SOLACE: Soul + Grief
This podcast is sponsored by SOULPLUSGRACE serving the San José area, offering grief support and grief journeying with spirituality. We hope to help you travel through grief with God at your side. Candee Lucas, your host, is a Jesuit-trained-and-inspired spiritual companion to the dying and their families, friends and caretakers.
"I am a trained Spiritual Director for those who seek to complete the 19th Annotation of St. Igantius’ spiritual exercises. I have also worked as a hospital/cemetery chaplain and grief doula. I believe all paths lead to God and that all traditions are due respect and honour. I take my sacred inspiration from all of my patients and companions–past, present and future; the Dalai Lama, James Tissot, St. John of the Cross, the Buddha, Saint Teresa of Ávila, and, of course, Íñigo who became known as St. Ignatius. I utilize art, poetry, music, aromatherapy, yoga, lectio divina, prayer and meditation in my self-work and work with others. I believe in creating a sacred space for listening; even in the most incongruous of surroundings."
BACKGROUND
Jesuit Retreat Center, Los Altos, CA -- Pierre Favre Program, 3 year training to give the Spiritual Exercises of Saint Ignatius/Centro de Espiritualidad de Loyola, Spain -- The Spiritual Exercises of St Ignatius of Loyola -- 30 Day Silent Retreat/Center for Loss & Life Transition – Comprehensive Bereavement Skills Training (30 hrs) Ft. Collins, CO/California State University Institute for Palliative Care--Palliative Care Chaplaincy Specialty Cert. (90 hrs)/Sequoia Hospital, Redwood City, CA -- Clinical Pastoral Education/19th Annotation with Fumiaki Tosu, San Jose, CA, Spiritual Exercises of St. Ignatius/Santa Clara University, Santa Clara, CA M.A. – Pastoral Ministries
SOLACE: Soul + Grief
Unveiling God's Love in the Stillness: A Grief Journey
Do you often find yourself yearning for a deeper connection with the Divine, especially in periods of grief? This episode takes you to the silent void of your mind, where a spiritual listening awaits, a place not anticipating a specific message, but a space open to receiving the transformative word of God.
In the midst of our grief, we often find comfort and solace in the dark, patiently awaiting divine intervention. It's in this quietude that we feel the lingering love of those we've lost and their unique qualities persisting even after their departure. Despite our flaws, God comes for us. Psalm 40's verses that resonate; shedding light on the essence of our discussion. With thanks to Thomas Merton.
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We welcome you to Solace: Soul +Grief. I'm Candee Lucas, your host. When we started this ministry, we understood how difficult it was to lose a loved one, and we had hoped to create a space and a ministry that addressed these concerns and served as a source of comfort and wisdom for those who travel with God on their grief journey. This podcast is brought to you by Catholic Cemeteries Diocese of San Jose. We're glad you're here. You're always welcome in our circle of healing, love and support.
Candee Lucas:Contemplation is essentially a listening in silence, an expectancy, and yet, in a certain sense, we truly begin to hear God when we have ceased to listen. What is the explanation of this paradox? Perhaps only that there is a higher kind of listening, which is not an attentiveness to some special wavelength, a receptivity to a certain kind of message, but rather a general emptiness that waits to realize the fullness of the message of God within its own apparent void. In other words, when we are in contemplative prayer, we do not prepare our minds for a particular message that we want or expect to hear, but rather our mind remains empty, because we know that he can never expect to anticipate the word that will transform our darkness into light. We do not demand light instead of darkness. We wait on the word of God in silence. And when he is answering, it is not so much by a word that bursts into silence, it is by his silence itself, suddenly and explicitly reeling himself to us as a word of great power, full of the voice of God. It is in this listening place, as we sit, surrounded by God's love, that we can most experience the love of our loved one. Remember its specialness, remember how it felt, how it sounded, how it smelled, how it pervaded our lives and that, once our loved one had moved on to the next plane, the sight, the sound, the taste, the feel of that love remained and remains.
Candee Lucas:It is in that silent place, where God comes to gentle your heart, that you can observe all the jewels of your love: the tenderness, impermeability, unendingness, ceaselessness, timelessness, permanence. The sweep, the plane, the angles, the songs and sights. Rest there. Salvation comes to us who are grieving in the dark, unbidden, we wait there safely, knowing he is coming, will come, holding ourselves still, so we won't miss him. H olding ourselves dear, so we won't disappoint. He knows our woes, our many flaws. Yet he comes for us and if we are bitten, we come to where he is, in the depths of our heart, in the soul chamber. We hold each other dear, he and us as fast as any fast friends known, dearly, treasured. Really, how can we love each other more? What can this waiting mean to both of us? We will speak with the Holy. Wait, and they will advise at our hearts open.
Candee Lucas:From Psalm 40: I waited. I waited for the Lord and he stooped down to me, heard my cry. He put a new song into my mouth praise of our God. You do not ask for sacrifice and offerings, but an open ear. In the scroll of the book it stands written that I should do your will, my God. I delight in your law in the depth of my heart. That concludes another episode. Please support us by subscribing on Spotify, Amazon Music, Apple Podcasts or Google Podcast. We always welcome your comments and feedback. Remember, spiritual direction is always available through Catholic Cemeteries. I'm Candee Lucas, Chaplain, aftercare Coordinator and Spiritual Director at Catholic Cemeteries. You can reach us through the email or telephone number in the show notes. Be gentle with yourselves. Travel safely with Vaya con Dios.