The Dating Dilemma: To Split or Not to Split.......Checks
Mar 08, 2023Season 2Episode 9
Eddie Lopez
Our hilarious take on whether splitting the check on a first date is a deal breaker is just what the doctor ordered. We promise you'll laugh, you'll cry (from laughing so hard), and you might even learn a thing or two about the complexities of modern dating. So, what are you waiting for? Join us for some witty banter and cringe-worthy stories that will have you entertained from start to finish!
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Our hilarious take on whether splitting the check on a first date is a deal breaker is just what the doctor ordered. We promise you'll laugh, you'll cry (from laughing so hard), and you might even learn a thing or two about the complexities of modern dating. So, what are you waiting for? Join us for some witty banter and cringe-worthy stories that will have you entertained from start to finish!
Looking to the podcast? Click on the link below and check out Buzzsprout You will not regret this decision. Following the link let Buzzsprout know that we sent you, get you a $20 Amazon gift card if you sign up for a paid plan, and help support our show.
As always, enjoy your life, and drink your whiskey!!
Eddie:
What's going on guys? Welcome back to another episode of Whiskey and Uncensored. My name is Eddie Lopez, and I'm gonna be the host of this DeBry Today where we discuss sex, sex trends, dating relationships, and all the bullshit that comes with it all while drinking whiskey and just having a grand whole time. Today I'm on that Knob Creek nine years. Again, I've mentioned this before. It's not one of my favorites, but it is whiskey and we will drink it. Today's topic is gonna be a good one. Today we're diving into a topic that has been debated for ages. Is splitting checks on the first date a deal breaker? Should it be the person who asked out the other,. Or should it be a 50 50 split? Like any good relationship, who knows? Perhaps the answer's gonna lie in the stars and the planet's alignment at the time of the date. We've all heard the stories of people who refused to go on a second date because their date didn't pay for the whole meal, but is that a valid reason to write someone off? Well, guys, guess what? I'm gonna provide my insights and opinion. Did you expect anything less? Now we know there's a lot of confusion, awkwardness, anxiety, surrounding the whole issue, and I'm here to put my 2 cents in the mix. I know everyone's got their own opinions, but hear me out. I've done my own research, I've talked to a few people, and I'm ready to weigh in. So grab your drink, like me, settle in because things are gonna get interesting. But before we dive in, I'll just give a quick rundown of how I'm planning to do this episode. First, I'll discuss the arguments for and against putting the check on the first date, and then we're gonna talk about some gray areas and then we will wrap it up with some tips and how to handle the bill on the first date, regardless of your position. So, have you ever been on a first date and had that awkward moment when the bill arrives and you have no clue who's paying or even worth that you suggested splitting the bill and you got the death stare? If this has happened, don't worry. You're not alone. The topic has puzzled many people, and today we're gonna take a crack at figuring it out. Let's talk about the concept of a deal breaker. A deal breaker is so essential to you that it would prevent you from pursuing a relationship with someone, and if it goes against your values or makes you feel fundamentally uncomfortable, it's putting the check really a deal breaker. Now, I'm not saying that you shouldn't offer to pay or that you shouldn't appreciate it if your date offers a pay, but let's not make it a require. Let's not judge someone's character based on whether or not they pay for your fucking meal. So some of the pros and the cons, but first we'll start with the pros of splitting the check. Let's face it, fellas, paying for everything on the first date can make some women feel like they owe you something and who wants to feel like they're already in debt to somebody after our first date. So why not suggest splitting that bill and allowing her to feel empowered? Plus, it's a great way to show that you're not an entitled caveman, who expects a woman to be enchanted by your wallet? I'm pretty sure you guys were going somewhere else with that. But your wallet, think about it this way. If she offers to pay her share you should know she's not in it for the free meal. She just may be potentially thinking about the upcoming SMASH sesh, and if she insists on paying for everything, well fuck my friends. You just hit the jackpot. Now you need to be the one putting out right. Sharing a bill just demonstrates independence. The other party, some may feel that you gotta pay for everything on the first date. That's not equality, my friend. That's a one-way ticket to the fifties. But let me ask you this. Do you really want to date a woman who expects you to pay for everything just because you're a man? Splitting the check demonstrates that both parties are equal. No one wants to feel like they're on a date with their dad, so why not show that you're both. adults who can handle your finances by suggesting that you split the check, you're showing that you believe you know inequality and that you don't think money should determine, you know, factor in your relationship. And then if she's not on board with splitting the bill, well fuck her. Then , wait, I do that. I'm kidding guys. She's probably not worth your time anyways, so, You know, you don't need that kind of financial inequality in your life. It just reduces pressure. First dates can't be nerve-wracking enough with the added pressure of who's paying for what. You can remove the pressure entirely by suggesting that you split that check. No more worrying about who ordered what if you order too much, too little, or if she's secretly judging you for ordering the cheapest thing on the goddamn menu because she knows that you're. paying, Plus, if she's cool with splitting the bill, then you know you've got yourself a laid back, easygoing woman on your hands. And if she insist on Paying for everything. Well, like I said earlier, Jack Pop bitches. Now, some of the cons of splitting the check on her first date. So picture this, you're on the first date, things are going well. You're enjoying each other's company, discussing your interests, and you're finding common ground, then all of a sudden the check comes, you suggest splitting it, thinking it's gonna be a reasonable, modern way to handle things. Well, congrats guys. You just experienced one of the potential cons of splitting the check. Your dates, face falls, and it's clear that she was expecting you to pick up the tab. An uncomfortable Tension replaces that easygoing time vibe that you had go in for the evening. Splitting that check can be a real pain in the ass with some people. Folks will raise the eyebrow, they'll outright sigh and just refuse to pay their share of the bill. That's a bitch move, by the way, bitch. Some can be very clear that they believe that the man should pay, and even if you suggest, otherwise, you're not worth their time. That's a Karen, one-on-one. Ladies, that is a Karen. Move one-on-one. This signals a lack of interest to some, sadly, some people still clinging to the outdated norms that place the undue stress on who pays for what. They believe that if a man doesn't pay, it's a sign that he's not interested in a woman. Or conversely, if a woman offers to pay, it's a sign that she's just not interested in the man. It's a load of bullshit, but you know how some people can be, things can get awkwardly quickly if you and your date are not on the same page. The truth is there is no one right way to handle the bill on the first. But it does create awkwardness. What was a fun night? Turns into a fucking math problem, and you're both left trying to figure out who owes what. Let's face it. Splitting the check can be navigating a mind feel. It's like that awkward dance of who's paying for what, and it can make even the most confident daters feel like they're in uncharted t. Just the logistics alone of splitting the check can give someone a headache. It's the fact that it can create an uncomfortable situation before your date even ends. You might have had a great time, but now you're both focused on who's paying for what, and then the mood shifts. It's not enough that you wish you could just disappear under the table, but hey. The idea could possibly work in your favor. How risky are you to turn a crashing date into something fun? You are under the table. You can turn things quickly. If you get my point, while splitting the check might seem like it's a good idea, in theory, it can be a nightmare in practice, but, At least you'll have a fantastic under the table story to tell your buddies. Now, this also confuses traditional gender roles. So let's take a step back and think about this momentarily. Are we saying a man's wallet measures his interest in a woman? It's ridiculous, right? Plus what about same sex couple. Who's paying then? I know. Mind blowing, right? Splitting the check can indicate that traditional gender roles are shifting. Women are no longer the objects of desires to be won over by the man's wallet. They have their own money and can pay for their own goddamn meals. And let's not forget that gender is not a binary concept. People of all genders can go on dates and split checks if they choose. So I mean, have you ever seen a lion pay for a meal? Well, here we are, folks. Here we are. How are you identifying yourself? We're in the 21st century folks, the traditional gender roles are a thing of the past, evolving, constantly changing. It's time to embrace the new norms and leave the outdated ideas in the past. So when someone's view on the gender roles is so rigid, that splitting the check throws them for a loop, it's time for that fucker to catch up with the times. If you agree with that or not, that can be a whole entirely separate conversation. After the pros and cons, obviously there's gonna be some gray areas of splitting this check. Let's face it, the dating world is not black and white, and sometimes you gotta navigate, you know, the shady areas. Navigating that gray area and splitting the check can be challenging as there are no set rules for handling the situations. Let's acknowledge. Different scenarios can play out. For example, what if one person ordered a $50 state and the other person only ordered a salad? Or what if one person offered to pay but the other insisted on splitting? These valid questions can make the check situation that much more complicated, but fear not my friends. I'll give you some tips on how to handle these scenarios like a fucking pro. One is to follow the lead of the other person who initiated the date. For example, if your date asks you out and offers to pay, accepting their offers, polite. Conversely, if you ask your date out, offering to pay is just a thoughtful gesture. However, if one person offers to pay and the other insists on splitting the check, it's important to respect each other's wishes and find a solution that works for both parties. However, another tricky situation is when the check arrives and neither party has offered to pay. In this case, it's essential to bring up the topic of splitting up the bill. Actually, it still has to be paid some way or another. You fuckers ate paid a bill, but somebody's gotta do it. A way to do this is to say, "Hey, I had a great time and I'd love to split the check with you if that's okay". Now this approach shows that you enjoyed the date and that you respect each others finances.. It's also important to remember that mean you're not interested in your date. It's just a way to avoid misunderstandings and create a much more relaxed atmosphere. And if you're worried about coming across as cheap, Why not offer to pay over the first on the drinks or appetizers instead, still shows that you're interested and invested, but you're not breaking the bank. Now, if your date still insists on paying or splitting the check, take it as a sign that they respect your independence and want to treat you as an equal. Now, what do you do if one person just offers. So the check comes suddenly one person just offers to pay for everything. What's the proper response? You could accept the offer and let them be the hero, but hold up. That can also create a awkward power dynamic in mixed signals about your level of interest. So what's the solution? You can smoothly suggest splitting the bill by saying, Hey, thanks so much for the offer, but we're about to split this check. Instead, it's a polite way to show appreciation while avoiding any potential awkwardness. Another option is to propose treating them on the following date. This allows you to acknowledge their kindness while setting the tone for future dates. You can just easily say, wow, that's generous of you, but how about I treat you on the next date? You're pretty much guaranteed a second date, my friend. It's a win-win situation.. Communicating openly and honestly about what feels comfortable for both of you is essential. If one person still insists on paying for everyth. It's okay to accept or offer graciously and express your preference to split the check on future dates. After all, it's all about finding a compromise that works for both parties. Of course, my damn dog decides to act a fool right now. How to bring up the topic of splitting the check . Bringing up splitting the check can be a cringeworthy experience, especially if you're unsure what your date is. Thinking however is better to address the issue early rather than let it become a source of later tension. Suggesting a budget friendly venue or activity is one way to bring it up. For example, go for a walk in the. Or grab a cup of coffee instead of going to a fancy restaurant. This can help set the expectation that the date will be low key and casual, making it easier to propose a topic of splitting the check. Another approach is to bring up the topic indirectly. You could mention a recent news article, social media post, or even yet this podcast about splitting the check and then ask for their. This can be a way of gauging their comfort level with a topic without putting them on the spot. If you do decide to bring up the topic directly, it's essential to do so in a way that is respectful and nonjudgmental. Saying something like, I was thinking it might be easiest if we split the check tonight. Is that cool? Can be an excellent way to open the conversation without putting any pressure on your. So let's face it folks. We live in a society that loves to judge. We judge people based on their appearance, their job, social status, and ability to pay for a meal. It's as if we're all auditioning for a reality TV show. We're the winner is the one who spends the most money. But here's the thing, money doesn't equal love. Money doesn't equal compatibility. Hell, money doesn't even equal happiness, but I guess it can determine who's fighting for that fucking bill at some point. Let's not forget that some people just can't afford an expensive meal, especially if they're starting new careers or just have other financial obligations. I mean, shit. Have you seen the prices to enjoy a nice dinner? These days. We shouldn't punish 'em for that. So let's do a quick recap. We started by exploring the pros of splitting the check, which included empowering women, demonstrating independence, and reducing the pressure. Then we dove into the cons of splitting the check, as signaling a lack of interest , creating the awkwardness and just a confusion in traditional gender roles . Finally, we discuss. A bit of the gray area of splitting the check and providing some tips on how to navigate those tricky situations. Now. Let's get into the heart of the matter and the topic that we've been discussing All. is splitting the check a deal breaker? Well, let's ask ourselves some questions first. Do you want to date someone so traditional that they can't handle the idea of splitting a bill? Do you want to be with someone who expects you to pay for everything just because you can? And let's be honest, if splitting the check is a deal breaker for someone, then they're probably not right for. It's not like you're asking them to do something illegal or immoral, it's just a fucking bill. Once again, though, if you're worried about coming across as cheap or just not interested, there are plenty of other ways to show your date that you're into 'em, like paying them a compliment or actually listening to what they have to say. And for all you ladies out there, don't feel pressured to let the guy pay just because you think it's what's expected. If you wanna split that check, go ahead and do it. You don't owe anyone anything. Remember that y'all some bad bitches. Now, and for those of you that are already in committed relationships, I want you to have this conversation as. Money is a source of tension and conflict in relationships, so it's essential to be on the same page from the very beginning. 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