The In-Between with Elizabeth Cheney

In-Between: Yearly Recap for 2022

Elizabeth Cheney Episode 45

It's the LAST EPISODE OF 2022!! How are we feeling? In today's In-Between, I look back on my year in review and go through the things I've learned, the things I'm taking with me into the new year, and the things I'm leaving behind.

I get a little silly trying to recap my favorite "things" for 2022, books, movies, shows, etc.... only to realize I didn't really watch or read much.  Instead I focused on me, my goals in launching this podcast, and being "intentional" with my time and energy.

Intentional was the word I chose to embody this year. Have you every picked a word of the year? It was interesting to see how that played out in looking back on the year. What are we choosing for 2023? Well, I guess you'll have to listen to find out.

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Liz:

Hello, hello, hello and welcome to the last in between podcast episode of 2022. We are finally here at the end of the year, can't believe it, can you? I feel like this year flew by, but also took its time. But also I am very much still stuck in 2019. So, yeah, I don't really know what's going on with the time, but regardless, here we are, the last episode, 2022. And before we get into today's episode, I just wanna say, I apologize if my voice sounds a little raspy, wily, all the things. Maybe I can't quite get my breath. Uh, I'm not sure what's quite going on. My mom says it's the air, cuz of course I asked her cause I was like, mom, I'm having like a hard time breathing, but I don't have any congestion. Like there's no fluid in my lungs. I'm just like, I don't know why. And she was like, well it's, it's freezing outside. You know, the winter storm. I'm sure we've all heard. She was like, that probably has something to do with it. So, I don't know, I guess it's the cold air, just literally taking the breath from my lungs. But yeah, that's what's going on. So I've been drinking tea, other little remedies and hacks and things that I've seen online to help with your voice and vocal chords, but, uh, can't quite shake the just underlying grasp. So I apologize. Maybe it gives me an edge this. A little flair, a little sultry, if you will. You know what I mean? but any who, we made it to the end of the year, and I was hoping to be able to do this episode in video, but I didn't quite get the right chords. You know how that goes. I am technically challenged in some areas only until. Know exactly what I'm doing, then I'm good to go, which I guess is like that for most people. But I guess what I'm trying to say is I'm actually not tech silly. I'm actually pretty tech intuitive, but when it comes to equipment needs, yeah, I'm technically challenged. So technically intuitive, but technically challenged. Take that if you will. Now we're in that weird lull period between Christmas and New Year's. I kind of forgot how borderline depressing this week is, mostly because I am pretty sure the week leading up to Christmas is maybe one of my favorite weeks of the whole year just because, you know, Christmas is coming, like literally Christmas is within the week. Everyone is excited, everyone. And bustle in, maybe you're a little stressed because, oh crap, you gotta go get some more presents. Or you need to go get the Christmas ham or the Roast Beast. You know what I mean? If you watch Grinch but it's just, it's a very fun, hyper activity. Just literally Mary and Bright Week of the year. And then Christmas hits, and then boom, it's just done. And then you have the week between Christmas and New Year's where it's not really a week, but it actually is a real week, believe it or not. Some of us have to work. Um, or maybe you're like me, you took the week off because this week is just freaking weird and borderline depressing because you're just coming off that super duper high of Christmas cheer and it came and it's, it's gone just as quick as it. Does that make sense? I feel like that's a phrase I'm trying to say, but nothing's ringing any bells. So hopefully it made sense to you guys. Christmas cheer has gone like the wind, just like the breath in my lungs. so. I thought, well, I was planning on having the 2022 recap episode looking ahead for 2023 vision boards, which I'm still planning to make one. I've kind of laid out all the things that I wanna include, if that makes sense, and if you're anything like me, something as simple as just cutting out pictures and collaging is overwhelming. Maybe not overwhelming, but overthought, it's probably the more accurate thing I'm trying to say. So I wanna do a little video content around that. So I'll post that later this week. But looking ahead for 2023, looking back on 2022. And so we're in this weird lull week, I'm gonna brew the energy. So if you are down in the dumps, if you're feeling the Christmas cheer, fallout. Well, this is the episode for you, So we are gonna pick up the Doom and Gloo, and we're just gonna get pumped for the new year. All right. We're gonna do it with the in between. That's what's up. Mm-hmm. All right. First things first. Partway through the years, I'd say probably around April or so, it was really when I, around the time I launched the podcast where I was really kind of focusing on, Hey, I can do this. I finally started the damn thing. I, I made some goals for myself. 2022 goals. Maybe it was like March cuz I started. Recording the podcast before I publicly was posting it. So if you go back and listen to, earlier episodes, they may sound a little different, a little more, you know, naive, a little bit of a younger, less experienced. Liz, still good. And I still like to keep the content up because it's part of the creative process and you know, it was hard for me to start. Because the art of starting is just man, very mental. And so I wanted to keep it up to give anybody who may be, I don't know, wanting to launch their own podcast or do something in that regard, content creation, putting themselves out there in any capacity. I keep those episodes up because you can, you can hear the growth. And I actually talk about some pretty decent things, Lisa. I like to think so So, uh, definitely go check them out. But anyways, when I started. Podcasting, if you will, which was me just holding myself accountable each week and posting something and just sharing it with my, my inner circle before I actually announced to the world. I made these goals and uh, one of them was launch the podcast, which I think we can all agree. I succeeded in that goal. Second one was buy a house. I have mentioned this here and there throughout the podcast. And that ended up taking a, taking a back burner because I was struggling to manage not just podcasting, cuz that's a pretty decent time commitment each week and it needs to be even more to do more, to grow more. And I've been building myself up to that cuz it just, it, you gotta get routine with it. Um, I was also. Working a full-time job, so that's gonna take my energy. And then I was also looking for a new job. That takes time, energy takes a lot of time because it's not something that you do. You know, I mean, you can go apply to a bajillion jobs one week and get the get one the next, but that's just not how I roll. Plus it's just kind of a low burn or a slow burn, excuse me, with it. So I've been, you know, low-key kind of checking my, my bases, seeing what I'm into, just to kind run it for the next step, the next phase. And uh, obviously my career goals are the in between, but that might take a year or two before it's really bringing in the big bucks, and I can do it full-time without having an actual. big girl job. So just another goal, or part of the goal is more financial stability, right? Right. I was like, I can't do all of these things all at the same time because I'm gonna become overwhelmed. I will try to do all the things, and these are all bigger things, right? So they're all gonna take a pretty decent amounts of energy. So, If I'm trying to do all of them, that's gonna definitely be spreading myself thin because there's also personal things like friends and family and my, my husband and my pup. Like I have to eat. There's all these other things that also have to happen in my, in my timeline, in my life and, and, and whatever. So I, I. I paused and I was like, okay, I'm gonna focus on kinda getting my resume up to speed and doing a little bit of skills checks, things like that, getting my confidence ready for the next step. So the, the home went on, on pause. Well, you know, life happens. Work got busy. I was focusing on this and this really trying to work on the podcast, getting my name out there to a few people, trying to get some guest interests and. It's not that things stopped, it's just these things take time. And then everyone started laying everybody off. So I was like, Hmm, maybe not the best time to look for a job right now. So, and then, you know, of course the interest rates were super high with homes, so I told myself, all right. these goals that I was very certain I was going to accomplish at 2022 may need to recheck to 23. And then I told myself, well, technically I made these goals. I'm like, March. So maybe I technically have in my own head till March, 2023. I'm laughing because I am that literal. Maybe you're the same way. but also, uh, my success is not defined by whether or not a goal was accomplished by the end of 2022. But 2023 is gonna be the year though. All the other big things happen. Okay? Okay. Because again, these take time and,, I had to reassess my own expectations, but then myself, and that's okay. And that doesn't mean that. didn't achieve something, doesn't mean that I wasn't badass at something. Doesn't mean that I really did the most and did the best and did the absolute most best this year. But I know I, a couple episodes ago, it might even been like two months ago, I was talking about how I wanna recap the things that I had going, that I was kind of being secretive about. And let you know where, where I Landon. Well that's that. This is that big life update. No major life updates, But with that said, I'm not trying to be self-loathing. I do have these things in the hopper. I'm still working towards these goals. So I am very optimistic that come the first part of the new year, let's say first quarter, first, first six months, these things are gonna. So, you know, the home is the priority. Come the new year, maybe the job market will kind of even out and not be so, you know, sketchy and unsettling and we'll go from there. Or what would be the most ideal is, I really work on going the podcast and it takes off and then I don't have to worry about all this shit. So that, that would be great. and hey, the sky's the limit. So there we go. But all of this fun, fun aside, well, not fun, fun aside cuz I plan on still having fun with you guys, but that was just the main major goals, if you will, of 2022 recap. So, hey, we got some done. We know our limits. Um, cuz I think for the longest time I was trying to juggle, like looking for a new job and looking for a house at the same time on top of everything else. And you know, over the summer, late summer, early fall. I had a few episodes where I was just talking about, man, I just feel like I'm off the horse. I'm off the wagon. I am not completely like on my face, on my ass, but like I am struggling to keep my footing. That was around that same period cuz I realized I cannot do all these major things all by myself, all at the same time. You, you have to pace yourself. You cannot do it all. Yeah, that was a great lesson learned in 2022. You cannot do it all, and that's perfectly okay. I don't wanna do it all because if I try to do it all, I am compromising my Liz, myself, my worth myness, if you will. I am not gonna be a hundred percent Liz if I am spread so freaking thin. Like I don't know, a bunch of batter that's been rolled out. And then you didn't use enough flour. So part of it's like sticking to the rolling. I don't wanna be like that. That's how I felt. I wanna be an even nice flowered rolled out dough that makes perfect cookies. I don't know where this metaphor analogy was going, but now I'm hungry. So there's that Oh my goodness. So what about you guys? Looking back on the year, how do you feel about it? And I know. There's probably a lot of this going on and maybe, or how should I say this? I'm sure your feeds and social media is all just 2022 recap, 2023 goals manifest. Here we go. Be the best version of yourselves, blah blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. But I also know for people who may be struggling with your mental health, maybe you're more depressed, maybe whether it's actual depression, seasonal depression, all of the things. that can be unnerving, unsettling because it's all about motivation. And go out there and do the damn thing and be the best version of yourself and go crush all the things in life. And if you're really not at that point right now, or you're just, you're just not really feeling up to speed, so to speak, that can be discouraging, can make you feel less than, it can make you feel even worse than how you feel because. Well, if you're not motivated, then what? What do we make people think they are lazy, which that's not the case, obviously, but who's there telling you that? Especially if you're stuck with your own head and your own shit that you're going through, right? So I'm telling you it's okay. to not be focused on January 1st, 2023. I mean, for me, like technically my new year didn't start till March. That's when I started looking at my year ahead and, and getting some goals together. And, and really the goals were, were me to focus. I wrote them on my whiteboard so I could see them and just remind myself what I'm working towards. So when I struggle to keep myself focused or keep myself in good spirits, what is the prize eyes on the prize? So January 1st is still just today. Guess what? Your goals, your desires, your dreams, your motivations, they will still be there come February 2nd come March 18th, freaking come June 23rd. It does not matter. So this is just a little PSA for those who may be thinking or feeling. I'm not so feeling, not feeling the, the new year cheer. I'm really just wanting to stay in bed and, and just hold the. Hey, that's okay. And you're allowed to do that and you're still a badass person for doing it because self-care is very important and we should always be checking in with ourselves, so do what you need to do. Okay. All right, so I put together a little Liz recap of 2022, and I am sure as I get better at this whole podcast thing and not just podcast thing, content creation, being an engaging. Creator person on the interwebs that interests you, which I know is a crazy foreign concept. I, that's as, that's, that's what I think, that's how I view it, but it's still kind of cool. Right, right. So, you know, my, my mantra going into 2023 is be the content creator that I like to see which. Guess what? Uh, I am not anywhere near the level of conation that I would like to be. So I've got a lot of room to grow here. So, hey, the sky is the limit. But with that said, I was like, oh, let me just kind of do a recap of 2022. You know, my top, my top TV shows this, that things I've learned and I spent some time putting it all together. So I was gonna go through that with you guys, and I realized as I was putting all this together, writing it out, I really was not as checked in as I thought I was into pop culture and things like that. So it was interesting, but it actually as I was like kind of journaling, writing it out, it all connected as to why. So I'm gonna get into all of that. Let us begin. I don't know why it made that so dramatic. So let's start with the fun things first. Well, they're all fun, but you know, the more cheesy like actual things. So I was gonna put like, you know, Liz's favorite musicians for 2022. And I'm gonna be honest with you, I don't listen to new music all that often. It's not that I don't like music. I love music. I love dancing, but I, I have very limited time. So unless I'm listening to like, I don't know, like a non lyrical. Music track to help me focus maybe some jazz, some classical, when I'm reading or doing work, I don't only listen to new music. Okay? Um, I listen to my OGs, you know, like Adele, Beyonce, things like that. But as I was making these lists, I realized I really do not have a strong leg to stand on in this fight because I don't listen to music so often that I, I feel confident in letting you know these are my top three artists of 2022. But I will say I listened to Beyonce, a shit ton. Does that count? Um, I listened to, yeah, I'm kind of brain farting. I'm like, who else had albums come out? I really don't know. Did a Doll's album come out this year? Was that last year? That was another thing that I realized as I was. I would think of things and then I started realizing I, this is a lot. I don't think, I don't think this came out this year. I think it came out last year. So I actually started, I actually started going back and double checking the things that I was writing and when they came out, half of them came out last year. So that was fun too. Time Blends. Remember that beginning of the episode? I don't even know where we are. Are we still on Earth? I have no idea. So after realizing. I have not really listened to much music at all this year in terms of at least new music. Trust me, I got classic rock on replay all day. Uh, I was like, well, let's try books. I love reading. I am a big reader and up until this year I was always reading, you know, at least 20 books a year trying to get to 25, 30. So as I pick up my Good Reads profile, I don't know why I say picked up cuz it's just an app. I realize I don't think I've even read 10 books This. And I'm like, damn, I am so behind. Well, part of that is I was focusing on the podcast and all the other things, so part of my free time that I had was gone. But when I was trying to recap all the books to suggest to you all, I realized, Not that all the books I read this year were crap, but I realized, um, I haven't really read that many books, but I do have two books to recommend to you all. So are you listening? Maybe it's not a top five, but it is a top two, top two books I've read this year that I highly, highly recommend. One I've talked about before. And is called 4,000 Weeks Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Berkman. Fantastic, fantastic book. If you are curious about any of its contents, I had a episode come out over the summer about time and our relationship with time, and it's all about the content from that book. It's um, it's nonfiction and he is talking about our relationship of time where it evolved from where it came from. And, uh, it, it was fascinating and the way he wrote was super engaging and wasn't dull, so I highly recommend and. I mean, I only went into one small existential crisis from it, so I think it's safe to say everyone can read it, And then the second one is called Power Moves by Lauren Mc Goodwin. She is the host of it used to be called Females, but now it's called Career Contessa. It's a podcast. It's a fantastic resource for professional development skills, um, resume help, interview help, all the things if you're a manager, a non-manager, entry level, mid-level, executive level, all kinds of fantastic content. Uh, that book is, I read at the beginning of the year. And it's a fantastic professional development book. Um, and it's pretty robust and it covers, for me, it was less about your entry, entry level and more about the mid-level career jumps to senior level and things like that. So if you were in the job market, if you're wanting to brush up on your professional skills, if you're just like, I'm ready for the next step, but I'm not sure where to go, or maybe you were, I. You know, it's, especially once you get past that entry level and you're going into a mid-level job or a senior level job imposter syndrome, it, it, it kicks up a notcher two or 12 So this book to me, really helped kind of help you establish more confidence in going after what you deserve. And also a great rule of thumb, and you may have already seen this on the internet, but I saw something that was like, men will go after jobs that they're not a hundred percent qualified for. And they never think twice about it. Well, I, I could probably do that. I, if not, I could learn how to do it and they go after it. As opposed to sometimes women, we overthink it. We wanna be completely literal, sharp to a t, you know, cross t dotted I, and it's like, nah, screw that. Let's go after it, because, There have been many times where I have gone after an opportunity and gotten interest even if I felt. I wasn't qualified for it. I've seen tons of people, friends, female female friends in my network who have, or women friends in my network who have gone after or something that maybe it's not that they weren't qualified for, but they didn't quite have all the experience go after it. Um, I've heard more times than not. Not trying to get all into that in this podcast, cuz you know, that's a great episode idea, professional development one-on-one. I've got a few of them, um, in the library if you want to go check out. Especially the one with Tara and the one with. Um, of podcast episodes. Maybe I link those in the show notes if you're interested. But if you are looking to grow in your career and grow professionally, definitely check out power Moves. So, yeah, maybe I don't have five best books for 2022, but I've definitely got two. Boom, boom, boom, baby boom. All right, so then we're gonna move on to best movies. Guess what? All the movies I kept thinking of I watched last year. So other than Top Gun Maverick, I mean, I've seen movies this year and it's not that they were all bad, but I, I feel a little uncultured if I'm like, mm. Tompkin Maverick and Elvis. Yeah. Those were my favorite movies this year. Well, I mean, not that they're bad, but I'm just like especially for somebody who considers themselves an entertainment guru, I'm very disappointed in my movie watching, so, Yeah, I can't, I can't really say that I have a top two, three movies of 2022. I did not really watch a lot of movies. And the ones that I did, most of them I fell asleep in because Welcome to your thirties I have no idea, but I do wanna say I am here with content for my favorite 2022 TV shows. So, uh, ready for this every. First, well actually I'm gonna say no in particular order, but first Wednesday. I think I've watched it all the way now twice. Probably could do a third time. Love it. Sandman both on Netflix, both new series. Highly, highly, highly, highly, highly, highly recommend. I also started euphoria this year. I know that's not a new show that came out this year, but very good. Very intense trigger Warning out the wazo for that. let's see, Abbots Elementary, or Abbott Elementary, excuse me. Love it. Full of heart. Uh, if you are fans of the Office or Parks in the Rec, I highly recommend it's not near as cringe or awkward, but it's that kind of similar style of the documentary and funny workplace antics, but it has a lot of heart and also pretty good. Let's say display of what inner city schools are like. And, and this the issues and problems they have to overcome and face without making it so political. You're like, oh my gosh, is everything propaganda? But it does, it does a really fantastic job of getting those messages across. Highly, highly recommend. It also gets you in the fields. Um, stranger Things, new Season came out, obviously that was amazing. Dead to Me's. New season, holy mo. Has anybody watched that? I need to talk to somebody about that. That was emotionally, huh? Discharged emotional release that last season. Holy gosh. It was like a sucker punch to the gut. It broke my heart, minded it together, gave it warm fuzzies, but then also like poured, I don't know, antifreeze down down my esophagus. It was a lot. I dry heaved a lot. I sobbed a lot, but ooh, it was good. It was good sobbing, which I typically don't like because who really likes dry heaving, but let me tell you, it, there was something healing about it, So if you're scared of the emotional turmoil you're gonna face, you should be. It's gonna be there, but it is going to be worth it. And then there was this show on HBO that I found, it technically came out last year, but it's called sort of, it's a show based in Canada, so I think that's why I didn't see it till this year cuz that's when HBO picked it up. But the new season just came out, so I can't wait till we watch that. But yeah, very, very good. And then I was thinking, okay. Best trends of 2022 Liz's best trends. And then I laughed at myself because here I am, I'm like, I can't even come up with books, movies, I'm gonna come up with trends. I don't even know what was trendy. So then I thought, well, these are the things that I have no idea if they were trends, but these are the things that I saw that I liked and the things I didn't like. And don't worry, the list is not long things. I liked faux fur. I'm here for faux fur. Not sure if it's a trend, but I'm freaking loving. Red light therapy masks. Don't think it's a trend trend, but I got lots of ads for it, and guess what? I got sucked into it and I love it. So here for the red light therapy mask. Creating a self brand. Not sure if that's a trend, but because I've been in this, this path, this adventure of being a podcaster and a content creator, I paid attention to a lot of content around creating your personal brand and and maintaining that. So here for the trend of maintaining and going after your personal brand things. I'm not here for low rice jeans. I mean, there's a lot of things I'm not here for, but that was all she wrote. In terms of trends, were they trends? I have no idea, but there's Liz's Fashion 1 0 1, trends one oh. Whatever the hell. 1 0 1 All right, so now let's get into the real stuff. Okay. Well, actually before we get into that best podcasts, we know what that is. In between podcasts, number one, duh. But favorable mentions, obviously the Real Hauntings podcast. Love my friends over there. Absolutely not with Heather. McMahon gonna manifest that collaboration one day. Financial Feminist, she just wrote a book. It came out like literally this. Highly, highly, highly recommend, especially to get your, uh, financial knowledge up to speed. She breaks it down on all kinds of topics in a really cool, conversational way. Would love to collaborate with her one day as well. There's a real pod with Victoria Garrick. Um, she's a Dear media podcast host. There is, uh, this other one from npr. I think it's npr. It might be iHeartRadio, I can't remember, but it's, um, stuff you should know. And the two hosts are pretty funny, but it's, they cover. Every topic is something completely different. They've gone into like how to make the best fried chicken from ghosts to, I don't know where zombies came from, like just the most random things, stuff you should know, but it's very, very fascinating. Okay, so I have rambled now probably for 10 minutes for the random ass stuff that. Consider my top 2022. And realistically, it's, we can tell that all I've done this year is watch TV I did not read, I did not watch movies. I hardly listened to podcasts cuz I was creating my own. And, um, what is a trend? Who knows? I should also point out, I know TikTok has like, I don't know, 360, 70,000 trends, but I am not keeping up with that. Not in the least. But here's the stuff that I was like, Ooh, this is the good juice. This is the in between fun. So I was like, best wellness. For, or Liz Best Wellness 2022. And then I was like, well, wellness, I thought it was gonna be like products and things like that, but I have to have my shit together really well to really kind of go into all of that. So I don't, hey, goals for next year really having a more robust top 20, 23 things. But for me, wellness, I was like, maybe this is like just wellness things I've also learned and, and excelled in or, or really tried to prioritize this year. So in no particular order, I understood and learned why sleep is so important. I mean, we hear it all the time, but it is so important to prioritize sleep. We may think we don't need it. We may think we can do it all, but we need at least seven, eight hours. So if you're not getting that, this is your sign sleep, baby sleep. I promise you, it's not gonna fix all of your problems immediately, but it's gonna put you in a better place mentally to do. going to therapy, finding a therapist on my insurance plan. So it was more affordable, prioritizing that, taking care of my face, skincare, trying to prioritize washing it one, you know, in the morning, in the evening. I didn't always succeed in that, but I at least tried to do it at once a day. So there's that. Um, hormonal acne really kind of helped encourage that management, but that's a whole other different. Keeping up with my workout routine for my mental health, um, that is single-handedly what got me through the tail end of my depression last year, that in therapy, um, just 20 minutes to escape whatever was going on. And, and I was kind of relying and dependent on that endorphin release as I was working out. So that's something I prioritize. It can be me going on the stationary bike for 20 minutes in the apartment. Or it's just going outside and going for a walk. Something as simple as that. Just getting movement in my body, but feeling stress, feeling kind of, yes, I'm gonna go walk. I'm gonna let it out. And then also just self-regulating techniques. You know, self-regulating, emotional techniques, mental things like that. Feeling overwhelmed, just general overall self-awareness and you know, trying hard not to let that spiral. And I'm not saying I succeeded every time I didn't, cuz I'm human and that's okay. But, just being self-aware and really taking the tools that I learned last year during my mental health struggles and the years, a couple years before that and, and, and using those tools and resources and, and, and, um, what's what I'm looking for. Um, treatments not, I don't know if treatments is the right word, but mentality that I've learned over the few years to kind of help myself. So, yeah, being the best version of myself. That's Liz Wellness 2022 and I thought most proud moments. Well, one, launching my podcast. Hello. I did the damn thing. I freaking did it. And it's been really fun seeing all these little post-it notes that I've put on my desk and wall over the past like year and a half, two years, and seeing where I'm like, I'm gonna do my podcast, um, this time and, and this day, and this and this. And it's like I actually did it. I've been talking about it for years and I finally did it. So I put myself out there and I launched the damn. I planned my own trip. We went to Mexico, something that I really, really wanted to do, and we finally did it. Maintaining my mental health, consistently showing up for myself, um, taking tough interviews, whether it's for the podcast is professional development, um, meeting new people, putting myself out there, just getting out of my comfort zone, taking the mentality that jump and the net will appear. So what did I learn How to actually do most of the things I wanted to, which is still a work in progress. And what I mean by that is we already know that I didn't hit every goal that I wanted to achieve, but I put effort towards them. I know what I need to do. And the main point I wanted to make with this, and I hope that you can pull something from, is how to actually do the things you wanted to. How to push yourself to go after your goals, how to push yourself to go after your dreams. How to push yourself to realize it may seem silly to others, but it's important to you, and that's what makes it important. So how do you do the things that you wanted to, you show up for yourself. It's not always gonna be easy. It's probably gonna be the hardest freaking thing you ever do, but it's so important and the more you do it, the easier it is to pick yourself up when you do fall, and it's easier to forgive yourself. And not that forgive yourself is the word I'm trying to use here, but. You can pick yourself up when maybe you falter or you're not quite where you wanna be. So I can look back on some of the goals I didn't quite hit for 2022, and rather them beat myself up. I'm like, Hey, I still did this, this, and this, and I learned this, this, and this about myself, and guess what? I'm gonna crush. These come early 2023. I'm gonna crush these later on in the year. It's all part of the process. Right, right. Other things that I learned, boundaries, personal and professional. Both can get blurred easily from time to time, but making sure those are enforced and you're protecting yourself, that's key. Believing in my worth, myself, my ability to chase my dreams, no matter how big, how small, how the sky's the limit. Bet on yourself. Bet on yourself. It is the most important thing, the most rewarding thing. And remember, the sky is the limit. Who says you can't do something? Nobody. and understand that things may change, goals may change shift, and that's just part of the process. So I encourage you to explore any piece of you that wants something different, wants something more. If you have the thought. Mm, is there more out there for me? Could I go down this path? Could that be something that brings me joy? absolutely. Remember the in between came to be because I asked myself, how do I create the dream job for myself? What would be my dream job? And from there, it grew into this idea of the podcast. And I know I'm kind of in the middle of it in a sense of the growth and the success and this and this. But I'm on my path and in a year from now, I'm gonna be able to look back and commend myself for not giving up and to keep going. So, I want that for you. I encourage you. I am cheering you on. And, uh, you know, if you wanna join me on the ride, hey, let's do it baby. Let's go after our dreams because no one's gonna tell me I can't achieve something. All right. And then last but not least, what did I learn? Hormonal acne. I know. Kind of funny, but, uh, hormonal acne sucks. And what sucks even more is that everyone's excuse to it is, uh, birth control. So, uh, Not here for the fact that all of women's health seems to go down, all roads lead to birth control. Some of us do not want birth control. So that is something I'm gonna look look more into in 2023. Is those hormonal acne, gut health, like what does that mean? I say gut health, but like that's all I'm saying it. I have no idea what that means. What's a prebiotic, what's a probiotic? is it yogurt? Probably. Is that all it is? I don't know. I just dunno. These things, I get to get somebody on the podcast who's like a wellness guru. That would be great. I'm sure you all would enjoy that. I know I really need that for myself. So I'll put that on the list for 2023 goals. All right, and then here's the last but not least part of the 2022 Recap what I'm taking with me versus what I'm leaving behind, which I really liked this kind of this prompt, so. One thing I need to engage more culturally just making this, these lists I just went over show me that I need to be a better resource that people will come to. I'm being kind of funny with that, but yeah, I, I do need to be a little bit more checked in, but as I was writing this out and recapping, I thought about. What was the word I chose for this year? Which I really like this idea. What's the word you're gonna bring into the new year? What's, that's like your, your, your thing leading you. And, uh, this year I chose intentional. I mean, I've been going through my own mental health struggles the past few years. This is the first year that I felt, uh, back on the horse. She is standing tall and she is stepping into her power. So I wanted to be more intent. Live in the moment. Um, not be overwhelmed by things outta my control, not let myself spiral as much, you know, just have more control over my anxiety. I manage, it, doesn't manage me, you know, et cetera, et cetera. And so as I was thinking about that, it made me laugh because of course that's why I have felt checked out from all the other things culturally and, and things like that cuz I've been, I've been intent. I have been focusing my energy on me. I've been focusing my energy on my podcast and, and learning more about that and, and growing more confident with it. Cuz it's hard putting yourself out there every week, especially when I was not like, I have thousands of downloads per episode yet. Right. And I, I was focusing on my relationships. I was focusing on boundaries, you know, maintaining my sense of self with work and in. I didn't have time to go watch movies and read books, and there's nothing wrong with that. I'm gonna make more time for that next year, trust me. Cause hopefully I'm not having to build my confidence up with the podcast. Right. I've been doing this thing almost a year now, so there we go. But it was interesting to look back on the year, see what my intention was of the year, and see how that played out. So at first I was like, oh shoot, I really don't have liquidy split to offer these people. My favorite movies and this and this and this, but guess what? It's cuz I was doing the work and I was focusing on myself and I'm still freaking awesome and I'm still pretty in touch with society in my, in my opinion, even if I haven't watched all the movies that released this year. So I thought that was pretty interesting. So what did I learn? Yes, next year need to be more culturally in check, but also I was focusing on me and making that priority and that's beautiful. Other things that I am gonna take with me into 2023 building community, create more of what I engage with, which I've already kind of gone into, um, things I've learned and I'm leaving behind. I'm not a therapist and I need to know my limits when helping others. Doesn't mean I don't wanna help, but there is helping and then there's overextending and at a certain. You have to realize, as much as you wanna help someone, you can't always help them and they have to help themselves. And you have to have your own boundaries in place so that you're not overextending yourselves. Cuz we're all in our own journeys here. You know what I mean? So I have to know, protect myself at all costs. Um, and that's okay. And that's not selfish. Uh, jump and the net will appear. I saw that earlier this year in a book I was reading, and it's just kind of stayed with me through everything, especially with the podcast. So that is a big piece of advice that I'm taking into 2023. Everyone's faking it till they make it. That's definitely something I've learned this year. Do not be intimidated by a job description, by a project, by a confrontation. No matter the hell you can do it. I totally believe in you because we are all out here faking it till you make it, I promise. Gratitude journaling. I wanna do more of that in 2023. Um, I did a little bit this year and as I was doing this recap and looking ahead for 2023, I went back and read some of the journal entries and it was really nice to see. you know, not just what was going on that moment, but like how I was reframing maybe the negativity or whatever was going on in my world, and displaying it through gratitude for other things. Uh, it was very, it was very positive, obviously, but, um, it just, it just felt really healthy. It's not about, Gaslighting myself by any means. No, but it's about showing up for yourself, recognizing when things are lesser than, but still getting, giving credit and, and recognizing things when that are not, that are glass half full kind of thing, right? So wanna bring more of gratitude journaling into the new year. And then another thing is, um, I'm learning more about like neuro divergence, you know, adhd, things like that and how certain behaviors come from that. Like my ability or inability to always complete tasks or feeling overwhelmed by tasks or trying to do 20 tasks, starting it at once, that sort of thing. Um, trying to kind of, It's more of just like a self-awareness around it. Wanting to learn more about that in the new year. So that is my 2022 recap. If I could give you a quick summary of me in 2022, I would say this was the year of me breaking outta my cocoon. Think it's, it's meticulous to come outta your cocoon. It takes time. Um, this, this year was me testing the waters within myself, putting myself out there and just jumping and being okay with that, trusting the unknown, being okay with the unknown. Honestly, ex being excited about the unknown, trusting that the sky's the limit and there's nothing holding me back but myself and I can't achieve it, which can be overwhelming sometimes, but at the end of the day, it's empowering to remind myself I can achieve. You just gotta focus and take your time when you need to take a break. Sometimes you can speed up, sometimes you can just bury yourself in your office and heads down, just work, work, work, work, work. And then sometimes you need a break. And that's okay. And that's beautiful. So 2022 was me breaking out on my cocoon and establishing myself in this new, this new body, this new version of me, this new chapter. So when I thought about what was the word that I wanted to bring into 2023, I. Wrote down so many different words. And I know that seems silly, but none of them felt right. And I knew what I was trying to, what emotion I wanted to evoke, but I was, um, I was, I just couldn't find a word that really just, sits right. And then I thought about build. Build is to nurture, it's to grow, it's to establish, it's to create build, to build trust. 2023 for me is to build, it's to build my personal brand. It's to build my following. Establish the in between as. As something, as somebody, as a, a brand that encourages a safe space, encourages self-love, encourages you to believe in yourself and go after all the things. And it's entertaining. It's, it's positive. It's where we can vent, it's where we can do all the things. Be angry, be sad, be happy, be silly, be weird, be kooky, be pissed off. Whatever the case I want to build. In terms of getting a home. Maybe not necessarily building a home from scratch, but building a foundation, creating, building this, this home base, building more strength within my health, becoming more self-aware, establishing what the hell does gut health mean, right? Creating. A space for me to video record my podcast, right? And build that brand as I was, as, as I said, build. That's the word that I'm gonna bring into 2023. What's the word you're gonna pick? What's the word you wanna choose? What's the word that you wanna embody? I encourage you to think about it because honestly, when I thought about intention and being intentional for 2022, I did think about that throughout the year. It was a reminder, especially when I felt overwhelmed or maybe I was kind of straying off my path. I would be reminded of that thought, be intentional, and now looking back on the year, even if it was silly, me not having a list of best movies for 2022. I can see how that being intentional played out and it's pretty freaking awesome. So build. I'm gonna build in 2023, build more brand, build a foundation for a home, build my my confidence, build my skillset, build others up with my messaging. That's my plan. Remember? January 1st is just a date. All of these things, you don't have to worry about'em. They, or you can freaking come up with'em in a month, two months, six months. Who cares? Who cares? All I want is for you to believe in yourself and to know that you can go after whatever it is that you're trying to achieve. It is scary. It is overwhelming. It is stressful to say the least. But once you reach that point of loving yourself, even when you mess up, even when you fall off the horse, you come back more powerful. You come back stronger, and after you pick yourself up a few times, you really start to believe the sky's the limit and you can achieve whatever it is that you're trying to go after. Sometimes the journey's isolating. They feel alone. I just remind myself, eyes on the prize, it's all gonna work out. It's all gonna play out the way I want it to. Even if I feel a little crazy right here in the moment talking about myself into a mic every night. Well, not necessarily every night, but every week, You know what I mean? I also wanna say I appreciate you so much for listening to the in-between this. uh, I can't believe that I did it, but also I can, you know, But your support and just commitment to listening and following and engaging means so much to me, and I I do not take it for granted, and I only want to get better. So, cheers to you all for joining the R of the InBetween to Navigating 2020 twos mini Inbetweens with me. Well look out 2023. I know there is only a ton more of in-betweens. We're gonna cover more guests, more opportunities, more content, all the things. But I wouldn't be here without you. So thank you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for listening. Thank you for sharing this with your friends, with your family. Thank you for those who have left reviews, left comments. This is only the beginning, so buckle up Buttercup. We are only going up from here, so I wish you all the best. Happiest, safest, happy New Year. I look forward to navigating life's in-betweens with you all next year and for many years to. And, uh, look out for new special guests. Got some cool things in the pipeline coming. So lot of fun, lot of fun things already on the horizon for 2023. And if you are interested in making a vision board and all those fun things, I'm gonna do, um, I'm gonna try to do some video content around it, but I'm gonna make some posts later about later this week about vision boards and the one I'm working on for 2023. So maybe even like a bonus episode. I haven't had a Liam in a few weeks, so maybe that's what I should do for this week. So there's that. Thank you again for listening. if you haven't done so, I'd appreciate you can go leave me a little rating, a review, uh, wherever you listen to your podcasts. It really helps, especially with Apple Podcasts and Spotify. So if you listen on your, if you listen to podcasts on either platform, go to your girl solid and leave a review. So I will see you next week, and if you are just, you know, Jones in to talk to me and get to know me before next week, you can find me on Instagram at in dot between pod, pod as in podcast, and then TikTok, which I'll be honest, not as kept up with there, but at the in between podcast, Instagram, in between pod TikTok, uh, the InBetween podcast./ So go out there. Have a wonderful New Year's and I will see you all in 2023. I'm Elizabeth and thank you for joining me in the InBetween. See ya.

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