46

That's hard, but that's a good place to be.

Speaker 1: 10:49

You know, because it might not. It might not, and that's fine.

Speaker 2: 10:52

Yeah, I think, after five months of therapy, I think the biggest theme that I'm operating out of doing my best and focused on operating out of all I can do is all I can do today is based on what I know and what I have and that's it. Nothing more, nothing less.

Speaker 1: 11:10

Yeah, that's all I can do. You can't use knowledge you don't have.

Speaker 2: 11:13

Can't use money I don't have.

Speaker 1: 11:14

You can't use money or experience you don't have yet, but you will gain experience and knowledge and money, and that's the future and that doesn't matter.

Speaker 2: 11:22

Yeah, all I can do is what I can do today, based on what I have and what I know. That's it.

Speaker 1: 11:25

Yeah, that's literally the current reality. The past already happened and the future is doesn't exist, doesn't exist. So that's why what is it? If you live in the future, it's anxiety, and if you live in the past is depression.

Speaker 2: 11:39

Yes, and I lived in the future, but I don't anymore.

Speaker 1: 11:42

You were a future person. Now you're not. No, I'm really not. Now you're a right motherfucking here in this, mike person, I'm a right motherfucking now person.

Speaker 2: 11:50

How much better does it feel I should introduce myself that way when I go to business events?

Speaker 1: 11:53

I'm a right, motherfucking now person. What are we doing right now?

Speaker 2: 11:57

Yeah to fix this my name is John and I'm gonna count it for blah, blah, blah. Hey, I'm a right motherfucking now person and my name is Brian. What am I doing is the?

Speaker 1: 12:07

name John, I'm just kidding.

Speaker 2: 12:13

I didn't even do that. I'm intentionally. Um, John is a boring account name. Yeah my name is Jonathan.

Speaker 1: 12:21

Let's get some, we got some quotes may some power quotes? Yeah, from our boy Steve Marrote. More Marr about.

Speaker 2: 12:28

Marrboly yeah, a victim mentality is a prolonged form of suicide. You're just essentially living this life telling yourself that you're gonna die. That's, that's whoo.

Speaker 1: 12:39

That's heavy. Those with a perpetual victim mindset tend to create the situations from which they suffer you get addicted to suffering. Yeah, basically.

Speaker 2: 12:49

And then you create an environment where you will continue to suffer. Yeah, a simple sales example, a simple business example.

Speaker 1: 12:55

Let's talk about business.

Speaker 2: 12:56

A simple business example is If you're sitting there saying I'm not gonna make this sell, I'm not gonna make this sell, I'm not gonna make this sell, I'm not gonna make the sell. At the end of the day, people buy confidence over anything you're selling.

Speaker 2: 13:08

Yeah the number one ingredient that they look for when they're buying your product or service, when it's a, when it's a person to person Sell is confidence. And if you go into that meeting just convince that you're not gonna sell, you're not confident, so they're not gonna buy it. So you're just self sabotaging. Yeah that's just create an environment when she will suffer.

Speaker 1: 13:25

That is a way better example. We're gonna cut out my example, but I'm not gonna cut out the part where we say let's cut out my examples. Of people wonder what it was.

Speaker 2: 13:33

Yeah, there's something to do with government basement and white people are bad. I don't know, it was um.

Speaker 1: 13:40

No, you're absolutely right, bro. Yeah, and this is shit that people are doing Every day every day. Yeah, it's not gonna work. Yada, yada, yada, you create your own hell. Yeah, Um what's the last quote, bro? Nobody with a victim mentality will get anywhere ever. They will never succeed. John, love it's John love it's.

Speaker 2: 14:02

I mean these are extreme quotes, but you know, hey, these are quotes. I mean, if you think about it practically though, if you constantly tell yourself you will not succeed and you create an environment where you don't Succeed how would you succeed?

Speaker 1: 14:13

How are you supposed to succeed? It doesn't even say impossible. It's impossible. Yeah, yeah, I'm with it. I agree so.

Speaker 2: 14:21

But we got two core ingredients that we're gonna talk about next for accountability.

Speaker 1: 14:29

So we're pivoting off For being a victim to bringing back bringing back our power.

Speaker 2: 14:35

Yeah, bring it back our power. I love that with accountability. You damn right. You know what? Bring it back ourselves.

Speaker 1: 14:39

Yeah, fuck yeah, fuck yeah. How do we do?

Speaker 2: 14:42

that. So we're gonna talk about two core components of radical accountability. The first one we're gonna talk about is radical acceptance and then we're gonna talk about radical responsibility. So I found these and I got super jazzed up, okay, okay, so first I'll hit radical acceptance and then we can jump into um some components Of radical acceptance. Let's do it so. Radical acceptance is a dialectical behavioral behavioral therapy, behavioral as such, a hardware to say, behavior behavioral behavioral dialectical behavioral therapy dbt by psychologist marsha linen linen, a mindfulness based skill that involves fully and completely accepting the reality of a situation, without judgment, resistance or denial, even if it's difficult or painful.

Speaker 1: 15:36

This is insane. This is I've talked about david goggans.

Speaker 2: 15:39

Yes, a lot. Yes, but that's because he doesn't give a fuck.

Speaker 1: 15:44

Yeah, and he said if I can't run, I'll do something else. He, this is a radical acceptance. Yeah, he is the guy who's famous for running and yelling at the camera and being hard as fuck.

Speaker 2: 15:54

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 15:55

And he said if I can't run, I'll figure it out. Bitch, I'll figure it out, I'll figure it out. That's radical acceptance, right, it's insane. You know, like if I play music every day, what happens if my hand just cease to exist? Yeah it would suck. It would suck, but I would have to accept it.

Speaker 2: 16:11

Yeah, and move on. You be playing with your toes, bro. I'm playing with something you do, play bass, so so, anyway, save that for another. That's great. Yeah, and this just I mean. I want to read it one more time and then we'll get into it, you ready? Yeah accepting the reality of a situation Without judgment, resistance or denial. So it's literally pulling all of our all of our opinion of a situation, all of our emotion of a situation and just saying this is the situation.

Speaker 1: 16:43

This is what I feel like, sir. This is what I feel like. You have to have this to survive. Yeah like if you were out, If you got lost. Yeah, you got lost in the woods. Yeah okay, you just have to accept it. Yeah, you know you can't resist it. No, that doesn't get you food. No, you can't deny it. You can't deny yourself.

Speaker 2: 17:02

You know it didn't happen out of the woods. I'm in a condo, yeah.

Speaker 1: 17:06

And it might be difficult and painful. Yeah, so this is like you have to have radical acceptance.

Speaker 2: 17:11

Yeah, it's pretty wild. So here's some. Here's some ways to acquire Radical acceptance. Okay, so first one is accepting reality. Radical acceptance involves acknowledging and embracing the present moment, including your thoughts, emotions and external circumstances exactly as they are. This is reality.

Speaker 1: 17:35

Boom. Okay, next thing we can do Letting go of resistance. Mmm, instead of fighting against the situation, you accept it as it is, yeah.

Speaker 2: 17:45

Yep. So once you state it as reality and then you stop resisting, let go of that resistance.

Speaker 1: 17:53

Yep, mmm. Non-judgment, refraining from labeling the situation as good or bad, right or wrong.

Speaker 2: 18:01

I love this because it says not good or bad Right. Yeah this isn't just in the context of thinking the situation is bad. This is really in my opinion. This is like acute introspective.

Speaker 1: 18:14

Mindfulness. This is just like. This is a thing. It is what it is. Yes, it's a thing that exists. Yes, it doesn't have to be good or bad, right, it is just a.

Speaker 2: 18:25

Current reality.

Speaker 1: 18:27

Which this is how we create our own hells. We label everything.

Speaker 2: 18:31

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 18:32

Oh, I hit the red light. I have bad luck. Yeah you know, this happened to me. This is bad, it's bad, it's bad, it's all bad.

Speaker 2: 18:40

Yeah, or you hit the red light and you're like I Bet if that was a green light someone would have ran it and I would have died. Yeah, it's just like I am sitting at a red light. I it turned fucking red. That's all I human being in a car on the street. Yeah, red light.

Speaker 1: 18:58

Yeah, it doesn't have to be good or bad, it doesn't have to be just a thing. Just a thing, all right. Emotional regulation oh, this is good. Manage intense emotions, particularly negative ones, by allowing them to Acknowledge and experience. I Think there's a word missing. Let me hit it again. Next one on our list here emotional regulation. Manage intense emotions, particularly negative ones, by allowing them to acknowledge and experience these emotions, without trying to suppress or deny them.

Speaker 2: 19:37

Yeah, so another common thing that we do as human beings is Since, since childhood, especially in our culture, we just suppress emotions. Yeah, so this is Allowing us to acknowledge and experience those, so that we can better learn how to regulate emotions, like this happened to me, and I am sad. It is okay to be sad, I will be sad, but I will continue, but I will not be controlled by sad right. So it's learning, acknowledging and learning to regulate those emotions. This person said something about me to my face and that is frustrating.

Speaker 2: 20:15

Yeah and I'm frustrated.

Speaker 1: 20:17

But I'm not gonna go smash their car with the sledgehammer and go to jail and go to jail. Yeah, I'm not gonna do that now, even if they deserve it.

Speaker 2: 20:26

Yeah, last but not least, our five points in acquiring radical acceptance is Building resilience. It enables individuals to adapt to difficult circumstances and move forward in a healthy way. So once we how do you do that? Once we establish this mentality, an approach of radical acceptance, then we start building resistance to when hard things come. Yeah right, we learn how to regulate our emotions. We learn not to judge every situation good or bad or whatever and constantly overanalyze it. We accept as reality we don't judge it our emotions, that that we experience because of whatever the situation is. We learn to experience those, regulate those and move on from those. And that makes us more resilient, because we just keep going bro.

Speaker 1: 21:23

We just keep going. We have to do things to build resilience, to yeah those things there's also other things.

Speaker 2: 21:30

What else can we do?

Speaker 1: 21:32

Like all the cold showers and shit.

Speaker 2: 21:34

Oh yeah, that's true. Yeah, that's a good point. I wasn't thinking.

Speaker 1: 21:39

I wasn't where your head was at, like having a practice that you do to help build mental resilience.

Speaker 2: 21:46

Yeah, yeah, cold shower is painful. But if you force yourself to take a cold shower every day, you're forcing yourself to tell your brain.

Speaker 1: 21:54

I'm not going to stop Cold showers suck. If you can handle cold showers every day, a divorce is fucking nothing. I'm serious. That's how fucked up the cold showers are, I love that you know, I've never been divorced? No, so I have no idea, but it's definitely helping, it's not hurting. I'm glad you got a kick out of it.

Speaker 2: 22:18

You said that with such confidence. I love that so much. Oh, that was good. But it was great, you know.

Speaker 1: 22:26

but yes, the whole point of doing things that are kind of difficult. Yeah, it feels good, but you're building. There's a mental piece to that.

Speaker 2: 22:34

Yeah, it's like when we mountain bike and we're going uphill for like an hour and you just everything in your body is screaming. Why are you choosing to do this? Yeah, but you keep going.

Speaker 1: 22:44

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 22:46

And it's building resilience.

Speaker 1: 22:47

So then, if you end up in a place in life where you actually have to use it and shit's kind of, whether it's a work thing and emotional thing or a society collapses, who gives a fuck? Insert whatever scenario you want. Yeah, I would rather have a little more resistance than have no resistance. Resilience, yeah. Resilience 100%.

Speaker 2: 23:08

So anyway, all right.

Speaker 1: 23:10

I love that. How do we build this radical responsibility?

Speaker 2: 23:13

So with radical acceptance then comes radical responsibility. Once you accept the situation, then you radically accept how you're. You play a role in that. You're responsible for that. So, yeah, goes beyond traditional notions of responsibility by encouraging individuals to take ownership of every aspect of their lives, including their thoughts, their emotions, their behaviors and their outcomes and outcomes. Yeah, mm, hmm, can you imagine like if I take radical responsibility over my thoughts and my emotions?

Speaker 1: 23:42

Yeah, imagine you realize one day that everything around you and everything you've created in your life was something you either chose to do or it chose to accept happened to you.

Speaker 2: 23:54

Wow, that's crazy. But, that's radical responsibility.

Speaker 1: 23:59

People don't want to do that, no.

Speaker 2: 24:02

So we got six steps to increase radical responsibility. What's step one, bro? Self-awareness.

Speaker 1: 24:08

Deep understanding of oneself, including one's values, beliefs, thoughts and motivations.

Speaker 2: 24:12

Yeah, if you don't even know who you are, how are you going to be?

Speaker 1: 24:15

who you want to be. Didn't I just say in the last episode that probably no one knows who they are?

Speaker 2: 24:20

Yeah, we're deep programming who we were told to be and discovering who we are.

Speaker 1: 24:26

Exactly.

Speaker 2: 24:27

Number two is ownership your primary driver of your life and that you have control over your choices and actions instead of blaming external circumstances. Right, so obviously the opposite of victim mentality, but just extreme ownership. Yep, to become radical responsibility, radical, radically responsible.

Speaker 1: 24:42

Yep, we also have to deal with consequences, recognizing that every action that you take has consequences and you are responsible for those, whether they are positive or negative. Yeah, boom Boom. Maybe that conversation you had, or you, whatever, I don't have an example Kill that.

Speaker 2: 25:05

I mean a couple of things right, Like if we eat unhealthy for a decade we might have a heart attack. Yeah, if we didn't exercise or move at all, we're probably just going to ache in pain.

Speaker 1: 25:16

Yeah, there's consequences. If you don't want to be a partier and keep smoking, you can't expect your skin not to get wrinkles and look like shit in your fifties. Yeah, the Marlboro man, yeah.

Speaker 2: 25:29

It's, you know, it's part of it, even though it wasn't even very handsome.

Speaker 1: 25:32

I don't know, I was pretty young?

Speaker 2: 25:33

He probably didn't.

Speaker 1: 25:35

I was pretty young when the smoking commercials were out.

Speaker 2: 25:37

I don't think I've ever seen a smoking commercial, for sure you have, and I'm 40. I can't recall one. You don't remember any of them. Yeah, empowerment be proactive in shaping your life. It fosters a sense of agency and the belief that you can influence your own outcomes.

Speaker 1: 25:55

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 25:56

It's so funny Everyone wants to project like they're in control, but deep inside they're not even. They don't even take accountability.

Speaker 1: 26:05

If you don't have enough accountability to floss your teeth every single day, your teeth are going to fall out. How much control do you have?

Speaker 2: 26:12

Even though they put fluoride on the floss.

Speaker 1: 26:14

That's why I buy the hippie floss Damn Hell. Yeah, what's next, bro? What's the fifth one? Problem solving, cultively seeking solutions and taking action to address challenges or problems that arise in your life.

Speaker 2: 26:28

I feel like I've been problem solving as an entrepreneur since I started.

Speaker 1: 26:31

Isn't that what just? Isn't that what being an?

Speaker 2: 26:33

entrepreneur is yeah, it's risk assessment and problem solving yeah, that's it. That's really good. Continuous growth, committed to personal growth and development. They see challenges. They be in people who are radically responsible. See challenges and setbacks as opportunities to learn and improve. Just constantly, constantly improving.

Speaker 1: 26:56

Looking for ways to improve All of the, all the people that I know who are like amazing at what they do, or like just bad motherfuckers, like whether they're extremely intelligent top of the cream of the crop people. They constantly learn. They never stop learning.

Speaker 2: 27:14

Never Ever.

Speaker 1: 27:17

I think that's part. Basically the whole point of life, more or less, is to learn shit and not be a dick and be a be a positive influence, that kind of thing.

Speaker 2: 27:27

Yeah, so Radical accountability, I guess that's it. Huh, I think that's it.

Speaker 1: 27:43

I think that's it, I think that's it, I think that's it.