In-Between: It's My Birthdayyy & Lessons Learned

It's your favorite TRIPLE TAURUS' BIRTHDAY WEEK!!! Ayeeeee! It's also the TWO-YEAR ANNIVERSARY of The In-Between - How!?!  I'm full of energy (and glam) on this week's episode. 

Here's a quick look:

• It's my birthday, boo! Weekend getaway to the mountains 
• Newly "discovered" childhood trauma aka Liz's need to be accepted by anxiety - fun times!
• Angry AF, an app to help men with their emotional intelligence *scratches head*
• The new Dua Lipa album (I'm a Dua STAN)
• Current icks: Not being able to split checks, the fact that it's an election year, and misleading headlines. 
• The anniversary of the podcast & what I've learned so far:
  • 1. Starting is the hardest part; that doesn't mean this journey isn't free of challenges but getting over the initial hump is/was the hardest part.
  • 2. Constantly being pushed out of my comfort zone (but finding out that's where the magic happens)
  • 3. How to truly believe in and have confidence in ME; not seeking external validation

We're a little all over the place, but when are we not? You'll be giggling and feeling empowered no matter what. ;) 

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Transcript

Elizabeth: 0:06

Hey, hey, hey, welcome back to another episode of the in between podcast. I'm your host, Elizabeth Cheney. And guess what? It's your favorite triple Taurus's birthday week. Better yet. I'm actually recording this on my birthday. For those who don't know, my birthday is my 14th. Maybe you're new here. Maybe you just don't know. Don't know. But yes, this is a triple tourist birthday. My ninth grade boyfriend called it the Valentine's Day of May. So you will never forget it. I say that to everybody. When's your birthday? May 14th, the Valentine's Day of May. You'll never forget it. And you know what? Typically they don't. So, shout out to my ninth grade boyfriend. Don't know where you are, don't know what you're doing, but you gave me a nugget of wisdom that I have used the rest of my life thus far. So, uh, anywho, it's also the anniversary of the podcast. I know, I can't believe it's been two years. Um, feels like ten, but it also feels like it's been six months. So, two years, and we are still building things for the pod. This is your reminder that you do not have to have it all figured out. But we'll get more into that later. But birthdays! I look freaking great, don't I? If I do say so myself. I'm going to night to some I'm going to night. I'm going to night. Don't know why I made that weird, but I'm going to this place called Crog Street Market tonight with some girlfriends. Um, I'm at that stage of my life as an adult where just the idea of going to a restaurant and then they're like, we can't split checks. And then there's just the insanity of somebody having to take on that huge charge for a party of eight. And then the craziness of trying to split that check, make sure everyone has their bills, their items, all the things covered. I know there's apps that deal with that, but your birthday girl does not want to deal with it herself. So we're going somewhere where it's like community seating, there's like a bunch of different like food stalls, so everyone can A, get what they want, and B, pay for it themselves, and I don't have to stress or worry about who's covering the check. But that leads me to my next point. Ugh, why, why is, why do restaurants do that? Why do restaurants, like, I get if you have a party of 12, Party of 16. Maybe you don't want to split the check 12, 16 different ways. if it's like a party of six, party of eight, party of 10, let's say it's 10 people, but five couples, why can't you split the check? I have worked in the restaurant industry. I've bartended, been a server, been a host. I've done all the things. And every place that I've worked, We've been able to split the check and I worked at a few nice places, so I don't know if it's like a new thing Maybe it's just an Atlanta Restaurant thing. I don't know but I would really like to know why they can't split checks. That actually drives me crazy Uh, we're all not ballin out there, and we all just can't afford like a 300, 400, 500 dinner for all our friends. Why make it inconvenient for us? Is it really like the credit card processing fee? Then just charge us that. Like, seriously. Um, yeah. So, the older I get, which I am 33 this week. I'm in the, the dual numbers. Well, I've been in the dual numbers for a hot minute, but you know what I mean. The 33, which, as I've gotten older, I developed new anxieties. You know, first it was parking, woo, parking, go stress out about parking. Is there parking? Where are we going to park? Parallel parking? I'm going home. And as we have creeped up into our 30s, we have new quirks about us. And this year's new quirk is split checks. So tune in for next year to see what new anxieties as a millennial this girl has. All jokes aside, I do still feel like restaurants, uh, need to get their shit together and not, not be so rude about that if you hear what I'm saying. because it's just like inconvenient to me. Inconvenient, we are tired of inconvenience. Okay, but anyways, 33 year old geriatric millennial rant. There we go. Um, like my nails, aren't they so cute? Yeah, I'm on one today. It's because I look so cute and I feel like I haven't looked cute for the podcast in, I don't even know how long, several, several months. I feel like it's been a minute. Maybe, maybe March on my Women's Wellness Series. So, anyways, she's here and she's um, I had nothing. I was like, rhymes with here. She will appear, but she's already appeared because she's on the podcast and now we're talking about herself in third person. So we're just going to end that there. but excited about tonight and this weekend, Stan and I are having a little mountain getaway. We're going to Blue Ridge for those familiar. It's like in the North Georgia mountains. What's on the agenda? Absolutely nothing. I just want to get away. We're going to do some trip planning. We're going to do some organizing of the adulting, the adulting gesture, if you will. Trying to really own this whole adult life I'm supposed to be living. I'm talking a shared calendar and for those who already have one, you're probably cringing because you probably already know how much it saved your life and Quite possibly your marriage and for those who are not on the shared calendar yet. Stay tuned I'll let you know how it goes But this is my attempt to hopefully keep my husband up to speed on what the hell is going on in our life because it's not Like he actually listens to me to hear that when I tell him what we're doing But I'm bumped. More like womp, womp, womp, womp. But, uh, I want to be in nature. Maybe that's the Taurus, the Earth sign and beam. You know, my favorite thing to say is I'm a triple Taurus, even though I don't know what that means. Maybe I'll read about astrology this weekend. I don't know. I have so many options. The world is my oyster. I cannot wait. But I do know there will be a hike. But that's all she wrote. That's all she wrote. The one thing that's making me sad this year is obviously Luna not being present not being here but you know one thing that's been grounding me through all of that is Reminding myself like what I believe spiritually is when our when we die our souls like that's energy that goes back into the universe and if that's what I believe spiritually then that is And then she is with me, like maybe not physically, but her energy, her spirit is with me. And here lately, I've been using that to ground me. I've been really missing her lately. I've been pretty sad about it, not going to lie. Uh, probably because the weather is nicer, everyone is out walking their dog and then half of those people have Australian Shepherds, I feel like, um, but I still love seeing them if I'm being completely honest. And also I just miss my girl. Like, she was so much more than just a dog to me. So, not trying to get all super sad, it's my birthday week, but just, I have to, you know, I have to give the acknowledgement where it's due. I miss my girl, I love her so much, um, so yeah, maybe we'll have a little moment in her memory this weekend. Cause she was always like, I don't know, the past few years I've always done something outdoorsy. Whether it was hiking, camping, and she was always right there next to me, so, it's gonna be hard, it's gonna be hard this year. But in other news, let's see what else is going on around the internet, around my life. I feel like last time it was just a solo podcast. I gave you all the updates. I can come back and say that my life is not near as crazy as it was, you know, coming off of in the last solo session, uh, podcast episode. Um, but I feel like I'm still playing catch up, if that makes sense. However, I am still crushing my to do list. I'm very proud of myself. I'm doing this whole thing of like, Liz, you're a grown up, you can do it. Liz, who says you can't? Liz, you can do all the things. Working on that, what's it called? Inner narrative. And it's been helping. And it's, I don't want to say it's like helping me get things done, because I'm getting things done, but it's like helping the anxiety of managing the to do list Task list workload, so to speak, So that's been great. Uh, I did think, well, how do I say this? I did uncover something new about myself. Haven't talked about in therapy yet. And who knows if the podcast is the right place to trauma dump, but you know what? It's my podcast. So I'm going to do what I want to do. You hear me? You hear me? Uh, but I was funny enough on the last, the last therapy session I had with my, my therapist, I was almost on the podcast, L O L. Uh, but my last therapy session with my, my therapist. I was telling her, not necessarily in a joking way, but I was like, You know, what is my childhood trauma? Uh, I mean, that was a very bold statement to say. Of course, I am aware of some things. Hello, daddy issues. But there's other things. There's like, where did this anxiety come from? Why am I so paranoid? Which, that has chilled out significantly as I've gotten older. But growing up, and definitely like in my early 20s, it was pretty bad, the paranoia. Um, but anyways, Talked to my therapist. I was like, what is my childhood trauma? Like, what is the inner child? What do I need to heal? And, uh, because I know it's there and it's not that I'm trying to say I had a horrible childhood. No, not at all. I just, maybe it's because of all the self work I've done on myself. Um, and I'm always like checking the system like, chick, chick, chick, how we doing Liz? Do we need to fine tune that? Ooh, there's, there's some unnecessary anxiety that's spewing from this module. What's going on with that? You know what I mean? So. on that note, I've noticed there's this anxiety, with friends, with people, and I've always had it, and it's, it's not so much people pleasing. That's what I thought it was at first, but it's not. And I did a little soul searching, a little, uh, journaling, and I will vet this with my therapist next time. But I think. There is some kind of trauma driving my anxiety and need to be accepted by society. Whoa! Yes, this is me self diagnosing myself. And I don't even know if self diagnosing is the right term because it's not like needing to be accepted by society is a natural mental health like illness or symptom. Uh, but It hit a, aha! It turned on a lightbulb in my brain. It is different than people pleasing and I haven't done any research on this because I do not want to go down the rabbit hole. I want to talk to my therapist about this. But it just got me thinking, oh, that might explain my anxiety when I feel like I've messed up, like embarrassed myself or did not act accordingly in society. it also explains this anxiety of not feeling like I am set up to be successful in society. I feel like I'm constantly having to learn things, feeling like maybe I didn't have the right education growing up to, to prepare me for the real world. All of the things. So yeah, I am just taking a moment to explain your girl I think may have found part of her childhood trauma and that is great ding ding ding. Happy birthday to me Goodness gracious, I'm not trying to be funny and make fun of trauma not at all But you know self appreciating humor It's made me laugh and it makes me cope just a little bit easier. So there we are. But I'm excited for that journey, excited to explore that more. And you know I'll update the podcast. So this is to say, hey, look in the mirror. It doesn't have to be a scary thing. It can give you a lot of answers. Even though I've definitely not talked to a professional about this yet, and this is strictly between me and my journal at the moment, it has helped me process and kind of put two and two together in a lot of different aspects of my life. So I'm just saying if something feels off, if you're wondering why you behave a certain way and you're like, you know what? I can't ignore this anymore. Why do I feel this anxiety when I don't need to feel it or whatever the case may be? I challenge you. Look in the mirror. Start journaling. Look inward. I don't know. Read a book. I'm just kidding. That's not what I meant, but Definitely don't be afraid to address certain things. I saw this quote today. That was like it's not your fault the trauma happened to you, but it is your responsibility to heal from it. And that is annoying. That is frustrating. Uh, the reason why it is your responsibility, because once you've adapted or gotten to that self awareness of, oh, there's that trauma, oh, this is why I am the way I am, oh, this is why I do the things that I do, this is why I think the way that I think, you are going to have to do the work to unpack that. To right the wrong, so to speak, to rewire your brain, whatever the case may be, whether it's The love you were showed as a child, whether it was like in my case, I had a pretty lonely childhood I don't mean that as necessarily sad as it sounds, but I was an only child. There weren't many kids in my neighborhood at all. I had my cousins, which I love very much, but like it was just me. You know, and they weren't around all the time. And I was taking care of my nana and my papa for most of the part. For most of the part. You know, most of the day because my mom had to work. So I was around old people. Loved them. But, you know, it is what it is. Like, they were like 60 and I was like 6. There's a big age gap there. And I just, I felt very lonely. And I think, The need to feel accepted by society, uh, is fueled by that loneliness from my adolescence. But anyways, we're turning this into a therapy session. This was supposed to be my birthday episode! Uh, but anyways. Unpack that trauma. You will be so relieved to know the freedom that comes on the other side of that. One of my new favorite phrases to say is, knowledge is freedom. Now, knowledge can be power, sure. Knowledge, you have to be careful with it. You have to be in the right space to receive the knowledge. But if you headspace and able to take it as it is and then digest it later, or whatever the case may be, I mean, I know knowledge is power to a certain extent, but what I mean by this is if you were in a place to receive your truth, you've been working on yourself, like for me it's like meeting new depths of my personality, of my soul, so to speak. I don't think personality is the right word there, I think soul is probably better. Um, why I am the way that I am, that's where the knowledge is freedom. Thank you. I talk about the ADHD lessons I've learned so much. All the different quirks and things that I have judged myself on so much. And then I'm like, oh, that's an ADHD thing. And then it completely changes the perspective. It completely changes my perception of myself. And now I laugh about it. Now it's like the complete 180 of the self judgment and shame. It's like, ha ha, nope, that's just me being ADHD. And then I move on with my day. And then I actually make progress and overcome it and work on it. So, I'm just saying. I just want everyone to be free of their own tethers, their own anchors, their own weights, so to speak. And that's, that's the word, if you know what I mean. Uh, but let's see what else is new, what other updates, what is going on. Dua Lipa released a new album. I've been jamming out to Dua Lipa. And I love her new album. I love Dua Lipa. She's so, so cool. She's talented. She's got a great voice. I love the lyrics. All the songs are like disco funk, groovy. I love it. It just makes me, it's like funk. It's funky. I'm not saying it's like OG funk, so please don't come at me, but I'm just saying her vibe is cool, and I'm into it, and she's like sexy, so not that that makes it for me, but that's just like a bonus point, you know what I mean? Love me some Dua Lipa. I've been listening to, Radical Optimism, non stop. Even Stan likes it. so that's, current like, a That and uncovering your childhood trauma. Or at least one part of it. I really need to stop joking about that because I, I don't mean it to be insensitive at all. Which I'm sure, I mean, y'all know that. So, I don't even know why I feel the need to catch myself. But, maybe you're new here. FYI. Thanks for watching! I care too much. That is mean as shtick. Um, let's see what else. Oh, uh, around the webs. So I saw this like, not headline, but it was a bullet point in a newsletter that I receive every day. And somebody, a woman has launched an app called Angry AF. And it's an app to help men become more emotionally intelligent. Hmm. I don't want to say I hate it. I mean, it's definitely necessary, but I'm like, how about we just teach men emotional maturity, emotional control, emotions. Uh, not everything has to be happy and angry. There is this thing called sadness, um, and that's got many, many layers to it. Uh, even happy has many, many layers to it. Angry, anger, angry, anger, that's got many levels to it. So there is a rainbow. Actually, a prism, even more than a seven colored rainbow, a prism of emotions out there. So you can either use this app or you could go read a self help book. You could listen to this podcast. You could go talk to your, your partner, assuming they are female, they are a woman and they can probably tell you, uh, yeah, honey, you need to check yourself just, just a little bit. So angry AF. There's that path or there's couples therapy. Or, my personal favorite, which I think they should all be, an individual therapy. Ah, womp, womp, womp, womp. Um, jokes aside, interesting app. It's like you have one end, the Tinder, the Bumble, all of those apps, and then on the other end, it's how to be a better emotional support. I love it. Variety. And then in terms of current ICHS, besides the, the check splitting thing with the restaurants, uh, I know that's, uh, Actually, I don't even want to say that's insane because I bet a lot of you would agree with me. A lot of you would probably say, You know what Elizabeth? I, I hate that too. I hate that somebody has to get stuck with the 8 person bill and then we all have to scramble like, I don't know, wild geese. Ah! That's mine! No! Ah! Like, I don't know why I just went with that metaphor but, You get my picture? You get my picture. And like, I don't know. Until we're all ballin out, and this podcast is huge, and I have ads galore, all the things, um, I'm gonna be stressed out about it. Not truly stressed, uh, like I am about finding a house, because that seems nearly impossible, but, jokingly stressed, if you will. Yes. Yes. My And then my other ick is besides the fact that it's an election year and our options are literally crazy, crazy and crazy. The third crazy is Robert, Robert Kennedy, whatever the fuck his name is. You know, he was the only person that was talking about private equity and like how it's destroying our economy and our country. So I was like, Oh my gosh, wow, someone who's actually freaking talking about something important. And then this joker. decides to not just say in an interview that he had a brain worm, like a worm eating his brain, but this motherfucker doubled down. He doubled down that there is a worm in his brain. Oh my God. Like, oh, can people just keep their stupid to themselves? You know, even if he thought that he could have kept it to himself. What, what good, what benefit is it to us to know that you have, or not, not that you have, but that you think you have a brain worm. And then to make matters worse, they didn't think they could, but he had doctors and other people come out to confirm and validate his brain worm. So whatever. It's not really whatever, but I'm not gonna get political on the podcast. I try not to. Just know that I hate that it's an election year. I really do. I'm tired of the ads. I'm tired of the headlines. Speaking of the headlines, this is the last ick that I want to get into. I feel like I'm having whiplash, deja vu, a combination of the two with current headlines when it comes to our economy, the job market, all of the things. Oh, we're not going into a recession. Oh, we're going into a recession. Oh, the job market's doing great. Oh, the job market's not doing great. Bah! Boo! Bee! Bah! Ever since like 2021 It's been up and down up and down up and down on one end. Everyone is like, oh the economy's booming inflation's not there, but like rates keep going higher and no one can afford anything and Everything is just insane and private equity is buying fucking everything It feels All the things, I guess I'm kind of like rambling with this, but I am over the bullshit. if you get a headline, anyone gets a headline, you read the news, do additional research, do your own due diligence. I'm not saying that you can't believe any news article out there. But it's at the point now where I do feel like I have to actually research, vet, every single thing that I read. And if not because they were kind of misleading, but They only provide vague additional information to whatever they're talking about. So that is really frustrating. And then I know like you have your right media, your left media, but to be honest, both of them, both sides suck. Both of them suck. I want the middle media. I want to know the truth. I don't want to know Oh, Biden's gonna make taxes go up for everyone. No, he's not. Did you go and read the 2025 budget plan? He's gonna raise taxes for corporations and people who make a shit ton of money, like millions of dollars. I, for one, do not make that kind of money. The big tax hikes really start like at the either 900, 950, 950 thousands, income a year. So, again, this bitch said she wasn't going to get political and here she is. All I'm saying is, is the economy doing well? I don't fucking know. Personally, I don't think so. I think everything is damn expensive. I think we have a major problem with private equity. And, our debt just keeps going up and that's terrifying. But, it's okay. It's all good. as of right now, women still have some level of rights. Uh, it's definitely getting doom and gloom out there, but it's fine. I mean, it's fine. I'm over here just trying to unpack my childhood trauma. Who cares about the economy? Who cares about women's rights? Who cares about the future of this country? Sorry, guys. Okay, you know what? I get one free pass since it's my birthday week. Um, so, yes. But, my point still stands. Do your own research. Please. God, it's the only way we're going to outsmart these people, is doing our own research, not believing everything that we are told. But also, this is not me trying to spew and ignite conspiracy theories. No, it is not. I'm just trying to, uh, I don't know. Have a soapbox without having an actual specific soapbox platform. That makes any sense? I don't even think so. But, moving on, moving on, sick of the headlines. the last little funny thing that I want to say, and I really hope I didn't talk about this on the last solo episode. I don't think I did because it's like a recent realization. But if I did, well, you're in for it twice. So I have talked about me and Stan going to Norway this year, like as our big international trip. And the amount of research that went into this decision was simply, Hey Google, when is the best time to see the Northern Lights in Google says, November. Boom! We're going in November. That was the beginning and the end of my research before this decision was made. now, no flights have been booked, no hotels have been booked, nothing's been planned, but we've been marinating on this idea of going to Norway at the end of the month of November. I started doing some research. And, uh, come to find out, November is not the time to go to Norway. I have, actually, now that I'm saying this out loud, I'm pretty positive I did talk about this on the podcast. So, I apologize for the double stories, but whatever, she's here. Truth of the matter is, in between fall and winter in Norway is November. It's wet, sludgy, maybe kinda icy, but not this winter snowy wonderland that I was expecting. No ice fishing, no, no Arctic Circle, well I guess you can still go to the Arctic Circle, but like no real igloo stays. Like, all that shit happens in December, late December. Going skiing, all this stuff. So, one of the things Stan and I plan to do in Blue Ridge, Is plan this trip and decide are we gonna go in December? Are we gonna go earlier? Are we gonna go somewhere different all together? maybe Iceland because Iceland didn't seem like a total bust in November, but This just goes to show you how good I am at trip planning. So I'm getting better though. My confidence is growing Italy really helped your girl, but then I came back and my dog died. So, uh, Hmm, that was really sad and you know, hopefully not that I'm doomed in my trip planning. Um, I mean, Italy definitely gave me some confidence, so maybe I will pull this out. It definitely feels less overwhelming. Um, I'm just laughing at the fact that November really is like the least ideal time to go. Like, everything that I read was like, you don't want to go November. So, I think that's funny. I do think that's funny. A lot funnier than all these crazy ass headlines all over the place and brain worms galore. Oh goodness, but before I end today's episode, I know it was kind of all over the place, but it is the in between, and I feel like life's all over the place, Elizabeth's all over the place, and that's how we do things around here, but we have fun. We have a good time. I've been telling people, they're like, what's your podcast about? I'm like, it's entertainment and empowerment entertainment and enlightenment. So That's all she wrote But before I part because it is the two year anniversary week Uh, the in between, I wanted to share a few things that I have learned in these past two years, since launching the podcast. And this goes to anybody who maybe wants to start a podcast, wants to do something for themselves, a creative endeavor, start their own job, be an entrepreneur. I don't freaking know. Start a side hustle. All of the things I just want to share a few things that I have learned since launching Starting is the hardest part. I've said this before and I'll say it again. Starting is the hardest part. Just start. Just start. Record one episode. Knit one glove. Go to the gym for 20 minutes and walk on the freaking treadmill. That's all you got to do. Just start. Do something small. Do something basic. Do something entry level. Just start. You do not have to have it all figured out, whatever it is. Heck, I am still building things as I go. I launched a website just a few months ago. Just this week, I finally got my email signature set up. And I, I am embarrassed to admit I'm having the hardest time exporting out of Canva into my Google G suite, email system, but she's not giving up. It's really cute design. It just looks really blurry. But then again, like sometimes it's blurry, sometimes it's not. So I don't know what I'm doing wrong, but I will figure it out. You bet your Bessie I will. But the point being is you do not have to have it all figured out. I mean, I didn't have intro music for like three or four months until I finally launched the podcast. Definitely didn't have it when I first started. I, I don't have automated forms quite yet. Like I have the contact form, but I don't have an intake questionnaire for my, my guests or people who want to pitch themselves. Like all of this will come, all of it will happen. It's all happening and coming and it's due time. Again, starting is the hardest part. And then you got to keep with it. Consistency is the next hardest part in my opinion. You know, especially with podcasting, You do not get into this because you expect to make money. I'm not making money quite yet. Although. Your girl didn't get exempted to be an affiliate for Descript, which is the program that I record in, I edit in, all of the things. So if you are into podcasting or you want to make like video content, hit your girl up because I got a code I'd love for you to use. Yes, I get like a little kickback. back if you use my code, but I am obsessed with this product. So that's why I signed up for the affiliate link. Because if anyone asks me, how do you launch a podcast? What do you recommend? I'm like, use descript side note, but, uh, the point being. Two years in, I'm barely making money at this point. Like I think one person has used my descript link, but that's okay. It all comes in due time. Also, you might be someone who's like, no, I've got this together. I'm going to go shell out to every company. I possibly can. Let me be an affiliate. Let me use your merch. Let me be a promo person, please. All the things. And you do that within six months to a year. That's great too. I had to do things on my timeline, and since then I've learned so much about myself and I continue to improve. It's all part of the journey. It's all part of the journey. But starting is the hardest part. another big thing that I've learned and maybe it's, maybe it's not so much a lesson but something that now as I reflect on the past two years, I'm so proud and I'm so proud of myself with it. And it's something that the podcast enables, but. This whole shtick, this podcast is putting myself out on the internet. I know I'm a theater kid. I know I can pretty much talk to anybody. I haven't met a stranger yet, but it is unnerving to put yourself out there, especially back in the beginning. I still struggle with it too, to an extent, even now. not as much, but maybe it's like a certain tick tock video or like this idea, or maybe I still struggle with recording in public, like, you know, filming content, but this whole thing pushes me out of my comfort zone in a good way. I am constantly testing that, that thread. I am pushing the needle on what, is comfortable to me, what makes me uncomfortable, what pushes me out of that comfortability and safe zone. And let me tell you something being pushed into the out of comfort zone the unsafe zone the splash zone if you know what I mean There is so much growth there. There is so much opportunity there. That is where the magic happens So, you know what now that I'm saying this it is a lesson Push yourself out of your comfort zone. Do it. Just start and push yourself out of your comfort zone. By starting, you are by default pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. So you've already got that in the bag and then just keep feeding that. Keep nurturing that. Keep pushing yourself out and man, the confidence, the inner negative narrative where you're thinking people are judging you and thinking about you and you're worried about what people are thinking or saying, like none of that matters. And. Side note, they're not really saying shit and if they are, it's more of a projection on them and not so much for you. But pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, ooh, there is so much growth and magic in that. So I highly, highly encourage you to push yourself out of your comfort zone. Heck, even if you're not pursuing a podcast or a side hustle or whatever the hell, if you are, you can find one thing. Each day, whether it's big or small, each week, every couple of days, whatever you set the threshold of pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, Magic will happen. I promise you it may not happen overnight. But the more and more the more consistency I will see you in due time, honey, after you tell me, damn girl, pushing myself out of my comfort zone. You were not kidding. As somebody who could not handle the unknown to save their life from all of my childhood and for most of my young adulthood, I would say this is something that I worked on after launching the podcast. Terrified of the unknown, the unplanned, the path less traveled. You want me to leave the box? Uh, survey says, not on my watch. Ooh, let me tell you something. The unknown, I think that's the path that we all should be walking. I don't necessarily mean we all should start a podcast. No! But what makes us uncomfortable? What makes us a little nervous? A little nervous Nelly? Lean into that. Explore it. if simply put, just go, huh, ponder it. Give it a little bit of brain space. I'm telling you, there is something to be said. So, getting out of my comfort zone, leaning into the unknown. That's like a part 2A, 2B. number three, believing in myself. I didn't intend for this to play out the way that it is, but all of these points kind of connect to each other, in a way, doing this has fueled my confidence. I believe in myself. Self love has always been there. Yes. Self love is a core value, a pillar of the in between. I believe that anything that you set out in life can be accomplished as long as you love yourself. That's not to say that you can do it all by yourself. I'm just saying like you believe in yourself and maybe fricking hard. I don't know what you've trying to, what you're trying to plan, what you're trying to do, but go after it, pursue it. So the third thing that I've learned in this podcasting in this two year journey is my, my confidence has grown so much because I just started in the world and end up in fire which leads me to leaning into the unknown. Something that constantly pushes me out of my comfort zone and being confident and comfortable in that leap in the net will appear. Another one of my favorite quotes, the third point, the confidence and self assurance I have in myself, the fact that I can self validate and I don't need external validation. That's not to say that I don't occasionally text people and I'm like, yo, do I suck? I suck. Have you listened to the most recent episode? How did I do? Of course I do that because me, myself, and I, I need feedback. But what I mean is I don't need the constant validation that you are telling me I'm doing good. I believe in myself enough. I mean, shit, now I got people pitching me guests on the podcast. maybe it's a previous guest and they're pitching me some badass friend they have, or I'm getting actual raw, organic people from the outside, from the world wide web, saying, Elizabeth, this would be a great guest for your podcast. look at where we are, and it's only been two years. So whatever ambition you have, whatever dream you want to chase, your girl is always going to encourage you to follow it, to lean into it, to embrace it, to believe in it, even when everything inside you says, not today, this is crazy, this is the unknown. Don't know why I had to give it an accent, but whatever. point being, do it. Just do it. Just start. Leap and the net will appear. Lean into the unknown path. Get out of your comfort zone and grow in your confidence. I promise you it is a hard journey. It is a humbling journey, but it is one that will fuel your passion more than you could think of. And that goes regardless if you are pursuing a side hustle, creative job, whatever the case. Like, it could be a freaking hobby for all I know. Just lean into it. but yeah, that's about all she wrote. So, I'm about to go. Gonna go drink a little bubbles for my birthday. Celebrate my birthday! And, uh, next week, I got my girl Taylor Hunt to come on the podcast. Remember me a few weeks ago, a month ago or so, talking about I was on an Australian podcast. While Taylor is coming on The Inbetween and that episode is scheduled for next week. and it's a very beautiful conversation. I got goosebumps several times throughout it and she has got so many good nuggets, Of wisdom to share. So I, I just, I'm so happy she gets to come on the podcast and y'all get to listen to her. So look out for that episode. And if you haven't done so already, please follow me on Instagram in dot between pod and at Elizabeth Cheney underscore tick tock, the in between podcast and YouTube, the in between podcast. And if you enjoyed this episode or you enjoyed the podcast, I would appreciate you leaving a rating, subscribe, follow wherever you listen to your podcasts and better yet, share this with a friend. a lover, a sister, a brother, a coworker. Maybe you want to share it with your local dry cleaning lady. I love mine. She's incredible. So hey, to each his own, all I'm saying is help spread the word, help your girl out because this is how I grow this thing is word of mouth and just doing the Lord's work of getting my name out there. So I appreciate you. I'm happy to have you along on the journey. And cheers to another year around the sun. Cheers to another year of the in between. I cannot freaking wait to see where things go this next year because I'm telling you, I have really good feelings, exciting feelings, magical feelings about where it's going to go. So yeah, on that note, I will see you next week on an all new in between. I'm Elizabeth. Bye.