Rekindling Desire Amidst Four-Legged Fiascos with Shiloh Hobby

When Shiloh Hobby steps into the room—or in this case, onto my bed—things are bound to get both heated and heartfelt. That's why I'm thrilled to have the queen of relationship wisdom and sexual enlightenment back with us, ready to unravel the mysteries of intimacy with humor and a touch of audacity. Shiloh's return means revisiting the milestones we've created together, like the launch of "Dead Red Droves," and looking ahead to the belly laughs awaiting us at the upcoming sex trivia nights. But it’s not all fun and games; we delve into why vigorous health is the bedrock of a steamy sex life and offer a tantalizing preview of our A to Z sensual series, kicking off with the allure of anal exploration.

It's no secret that pets have a knack for comic timing, especially when it comes to interrupting our most personal moments. Curl up and listen as we swap tales of amorous adventures turned comedy sketches by our four-legged friends—like Jenny's beagle with impeccable timing and Rachel's parrot who's a little too good at impressions. These furry faux pas are more than just stories; they're lessons in embracing the unexpected chaos that pets bring into our love lives. Whether it's Barkalot Sparkly Jameson's cameo in our cozy chat or a Great Dane with a jealous streak, we're baring all on how these creatures add spontaneity and laughter to our human connections. Join Shiloh and me for an episode that's equal parts enlightening and entertaining, proving that when it comes to sex and relationships, it's the unexpected that often makes for the best stories.

12/30/23

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:44

Welcome back to. Let's Talk About Sex with Stephanie Smith. I am your host and I have a special guest here today, shiloh hobby. Welcome, shiloh.

Speaker 2: 0:57

Stephanie, thank you so much for having me. I'm very excited to be here with you and your listeners.

Speaker 1: 1:03

Well, thank you, thank you, and thank you for joining us today. So I want to give a little introduction, though, about you. So, ladies and gentlemen, and I this is a welcome back because Shiloh has been on the podcast before and we she actually was the inspiration of us starting dead red droves and getting the podcast of the Gil Sten started way back when. So thank you, shiloh, for coming back and joining us again today. Shiloh is a maverick in the realm of relationship navigation and sexual shenanigans, with over 15 plus years, because she's got experience plus teaching under her belt. Shiloh is here to shake up your notions of love, lust and everything in between the sheets.

Speaker 1: 1:54

Shiloh doesn't just dole out advice. She is a maestro of mischief, a provocateur of passion and a champion of all things spicy. Her approach isn't about counseling. It's about igniting the flames of desire, uncovering the hidden treasures of your relationships and turning the mundane into the extraordinary. If you've been lucky enough to attend one of Shiloh's legendary sex trivia nights which a lot of you have, and we are going to start that here on Thursdays, the 1st of April you know that she's not your average expert. She's a curator of carnal knowledge, a maestro of mischief and a purveyor of pleasure. Welcome my friend Shiloh, with love your.

Speaker 2: 2:47

Oh, I love it, I just love it White, the introduction, stephanie, thank you, thank you. I'm kind of excited to be the maestro of mischief, that's, and the purveyor of passion Definitely excited for that and super excited. I do enjoy. I enjoy educating women on their sexuality. It's a huge passion of mine and the trivia is blessed. So, however, I can help people to become more comfortable with their sexuality, learn how to talk about it. I mean, we laugh about it. So, yes, I'm very, very excited to be here because I love what you're doing. Thank you, I love you and I love that we get to talk about sex and we get to talk. I mean, the more we can talk about it and the more people hear about it in a healthy way, I think it'll. Hopefully, my hope is that it makes a dent in the world in helping them Absolutely.

Speaker 1: 3:49

And just so you know, we did make a dent in the world together and we continue to make a dent in the world. Yeah, continuing to talk about this taboo topic that was once thought of as we, you know we shouldn't talk about it too. Now people are like, huh, maybe we need to talk about it more. So I like that things. I feel the shift and if it wasn't for you, I would not have started the vibing between the hips in which I did, and I still continue to do, three to four times a week, and now I took that up a notch into a vibration plate, as you know, and I vibe on a vibration plate every day, 10 minutes a day. That is my mantra. Sex is better when you're healthy and a vibing day keeps the doctor away True, proven.

Speaker 1: 4:43

Please go check out my podcast on that, and you could go check out Shiloh and my podcasts from last year when we did Dead Bedrooms. We were green, as green can be, but it doesn't matter. So long as that. We are still here today, back at it and learning. I mean, look at Gary Vee and all the greats, lewis Huckstead and Joe Rogan. Did you think that they started Talking comfortably, not being able to do this?

Speaker 2: 5:16

Everybody gets to start somewhere and learn Somewhere. I am super excited. I'm even more excited for our topics. Can I say? Can I give a little sneak peek? Yes, we are going to be doing after our initial one. We're going to have a fun one to start off with, but after this we will be doing A to Z sexual topics. So, looking forward to that, yes, we know what A is. We're starting off. We're starting off Right after. Where's that? Not right out the door y'all, because he stays right between all it does. I love it.

Speaker 1: 5:59

We will be talking about that. I got to tell you it's one of my favorite topics. I don't know if you know this because as I talk about vibing between the hips, you know and you and I vibed in our vaginas, I got into vibing in the anus and what that does for men and for females, by the way, but my point is that I love it's actually a great topic. I'm loving it because it's like I love it.

Speaker 2: 6:28

Yeah, we're going to have a lot of fun with it.

Speaker 1: 6:30

A lot of fun.

Speaker 2: 6:32

We won't confirm with that.

Speaker 1: 6:33

So much fun. Okay, well, welcome back. Thank you so much. Today. I'm in my bedroom, I'm in my bed, in my comfy little bed. Yes, I have to have lights, and lights and all my glitter and stuff. I love it. I'm in my bed because here I am with my little poopoo bear, which is Barkalot Sparkly Jameson, who is my little bear, and we're in bed together because we're talking about dogs.

Speaker 2: 7:01

Can we see him? Can you show him Between the sheets, because these are all? Hey, berkeley, look at how cute you are. Thank you for joining us. Thank you for being the subject of our podcast.

Speaker 1: 7:18

He is.

Speaker 2: 7:18

He is Inspiring our podcast.

Speaker 1: 7:22

He did. His inspiration came from last week's conversation that I had, not only with you but another girl, about what happens when you introduce a new partner to your I don't even know if it's even new partners.

Speaker 2: 7:41

I mean, I just think just in general they don't. I don't think they discriminate on the new partner thing. I think the new partner just makes it just next level awkward.

Speaker 1: 7:53

Maybe that's the whole thing. Is that it?

Speaker 2: 7:54

just makes it a little extra. A little extra awkward, because I mean when it's a partner that you've been with for a while and misses your only animal, I mean. Yeah, no they're still do their thing, so I love talking about that today.

Speaker 1: 8:12

So I just love it, and so I'm gonna, I'm gonna take some big notes because I'm gonna share, we're gonna. Let's talk about why they do these kinds of things. How about that? Let's talk first why they do these kinds of things. They want to know what's going on.

Speaker 2: 8:31

They hear you, they want to know.

Speaker 1: 8:34

Yeah, yes, they hear the moans, the little you know unusual.

Speaker 2: 8:43

They hear all of it and they're curious. They want to know what's going on. And why are people touching? Why are you? I mean, they don't know what's, and for that they don't know what's going on either. So they don't know. Like is there, is their person getting hurt?

Speaker 1: 8:59

That's. The other thing is like what are you doing to my person? Are you so like? I've been your face up and you're? What are you doing my person? Like? They want to make sure they're little there. They're the person that they love the most isn't getting hurt, nothing's happening to them. So I love it because and their dogs are attention seekers, right, so they want to join the fun because they want more attention. They're like oh hey, you guys are talking, you guys are playing, oh, it's my time to play with you guys. So they're attention seekers, right. Yes, so they love to, you know, seek attention when you're doing attention with each other. They want to be part of the party. I always say they want to be part of the party. They're like party goers, you know they get the party going.

Speaker 2: 9:48

They're always there like a little bit of emotional support.

Speaker 1: 9:52

Always and they're confused on and maybe a little stressed. What's going on? You know, and I think I do think you know, as you are with someone longer, that things do settle down and they get more comfortable. But I think in the beginning it's just super hilarious and they have a very protective instinct. You know, that's their native. They are protective, naturally, to their owner. So that is what's going to happen. So we came up with some funny stories that some people have sent to us. So why don't you go and you go on? Let's just talk about it. Which one do?

Speaker 2: 10:34

you want to share, you know, actually. So one of the ones that I had that I found funny for that was from Jenny in San Francisco. Jenny wrote in and told us that she had just started dating a guy and they were at her place. Things were getting hot and heavy and her dog, a beagle named Walter, was supposedly sleeping in a living room. Well right, as things were reaching a crescendo, walter decided it was the perfect time to bring us his favorite squeaky toy. So he bounded in, dropped the toy on the bed and started howling along with the squeaks. It was mortifying and hilarious at the same time. My date couldn't stop laughing and honestly it was a bit of a mood killer, but we ended up having a good laugh about it. And I mean the story goes on forever and ever, because how do you ever forget the time that your dog brought in a squeaky toy to play with while you were having sex and retch your orgasm, true, hilarious, I love it. No, that one.

Speaker 1: 11:43

you know that one has been told many, many, many times, many, many, not only by her, but by him too, he probably is. Oh yeah, for sure, both of us, even if they're not together.

Speaker 2: 11:53

They've been Hilariously. Yeah, there was one time I was there. Yes, absolutely Like it doesn't even matter anymore, Just like my dog did this. We all remember what our dogs did.

Speaker 1: 12:06

Oh God, do we? I love it. Okay, I'm going to talk about this other one that came in, rachel in Chicago, and the reason why I like this one is because it's about a parrot and parents are like they live forever 30. It depends on the parrot, obviously, but I have friends and girls that have a parrot, so I'm thinking I was going to reach out to her and see if she could share with us any steamy, fun parrot stories, because once this through came through, I thought, oh my God, this is funny. So here's Rachel's story.

Speaker 1: 12:44

So there I was about to have a romantic evening with a new flame. I let the candles, put some soft music on and made sure my room was looking its best. Everything was perfect until my parrot who I totally forgot can mimic sounds really well started imitating the moans from the last movie I watched. It was quite explicit. My date was confused, then shocked and then in stitches when he realized where the sounds were coming from. It was embarrassing, but now it's just our little side joke. I would have thought that a parrot moaning. I would have thought, oh, they heard them before. They've been. They've overheard this person do this before. I would not have thought it would have come from a movie. You know what I mean. I would have thought it would have come from that person.

Speaker 2: 13:38

It's interesting, I mean just side note or whatever. I actually saw something on the news this morning about a parrot that constantly does the Earth, wind and Fire song, like just it was kind of funny. I saw that clip on the news and I was like oh my God.

Speaker 1: 14:04

Oh, that's awesome.

Speaker 2: 14:05

You never know what they. You never know what the animals, what they're going to do. They're so unexpected, so unexpected, that is that is the meaning of it. I mean as long as they don't yell out the wrong name for you, right, yeah, Well you know, I do think that those things can happen accidentally.

Speaker 1: 14:26

But you know, but yeah, so long as that doesn't happen. Boy, that was.

Speaker 2: 14:30

Sometimes your parrot isn't the one bossing, Veronica See, I mean, like what is that?

Speaker 1: 14:34

What is that? The awesome Don again? Is that? No, it's not John, oh, it's not John. Is it Eddie? Is it Eddie? No, not Eddie. Oh, it must be Frank. No, not Frank. Would that be, please, can someone train their parrot to do that, because that would just be God. It would be so funny. Ellie, that would be awesome. I mean seriously. It's kind of like two and a half men when, when Jake goes, oh is, is that Chelsea? No, jake, it's not Chelsea. Who is it? Whatever? No, jake, it's not. Yeah.

Speaker 2: 15:13

Okay, so here I mean children and animals. I mean, you know, you kind of got you know, you never know what's gonna come out of either of their mouths.

Speaker 1: 15:22

Out of the mouths of babes, as I say.

Speaker 2: 15:24

Absolutely, or animals, I guess, parrots. Parrots, like you know, if they can talk, you never know what they're gonna say. So train them good. They're gonna be here for 40 years, so so funny. They're gonna be bringing up, you know, imagine like 15 years, like the parrot that can invest in all, like 30 years later, like Right.

Speaker 1: 15:48

That's why I've got to reach out to my friend. I'll see if she's willing to be interviewed by us, okay, and say, can we just interview you about your parrot? Just, even if it's a 10-minute interview, she probably can tell us some fun stories. And she's super. I love her, she's so fun. So I met her a couple years ago, so I'll reach out to her. She's the only lady I know that has a parrot. She's the only one, yeah, but it would be certain certainly fun, yeah. So, hey, man, do we have another one we want to talk about?

Speaker 2: 16:20

Yes, we do. Our next one comes from Second year. Let me grab it. It comes from Trevor in Denver. So first time at my new girlfriend's place, and she has a huge, great name. She warned me that he gets jealous, but I didn't quite grasp what this meant until we were in her bedroom and I felt this wetness on my foot. I looked down and there's this Johnny and dog drooling all over my foot, giving me the stink eye. It was like he was saying back off, buddy, she's mine. We had to stop and give him some attention before we could continue, Totally continue. It totally killed the moment, but in hindsight it's one of our favorite stories to discuss.

Speaker 1: 17:05

I love it, I love it.

Speaker 2: 17:08

I had to share this with my friends that have a great dain.

Speaker 1: 17:12

They had two great dains and they said the funny thing about this is that great dains naturally are super sweet and actually are more fearful and not really like people think, because they're size that people Right, they're just huge, they're just big, they're just. But they are more afraid of anything. And I'm like are you kidding? He goes yes, they are so and they told me. So we laugh and laugh. But I love this about he's piercing at him, but really he's probably just wanting to play.

Speaker 2: 17:48

Right, I mean, for all that it's worth. I mean, I feel like any dog is basically a big teddy bear. It really depends on how they're raised, right.

Speaker 1: 17:56

Yes.

Speaker 2: 17:56

Yeah, I mean, and the things that they yeah, I mean, they've definitely. I mean, if you have an animal, your animal is interrupted. You at sex at least once, and then you learn to shut the door. And then you learn to shut the door and keep them out Like no, you don't get to come in here because we're having our time. Yes, that I know that. I shut the door and kept my dog out Like no, you don't get to come in here because you are not going to be up on the bed watching us with your little eyes.

Speaker 1: 18:32

I'm really bad because my dogs have always been on the bed. How do I kick dogs that are off, that are always on the bed? How do you kick them off?

Speaker 2: 18:41

They're over on their side or whatever. I mean I feel like with sex, like obviously, when I was married or whatever, when I was married I mean, yeah, our dogs up with us, so I mean she would be on their side. But I feel like once we started, or whatever, like she did kick off, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Or she just like move over, like maybe she got tired of it, I don't know. But yeah, all right, okay. And then there would be the times where just like, okay, let me just shut the door so you can come in yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1: 19:15

All right, and that's a wrap for today's pause between the sheets. Thank you, Shiloh, for sharing your stories with me and we got to enjoy some laughs and joining me today. I look forward to seeing you next week on A to Z with Shilohobby. Love your, oh, thanks.

Speaker 2: 19:35

Shiloh. Thanks, dr, me See you later. Bye, bye.