5 Ways To Build A More Positive Relationship

5 Ways to Put More Positivity into Your Relationship

A negative outlook can hurt any relationship. The problem is that the more comfortable we are with a person, the easier it is to vent about the day. While this seems harmless, it really isn't.

The problem with venting to the one you love is your negativity tends to start putting them in a more negative frame of mind. So, while unburdening can seem like a good thing, too much time spent on what goes wrong can make it feel as though nothing ever goes right.

The solution? While you don't need to quit talking about your day, you need to give equal, if not GREATER, time to the positive things in life. You really do want to share a more upbeat point of view, especially as it builds intimacy and makes your relationship feel fresh and fun all over again.

How do you accomplish this? Try one of these quick tips:

Start with a Compliment
We all love hearing nice things about ourselves, but only if the other person means it. When you love someone, though, this shouldn't be hard. Why not practice telling the other person what you enjoy best about them?

Forget the Critique
Nitpicking details will drive anyone into a negative spiral of self-doubt. Before opening your mouth to offer criticism about what the other person is doing wrong, pause and ask if this is really important. You're going to find that most of these things don't matter in the grand scheme. Maybe this would be a better place to comment on what they're doing right instead?

Talk About a Great Time You’ve Had in the Past
Reminiscing is a wonderful way to revisit the perfect date, the time they made you laugh so hard you cried, and all those beautiful moments. You'd be amazed at how positive your mood is (and theirs) when you share your favorite memories of being together.

Ask for What You Want
Have you ever heard how doing something nice for someone else blesses the person who gives as much as the one who receives? Truly, when you love someone, being able to do something for them can feel amazing. With this in mind, share a secret desire, something you always wished the other person would do (Don’t forget to ask their secret wish so you can return the favor!).

Create a Connection Point
Shared interests bring us closer and create a positive charge every time you do things together. Why not try out a new hobby or take a class together? You might discover your new favorite activity.

While there are dozens more ways to reconnect, remember the important thing is to start with a positive attitude yourself. Good moods are contagious, so approaching your partner in a good state of mind will help them respond similarly. 
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